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Insane Wedding Stories podcast · The conspiracy

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, is it hot in yours?
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Speaker 2: It just me?
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Speaker 1: God, damn is it you?
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Speaker 3: Is it you? Let's see.
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Speaker 1: Oh my god, you're so hot. You lit my candle.
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Speaker 1: Look at that.
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Speaker 3: See that's pretty cool, wasn't it.
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Speaker 2: It's the power of editing. Shout out to Jay. But
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Speaker 2: it's true, you're looking hot and spicy today. If I
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Speaker 2: do say so myself in the most respectful way, in
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Speaker 2: the least creepy way, because I don't know, I don't know.
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Speaker 3: Who I'm talking to. I don't know if I'm talking
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Speaker 3: to Todd who's forty two years old, or you know,
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Speaker 3: Lily who's twelve, sitting there with popcorn falling out of
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Speaker 3: her mouth, being like mom, Auntie. Chris is being weird again.
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Speaker 3: Either way, I'm so happy you're here. Got a crazy weekend.
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Speaker 3: I got married.
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Speaker 1: I got married.
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Speaker 3: I'm a wife. I've been going out to like local
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Speaker 3: grocery stores and restaurants and anybody that looks in my
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Speaker 3: general direction, I just scream, I'm marry, you know, like
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Speaker 3: be a goth from the movie, just like that. It's
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Speaker 3: been really fun so far, and you know, this the
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Speaker 3: last week and this current week, it's it's been a
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Speaker 3: lot It's been a lot because I had my little
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Speaker 3: soiree at my own home, which means I needed to
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Speaker 3: take care of literally everything.
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Speaker 1: So I'm tired of your girls tired. I'm tired. I've
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Speaker 1: slept in weeks.
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Speaker 3: So I just thought that it'd be fun to read
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Speaker 3: some reddit, specifically some wedding reddit, because now I'm very
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Speaker 3: well versed and I'm.
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Speaker 4: Very smart, and I'm very intellectual. In this case, probably not,
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Speaker 4: but I think it would just be fun because I
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Speaker 4: just had a wedding of sorts kind of. I eloped
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Speaker 4: and then had a just a casual, fun, almost like
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Speaker 4: family reunion type reception, like not a lot of structure.
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Speaker 4: It was so fun though, and I'm so happy because
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Speaker 4: I was stressing the scout the whole time, but it.
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Speaker 3: Was super fun. Had some really good friends play some
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Speaker 3: live music, had some delicious food. It was good time.
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Speaker 3: It's fairly relaxed. It was how exactly how klen I
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Speaker 3: wanted it, and I know people like it in a
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Speaker 3: different way, so I'm excited and I just want to
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Speaker 3: I just want to put a little veil over this
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Speaker 3: whole topic, being that I know everybody likes different stuff,
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Speaker 3: and I think that's super cool. These are just going
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Speaker 3: to be my opinions on these certain things based off
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Speaker 3: of what I know. Okay, and I don't know a lot.
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Speaker 3: Enough with the yappin' let's get to read. But first
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Speaker 3: I need to I need to put on my fucking
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Speaker 3: glasses because I can't see a thing. Get around because
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Speaker 3: now is Chris read screams.
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Speaker 1: Oh okay, let's do this thing. Okay.
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Speaker 3: Oh and also, if you like these reading Reddit videos,
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Speaker 3: I do have a second channel. It's called call me
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Speaker 3: Chris too, and I do a lot of reading Reddit
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Speaker 3: reacting all those like fun videos. So I do that
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Speaker 3: on that channel a lot. If you like it, you
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Speaker 3: can go watch it. Theah honey, Buffy, now you can
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Speaker 3: watch it right here. Sit down, snake, let's rate people's take.
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Speaker 3: Kobby asshole for telling my fiance I don't want his
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Speaker 3: best man coming to our wedding after what he did
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Speaker 3: at my birthday dinner.
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Speaker 1: Okay, little drama leading up to the wedding, we shall see.
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Speaker 3: So, I, twenty nine female, and my fiance, thirty one male,
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Speaker 3: have been together for four years. We are planning our
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Speaker 3: wedding for later this year, which has been going great
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Speaker 3: except for one person his best friend Kyle.
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Speaker 1: It's always a Kyle, isn't it.
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Speaker 3: Kyle is one of those dudes who peaked in high
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Speaker 3: school and is so insufferable. Why does that sound like
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Speaker 3: a Kyle. I'm sorry for names, Kyle, and you're watching this.
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Speaker 3: You're a good Kyle. But every Kyle I know is
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Speaker 3: like this. He is always making unnecessary jokes that seem
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Speaker 3: like insults, to be honest, But my fiance says he's
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Speaker 3: just goofy and immature, so I've tried to keep my
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Speaker 3: peace anyway. My birthday was two weeks ago. Nothing big happened,
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Speaker 3: just a dinner at a nice restaurant with close friends
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Speaker 3: and family. Near the end of it, someone mentioned the
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Speaker 3: wedding and how everything was going, and my fiance answered
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Speaker 3: and said, we were writing.
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Speaker 1: Our own vows. I said, I was nervous but excited.
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Speaker 3: That's so cute. I love when people write their own vows.
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Speaker 1: KAILI and I did.
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Speaker 3: That was really cute. Then Kyle said loudly. I think
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Speaker 3: everyone present in the restaurant heard. That's how loud he was.
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Speaker 3: Just don't cry halfway through your vows like you did
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Speaker 3: during your breakup. Remember that. And the table was dead, silent.
