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What is a narcissist's worst nightmare? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So what is a narcissist's worst nightmare?
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  Like, what are narcissists most afraid of?
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  And here's a hint, y'all, It probably isn't going to be an
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  educated impact today. This is what we talk about
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  today, y'all. You get the perspective of a
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  diagnosed narcissist about the a narcissist's worst nightmare.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I am that diagnosed narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of The Narcissist Code. Boom, let's get it y'all, let's
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  get it, let's get it. Yes.
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  Oh, y'all hyped today I'm feeling good today, y'all, I'm
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  feeling very good. Truth of the matter is, I just.
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  I literally just read Man's Search for Meaning again and
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  that book is already changed my life.
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  It's an impactful story. I I love that book.
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  Changed my life. Man's Search for Meaning by
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  Viktor Frankel, amazing book. I just reread it and I'm just
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  energized to move forward and try to enjoy the rest of my life
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  and whatnot. But what's a narcissist's worst
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  nightmare? I know at the beginning I might
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  have set a lot of people off and got a lot of people angry with
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  the educated empath comment, but yeah, I had to say that.
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  I had to say that I had to. Yeah, Ken ain't an empath.
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  Be a narcissist's worst nightmare.
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  Yeah, it could, right? Could possibly.
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  Could that be true? Yeah, possibly.
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  It depends on what that empathetic person, what type of
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  power they possess, right. Do they possess the tools to
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  introduce a narcissist to their worst nightmare?
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  That's the most important thing. It's not it's not a type of
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  person. It's what that person possesses,
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  right? It's what that person possesses.
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  There's a lot of educated empaths that are no longer an
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  educated empath typically would not be in a relationship with a
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  narcissist. Like, I'm not saying that they
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  would never get into a relationship with a narcissist.
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  I'm not saying that you can get the education while you're in
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  that relationship, right? What I'm saying is an educated
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  empath typically makes their way outside of the relationship or
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  learns how to deal with the narcissistic person to the best
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  of their abilities while they're still in it.
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  You know, again, this is a no judgement zone about staying or
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  leaving. I just give you the tools to
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  make the decision that you want to make, right?
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  I used to tell people, just like you should leave all
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  narcissists. I don't say that because if I
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  tell you to leave, that's me making a decision for you.
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  You have to come to that decision on your own, just like
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  narcissists have to come to the decision on their own that they
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  need to go to therapy. You see how that works right
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  there? It's a, it's a cycle.
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  It's a it's a unique space that we all kind of fall into.
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  So this is something you have to think about.
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  S Lee, get to the point, like, OK, you already hurt our
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  feelings with the educated impact.
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  Come in. I'm about to click on right now.
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  Tell us now, what's a narcissist's worst nightmare?
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  You remember what I said that an educated impact can possess the
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  tools to hurt the narcissist to, to deliver a narcissist to their
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  worst nightmare to give like to, to put matter of fact, to put
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  the narcissist under. So the narcissist's version of
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  Freddy Krueger can get him right.
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  The narcissist's worst nightmare is Freddy Krueger.
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  If you haven't understood that, no, but Lee narcissist offered a
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  crook. What are you talking about?
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  No, a narcissist's worst nightmare absolutely can be just
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  in this in this space right here.
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  A narcissist's worst nightmare can't be an educated empath, but
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  it's what the educated empath can do.
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  It's what the empathetic person can do.
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  It's what this person can do. These people can do.
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  To me, the biggest fear a narcissist has or a narcissist's
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  worst nightmare, so to speak, it's being exposed for who we
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  really are. And you notice I said we, we,
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  me, I, my, my, me, me, me. I.
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  This is me as well, right? This is how I used to experience
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  life. I used to be so damn near
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  petrified. At first I was afraid, Then I
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  was petrified to think about I can live my life without even if
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  something. And I was seriously, I was
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  afraid of being exposed for who I really was.
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  That was my worst nightmare. That's the worst nightmare of a
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  lot of narcissistic people. It really is.
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  And it's not me saying that you can't do, like I said, an
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  educated empath can deliver a narcissist to their worst
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  nightmare by exposing them or the thought of being exposed,
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  right? It's not always the, the
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  exposure, so to speak. It can be the thought about
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  being exposed and whatnot, right?
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  And this is what typically happens.
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  This is what normally goes on. So I say that to say this now, I
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  know a lot of people want to hurt narcissists because you got
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  hurt, right? I, I understand that.
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  I, I get that wholeheartedly, right?
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  I get that wholeheartedly. I understand that
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  wholeheartedly. I really, really do understand
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  that, right? It's so in that space right
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  here, I get it. But you have to be safe.
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  You have to protect your peace. You have to protect yourself.
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  You have to understand the intra workings of a narcissist's mind.
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  You have to understand that type of stuff right there.
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  You really do. So I say that to say this, that
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  a lot of narcissists just don't want to give you the ability to
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  expose them. This is why a lot of narcissists
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  with their biggest nightmare, their worst nightmare being
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  exposure, they don't. They never show you who they
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  truly are. Like, they keep stuff from you.
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  They hide things from you. They pretend to be other people.
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  You see, you see all the behaviors.
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  It's kind of like the behaviors are pointing due north, right?
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  The hate behaviors are pointing due north in this space right
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  here. The behaviors are pointing to
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  this fact that like, I'm a narcissist, I don't want to be
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  exposed for who I really am. So in order to protect myself, I
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  hide who I really, truly AM. You see how that works?
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  You see how it works, don't you? So I want to protect myself.
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  I don't want to be exposed. I lie.
