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Having the Audacity to Go Big and All In with Tiffany Wallace · All In with Allie

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Guys. I just said, by the way, welcome to Aline with Ali,
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the podcast for online business owners and entrepreneurs who are ready to create the
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life and business of their dreams. We're so happy you're here. I'm here
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with Tiffany Wallace, and I just said to Tiffany, if I had a
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dollar for every tech issue that I have had over the past few months,
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I would be a very I wouldn't be rich, but I'd be able to
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buy a bag at least. It just makes me laugh. I mean literally,
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I've been trying to figure that out. I've had this mic now for
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four years. Ali. I mean, geez, I know, I know,
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and we both podcast and it's like we know what we're doing, and
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it's it's my Chris makes fun of me all the time. He was like,
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it's so crazy that literally everything you do revolves around technology and the Internet.
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But when it comes to like me having to figure out like the thing,
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the actual tech thing, I'm like, no, I don't somebody do
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it for me. Direction tell me where to talk like the old grandma,
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trying to use the thing like mine is my printer, like my printer in
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my office. For some reason, dude, it just like randomly quits working.
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And I think it's sometimes because I take my computer up to my closet
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to record the podcast. And then so when I need to print something like
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for my boys or I mean I print very little things for business. But
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he gets so frustrated. I'm like, why is this not working? He
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was like, how is this so difficult for you? Like I don't understand,
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Like no, because God wants us to hate printers, Like I don't
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understand printers are the worst. I Actually I've made jokes before, like anytime
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I have a printer issue, I just buy a new one. Yep,
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it's so much like it feels so much better to me. I wanted to
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like, when I have a printer issue, I want to take a bat
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to it. I get so just ridiculously pissed off. It doesn't even make
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sense how mad I get at this printer. It triggers something in me because
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it's like I don't need it to work a lot, but when I need
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you to work work right, And usually you know when you need to print
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something off, like I'm usually in a hurry. I'm trying to run out
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the door. I need to return a couple of things or whatever. Or
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I don't know, trying to do something the freaking DMV and then the printer
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is not gonna work, and I want to take a back to it,
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and I'm working on it. I went and bought one. Then he he
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was like, found a piece that was broken. He's like, no,
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I am gluing this. There's no reason to buy a new printer. There's
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nothing wrong with this. There is. There's every reason to buy a new
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printer. Go right, everybody, just go get a new printer. Oh
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my gosh, so funny. How have you been. It's so good to
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see your face. It's so good to you to I mean, I say
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that, but I see you, I know all the time. But it's
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been a minute. It has been a minute since we've been used to seeing
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each other anyway. I know, I know, but it's been good.
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All good. I just got that. Tell me, yeah, tell me
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what's going on in your life. So yesterday got back from Louisville, Kentucky.
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My part time assistant, Lauren lives there. Yeah, and we did
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a little brand photo shoot. Like it was so fun. You know,
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she takes pictures on her phone. We keep it so simple. It was
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just it was awesome. It was. It's such a good reminder for me
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always of you know, it's about so much more to me than just like
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taking pictures. But I'm a mama three boys, like I really value having
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some pictures to create content with and the real life in between of everything,
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you know, creating content around that. But yeah, so that was super
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fun. It was like we did like a full day, did you guys,
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Because I know last time you guys did in airbnb, what did you
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do this time? We just did a hotel in Louisville. Oh, nice,
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out and about and it was it was really cool. So kept it's
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like, again, it's so simple. She took pictures on her phone,
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but now it's really cool to have, you know, content and just to
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connect with her in person. And so that was great. Shout out to
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Louisville too. My sister in law lives there and one of my best friends
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just moved there. Wow. And it's such a beautiful little city. It's
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it's so especially in the fall. We just went for a music festival,
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Chris and I and we stayed downtown at this like haunted mansion that was made
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in like eighteen sixty something. And no, it was like eighteen eighty seven
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or eighty six, and it was freaking it was vibey actually surprisingly good vibes
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though, But I really like Louisville. But I also anyway back to your
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shoot, I love how a couple of things. You keep it simple,
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right, You let your assistants support you in this, don't hire out like
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you're already paying your person. You just allow her to step in and take
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beautiful photos, which as women, we know what we're looking for and she
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knows you very well. You guys vibe together. Yeah, see, you
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keep it so simple. But also, yeah, mom of three boys,
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you have three and more excuses to not do this and not take the time
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because how far is Louville from where you live? Five and a half hours,
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So is it bad? But I mean five and a half hours is
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a car? My god? Oh yeah, well good for you. But
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there you go, like it's all the way that you know, it's the
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perspective that you look at it, and when you have those photos and you
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have that footage, it makes life, in my opinion, when you're running
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a business, so much easier than trying to repurpose the same thing over and
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over and over again or snap a photo with children hanging all over you,
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which hey works on a pinch, but yeah, and you know, I
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like the really it's so moments like that. I mean, this was like
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this, we did one in April, and it's just it's such a good
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reflection moment for me. You know, I'm so much about that because I
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think back when I started my coaching business and I was like, I have
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to have I had the podcast, I have to have a website. Oh
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my gosh, I need to have these beautiful photos, you know, and
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it's like I made everything. We make it so big, and I know,
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I was driving home yesterday and I was like, it's just one of
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those moments where you look back and you're like, I'm so proud of how
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far I've come. Like if you want to do the big photo shoot,
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great, and maybe I will one day. But also what we did was
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just so easy, so fun, and so effective too so and it meant
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a lot. And who cares how like a photoshoots a photo shoot, right,
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we just seed the photos, like who cares the production? Yeah?
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I mean yeah, like certain production elements can make photos super you know,
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some of them. It can give it a certain vibe, but also especially
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when we're growing online and lifestyle brands, it's the the more down to earth
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I don't want to say relatable necessarily, but like that, it's that like
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you're showcasing women what's possible for them. You work with a lot of obviously
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you work with women, but like you work with a lot of moms,
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and you're helping a lot of moms go from whatever it is that they're doing
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that's not necessarily fulfilling them to chasing after and like really moving toward the thing
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that they want. And every time that you do this in the way that
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makes the most sense for you, whether it looks like driving a few hours
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and having your assistant snap some photos or like a full blown photo shoot,
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you're showing other women what's possible for them too. Yeah, yeah, it
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was. It was so fun so and it's funny, you know, the
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day before I was like, do I really need to go? Should just
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cancel this? The other things that we do ourselves, I told you that
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the last one too. But we're always so thankful we fall through with things
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like that because it's like our brain trying to keep safe, because it's another
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light level of stepping out of our comfort zone and owning you know, what
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we're doing and what we're here to do, and so yeah, it was
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gonna be my brain. So oh yeah all the time. I mean,
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every every single thing I thought. Where was I just talking about that?
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Maybe I mentioned a podcast. I can't remember, but I was talking.
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I was like, you might be surprised here, like I've been. You've
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been running your business for years. I've been running my business for years.
