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Season 2 - Episode 43 - 2 - 43 Missing the real message · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So often we on this podcast, we talk about our focus and we
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  talked about how important focuses but the real reason for
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  that the real end all be all of why we do that is because we
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  have to control our focus. And we have to know that what we
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  focus on brings about more of it in our lives.
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  So when you keep taught, when you keep focusing on what's
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  wrong and you keep talking about what's wrong, you keep
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  manifesting what's wrong. Because it just gives it more
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  energy and it exacerbates it and it just keeps getting bigger and
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  bigger and bigger. You know, years ago, I was
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  working on the road and somebody left a book at a table.
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  And I thought this book was so fascinating because the name of
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  it was how to improve your marriage without talking about
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  it. I mean, doesn't that just sound
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  like the most amazing thing to read like, okay, we're not going
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  to talk about it. It's going to get better.
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  Well, when I got the book and I actually read it.
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  I was like this, this is brilliant.
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  Liat because it takes away so much of the negativity.
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  And that's often what happens when you're in these situations,
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  you're coming at it from your position, you want to defend
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  your position. So naturally because you want to
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  protect your position and defend it, you keep talking about
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  what's wrong and it keeps going over and over and over.
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  Well, the problem with talking about what's wrong, is that it
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  grows bigger and bigger and bigger at, this is a big reason
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  why marriage counseling rarely works, because you go and you
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  Then you spend an hour talking about the problem and you don't
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  leave with a solid solution but you clearly know what you don't
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  like in the other person and in the situation that's there, and
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  then you leave and you're sent home alone together.
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  And so we all know the statistics on does marriage
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  counseling work and they're really not great.
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  So this core message is from that this core message is.
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  Hey listen when you talk about what's wrong, you manifest,
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  what's really wrong, even more, and You're the sad part of this
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  is your missing the real message in it all because when things
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  show up and they're not good, they're meant to give you
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  information and you have to decide what you're going to do
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  with that information. Are you going to use utilize it
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  to help yourself move forward? Or are you going to keep it the
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  way that it is so that you can defend your position?
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  Make sure you're right, are you with the other person and cause
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  even more issues, I mean, that that is in a nutshell, the most
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  important part. Of this podcast today you have
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  to make a decision if it's important to defend your
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  position or is it important to move forward?
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  Is it important to find happiness?
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  Is it important to focus on the message of what's wrong?
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  So you know what to repair fix. Look at explore, whatever words
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  you want to use, but not sit there and keep focused on it
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  from a position of really trying to stack stack.
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  Stack stack stack A call the stuff that's wrong because
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  that's not going to help you. You already know what's wrong.
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  You don't need more evidence of it and that's all it is a moat,
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  remember, emotions are here to give us information, the more
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  information we have, the more we can do with it.
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  So this comes down to you being very smart, very clear and very
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  honest with yourself about what you're going to focus on.
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  So you understand. Hey, I am not going to keep
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  talking about what's wrong. I'm not going to keep going over
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  it and over it and over it and over it in my head.
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  And the more I talk about it, the more I give it life, the
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  more I talk about it, the more this becomes a big thing, the
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  more I see this, the more it grows that is what's so
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  important about this, it's that you're killing the monster while
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  it's small. Don't let it take over in your
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  head, don't let those things eat you up and if you're not
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  qualified in those moments to just say, okay, I can discern
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  what it's trying to give me for information.
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  Then you simply say to yourself. Okay, right now.
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  I'm too heated. I'm too irritated.
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  I can't make a judgment on this. So I'm going to put it aside.
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  I'm going to put this in neutral for right now and I'm going to
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  come back to it when I am in a better state of mind because I'm
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  not qualified to make a decision about it right now.
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  And that to me is the most powerful thing that we can do is
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  putting it in that perspective. So I hope that that makes sense
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  to you guys. I hope you utilize this and I
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  hope you have an incredibly blessed day that is giving you
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  Information. And you're letting go of the
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  irritation, all right? My friends have a great one.
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  I'll talk to you tomorrow. Bye.
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  Information. And you're letting go of the
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  irritation, all right? My friends have a great one.
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  I'll talk to you tomorrow. Bye.