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The Reset and The Clean Table · Dad Needs To Talk

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What's up, y'all? And welcome back to Dad Needs to
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Talk. I'm your host robber.
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And today, today we're just going to have a quick little
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talk because. Life is life in and stuff needs
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to be done. Which I'll get to in a second,
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but but as always, if this is your first time here then
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welcome. But if you're returning listener
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and or watcher then welcome back.
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Y'all know here Danny to talk it's a conversational show or
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I'll talk all about fatherhood and family manga, anime, TV,
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movies and video games. Anything else that might be on
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my mind so. This episode I was already.
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Planning on doing something for today because I was just kind
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of, kind of kind of a lucky 77 July 7th.
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I I might even publish this up at 7:07 AM in the morning, I
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don't know. But but I was already planning
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to do this because I've kind of had the the.
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Theme the title the reset in my mind for a while but.
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A couple of things happened. They kind of pushed me in a
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certain direction and just kind of give gave me a reality.
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Check. Because you know, I guess in a
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way the universe or somebody or something is trying to
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communicate with me and remind. Me that.
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There are things to be done. There are things that I need to
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do and while as much as I am eager and passionate and have so
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many ideas and plans of what I want to do with the podcast and
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and things of that nature. There are also.
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Things within my home, family, stuff that I need to.
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Get in order as well and I've kind of talked about that in in
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some aspects or whatever but and and shout out of course I'm
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wearing my the juicy cousin tshirt because summer Anime is
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here and I just watched an episode but we'll we'll kind of
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touch on that stuff a little bit later.
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But you know it's it's like you know sometimes it's like it's
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like you keep seeing kind of like repeated signs happening.
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Where you kind of keep hearing the same message in different
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ways and stuff and so it's kind of a lot of things kind of like
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culminated to a point of okay, hey I'm I'm hearing the message
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and need to move into action and so I don't know 100%, but I I'm
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probably going to. Chill on the podcast for a
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little bit. You know, I've already kind of
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taken a step back from how I used to do whatever, but kind of
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maybe even taking back another stuff because I've something.
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I've recently been like how I have stuff in the can to where I
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can put out and I'll be okay for a while.
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But you know, it's like I can't really continue to.
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Keep doing the podcasts and stuff.
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Whatever. And granted, like I said, I
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haven't really been doing it that often anyways.
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Whatever. But it's just like in in some
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aspects, whatever. Doing this and not having
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certain things in my home life and stuff in order.
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And so kind of a lot of things kind of culminated in a simple
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thing today when I came home and my youngest son.
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Vash who y'all? Y'all know, I talk about him all
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the time, but but we have like we had like a my wife had like
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this like black, kind of like a little like TV trays that stand
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up on the floor, whatever, you know that that you can sit in a
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chair and sit to whatever. It's been kind of dirty, you
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know, a little bit for a while or whatever, but that's just
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messed it up to mess. Made such a mess on it today to
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where it was like, no, this needs to get handled now.
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And that table, me getting that table clean in a way was
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therapeutic and in a way because and I just had a big family
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discussion with all my kids for probably like 30 minutes or an
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hour about all a lot of this stuff.
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But it's like. One of those things.
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Of. A lot of times procrastinating.
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And putting off the little things, the small things, was
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sometimes lead to it being or becoming a bigger problem down
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the road. And you know, I I've, I've
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unfortunately learned that lesson a lot in life to where it
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was like, oh, you know, I'll, I'll kind of ignore that thing
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or that bill or whatever for now And then it's like, you know,
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kept procrastinating and then it's like.
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Hey, you know that that that $10.00 bill is now hundreds of
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dollars because you put it off for years or whatever and stuff,
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so but but you know it's just a situation like that.
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So it's like like with this table, like I said I sit all the
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time and especially. Like like it's, you know, it for
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me. Feel is a big thing for me
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because that's why I like I get a noise sometimes where it's
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like. You know if my floor now.
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Hey, I I I. Am part of the sock nation shout
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out to to my homie Steve part part of the the the the sock
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dads United Club But hey it's hot here in Texas so my feet
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sock been sockless more often lately.
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Whatever. But I hate.
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Stepping on stuff, whatever, you know, whether it be crumbs or
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toys, whatever. And kind of same thing with like
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touching certain surfaces or whatever and so.
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Like I said, for a while that little TV trailer there was
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like, OK, this need to be cleaned up, some of whatever.
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And then like I said, he made such a mess, he was like, OKI
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need to clean this up a bit or whatever.
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And then it's like, no, I need to get this thing a good scrub
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down, and I took my time. Just.
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I put my my mind and my energy into getting that thing clean.
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And then it was like, like I said, it was kind of like
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therapeutic. And it's where I was like, man,
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that thing that's been getting put off for a long time,
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whatever, it felt good to get it done and.
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Then I had a second breaking point.
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Now I can't remember if I've mentioned it lightly or
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whatever, but it's like, you know, we have kind of had to
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deal with ants more and more. In recent months, whatever.
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And a lot of it started with one of my kids.
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I actually, I think it was vast, was the initial culprit.
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Where overtime little crumbs and stuff have kind of been you know
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falling behind stuff or in places where it wasn't in direct
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to outside or whatever and then that led to an initial wave and
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then of course now once they got they put in the door.
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Like, like like like like a job opportunity you've been waiting
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for. And then it was like, Oh well,
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hey, somebody else in in another room, whatever.
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Also had some crumbs here or didn't clean up that or
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whatever. And they ended up and my laundry
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area, whatever. Don't know why because there's
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definitely no food in there that I know of, but that was like the
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final breaking of the straw. Because I was running water
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during it to, you know for a vash bath time or whatever.