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We both you know, we've spoken on stages, we have podcasts, we
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we do this, and any time that I'm doing anything outside of my home,
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I have doubts before I go, like maybe I should cancel, Should
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I get sick? And I don't you know, If I commit, I
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commit and I show up and you're absolutely right, it's you know, you
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get done. You're like, oh, like every time I go to speak
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on stage, the week leading up to it, I am nearly crippled with
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anxiety and doubting myself and like this, this speech is awful. I'm going
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to forget everything. I'm going to fall on my face. Who am I
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to be on that stage? Nobody's going to care. You know, like
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every single limiting thought that you can think is flowing through my head and it's
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like, well you're going, and then you get off the stage and it's
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like, whoa, I could do that every day of my life. Let's
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go. That's yeah, wild, well it's I was thinking about this the
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other day actually, the thoughts in the drive home yesterday. You know about
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the dream, right, like we all we start our business because we have
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this dream, We have this vision and that feeling of like oh my gosh,
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like this what this could be? And I was thinking like did I
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ever imagine I would be like going to do like a photo shoot like that,
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but no, but like, oh my gosh, I love it,
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you know, and you think. I think back my life in different moments
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and it's like I saw phases of that, like pieces of that. But
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then I think, you know, is part of the dream that I imagine
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me being in my home office surrounded by children half the time, screaming and
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trying to focus and you know, just the craziness of things. And it's
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like no, but yes, you know, but yes you know. And
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so it was just one of those things. You know, I talk a
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lot about a power board instead of a vision board. It's just like us
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being in our power like what we really want. And it's like, oh,
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talk to me about that. I haven't heard that. I don't know.
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I just I mean I have like a power day is kind of like
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my CEO day. I go for a power walk. It's like just it's
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just like if me fully showing up in my power, in my strengths,
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like in my greatness, like my God given gifts, then what would my
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life look like? What would my business look like? What how much money
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would I be making? How would I be showing up and looking at the
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whole human aspects of them? And that keeps me grounded, keeps me going.
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But it's you know, it's funny we think you know about and you
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know, I think it's that like integration of being real being like, oh
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my gosh, I don't have to wake up anymore and rush out the door.
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I get to have a slow warning. I get to be with my
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kids. I get to take them to schools, in love with well.
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I come home and work and do something that I love so much. But
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as everything in between their dreaming, no, you know, like and it
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never will it never will be. But I think understanding that because I think
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it's so easy to use that as this isn't meant for me, then I
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shouldn't be doing this. This isn't what I thought this was going to look
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like, you know, and I think it kind of goes all ties into
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what you know, we're going to dig even more into today. But when
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we think about being all in, it's being able to let go of the
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how too, and that has been like some of the biggest lessons for me
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along the way that I still continue to learn. I mean, I think
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this is the work right like, you know, letting go of that.
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But there's moments I think, oh my gosh, do I want to be
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launching this offer because I feel like I didn't imagine me recording the offer right
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now and I would be, you know, doing this. But it's like
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you get into the offer, you're like, oh my gosh, that's I
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love this, Like this is yes, this is why I'm teaching this,
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you know. So it was just lots of reflection yesterday on the dream,
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the journey, and it's just part of it, you know. So Okay,
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I have tangible questions related to because I love this idea before we dive
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into like all in and we go super deep. I love this idea of
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like power walks, the power board, the power because I know for myself
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and I talk so much about this, but it's just it's worth repeating every
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single episode how different you show up when you are tapped into let's call it
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your power, right, which just means at least like my definition of this,
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and let me know if you would add anything on my definition of being
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tapped into your power is where you remember that you are a child of God,
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that you are worthy of what it is that you want, that your
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desires were put on your heart for a reason, and if there's a reason
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why they're put on your heart, you are the person to make that happen.
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And you're worthy of You're born worthy, and nothing's changed, all of
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the things right, and you move forward and you act in that energy versus
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waking up being rushed, being frustrated things not going a certain way, or
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even if things aren't going away, but you haven't taken the time to remind
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yourself your mission and what it is you actually want and that yes, like
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it may not have you know, the dream may not have dropped just yet.
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Things may not be You may not be at the level of revenue or
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income that you expected yet. You may not have found the man yet,
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you may not have the family yet, you may not be in the house,
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you may not like but but it's coming and it's inevitable and it's going
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to be that or something better. Right, Like moving forward with that energy
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of knowing, not wondering, not hoping, but knowing that creates a level
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of confidence and energy. And when you take action with that versus not tapped
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into that, the actions tend to be night and day different. Right.
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So there are a lot of people, and there's so many different ways to
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do this, right, Like everybody has their their favorite modality of doing this,
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whether it's breathwork, or it's meditation, or it's power walks for you
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or for me, I'd love to journal, or you know, driving and
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just listening to a specific song and it just like boom, It just activates
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me. That's another word. It's like you you're activated right when you are
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doing this for yourself. You mentioned the power walks, but I would love
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like get get tangible, like tell us what this really looks like, give
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us like step by step because I know that a lot of people are gonna
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are gonna love to hear this and possibly adopt it for themselves. Yeah,
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no, I love that and for me too. Power and this ties into
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some tangible too. But it's the whole reason I started my podcast in the
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first place and had this like nudge for more in this expansion was because all
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of exactly what you just said, but also knowing our streaks, like knowing
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like what are those things you're good at? Like you're just God given gifts
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and strengths and the things that we often overlook. And this has been such
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a thread in my life. And you know, it's why I was such
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an incredible teacher. It's why my whole education specist degree was research around empowering
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people and bringing that out in people and bringing that into their work and into
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their business. And so for me, when I think about my power board
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and my power walk, it's like all of that connecting to that vision,
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connecting that I know I have these desires and things for a reason and moving
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from that energy, like you said, but it's also like why me,
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Why am I the one to be doing this? And so which is also
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the hardest part of this, Like this has been something that has been like
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a huge piece of the work for me, and I think it's like I
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SA another piece of I think is this work, you know, and I
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think being willing to commit to that. So my power walk is so much
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about for when I just I love being outside, like it just clears my
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head, that activates me and after the hustle and bustle of the mornings,
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like it's like kicks off my day, moves my body. But it's me
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really also envisioning that eight figurative that tiff who and like how would she think?
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How would she move? How would she you know, she wouldn't be
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Some days I do work because it feels really freaking good to be on my
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phone and do some things. But then other days it's like no, but
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it's not that feeling of I have to get this done, I have to
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crunch this in, you know, it's like trusting myself. It's like that
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feeling of trust. So I really envision what who I am? Like who
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is this eight figurative? How is she showing up as a mom that day?
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How is she showing up with clients? How is she showing up in
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her business? How is she how is she showing up online? You know?
