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Impact Through Service (S5) S3:E6 · Inspirations for Your Life

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So again, I think a lot of times,
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you know, when we think about motivation and
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we think about what's going on, I think
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a lot of times people, well, people get
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stuck.
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They get stuck where they are.
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They don't necessarily want to be stuck, but
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they become stuck.
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And this stuckness is, it's something I feel
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that a lot of people, for whatever reason,
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I feel they just don't, I don't know,
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I feel they just don't get it for
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whatever reason.
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And so sometimes people learn after they're with
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it for a long time.
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They don't learn like overnight, unfortunately.
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And this is something that we have to
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embrace.
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It's something that, you know, we have to
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admit to ourselves that we can become better,
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but it definitely takes time, right?
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I know.
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And so maybe you're saying to me, John,
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you know, this isn't working well for me,
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or it is, or it isn't.
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I think it comes down to the fact
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of what we're saying, right?
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And why people are doing things a certain
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way.
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You know, they might be doing something because
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of something you said, or maybe because of
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some moment that they've had in life.
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Maybe that's the whole key.
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Maybe that's the reason that maybe you're
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stuck into some loop, right?
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You could be stuck in a loop.
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Maybe you are, maybe you're not, right?
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And then maybe you're losing motivation, okay?
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Does that make sense?
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I'm hoping it does.
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But then again, you might get a little
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lost.
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And the reason you'll get a little lost
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is because, well, you're not quite understanding the
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right pathway.
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So what you do is you try to
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figure out like, you know, what's going on.
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And what you figure out is that it's
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just that you've gotten a little lost, or
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you've gotten a little confused.
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You might have lost your direction on a
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certain path.
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You know, maybe you didn't mean to lose
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that direction.
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But for whatever reason, you lost that direction.
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And that direction maybe came to you because,
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I'm gonna say, you didn't quite understand what
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your purpose was in life, right?
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You didn't quite understand it.
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And guys, this is an easy thing to
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fix.
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But when we lose motivation, it's like everything
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shuts down in our mind, right?
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Everything shuts down in our mind.
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So guys, of course, without any further ado,
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I'd like to go ahead and definitely kick
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this show off officially to you guys.
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You're tuned into Inspiration to Life.
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It's the daily motivational show.
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We're talking all about quiet power winning without
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losing yourself.
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This is day six.
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We're on, of course, series five, show three,
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episode number six.
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I am your host, ladies and gentlemen, John
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C.
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Morley.
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And hello, and welcome back to Inspirations for
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Your Life.
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This is, guys, the daily motivational show where
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growth is intentional, success is sustainable, and leadership
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begins from the inside out.
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I am your host, John C.
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Morley.
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Serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast
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host, coach, graduate student, and of course, a
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passionate lifelong learner.
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You know, guys, after years of building businesses,
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mentoring others, producing content, and leading with purpose,
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I've learned this truth.
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Real impact is not created by chasing attention.
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But actually by contributing value.
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Today's episode is all about impact through service.
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Because when you focus on helping others, growth,
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clarity, and opportunity, they just kind of naturally
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flow.
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And it's so, how can I say, almost
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so perfect the way it happens.
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It's so natural.
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Number one, guys, number one is definitely, is
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a big one.
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Number one is all about, you know, what
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is it we're doing?
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And I think what we're doing right now
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is learning that life is all about change,
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right?
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It's all about change.
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And maybe the change is something you're not
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familiar with.
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Maybe it's something that you're scared about, you
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know, it could be.
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Or maybe for whatever reason, things just seem
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different.
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Yeah, maybe they seem a little different.
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Does that ever happen to you?
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They seem a little different.
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Does that make sense?
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I hope it does.
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And, you know, when we think about what's
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going on in our lives, I think it
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comes down to something pretty amazing.
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And that's the fact that you are more
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than you think.
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You have so much more power in life.
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And so when we think about this, it
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can become overwhelming at first, it can.
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But when we digest it, it
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changes us.
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It changes us.
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It does.
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It changes who we are and how we
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are.
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I think that's kind of amazing.
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And, you know, a lot of people, they
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get stuck along the way because they don't
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know like what to do or why they
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should do something.
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They get stuck.
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And so they just don't understand that there's
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so much power inside them.
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And I said to you, everything in life
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is about value.
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It's about service.
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A lot of people don't give service.
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You know why?
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Because they feel that they, that it's above
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them.
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But we want to serve.
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We want to give to others.
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So things flow naturally.
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Impact comes from contribution, guys.
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Does that make sense?