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He happy, he excited, whatever. And so you know and so you know
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with ants, unlike most bugs or insects, whatever, typically if
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you see one or two ants somewhere.
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There's a chance that there is more somewhere else.
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They are just maybe behind the cabinet or under something where
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you can't see, but you you found a couple of stragglers or rogue
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soldiers or scouts or something. And that's pretty much what
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happened. And so yeah, like I said, I'll
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just kind of kind of like that final thing of.
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Like. Yeah, it's time to get some
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stuff in order. For real and order and like I
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said there, there, there's been a lot of things here and there.
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There's just been kind of like put off for a while or whatever.
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But it's like between, like I said, like those those couple
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small things happening and then the realization.
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We are close to school, starting again already.
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It's like my my family, we are so busy with the sports stuff
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and the traveling that that requires and all the time for
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that that it's like it's like on one hand it's like OK, cool,
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hey, OK, we we finished June or whatever.
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But then it's like I was at track practice the other day and
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you know, we had a little. Parent meeting with the coach,
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she was getting ready to talk about regionals coming up in a
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week or so. And one of the parents was like,
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was like, man, yeah, school, you know, starting a little early
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this year. And I was like, what do you
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mean? And they they they was like,
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well, for us it's, you know, early August, whatever.
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So I looked at the day and it's August 10th, which is five weeks
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from when I'm recording this, so a little over 30 days.
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And so I'm like, man, like. There's so much I want to get
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done and do with my family, with my kids and stuff.
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And it's just like man, like time is just flying by, man.
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And so like I said, between this little stuff that's been
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happening around the house and then that the the time
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realization, it's like I need to redirect and refocus myself in
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in other areas of my life. And like I said, I've been kind
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of like hearing certain also other messages from my other
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podcasts I've been listening to one of my favorite podcasts I
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love watching, and listening is the pivot where it is three
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former NFL athletes that do a podcast where they have a lot of
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other pro athletes or celebrities or whatever.
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On so they've had like you know like Shaq and Charles Barkley
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they even recently I I watched the other day they had the
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professor from and one basketball earlier today I.
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Watched one with Chris Paul, they had The Rock, Ric Flair,
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all these big name people and I just love hearing the different
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conversations and stuff like that.
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And then also of course shout out to Professor Liquid for his.
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Podcasts and stuff. And just like the discussions he
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had with his guests and stuff and just hearing, like I said, a
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lot of things that I kind of need to hear, need to hear some
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of it being wake up calls or realizations are kind of like
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giving me more context for certain things I'm going through
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or whatever or kind of like like heads up of certain things,
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whatever. And so that's why I said okay I
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need to kind of. Caused us for a bit, and
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honestly the biggest kind of sign for me for a while, which
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is the biggest reason why I haven't really had guests on too
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much this year, is because of whatever funky thing is going on
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with this laptop I use and my Internet or whatever.
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Because I know it's not the Internet specifically because as
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I've probably probably mentioned before.
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Literally every other device in my house is fine.
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Like like I'll be recording with guests, whatever, and then my
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network will drop, but I don't hear nothing.
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Nobody else in the house that y'all know, especially you got
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kids, the Internet go off. Oh my God, you know, I was in a
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match or hey, you know, I was talking with my friends or hey,
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you know, I was watching the show.
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Where's the Internet? Nothing.
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So I'm like, you know, like the first few times I have and I'm
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like. I caught my head out of my my,
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my little area. I'm recording and I'm asking my
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wife, I'm like, is everything good?
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And she's still in a match on on Apex, like, yeah, I'm good, you
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know. And so I'm like and so that's
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also been kind of like a real hindrance of slowing down what I
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really want to do, just because, you know, I might not have the
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biggest and best, highest quality of stuff for everybody I
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do still care about. What I do, I do still care about
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the show and I also still love respecting people's time and
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stuff. And so I know there are certain
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people that if I'm able to coordinate and get them
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scheduled to come on or whatever, I want to make sure I
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make their time worth it. I don't want to spend double the
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time trying to record something that might have been an hour.
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It's taking us two hours because.
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I'm constantly pausing, having to stop, reestablish,
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connection, all that jazz or whatever.
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And so then the person is like, man, I don't want to talk to
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Danny to talk anymore, you know? And so that's kind of where I'm
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at with stuff to where I'm like, you know what, All these
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different signs and stuff just kind of piling up of like, okay,
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maybe I need to get some other stuff in order.
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The the laptop thing, whatever. I'm happy to just cross that
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bridge when I can because I got other life priorities that need
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my my money and stuff right now and so I'll, you know, get that.
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But but I think you know and shout out to to the homie.
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Lisa from the wonder of anime. She always has a saying about,
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you know, basically. Things happening when they're
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supposed to and basically not forcing stuff to happen and and
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I am thinking about that case because she she did a very dope
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stream earlier today or whatever.
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So much y'all go support and check out her work but you know
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she was talking about like an interview she been trying to get
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lined up but like you know things kept happening where
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there was miscommunication or. You know, Schedule's not lining
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up or whatever on an interview that she's been wanting to do
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for years at this point. But she knows that it's just not
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meant to happen right now. And that is kind of like the
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point I'm trying to like, look at right now with this with my
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podcast. And different stuff because like
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I said, I I've had, I got some very, very amazing guests
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playing and lined up, my awesome guests and stuff, just like kind
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of. On my list and ready to go.
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It's just like I'm I have to just sit on it for a while,
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which kind of sucks, but it's also a thing of like maybe I do
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need. To focus my time and energy
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elsewhere for now. And then when I can circle back
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to that stuff, whatever, do it and then maybe, hey, things will
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be better, Those conversations will be better for it.