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And it's just reflects in every area of our life, and so that's
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that's what I do. I envision that and I walk and sometimes I pick
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up the pace and run right boxering. You listen to music? Are you
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just is it like a prayer? Are you just? What? How do
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you? Because sometimes for me, I'll do this and I think I overthink
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it. Sometimes that's just the virgo in me. But it's like I need
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like something to activate me, right Like, every once in a while I
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can do it myself, but otherwise I need music. I need some sort
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of like mantra. I need some sort of prayer. I need something to
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to pull it out of me. Otherwise I'm you know what it is,
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I'm distracted, I'm thinking about other things. I'm you know, I'm focused
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on you know that my CPA is pissing me off right now, or that
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you know what the little thing that Cruz just did that, I'm just like,
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oh crap, am I bad mommy? You know, like the how
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our minds work, So how how do you do you? Just? Are
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you able just to like boom snap into it? Sometimes I have music,
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but honestly, sometimes music distract. Yes, sometimes it's just the quiet,
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and so it's just like literally I step out my door, I hit the
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sidewalk, and it's it is. And I'm not going to say this is
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perfect obviously not. We're human. You know, There's some days my mind
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is racing too, But it is just the self awareness of this is my
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time. It's like I have it, this is what I do, and
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I really feel into that. Some days it is music, but most days
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it's normally quiet. And the quiet, honestly is probably because I have three
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young boys and it's constant chaos, and it's like me being able to get
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my mind quiet and really embody, Okay, this is tif time, this
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is business time, this is like what I love to do, and really
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getting into them. And it's almost like because I mean, there are times
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like it's been a rough morning. Yeah am I a bad mom this morning?
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After all the things that happened, And it's like then transitioning into business
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and we're creatives and showing up and creating content and recording podcasts and it's a
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lot of energy, but it's the most beautiful thing. I love it so
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much, and so for me, it's it's just knowing I step out,
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that's like the signal of okay, this is your time. Like even before
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this podcast, my power walk was like twenty minutes, but it was all
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about me envisioning this conversation and praying about it, landing with the women who's
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going to hear this how it's supposed to be, because of course it will,
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you know, and me of envisioning who I desire to be showing up
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in this conversation, in my power and in the confidence and not even I
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don't want to say confidence, but you know, just what I envision and
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what I hope for this, what I hope for that to be. And
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honestly it's the power walks are just some of my most creative times because I
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do get my mind quiet, like sometimes contents just busting out and I'm taking
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notes on my phone and you know, and so in some days it's been
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a really hard morning and I'm just in a funk and it's just a walk
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literally not forcing. Is there's a level of surrender there that the walk gets
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to be whatever it is. Yeah, And I think it goes back to
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you know, it goes to back to self awareness, you know, like
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don't stop out and listen to music because you think you need to listen to
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music because somebody else does that like like what feels good to you. Maybe
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you try the music and you love it and then you don't love it,
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you know, And so I've done different things and you know, it's it's
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so cool. I have our neighborhood. There's an older gentleman who he just
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randomly stopped me one day and he was like, and I'm over. I
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was, I don't run very much. I'm a brand boxer, do this.
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I was like, all, like, there's energy move and I picked
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up the pace today. Yeah, but he like stopped me one day and
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he was like, well, where's your son? Like, and it was
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like the coolest conversation and it was just one of those moments I was in
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like deep thought and then I stopped and had this really neat conversation with him
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and it was just you know, it was just like and for me too,
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it was just like that moment of being present, like being present and
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appreciating the things and how much that can bring us into our power. You
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know, it goes back to the gratitude and everything, and so it was
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just a really cool moment. But those though the power Walk seems something so
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small, but it's really some where some of my best ideas are born.
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I love that. So yeah, I love too how you bring up the
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the man who stopped you, because this is something important that I've had to
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wrap my brain around remind myself, because this is where like the control can
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kind of you miss part of the magic. Right, There's got to be
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a level of trust and surrender in there, because otherwise you're just fully trying
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to control the process. Right, Like, I'm going to go on this
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walk and I'm going to visualize, and I'm going to tap into my power
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and I'm going to come back and I'm to be blah blah blah. And
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meanwhile, you're on this walk and this angel crosses your path and is gonna
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have this conversation with you. Maybe it inspires you to do something, maybe
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it's for him, like he needs that conversation. But either way, God
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put this person on your path. But you're sitting there like I'm gonna go
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on this walk and I'm anna visualize, you know, And so like how
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many times do we bulldoze God giving gifts put on our path, whether it
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be an old man just wanting to shoot the shit one day, or you
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know, like your partner coming in just to just to give you a kiss
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on the cheek while you're in the middle of something, or your kid wanting
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to play when you're wanting to work, or a random person that you look
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at and you assume can't work with you for whatever reason. Meanwhile, like
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that's your future highest paying client, you know who like you and support more
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than they can imagine, And they can support you more than you can imagine.
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But we miss it or we boldoze through it because we're hanging on so
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tight to this strict vision of what we think life is going to look like,
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as the eight figurative, as the you know whatever. Meanwhile, God's
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like, if you would just loosen the hell up and calm down, this
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can be so much better than you imagine. Right, And you mentioned like
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your kids and I do this too, And I think for me, what
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this looks like is being open to interruption, being open and being not like
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hanging on so tightly to the way that I want my day to look and
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romanticizing the mundane in life. Right because you had mentioned, like, you
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know, like maybe a few years ago, did you picture you running a
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business with these three boys running around and causing complete and utter chaos when you're
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trying just to record a mother FM podcast. No, Like, no sane
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person would put that on their power board. Yeah, but that's what we
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got, and like, is that better, like at the end of the
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day than we could have ever imagined? Would we trade that for the world?
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Absolutely not. And that's just one example. So it's like for me,
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I don't know that that's something that I've been really working on because in
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this season of Young Kids, Yeah, there are so many opportunities to get
25:41
frustrated, there's so many opportunities for to look through the lens of this is
25:48
not going like I planned, or you can look through the lens of yeah,
25:52
but how could this be better? Maybe than I had imagined exactly.
25:59
And I know you and I've talked about a little bit, But for me,
26:02
this journey is so much about becoming like it truly, I talk with
26:07
this a lot on my show about I don't believe we find our purpose.
26:10
I feel like it's inside of us, and I feel like we get to
26:11
unleash that with every layer that we step into. Like I truly like I
26:18
I'm like literally the person who walks into a room and I like start talking
26:22
to someone and I'm like, do you see how much potential is inside of
26:25
you? Like you could turn that into a business. Do you see that?
