Latest / Motivational Podcast / Don’t Waste Another Year Of Your Life, Discipline Yourself – Time Waits for No One
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- 0:01Speaker 1: If there is one magic word that stands out above
- 0:03Speaker 1: all the rest, it is discipline. Discipline is the bridge
- 0:08Speaker 1: between thought and accomplishment, between inspiration and achievement, between necessity
- 0:14Speaker 1: and productivity.
- 0:16Speaker 2: Remember, all good things are located upstream from us.
- 0:20Speaker 1: The passing of time takes us a drift, and drifting
- 0:23Speaker 1: only brings us the negative, the disappointment, and the failure.
- 0:27Speaker 1: Failure is not a cataclysmic event. It is not generally
- 0:31Speaker 1: the result of one major incident, but rather of a
- 0:34Speaker 1: long list of accumulated little failings. If your goal requires
- 0:38Speaker 1: that you write ten letters today and you write only three,
- 0:41Speaker 1: you are down seven letters. If you want to make
- 0:43Speaker 1: five calls and only make one, you are down four calls.
- 0:48Speaker 1: If your plan calls for saving ten dollars today, and
- 0:50Speaker 1: you save none, you are down ten dollars. The danger
- 0:54Speaker 1: is looking at an undisciplined day and concluding that no
- 0:56Speaker 1: great harm has been done. But add up these days
- 1:00Speaker 1: to make a year, and then add up those years
- 1:02Speaker 1: to make a lifetime, and it will become apparent how
- 1:06Speaker 1: repeating today's small failures can easily turn your life into
- 1:09Speaker 1: a major disaster. Success, on the other hand, is just
- 1:13Speaker 1: the same process in reverse. If you plan to make
- 1:16Speaker 1: ten calls and you end the day having made fifteen,
- 1:18Speaker 1: you are up five calls. You can see what a
- 1:21Speaker 1: massive difference this sort of thing could make in a year,
- 1:24Speaker 1: and what wealth and accomplishment await over a lifetime. Discipline
- 1:29Speaker 1: is like a set of magic keys that can unlock
- 1:32Speaker 1: all the doors of wealth, happiness, culture, high self esteem, pride, joy, accomplishment, satisfaction,
- 1:40Speaker 1: and success. The first key to discipline is awareness of
- 1:44Speaker 1: the need for and value of discipline, especially the discipline
- 1:47Speaker 1: to make the necessary changes. What will it take, What
- 1:51Speaker 1: must I do, and what must I become to get
- 1:55Speaker 1: all I want from life.
- 1:58Speaker 2: The second key is willingness.
- 2:00Speaker 1: More than that, it is the eagerness to maintain your
- 2:02Speaker 1: new discipline deliberately, wisely, and consistently. The third key to
- 2:08Speaker 1: discipline is the commitment to master the circumstances of your
- 2:11Speaker 1: daily life, to see and harness the opportunities to make
- 2:14Speaker 1: something of the good as well as that which comes
- 2:16Speaker 1: in the guise of misfortune. Discipline does many things, but
- 2:19Speaker 1: most important of all is what it does for your mindset.
- 2:22Speaker 2: It makes you feel better about yourself.
- 2:25Speaker 1: Even the smallest discipline can have an incredible effect on
- 2:27Speaker 1: your attitude and the good feeling you get. That surging
- 2:31Speaker 1: feeling of self worth that comes from starting a new
- 2:33Speaker 1: discipline is almost as good as the feeling that comes
- 2:36Speaker 1: from the accomplishment. The discipline brings. A new discipline immediately
- 2:41Speaker 1: alters your life direction. You don't change destinations immediately, that
- 2:46Speaker 1: is yet to come, but you can change direction immediately,
- 2:50Speaker 1: and direction is very important. Discipline cooperates with nature. Everything strives.
- 2:56Speaker 1: It is a common life function. How tall will a
- 2:59Speaker 1: tree grow? As tall as it can? Everything strives to
- 3:03Speaker 1: become all it can possibly be, and that is what
- 3:06Speaker 1: discipline is all about. Striving to fulfill our natural potential,
- 3:10Speaker 1: to become all that we can be. The human will
- 3:13Speaker 1: in action, driven by inspiration, enticed by desire, tempered by reason,
- 3:18Speaker 1: guided by intelligence, can bring you to that high and
- 3:21Speaker 1: lofty place called the good life. Discipline attracts opportunity, which
- 3:26Speaker 1: is always attracted.