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Instead of trying to force it and stuff like that like I said
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with with with the way my my setup and problems and stuff is
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going currently whatever. So so yeah so like I said, I
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might take a small like little break for a bit because like I
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said like like that between like I said like like the stuff
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around the house that happened today.
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But then really that that reality check of like man
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school, it starts back in five weeks and it's just like.
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You know, and it's like, it's like it's like I know those are
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going to go by quick because a lot of our schedules and stuff
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are playing around my kids, sports stuff.
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And even just in the context of that, it's like, it's like okay,
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We just finished this first week of July.
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My daughter has original track meet next week.
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The week after that my son has basketball in Vegas and it's
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like, it's like that's already 3 weeks gone, which means once
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that Vegas trip is over. Schools in two weeks.
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And so it's like man, it's it's it's just time.
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Time truly waits for nobody and I kind of need to making sure I
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am maximizing and getting the best.
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Out of the time that I do have, whether it be doing stuff with
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my family or. Taking care of little things
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that I've been putting off around the house or just
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wherever in general just because I don't want to, like I said, to
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kind of wait until it's too late or it's a breaking point or
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whatever before it's like okay, well I should have did XY&Z then
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because because going back, going back to the ants thing or
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whatever, like like it's. Already gotten a little too
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close for comfort, just because it's like, it's like, it's like
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I don't want to be. Paranoid.
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Going to bed that they going to be invading my sleeping space,
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which luckily they haven't yet. But I'm also like, I don't want
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to come in here and be like, oh, I'm I'm, I'm going to read some
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Venice soccer. I'm going to read some 20th
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century boys or magazine, library, whatever book I'm going
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to pull off my shelf. And then there'll be an Ant on
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it. I would.
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I would absolutely lose my mind if I go.
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Take these up and flipping through the pages and then I'm
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greeted with an awesome panel. But then I see an Ant crawling
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across it. I know you know, we we you know
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we are not trying to get to that point because I'll be devastated
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if they infiltrate my my sacred space.
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But, you know, like I said then and that that was just part of
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the conversation I had with my kids and stuff of just
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communication, working together to knock out the little stuff.
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Because I tell my kids all the time, I'm like, I am pretty
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perceptive with stuff. I noticed things which I told.
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Them, you know, not not bragging, whatever, but but just
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being honest, it's like it's like that is why I am good at
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what I do. At my job and because I am in
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most some things whenever, not everything, I definitely have my
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faults here and there. But certain things I am very
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detailed and catch things or whatever because like I like I
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tell my kids all the time like like 9 times out of 10 by the
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time we get to the point to where I'm fussing at you and
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like, hey, why isn't the trash out?
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Hey, why is this? You know, mess here or hey, why
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you know XYZ, whatever. More than likely I saw whatever
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when it was a little bit smaller couple days ago.
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Whatever. But I tell my tell my kids for
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years I'm like y'all are getting big enough to where I can't
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always be there to tell you what to do or that something needs to
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be done. Y'all have to take the
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initiative. To get stuff done without
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waiting until you're being fussed at or whatever and also
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helping out each other, whatever.
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It's like. It's like if you know, like,
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like, I know for the example I use, I'm like okay.
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If it's my oldest son job to get the trash out or whatever, he's
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not doing it well. I'm like, well, if one of my
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daughters gets something, a snack or whatever, and then goes
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to put it in the trash. And clearly you see this trash
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can is overflowing. And you're just like, it's not
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my, it's not my job, not my problem.
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Whatever. I'll just sit it on.
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Sit this piece of paper on top or I'll stuff it off on the side
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or whatever and go by my day or whatever.
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And then I'm like, well, you do it, and then your other brother
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comes in and do it. Then your other sister comes and
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do it or whatever. And then somebody is just like,
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oh, the trash can's full. Well, I'll just sit this on the
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floor next to the trash can. And then it's like, all right,
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well, instead of you being like. Hey bro, trisha's doing full.
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Can you take it out or can you help me?
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I'll help you take it out Whatever now.
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It's I come home from work and the first thing I see when I
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walk in because of where it's located, whatever is the trash.
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And so now I'm like, yo, why is this not done?
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And you know, like I said. I'm, I'm like, I'm like, I'm
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like we all have a part to play or whatever with stuff and I'm
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like, I'm like just because. Something might be 1 person's
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chore. Doesn't mean that you can't do
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something to help, whether it be just communicating stuff,
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whatever, you know or I tell them I'm like, I'm like, hey,
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it's hot, it's summertime, we need to have keep the fridge
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full with water, whatever. I'm like if you go, if you get
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the last bottle of water from the fridge and you don't go and
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get. The pack or whatever from the
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pantry and it fills up with more whatever.
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And you're just like, Nah, screw y'all, screw everybody else.
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I got my cold bottle of water. But then a few hours later, oh,
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your sister has practice and she need water and then she's like,
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ah, there's no water in the fridge.
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Well, I'll just get it out the pantry, whatever.
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And it's like, we don't need to do that, especially with how hot
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it is. Now if this is like winter time
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where it's OK room temperature is getting it, you know, cold
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from because it's winter time, whatever.
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But. Yeah, summertime's like, no, you
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do not need to be drinking hot water.
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That's going to have a bad effect.
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So, But yeah, like I said, just just have like those
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conversations and stuff with my kids and stuff.
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And like I said, just like having this kind of like self
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reflection because I know something that I hear a lot or
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I've heard said a lot or whatever.