26:26
Like all these things? And but I think about that with our kids
26:30
too, and I think about and that's just I mean, I've always been
26:36
that way, and I know it is a gift of mine as a mentor
26:40
and being able to help women see that and stuff. But for me,
26:44
it is such a commitment to my growth and my becoming and really grounding and
26:51
who I want to be. And it's not perfect. Are there days I
26:53
end the day and I'm like, oh my gosh, I could have been
26:56
much better mom today, I could have been you know, of course,
27:00
but it's like what me becoming who like me following my goals, my dreams,
27:06
my visions is part of me becoming who I'm supposed to be because their
27:10
soul was given to me for a reason and for me to be able to
27:14
help them grow into who they were born to me, it's like my job,
27:18
you know, part of And so I talk a lot about I believe
27:22
we have a purpose in our personal life, and I believe we have a
27:23
purpose through our work, and that ignited so much. I mean, part
27:29
of the reason I started my podcast is really helping. I lost that,
27:33
you know, six years ago in business, and when I really kind of
27:37
got grounded back into that, it changed everything for me. And you know,
27:41
we have you know, my oldest son's nine, my youngest son is
27:45
three, and it's just it's amazing. But they're so different, different ages
27:48
and stages of life, and it is it's that that freedom, however we
27:56
define that, and so that something that really drives me of continuing to find
28:03
what's this next layer of tip, what's this next being of who you know,
28:07
stepping into my strengths and my God given gifts and and how that is
28:14
shaping them too. You know. So so with your boys, because you
28:19
have three, they're three to nine. Yeah, they're so different. How
28:26
do you I think this is such a good question, And I mean I
28:30
would be curious because you're ahead of the mom curve for me. You've been
28:33
doing this much longer than I have. And my boys, I mean I
28:37
can already tell they're five and a half in one, and they are,
28:44
you know, they're similar in some ways, but I can just tell their
28:45
spirits different, yes, right, like like one is bouncing off the walls,
28:52
going to like anarchy, cause anarchy it is wild. And then you
28:59
know, rhet Is just is a little bit more calm spirited at least for
29:03
now. Yeah, and I love it. I'm obsessed with both of them,
29:07
right, And I'm just like, oh gosh, and I want I
29:11
want to foster their their natural tendencies right within reason obviously, But like one
29:21
of the things that I'm struggling with with Cruise is because he is so vivacious
29:27
and so just you know, all caps, full force zero to one hundred
29:34
all the time, and we love it. There's got to be a little
29:38
bit of harnessing of that chaos, right, But I don't want to break
29:44
his spirit either. And I'm just curious, like, as a mom who's
29:48
been mommy longer than I have, with three boys who are very different,
29:52
how do you have you know, have you found a way that allows you
29:56
to to really celebrate their individuality? Do you do you get what I'm trying
30:04
to ask, Like, Okay, just just go off on that, because
30:08
I would be really curious. I love that question because my oldest very competitive
30:15
and it serves him very well and everything, you know, and Graham,
30:19
my middle one, is more reserved, but he's got a little bit of
30:22
competitives to him. But I love this question because it is you know,
30:29
so for my oldest it is really celebrating the moments where and really point that
30:34
out to him, where his competitiveness or those traits or whatever it is like
30:37
really like, oh my gosh, that's Sergei Wilier. He plays basketball,
30:41
So for him, it's those different kind of things or even in school,
30:45
like he loves to be challenged, he loves that kind of thing. So
30:48
really giving the positive attention to those things and then the moments where that you
30:52
know, he's being a little bit more competitive with his brothers and it may
30:56
not be very kind, you know, like things like that. Then it's
30:59
like just talking about it with them like, hey, I appreciate your competitiveness
31:03
so much, or I appreciate whatever it is. But do you think that
31:07
that was do you think you could have you know, handled that in a
31:10
different way. You think you could have gone about that in a different way.
31:11
Do you think that was really kind? And so I think it's so
31:15
important to nurture like that is their strengths, you know, and this,
31:22
I mean, this is everything, this is it's just so key. But
31:26
nurture those strengths that they have, see them for that and how that's going
31:32
to serve them well. But also take that in teaching them, you know,
31:34
as they're growing through life that this is going to serve you very well,
31:38
but also in this moment that is not serving you very well. You
31:44
know, maybe it's kindness with the friend or it's you know, and it
31:48
just teaches them empathy, It teaches them being aware of other people, and
31:51
it really teaches them self awareness about themselves, which I think is so key
31:55
for kids and especially in their confidence and you know, owning who they are.
32:00
And you know, this is such I'm so passionate about not only helping
32:07
women own themselves because it's the fuel to our businesses, but when it comes
32:09
to our children, I mean it's so key too. And we as women
32:14
when we can really build our self awareness around this, my goodness, the
32:17
impact that will help on our kids too and really bring that out in them.
32:21
And so what do you mean go deeper on that? Like being able
32:24
to see our strengths and see us for who we are. You know this,
32:30
I know this is a couple of reasons why I was such a successful
32:32
award winning teacher and all these things because I never taught the curriculum word for
32:37
word. I always pulled from it what I needed to because I knew my
32:42
kids and I got to know them on deeper levels and I got and there's
32:46
millions of amazing teachers out there that do the very same. But it's it
32:50
builds a connection with them. They feel seen, they feel heard, and
32:53
you know, the same thing goes in business. It's why I've really deepened
32:59
this a lot lately, and I've been thinking about my journey a lot of
33:01
how why I felt like I should, quite quote struggled so much to the
33:04
beginning because it was like, take this strategy and try it on. And
33:07
of course we need strategy, like we need the strategy we need to feel
33:08
confident. But I lost a huge piece of what sets us all apart,
33:16
what sets me apart of why I even started my coaching business in the first
33:21
place. Of this power our strengths and bringing that in and putting our lens
33:24
on things. And it goes the same thing with our kids, like helping
33:28
them see their strengths. And I just relate this to sports a lot,
33:31
just because Foster, that's my life right now, and I've played sports growing
33:35
up. But you know, and it's it's seeing so and so is really
33:38
good at this on the team, but you're also really good at this,
33:43
and so how can we take your competitiveness and feel the things that you're good
33:45
at and that's going to help you grow. So it's making them not seem
33:50
less than but it's you know, growing in that. But to sum all
33:53
that up, it's really helping them see that as such a strength of theirs
33:59
and how and talking about it those moments that it could be retracted a little
34:05
bit, you know, kind of fueled in a different way. I guess
34:07
you could say, yeah, so yeah, shouting out, speaking out loud
34:13
what it is that they're really good at. But your strength could also be
34:16
you're you know, used to your detriment in sometimes and that's that's for all
34:21
of us, right, Like stubbornness can can really support you in the pursuit
34:25
of your dreams. If you are relentlessly stubborn when it comes to pursuing your
34:32
big goals and dreams, it's only a matter of time, right, And
34:37
it's people that lack a level of stubbornness who end up falling short or you
34:42
never know if they could have done it. And yeah, stubbornness can also
34:46
be to your detriment as well, when you don't when you're holding on too
34:51
tight, when you're not allowing yourself to shift, Like, Okay, this
34:54
strategy, it's not working for me. So instead of saying, Okay,
34:58
how can I tweak this? How can I person this and make it my
35:00
own, I'm going to keep going at it because I'm meant to make this
35:05
happen. And it's like, dude, just shift a little bit, pivot
35:07
just like a quarter inch and it will big, just a tiny, tiny
35:13
bit. So I'm curious because I think that this is that's a really powerful
35:19
concept, right your one your biggest strengths can also be some of your biggest
35:23
detriments without the level of awareness of like how is this serving me? How
35:29
is this taking away from me? So are there any in this? I'm
35:34
putting you on the spot, but are there any that that stand out to
35:37
