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Health and Productivity: Getting Clear Insight with Todd Squires · The Bridges and Beacons Podcast

0:38
SPEAKER_00: Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to the Mystic Nerd Squad podcast.
0:42
SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Kelly Meyerson, and I am delighted today to have my friend Todd Squires on the podcast.
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SPEAKER_00: And I'm going to share a little bit about him before I allow him to say hello.
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SPEAKER_00: Todd is a seasoned mentor and world-class health, wellness, and productivity coach.
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SPEAKER_00: He focuses on nutrition, mindset, communication, and fitness, helping individuals overcome struggles with eating, moving, and soft talk habits.
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SPEAKER_00: He inspires clients to prioritize their well-being, achieve sustainable change, and live their best lives.
1:17
SPEAKER_00: Welcome, Todd.
1:18
SPEAKER_00: I'm so glad you're here today.
1:20
SPEAKER_01: Glad to be here.
1:21
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
1:22
SPEAKER_01: Thanks for having me.
1:23
SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
1:24
SPEAKER_00: And I love your bio.
1:26
SPEAKER_00: I love all of those words together, really looking to get people to their peak well-being.
1:35
SPEAKER_00: And so how did you find yourself in the position of wanting to look at well-being for people through all these wonderful areas?
1:47
SPEAKER_00: Um, what led you to that?
1:50
SPEAKER_01: That's a great question.
1:52
SPEAKER_01: Um a lot of it came stem from my line of work.
1:56
SPEAKER_01: Um I've seen, I guess, a little bit of my story is I I was not being a great leader myself.
2:04
SPEAKER_01: So it really stemmed from that.
2:06
SPEAKER_01: I was treating my employees horrible.
2:08
SPEAKER_01: Well, I didn't know it.
2:09
SPEAKER_01: I was feeding them donuts and expecting them to go back to work.
2:12
SPEAKER_01: Um, just bad habits.
2:16
SPEAKER_01: Um, and as I started to make my shift towards healthy and wellness, I decided to it would be beneficial if I brought people along with me.
2:25
SPEAKER_01: Um, one, it helps me learn, and two, it helps them get their get the ball rolling for them.
2:32
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
2:34
SPEAKER_00: I I think there are so many ways that our our workforce today is unhealthy, the opposite of healthy.
2:48
SPEAKER_00: So, what was it in particular for you in your experience that really just made you say, this has to be different?
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SPEAKER_00: Because it's it's not uncommon for people to talk about, I I realized my health had crashed, I wasn't feeling good, you know, I I changed my diet, I changed my lifestyle, all those habits that would support me in being better at everything I do.
3:14
SPEAKER_00: But you took it the next level and you said, this is not enough for just me.
3:20
SPEAKER_00: It's gotta change the way that I do my work.
3:24
SPEAKER_01: For sure.
3:24
SPEAKER_01: So I guess a little backstory is I was in a sales meeting one day, and a couple of the questions that I asked them were, you know, how are your sales going?
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SPEAKER_01: My I guess my uh a sales meeting was uh one of one of the questions I remember asking was, don't think you're not replaceable.
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SPEAKER_01: And that as that as I said it, I'm like, who that could be me that's being replaced instead of them.
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SPEAKER_01: Um I I see the spark on your eye going, yeah, I've I've either heard that or I've said it, or I've had a boss tell me that.
3:57
SPEAKER_01: And uh it's usually when you ask somebody that earth tell them that they're not replaceable, they're usually not too far down the line that they're gone or the manager's gone.
4:05
SPEAKER_01: So um when I said that, um I it hit home.
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SPEAKER_01: Um and I remember going home that night and sitting down on the couch and waiting, not waiting, but just sitting around thinking about stewing about it, um, having a beer and knowing that I wasn't in the best place.
4:23
SPEAKER_01: Um so yeah, I it was a long process.
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SPEAKER_01: It hasn't been easy.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, but I remember just I remember texting a friend that night to go to the gym.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, let's get started.
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SPEAKER_01: I need to get off this couch and get moving.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, I need to do better things to make myself better to help other people.
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SPEAKER_01: And I said has been a long has been a uh it's been a long process, not an easy one, but uh very prosperous.
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SPEAKER_01: Um I've found this uh different side of me that I've never knew was there.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and like I said, now I get to take other people along with me on my journey.
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SPEAKER_01: It's fun to help other people turn on those switches or make those differences in their life.
5:07
SPEAKER_01: I there's nothing I love better than watching somebody have an aha moment of, oh, that's why Todd is doing that, or that's why he's saying too, that's why he's using that word that way.
5:16
SPEAKER_01: Um that's fulfilling.
5:18
SPEAKER_01: That's fun.
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SPEAKER_01: That's I enjoy that part of it.
