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From Self-Doubt to 14 Clients in 30 Days: My Identity Shift · Recoded

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Recoded.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Sheree,
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  SPEAKER_00: an identity wealth mentor and every week we're diving into conversations
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  SPEAKER_00: that help ambitious women stop living from fear,
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  SPEAKER_00: uncertainty, self-doubt and old conditioning.
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  SPEAKER_00: So they start becoming the woman who embodies her next level of certainty,
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  SPEAKER_00: self-trust, confidence and wealth.
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  SPEAKER_00: After 14 years and running multiple six-figure businesses,
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  SPEAKER_00: I've learned your life does not change when you work harder
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  SPEAKER_00: or you change strategies every week.
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  SPEAKER_00: It changes when you change the subconscious limiting beliefs
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  SPEAKER_00: that have you receiving your current results in life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And not just in business either, in all areas, relationships, health, everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: So through powerful conversations,
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  SPEAKER_00: client transformation stories and practical tools you can implement
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  SPEAKER_00: into your life now,
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  SPEAKER_00: we'll explore what it really takes to create more confidence,
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  SPEAKER_00: more self-trust, more wealth from the inside out.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're ready to stop waiting for your next level and start becoming her,
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  SPEAKER_00: you're in the right place, my love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's dive in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Two years ago I was looking successful on the outside but I didn't feel successful
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  SPEAKER_00: on the inside.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now on paper I had all the things that were supposed to mean I'd made it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had all my coaching certifications.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd been celebrated on stages in New Zealand as a top income earner in my affiliate business.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'd achieved what felt like the ultimate goal back then, which was 10k months.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I was also making six figures through my yachting career alongside my coaching
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  SPEAKER_00: and my affiliate income.
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  SPEAKER_00: So from the outside,
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  SPEAKER_00: it looked like I was doing really well
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  SPEAKER_00: and it looked like I was living this perfect Instagram life.
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  SPEAKER_00: But internally...
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  SPEAKER_00: The truth is that I felt afraid to be fully seen.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was doubting myself all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was second guessing every freaking decision.
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  SPEAKER_00: And deep down I knew that I wanted to go all in on my coaching.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'd been dabbling in my coaching for about three years.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when I finally had the space to take on more clients, something was blocking me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I couldn't quite put my finger on what it was.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I'd go to write a launch post and then I'd second guess it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd rewrite it over and over again trying to get it perfect.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd question whether it was good enough and I'd definitely question whether I was good enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: I started to like wonder and tell myself like who's going to actually pay me this
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  SPEAKER_00: for my coaching and And you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: most of the time with all the posts and videos I created,
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  SPEAKER_00: I wouldn't actually be posting them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe you've caught yourself doing the same.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I also started to notice that I had this deep belief inside my subconscious
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  SPEAKER_00: that I wasn't really worthy of receiving anything more than 10K months
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  SPEAKER_00: without working incredibly hard for it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because somewhere underneath everything,
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  SPEAKER_00: deep in the subconscious,
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  SPEAKER_00: I believe that making like more and more money meant working harder.
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe you've felt those alarm bells go off inside your head of like,
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  SPEAKER_00: oh no, I'll have to work so hard for that when you set a money goal too.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know what's really interesting is that
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  SPEAKER_00: when these alarm bells were going off,
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  SPEAKER_00: when I was doubting myself and second-guessing, I wasn't new to inner work.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was already doing all the things.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was journaling every day,
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  SPEAKER_00: literally until my hand cramped with prompts like, I am receiving messages.
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  SPEAKER_00: 20K on or before the 23rd of December,
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like looking in the mirror telling myself I'm worthy,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm good enough, I'm seen as a leader.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was investing thousands in mindset mentorships.
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  SPEAKER_00: And, you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: after doing those kind of pieces of inner work,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd get this amazing motivational high after doing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd feel good.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd feel empowered.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd feel confident.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I just felt convinced that everything was about to change.
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  SPEAKER_00: But then I'd wake up the next day and I was back to second guessing myself again.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd feel 10 steps behind again.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was like this constant push-pull with that kind of inner work.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd be back to the same patterns of second guessing and procrastination,
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  SPEAKER_00: back into the same doubts and back into
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  SPEAKER_00: the same fear around putting myself out there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I had absolutely no idea what was happening because I said I was doing the work.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was doing the mindset work.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was learning the strategies.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I started to question like why wasn't I becoming more confident?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why wasn't my income becoming more consistent?
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  SPEAKER_00: And why didn't I still trust myself after all these years and so much money
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  SPEAKER_00: that I'd invested in myself?
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  SPEAKER_00: And looking back at that time now,
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  SPEAKER_00: I realized that it wasn't that I was lacking effort or that I was lacking knowledge
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  SPEAKER_00: and I definitely wasn't lacking strategy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was just so focused on trying to change the outside world
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  SPEAKER_00: without changing what was happening internally with my subconscious mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was not working on the woman behind the business.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I also didn't understand how to actually get to the root of the beliefs
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  SPEAKER_00: and patterns that were driving my behavior.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't even know it was a thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe you're listening now too and you're thinking, well,
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  SPEAKER_00: why does it even matter if I don't get to the root cause,
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  SPEAKER_00: the root cause of my beliefs?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'll get to that soon.