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Speaker 3: Oh brother. In the moment, I laughed it off because
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Speaker 3: I didn't want to create a scene there, but I
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Speaker 3: was humiliated. My dad was present, and my fiance was
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Speaker 3: aware of that breakup. It was ab sive and traumatic.
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Speaker 3: I later told him how hurt I was, and he
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Speaker 3: said Kyle was just being Kyle and you know how
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Speaker 3: he is, babe.
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Speaker 1: Oh, stand up for your woman, man, stand up for
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Speaker 1: your what for your future?
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Speaker 3: What? So I sat on it for a few days,
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Speaker 3: even though I was hurt, but then finally I told
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Speaker 3: him I don't want Kyle out at the wedding, not
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Speaker 3: at the rehearsal, not giving a speech, nothing nowhere. I
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Speaker 3: just don't want him there. Now, my fiance is saying,
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Speaker 3: I'm overreacting that Kyle was just trying to be funny
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Speaker 3: and kicking him off the list would destroy our fifteen
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Speaker 3: years of friendship. But honestly, if Kyle cannot respect me,
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Speaker 3: then why should I allow him to stand next to
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Speaker 3: the man I'm marrying. So, Amma the asshole refusing to
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Speaker 3: have Kyle at the wedding after this? Okay, So the
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Speaker 3: way I'm reading this, and I think I'm reading this right,
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Speaker 3: is that you were in this horrible relationship and you
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Speaker 3: broke up and cried about it and everything. I don't
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Speaker 3: know how he would know about that, but either way,
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Speaker 3: so inappropriate. There's those people that everything they say needs
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Speaker 3: to be a joke and they need to be like
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Speaker 3: the center of attention all the time, and Kyle is
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Speaker 3: that person. I think it's okay if you don't want
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Speaker 3: someone like that at your wedding, especially speaking at your
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Speaker 3: wedding oh my gosh, like who knows what's going to
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Speaker 3: come out of their mouth or like a loose cannon.
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Speaker 3: I understand that it's hard, though, Like with it being
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Speaker 3: his best friend, it's hard to ask that I think
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Speaker 3: of your partner. I think it would be okay to
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Speaker 3: be like, I really don't want him giving a speech.
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Speaker 3: Would you be able to talk to him about this
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Speaker 3: at the wedding because I really don't want him having
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Speaker 3: like outbursts and just you know, make it all about
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Speaker 3: himself and all that kind of stuff. I think there
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Speaker 3: needs to just be an extra conversation here then you
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Speaker 3: can base it off of that.
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Speaker 1: But I also really don't like that.
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Speaker 3: Your fiance didn't stand up for you in the moment
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Speaker 3: or even afterwards, like he just thought, Oh, Kyle's being Kyle.
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Speaker 3: That is so passive and so frustrating. I really don't
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Speaker 3: like that. But at the end of the day, I mean,
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Speaker 3: it's your guys's wedding, so if you can both mutually
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Speaker 3: agree on that, then great. But this is a tough
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Speaker 3: one because it is his best friend. So maybe it's
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Speaker 3: like setting boundaries at the wedding with him kind of thing,
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Speaker 3: but so inappropriate. I mean the fact that you've been
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Speaker 3: through such a horrible relationship and that he would do
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Speaker 3: that at at your dinner. I get the motive. I'm
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Speaker 3: curious to see what people say, not the asshole. I
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Speaker 3: hate when people like this get away with their terrible
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Speaker 3: behavior because their closest people say, oh, that's just how
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Speaker 3: they are. Agreed. If you have to tolerate the disrespect
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Speaker 3: because they don't know any better. He can't respect you
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Speaker 3: at dinner in a restaurant, he won't respect you at
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Speaker 3: your wedding. I'd be afraid he'd do something he thinks
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Speaker 3: it's funny, which would ruin it one hundred percent. That's
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Speaker 3: so dumb because they're an adult, and you don't think
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Speaker 3: we have to tell him like a child. Hey, don't
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Speaker 3: go on stage and embarrass us at our wedding. You know,
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Speaker 3: I don't know, not the asshole. No doubt. Inviting Kyle
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Speaker 3: will definitely ruin Opie's wedding and it'll be in the
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Speaker 3: way and no one expects. So the best solution for
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Speaker 3: op is to have a serious talk with a fiance
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Speaker 3: and make him decide what's important his wife or a
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Speaker 3: fifteen year friendship. Kyle is just being an asshole. Opie's
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Speaker 3: fiance allows him to be, which makes me think he
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Speaker 3: approves of it. As of his behavior. Some men won't
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Speaker 3: push their bride's face in the cake. They'll just let
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Speaker 3: their buddy do it. Damn that hits. It's so true though.
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Speaker 3: You're having a really good dinner right before your wedding
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Speaker 3: and it's supposed to be about you guys, and then
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Speaker 3: he just blurts out some shit like that, and it's
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Speaker 3: clue something he does all the time. I know, I
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Speaker 3: would feel very uncomfortable if I had somebody like this
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Speaker 3: at the wedding and was going to give a speech
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Speaker 3: and all that kind of stuff, I'd be I'd be
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Speaker 3: dreading it the whole time.
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Speaker 1: And that's not fair. It's you it's your guys' day.