5:22
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, well, that's that's an impressive shift, you know, from the feeling just so frustrated and and pressured at work and like it's not working.
5:35
SPEAKER_00: But the the fact that you reached out to somebody and you didn't say, let's go to the bar, you said let's go get a workout in.
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SPEAKER_00: That is huge because often when we're put into those stressful moments, we flex into the thing that is not a healthy option for us.
5:52
SPEAKER_01: We flex into the comfort and not the not the discomfort.
5:56
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: So um I will actually listen to one of your podcasts today, not actually.
6:01
SPEAKER_01: I listened to one of your podcasts today.
6:02
SPEAKER_01: One of your ladies said something about uh choices.
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SPEAKER_01: Like we have we you have a choice.
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SPEAKER_01: So I've I've lived by that for a long time.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, you got a choice to like you just said, I can go to the bar or I can choose to make an uncomfortable decision.
6:16
SPEAKER_01: And all right, man, sign me up.
6:18
SPEAKER_01: I want to go to the gym.
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SPEAKER_01: So that was that was uh just that was a start of a mind shift that I didn't know I was doing.
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SPEAKER_01: I just I just knew it had to happen.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
6:28
SPEAKER_00: And it's so great that you figured that out in in the midst of realizing this is that the way that I am is not working.
6:37
SPEAKER_00: And a lot of people don't get to the gym.
6:40
SPEAKER_00: Maybe I'm speaking about myself in their well-being journey.
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SPEAKER_00: A lot of people maybe start with like, okay, I'm gonna try some meditation, I'm gonna try some breathing, but like jumping right in and just knowing how much benefit there is to exercise and what that automatically does for our brain, our mood, you know, let alone the health benefits for your longevity.
7:04
SPEAKER_00: So then what comes after that?
7:06
SPEAKER_00: Like, what's your next natural progression?
7:09
SPEAKER_00: You're working out, you're feeling better, that like makes you start to shift into like now.
7:16
SPEAKER_00: I'm taking this to the boardroom.
7:19
SPEAKER_00: It's coming to work with me.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
7:21
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, so I went from I like to say the 3D.
7:25
SPEAKER_01: So I went from uh direction, I had to choose a direction.
7:28
SPEAKER_01: Then I went to diet.
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SPEAKER_01: Um change I made a huge change in my diet.
7:32
SPEAKER_01: Then I went to the dialogue, how I started to talk to myself.
7:35
SPEAKER_01: Um and I'll share.
7:37
SPEAKER_01: You asked how I get it to the boardroom.
7:39
SPEAKER_01: That one happened really by accident-ish.
7:42
SPEAKER_01: So uh you and I met through Kyle.
7:45
SPEAKER_01: Kyle was uh we had both been through the Unlifted program.
7:47
SPEAKER_01: I don't know if he's ever talked to you about that or not.
7:49
SPEAKER_01: It's no, tell me about it.
7:51
SPEAKER_01: Unlifted is a language course.
7:53
SPEAKER_01: Um, it teaches people how to use their language better.
7:56
SPEAKER_01: Um so I was in a I'm in I sell building material on as my full-time job.
8:05
SPEAKER_01: And I was sitting in the front of a classroom one day with a Windows salesman, and I just gone through the enlifted.
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SPEAKER_01: I knew how to play some language games or just language exercises.
8:15
SPEAKER_01: And the guy was having some technical difficulty, and I was sitting at the front of the classroom thinking, Todd, you can stand up and do a we call it the should detox.
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SPEAKER_01: We can just play a five-minute exercise, and I chickened out.
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SPEAKER_01: I couldn't, I didn't do it.
8:30
SPEAKER_01: So I left there that day, and I as soon as I walked out of the parking lot, I'm mad at myself.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm like, you had an opportunity to do this.
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SPEAKER_01: So I called back to the office or called the my customer that we were at.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm like, hey, here's what happened.
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SPEAKER_01: I want to talk to you in the morning.
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SPEAKER_01: If you got a minute, I'll I'll come in in.
8:46
SPEAKER_01: And uh the president was like, Yep.
8:47
SPEAKER_01: He goes, I should have time for you.
8:49
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, dude, you just set yourself up.
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SPEAKER_01: You just he just shouldn't himself.
8:53
SPEAKER_01: So I uh I went back in the next day and I and I played the should, it's called the should exercise or should detox.
9:00
SPEAKER_01: And uh I played it, I played this should do detox with him, and uh he looked at me, says, I will see you Monday and Tuesday next week for my sales meeting and my production meeting.
9:11
SPEAKER_01: He says, You run this game or this exercise and whatever else you have, bring it in.
9:16
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, uh okay.
9:19
SPEAKER_01: Wow.