- 3:27Speaker 2: To ambition and skill.
- 3:29Speaker 1: In action, discipline taps the unlimited power of commitment. Discipline
- 3:34Speaker 1: those unique steps of intelligent thought and activity that put
- 3:38Speaker 1: a lid on temper and a faucet on courtesy, that
- 3:41Speaker 1: develop the positive and control the negative, that encourage success
- 3:45Speaker 1: and deter failure that shape lifestyle and control frustration that
- 3:50Speaker 1: enhance health and curb sickness, that promote happiness and manage sadness. Discipline,
- 3:58Speaker 1: the continuing process that brings all all the good things. Remember,
- 4:02Speaker 1: anyone can start the process. It's not if I could,
- 4:05Speaker 1: I would rather, it's if I would, I could, If
- 4:09Speaker 1: I will, I can so start the process, begin a
- 4:13Speaker 1: new habit, no matter how small it is. Size isn't important.
- 4:17Speaker 1: Whether or not you start and whether or not you
- 4:19Speaker 1: continue are all that matter. What's at the core of
- 4:22Speaker 1: achieving the good life. It is not learning how to
- 4:25Speaker 1: set goals. It is not learning how to better manage
- 4:28Speaker 1: your time. It is not mastering the attributes of leadership.
- 4:33Speaker 1: Every day, in a thousand different ways, we are trying
- 4:36Speaker 1: to improve ourselves by learning how to do things. We
- 4:40Speaker 1: spend a lifetime gathering knowledge in classrooms, in textbooks, in experiences.
- 4:47Speaker 1: And if knowledge is power, if knowledge is the forerunner
- 4:51Speaker 1: to success, why.
- 4:53Speaker 2: Do we fall short of our objectives?
- 4:56Speaker 1: Why in spite of all our knowledge and collected experiences,
- 4:59Speaker 1: do we find our selves aimlessly wandering, settling for a
- 5:03Speaker 1: life of existence rather than a life of substance. There
- 5:07Speaker 1: may be many answers to this question, your answer may
- 5:10Speaker 1: be different from that of everyone else you know. While
- 5:13Speaker 1: there may be many answers to this question, the ultimate
- 5:16Speaker 1: answer may be the absence of discipline in applying our knowledge.
- 5:20Speaker 1: The key word is discipline, as in self discipline. It
- 5:23Speaker 1: doesn't really matter how smart you are if you don't
- 5:25Speaker 1: use your knowledge. It doesn't really matter that you graduated
- 5:29Speaker 1: magna cum laude if you're stuck in a low paying job.
- 5:33Speaker 1: It doesn't really matter that you attend every seminar that
- 5:35Speaker 1: comes to town if you don't apply what you've learned.
- 5:40Speaker 1: We spend our lives gathering gathering knowledge, gathering skills, gathering experiences,
- 5:46Speaker 1: but we must also apply the knowledge, skills, and experiences
- 5:50Speaker 1: we gather in the realms of life and business. We
- 5:54Speaker 1: must learn to use what we've learned, and once we've
- 5:57Speaker 1: applied our knowledge, we must study the results of that
- 5:59Speaker 1: price and refine our approach. Finally, by trying and observing
- 6:05Speaker 1: and refining and trying again, our knowledge will inevitably produce worthy,
- 6:10Speaker 1: admirable results, And with the joy and results of our efforts,
- 6:14Speaker 1: we continue to fuel our ambition with the positive reinforcement
- 6:18Speaker 1: of continued progress. Pretty soon we'll find that we're swept
- 6:22Speaker 1: into a spiral of achievement. A vertical rise to success
- 6:27Speaker 1: and the ecstasy of that total experience makes for a
- 6:30Speaker 1: life triumphant over tragedy, dullness, and mediocrity. But for this
- 6:35Speaker 1: whole process to work for us, we must first master
- 6:39Speaker 1: the art of consistent self discipline. It takes consistent self
- 6:43Speaker 1: discipline to master the arts of setting goals, time management, leadership, parenting,
- 6:50Speaker 1: and relationships. If we don't make consistent, self disciplined part
- 6:54Speaker 1: of our daily lives, the results we seek will be
- 6:56Speaker 1: sporadic and elusive. It takes a consistent and effort to
- 7:00Speaker 1: truly manage our valuable time. Without it will be consistently frustrated.
