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Lessons - Shatter Generational Money Struggles & Build Lasting Wealth | Sarah Jakes Roberts - Financial Empowerment Leader · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  In this lessons episode, discover a playbook for breaking free from generational cycles and
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  redefining success on your own terms. Learn why envisioning an authentic path can shatter
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  inherited limitations, discover how transforming fear of success into opportunity, fuels growth,
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  and understand that every step taken is a lesson toward a more sustainable future.
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  So when because I'm sure that a lot of this stuff is just like generational trauma. Like what you're
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  talking about right now is just normalize just the way it's always been done. It's like this is
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  how much money my family has always made. That takes a lot to disrupt that cycle. It takes a lot
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  for you to push back. Let's figure out a playbook for somebody that doesn't matter. It could be
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  somebody whose parents made 50 grand a year parents made 200 grand a year. It doesn't really
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  matter. The point is, see you're trying to break out of this cycle. Generation generation generation
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  kind of this is the status quo. What is the action item? The step that you can take that starts to
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  that flywheel that pushes you in the right direction? Okay, so I will take it in deeper because I think
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  that we are experiencing a generational shift in the ways that we engage with technology in the way
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  that we even engage with business. I think that we're literally watching the world change from
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  the way that things have always been done into a new way of being. I look at this generation of
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  millennials and now zers that are no longer willing to work the way that some boomers did where
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  their families were the casualties to pursuing the pension or their retirement where they really
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  are choosing I would rather live in a different type of life silence to have my family and values
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  in mental health than pursue this corner office that may result in me not having the family I
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  desire. So I think we're experiencing a shift. I would say to that person who's never seen it done
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  but feels within themselves that it should change even if they don't believe that they're the ones
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  that should change it to begin to think about like what changes would you implement?
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  Don't get bogged down by the details. Don't get caught in the list. It's like let's really dream.
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  What do we want to see it look like? What would we want to see done differently in our family?
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  What type of resources do we want to see available because until we can really give that a vision
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  that we can't really even attract the level of thinking, the level of creativity, the level of
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  innovation required to lay hold of that vision. It's one thing to want things to change.
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  It's another thing to let your mind roll free, prone free rather with the innovation required to
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  make it happen. And so I would say take the limits off of your mind to take the limits off of those
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  parameters and to begin dreaming about what you want to see happen. And then what would it take for
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  you to get from where you are to what you see? Once again, don't think about the money that you
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  would need the time that you need the people that you would need. Just really begin to lay out this
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  plan because I think what's going to happen when you begin to lay that plan out is that you will
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  begin to see opportunities differently. You will see how small opportunities can lead to bigger
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  moments. You will begin to hear it echoed in other people's stories. And what you see as a dream
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  will not be as unreachable because you've got a vision and you begin to see it happen in other people's
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  lives. I love this. You know, you mentioned a really good point. The way we work, the way we want
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  to work, what we value is changing. Do you see issue with that? Do you think that maybe so two
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  two ends of the spectrum? The traditional way it's always been done. Maybe that creates more wealth
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  immediately. I don't know. It doesn't always have to if you find a way to architect wealth in
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  different ways. But maybe it creates more wealth that gives you more options. And maybe if you
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  are able to think differently, you have a grade nine to five. It allows you the stability to build
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  a business that can really take into the next level on the other end of the spectrum. You have
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  somebody who is not wanting to work in an office, is wanting to travel, is wanting to do maybe a more
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  like like no mad lifestyle. And maybe that allows for more creativity to think differently
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  and to approach life differently. So I'm curious when you speak to so many people and people come
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  to you for advice, is the advice to pursue something that feels good and is more in
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  vogue or is it to push back and to do the hard work and to sort of put in the wraps so that
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  you're you're used to the work required to take yourself to the next level. When you talk to
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  young people, which way do you point them? Well, you actually do I think there's something more
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  I think results may be are you not at the end of those prescription drug commercials that
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  they would like to 20,000 side effects and a whole bunch of different out. Yeah. I don't think
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  we're going to know how well this path turns out for anyone for probably 30, 40, 50 years when
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  they're towards the end of their lives, saying what they wish they would have done done differently
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  or what they thought they'd done well. I think that my goal is to help people
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  lay hold of a vision of their spiritual, mental, emotional, financial health that is a reflection
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  of what feels authentic for themselves. I don't know that my goal is to point them in any specific
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  direction as much as it is to create a space where they have time to be authentic where they're no
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  longer living under other people's pressures, other people's experiences so that they can determine
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  what authenticity looks like for them so that they can create a plan that allows them to define what
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  success looks like for themselves. So that no matter what happens 40, 50 years down the road, maybe
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  they had generational wealth has gone to another level or maybe they had generational
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  generational health and emotional wellness that happened in a way that they'd never seen before
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  that they will be able to say I lived according to the truth of my values and sometimes I had
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  to stretch and sometimes I had to disappoint some people and sometimes I had to remodify those
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  plans but I lived according to my conviction and so if I can get people to a space of authenticity,
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  I think that conviction can tell them what path to take. When you you know you mentioned that
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  you sort of helped people across financial, mental, spiritual and even physical to a degree,
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  I'm curious if you see one of those buckets hurting people the most, say in 2024,
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  like which one of those buckets is not full? Oh, it depends a lot. I mean there's
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  I am speaking to primarily people of color who have had disproportionate experiences
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  in professionalism and financial spaces and so I think that most of the time when I speak to
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  them they're reeling from the effects of feeling disqualified from rules before they even get into
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  them. But then when I speak to other spaces where maybe they aren't primarily people of color,
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  but I'm marvel at what they have gone through and the buckets that they see is empty. I think if
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  there is anything that I feel remedies all of it no matter which bucket is empty, I think that
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  from a place of emotional and spiritual wellness and fullness that we're able to better show up in
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  those empty spaces and to get them filled in ways that are healthy for ourselves, which is why
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  I think if I had to choose any bucket to pour into I would love to pour into all of them,
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  but absolutely that I thought can get your core well that that can overflow into those other
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  spaces. There's a quote that I love that sort of speaks into stepping into your power. The quote is
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  it is our light, not our darkness, the most frightens us and that's Marian Williamson. And I'm
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  curious if you know the reason why we understand that there's all these things that stop us from
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  believing in ourselves and there's all these generations and traumas and shame and doubt.
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  But say we listen to this podcast, people listen to this podcast and they're going to say,
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  yeah, I get it, like I get it. And then fast forward a year, they're still not going to do anything.
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  Like, you're just not going to do shit. They're not going to try and fix anything. Even though they
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  know that there's a problem, even though they know that they're not being their best self or
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  putting their best self towards their work or their family or the world, why are we so scared of
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  succeeding? My hypothesis is that we are afraid of success because we are not sure if we can sustain
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  it. I think that if we could do it once, that would be something, but it would be disappointing to
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  hit it once and never be able to do it again. So it's easier to not go for it at all. What if I
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  can't sustain it? Like what if I can start? And I see this in relationships too. Like what if I
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  can get the relationship, but then I'm not a good partner and I'm too selfless on this.
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  And I think the idea of sustaining what we start keeps us from initiating gets to begin with.
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  I would say to that person that with each attempt, we become better at sustainability,
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  that we learn what tires us out. We learn how to communicate better. We learn what plans we need to
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  have in place. I would think less about sustaining where we start and more about learning each step
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  of the way. Because if we learn each step of the way, then the goal is not sustainability. It's just
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  another lesson. And I think success is how many lessons we can pile onto this journey that make
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  us better for the next step. Thanks for tuning in. If you found this valuable, don't forget to hit that
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