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  I manipulate, I guess. Like I do all of these things to
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  keep people away. I do all of these things to
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  separate people and whatnot. You know what I mean?
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  This is what I do. I don't want to be exposed.
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  I start smear campaigns because I don't want to be exposed
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  because I I'm afraid of the exposure.
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  I pre expose you. They pre expose you.
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  They start making up rumors and lying about you.
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  They're so afraid of being exposed that they lie about you.
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  Ain't that crazy? Isn't that some?
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  Isn't that something? Isn't that a hoot?
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  You know what I mean? Isn't that something right
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  there? So that's something to think
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  about when you're dealing with a narcissistic person is the fact
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  that they are going to be liars and manipulators because they
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  want to protect themselves at all costs.
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  They want to get away with schmurder, so to speak.
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  So it's just like they won't lie about what leave.
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  Why do narcissists start a smear campaign on you when you haven't
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  done anything wrong? I say that to say that because
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  they want to just muddy the waters.
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  They want, they want to. They want to cloud the truth,
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  right? They want to cloud the truth.
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  They want to muddy the waters. They want to do this, they want
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  to do that. So a lot of times they will
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  absolutely lie about you. They'll tell people that you
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  have been doing to them what they've actually been doing to
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  you. Y'all see I'm moving around
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  right now. I got I got a new mic, I'm
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  moving around. I got I got rude to move around.
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  I could dance, I could do all this stuff right here.
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  I can move. I'm not seated right now.
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  I feel like I have more energy when I stand up.
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  So I, we put it on the tripod and stuff like that now, but I
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  got this blank space right here, this wall right here, you know,
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  so they will lie about what you are doing to get ahead of you.
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  Like to prevent exposure to think about it, y'all?
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  This is why they lie to your friends and family.
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  This is why sometimes they'll even start a smear campaign
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  while they're still with you because it's their nightmare
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  that you will tell the truth about them.
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  Think about it. You have the power.
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  An educated empath possesses the tools to effectively and safely
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  expose a narcissist. So yeah, an educated impact
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  could be a narcissist's worst nightmare because they possess
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  the tools to expose them 'cause you possess, you possess the
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  tools that lead, that can lead to the exposure.
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  They possess the tools to be able to do this and do that.
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  You see what I'm saying? This is what typically happens.
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  This is the space that so many of us, so many of us enter into.
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  So I want y'all to empower yourselves.
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  Like This is why I'm doing this job.
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  This is a lot of times, This is why I do these videos.
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  I want you to wake up and understand that you can be an
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  educated empath and still be in an abusive relationship.
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  You know, I want you to wake up to the point and to the
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  possibility of thriving and understanding what you are going
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  through. And sometimes, like I say, you
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  have you might have to fight back.
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  You know, and this is me not be telling you that like is well,
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  you got to fight back. You got to do this, you got to
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  do that. This is me saying that like
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  sometimes you got to empower yourself to be able to fight
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  back. Like so many, so many of us in
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  the, in this, this niche or this spear of narcissistic abuse in
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  this narc narc talk or narcissistic Instagram and stuff
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  like that. So many of of us talk about
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  methods to protect yourself and to defend yourself.
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  You know, typically those methods are passive Gray
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  rocking, yellow rocking. You mean documenting that type
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  of stuff right there. But sometimes you might have to
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  fight back. I typically tell people, hey, if
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  their smear campaign isn't bothering you, if it's if it's
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  not ruining your life, ignore it.
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  It'll the fire will die on its own.
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  But sometimes you had to be able to fight back that this person
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  has exposed you to the world and try to make you feel like you're
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  an abuser and you have proof. So I'm like, you have to fight
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  back, right? This is not me telling you to
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  post it, but sometimes you might have to.
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  If you document this stuff, you have proof.
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  This is why you do need to document just in case you need
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  to fight back in courts, online, whatever the case may be, right?
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  Let's keep it hot and ready. Like if my biggest fear is
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  exposure, I don't want to be exposed.
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  So I'm going to keep things to a cup.
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  I'm going to hide things. I'm going to lie.
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  I'm going to do whatever it needs to.
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  I'm going to do whatever it takes for me to stay woke,
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  right? For me to stay woke.
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  I know people have used the word woke and perpetuated into this
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  weirdo shit and just annoying. Just like, whoa, whoa, whoa,
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  whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, boy, shit's insane.
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  But this is the space that some of us fall into.
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  So watch for the smear campaign. This is why they're smear
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  campaigning you, because their biggest fear is you exposing
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  them. This is why they record
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  reactive. This is why they try to set you
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  up for reactive abuse incidents, because their biggest fear is
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  you exposing them. This is why a lot of them do
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  what they do, do what they do, because the biggest fear is you
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  exposing them. So this is something that you
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  have to consider. This is something you have to go
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  through. This is something that you have
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  to just, you got to work through it, y'all.
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  And you can power you. You can power yourself through
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  it. This is why I say an educated
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  impact could be a narcissist's worst nightmare.
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  Because y'all, you know what reactive abuse is, right?
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  Reactive abuse is when you're the narcissist set you off and
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  then you're reacting to them. And a lot of times like you're
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  yelling and screaming at them, you're throwing things at them.
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  And sometimes they record it when you're doing that.
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  So they make you look like the abuser, right?
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  So when you look like the look like the abuser, they win.
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  An educated empath can stay calm, doesn't react to the
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  things that they're going through.
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  So you don't, you don't give them that that that that
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  ammunition to hit you with later on to make you seem like you're
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  an abuser, to protect their image because they're afraid of
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  being exposed. You say it all comes together,
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