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Speaker 3: You know this one says, agree with everything except for
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Speaker 3: making fiance pick what's more important. Ultimatums never work. I
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Speaker 3: do agree with that if she does that and fiance
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Speaker 3: picks her, he will eventually resent her. The conversation shouldn't
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Speaker 3: end with an ultimatum, but with her giving the ring
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Speaker 3: back and ending the relationship. Oh yeah, okay, left field,
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Speaker 3: it's really hard, Like it really kind of all comes
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Speaker 3: down on your fiance. Is he going to step up
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Speaker 3: and have a talk with his best friend and be like, Hey,
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Speaker 3: this is my wedding, this is going to be my
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Speaker 3: future wife. I want to start off really good and
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Speaker 3: I don't want you coming in and making it all
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Speaker 3: about you. Like he either needs to have that conversation
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Speaker 3: with him for him to go to the wedding, or
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Speaker 3: he needs to be like, hey, dude, with everything you're saying,
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Speaker 3: it's so not appropriate, my future wife does not feel
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Speaker 3: comfortable with having you at the wedding. That it's just
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Speaker 3: is what it is. And it's like he just has
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Speaker 3: to own up to his own actions. But yeah, I'm
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Speaker 3: curious what you guys think. I know it's a lot
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Speaker 3: to ask of your partner to have their best friend
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Speaker 3: not be there. But at this point, I don't know,
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Speaker 3: it seems sketchyting. Yeah, let's go to the next one.
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Speaker 3: yashole for telling my sister her wedding idea is oh dear,
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Speaker 3: is what I have to say, so fall, but let's
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Speaker 3: give them the benefit of the jout. My sister and
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Speaker 3: her fiance are getting married in September and they just
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Speaker 3: set out wedding invites on it. They basically said they
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Speaker 3: have everything they need, so if anyone wants to contribute,
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Speaker 3: they can give a cash contribution towards their honeymoon. They
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Speaker 3: are moving shortly after the wedding, so I get why
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Speaker 3: they don't want gifts. However, I found it really tacky,
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Speaker 3: and this weekend when they came over, I told them that,
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Speaker 3: oh okay, I thought they were gonna have like a
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Speaker 3: themed wedding and I thought it was gonna be tacky.
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Speaker 3: I was like, oh, is it Star Wars theater or something?
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Speaker 3: Because I love themed weddings. I think they're so fun.
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Speaker 3: But anyway, okay, they just want cat that's fair, that's
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Speaker 3: really They just don't want one about just stuff. I
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Speaker 3: think that's fair anyway, not in an accusatory way. Just
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Speaker 3: when they asked how we liked the invite my sister
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Speaker 3: designed it, I said, I like the card, but.
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Speaker 1: The asking for money was tacky.
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Speaker 3: I think gifts are different than money, and they shouldn't
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Speaker 3: ask for money if they didn't want gifts. My sister
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Speaker 3: got really upset it said it was voluntary, and I said,
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Speaker 3: so are gifts. She stormed off, and my parents had
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Speaker 3: been angry at me for being an asshole. Yeah, it's
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Speaker 3: not your wedding, they're not your gifts. Some people just
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Speaker 3: don't want a bunch of stuff, Like they just don't
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Speaker 3: need anything because they're moving. Usually, if you have a registry,
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Speaker 3: you're like, oh I need a toaster. I needed this,
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Speaker 3: I needed that. Some people just don't need all that stuff,
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Speaker 3: you know. I didn't have any sort of registry. I
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Speaker 3: told people to not bring any gifts at all. So
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Speaker 3: is that taki? Is that taki bitch being like, don't
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Speaker 3: bring presents? I always say your presence is presence enough
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Speaker 3: for me. That was our thing, and that's fine. You
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Speaker 3: can ask for whatever. Yeah, I think you're the asshole.
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Speaker 1: You're the asshole. This is now very very common.
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Speaker 3: Back in the old days, it made sense that twenty
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Speaker 3: one year olds who have never lived independently would be
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Speaker 3: in need of a full set of household items for
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Speaker 3: their first home together. So true. Nowadays, with more people
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Speaker 3: getting married later and living together first, there's really no
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Speaker 3: need to get them stuff they already have. It's increasingly
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Speaker 3: common to do a fund instead. You're allowed to privately
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Speaker 3: think it's tacky, but sharing your unsolicited opinion is very rude. Yeah,
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Speaker 3: I agree one hundred percent plus. This is a preferred
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Speaker 3: gift giving in Asian cultures. It is. It totally is.
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Speaker 3: I've been to many, you know, different weddings of different cultures,
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Speaker 3: and that is very popular. It's very strange that you
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Speaker 3: think it's tacky. What do you want to get her
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Speaker 3: a ceramic plate with both their faces on it? Where
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Speaker 3: they got to put that, Stacy, who's going to use that?
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Speaker 3: It'd be so weird to you should eat off your
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Speaker 3: own face? What a stupid idea, Stace. Nobody said that
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Speaker 3: I'm just coming up with them, did the asshole. It's
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Speaker 3: been common for a while to ask for donations for
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Speaker 3: a honeymoon or starting outfund. It's how you ask, similar
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Speaker 3: to when people ask for no additional flowers at a funeral,
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Speaker 3: but a donation to a charity instead would be kind.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's nice.
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Speaker 3: We actually did get a few people that donated to
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Speaker 3: causes on our behald, which I think was so sweet.
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Speaker 3: That is like such a such a sweet thing to do.
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Speaker 3: If if like the couple's not asking for something or
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Speaker 3: I think that's a really cool way to go about it. Now,
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Speaker 3: if they were doing this trend of asking for money
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Speaker 3: to cover their own wedding, that would be different. Like
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Speaker 3: charging people for the food, et cetera. Yeah, exactly, like
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Speaker 3: charging literally to get into the wedding. That would be strange.
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Speaker 3: When I got married, we used the Disney World Registry
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Speaker 3: and people put money towards experiences for us to do
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Speaker 3: our honeymoon. Oh my god, that's fun. See that's really cool.
