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Letting Go Of Resentment Connected to a Partner with ADHD · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist and.
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  In this episode of The Hypnotist, you'll be listening
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  to a hypnosis session created for a female client that really
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  wanted to get to a point of acceptance but also feel
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  empowered to assist their partner with a recent ADHD
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  diagnosis. And they, they felt that they
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  had built up some resentment as a result of the ADHD influencing
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  certain decisions and actions. And they really wanted to
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  reconnect with how they originally felt with them and to
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  really feel that they had more choices in terms of accepting
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  the ADHD but working with it rather than being frustrated or
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  annoyed by it. And part of that is this idea of
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  loving boundaries, this idea of doing things in a way that
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  becomes empowering rather than disempowering, that creates
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  connection rather than disconnection.
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  So although the genders used in here are very much aimed at a
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  female with a male partner, if you're listening to this and you
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  have a partner that is neurodiverse and it's led to
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  certain emotional baggage that you're carrying, you might get
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  some value from this. But of course, it was created
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  for an individual. So if you feel like a bespoke
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  session might be more helpful for you, there will be a link in
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  the show notes where you can schedule that free consultation
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  call. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that slow, long, relaxing breath of
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  intense resourcefulness, breathing in that wonderful
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  feeling. And as you exhale, feeling a
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  sense of of release, allowing sensations of tension, stress,
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  or worries to start to feel like they're leaving your body in
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  that outward breath. As you breathe in and breathe
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  out, notice your eyelids getting heavier, releasing any tension
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  from your eyebrows all the way down into your eyelids down into
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  your jaw. Just imagine those tiny muscles
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  at the back of your neck starting to relax and your
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  breathing starts to happen all by itself, requiring no effort.
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  Breathing in deeper, exhaling for longer, almost like your
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  heart and lungs combined, and doing the breathing for you,
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  feeling like you're drifting off to a place of acceptance and
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  wonderful changes. Take another deep breath in,
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  allowing it to fill your lungs completely, and as you release,
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  feel a sense of heaviness settling over your shoulders.
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  Each breath takes you deeper into comfort and ease, and maybe
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  you've already noticed that the rhythm of your breathing is
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  becoming more steady and more calm.
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  It's got a rhythm that you can see in nature, the rhythm of
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  ripples on a pond or waves lapping at the shore.
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  With each breath out, just feel you're releasing any tension and
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  feel that stress is simply melting away.
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  Feel safe and calm and relaxed as you allow your awareness to
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  travel down your body, relaxing your arms, your hands, going all
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  the way down, down your chest, into your gut, even your
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  internal organs start to relax all the way down into your legs,
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  down to your toes. Just feel a sense of complete,
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  ever increasing relaxation. That's it.
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  Chore relaxing, neck relaxing even more.
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  And I want you to use the power of your imagination to imagine
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  staring into a photo album of memories.
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  Flick through the pages until you can find a picture that
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  doesn't exist in reality, but exists in your imagination of
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  your very first date. Maybe you can recall what you
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  were wearing. Maybe the location, something
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  about that date, the triggers that memory, and when you recall
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  that memory of that date looking like you're seeing it in a
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  photo, let me know by nodding your head.
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  Imagine you step into the photo, but not into yourself.
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  Imagine you're a time traveller, going back to that memory at
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  your current age, seeing you back then as you were, and see
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  the expression on your face when you made eye contact that very
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  first time. Almost read the mind of that
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  version of you, get a sense that there was desire, attraction and
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  perhaps see. See you in deep conversation,
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  eyes transfixed. See the body language of someone
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  in deep connection. And I want you to get a sense
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  that knowing what you now know, there are clues, clues that you
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  missed at the time, but now become obvious as you get a
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  sense that the person you were attracted to then also had a
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  different way of thinking, a different way of being.
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  And that's the person you were attracted to.
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  You didn't find the attraction and the connection and something
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  changed that you were always attracted to someone wired that
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  way. And if you, with your current
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  knowledge, can now see that even on the very first day, let me
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  know by nodding your head and therefore feel the resentment,
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  any resentment created from that moment to now, melting away like
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  snow on a sunny day. I want you to get a sense that
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  if any resentment was due to malice, deliberate choices that
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  you now perceive to be unfair, then the resentment was built on
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  false foundations and therefore it can melt away.
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  I want you to step into that version of you on that very
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  first date. Feel how you felt at the time,
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  staring into their eyes, feeling that attraction, that
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  connection, the excitement. Maybe there's a spark or
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  chemistry or a different word you would use.