9:20
SPEAKER_01: And so I went through, I've done I think nine workshops with them on language, um goal setting, all kinds of stuff.
9:27
SPEAKER_01: Um, and about two or three into it, he was like, All right, how do we we've got 132 divisions to this company, how do we get it to all of them?
9:34
SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, I don't know, Charlie.
9:36
SPEAKER_01: So that that's been my my work in progress right now is trying to or putting together a corporate wellness program to get it out to boardrooms.
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SPEAKER_01: Um he saw value in just in the language part.
9:49
SPEAKER_01: We haven't even touched on the nutrition or the the exercise part is fairly simple.
9:53
SPEAKER_01: Get up and walk, you know, take take a 10-minute walk, take a 20-minute walk a day.
9:57
SPEAKER_01: It's it's that easy.
9:59
SPEAKER_01: But um yeah, that's a short, long story of how I got into what I'm starting to accomplish now or work on now.
10:07
SPEAKER_00: That's incredible.
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SPEAKER_00: You know, and it's those moments that you you spontaneously were like, I think I should just share this exercise.
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SPEAKER_00: It feels like a good moment.
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SPEAKER_00: It's a captive audience, they're not going anywhere.
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SPEAKER_00: So I love that you were like, let me just bring this out.
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SPEAKER_00: And then you check it out, which we all do from time to time, right?
10:26
SPEAKER_00: But I love that you were like, you know what, I'm gonna make myself accountable to myself.
10:32
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna just throw myself out there and look how it exploded.
10:37
SPEAKER_00: And that, yeah, that just really tells you how much people need these kinds of tools and techniques uh in the workplace.
10:46
SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
10:47
SPEAKER_01: Yep.
10:47
SPEAKER_01: I just yep.
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SPEAKER_01: How they they can, yeah, uh if they have, I'm gonna say 25 at the time, 25 salespeople.
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SPEAKER_01: I think they're up to like 40 something now.
12:20
SPEAKER_01: And out of those 25, I'm gonna say 10 of them really latched onto it and have like they've increased their sales, they've uh moved up in positions, they've done different things.
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SPEAKER_01: So there it's I can't say I have a proven record, but it's pretty darn close.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, I've I've watched the magic happen there.
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SPEAKER_01: Uh they've had a job super that really took to it.
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SPEAKER_01: He has gone from I wouldn't call him a street sweeper, but he's gone from that to running half of the division for production now, just because he started talking to himself better.
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SPEAKER_01: So, or using his language more effectively.
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SPEAKER_00: I I mean, I I think about all the conversations we have with ourselves that are unhelpful, unresourced, you know, that really either notch into criticism we've had in the past or conditioning we've experienced and these loops that play in our minds.
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SPEAKER_00: So I love that you're talking about changing that uh soft talk.
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SPEAKER_00: Is there any kind of like small tip that you could give someone listening if they're like, Todd, this is this is exactly what's happening to me.
13:31
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, I'm negative talking myself and I I don't know how to get out of this rut, that first little step.
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SPEAKER_00: What would it be?
13:41
SPEAKER_01: Sure.
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SPEAKER_01: Actually, I would run the should be talks with them.
13:43
SPEAKER_01: So do you want to play a game?
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SPEAKER_00: Yes, of course.
13:46
SPEAKER_01: That way your little your listeners can hear what I'm talking about now.
13:48
SPEAKER_02: Yes.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, so we'll start off with I'll start off with uh I say I should, and then you finish it.
13:54
SPEAKER_01: You finish the sentence.
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SPEAKER_00: So I should brush my teeth every day.
13:59
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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SPEAKER_01: So say that.
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SPEAKER_01: Say it in this say it in a sentence.
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SPEAKER_00: I should brush my teeth every day.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, how does that feel?
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SPEAKER_01: Does it feel like it's gonna get done?
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SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
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SPEAKER_01: It does.
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SPEAKER_01: You should.
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SPEAKER_00: I should.
14:13
SPEAKER_00: Well, I will.
14:13
SPEAKER_00: I am, I do.
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SPEAKER_01: All right, so we're we're going to we'll change it.
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SPEAKER_01: We're gonna change from uh so should let's let's say uh you want to start walking more.
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SPEAKER_01: Say say this.
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SPEAKER_01: I should start walking more.
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SPEAKER_00: I should start walking more.
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SPEAKER_01: Does it sound like that's gonna happen?
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SPEAKER_00: No, because it's non-committal, really, right?
14:34
SPEAKER_00: Because I'm saying I should.
14:36
SPEAKER_01: I should.
14:37
SPEAKER_01: So change the should to could and say that.
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SPEAKER_00: I could start walking.
14:43
SPEAKER_01: Oh, I I saw that the eyes, so tell me if that sounds any better or not.