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Speaker 3: We loved it and so did our guests. And when
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Speaker 3: we wrote our thank you cards, we were able to
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Speaker 3: say thank you for contributing to such a magical moment
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Speaker 3: for us. The carriage ride was a blast.
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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love that.
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Speaker 3: But a great idea, Yeah, I think, just a miserable,
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Speaker 3: miserable bitch, and you should just crawl into your hole
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Speaker 3: and you take your stupid ceramic plate with you. Okay, okay. Next,
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Speaker 3: I might for breaking off in almost nine month relationship
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Speaker 3: because she wanted a fancy wedding, no matter the cost
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Speaker 3: eo risting. I'm twenty three, she's twenty.
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Speaker 1: Oh my god, your babies.
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Speaker 3: Oh no, okay, I said that. For me, it's just
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Speaker 3: a day event for which I was willing to spend
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Speaker 3: more than five K or I'm guessing no more than
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Speaker 3: five K, and waste even more money from my family's
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Speaker 3: side just to showcase a fancy wedding and wanted to
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Speaker 3: invest money into our future, be it a home renovation,
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Speaker 3: saving towards kids, holidays together. Okay, well, so sorry. She
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Speaker 3: insisted that she wanted a fancy wedding, so we sat
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Speaker 3: down with a wedding planner, and what she envisioned would
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Speaker 3: be upwards of fifty thousand dollars.
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Speaker 1: That's a little different than five K. Here's a little
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Speaker 1: bit about ten times.
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Speaker 3: Actually, if we're doing the math here money which I
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Speaker 3: don't have laying around in money that I would not
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Speaker 3: be willing to spend for one ceremony. Yeah, okay, fair.
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Speaker 3: I told her that if she wants such a wedding,
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Speaker 3: I'm not the guy. She kept trying to convince me
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Speaker 3: and gaslight me how it's her youth, and it's one
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Speaker 3: in a lifetime event that will last her an eternal memory,
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Speaker 3: and all her friends and colleagues can be there, et cetera,
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Speaker 3: et cetera. She wasn't willing to compromise towards a smaller,
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Speaker 3: more reasonable wedding, and I broke it off, essentially kicking
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Speaker 3: her out of my house to live with her parents.
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Speaker 3: Oh wow. A few days later, she kept calling me
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Speaker 3: to reconsider, and I said, you had plenty of chances.
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Speaker 3: I'm not doing this again. Her parents are trying to
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Speaker 3: convince me to patch things up, but I refused to bend,
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Speaker 3: and quite frankly, deem it a massive red flag that
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Speaker 3: could potentially ruin my life in the long run. I
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Speaker 3: rather find a girl that wants something similar and places
16:29
Speaker 3: more importance on our future together than some meaningless wedding celebration.
16:33
Speaker 3: Everyone tells me I'm a kid and so hard headed
16:36
Speaker 3: in my circles. But I think I made a hard
16:38
Speaker 3: but right decision since I'm still young and capable. This
16:41
Speaker 3: isn't it. You know, the way you're phrasing this is harsh,
16:44
Speaker 3: but honestly, you guys aren't meant for each other, like
16:47
Speaker 3: just plain and simple. You never need a good reason,
16:51
Speaker 3: like a good reason to break up with somebody. It's like, oh,
16:53
Speaker 3: they have to cheat on me, they need to do
16:55
Speaker 3: something to me to have to do it because they're nice,
16:57
Speaker 3: and there's no reason to break up. You don't really
16:59
Speaker 3: need one. If you're not feeling it, if you don't
17:01
Speaker 3: feel compatible with somebody, don't be with that person. Because
17:04
Speaker 3: you have one life. It's extremely fleeting, and if you
17:07
Speaker 3: have very different opinions on something very big, which is
17:11
Speaker 3: your marriage, then I think that's okay. I don't think
17:14
Speaker 3: that makes you an asshole. You know, maybe there was
17:16
Speaker 3: a better way to go about it. I don't know
17:18
Speaker 3: if you could have been maybe a little miser but
17:20
Speaker 3: you laid it out. You said that you didn't want
17:22
Speaker 3: to spend a lot of money on a wedding, and
17:24
Speaker 3: that you wanted to put that money towards other things
17:26
Speaker 3: in the future. I think that's fair. And if she
17:28
Speaker 3: wants this big wedding and she wants to spend a
17:30
Speaker 3: bunch of money on it, that's also fair. She deserves
17:33
Speaker 3: that if she wants that, and hopefully she, you know,
17:36
Speaker 3: can get to a place where she can do that
17:38
Speaker 3: with somebody else. You know, everybody wants something different. That
17:41
Speaker 3: was a big conversation Caleb and I had. We're like,
17:44
Speaker 3: what do we want? We know that we wanted our
17:46
Speaker 3: ceremony to just be super super intimate, didn't I didn't
17:49
Speaker 3: want to get up in front of everybody, mostly because
17:51
Speaker 3: both of us have like so we're socially shoes and
17:53
Speaker 3: a like stuff, and like I just didn't feel comfortable
17:55
Speaker 3: with it, and he did neither. So we're like, let's
17:57
Speaker 3: just do a little thing on our own and then
17:58
Speaker 3: let's get our family together and just like a fun
18:00
Speaker 3: barbecue basically, And that was our wedding and we loved
18:04
Speaker 3: it and it was super fun. And you need to
18:05
Speaker 3: be on the same page with that stuff because that
18:07
Speaker 3: will absolutely translate into your relationship in the future. This
18:11
Speaker 3: sounded really like harsh, being like, it's my feelings, you know,
18:14
Speaker 3: it's my money and I want it now, But it's
18:17
Speaker 3: fair like you're just kind of laying it out like
18:19
Speaker 3: how it is. So I don't think you're the Assolet's
18:21
Speaker 3: see what people said, though not the asshole. Your ultimate
18:24
Speaker 3: plan is focusing on your marriage, not the wedding, which
18:26
Speaker 3: is the right idea. I will say that planning a
18:28
Speaker 3: wedding after only nine months is a bit premature, especially
18:31
Speaker 3: at your ages.