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I hope it does.
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If it doesn't make sense, then that probably
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means that you're not in alignment with it.
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Number two, serving others grows you and it
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helps you grow together.
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Does that make sense?
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It helps you grow.
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It's something pretty special.
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Number three, guys, purpose expands through service.
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Sometimes we don't always know what our purpose
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is, but we will figure it out later
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on.
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Okay?
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We'll figure it out later on.
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And maybe you're saying to me, John, I
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don't exactly know what my purpose is.
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That's perfectly okay.
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You don't need to know your whole purpose.
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Okay?
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Helping creates momentum.
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Four, helping creates momentum.
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Number five, contribution builds the meaning.
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Contribution builds the meaning.
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Contribution builds the meaning.
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Number six, guys, value creates visibility.
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Value creates visibility.
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Number seven, impact doesn't need recognition.
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Number eight, service attracts opportunity.
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Service attracts opportunity.
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Number nine, helping clarifies the purpose.
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When we help, it's like we suddenly discover
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something, maybe something we didn't know about, but
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something that's pretty special.
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Something that maybe we didn't quite gather, that
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we didn't quite understand.
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I think those are important things to think
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about.
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Number 10, guys, contribution builds legacy.
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Number 11, you grow when you lift others.
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A lot of people don't want to lift
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others because they're selfish, but we need to
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lift others.
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Number 12, impact feels fulfilling.
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I think the reason impact feels so filling
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is because we get this natural adrenaline pushed
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back to us, like the dopamine raises in
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our brain.
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I think that's a very powerful, powerful thing.
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Number 13, guys, does that make sense?
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I hope it does.
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If it doesn't, then maybe you got to
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think about where you're coming from.
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Number 13, value first always wins.
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Number 14, service builds confidence.
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Service builds confidence.
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Service always will build confidence.
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That could be interesting, right?
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Number 15, giving sharpens clarity.
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Giving sharpens clarity.
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Number 16, contribution outlasts ego.
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Number 17, helping creates connection.
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Helping creates connection.
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Number 18, impact compounds quietly.
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It creates something.
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Number 19, guys, service attracts trust.
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Service attracts trust.
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Number 20, purpose expands outward.
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Purpose expands outward.
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Purpose expands outward.
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And don't be scared about it, you know,
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that it's not where you want it, but
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it will, it will make a difference in
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your life when you know that it expands
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outward, okay?
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Number 21, helping grounds where you're going.
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Helping grounds your ambition, okay?
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Number 22, impact beats the applause.
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Impact beats the applause.
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Impact beats the applause.
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Impact beats the applause, all right?
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That's an important one to think about, right?
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Number 24, giving creates growth.
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Giving creates growth.
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Number 25, guys, contribution fuels meaning.
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Number 26, impact doesn't rush.
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Impact doesn't rush.
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Number 27, helping brings perspective.
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Helping brings perspective.
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Number 28, service stabilizes success.
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Service will always stabilize success.
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Number 29, contribution builds influence.
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I think a lot of people, they get
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thrown off their game because they're expecting something
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one way, but then it comes a different
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way.
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And suddenly like, oh my gosh, like, what
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do I do?
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And so that causes somebody to have this,
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I'm going to call it like an epiphany
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moment.
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It's probably the best thing I tell you.
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It's like an epiphany.
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And this epiphany is a way that people
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can literally see, hear, and understand life.
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But they don't always get it in the
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beginning, all right?
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They sometimes get a little lost.
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And I want to tell you that this
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is important if you'd understand why this happens
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and maybe why you're going off a different
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pathway.
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Not because you want to, okay?
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It's just sort of naturally happening.
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And that's a pretty cool thing if I
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do say so myself.
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Number 30, guys, impact feels right.
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Impact feels, impact feels right.
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You know, a lot of times when we're
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thinking about how we can be of service
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to people, you might be thinking service like,
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you know, performing something like, you know, a
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job.
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But you could do something as simple.
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You could take in their trash.
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You could even spend time with them.
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You could talk with them.
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You could maybe go get their groceries, okay?
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Maybe, maybe you could do that.
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Or maybe you could just maybe have a
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realization of who they really are.
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When you get to talk with somebody, you
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get to learn who that person is and
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for what they stand for, so many people
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in our world, they pass by others, but
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they don't bother to take that moment to
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say, oh my gosh, that's amazing about that
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person, right?
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They just don't, they don't think about that
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one moment, not because they don't want to,
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not because they don't want to, but because
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they feel different.
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To be of service for someone, you could
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just listen to them, what they're saying.