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It's like, you know, your space, your environment kind of
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reflects how you feel in a way, which I guess.
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Funny if I said I got these these pile of manga that has
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been on the shelf for a long time, whatever that it needs to
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get done, but it's just like certain things around the house.
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There are certain things that that was in a box, packed up,
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whatever sat in a corner in the closet that's been there for
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years at this point or whatever, and it's like okay that needs to
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get done. I got shirts hanging up here,
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whatever that I haven't worn since 2 jobs are going, which
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has been. Before Vash was even born.
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And he's 5, about to be 6. So clearly if I haven't worn
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most of these shirts in six years, I can let him go.
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You know, like like stuff like that.
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It's like I want to get in order because I want at the end, at
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the end of the day. And I was trying to stress this
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to my kids too, of sometimes your space can change how you
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internally feel. Like I said, like, like like if
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like if you're sitting in a room with Apollo, dirty clothes next
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to you, trash, whatever, well then that's going to reflect
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internally to where you're not meant.
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You might not be feeling the best word versus hey, I have a
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cleaner space. I ain't got to say it's been,
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you know, 100% spotless, pristine, but somewhat organized
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and better. Then you might be able to
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function better and feel better and stuff.
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And that's what I was telling them.
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I'm like, I'm like, OK, you know, I'm like, OK, it's
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summertime. I don't mind y'all staying up
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late, whatever, I said. But it's about being aware of
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everybody else in the house because it's like, OK, if, you
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know, hey, dad's got to be up early to go to work to provide
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for the family, then OK, once they start getting to a certain
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time of night or whatever. I must, you know, kind of quiet
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down or I'm going to go in my room, close my door or whatever,
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so that, hey, I can still do what I'm doing quietly,
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whatever. And I'm not disturbing him
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because then it's like, okay, well, dad didn't get good sleep,
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which affects my mind, which is one of my greatest assets, and
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especially in what I have to do for work.
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Whatever. Now I'm forgetting stuff or
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whatever, you know, and I'm dropping the ball at work,
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Whatever. Or or just stuff in in general
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life. And then I told them the example
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of the small things adding up. Everybody doing their part or
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not doing their part. I'm like okay.
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I'll walk in first thing I see trash, all right, trash can
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never overflowing. Where I say okay.
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If that was by itself, it's like whatever, you know, I'll do it
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that later or whatever. But on my walk from the front
26:33
door to my bedroom, man, trash in the dining room is messy.
26:40
Living room's a mess. Man, bathroom's a mess.
26:44
Boys room is a mess, girls room mess.
26:47
And then I finally reached my room.
26:50
So I'm like okay. So I I've gone through the
26:53
gauntlet of seeing 5-6 different things first thing when I walk
26:57
in the door for my day of working and then my long
27:00
commute. Because depending on traffic, it
27:02
could be 40 minute drive, it could be an hour plus, depending
27:06
on, you know, how traffic wants to be that day.
27:08
Whatever, says Okay. Work all day, our commute home,
27:15
and then I have to walk through a gauntlet of chaos and
27:20
disorganization and mess before I can get to what hopefully is
27:25
my little sanctuary. And then it's like I'm not.
27:28
I'm not in the best of mood because I'm like okay, y'all
27:31
been here all day summertime, y'all ain't doing nothing.
27:36
Why? So you know, it it just like
27:39
stuff like that, Like like like trying to impart those lessons
27:43
and stuff with my kids and stuff of, you know, doing better and
27:50
be better just because like I said, like I try to tell them,
27:53
especially as they're, you know, my my older ones that are
27:55
teenagers and stuff now it's like you can't always wait or
28:01
depend on me and mommy to be here to tell you to do stuff.
28:07
I like once again I said that's why I'll wait.
28:09
And I might let stuff slide for a few hours or a few days
28:13
depending on what it is. But then eventually if I'm
28:16
having to come and be like, hey, do this, then you know it's bad.
28:21
Or hey, it's gotten to a point to where I can't hold my tongue
28:25
no more. I need to speak on it.
28:27
And yeah, so that that that's kind of where I am in a nutshell
28:32
with things right now. So like I said.
28:36
I might, you know, at least kind of drop more to the background
28:39
for a little bit or whatever and kind of refocus myself in a
28:43
different direction. Like I said, with school coming
28:46
up in the. In five weeks and then you know,
28:50
my kids have different events and stuff we got to plan for and
28:55
then like just just trying to just have a life of some sort,
28:59
you know, because it's just like like you know the the the sports
29:03
and stuff is so. All consuming all-encompassing
29:08
or whatever and you know and I mentioned this on Twitter
29:10
earlier whatever it's like it's like yes of course we we made
29:15
that choice as a family that this is the path that we're
29:18
going to go down. So you know but at the same time
29:24
you know we are still human we are we do still also have things
29:28
we want to do whatever outside of just the.
29:32
I thought of just just the sports stuff, you know and so
29:39
yeah, so like I said, just trying to get all that stuff in
29:42
order. SO11 little thing I want to read
29:45
real quick because I don't. I can't.
29:47
I don't think I ever. I don't think I showed this on
29:48
the podcast, this little very dope thing my daughter wrote and
29:53
drew for me, for Father's Day for me some some beautiful art
29:58
and picture and wrote me a lovely letter.
30:00
She's actually done it. A couple years in the road now
30:02
because I actually have one hanging up on my wallet above me
30:05
from I believe last year but this one and of course I was for
30:11
those who don't know or remember whatever, know my my 4 oldest
30:14
kids whatever or my step kids. But but she she she says dinner.
30:18
Robert thank you for always being there for me.