18:32
Speaker 1: There's a whole spectrum of all that. It just depends
18:35
Speaker 1: on the person.
18:36
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna have any opinion on that because I
18:37
Speaker 3: know some people that got married after a few months
18:39
Speaker 3: of knowing each other and they're still together. And I
18:40
Speaker 3: know people that got married after ten years of knowing
18:42
Speaker 3: each other and they didn't last. So I don't think
18:45
Speaker 3: anybody can have an opinion on that. Necessarily, everybody's different.
18:47
Speaker 3: But I do agree with that, like focusing on what
18:51
Speaker 3: your marriage is going to be like more so than
18:53
Speaker 3: your wedding. That wedding's gonna end. Wedding. My wedding ended.
18:56
Speaker 3: It was, it was a few days ago. It's gone, Okay,
18:59
Speaker 3: Now what how the rest of my life happens? Now
19:01
Speaker 3: my marriage happens, and that's what I'm looking forward to
19:03
Speaker 3: the most. The wedding was a beautiful day and I
19:05
Speaker 3: loved it, but I didn't want to make.
19:06
Speaker 1: It like my personality.
19:08
Speaker 3: I think people get lost in that a little bit.
19:10
Speaker 3: Everybody's different op As indicated above, your focus was the
19:13
Speaker 3: correct one. What you discovered was incompatibility. Better late than never.
19:17
Speaker 3: Your ex is only twenty. I doubt she's at the
19:20
Speaker 3: peak of emotional psychological maturity. By the way, traditionally it's
19:23
Speaker 3: the bride's parents you sponsor the wedding. That certainly could
19:25
Speaker 3: have been your counterproposal to her parents. I mean, I
19:28
Speaker 3: think if you're going there, that all gets messy too.
19:32
Speaker 3: You know, we're like more in a modern age now. Yeah,
19:35
Speaker 3: at this point, I wouldn't even dig deeper to be like, well,
19:37
Speaker 3: your parents have to pay for it, because it just
19:40
Speaker 3: seems like you guys aren't compatible. Oh my god, and
19:43
Speaker 3: I'll be askedah for upstaging the bride with an outfit
19:45
Speaker 3: that was approved prior to the wedding. Ooh, so you're
19:50
Speaker 3: just hot. Basically I love that for you. I feel like,
19:53
Speaker 3: if it was approved, I'm going to be on your side.
19:55
Speaker 3: But we'll see. It was my first Western wedding, Okay,
19:59
Speaker 3: fun was careful about avoiding any culture gaff. I'm friends
20:03
Speaker 3: with the groom and asked him for the dress code.
20:05
Speaker 3: It was dressing up to our nines in neutrals and pastels.
20:08
Speaker 3: I have this lovely sorry that fit the bill. I
20:11
Speaker 3: sent him a picture and he said it was perfect.
20:14
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I love that sorriies are so beautiful.
20:17
Speaker 3: Five months before the wedding, I met the bride with
20:19
Speaker 3: many of the groom's friends at a bar. I showed
20:21
Speaker 3: her pictures of the sorry to ask if it was appropriate.
20:25
Speaker 3: I also told her I'd be happy to buy a
20:26
Speaker 3: new outfit if it wasn't. So whatever she says will go.
20:29
Speaker 3: She said she was delighted and she'd be glad to
20:31
Speaker 3: have some culture added to her wedding pictures. It's a
20:34
Speaker 3: bit of a weird comment, but all right. Also, we
20:37
Speaker 3: have a picture of the sorry. I need to wait. Actually,
20:40
Speaker 3: you know we're going to save it the picture of
20:42
Speaker 3: the sorry till after wait. Okay. The day arrived, friends
20:45
Speaker 3: stayed in the back for the ceremony, so there weren't
20:47
Speaker 3: many eyes on me. For the reception, the bride changed
20:50
Speaker 3: into a gown that could be described as grayish white.
20:52
Speaker 3: It was the same fabric as my outfit. The majority
20:55
Speaker 3: of the outer layer of the gown was still white,
20:57
Speaker 3: though only the ambroidery was the same color as my sorry,
21:00
Speaker 3: and the underneath fabric had a hint of the same
21:02
Speaker 3: gray as mine, thus making it grayish. The groom, his mother,
21:06
Speaker 3: and our friends complimented me for how nice I looked.
21:09
Speaker 3: The groom's mother especially loved it, as she kept coming
21:11
Speaker 3: to me to compliment me more. She's half Indian and
21:14
Speaker 3: was brought up in the country. She too had worn
21:17
Speaker 3: a sorry for a special day, and seeing someone else
21:19
Speaker 3: in it seemed to be sentimental for her. The bride
21:22
Speaker 3: and her bridesmaids, though, were a different ballgame. The bride
21:26
Speaker 3: gave me the stink eye, a bridesmaid tried to spill
21:28
Speaker 3: her drink on me. Another commented if my outfit was
21:32
Speaker 3: going to turn out white in the pictures. When we
21:34
Speaker 3: showed up to get group pictures done, I thoughtlessly ended
21:37
Speaker 3: up standing next to the couple. The bridemaid moves so
21:40
Speaker 3: that I ended up at the very corner by the
21:42
Speaker 3: time the photographer started clicking. As we stood in a
21:45
Speaker 3: group for the bouquet throwing thingy, The maid of honor
21:47
Speaker 3: asked if I'm going to try to catch it, like
21:49
Speaker 3: I haven't gotten enough attention for the day. On our
21:52
Speaker 3: way back, I asked my friends if my behavior or
21:55
Speaker 3: outfit was inappropriate. They didn't think anything of it. Oh,
21:59
Speaker 3: we need to see a picture of sorry, let's look.