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SPEAKER_00: I could, yeah, I could.
14:51
SPEAKER_01: Sounds a little more tangible, but not quite there yet.
14:53
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, okay.
14:54
SPEAKER_01: Uh change the could to can.
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SPEAKER_00: I can start walking.
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SPEAKER_01: And how does that feel?
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SPEAKER_00: That feels definite, solid.
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SPEAKER_01: It's gonna do it.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, so now I like to so I can start walking, then I will add a because to the end of that sentence.
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SPEAKER_00: So I can start walking because I can start walking because I make it a priority in my day.
15:20
SPEAKER_01: Ah, there you go.
15:21
SPEAKER_01: So that's my that's the should detox, a very short, condensed version of it.
15:25
SPEAKER_01: Um, and we usually try when I play it with a group or whatever, it works real well in a group setting because then it it makes that person a little more accountable.
15:36
SPEAKER_01: But uh when you write it down on paper, it makes it visible.
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SPEAKER_01: It just gives it a little visual to be able to see.
15:43
SPEAKER_01: All right, I go from could or should to could to can and add a because it's uh the because adds a little extra boost to your affirmation, if you will.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, well, and I think just knowing what I know about the brain, when you posture it that way for your brain, it needs to find an answer for you.
16:07
SPEAKER_00: I need, I need to well, there has to be a because.
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SPEAKER_00: I so you're like, what would be a reason why I would want to go walking every day?
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SPEAKER_00: Because because it's good for me, because I'm gonna make it a priority, and then you're like, oh, I can make it a priority.
16:25
SPEAKER_00: No problem.
16:26
SPEAKER_00: Minor technical difficulties, but I'm completely nerding out on this idea and concept because I love all of the research and the studies out there regarding um uh habits and how long it takes to form a new habit.
16:49
SPEAKER_00: So I know a lot of the research says that, you know, people will say, ah, it's like 21 days to a new habit, but that's not really what the research says.
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SPEAKER_00: The research says it's more like an average of 66 days.
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SPEAKER_00: However, when in this is what made me think of that, when you write it down, say it out loud, tell somebody, that gets more, it becomes more likely that it's going to become more entrenched and possible.
17:22
SPEAKER_00: So, like when I'm trying, yeah.
17:24
SPEAKER_01: Go ahead.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
17:25
SPEAKER_00: So when I'm trying to help people with sleep, let's say, and they're struggling with their habits for sleep, if you know that 66 is the average days and you're trying to go to bed a little bit earlier, you're like, well, you know, if it's 66 days, that's that's like a couple of months where I need to really be focused on this.
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SPEAKER_00: And then I'm like, can we make it more positive?
17:46
SPEAKER_00: Can we make it more fun?
17:47
SPEAKER_00: Can it be about your bedtime routine?
17:49
SPEAKER_00: Not so much like you should go to bed.
17:54
SPEAKER_00: Right.
17:54
SPEAKER_00: You should go to bed earlier, you could go to bed earlier.
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SPEAKER_00: You can go to bed earlier because you can make it a priority in your day and succeed at it, right?
18:05
SPEAKER_00: So I don't know.
18:06
SPEAKER_00: That just I that's a little light bulb moment for me.
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SPEAKER_00: I really like that.
18:10
SPEAKER_00: The the should game.
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SPEAKER_01: The should game, yeah.
18:12
SPEAKER_01: Run with your uh with your sleep clients.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: So and you can eat like I should go to or I can't I can go to sleep because I know I'm gonna feel awesome tomorrow.
18:22
SPEAKER_01: Um, you can do any kind of because.
18:24
SPEAKER_01: So uh there was a study done in like the 60s, 60s, 70s, somewhere in early back when it had um copy machine rooms.
18:35
SPEAKER_01: So there's a study done, I think it was at Harvard or something.
18:37
SPEAKER_01: A lady did uh a study on the power of the word because they went in and they had her cut to the front of the line and she says, Hey, I need to uh my boss wants me to make copies.
18:49
SPEAKER_01: Can I make copies real quick?
18:51
SPEAKER_01: Or like she got like a I don't remember like a 66% buy-in.
18:55
SPEAKER_01: The people let her do it.
18:57
SPEAKER_01: So they went back a couple years later.
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SPEAKER_01: The next test was she went to the front of the line and said, I need to make copies because I'm running late.
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SPEAKER_01: She used the word because she got like a 93% buy-in or 95% buy-in.
19:07
SPEAKER_01: I don't remember the numbers offhand.
19:09
SPEAKER_01: She's like, all right, the power because has some influence on people.
19:13
SPEAKER_01: So they did a third study.
19:15
SPEAKER_01: She went to the front of the line again and said, Hey, I need to make copies just because I need to make copies.