30:21
You have always loved me with your whole heart.
30:24
Thank you for all that you have. Done.
30:26
And continue to do every day. I will forever be grateful for
30:29
you. Love.
30:31
And then she of course has a little joke at the end.
30:33
How did Benjamin, Frank and Franklin feel when he discovered
30:38
the light bulb? He felt shocked with a :), so I
30:45
love it. And like I said, like, like
30:48
getting stuff like that just means a lot.
30:50
And it kind of, you know, just just kind of just reaffirms to
30:53
where it's like your kids are noticing what you do.
30:58
They are paying attention. Even though they might not act
31:02
like it sometimes, whatever. But it's like little tokens of
31:04
appreciation like that that they are doing on their own matter a
31:10
lot. And you know like I said that's
31:12
kind of why I try to impart on them the importance of like
31:16
trying to like getting the discipline down and.
31:19
Initiative to do stuff, whatever.
31:21
And of course I know all of them isn't going to do that or
31:23
whatever because everybody's different functions differently,
31:26
whatever. But but one, one point I want to
31:29
bring up to that I had talked to them specifically.
31:31
Matter of fact, my daughter, they brought me that, the one
31:33
that does basketball. I had to have a conversation
31:37
with her about and with all of them again today, but but it
31:41
started with her a couple of last week of the conversation
31:45
of. Sometimes what you do when
31:52
nobody is watching or when you think nobody is watching is what
31:58
matters the most sometimes and kind of like kind of like the.
32:00
True reflection of who you are. Because at basketball practice,
32:06
they were doing no layup drills, shooting drills, whatever.
32:09
And the coach had them. Hey, if you missed a shot, miss
32:12
layup, whatever. You have to go and do 5-10
32:15
pushups or however many it was and so you know so.
32:18
I'm. I'm.
32:19
I'm. I'm off.
32:20
To the side and my car, just sitting, just kind of watching
32:23
whatever. And I see her go, you know, she
32:27
missed a shot or whatever, came back around.
32:29
Her teammates know they're doing their pushups or whatever.
32:32
She did a she did a two or three, and then she glanced in
32:36
the coach's direction and saw he wasn't looking.
32:40
And then kind of like half halfway, did some and then just
32:45
kind of just got up or whatever. And so I told her, I'm like, hey
32:49
you, yeah, you think Coach wasn't watching it, but I'm
32:52
like, I was watching. But regardless of if I was
32:56
watching or not or whatever, give your best effort at all
33:01
times. Because like I said, I like the
33:04
stuff you do when people aren't watching, whatever is.
33:08
Just as important if not more important than like oh okay, I
33:12
know mom and dad are watching or I know coach is watching or
33:15
whatever. It's like no, do what needs to
33:18
be done regardless of who's around.
33:22
Like I said, it goes to even like like like I mentioned other
33:24
stuff with you know cleaning and tidying stuff up around the
33:27
house and all that jazz. So, but but yeah so that that's
33:32
all I just needed to just kind of.
33:34
Talk and vent and stuff, whatever.
33:36
Because honestly, I'm going to take off of work Friday.
33:38
I think because like I said that that that stuff just kind of
33:42
broke me in a way to where I'm like, OKI need to pause from
33:46
work. I I got the PTO says I'm I'm
33:48
going to need to take a pause from work and get some things in
33:51
order in my home so that in return I can have that piece of
33:58
knowing that, OK, this is done, certain things are decluttered.
34:03
Or or in order, organized, whatever.
34:07
And then it would all feed back into me feeling better and
34:13
moving better and all that stuff whatever when I really need it
34:17
and stuff because like like I mentioned earlier it's like it's
34:21
like my mind and because I talked about it like a while
34:23
back on the podcast of how like my memory and stuff whatever
34:27
isn't doesn't feel as. Sharp and good as it used to be
34:30
in certain aspects, whatever. But it's like sometimes I
34:33
notice, it's like the lack of quality rest that I'm not
34:38
getting whatever, Because the other thing that kind of, you
34:41
know, factors in with once again, going back to this, our
34:44
busy schedule, the sports stuff, whatever.
34:48
I used to have. I used to be well rested in this
34:50
in past summers because when they were younger they will be
34:53
gone for either the whole two months of summer or.
34:58
Big chunks at a time to their great grandma's house or
35:01
whatever, because it's like, hey, it's summertime, nobody is
35:04
doing anything, whatever, goodbye, you know?
35:07
And of course not everybody is fortunate to have that.
35:09
I'm glad that we do have some family of sort to do that with.
35:12
Her cause I cause I definitely loved my summers.
35:15
Going to my grandma house or going to stay, of course being
35:19
the youngest sibling by Big gap, going staying at my sister house
35:23
for the summer, go stay at my Brother house for the summer, go
35:25
stay with aunts and uncles and whoever.
35:29
Over time. And so that was kind of a chance
35:32
for me and my wife to have some time to ourselves, to reconnect,
35:37
but also each of us to have our own time.
35:40
Because then she, my wife used some that time to go travel,
35:43
visit some family, whatever in one place or hang out with
35:46
friends wherever. And then I would you know have
35:49
some quiet time at home tour even if I was still having to
35:52
work. I had all evening and night and
35:56
stuff to. You know, rest and recuperate
35:59
and unwind quietly. But then just like slowly over
36:03
the years, as more and more stuff started happening, it was
36:06
like Okay. Well, everybody is gone except
36:08
for one kid, because Okay, they have, you know, track during
36:12
this month or whatever, or hey, you got a basketball thing this
36:16
week or whatever. And so it just kind of went
36:18
from. Everybody being gone to.
