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Weekend Recap... · Billy & Lisa in the Morning: The After Show

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  Speaker 1: Hello friends, Welcome int to the After Show podcast. It's
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  Speaker 1: justin here. It is on Monday. Today is Wow, November tenth,
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  Speaker 1: fresh back from Vermont. I had a beautiful weekend with
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  Speaker 1: my wife. We went up there like we do every
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  Speaker 1: single year for many years. I'll share more about that
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  Speaker 1: in a minute. No guests today. Tomorrow, though, we got
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  Speaker 1: Maddie and Damon from Power of Recovery. These are my
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  Speaker 1: favorite podcasts to do. They're gonna be sad, obviously because
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  Speaker 1: you know, last time they were in when he was
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  Speaker 1: here and now she's not, so that'll be an adjustment.
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  Speaker 1: But I love these guys so much. Obviously I got
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  Speaker 1: clean with Damon and Maddie that for that matter. And
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  Speaker 1: you know, I love Power of Recovery. I love what
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  Speaker 1: they do and I love having them on because you know,
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  Speaker 1: it's raw and we'll share about recovery stuff and maybe
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  Speaker 1: some you know, some of the not so good times.
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  Speaker 1: So I do want to say, though, if you have
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  Speaker 1: any questions, because Maddie loves to answer questions. He is
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  Speaker 1: the recovery guy. If you you know a loved one,
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  Speaker 1: anyone you know is struggling, or if you have any
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  Speaker 1: general questions about recovery and what he does and sober
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  Speaker 1: houses and adolescent units and anything. If you have kids,
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  Speaker 1: leave a talkback on the iHeart App. I will play
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  Speaker 1: them for Maddie and Damon tomorrow so they can answer them.
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  Speaker 1: So on the iHeart App, leave a talkback for Maddie
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  Speaker 1: and Damon from Power of Recovery. And I did miss them.
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  Speaker 1: This weekend, I was at a recovery event in Burlington, Vermont.
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  Speaker 1: My wife and I have been going there since like
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  Speaker 1: two thousand and nine, I believe was my first year.
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  Speaker 1: She had gone the year before. It's every single year.
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  Speaker 1: It's right in downtown Burlington, Vermont. It is beautiful up there,
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  Speaker 1: and it's kind of, you know, it's changed a bit.
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  Speaker 1: You know, before when I had just gotten clean and stuff,
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  Speaker 1: we'd go up every year and we'd be at this
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  Speaker 1: you know, recovery event all day long, in and out
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  Speaker 1: of different meetings and events and all that stuff. And
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  Speaker 1: we still still are to some degree, but mostly it's
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  Speaker 1: a getaway for us. So it's about going to the
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  Speaker 1: event in the recovery part, but it's also a getaway.
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  Speaker 1: So for example, you know, Saturday, typically we would be
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  Speaker 1: at the event all day, you know, in and out
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  Speaker 1: of meetings and hanging and hanging with all the people.
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  Speaker 1: But now, like I send her on a SPA day,
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  Speaker 1: I go to the gym. They have this sick gym
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  Speaker 1: up there, which I love, and then you know, we
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  Speaker 1: meet up after that, we get dinner, and then we
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  Speaker 1: go to like the main event that they have there.
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  Speaker 1: They've speakers from all over the country. It's a really
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  Speaker 1: really cool event, and you know, I love every part
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  Speaker 1: of it. I love to drive up there. Vermont is
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  Speaker 1: beautiful and there's so many great memories of going up there,
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  Speaker 1: So I'm so happy we get to do that once again.
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  Speaker 1: Obviously we had kids, we took some years off, but
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  Speaker 1: now we go again. And you know, I think these
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  Speaker 1: weekends are so important to our marriage. Listen, man, Being
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  Speaker 1: in a relationship long term, you know, relationship, marriage is
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  Speaker 1: so it's hard. It takes work, it really does, and
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  Speaker 1: especially when you have young kids, it becomes very what's
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  Speaker 1: the word, very routine, right, It becomes like it's all
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  Speaker 1: about the kids, and it's very easy to forget about
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  Speaker 1: us in what we need as a couple. And so
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  Speaker 1: that's why these weekends are so important for us to
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  Speaker 1: get away and to kind of not reignite the flame,
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  Speaker 1: but you know, spend some quality time together, some intimate
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  Speaker 1: times to get together. And when I say intimate, I
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  Speaker 1: just don't. I don't mean just sex. I mean, obviously
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  Speaker 1: that's a part of it, but it just means intimate
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  Speaker 1: together closeness. And we had a great talk on the
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  Speaker 1: way up there. We spent some time together. I did,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I sent her off to like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: here's my credit card, like go you know, every day
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  Speaker 1: she got a massage, a foot rub, she went on
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  Speaker 1: a shopping spree. You know, just here. You deserve this,
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  Speaker 1: Like she does most of the work with our kids.