19:22
SPEAKER_01: She got she they went to like a 93%, but she still had they still let her do it.
19:27
SPEAKER_01: So just by the power, just by the word because it was it's pretty cool study.
19:33
SPEAKER_00: I feel like I'm gonna have to do my own little study on that.
19:36
SPEAKER_00: Like when you really need something, I because.
19:41
SPEAKER_00: Just using because I this is so powerful because I think about how often we can talk to ourselves in such a negative way, and we we might have a negativity bias, and we have a a negative neg negativity bias, which is a very common human trait, and we think that something's not gonna work out and we make it be so.
20:10
SPEAKER_01: Can I ask you a question?
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
20:12
SPEAKER_01: So you're talking about like you to like uh you said something negativity patterns.
20:17
SPEAKER_01: Um so do you have have you seen or like through any of your clients, like it comes up through generational stuff?
20:27
SPEAKER_01: Like they're taught that generationally.
20:29
SPEAKER_00: Oh, 100%.
20:31
SPEAKER_00: I mean, I could say even just like for my own life experience, you know, uh, or often like money is a big one.
20:39
SPEAKER_00: Like money doesn't grow on trees, you know.
20:42
SPEAKER_00: And um, I just find it so interesting that we can sort of incapacitate our potential by just like fully believing and investing in an idea like money doesn't grow on trees, like the meaning that it's scarce versus like uh money flows easy to me from anywhere.
21:01
SPEAKER_00: I can it's unexpected.
21:03
SPEAKER_00: I find it on the ground, I find it in my pockets when I'm doing laundry, you know?
21:07
SPEAKER_01: Right.
21:07
SPEAKER_00: So yeah.
21:09
SPEAKER_01: That's awesome.
21:09
SPEAKER_01: I just I just re-ran that.
21:11
SPEAKER_01: So I like to play with I like to play with sentences, and I'm reading the book Um You're a Badass at making money from gyms.
21:18
SPEAKER_01: Have you read that?
21:19
SPEAKER_01: Uh yeah.
21:20
SPEAKER_01: Um, one of her exercises was to take old old things.
21:24
SPEAKER_01: So money doesn't grow on trees.
21:26
SPEAKER_01: I turned it into money grows in beliefs, was my how I turned that one around.
21:31
SPEAKER_00: Whoa.
21:33
SPEAKER_00: That's a good reframe.
21:35
SPEAKER_00: I like that one.
21:37
SPEAKER_01: Just it's just working on money stories or just trying to get out of that negative loophole.
21:44
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
21:44
SPEAKER_00: What I I love books like that.
21:48
SPEAKER_00: She's she's one of the authors that I enjoyed listening to.
21:51
SPEAKER_00: I listened on Audible to her book.
21:53
SPEAKER_00: It's fun to hear an author read their book, which I think, you know, speaking of the power of words, I think sometimes when it's the author reading their work, it's there's more power behind what they're saying.
22:05
SPEAKER_00: But I just I loved how much fun she made it because another, you know, belief like with money for a lot of people is like it's hard, you know, you have to work hard for money.
22:18
SPEAKER_00: And yet she created all of these ideas of ways that you could make it fun.
22:23
SPEAKER_00: I still remember, I can't remember the whole context of it, but the the goat story was like the funniest part from the book.
22:29
SPEAKER_01: Oh, yes, absolutely.
22:31
SPEAKER_00: It's got into her house, it was a mess, literally.
22:35
SPEAKER_00: But uh yeah, but I like that.
22:38
SPEAKER_00: I like that because that's something I relate to.
22:42
SPEAKER_00: You know, I'm an occupational therapist, I've been working with kids for a long time.
22:46
SPEAKER_00: And if you can make something challenging fun and get like the function out of it, but it's fun, I think it just gets in a little bit easier.
22:57
SPEAKER_00: Kind of like the spoonful of sugar theory with Mary Poppins.
23:01
SPEAKER_00: Little, little spoonful of sugar, and suddenly you're like, Oh, I'm into that.
23:05
SPEAKER_00: I can I can go with that.
23:07
SPEAKER_01: It's not so bad.
23:08
SPEAKER_00: It's not so bad.
23:09
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that is you're right.
23:12
SPEAKER_01: That part with the goats when she's telling it, you can tell that she's almost reliving that story.
23:16
SPEAKER_01: She, she, I listened to it.
23:18
SPEAKER_01: I've listened to that book twice now, and she really gets into that part of it.
23:21
SPEAKER_01: It's hilarious.
23:22
SPEAKER_00: It's hilarious.
23:23
SPEAKER_00: So, like, she, you know, you meet people who just have these hilarious things happen to them, and you wonder, too, like, is this also a mindset?