22:00
Speaker 3: Oh we don't have like this. Oh wait, oh my god. Okay,
22:03
Speaker 3: that's beautiful. Wow, it's like blue to me, dove gray. Okay,
22:10
Speaker 3: it's like a bluey gray that doesn't look white at
22:13
Speaker 3: all to me. But also it doesn't matter because the
22:16
Speaker 3: groom and the bride said it was okay before the wedding.
22:20
Speaker 3: Like that just automatically makes you not at fault at all.
22:24
Speaker 3: You're probably just you probably looked fucking stunning at it.
22:27
Speaker 3: And people, god, yellous. Oh this makes me so uncomfy,
22:29
Speaker 3: especially the drink thing, like how fing rude? Oh my god,
22:33
Speaker 3: that is so petty and terrible. I had a few
22:35
Speaker 3: people for my wedding send me pictures because they had
22:38
Speaker 3: like patterns. They had like flowers on a white dress,
22:40
Speaker 3: but the flowers were red, and I was just like
22:43
Speaker 3: give or dude, Like we didn't really have a dress code.
22:45
Speaker 3: It was like be comfy, dress up if you want,
22:47
Speaker 3: don't if you don't want, you know, like it was
22:49
Speaker 3: like an upscale barbecue kind of thing, but like not
22:52
Speaker 3: even most guys were in like jeans and most girls
22:54
Speaker 3: were just in like sun dresses or whatever. But if
22:56
Speaker 3: you're not gonna say it when you see the picture,
22:58
Speaker 3: Like if that bride saw the picture and I was like,
23:01
Speaker 3: you know what, I think it's just like a little
23:03
Speaker 3: too close to white, I'd feel better, then that's on her.
23:07
Speaker 3: If she's not comfortable doing that, then that's on her.
23:09
Speaker 3: Or even like saying something, and maybe she said okay
23:11
Speaker 3: in person and then she thought of it and she
23:13
Speaker 3: was like, actually, no, I'm not okay with that. Later,
23:15
Speaker 3: it's not your fault to the least, not the asshole
23:17
Speaker 3: you just met a school of me and girls. Absolutely,
23:19
Speaker 3: that's exactly what reminds me of, Oh my god, there's
23:22
Speaker 3: no telling what such people will get up to. I
23:23
Speaker 3: think you had taken every possible precaution with your outfit,
23:26
Speaker 3: in fact, much more than most people would have. You
23:29
Speaker 3: went above and beyond, And that was such a cultural
23:31
Speaker 3: shock for me. Hospitality being one of the highest virtues
23:34
Speaker 3: is an idea that's hammered into us as kids not
23:37
Speaker 3: even exaggerating.
23:38
Speaker 1: We're taught guests are akin to God.
23:40
Speaker 3: So it was unsettling to have the host and her
23:43
Speaker 3: frenzy so obvious with their disdain. That's half the reason
23:46
Speaker 3: I didn't even react to any of it, the other
23:48
Speaker 3: half being the cultural commonality of it being inappropriate to
23:51
Speaker 3: get confrontational and create a scene at a wedding lall true.
23:55
Speaker 3: Forget that was there any damage to the sorry after
23:57
Speaker 3: they tried to ruin it? That is expensive too. Not
24:00
Speaker 3: the asshole tell the groom no, a friend moved me
24:03
Speaker 3: out of the way just in time. A bit of
24:04
Speaker 3: spotter did end up on the edge. Nothing a sorry
24:07
Speaker 3: specialist dry cleaner can't fix. Ps. Not telling the groom
24:10
Speaker 3: a thing. I don't wish to put him in an
24:12
Speaker 3: awkward position or be the source of drama in a
24:14
Speaker 3: newlywed couple's life.
24:15
Speaker 1: Wow, that is so who is the Can I be friends?
24:18
Speaker 2: You said?
24:18
Speaker 3: Great? That is very mature, but yeah, like so true though,
24:21
Speaker 3: It's like it's the day of the wedding and you
24:25
Speaker 3: are a guest at the wedding. Why cause more shit?
24:27
Speaker 3: You know, I'm assuming you probably don't want to be
24:30
Speaker 3: in this woman's life much anyway anymore. So I would
24:33
Speaker 3: just you know, chalk it up to a shitty experience.
24:37
Speaker 3: You looked amazing, got gassed up by the guests, which
24:40
Speaker 3: I love for you for the most part, besides of
24:41
Speaker 3: mean girls, and just take that, sorry to another event
24:45
Speaker 3: because you don't deserve that. So I'm sorry that sucks.
24:48
Speaker 3: But let me know what you think of the comments.
24:49
Speaker 3: Let's move on to the next morning, not the asshole.
24:51
Speaker 1: We're having a dry wedding and serving only water or drinks. Okay,
24:57
Speaker 1: this is a touchy subject.