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  Speaker 1: You deserve this. So that was really cool. She loved that,
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  Speaker 1: and we come back refreshed and full of energy. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know, man, I just feel like I feel like
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  Speaker 1: when you're in a long term relationship and this is
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  Speaker 1: for the guy or the girl, Like I said, you
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  Speaker 1: can get caught into that routine thing. But I also
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  Speaker 1: think that, you know, you need to do things to
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  Speaker 1: spice up the relationship, right, you need to do things
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  Speaker 1: that are exciting again, you know, and going with going
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  Speaker 1: out with my wife and going to a cool restaurant
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  Speaker 1: and having good conversation. Not being on our phones like
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  Speaker 1: that to me is spicing it up. You know, it's
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  Speaker 1: about changing things, doing things differently. You know it's not easy,
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  Speaker 1: but I just believe in life, like you find somebody,
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  Speaker 1: you find your person, and you work to work on
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  Speaker 1: that relationship. You know. We would driving home and she
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  Speaker 1: was asking me. She asked me a random question. She said,
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  Speaker 1: you know, do you ever think about other women, like sexually?
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  Speaker 1: She asked me that question. It's a long story how
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  Speaker 1: we got there. I can't talk about all that, but
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  Speaker 1: she just like randomly asked me. She was like, well,
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  Speaker 1: what about you? And I'm like, do I look at
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  Speaker 1: other women? Of course, I'm not even gonna ask you.
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  Speaker 1: If you look at other guys and be like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: he's cute. If you have that thought, that's human nature.
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  Speaker 1: But for me, it's like from a guy's perspective, if
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  Speaker 1: I get into the point of view, right of Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I've been with the same woman for so many years. Right,
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  Speaker 1: you've here this, You've hear this all the time. Right, Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I've had sex with the same woman, this, this, this
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  Speaker 1: amount of times I've been with her so long. It's boring.
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  Speaker 1: If you have that mentality then you're fucking doomed. Man.
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  Speaker 1: You know, like, you find your person, and when it
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  Speaker 1: gets to a point where maybe it comes off like
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  Speaker 1: boring or the same old thing over and over again,
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  Speaker 1: then switch it up, right, have communication with your person
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  Speaker 1: to say, hey, let's try this. Are you willing to
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  Speaker 1: try this, Let's let's do this, you know, whatever that
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  Speaker 1: may be. Use your imagination and make it exciting again. So, like,
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  Speaker 1: that's what I took from this weekend, especially because the
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  Speaker 1: weeks leading up to going away had gotten like that.
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  Speaker 1: You know, every day is the same thing. It's Groundhog Day, right,
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  Speaker 1: It's all about the kids, getting the kids home from school,
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  Speaker 1: getting them dinner, putting them to bed, We go to bed.
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  Speaker 1: We you know, we don't have any time together. So
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  Speaker 1: this weekend was really important. So you know, I love
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  Speaker 1: my wife so much. Man, she really is is is
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  Speaker 1: the Queen. You know, She's really special. And so for you,
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  Speaker 1: I hope that you have found that special person or
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  Speaker 1: you will eventually one day find that person, because that
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  Speaker 1: person is definitely out there, Like, look, there could be
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  Speaker 1: there's how many people in the world, you know, you
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  Speaker 1: don't just I don't believe you just have one person
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  Speaker 1: in the world that you're destined to be with. I
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  Speaker 1: don't believe that. I believe you have people that you
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  Speaker 1: vibe with and you gel with, and like those are
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  Speaker 1: the people that when you get with them, you work
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  Speaker 1: on that relationship. That's what I'm saying. So other than that,
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  Speaker 1: I hope you had a great weekend. Lisa is out
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  Speaker 1: this week. She is taking some time off. This has
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  Speaker 1: been planned for months and months and months, like even
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  Speaker 1: before all the changes happened on the show, it was
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  Speaker 1: always gonna be, you know, when Billy's out, Mikey sits in.
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  Speaker 1: When Lisa's out, Gianna sits in. You know, they do
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  Speaker 1: the afternoon show. So it's been fun having her in,
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  Speaker 1: having you know, a Gianna new person fill in for
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  Speaker 1: the show and then produce a Riley cover in the
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  Speaker 1: traffic too. It's good. It's a good little switch up,
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  Speaker 1: and it's a good rest and relaxation for Lisa. Obviously
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  Speaker 1: she's had quite the year busy personal things going on,
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  Speaker 1: so she took some time off just to like sleep
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  Speaker 1: in a little bit, you know what I mean. So
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  Speaker 1: Gianna will be here all week and then tomorrow Power
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  Speaker 1: of Recovery, Maddie and Damon leave a talkback. Let's let's
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  Speaker 1: start the discussion. If you have any crazy questions, or
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  Speaker 1: you know, if you have somebody that's struggling, or if
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  Speaker 1: you're struggling yourself, you can leave a talkback on the
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  Speaker 1: iHeart app I after that. I don't know what's gonna
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  Speaker 1: happen with the after show as far as guests, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm working on it, man, And you know, if you
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  Speaker 1: don't mind, some days, I'll just talk and I'll just
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  Speaker 1: share what's on my mind, whether it be like relationship
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  Speaker 1: stuff or stuff with the show, of stuff with my friends,
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  Speaker 1: is always things going on that we can chat about.
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  Speaker 1: My after show, Army, So have a great day. Everybody
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  Speaker 1: kind of shitty out there today, but I think hopefully
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  Speaker 1: the weather will get better tomorrow. I I peace,