- 7:06Speaker 1: Our time will be eaten up by others whose demands
- 7:09Speaker 1: are stronger than our own. It takes discipline to conquer
- 7:12Speaker 1: the nagging voices in our minds, the fear of failure,
- 7:17Speaker 1: the fear of success, the fear of poverty, the fear
- 7:21Speaker 1: of a broken heart. It takes discipline to keep trying
- 7:25Speaker 1: when that nagging voice within us brings up the possibility
- 7:27Speaker 1: of failure. It takes discipline to admit our errors and
- 7:31Speaker 1: recognize our limitations. The voice of the human ego speaks
- 7:35Speaker 1: to all of us. Sometimes that voice tells us to
- 7:40Speaker 1: magnify our value or accomplishments beyond our actual results. It
- 7:44Speaker 1: leads us to exaggerate, to not be totally honest. It
- 7:47Speaker 1: takes discipline to be totally honest, both with ourselves and
- 7:50Speaker 1: with others, be certain of one thing. Every exaggeration of
- 7:55Speaker 1: the truth, once detected by others, destroys our credibility. It
- 7:59Speaker 1: makes all that we say and do suspect. As soon
- 8:03Speaker 1: as a business colleague figures out that we tend to exaggerate,
- 8:06Speaker 1: guess what he'll think. We always exaggerate, and he'll never
- 8:11Speaker 1: quite hold us in the same regard again.
- 8:14Speaker 2: Never.
- 8:15Speaker 1: The tendency to exaggerate, distort, or even withhold the truth
- 8:18Speaker 1: is an inherent part of all of us. It starts
- 8:21Speaker 1: when we're kids. Johnny says I didn't do it, I
- 8:25Speaker 1: didn't do it. Well, maybe Johnny didn't do it, but
- 8:29Speaker 1: he probably had something to do with it. And then
- 8:31Speaker 1: it continues when we're adults, exaggerating the benefits of a
- 8:35Speaker 1: product to make a sale, exaggerating our net worth to
- 8:38Speaker 1: impress old friends, exaggerating how close we are to closing
- 8:41Speaker 1: a deal to impress the boss. Only an all out
- 8:44Speaker 1: disciplined assault can overcome this tendency. It takes discipline to
- 8:48Speaker 1: change a habit, because once habits are formed, they act
- 8:52Speaker 1: like a giant cable, a nearly unbreakable instinct that only
- 8:56Speaker 1: long term, disciplined activity can change. We must unweave every
- 9:00Speaker 1: strand of the cable of habits, slowly and methodically, until
- 9:04Speaker 1: the cable that once held us in bondage becomes nothing
- 9:07Speaker 1: more than scattered strands of wire. It takes the consistent
- 9:10Speaker 1: application of a new discipline, a more desirable discipline, to
- 9:14Speaker 1: overcome one which is less desirable. It takes discipline to plan.
- 9:19Speaker 1: It takes discipline to execute our plan. It takes discipline
- 9:23Speaker 1: to look with full objectivity at the results of our
- 9:25Speaker 1: applied plan. And it takes discipline to change either our
- 9:29Speaker 1: plan or our method of executing that plan if the
- 9:31Speaker 1: results are poor. It takes discipline to be firm when
- 9:34Speaker 1: the world throws opinions at our feet, and it takes
- 9:37Speaker 1: discipline to ponder the value of someone else's opinion when
- 9:40Speaker 1: our pride and our arrogance lead us to believe that
- 9:42Speaker 1: we are the only ones with the answers. With this
- 9:46Speaker 1: consistent discipline applied to every area of our lives, we
- 9:50Speaker 1: can discover untold miracles and uncover unique possibilities and opportunities.