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  Feel there's a sense of playfulness or fun, and notice
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  where you feel these feelings in your body and amplify them.
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  Allow them to feel stronger, filling your heart with warmth.
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  Notice how in that moment, everything felt fresh, new, and
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  full of possibility. And these aren't just memories.
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  Neural pathways were built in that moment that we're re of
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  activating. Now.
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  Awaken them. Rekindle them because you can
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  carry this connection, this sense of romance and fun, of
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  excitement, connection back into the present moment, reigniting
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  the bond you share. And as you soak up all of those
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  wonderful feelings of connection and love, a new understanding
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  begins to emerge. You realise it's not about
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  fixing or saving him, it's about facilitating his growth and
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  empowering him to solve his own challenges.
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  You already believe that you get what you tolerate, not what you
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  deserve. But that also applies to 1/2.
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  For a path, for a sigh, pressure to help.
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  If you tolerate it, you'll get more of it.
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  But what if you reward something else?
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  What if you were to reward problem solving?
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  Accountability? What if you're rewarded
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  hindsight? What if you're rewarded that
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  element of the qualities you admire?
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  Not just the ambition, but the follow through.
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  Not just the focus in the short term, but in the longer term.
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  I want you to give permission to yourself.
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  Tell yourself it's OK to have loving boundaries as you
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  acknowledge that boundaries are not barriers, they are bridges
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  to understanding and mutual respect.
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  Feel the strength in your heart as you embrace this belief, and
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  maybe you could imagine yourself gently but firmly holding space
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  for your husband to take responsibility for his
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  decisions. You can support him without
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  needing to take on his challenges as your own.
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  There are things you do together and things he'll need to do all
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  by himself, and in doing so you feel a deeper sense of empathy
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  and acceptance that his ADHD is just a part of him.
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  You can't change your eye colour, but your eye colour
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  doesn't need to define you. It may be a part of him, but it
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  does not define him. So feel that everything up to
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  now is the past. Extract the wisdom from the
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  past, learn from it. But all the emotions of the past
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  are no longer needed. I want you to get a sense that
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  there's some things that you throw away when they lose their
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  value. Old clothes, broken furniture.
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  Why keep them if they're not useful?
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  And the resentment you've been holding on to is certainly not
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  useful. So as we start a new year, agree
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  with yourself that this resentment belongs in the past
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  and you're not willing to bring it forward into this new year.
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  And if your unconscious is willing to wipe the slate clean,
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  to learn from the past but not hold on to it, let me know by
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  nodding your head. I want you to imagine what the
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  next year could look like without that resentment.
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  A more feeling of teamwork for the past is behind.
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  There is a clean slate, and a head is a bright, exciting, fun,
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  connected future. I wonder if you could feel in
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  advance a sense of partnership, of mutual understanding.
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  When you're not walking his path for him, but they're walking
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  beside him, cheering him on as he learns and grows.
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  Not helping is not being cold because you are helping.
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  If you're facilitating more of that personal responsibility,
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  accountability, the wisdom that only comes from experiencing the
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  consequences of decisions and actions, and feel that this
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  facilitates more feelings of admiration, connection, respect,
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  but also fun and excitement. That these boundaries are acts
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  of love for yourself and for him.
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  And you carry the understanding that by letting go of the past,
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  you are actually creating all of the right ingredients for a
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  stronger, more connected future. What if resentment is a poison,
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  A poison for a relationship? Doesn't it make sense to make
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  sure you're not carrying that poison inside?
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  You feel it is fully in your past and you're not willing to
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  hold on to that poison anymore. And in doing so, you create more
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  space for that empathy, understanding and loving
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  boundaries. And maybe you can get a glimpse
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  back in that photo album of memories that haven't even
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  happened yet. Future memories of connection
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  and love and fun that are only possible because you let go of
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  the resentment and because of those loving boundaries.
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  And if you get a sense of that future, just let me know about
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  nodding your head. That's it.
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  Which confirms that resentment is in your past and the slate is
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  indeed wiped clean. Very soon I will count from 1:00
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  to 10:00 to awaken you. And you will awaken in a
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  slightly different version of you into a reality where the
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  resentment is in your past and optimism is in your future and
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  in the here and now. The slate is indeed wiped clean.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and count through your
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  nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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  wiggle your toes. Connect fully into the here and
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  now as I count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456, more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes, 910.
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  Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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