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Another way to be of service to someone
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could be to make them a meal.
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Yeah, to make them a meal.
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And with that meal, guys, you could really,
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well, tunnel into their heart.
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They say one of the best ways is
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to give somebody food and they'll open up,
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they'll be friendly to you, but it's about
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genuineness, right?
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This isn't about superficial attitudes.
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Truth that actually can help you.
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So you might be asking me a very,
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very important question, and there's nothing wrong with
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the question.
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It's a very good question.
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If somebody said to me, John, how can
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I be of service toward others?
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How?
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What do you think I would say?
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Well, you have to start where you are,
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okay?
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You don't have to do anything crazy.
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I talk about listening.
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You could teach, right?
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You could mentor.
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You could use your skills.
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Always give before you're asked.
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Be reliable, not flashy.
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I think those are important things.
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Protect your energy, but protect others' energy.
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Don't overload people.
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Respect their time.
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Be concise.
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Be clear.
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Ask better questions.
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Remember this one truth.
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You don't need to save people.
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You don't need to fix people.
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You don't need to impress people.
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You need to serve them best.
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You see, people won't care just what you
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said, what you gave them, or maybe what
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you did.
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What they will remember is how you made
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them feel.
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That's powerful, guys.
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Maybe you could serve by creating safety.
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How can I make someone's life safer?
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Serve through consistency.
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Someone they can depend on.
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Serve through just your presence.
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Serve maybe by holding the line, right?
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Service sometimes means not enabling.
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Encouraging responsibility.
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Saying no when needed.
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Protecting boundaries.
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Modeling self-respect.
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Serving by modeling other behavior, right?
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Serving through quiet mentorship.
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Serving by protecting focus, right?
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Maybe teaching somebody how to be grounded.
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Serve by saying, I don't.
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Serve by just being human.
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By letting people see the you, not somebody
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you're trying to pretend to be.
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Encourage, clarify, simplify, and support, right?
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People that don't want to serve, they're selfish.
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Maybe you could serve by taking something complex.
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Serve by maybe helping people understand there's a
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difference.
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You could serve by being a buffer.
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Filtering noise.
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Handling difficult conversations calmly.
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Absorbing tension without passing it on.
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Serve by knowing when to step back.
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Let others lead.
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Allow learning through experience.
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Avoid being a control freak.
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I think when we learn that control is
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something we utilize in moderation, okay?
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Identify your top five personal service styles.
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Maybe it's based on your voice, show, and
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your leadership energy, okay?
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Turn this into a short on-air reflection,
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if you will.
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You know, create a follow-up for yourself.
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Align yourself with leadership goals.
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People that talk about leadership so much, right,
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and they blow the trumpet or the horn,
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usually means that they don't know anything about
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leadership or trust.
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Those that carry a big stick and walk
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softly with it, they're the ones that are
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the true leaders.
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I never realized this, but when you lead
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quietly rather than loudly, and we've talked about
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this before, if I lead by yelling and
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screaming, I will get some people's attention and
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they will probably follow me, but they're not
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going to want to do it very long.
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They're probably going to just do it for
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as long as they have to.
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For example, there's a fire and you yell,
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like, fire, get out or something, right?
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People are going to pay attention to you,
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but if you really didn't have a message
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and you yelled something, I'd be like, oh,
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pay attention, this is going, and they'll pay
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attention for a few seconds, but then they're
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going to, like, tune you out.
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Do you know what I mean?
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Impact feels right.
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If it doesn't feel right, then you're probably,
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well, you're probably not aligned in the right
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way.
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You're not aligned in the right way, all
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right?
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That's a very important thing for us to
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distinguish here when we're talking about service.
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When you serve others, people want to naturally
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come back and serve you.
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That's true.
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I think that's something that many people don't
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understand today.
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They think service is all one way, but
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guess what, guys?
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Service is not one way.
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No, it's not.
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It's about truth.
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It's about integrity, all right?
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That's what it's about.
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If you don't understand that, then you're probably
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going to be, like, very lost.
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And you'll be, like, oh my gosh, like,
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what am I doing?
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What am I saying?
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This is Inspirations for Your Life, guys.
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This is the daily motivational show for people
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who want to succeed by lifting others along
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the way.
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Who am I?
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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And I'm reminding you that service is not
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a distraction from success.
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It is the pathway to it.
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For those that think service is a distraction,
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we'll be, well, misleaded on the path of
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success.
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We have to give first before we can
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get.
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Have yourself a great one, everyone.
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I'll catch you real soon.
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Be well, everyone.