24:59
Speaker 3: Let's dive in. If you you don't know what dry
25:00
Speaker 3: wedding is, that means there's no booze throwaway only because
25:03
Speaker 3: I don't want this on my main Okay, So basically,
25:05
Speaker 3: my husband and I are getting married later this year.
25:07
Speaker 3: Each of our sides of the family are fairly big.
25:09
Speaker 3: It will be around one hundred to one hundred and
25:11
Speaker 3: fifty people total. My husband and I are paying for
25:13
Speaker 3: this all ourselves, as well as my grandma, who said
25:16
Speaker 3: she doesn't care one way or the other on this issue.
25:19
Speaker 3: She just loves weddings. We have a lot of kids
25:21
Speaker 3: in our family, so we decided against making it child free,
25:24
Speaker 3: but we did decide to make it dry, so there
25:26
Speaker 3: will be no alcohol of any kind at our wedding. Honestly,
25:29
Speaker 3: this doesn't have anything to do with their being kids there,
25:31
Speaker 3: but due to the fact that my fiance and I
25:33
Speaker 3: don't drink nothing against people who do. It's stuff for
25:37
Speaker 3: us and we don't want to. On top of that,
25:39
Speaker 3: we only really drink water. We rarely, if ever drinks soda,
25:42
Speaker 3: so most of the time it's only water with the
25:44
Speaker 3: occasional juice and milk. We don't even drink coffee.
25:46
Speaker 5: Ooh, I'm going to have an opinion nif So Obviously
25:51
Speaker 5: the food, which is a part my grandma is not
25:54
Speaker 5: paying for, is going to be expensive for that many people.
25:57
Speaker 3: We're having our wedding catered, so everyone will have a
25:59
Speaker 3: good choice of food to choose from, but to drink
26:01
Speaker 3: only water will be provided. We don't want to have
26:03
Speaker 3: to pay for alcohol or soda. It is just a
26:05
Speaker 3: large added expense when we can just do filtered water
26:09
Speaker 3: for a much cheaper cost. Well, my family and friends
26:11
Speaker 3: found out, they got angry. Some didn't really care, but
26:15
Speaker 3: some are really upset about it, saying that I can
26:17
Speaker 3: just have an open bar so I don't have to
26:19
Speaker 3: pay for drinks. Open bar means they don't have to
26:22
Speaker 3: pay for drinks. I think you mean a cash bar.
26:24
Speaker 3: I guess, so saying that I can have a cash
26:26
Speaker 3: bar so they don't have to pay for drinks.
26:27
Speaker 1: We could but still have to pay for the bartender.
26:29
Speaker 3: And we just don't really want to bother with alcohol there.
26:32
Speaker 3: Or we should at least have soda, because how can
26:34
Speaker 3: we expect everyone to drink only water? The kids will
26:37
Speaker 3: be upset, the wedding will be boring that this is
26:39
Speaker 3: not how weddings work, et cetera. Gyees, so am I
26:42
Speaker 3: the asshole? I didn't think this would be a problem.
26:44
Speaker 3: It's only water. I mean, don't most people drink water
26:46
Speaker 3: every day anyway? Should we pay the extra to have
26:48
Speaker 3: soda to make the family happy? Okay? Caleb and I
26:53
Speaker 3: don't drink like maybe once, maybe like twice a year.
26:56
Speaker 3: I might have like a glass of wine if it's
26:58
Speaker 3: for like a really special occasion. I guess a wedding
27:00
Speaker 3: is a special occasion. But I didn't even end up drinking.
27:02
Speaker 3: We just don't, just for our own personal reasons. I
27:05
Speaker 3: have in the past, and I've just realized it's just
27:07
Speaker 3: not for me. So I haven't for a long time,
27:09
Speaker 3: but we still had it at the wedding because the
27:12
Speaker 3: other people aren't us. There's other people in the world
27:15
Speaker 3: with other things that they want, you know, So I
27:17
Speaker 3: think taking that into consideration is important. It's hard because
27:21
Speaker 3: I get where you're coming from. It's your wedding. If
27:24
Speaker 3: you don't want to pay for something you don't have to.
27:26
Speaker 3: You could also say, bring your own byob bring your
27:29
Speaker 3: own booze if you want to, but it sounds like
27:31
Speaker 3: you just don't want any booze at the wedding to
27:33
Speaker 3: begin with. If that's an option, then maybe there's some
27:36
Speaker 3: some leeway there, Like you can you can bring your own,
27:39
Speaker 3: you know, six pack or your own thing. I know
27:42
Speaker 3: people have let that have done that and it's been fine.
27:44
Speaker 3: Like it's like a tailgate wedding kind of thing. Everybody
27:47
Speaker 3: can just bring their own stuff. And I know it
27:48
Speaker 3: depends on the venue too. Some venues don't let you
27:50
Speaker 3: do that. It's kind of hard because it is your
27:52
Speaker 3: wedding and you should have the wedding that you want.
27:54
Speaker 3: But at the end of the day, your wedding is
27:55
Speaker 3: a party that is going to have many, many people,
27:58
Speaker 3: so you want to be like, oh little bit accommodating.
28:01
Speaker 3: But I understand that alcohol is is quite expensive, but
28:05
Speaker 3: the cash bar thing is a good way of getting
28:07
Speaker 3: around that, and it's different wherever you are for bartenders
28:12
Speaker 3: and everything. So I don't know. It's kind of hard
28:14
Speaker 3: to call you an asshole because if you don't have
28:17
Speaker 3: the funds for it and you don't want it, then
28:20
Speaker 3: that's okay. But being accommodating is just like to a
28:23
Speaker 3: certain degree, even if it's just asking the guests to
28:26
Speaker 3: bring their own stuff and that's okay, then that's nice.