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  SPEAKER_00: But naturally, I just thought it must be my strategy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And of course, what do we do as women entrepreneurs when the strategy isn't working?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, I know what I was doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was working harder.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was on my laptop all day.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was creating content,
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  SPEAKER_00: creating funnels,
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  SPEAKER_00: changing up my messaging,
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  SPEAKER_00: switching up my strategy every month,
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  SPEAKER_00: posting every day, having more conversations, just trying thing after thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'd finished the day at 5pm and that was on a good day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it was 9.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'd realised I'd barely left my desk in my apartment in Bali.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd only left my desk during the day to get a drink or some food.
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  SPEAKER_00: It turns out that I was working harder and harder because somewhere inside of me,
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  SPEAKER_00: deep in my subconscious,
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  SPEAKER_00: I still believed that harder work was what would create the result I wanted too.
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  SPEAKER_00: And ironically, I was reinforcing the exact belief that was keeping myself stuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was proving to myself, see if you want more, you have to work harder.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I didn't realize at the time, but that 10K level wasn't just an income goal I had achieved.
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  SPEAKER_00: It'd become an identity ceiling.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was the level of success I knew how to create,
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  SPEAKER_00: the level I knew how to hold and anything beyond that felt unfamiliar
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  SPEAKER_00: and it actually felt a little bit unsafe.
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe you felt the same,
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  SPEAKER_00: especially when it comes to setting like an income or an impact goal that feels
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  SPEAKER_00: a bit like edgy, a bit of a stretch.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just feels too unfamiliar.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't feel safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's what was happening with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And somewhere underneath all the goals, there was still that belief.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I want more, I'm going to have to work a lot harder for this.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then everything shifted.
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  SPEAKER_00: A few years ago,
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  SPEAKER_00: one of my beautiful,
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  SPEAKER_00: beautiful mentors,
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  SPEAKER_00: in fact,
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  SPEAKER_00: my first ever business mentor, invited me to an event in Sydney called NTT Prack.
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  SPEAKER_00: That was the moment everything started to shift.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now at that event, I learned about timeline therapy and I experienced it for myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that was the first time I ever experienced what it felt like to work with
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  SPEAKER_00: the actual root cause of a belief rather than just trying to think my way out of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was insane.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, me and my partner,
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  SPEAKER_00: we worked with beliefs that I had running underneath the surface,
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  SPEAKER_00: like I'm not good enough,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not worthy, and also patterns like self-sabotage and procrastination.
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  SPEAKER_00: And something within me changed that day.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I see this a lot in my clients now too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I walked out of that event in Sydney with a level of confidence and conviction
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  SPEAKER_00: that I genuinely had never experienced before.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was absolutely life-changing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it wasn't that all of a sudden I had a brand new strategy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't have some secret hack and I hadn't suddenly become more talented
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  SPEAKER_00: or skillful in my business.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's what had shifted internally in me.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see, my identity had shifted.
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  SPEAKER_00: And because my identity shifted, I The actions I was taking started to change.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I went home and I finally did the post relaunching my coaching.
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  SPEAKER_00: Within 24 hours, I'd signed two clients.
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  SPEAKER_00: Within 30 days, I had 14 new clients.
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  SPEAKER_00: And within 30 days, I'd done a 19.5K launch.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this was really the moment I understood something that completely changed
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  SPEAKER_00: the way I approached business.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was not my strategy that needed endless tweaking.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was the subconscious reprogramming underneath the strategy because when
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  SPEAKER_00: that changed,
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  SPEAKER_00: my identity changed and when my identity changed,
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  SPEAKER_00: my actions changed and then of course when my actions changed,
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  SPEAKER_00: the results changed and And this wasn't about forcing myself
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  SPEAKER_00: to become more confident.
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  SPEAKER_00: It wasn't about pretending to be confident or any fake it till you make it vibes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I actually finally felt confident.
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  SPEAKER_00: I felt finally safe to be seen.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I finally trusted my intuition.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it definitely wasn't that I was convincing myself to take more action.
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  SPEAKER_00: The action just became easier.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it definitely wasn't that I was working harder.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just finally stopped needing to create success through the same level
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  SPEAKER_00: of struggle I'd experienced in the past.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is why I talk so much about identity beliefs and subconscious patterns in my work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I know what it's like to be a woman who looks successful on the outside and
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  SPEAKER_00: But internally she wonders, why can't I get myself to the next level?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why am I second guessing myself?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why do I know I'm more capable of more but I can't seem to get there?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why does everything feel like it has to be so hard?
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  SPEAKER_00: And if that's you, I want you to know something, my love.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's absolutely not that you aren't capable.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you don't really need another strategy.
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  SPEAKER_00: You may be simply trying to create a new level of success from an identity
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  SPEAKER_00: that was built around your old one.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's what the biggest shift for me was.
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  SPEAKER_00: I stopped asking myself questions like, what else do I need to do?
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  SPEAKER_00: What more can I do?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I started asking myself, who do I get to become?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because the next level is not about doing more.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about becoming the woman who no longer needs to work and push and shove
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  SPEAKER_00: and second guess herself in order to create what she wants.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is really where my work began.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hey, my love, thank you so much for tuning into today's episode of Recoded.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if you loved it, feel free to share it with another woman who you know this would inspire.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sending you all so much love, and I'll see you wherever we are connected.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if we're not connected already, make sure to follow me at shereeann.co.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd love to hear your takeaways and breakthroughs from this week's episode.