you that you're like, no, no, this, I know this is
35:40
like you're an incredible teacher, and I don't know how that would ever be
35:45
to your detriment. I mean that can only be a plus in my opinion,
35:49
But is there something else that you're like, this is an incredible strength
35:52
of mine. But there are ways that I see where this is detracted or
35:57
taken away from the bigger thing. Oh, yes, give it to This
36:02
has been like the biggest lesson for me over the past two years, I
36:07
would say, of I mean, leadership is a strength of mind, like,
36:12
but hard work is a huge strength of the mind. Oh, that's
36:15
a good one. And the systems from my child. I mean, this
36:19
is a lot of the work that you and I have done together, because
36:22
you know, my sister and the ray first wanted to go to college in
36:23
our family, and it was my parents worked extremely hard the whole life,
36:29
and it served me so well, Like I worked extremely hard, played competitive
36:32
basketball growing up, had scholarships to go to college, you know. And
36:37
it's yes, the hard work, but it's also that old paradigm. I
36:42
want to see old paradigm, just the condition that I had that the harder
36:45
you work, the more money you're going to make. Yeah, and obviously
36:49
in sports that served me very well, like working hard. But if I
36:52
would have known then what I know now about energy and mindset, and I
36:59
feel like, you know, this is such a gift, but I'm so
37:01
grateful for the work I've done on myself because I can. I mean,
37:05
I even have conversations with my oldest son Foster about this kind of stuff and
37:08
so, but it's that hard work. And even in my very first business,
37:14
it was harder I worked. You know, you just work hard,
37:15
just put your head down. And as I've been building this coaching business,
37:21
it's it was very much. It's not that I don't work hard. I
37:24
love the hard work. You know. Some days I work two hours,
37:28
some days I work four hours, and some days I'm up late working and
37:30
that's part of it, and I love it. I'm building something so much
37:34
bigger than what's in the moment right now. But it's I've had to learn
37:38
to release that belief that the harder I work, the more money I'm going
37:43
to make and really finding and I'm I mean, I'm just I know this
37:49
is something I will keep deepening as I keep going, which I'm very excited
37:52
about. And this is why I think us as leaders of ourselves is which
37:55
what I call it our self awareness is so key and always leaning into this.
38:00
But this has been a really big thing for me of letting it be
38:06
easy, letting and not even always even like let it be simple. I'm
38:09
always asking myself, tip, where are we making this more difficult? This
38:14
is currently in this season right now, I'm asking my and it's like constant,
38:17
right, But it's that belief, that that constant and grained belief.
38:22
And I'll catch myself, Okay, why you already did the post. You've
38:27
done what you needed to do. Go live your damn life. You don't
38:30
need to, you know. And I think too this. You know,
38:34
I came in to my coaching business. I had a lot of experience in
38:37
coaching in business, and I have a whole freaking degree and how to coach
38:42
people. But this is a different level. It was a totally different level.
38:45
And I know the importance of boundaries and leadership in that, but I
38:47
think it's so important too. It's been cool to take this at different levels
38:52
myself. When we think about boundaries of clients and stuff, it's not it's
38:57
having that belief in them and the potential and that. And we almost think
39:00
we have to compensate when we don't feel confident in ourselves, but it is,
39:05
I mean, it ties into so many things obviously, but the harder
39:07
work mentality kind of thing. But it's yeah, that's been really big for
39:13
me. That's huge, that's for sure one of mine. I caught myself
39:16
the other day. I was so tired. It was just you know,
39:22
like some nights RT sleeves. Other nights he's just the worst. And it
39:27
was one of those days where, like the night before, we just didn't
39:30
sleep good. And two o'clock came and I'm dead to the world inside right,
39:36
and I'll be sitting at my desk and it's like I'm keeping myself tethered
39:40
here. I'm not doing anything by the way I'm scrolling, I'm you know,
39:46
shifting from this thing to this thing, not really moving a couple things,
39:51
like doing nothing, and it's like, go lay down, go take
39:54
a nap, go take a bath, go read a book, like all.
39:58
And I'm like, okay, but first first, let me do this
40:00
thing in order for me to take in. And it's like I'll catch myself.
40:06
I'm like what am I why? Why? Yeah? And it's and
40:12
it's like because I personally, this is still alive in me where it's like,
40:16
okay, I have to earn that. I have to like, okay,
40:21
in order for me to be worthy to rest I need to get every
40:24
single thing checked off my to do list right now immediately, or at least
40:29
one more thing. And it's just like, okay number one, not drew
40:34
number two. What's going to be the level of work in that? Whatever
40:38
the thing is? Right? Like God forbid. That thing that I'm saying
40:43
that I need to do is make a post because my energy is trash and
40:45
I know how that works. You put out a post with trash energy,
40:50
it's gonna get trash results every single time. I know this. But yeah,
40:54
this, I would say, this is a big one for so many
40:57
people. Still, Yeah, oh it's huge for me always how have you
41:02
been undoing it for yourself? Just obviously self awareness is key and then just
41:07
practicing just putting the thing down and allowing yourself to go and just let it
41:13
be that surrender piece. Yeah, And for me it comes to around creating
41:20
programs and offers and things. And I think too because when I was teaching,
41:24
everything was so like big, it was like this massive steps to things
41:29
and so always just asking myself what is the easiest path to success here,
41:35
you know, and just things like that, and especially when it comes to
41:37
like I love my business, like I love it so much. I love
41:40
showing up, I love what I do, but really training myself that I
41:45
don't have to be like money can flow in, but it's never going to
41:49
flow in at any time if I'm not in that belief, that in that
41:53
trust and that energy, if I'm only thinking and believing, oh I still
41:57
only make a paycheck once a month or I only you know, those kinds
42:00
of things. And so that just has been just consistent practice, I would
42:06
say, And that's part of my power walk too, is like reminding myself
42:09
of those things. But yeah, it's it's it's been hard work for me,
42:15
like still too, and it's just but it's also been some of the
42:21
most beautiful work I've done on myself. Yea. And what an amazing time
42:24
that we live in. I think that we get to not only have businesses
42:31
that work differently, but that that's our reality. We get to do that,
42:39
like we don't have to always be in front of our computer. You
42:45
know, we got to do the things right. But so, yeah,
42:51
consistent practice in that one thing that helps me to is yeah, you're absolutely
42:57
right, we have I mean, what a time to be alive and running
43:00
a business right. The amount of systems that we have to support us in
43:04
the automations and the level of passivity that's that's being allowed for right now through
43:12
these programs like many chat and like funnels and you know, the things that
43:15
we're all tinkering with and including right now AI you know, whenever we get
43:21
a handle on that. But also another thing too that I think about is
43:25
like I'm modeling this for other women, right like if I don't allow myself
43:31
to rest, and if I don't allow myself to cancel a meeting right like
43:37
perfect example, I have a client right now who she was supposed to be
43:44
teaching something today and she like sold this thing that was live and people were
43:50
like taking off work for it and all the things. And she doesn't have
43:53
a voice right now. And it's funny because like yesterday you messaged me,
43:58
You're like I feel this tickle my voice, and I was like, what's
44:00
happening with everybody's voices? But genuinely, she doesn't have a voice. You
44:06
cannot teach without a voice, like unless you know sign language and people you
44:10
know, like that's kind of a big piece of teaching live. And she
44:15
reached out and she was like, what do I do like I feel so
44:20
bad, and I'm like, well, how would you feel if you were
44:23
a student and somebody showed up anyway because you you took off work or whatever,
44:30
but they can't speak and you can't hear them. So now not only
44:37
did you take off work and put time aside to be there, but now
44:42
like it's for literally nothing, and like you could have been somewhere else,
44:46
but now you can't hear anything, Like how do you People want you to
44:52
do the best thing for yourself, right like they do, and they want
44:59
that for them too. So it's just remembering the humanity of it all.