23:32
SPEAKER_00: Like, it somebody else could have been like, it was the worst day ever, it ruined my life.
23:39
SPEAKER_00: She was like, I'm gonna put this in my book, and I'm gonna make people laugh.
23:45
SPEAKER_01: It's gonna be funny, you know.
23:46
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, I love that.
23:50
SPEAKER_00: I I think that the language piece is just really so cool and interesting to me.
23:56
SPEAKER_00: So, what's another quick Easy tip because I know everybody's gonna take that should and run with it.
24:03
SPEAKER_01: Oh, I hope so.
24:04
SPEAKER_01: That that's like that's our number one game.
24:06
SPEAKER_01: Uh, what's another language game?
24:08
SPEAKER_01: Um, really the soft talk, like the shoulds, the coulds, um, possibly, maybe sometime, someday.
24:17
SPEAKER_01: Um a lot of those words that get used, we don't we don't even know we're saying them.
24:24
SPEAKER_01: We just say them.
24:25
SPEAKER_01: Um, so really one of the things that we that I was taught was uh, and I can send it to you if you want to share it.
24:30
SPEAKER_01: Um, is they call it the soft talk challenge.
24:34
SPEAKER_01: You try not to say these words.
24:36
SPEAKER_01: Um, like I've got them hanging on my fridge.
24:38
SPEAKER_01: I've had some plaques made.
24:40
SPEAKER_01: Um just if I go into a business like the my builder that I did it at workshops for, they've got my plaque hanging on the wall.
24:48
SPEAKER_01: Um so yeah, remove this the soft talk challenge.
24:52
SPEAKER_01: If they I only do a copy, or they can go to enlifted.me is another is who I learn stuff through.
24:59
SPEAKER_01: They will appreciate me sharing their uh their website for them, but they're it's a super awesome group.
25:05
SPEAKER_01: Um yeah, the soft talk and the should detox are like our top two go-tos for to help people get out of the victim mentality out of that of that negative mindset.
25:17
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
25:18
SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh.
25:19
SPEAKER_00: And I think that's such a huge thing.
25:21
SPEAKER_00: We can often feel like such victims in our lives, and our language just can either take us out of it or keep us looped into it.
25:33
SPEAKER_00: So I love that.
25:35
SPEAKER_00: So I'm thinking about, you know, even things that we say with some automaticity, like if somebody asks you, How are you?
25:44
SPEAKER_00: You know, say you're wishing for Friday.
25:48
SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, so how how do you really stay present enough to choose the language better?
26:01
SPEAKER_01: I think it's a habit.
26:03
SPEAKER_01: It's I said I think um I use that word well, but it's a habit.
26:09
SPEAKER_01: I catch myself just like I just did, like I think, or I should.
26:13
SPEAKER_01: My wife and it's it's almost it's not almost like um like once I got it into our family, there's ripple effect to it.
26:21
SPEAKER_01: So like my kids will call each other out, or my wife will say, should oh like oh, we should go do the laundry, it's like, oh, you should, I'm like, okay, I will.
26:29
SPEAKER_00: So I am right now.
26:31
SPEAKER_01: Right.
26:32
SPEAKER_01: And you know, the the guys at the gym, we've all been accustomed to it.
26:36
SPEAKER_01: We all get into it.
26:39
SPEAKER_01: So if there's somebody should to themselves or they say, I can't do that yet, like, all right, is it I can't or I won't.
26:46
SPEAKER_01: So there's um yeah, there's some there's some accountability outside of just myself, but I think having having other people in that whole community of trying to get out of the negative loophole into the positive is huge.
27:02
SPEAKER_01: Um it takes it takes a good, it takes a tribe.
27:07
SPEAKER_01: I was not what's that saying, takes a tribe to make something or whatever, but um the tribe definitely helps.
27:15
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, the reinforcement and accountability and reminders, you know, if you're just one solo person going through your day trying to keep all that versus I love how you said your kids keep you accountable.
27:29
SPEAKER_00: That's not you know, don't say that one.
27:32
SPEAKER_00: Switch it up.
27:33
SPEAKER_01: Switch it up, yeah.
27:34
SPEAKER_01: And it's I do it back to them.
27:36
SPEAKER_01: It's uh you know, I should go clean my car or whatever.
27:39
SPEAKER_01: Like, all right, don't make it happen.
27:43
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, this one it's almost wistful, isn't it?
27:48
SPEAKER_00: Should I should.
27:50
SPEAKER_00: Should yeah, I like that space, you know, like I should, but you know, there's always like a but right.
27:59
SPEAKER_00: I'm not going to, but I'm gonna spend a lot of energy and mental time thinking about how I don't want to do it, but I should do it.
28:07
SPEAKER_00: But uh, you know, it's sounds like we're saving ourselves a little bit of time by shifting that language around a little bit.