36:25
All but one or two to slowly. Now we are so busy to where it's
36:29
like nobody's gone. And so it's just like all year,
36:33
every day everybody is here and it's like, yes, I love my
36:36
family, love my wife, love my kids, but we all need time and
36:40
space to ourselves. That is why I am glad that where
36:45
I work or whatever. My job is my escape sometimes
36:49
because it's like there's on. On an average day there is.
36:54
Five to maybe 10 people in the whole building.
36:57
Like most days it's only three people in my area, sometimes 5,
37:01
depending on what day of the week it is or whatever.
37:04
But that's why. I don't mind the commute or
37:08
whatever because it's like, no, I'm going to be stationary at
37:10
this one location and I'm going to have, for the most part,
37:13
peace or whatever to kind of do my focus on my work and just
37:17
have quiet time to myself. Versus it's like, well, my house
37:22
is crazy busy, you know, people being up late being loud and
37:26
stuff and I'm not getting proper sleep and OKI get off of work
37:32
now I got to OK, who's got practice where who's got a game
37:35
where who's got a trackman, who's got a tournament and it's
37:37
just go go go, go, go at this point now where you know
37:40
everybody is home 90% of the summer now to where it's like
37:45
OK, you know my my two youngest, they're not really doing much
37:48
with us so they can still. Here and go places here and
37:51
there, but even that, it's like having the time to go take them
37:57
to whoever, house, whatever, sometimes doesn't work out
37:59
because it's like, well, I can't do it on the weekend because we
38:02
got a train committee, we got a basketball tournament and I
38:04
can't do it after work because somebody has practice, you know,
38:08
and stuff. So you know, but like I said.
38:11
All in all, it's just I'm trying to.
38:16
I want to slowly reclaim. My piece back in the areas that
38:21
I can't control because like I've said before, I know pretty
38:25
much the next 5 to 8 years or so, whatever.
38:29
Probably is going to be the busiest period of our lives as a
38:32
family. I think like I said just because
38:35
I know the sports are just going to continue to accelerate and
38:38
ramp up and everything else in between with.
38:41
That and so I want to continue to to make sure I have.
38:47
Spaces for myself where I create a calm environment where despite
38:55
how crazy busy stuff is, whatever, I can come into this
38:58
spot that I'm at now, or I can just come into my bedroom and
39:03
have some type of peace or whatever, you know, to just
39:07
kind. Of recharge and refresh,
39:11
whatever. And that's kind of why I've been
39:12
kind of. You know, going back to limiting
39:15
my time on social media and stuff, whatever.
39:18
Even though there's freaking new new app called Threads and stuff
39:23
this out. But I'm.
39:28
Going to get ready to kind of wrap this up in a little bit
39:29
because I feel I'm kind of overexerting myself because it
39:33
is, it is 1:00 AM right now and I'm still at Blackside.
39:36
I just needed, I needed to talk. And vent and stuff, whatever,
39:41
but I feel it like it's hitting my body or whatever and in ways
39:45
that I don't like. So that feeling or whatever.
39:47
But but like I said there's to be some reviews and stuff,
39:52
whatever coming out that I've that I've that I've been excited
39:55
to share with you all this stuff.
39:59
And you know, I, I, I, I I guess in a way you know like so this
40:04
kind of also had me kind of like just like refocus myself and.
40:07
What I'm doing I'm like I mentioned in last week's
40:09
podcast, but it's just like I want this to be a conversational
40:14
place that's not just about manga and anime like it kind of
40:18
have been more focused on for a bulk of my time doing this.
40:21
Whatever I want to kind of get back to, yes, I still want to do
40:24
the reviews and stuff for there because I've been watching some
40:27
amazing shows or whatever and stuff and looking forward to
40:31
playing some amazing games in the coming months and reading
40:34
more amazing manga. But I want to do those.
40:37
Do those on my own time and my own way that truly feels me and
40:43
not for stuff. Whatever I want to know.
40:46
Continue to be my own creative self and put my own spin on
40:50
things. Whatever.
40:51
Because I know a lot of y'all come to me for for different
40:54
discussions on different series and others.
40:55
Okay. Robert is talking about this.
40:57
Whatever. Maybe it might be worth me
40:59
putting this on my radar. But yeah, so like I said, you
41:02
know we're we're at the beginning of July, Lucky 7th,
41:06
7th, July 7th. And so very briefly I'm going to
41:12
touch on some of the stuff in the past.
41:13
I'm not going to talk on it too much or whatever because I'm
41:14
going to do something like this at a later date.
41:16
But of course summer season, summer anime season has started,
41:20
so I have got to watch a few things and I'm going to kind of
41:23
shout out just super briefly. Of course I got the shirt, so
41:27
y'all know how I watched. The new Jujusu Kaizen season
41:31
premiere, which was awesome. I actually checked out Reborn as
41:35
a vending machine, and it was actually, it was actually okay,
41:39
you know, It wasn't like a horrendous train wreck like some
41:43
people are making it sound out to be.
41:47
But yeah, so, so, so. Reborn as a vending machine, it
41:51
was like goo from Surprisingly. Good looking.
41:56
You know, not. I'm not saying it's the best
41:57
quality, but but visually it looks better than I expected.
42:03
What else I watched? Of course, since I'm since I'm
42:07
talking about east of college, whatever one called, Am I
42:11
actually the strongest? That was a pretty fun first
42:15
episode. Trash parents.
42:20
Which, which? Which I guess let me real quick,
42:22
so obviously so. The Reborn as a vending machine.
42:25
I now wander the dungeon or whatever.