45:06
But also like we're modeling all the time what we're expecting of each other.
45:13
So if I never allow myself to take a nap or you know, like
45:15
if let's say, for example, that today I didn't feel very good or
45:22
something came up with one of the kids and I was going to be distracted
45:24
or whatever and I needed to move this, you would have understood. You
45:30
might have been a little disappointed, but like, you know, like and
45:34
this podcast would be better if one of us were to do that and say,
45:37
hey, this is not going to be the best time. I'm going
45:40
to make a judgment call right now, We're going to pick this up another
45:43
time, for that's the best for you, for the other person, and
45:47
for everybody else involved. But we don't really like we put this amount of
45:52
pressure on ourselves and we don't realize that not only do we do that to
45:54
ourselves, but we're also demonstrating to people watching us, if that's what they
45:59
do, should do too. I know it's so true. And I've had
46:04
moments with clients where exactly what you said, where something life came up,
46:07
you know, a kid got sick or just something or I got sick,
46:12
and those feelings, Oh my gosh, I am I holy integrity. You
46:15
know, it's like I can't show up in my best right now for them,
46:20
Like, yeah, there's nothing wrong with moving a call. There's nothing
46:22
wrong. And that has been another piece of the hard work, you know,
46:27
like thinking it has to be a certain way, it has to be
46:30
I get to do this my way, and actually me leaning into my way
46:34
is the way, you know, and reminding myself of them. Yeah.
46:39
Yeah, that's such a good point, so huge. So what else has
46:45
been going on in your world? What have you been working on, what
46:47
have you been musing on? I know, a big piece of something that
46:53
you and I always come around to talking about together is that energy of going
46:59
all in when it comes to our businesses, when it comes to our visions.
47:02
I feel like when we come together, we always go really big and
47:05
I would love to go there again. But what is what else is coming
47:10
up for you in the past few months and as we're closing out twenty twenty
47:15
three, what are some things that you're reflecting on. Oh, that's such
47:20
a good question. I this year has been pretty awesome just from there's been
47:28
so much growth in myself and obviously business you know too. But goals have
47:31
not been met in some ways, you know, and goals have been met
47:35
in some ways. But I think some of the one of the biggest things
47:40
that I've just really been reflecting a lot lately is there have been so many
47:45
moments that people in my shoes would have quit this, so many moments and
47:53
it's so it's interesting, but it's not because the whole reason I started my
47:59
pot cast four years ago was because I was coaching women coming to me that
48:07
were not even in my current business at the time, and in some in
48:12
my current business or that business, but it was I was like, if
48:16
they could only see what I see in them, like this leader in them,
48:21
if they could see their strengths, if they could see their power,
48:22
if they could see these things, Wow, the impact they could go have
48:28
on this world. The the you know, like the consistency and the commitment
48:34
to their goals and their visions, like them truly stepping into them, and
48:39
that feeling of you know, I'm sure a lot of you listening like we're
48:44
entrepreneurs here, Like I've just always known, like I remember even when I
48:49
was little, and even sitting in meetings when I was a teacher, knowing
48:52
like this is not it for me, Like just always knowing I was meant
48:57
to do something big. Even when I started my first business, a network
49:00
getting like I knew that was just not it. It was a stepping stone.
49:02
I'm going to be leading to something bigger. And that is literally the
49:07
feeling that I have followed over and over and over again in these past four
49:13
years, when my goodness, there have been so many moments it would have
49:16
been so much easier to quit, and I've known that I've been given lots
49:21
of opportunities to practice what this mission and this movement I want to lead.
49:25
But the biggest thing I reflected on this past couple months is is that and
49:31
I almost lost that sometimes and I think that I don't want to say I
49:37
lost it, but it's like this, this is a gift of mine,
49:44
like being able to keep pulling out my strengths and my power and putting my
49:51
lens on things that I have not always done a good job of, but
49:57
challenging myself to do that. And the very movement in the mission I want
50:01
to be leaving for women is I have been given so many deep moments to
50:06
practice that over the last four years, but especially the past two years.
50:09
And it's, you know, it's that moment of Okay, I got that
50:13
feeling a big I'm taking these steps forward, things I'm working and then oh
50:16
my gosh, they're not working, and oh okay, you know, so
50:19
now we're going to try some new things. And it's I've just been really
50:22
thinking about how have I continued to keep going, you know? And I
50:27
think we all start because we have a passion, we all start because we
50:30
have a dream, we all start because we have this vision. But when
50:32
we get going and the how what we thought is the path, you know,
50:38
doesn't work out that's when we lose our strengths, and I think it's
50:45
our responsibility to find that. And so I've just been reflecting on that in
50:50
myself and just honestly being so damn proud of myself in many moments and really
50:55
leaning into that even more as I think about the end of this year in
51:00
twenty twenty four and just feeling even more grounded and settled. I don't know,
51:06
maybe I'm gonna be forty in December. It's just like, oh wow,
51:08
and not even And I think, what's so beautiful about these businesses that
51:12
we get to create here, you know, in the coaching space and the
51:15
online space, whatever it may be them. It doesn't matter our age.
51:20
It's like literally how we lead ourselves and our wisdom and our experience that we
51:22
get along the way that matters, you know. And so that has just
51:30
been a huge reflection piece for me. And I think back on my journey,
51:36
and there's so many moments I've been so frustrated and you know, but
51:39
I mean, obviously clearly all of us, but I'm so grateful for all
51:45
of the experiences because I mean, I just wrapped up the first version of
51:50
my actually second but of my Icon program, which is about branding and stuff
51:53
and the wisdom I was able to share in there because of my struggles around
51:59
niche and and not gene and being specific and all these things. And I
52:04
just got done with that program. I was like, oh my gosh,
52:06
I'm so excited to share this and that was the reason for my path and
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because I truly believe this is going to be a huge piece, you know
52:15
of that's going to help women. And so that's just been a big reflection.