28:29
Speaker 3: I'm really curious to see what the comments say. So
28:31
Speaker 3: I said, I know that technically you could be in
28:33
Speaker 3: the right. But here's the thing about weddings. The marriage
28:36
Speaker 3: ceremony is for you and your fiance, and the wedding
28:39
Speaker 3: is for everyone. You're you invited. It's an event you're hosting,
28:42
Speaker 3: and not providing any drinks other than water makes you
28:45
Speaker 3: a bad host. Run it, tell it how it is,
28:47
Speaker 3: you know. I've been to dry weddings. There was a
28:49
Speaker 3: couple that put real thought and effort into designing mocktails
28:52
Speaker 3: themed around the relationship.
28:53
Speaker 1: That's really cute.
28:54
Speaker 3: I had some uh, well, not the mocktails, but cocktails
28:56
Speaker 3: that you could make into mocktails.
28:58
Speaker 1: We had Death Proof.
28:59
Speaker 3: Which is one of our favorite movies, death Proof, and
29:02
Speaker 3: it also just went along with a drink name. It
29:03
Speaker 3: was like a rum Chota drink. And then another one
29:06
Speaker 3: was a Doctor Pepper drink because Caleble loves Doctor Pepper,
29:08
Speaker 3: and it was Drunken Master Pepper because we love the
29:11
Speaker 3: movie Drunken Master. It's our favorite Jeckie Chan movie. So
29:13
Speaker 3: it's seat of Doctor Pepper was Drunken Master Pepper and
29:16
Speaker 3: people loved it. Anyways, stop making this about yourself, Risina.
29:19
Speaker 3: Goddamn it, bitch. When you're hosting an event, your job
29:22
Speaker 3: as a hostess is to take care of your guests.
29:24
Speaker 3: Just because it follows a marriage ceremony doesn't make you
29:26
Speaker 3: a less less the host of an event. I kind
29:29
Speaker 3: of agree, and that means providing more than a one
29:31
Speaker 3: drink option, especially non alcoholic, especially to an event your
29:34
Speaker 3: guests are incuring expenses to attend and bringing gifts as well.
29:38
Speaker 3: You're the asshole. Honestly, I fully support a dry wedding,
29:40
Speaker 3: but only water as a beverage. As being a cheap
29:42
Speaker 3: host who this person said, I went to a dry
29:45
Speaker 3: wedding the bride and groom had both struggled with alcoholism.
29:48
Speaker 3: Totally fair. That had like three different mocktails to choose from,
29:51
Speaker 3: and it made it very celebratory and still feel adults.
29:54
Speaker 3: Was a lot of fun. That's fun, that's accommodating, and
29:56
Speaker 3: that makes sense. You know, why would you surround yourself
29:59
Speaker 3: with alcohol if you struggle with it? And I feel
30:01
Speaker 3: like everyone would understand that. So we said, I hope
30:03
Speaker 3: that in twenty years everyone's still saying, you remember that
30:06
Speaker 3: wedding we had to smuggle into leader of PEPSI that's
30:08
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. I mean, isn't there a world where
30:10
Speaker 3: you could say, bring your own booze or bring your
30:12
Speaker 3: own drinks too. But again, like you're asking people to
30:15
Speaker 3: travel to your wedding and do all this stuff and
30:17
Speaker 3: then to just offer water seems like, I don't know,
30:20
Speaker 3: like what about coffee or like tea tease water. It's
30:23
Speaker 3: just get tea bags. You know, it's pretty cheap to
30:25
Speaker 3: just get like one hundred tea bags. Not everybody wants
30:27
Speaker 3: tea though it's coffee is pretty cheap. I don't know.
30:29
Speaker 3: I still don't want to call you an asshole because
30:31
Speaker 3: at the end of the day, it's your wedding, and
30:33
Speaker 3: if people are upset with it, it is what it is.
30:34
Speaker 3: But it's just it's just, you know, being kind of
30:38
Speaker 3: a catering host if you will to offer that. But
30:41
Speaker 3: people in Reddit are ripping you apart, so I think
30:44
Speaker 3: they think you're the asshole. I'm curious to see what
30:46
Speaker 3: my audience thinks. I always love reading your comments on
30:49
Speaker 3: these types of videos, so please comment up below. It's
30:51
Speaker 3: all for this. I also just want to say thank
30:53
Speaker 3: you so much for all the congratulations for Caleb and
30:55
Speaker 3: I's marriage.
30:57
Speaker 1: I am so happy. We are so happy.
31:00
Speaker 3: The past few days we've just been on a cloud
31:02
Speaker 3: nine just being surrounded by loved ones and having such
31:05
Speaker 3: a loving audience and I'm just like so incredibly grateful.
31:09
Speaker 3: So thank you, thank you for that.
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Speaker 3: obviously business you'll channel. Ever, I also want a candy
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Speaker 3: company with my husband. It's called Sour Boys. Go to
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Speaker 3: sour dot gig if you want to buy some it's delicious.
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Speaker 3: We actually had these as some of the party favors
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Speaker 3: at our wedding. People loved it, along with like local
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Speaker 3: honey and local barbecue and local cookies and that kind
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Speaker 3: of thing. I have a channel with Selena'spooky Boo called
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Speaker 3: Can't Sleep. We do a podcast where you ghost hunting.
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Speaker 3: It's super fun, and I also have my second channel.
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Speaker 3: I'll call me Chris too if you want to do that,
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Speaker 3: But until next time, I will see you a beautiful face.
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Speaker 4: Fine,