42:26
Long story short, guy ends up unironically getting killed by a
42:32
vending machine that falls off the back of a truck he was
42:35
riding behind on and then gives reborn in another world as a
42:39
freaking vending machine. And he has he can change out his
42:43
items and stuff for whatever, and he meets this girl who is
42:46
super strong. He helps her out with his food
42:49
items and stuff, whatever, and then she ends up taking him as a
42:53
vending machine back to her village.
42:55
And that's kind of where the first episode ended.
42:57
So okay, we'll kind of see. Where that goes.
43:01
But so that's Am I actually the strongest?
43:04
That one was funny because so, you know, obviously God gets
43:10
reincarnated or whatever as a baby.
43:12
He's born to this king and this the mother is like this
43:15
legendary hero or warrior or whatever.
43:18
And so they do this like assessment of his power level
43:22
and then the powers just shows zero is 2, so they're like 2.
43:28
This baby is trashed. This isn't our child.
43:31
Dispose of it and they toss the baby into the woods to fend for
43:34
itself. And so come to find out though.
43:39
This world the the magic item that they used to measure power
43:42
or whatever, it only shows 2 digits, but his power level is 4
43:47
digits. His power level was like 1000,
43:50
zero, 02. Well, the think only shows 02.
43:55
Same thing some years later during the time skip, whatever,
43:58
somebody else finally creates a magnitude.
44:01
Where it shows 3 digits or whatever, but still it's still
44:04
just 002. So it just kind of like a funny
44:07
little gag to his life. Like Nah, he actually is super
44:11
opie or whatever, but y'all just don't have the proper tools to
44:15
to measure, engage his powers and I might as well finish.
44:22
I'm at the EC council, I'm talking about it already.
44:24
Sweet reincarnation. So basically this one is
44:27
basically a guy who was like a pastry chef or whatever.
44:31
One of the best pastry chefs or whatever in the world dies, gets
44:35
reincarnated and basically has a dream of becoming the best
44:42
pastry chef in this world. But he uses his fighting skills
44:46
and stuff whatever to help out. Blah blah blah.
44:48
So sweet reincarnation that for that, they dropped two episodes
44:52
for that one or whatever already.
44:53
And here's okay, I'm I'm going to check it out.
44:55
Whatever. One that I watched on a whim was
44:59
undead. Murder force.
45:02
I always thought to say undead murder face.
45:04
I think there would have been a funny show considering the
45:07
premise is basically one of the main characters.
45:11
He is 1/2 human, half only guy or whatever, and he meets this
45:16
immortal lady who is a headless or a severed head, a mortal lady
45:25
who is in search of her body. And so they're kind of going to
45:29
go on a journey together to where he is going to help her
45:33
find her body in exchange for a common thing they're trying to
45:37
do or whatever. So that first episode was was
45:40
solid or whatever has some decent action and stuff in it.
45:44
So I'm going to keep my eyes out for that one.
45:49
There's other ones I'm excited to watch, obviously.
45:52
Zone 100. I've read some of the manga and
45:55
I've reviewed it before, so I'm definitely excited for that one.
45:59
Bleach, of course. What else?
46:03
Help. So I read the first volume of
46:05
Help. I like this.
46:06
I'm excited to check out the anime.
46:08
Same thing for a Dark Gathering. That one is a horror type of
46:12
series. So read the first volume of that
46:14
and reviewed it. Excited to check that out?
46:17
I might take a look at this. Saint Cecilia and Pastor
46:20
Lawrence. I don't know, just seems like it
46:22
might be an interesting show. One I would not be checking out
46:28
is this probably this freaking level one demon Lord and one
46:32
room hero Because I read the monographer that or whatever and
46:36
I was just like I ended up dropping it.
46:38
I I need to get rid of the Mon I still taking off space on my
46:41
shelf or whatever, but. I I almost watched that after
46:44
that, the premiere episode and I was like Robert.
46:47
What are you doing? You literally could be spending
46:50
this 30 minutes. You're going to watch this show
46:52
that you already know. You're probably not going to the
46:54
anime, probably not going to change your mind from the mug or
46:56
whatever, but it's like you're really going to waste your 30
46:58
minutes doing this versus continuing something that you're
47:01
already watching and enjoying or watching something else new or
47:04
whatever. So but but yeah, so there there,
47:08
there's some other stuff I'm kind of interested in checking
47:10
out. Like I said, oh.
47:13
I'll report on at a later date once I've maybe watched a few
47:16
episodes of some other stuff from Oh my Happy Marriage as
47:20
well as Oku of the of the Inner Chambers.
47:30
Because now that one they they dropped all the episodes for the
47:34
season of that one on Netflix already.
47:37
But and I got the first volume of the manga here.
47:39
But. I heard everybody who binge
47:41
watched it the other day loved it.
47:43
So I'm excited to check that out.
47:44
Like I said that. And then my happy marriage.
47:49
And yeah, so those are kind of like some highlights of stuff
47:52
from the season. Some other stuff I've been
47:54
watching, I've still been going through and watching Korean
47:58
drama called Taiwan Class. That one's been really cool,
48:04
very drama field. And stuff I I I just love a good
48:10
so so the setup for this show or whatever is that basically Long
48:14
story short follows this guy who starts up the the the show
48:19
starts up with him in high school whatever he gets the
48:23
altercation with the with the kid.
48:27
This new school he moved to who happened to be the.
48:29
Son of the CEO of the company that his dad has worked for his
48:33
whole life. And then some unfortunate things
48:36
happen where his dad is are getting killed along the way and
48:41
he basically is he ended up going to to jail behind some
48:45
stuff. The sayings are going to jail
48:46
behind some stuff. And then when he gets out his
48:51
plot for revenge against the people and the company that kind
48:56
of did him and his family wrong and all that stuff.