28:15
SPEAKER_01: Yep.
28:15
SPEAKER_01: And it's it's funny.
28:16
SPEAKER_01: So we're I like I I love helping people with near with nutrition or or even at the gym while I hear a lot, like we'll get a new person in or somebody that's in for like a drop-in or just into trial at the gym.
28:28
SPEAKER_01: They're like, man, I should really do this more often.
28:31
SPEAKER_01: Like we're we'll never see you again.
28:33
SPEAKER_01: Like we know we know we were not we know we're not gonna see them.
28:36
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, just by the words that they use, like, oh, I should come back.
28:39
SPEAKER_01: Yep.
28:41
SPEAKER_01: See you next year.
28:43
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's wild.
28:44
SPEAKER_00: That's so true.
28:47
SPEAKER_00: I think nutrition is such a challenge too for people.
28:52
SPEAKER_00: I should I should eat better.
28:54
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, but uh I would say that uh it's not about it's if you want somebody to help you with with your nutrition, it's not even about the food.
29:03
SPEAKER_01: It's about how you it's it's right here.
29:05
SPEAKER_01: It's how you think about it.
29:07
SPEAKER_01: It's uh what people want to eat.
29:09
SPEAKER_01: People want to eat and lose weight, but they're not willing to put in the work, the mental work that it is.
29:15
SPEAKER_01: It's I mean, I can tell you to go eat 150 grams of protein, this many carbs, and this many.
29:22
SPEAKER_01: I can tell you, I can tell you exactly what to do.
29:25
SPEAKER_01: But until you make up your mind that that's what you're gonna do, it's not it doesn't matter.
29:28
SPEAKER_01: It doesn't it is useful or useless.
29:31
SPEAKER_01: Yes.
29:32
SPEAKER_00: Yes.
29:34
SPEAKER_00: Yep.
29:35
SPEAKER_00: Speaking as a very experienced uh nutrition uh seeking individual trying to find the right the right combination of foods.
29:45
SPEAKER_00: I'm actually doing the low FOD map diet.
29:48
SPEAKER_00: I don't know if you've heard of this.
29:50
SPEAKER_00: I've not, I'm not even gonna get into it because it's it's too like it's it's like going into the nitty-gritty of the chemistry of foods and certain foods that don't don't agree with your system, but it it requires a very strict adherence to the foods you can eat and the foods you cannot eat.
30:12
SPEAKER_00: So what I learned is it's not even about the food, it's about the mental decision to do it, because you have to buy the food that you need, you have to prepare the food, you have to pack the food for the day if you're not going to be home, you have to think ahead.
30:30
SPEAKER_00: Um, so you can say I should do it, but until you say I'm going to do it, and because I I'm putting these foods on my list and I'm setting aside time to make the recipes, and so yeah, it's nutrition is a challenge.
30:49
SPEAKER_00: And I think food is such a that could be like a whole other episode, but food is so linked into our feelings.
30:59
SPEAKER_00: Food and feelings are like this, and I think that the mindset shift for me has been food needs to fuel me so I can do the things I want to do.
31:11
SPEAKER_00: And choosing to eat the things that feel good as a feeling doesn't necessarily fuel me.
31:21
SPEAKER_01: Well said, uh I have a question on my Facebook before setting out the poll.
31:25
SPEAKER_01: Does food create the feeling, or does the feeling create the food?
31:30
SPEAKER_00: Oh, the feeling, yeah.
31:31
SPEAKER_00: They're they're best friends.
31:34
SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
31:35
SPEAKER_00: They they wrap up together.
31:36
SPEAKER_00: Speaking non-judgmentally of anybody else, only of my own life experience.
31:42
SPEAKER_00: And you know, just like some foods, just uh never mind the dopamine and the things that you get from certain foods, if you're not getting them in other means, such as exercise, excellent sleep, mindset practices, etc.
31:59
SPEAKER_00: Um, food can feel like a decent substitute.
32:03
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, for sure.
32:04
SPEAKER_01: Yep, it's a the comfort thing.
32:08
SPEAKER_01: Or a takeaway if you are stressed out about something, it's easy to walk to the pantry, walk to the bridge, and just grab something that makes you feel comfortable.
32:20
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
32:21
SPEAKER_01: It's a tricky game.
32:22
SPEAKER_00: It is a tricky game.
32:25
SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm trying to win.
32:27
SPEAKER_01: Yep.
32:28
SPEAKER_01: And um actually I just reshared this today from uh one of one of the guys that I know.
32:34
SPEAKER_01: Um that processed food makes it harder.
32:37
SPEAKER_01: The more processed food we eat, the harder it is to get away from it.
32:41
SPEAKER_01: Like there's so much I don't know, call it chemicals.