- 9:56Speaker 1: Discipline is a constant awareness of the need for action,
- 9:58Speaker 1: paired with a conscious act to implement that action. If
- 10:02Speaker 1: our awareness and our implementations occur at the same time,
- 10:05Speaker 1: then we begin a valued sequence of disciplined activity. But
- 10:10Speaker 1: if considerable time passes between the moment of awareness and
- 10:13Speaker 1: the time of our implementation, that is called procrastination, putting
- 10:18Speaker 1: off until tomorrow what you can do today. Procrastination is
- 10:23Speaker 1: almost the exact opposite of discipline. The voice within us says,
- 10:28Speaker 1: get it done. Discipline then says, do it now, to
- 10:33Speaker 1: the best of your ability. Heed this voice always, and
- 10:37Speaker 1: the habit will become instinctive. Procrastination says later tomorrow, whenever
- 10:42Speaker 1: I get a chance. It also says, do what is
- 10:45Speaker 1: necessary to get by or to impress others.
- 10:48Speaker 2: Do what you can, but not what you must.
- 10:52Speaker 1: In every circumstance we face, we are constantly presented with
- 10:55Speaker 1: these two choices, do it now or do it later.
- 10:59Speaker 1: Discipline procrastination bearing the fruit of achievement and contentment discipline
- 11:06Speaker 1: or living with the bare branches of mediocrity procrastination. The
- 11:11Speaker 1: rewards of a disciplined life are great, but they're often
- 11:14Speaker 1: delayed until sometime in the future. The rewards for a
- 11:19Speaker 1: lack of discipline, on the other hand, are immediate, but
- 11:23Speaker 1: they are minor in comparison to the immeasurable rewards of
- 11:26Speaker 1: consistent self discipline. An immediate reward for lack of discipline
- 11:30Speaker 1: is a fun day at the beach. A future reward
- 11:33Speaker 1: of discipline is owning the beach. Unfortunately, most of us
- 11:37Speaker 1: would choose today's pleasure over tomorrow's fortune. So how can
- 11:42Speaker 1: you get rid of the easy distractions? How can you
- 11:45Speaker 1: keep your mind on what you're trying to do? How
- 11:48Speaker 1: can you keep an attitude of doing it all and
- 11:50Speaker 1: doing it now? How can you make the choice of
- 11:54Speaker 1: discipline over procrastination. How can you stay focused on your ambitions?
- 12:00Speaker 1: How can you avoid conversations at the water cooler? You
- 12:04Speaker 1: can keep your focus on your work. You can get
- 12:06Speaker 1: it done today instead of tomorrow. You can do your
- 12:09Speaker 1: socializing when your work is done. You've got to really
- 12:13Speaker 1: work on your consistent self discipline on a daily basis,
- 12:18Speaker 1: otherwise you'll find yourself distracted, distracted by negative thoughts, distracted
- 12:23Speaker 1: by negative people, distracted by water cooler chatter, and pretty
- 12:29Speaker 1: soon depending on the type of people you associate with,
- 12:32Speaker 1: distracted by self doubt. Never underestimate the power of influence
- 12:37Speaker 1: and associations, and never underestimate the power of your own
- 12:41Speaker 1: consistent self discipline. Let me give you some keys to discipline.
- 12:46Speaker 1: Start with the little things and work up to the
- 12:49Speaker 1: big ones. The little things are minor things you can
- 12:53Speaker 1: do to make your life better and make you feel
- 12:55Speaker 1: better about yourself. Make a list of them. Life will
- 13:00Speaker 1: give you some pretty big challenges. But unless you practice
- 13:03Speaker 1: on the small ones and master those, you don't have
- 13:05Speaker 1: a chance on the major ones. A man strides out
- 13:09Speaker 1: of his house to go straighten out the corporation, and
- 13:11Speaker 1: he has not yet straightened out his garage.
- 13:14Speaker 2: Who's he kidding?
- 13:17Speaker 1: So work on all the disciplines small as well as large,
- 13:20Speaker 1: that will improve the quality of your life. And here's
- 13:24Speaker 1: an important thought. Everything affects everything else. Every lack of
- 13:29Speaker 1: discipline affects every other discipline. Mistakenly, the man says, this
- 13:34Speaker 1: is the only area I failed. It's obvious that's not true.
- 13:38Speaker 1: Every failure no matter how small, affects the rest of
- 13:41Speaker 1: your performance. Now Here is the positive side. Every new
- 13:44Speaker 1: discipline affects every other discipline. Every new thing you try
- 13:48Speaker 1: affects the rest of your performance. Isn't that exciting? So
- 13:52Speaker 1: get started on every small discipline you can think of.