48:59
So and it takes place over several years.
49:03
So it's really dope. I've really been enjoying that.
49:07
I've also been. Watching What's the anime?
49:13
Why's my Brain My Brain blinking?
49:20
Black Summoner, Dark Summoner. I think it's Black Summoner.
49:23
It's it's a is a guy from I think this time last year
49:27
whatever. So been enjoying that.
49:28
I'm I'm like 7 or 8 episodes into that whatever.
49:31
So that one's been like a nice kind of like comfort watch that
49:34
I've been going through. Other than that that that's kind
49:38
of it for like for like what I've been actively keeping up
49:41
with and stuff. I'm like, so I've kind of slowed
49:43
down a lot of like reading manga and stuff because I'm trying to
49:45
like reduce juggling so many different things whatever I'm
49:49
just trying to like focus in on. Fewer things so that I can, for
49:55
one, just just enjoy them more. But also if it ends up being
49:57
something I'm gonna talk about or review, I wanna have.
50:01
More focused and detailed conversations and stuff about
50:06
it. Because I got to watch it or
50:08
whatever. So.
50:09
So yeah, so that's kind of it. Oh, of course.
50:13
Been watching A Secret Invasion with Samuel Jackson, Nick Fury.
50:16
That show's been very cool. I've been, I've been enjoying
50:20
watching that every week. I just watched Episode 3 a few
50:22
hours ago, and I'm and I'm interested in there.
50:25
There's a new DC animated show called I think It's the My
50:29
Adventures with Superman, I think is what it's called.
50:33
I was hoping it was. Going to it was going to
50:34
premiere. It's time for me to maybe talk
50:36
about it on today's show but but it's not.
50:40
So that that's fine. I'll just watch it whenever I
50:43
get a chance. And I also want to shout out
50:47
something else. I want to take a look at this,
50:54
this African animated series called A Kizazi Moto Generation
51:01
Fire. It's on Disney, Disney Plus.
51:06
And it is basically A10 episode anthology showing off 10
51:14
futuristic visions from Africa. So I'm excited to watch that
51:19
like like just just kind of screwing through, looking at the
51:21
thumbnails, all the different art styles and stuff, whatever.
51:25
So I'm I'm excited to check that.
51:27
Check that out. And each episode is only like 15
51:30
minutes or so. So I'm I'm.
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Definitely take a look at that and report on that at a later
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time. But but yeah aside from that I
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think that might be it like. So I just kind of just needed to
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to talk for a bit or whatever and like to just kind of explain
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my thoughts on just some stuff for that.
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But it's yeah, it's it's time I need to refocus and and redirect
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my. Attention and time into some
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some other places or whatever. So like, so I'll of course I'll
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still be around on Twitter and maybe threads on the the new
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Instagram hybrid baby app or whatever.
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So I'm I'm still going to be around to to to, you know talk
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about stuff, whatever online where possible.
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But also make sure I don't get too consumed.
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You know, just mindlessly doom scrolling and all that, all that
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jazz, whatever. So but but yeah I think that's
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really it. Let me just check.
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So yeah so you know and that last little thing I'll say is
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that I'm, I'm confident in the future ahead and I know that
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great things are on the horizon. It's just you know, they will
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come. When they are meant to come, you
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know I can't force things to happen, but I know that good
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things are on the way. Both for my life, for my family,
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for what I love doing here with this podcast and YouTube channel
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and all that fun jazz greatness is on the way.
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But I just need to be patient and by my time and when the
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stars align and the time is right, y'all will know.
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I will come with full force, like I said, especially when
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once the day comes I can get a better upgraded computer and all
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that different stuff and like I said, get my guests rolling in
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and stuff. Whatever.
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I'm going to be unstoppable, but but with that being said, it's
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it's freaking days from 1:30 in the morning.
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I need to get off of here and get some type of rest or
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whatever. But I truly, truly love and
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appreciate everybody out there and everything that y'all do for
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me. Like I said, whether it's, you
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know, sharing my episodes, commenting the the DM's, the
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emails. The conversations about life and
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family and all the fun nerdy things we're watching, reading,
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playing, everything in between, it truly means a lot to know
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that, you know, I'm not on this journey alone, even though I
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started this out as a subtle thing about, hey, I just need to
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talk about what's on my mind and my heart.
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The fact that there are so many amazing people out there that
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I've met over these couple of years and, you know, have.
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Inspired me have encouraged me giving me someone to talk to
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whatever truly, truly means the world to me.
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And so I look forward to sharing more dope conversations and just
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more thoughts on my mind with y'all as we continue this
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journey. But with that being said, I have
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to hop up out of here until my butt to bed.
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But as always. Treat yourself to something
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nice, Reason Monger. Watch some anime, TV and movies,
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play some video games, and live your best life and take care of
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yourselves. Real talk.
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Real, real talk. Take care of yourselves.
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Find time for yourselves, whether you are busy with a
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family like me, your parents, or just work, or just whatever it
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is you're going through. Carve out a space, something for
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yourself, something that is for you.
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Because we all need it. We all deserve it, even though
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we can kind of get caught up in the business of time or
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whatever, you know. But also, time is limited.
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Time is precious. So make the best of the time
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that you have and the space and opportunity that you have and
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you know. Do do what needs to be done.
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And so with that you know I'm out, I will catch y'all the next
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one you know. Make sure to hit me up
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everywhere at dad needs to talk and y'all have an awesome day
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and I will catch y'all whenever. The next time is until then
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peace.