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Dirty Little Secret:My Man Don't Know I Have An Extra Apartment! · Billy The Kidd In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: This is Dirty Little Secret.
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  Speaker 2: got one, let us know it's bailing. The kid can't
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  Speaker 2: a swell pats and producer poo. And it's time to
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  Speaker 2: confess whatever you want to confess anytime you want an
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  Speaker 2: eight three three seven eight seven one o two nine.
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  Speaker 2: That's why we do Dirty Little Secret. It's all about
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  Speaker 2: you and you get it off your chest. And you
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  Speaker 2: got a secret, I sure do. Okay, you don't sound
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  Speaker 2: very see you sound like you could be very sweet,
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  Speaker 2: and you have no secrets whatsoever.
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  Speaker 3: But fun so far, she said, one word, I'm judging it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: So what's going on?
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  Speaker 1: Well, I actually kind of have a pretty big secret
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  Speaker 1: that I've been keeping from my boyfriend. Okay, I have
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  Speaker 1: a secret apartment.
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  Speaker 3: You have a secret apartment?
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  Speaker 1: What?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Oh for context, Okay, for contact. We've been dating about
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  Speaker 1: eight months, and I mean, honestly, it's been going really well.
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  Speaker 1: And a couple months ago he started pushing for me
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  Speaker 1: to move into him because you know, I'm there every
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  Speaker 1: night anyway, so what's the point of paying rent anywhere else?
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  Speaker 1: And I mean he's got a point, like he's not wrong,
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  Speaker 1: but I've only lived with one other boyfriend in my
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  Speaker 1: entire life, and it ended horribly. So we were living
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  Speaker 1: in this house. We broke up and basically overnight I
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  Speaker 1: was told to get my stuff and get out, and
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  Speaker 1: I remember feeling like it was horrible. I felt so
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  Speaker 1: helpless because I was like basically homeless. I didn't have
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  Speaker 1: a home, you know, and so I don't know, I
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  Speaker 1: just promised myself I would never be in that position again.
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  Speaker 3: You know, make sense? Smart?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't like it makes sense. And so when
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  Speaker 1: my current boyfriend asked me to move in, I agreed,
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  Speaker 1: and he thinks my leief ended in that I got
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  Speaker 1: rid of my apartment and I told him I donated
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  Speaker 1: my furniture because he already we had everything in his house,
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  Speaker 1: which I don't know, feels like just a white lie, right,
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  Speaker 1: Maybe I didn't really donate anything. I ended up renewing
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  Speaker 1: my leaves for another year, and he has no idea
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  Speaker 1: what really.
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  Speaker 2: So you're you're gonna pay for this apartment for another year,
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  Speaker 2: but you're living with him because of just in case,
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  Speaker 2: you're gonna.
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  Speaker 3: Pay half rent wherever you all are living together.
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  Speaker 1: So fortunately I make really good money and I'm not
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  Speaker 1: really paying rent his house, he owns it. He makes
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  Speaker 1: good money and so nothing financially changed for him when
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  Speaker 1: I moved in. I make sure to like buy the
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  Speaker 1: groceries and pay for like random stuff from the house,
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  Speaker 1: so it's not like I'm taking advantage or anything, you know.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't know. I just maybe this is crazy,
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  Speaker 1: but I love still having my apartment.
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  Speaker 2: So would you go there? Is it just empty or
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  Speaker 2: what is going about? I guess you have your friend,
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  Speaker 2: Like you said, you didn't donate it.
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  Speaker 3: That's so crazy.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. It's like I just go there once
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  Speaker 1: or twice a week. Sometimes I tell them I'm like
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  Speaker 1: running errands or going to the gym, and I really
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  Speaker 1: just go sit in my apartment fore and like, Still that.
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  Speaker 2: Is interesting to me because you know what, I think
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  Speaker 2: your intentions are good. And it's funny because I get
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  Speaker 2: I kind of get this. I've been a guy who's
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  Speaker 2: you know, I've been single lately, and I understand how
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  Speaker 2: much I really appreciate my time alone.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, and that that is important.
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  Speaker 2: And sometimes it's hard to explain to a partner though,
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  Speaker 2: that you need that right without them feeling it.
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  Speaker 3: They think you don't need them, right, do you care
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  Speaker 3: about them at all?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's quiet, it's mine and honestly, the best part
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  Speaker 1: about it is it gives me security.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know that makes sense.
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  Speaker 1: So if something happens, you're Yeah, like, if we get
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  Speaker 1: in a huge fight tomorrow and he tells me to
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  Speaker 1: get out, I don't have to call my parents. I
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  Speaker 1: don't have to find a hotel. I don't have to
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  Speaker 1: go beg somebody to let me stay with them. I
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  Speaker 1: just grab my stuff. Yeah, I go home.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, do you feel like, let me ask you
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  Speaker 2: this though, do you feel like having that security of
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  Speaker 2: keeping this secret quote unquote secret apartment keeps you less
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  Speaker 2: invested in the relationship or do you feel like, you
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  Speaker 2: know what I mean, like you, I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I just feel like you're not one hundred percent competent. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: because you want to take a chance. If you're living
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  Speaker 3: with him, you might as well go and go all in.
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  Speaker 1: I know, yeah, I feel like that's the only thing
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  Speaker 1: he thinks. I took this huge step and completely moved
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  Speaker 1: in with him, and then in the back of my head,
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  Speaker 1: I guess I've got like, I don't know, one foot
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  Speaker 1: out the door. Does it feel like I really the
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  Speaker 1: door I bit.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah maybe, but also he doesn't understand too. And I
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  Speaker 2: know he doesn't know right now, but that you've been
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  Speaker 2: burned before, I mean, that's that's something that he has
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  Speaker 2: to take into effect. But obviously I don't think he's
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  Speaker 2: gonna know about this. If he does find out by chance,
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  Speaker 2: it's gonna be weird.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that'll be completely insane if he finds out.
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  Speaker 1: But I don't know. I don't feel like I'm planning
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  Speaker 1: for us to oh, I feel like I'm protecting myself
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  Speaker 1: because I've already learned this lesson the hard way once,
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  Speaker 1: so hopefully he'll understand.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I also don't like when we're giving into people pressuring
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  Speaker 2: us to do things we really don't want to do.
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  Speaker 3: But it sounds like you kind of you wanted to
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  Speaker 3: do it.
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  Speaker 2: You just wanted the security of having a place of
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  Speaker 2: your own at the same time, totally totally.
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  Speaker 1: So like, maybe you guys think I'm completely crazy or
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  Speaker 1: some people might, but I feel like I'm smart for this, So.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to see what people think and we'll go
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  Speaker 2: from there. But I mean, I get why you're doing it.
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  Speaker 2: I will say that, but good luck with everything and
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  Speaker 2: I hope it works out between you two.
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  Speaker 3: I hope he doesn't. And no man should kick you
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  Speaker 3: out with nowhere to go.
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  Speaker 1: Seriously, ever, yeah till.
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  Speaker 3: That point unless you cheated with his best friend. Oh yes,
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  Speaker 3: you got to go.
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  Speaker 1: Oh I would never.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, all right, you don't sound like that. Well, good
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  Speaker 2: luck and keep us updated on what's going on.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll do, thank you.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, what's the rush to move in together? Right?
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  Speaker 3: What's the rush to get married?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah? No, really no, unless there's no time limit on anything.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, when you're young, I feel like you think,
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  Speaker 2: oh my god, I got to do this because this
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  Speaker 2: is what everybody does.
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  Speaker 3: But take a deep breath and make sure it's what
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  Speaker 3: you want first.