- 13:56Speaker 1: You can't believe what it will do for your self confidence.
- 14:00Speaker 1: The greatest deterrent to success is lack of self confidence,
- 14:04Speaker 1: and lack of self confidence comes from not doing what
- 14:07Speaker 1: you could do. Next comes self motivation. Really, that's the
- 14:11Speaker 1: only kind of motivation there is. I was on a
- 14:15Speaker 1: lecture tour in Australia not long ago and the press
- 14:17Speaker 1: interviewed me. They asked, mister Rohan, are you one of
- 14:21Speaker 1: those American motivators. I said, no, I'm a businessman. I
- 14:26Speaker 1: can share my ideas and my experiences, but people have
- 14:30Speaker 1: got to motivate themselves. I've discovered that you can't change people.
- 14:36Speaker 1: They can change themselves, but you can't change them.
- 14:40Speaker 2: Lord knows, I've tried.
- 14:42Speaker 1: I had a supergroup of salespeople back in those early days.
- 14:46Speaker 1: I said, I'm going to make them successful. If it
- 14:48Speaker 1: kills me, guess what I almost did. It can't be done.
- 14:55Speaker 1: Good people are found not changed. If you want good people,
- 14:58Speaker 1: you have to find them. That's the best answer I
- 15:01Speaker 1: can give you. If you want motivated people, you have
- 15:05Speaker 1: to find them, not motivate them. The first rule of
- 15:09Speaker 1: management is this. Don't send your ducks to eagle School.
- 15:13Speaker 1: Why because it won't work. I've tried it all. I
- 15:17Speaker 1: picked up a magazine not long ago in New York
- 15:20Speaker 1: that had a full page ad in it for a
- 15:21Speaker 1: hotel chain. The first line of the ad was, we
- 15:25Speaker 1: do not teach our people to be nice. Now, that
- 15:28Speaker 1: got my attention. The second line said, we simply hire
- 15:32Speaker 1: nice people. I thought, what a clever shortcut. Motivation is
- 15:37Speaker 1: a mystery. Why are some people motivated and some are not.
- 15:41Speaker 1: Why does one salesperson see his first prospect at seven
- 15:44Speaker 1: in the morning while another sees his first prospect at
- 15:46Speaker 1: eleven in the morning. Why would one start at seven
- 15:49Speaker 1: and the other start at eleven.
- 15:51Speaker 2: I don't know.
- 15:53Speaker 1: I call it mysteries of the mind. I give lectures
- 15:56Speaker 1: to one thousand people at a time. One walks out
- 15:59Speaker 1: and says, I'm I'm going to change my life. Someone
- 16:03Speaker 1: else walks out with a yawn and says, I've heard
- 16:05Speaker 1: all this stuff before.
- 16:07Speaker 2: Why is that.
- 16:09Speaker 1: Why aren't they both affected to the same extent. I
- 16:11Speaker 1: don't know Mysteries of the mind. The wealthy man says
- 16:16Speaker 1: to a thousand people, I read this book and it
- 16:19Speaker 1: started me on the road to wealth. Guess how many
- 16:23Speaker 1: of the thousand go out and get the book? Answer?
- 16:27Speaker 2: Very few. Isn't that incredible?
- 16:31Speaker 1: Why wouldn't everyone go get the book Mysteries of the Mind?
- 16:35Speaker 1: To one person, you have to say, you'd better slow down.
- 16:39Speaker 1: You can't work that many hours, do that many things
- 16:41Speaker 1: go go go, You're going to have a heart attack
- 16:43Speaker 1: and die. And to another person you have to say,
- 16:46Speaker 1: when are you ever going to get off the couch?
- 16:49Speaker 1: What is the difference? It's called Mysteries of the mind.
- 16:54Speaker 1: Why wouldn't everyone strive to be wealthy and happy?
- 16:57Speaker 2: I don't know of the mind?
- 17:01Speaker 1: So be self motivated. Don't give that job away to
- 17:05Speaker 1: someone else. The guy says, boy, if someone will just
- 17:08Speaker 1: come by and turn me on, Hey, what if he
- 17:11Speaker 1: doesn't show up. You've got to have a better plan
- 17:14Speaker 1: for your life. You've got to have discipline,