32:45
SPEAKER_01: There's so much theory behind processed food that it makes you want to eat more.
32:49
SPEAKER_01: You can't, I mean, who eats one burrito, who eats one lace potato chip, nobody.
32:54
SPEAKER_00: Nobody.
32:55
SPEAKER_01: One cheetah, whatever it is.
32:57
SPEAKER_01: Um piece, maybe it's a piece of granola.
32:59
SPEAKER_01: It's hard to do just one piece of granola, but um you can take a it's hard for me to eat one piece of watermelon, but at least it's healthy.
33:09
SPEAKER_01: I know where it came from.
33:10
SPEAKER_01: Um it doesn't have the the the chemicals in it to do other things to my brain.
33:17
SPEAKER_00: So yeah.
33:20
SPEAKER_00: And you know what?
33:21
SPEAKER_00: I'm thinking about it too.
33:23
SPEAKER_00: The more nourished we are with activity, with you know, the food that we eat, the the people that we surround ourselves with, the more capable we are of being nourishing towards other people and really making sure that they're feeling well nourished.
33:42
SPEAKER_00: So that kind of brings it full circle back to what we were talking about, taking these practices and bringing them into your workplace and putting them into place so that it becomes more um viral, you know, like in a good way.
33:59
SPEAKER_00: Like let's all start to see this as we bring out the best in ourselves when we feel our best.
34:08
SPEAKER_00: And the people that are with us believe in us and you know, get us excited about having control in the sense that we can always feel a little bit better.
34:21
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
34:21
SPEAKER_01: I I know you and I have talked a little bit before about uh when we take care of ourselves first, we can take care of others better.
34:27
SPEAKER_01: So um thank you that you're right, 100%.
34:29
SPEAKER_01: It just came full circle from the start of our conversation of well done.
34:35
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
34:35
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
34:37
SPEAKER_00: So now that people have heard all of this and they're getting excited about practicing the should exercise and also the soft language that they're using with themselves and the non-committal words.
34:49
SPEAKER_00: How can people connect with you?
34:52
SPEAKER_00: What do you have going on that they can jump into?
34:56
SPEAKER_01: So the easiest way is on Instagram is Todd Squires Coach.
35:01
SPEAKER_01: Um, I'm wrapping up.
35:03
SPEAKER_01: Actually, my website is getting built.
35:04
SPEAKER_01: It is Clear Insight Pro.
35:06
SPEAKER_01: Right now, there's a freebie on there.
35:08
SPEAKER_01: Um, but I've got a website.
35:10
SPEAKER_01: I finally just sucked that up and paid for somebody to come in and build a website for me.
35:15
SPEAKER_02: Uh yeah.
35:16
SPEAKER_01: So the goal is uh corporate or I call it, I don't like call it corporate wellness, like a workplace wellness because it needs to be to everybody, not just um so workplace wellness.
35:26
SPEAKER_01: Um I do some workshops and I do one-on-one stuff.
35:29
SPEAKER_01: Um it all it's just on what who needs what.
35:33
SPEAKER_01: Um, I'm I'm open to about anything, but I really love the workplace wellness part.
35:37
SPEAKER_01: It's uh it's very fulfilling to watch companies grow from the inside out in a healthy way.
35:45
SPEAKER_00: Yes.
35:45
SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh.
35:46
SPEAKER_00: I I love this because no matter what your company does, the more energized, enthused, and healthy your people are, the better the outcome of the work that they do.
36:00
SPEAKER_00: Um, and most especially for people who work in service professions and are, you know, supporting other people.
36:07
SPEAKER_00: So bravo.
36:09
SPEAKER_00: This is really exciting.
36:11
SPEAKER_00: Let's make this like everybody should be doing this.
36:14
SPEAKER_00: They should.
36:15
SPEAKER_01: They should.
36:16
SPEAKER_01: That's right.
36:16
SPEAKER_00: They should.
36:17
SPEAKER_00: They could.
36:19
SPEAKER_01: Good catch.
36:20
SPEAKER_00: They can because we have Todd Squires and he's gonna teach you exactly how to implement this with your company and your teams uh so that we can all grow and get better together.
36:34
SPEAKER_00: Awesome.
36:35
SPEAKER_00: Awesome.
36:36
SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much.
36:37
SPEAKER_00: I I would love to have you back on to hear how your workforce well-being is growing.
36:44
SPEAKER_00: Um, and I hope we've inspired a lot of people to look at well being a little bit differently and figure out what they can change in their lives because it's important and they matter.
36:57
SPEAKER_00: All right, everyone.
36:58
SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening.
37:00
SPEAKER_00: Thanks for being here, Todd.
37:01
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
37:02
SPEAKER_00: And we'll see you next time.