52:22
Well, when you said that you made a lot of goals that you
52:25
didn't hit, my first thought was, oh, so you set the right
52:30
goals, Like if you're if you're setting goals that you're hitting, then you
52:36
should have aimed higher in my humble opinion, right, Like, that's that's
52:43
good in my eyes, that's good. That's how big we should And to
52:46
me, that is like fully entrenched in your own power. If you are
52:53
really believing all that you are is all that you are, and then some
53:00
and more than you can even fathom, and more than anybody else even understands,
53:02
and this is true for all of us. If you're really really bought
53:07
into that, your goals should make no sense. Yeah, none, have
53:16
you heard the story of Joan of Arc I'm sharp left. Okay, well
53:27
listen, we've all heard of jon of Arc right, And like, I'm
53:30
gonna come out as an idiot right now, because literally, I if somebody
53:36
had said, like, have you heard of Jonah Bark, would be like
53:37
yeah, of course, and they'd be like what did she do? I'd
53:38
be like, I don't know she's but she's a badass, you know.
53:43
I literally just heard the story of Jonah Bark. Okay, I'm going to
53:46
put it in the tiniest nutshell and this is going to give this story no
53:50
justice at all. But she's French. And when she was fourteen or something,
53:55
so France was at war with England. And when she was fourteen,
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she got a message from Archangel Michael and a few other saints like angels basically
54:05
saying like you are going to save France from England, like you are,
54:09
like you, You're the one. And she got these messages to remain a
54:14
virgin because she don't get distracted by dudes and go and go say France fourteen.
54:22
Wow. And this woman has the audacity to not only believe this,
54:30
but speak this, proclaim this out loud, leave her family as her whole
54:36
village is pillaged and they're left with nothing and they are fleeing for their literal
54:40
lives. They're going right. She goes left toward the army and gets a
54:46
hold of King whatever the frick of France somehow gets in front of him.
54:53
And how she's able to demonstrate that like she's legit is she was give lifted
55:00
with the gift of psychic ability, so she could like tell them very specific
55:07
things about them, that know. So this was like how she was able
55:09
to to demonstrate that she's she's legit, like she really has talked to angels
55:15
and she's the one and all the things, and like that was her way.
55:19
Otherwise they'd just be like little girl run off, like get out of
55:22
here, you know. She was like why are you living with your mistress
55:25
when you're married? And Dude's like what I mean, Like wow, oh
55:30
yeah, okay, So I'm going somewhere with this, So long story short.
55:36
She fights like front lines with the French army. She gets like at
55:43
one point she gets shot with an arrow like right here between her shoulder and
55:46
her neck, continues fighting another point, like gets hit with a rock on
55:51
the helmet, breaks her helmet in half. Anyway, France ends up y'all,
55:57
I'm gonna butcher this story. But she they end up like making a
56:00
deal with England and doing a cease fire of some sorts, and she's like,
56:04
what the frick? No, like we needed whatever. She ends up
56:07
getting captured by England and anyway, they end up burning her life and wow,
56:16
not that you know anybody wants that for themselves, but like my point
56:22
is, is the audacity and the level, like at what level of delusion
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in other people's eyes are you willing to believe in yourself before the thing comes
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true? It's this has been like the deepest work for me, Alley,
56:37
Yeah, and I think for so many of us, I mean, but
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it's like my goals and like vision as I for all of us. I
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think, you know, I think it's so important we keep this. It's
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about so much more than me, and it's about building something about that's always
56:57
been about so much more than me. But it's you know, it's never
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going to happen if I don't have the audacity to fully own And I've been
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reflect a lot on identity work and just my own journey of that and really
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and I think the branch a photo shoot who brought this out of just the
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identities I've had to leave behind to step into more of who I believe I
57:25
was born to be, in the purpose I have here and what I'm doing
57:29
here through my business and who I'm meant to serve, and but especially when
57:34
we're building online, like being able to own that. And I know there's
57:40
moments you've told you, You've told me like if I just want to shake
57:43
you, and I'm like, I know, I know I need to,
57:45
you know, And it's but it's like it's been so I feel like with
57:50
every step it's just stepping more into audacity and willing and it's not being triggering
57:58
or anything like that. It's just like the story it might be though,
58:02
and yeah, it may be. And that's the thing though, that's the
58:06
that's what we can't control other people's perceptions, right, And can you imagine
58:10
if she'd like and I realized that's like a wild example, but also like
58:15
if somebody can do that, you can pursue your business and your big goals
58:19
to be a seven figure figure plus earner. Okay, but soo, but
58:24
like what you know, how many times do we sit there, we're like,
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well, I want to say this out loud, like I feel this
58:30
in my soul, that this is who I am. But like, if
58:35
I say this out loud, they're gonna think I'm batshit crazy, and then
58:39
god forbid this doesn't happen. I look like an idiot. Yes, that's
58:44
what we do to ourselves. That is not faith. Okay, if you
58:49
had faith in what you were doing, you'd be scared, but you'd say
58:52
it anyway, you'd proclaim it anyway, you'd move forward anyway, regardless of
58:57
anybody else's perception. That we cannot controle, we cannot control. There's always
59:01
going to be somebody who thinks you're an idiot, whether you're playing really really
59:06
small or really freaking big, or literally every single mark in between. I
59:12
can't control it. Your mother in law is going to think that you are
59:15
irresponsible and you should be at home with your babies. Period. Your mom
59:22
is going to want you to, you know, be doing something else,
59:25
period. Your dad is not going to understand what you're doing, no matter
59:30
what it is that you're doing. Period. Who cares exactly? You know?
59:35
I have this, I always have these thoughts just because you know,
59:38
like it's almost a walk into certain places, you know, here with my
59:44
kids or whatever, and it's I see people who are in our just like
59:46
world, you know, in my day to day life, and it's that
59:52
moment of like, oh, they see me share these things online and you
59:55
know, and they may think, oh, Tip's doing some really cool things.
59:59
So that's a you know, business like that's so exciting and in my
1:00:01
god, I want to be like it's like shooting stars coming out of me,
1:00:06
Like if you only knew what I'm really doing here, you know.
1:00:07
And it's like those feelings of but owning that and that is so much of
1:00:16
this work and being willing to lean into that, and I think that is
1:00:22
something that keeps me going. It's that feeling I know I'm meant to do
1:00:24
more and I am doing more. And it's that finding my edge, you
1:00:29
know, finding that even more me and letting that really really come out and
1:00:37
gosh, I mean and just the identity work, I mean that that's just
1:00:44
been so huge for me. Well what is okay? So I've one thing
1:00:47
that I want to talk about before we end, is like shifting to age
1:00:53
forty, and I'm sure there's a ton of identity work that's coming with that.
1:01:00
I heard I watched the Color Daddy podcast with Gwyneth Paltrow. Did you
1:01:05
see that one? I've talked about it a couple of times on here because
1:01:08
it made me so happy. Because one of the ways that we're conditioned as
1:01:14
women, at least in the States, is to fear aging with everything that
1:01:22
we have. Fight it at all costs. Right like, God forbid,
1:01:27
you have a gray hair, and you let it show. God forbid you
1:01:30
have smile lines because you've lived a happy life, right like, hide it,
1:01:36
cover it immediately and listen, your girl is a proponent for botox.
1:01:39
I'm here for like do you oh, yes, for sure. But also
1:01:43
it's like the attitude towards aging as a whole. And anyway, so this
1:01:45
podcast with Gwyneth Paltrow, it made me so happy, and it's a fantastic
1:01:51
conversation. She talks about Bret Page, talks about Ben Affleck. It was
1:01:53
so good. But anyway, one of the things that made me so happy,
1:01:57
she was like, I can't I can't remember exactly how she phrase it,
1:02:00
but she was like, something so magical happened when I turned forty.
1:02:05
She said, I'm like my favorite version of myself. I give zero f's
1:02:08
what anybody thinks? Like, like something just shifts at age forty And she
1:02:14
said, by the way, age fifty, same thing but better, and
1:02:16
I was like, oh, that's so fun to hear. So as you're
1:02:21
approaching this massive milestone birthday, how are you feeling? Like? What does
1:02:30
that feel like for you? Are you? Are you? It sounds like
1:02:31
you're embracing it. It sounds like you're excited about it. But like you
1:02:36
when you mention identity work, who is forty year old? Tiff Ah?
1:02:44
This is well, for one, I still like I'm twenty eight, So
1:02:47
like that. I like the age of forty. It's just so funny.
1:02:51
Though you think back time flies, but it doesn't, you know. I
1:02:54
think about when I was in college and my uncle turned forty, and I
1:02:58
was like, oh, that's so far away, and so yeah, you
1:03:00
know and no, but yeah, it is this level of groundedness on new
1:03:06
new levels. You know, you think twenties were great, thirties were really
1:03:08
good, but forty it's it is this layer of I don't even know.
1:03:20
I mean I do know, but trying to think the way to put it
1:03:22
in towards but it's grounded. But it's this layer of this is who I
1:03:27
am, like knowing more of myself, like letting go of you know,
1:03:31
it's not even what people think, but it's those thoughts that we carry with
1:03:35
us. I think they've come with us from our childhood. You know.
1:03:37
I always give the analogy of being the little girl in the classroom knowing the
1:03:42
answer to the problem that the teacher is giving, but you don't want to
1:03:45
raise your hand because what if you get it wrong and people are gonna laugh
1:03:49
at you. You're like, we have moments like that that were small but
1:03:52
big in our lives, and we carry those things. It's like posted on
1:03:57
social media, what's so and so going to think? And there, I
1:04:00
mean, I'm human. There's times I still catch myself, you know,
1:04:02
and it's like stepping more into that of this is what I'm doing. I'm
1:04:10
so on fire about it, and there's a new level to it all,
1:04:15
you know, like this is where I'm going. And so I want to
1:04:16
say, bolder, braver, even more heart than ever before. Always had
1:04:23
the heart obviously, but even more of me like my magic, yeah,
1:04:29
and just and knowing looking back, So dang proud of myself and my total
1:04:35
eighteen year career and life into this moment and having just a new gratitude for
1:04:44
so many things and even more excitement. It's like, gosh, I've already
1:04:48
done all that, damn well, I can't wait to see what I do
1:04:51
this next, you know, ten years totally, and what that's going to
1:04:56
look like. And also, like I think about the Tiff that started her
1:05:00
career as a teacher, you know, went to college and beautiful experience,
1:05:04
loved it all, and but it was like, That's what I'm going to
1:05:08
be doing the rest of my life. And did I imagine I'd be teaching
1:05:11
online and coaching online, you know, like that never? But how amazing
1:05:15
it is that I have the audacity to step into that and figure these things
1:05:19
out and follow that feeling and that gut and forty I just can't even imagine
1:05:27
what's coming. Like I just I think about offers that I've had in my
1:05:31
mind and visions for my business that I see coming to life that I'm just
1:05:35
so excited about because there's a new level of confidence and belief in myself too.
1:05:41
And it's not just lost forty. Yeah, the wisdom and That's just
1:05:46
why I value so much my own growth and why I've always like, I
1:05:50
talk about leadership a lot, and it's a huge strength of mind. But
1:05:57
I've always like, I want to be one hundred years old and still learning
1:06:00
and growing, you know, like we want to have success in business,
1:06:02
we want to have success in life. And I even coached on this a
1:06:06
lot when I was leading teams and stuff, and it's like, we know
1:06:10
this, it starts with us, like and you know, so I just
1:06:14
I think about the wisdom, I think about the knowledge, I think about
1:06:16
the lessons and being able to carry that everything over. I don't know,
1:06:21
it's just really exciting to think about. So well, I'm excited to see
1:06:26
what's next for you in this next decade. I know people that are following
1:06:31
along or that will very soon be following along with your journey. I mean,
1:06:36
just you're gonna love what you find because this is I mean, I
1:06:41
just I love I love how you speak, I love your energy. You
1:06:45
do have this groundedness about you, this this deep in er knowing, this
1:06:49
peace about you. It's not loud. It's this calm, audacious woman who
1:07:00
knows that what you've done is incredible. But you've barely gotten started on what's
1:07:06
possible. And that's that's what I hear when I when I see you,
1:07:12
when I speak with you. So for anybody listening that isn't already following Tiffany,
1:07:18
please do and tell everybody where they can find you, where they can
1:07:23
listen to your podcast, and what they can look forward to next in your
1:07:27
world. Ah, thank you all. It means so much. What a
1:07:31
journey we've been on, right, I know, it's been so fun,
1:07:35
Tiffany. You allis on Instagram, My podcast is well integrated woman, and
1:07:43
yeah, lots of things coming out. I've got launching podcast program, I've
1:07:48
got my five Canaan Day mini course coming out, and icon and my signature
1:07:57
kind of I stand for what I call the leader of your life, like
1:08:00
how to kind of get clarity on our strengths and our next levels and kind
1:08:04
of growth and that kind of thing. So yeah, lots of fun stuff
1:08:09
and just a new Yeah, it's all exciting, all excited to think about.
1:08:15
Well, we will link all the things in the show notes. But
1:08:18
thank you so much. This has been like the third time you've come on
1:08:20
here. You might be my most recurring guest, which is so fun.
1:08:27
You can't get rid of me. I don't want to, but I love
1:08:30
that about us. But it's just been so fun walking beside you through the
1:08:38
different seasons of motherhood and entrepreneurship and as partners and just like women who who
1:08:46
just want it all, that's who we are, and it's just been so
1:08:50
fun to be able to go through so much life with you. So thank
1:08:56
you for giving me that honor and that opportunity, and thank you for coming
1:09:00
here and sharing your heart with my people. Thank you, it's been anes
1:09:05
for me. All right, y'all, we will link TIF in the show
1:09:09
notes and all the things until next time. I will see y'all next week. Bye.