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RUTH AND JESS TELL US ABOUT A FOOTBALL MATCH IN MEMORY OF RUTH'S LATE HUSBAND ALEX. · The Folkestone & Hythe Sports Podcast

• 0:07
  Speaker 1: Good morning sports fans of folks there and good morning folks,
• 0:10
  Speaker 1: a nice bright sunny day out there.
• 0:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah here today.
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  Speaker 1: Is me Adi Daults giving you the Sports show along
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  Speaker 1: with Kevin the sports ferit Daily.
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  Speaker 2: Good morning Kevin Adrian. I'm good mate, Yeah you yeah
• 0:23
  Speaker 2: and good thanks.
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  Speaker 3: A big day for you today on.
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  Speaker 1: The football Yeah, today could be the day that we
• 0:29
  Speaker 1: finally get promotion to the National League South. We got
• 0:33
  Speaker 1: two guests in this morning. We've got Jess and Ruth.
• 0:35
  Speaker 1: They're going to be telling us about charity football game
• 0:38
  Speaker 1: at Folks in Victor Football Club two weeks today is
• 0:42
  Speaker 1: ladies here yep, so there you go two weeks today
• 0:46
  Speaker 1: at the Folks Football ground. Sober makes sure to get
• 0:50
  Speaker 1: over there and we will tell you all about that
• 0:52
  Speaker 1: very very shortly. What have you got to this morning, keV?
• 0:55
  Speaker 3: Well, I had a really busy show on Thursday.
• 0:59
  Speaker 2: I had a guest.
• 1:00
  Speaker 3: It's just I didn't do any local sports, so I
• 1:02
  Speaker 3: got loads really, but I really want to focus on
• 1:05
  Speaker 3: the on the interview. I was on the mic at
• 1:08
  Speaker 3: the FoST for ten mile races and on my word,
• 1:12
  Speaker 3: the wind was so strong.
• 1:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you look like he was being blown out.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it was good.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it was.
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  Speaker 3: They had five miles of heaven running out and then
• 1:20
  Speaker 3: they turn round into a brick walk. I'm going to
• 1:24
  Speaker 3: do a little round up. Hockey finished last week, so
• 1:27
  Speaker 3: I've got the kind of round up of all the
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  Speaker 3: teams and where they finished in the league, and I
• 1:33
  Speaker 3: don't know anything else I could squeeze it really at
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  Speaker 3: the time.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, it's going to be a tight hour today.
• 1:38
  Speaker 1: We've got fifty seven minutes left of that hour. We've
• 1:41
  Speaker 1: got chess and rufus say. We're gonna have a nice
• 1:43
  Speaker 1: chat with them very very shortly. And yeah, my trip
• 1:46
  Speaker 1: today to Saint Albans City for that crucial game in
• 1:53
  Speaker 1: the It'smian Premier League. We get a point today and
• 1:57
  Speaker 1: we are in the National League South, so we're talking
• 1:59
  Speaker 1: about that and also the disappointment of the game last
• 2:03
  Speaker 1: Saturday against Carl shut and Athletic. Right, okay, we'll start
• 2:07
  Speaker 1: off with songs morning. One of my favorite bands, this
• 2:10
  Speaker 1: is the Jam. This is a town called Malice. Fantastic
• 2:35
  Speaker 1: Paul Weller there and the Jam from nineteen eighty two,
• 2:38
  Speaker 1: What a brilliant year and that was.
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  Speaker 3: For music and what does that reminds you?
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  Speaker 2: Straight away?
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  Speaker 3: Apart from you might have been to see these groups.
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  Speaker 3: But I mean, straight away, I'm watching Billy Elliott.
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  Speaker 2: Oh god, and at the same.
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  Speaker 3: Where he's really angry and he's kicking the to willot'sy
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  Speaker 3: and banging.
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  Speaker 1: The wall and there, well, to me a town called Malice.
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  Speaker 1: I can't really say too much because we used to
• 3:00
  Speaker 1: change the name from Malice to Challis, which was my
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  Speaker 1: best friend Tony who died in two thousand and two,
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  Speaker 1: and we used to call it something else called Matt
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  Speaker 1: called Chalie. But yeah, nineteen eighty two fantastic year for
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  Speaker 1: music for me and a lot of memories.
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  Speaker 3: Right good, it's funny songs always just could be happy,
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  Speaker 3: could be said, Yeah, songs always king.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And we're just speaking to Rufe there while we had
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  Speaker 1: the jam on there she said Alex. Alex's faker band
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  Speaker 1: was Red Hot Chili Peppers and all bye.
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  Speaker 2: Coincidence. That's on the on the planelist thesult this morning.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, okay, So let's say, I guess now I
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  Speaker 3: want to introduce you to two lovely ladies who've come
• 3:42
  Speaker 3: in today. We want to say good morning to you. Ruth.
• 3:44
  Speaker 3: Good morning, Ruth, how are you?
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  Speaker 4: Good morning?
• 3:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah, good, thank you, good, thanks for coming in and
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  Speaker 3: just good morning to you.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, good, thank you.
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  Speaker 3: And and are you old friends? Have you got to
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  Speaker 3: school together or you just tell.
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  Speaker 5: Us we've been friends since we were one, so.
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  Speaker 3: You haven't told us how long that is? Something year?
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  Speaker 4: You know, we went through primary, secondary, college, everything together
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  Speaker 4: and were still still standing.
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  Speaker 3: Oh that's lovely, Yeah, brilliant. So so Rufe, we've got
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  Speaker 3: this game plan and it's the second year of running.
• 4:16
  Speaker 3: Adrian was down on the PA last year. Knows a
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  Speaker 3: bit more than myself. So if you like, let's take
• 4:22
  Speaker 3: us back and Sada, you lost your husband Alex, and
• 4:26
  Speaker 3: tell us about that sort of last journey.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. So Alex and I were together, Well, it would
• 4:33
  Speaker 4: have been nine years this month, but we lost him
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  Speaker 4: in September twenty twenty four. He was diagnosed in twenty nineteen.
• 4:43
  Speaker 4: It was with cancer, and unfortunately he didn't really show
• 4:47
  Speaker 4: any symptoms, so by the time it was found it
• 4:50
  Speaker 4: had already spread, so we knew straight away that it
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  Speaker 4: was terminal. But anyone that knew Alex knew that he
• 4:56
  Speaker 4: wasn't going to give up without a fight, and he
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  Speaker 4: was so positive and went through years and years of
• 5:02
  Speaker 4: treatment and he was doing really well until first of
• 5:05
  Speaker 4: August twenty twenty four he went up to bed a
• 5:10
  Speaker 4: little bit before me and he had a stroke. Our
• 5:13
  Speaker 4: little child was only four months at the time, and yeah,
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  Speaker 4: that was unfortunately the start of the end, really, and
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  Speaker 4: he never never came out of hospital. He was in
• 5:23
  Speaker 4: hospital for a month and then went to the Pilgrim's
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  Speaker 4: hospice for a few days where he passed away. It
• 5:29
  Speaker 4: was really important to me to keep his memory alive
• 5:33
  Speaker 4: because he was only forty nine when he passed away,
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  Speaker 4: and he just deserved that. He loved life. And as
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  Speaker 4: I say, he had five children and three of them
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  Speaker 4: were with me, and we just wanted to remember him
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  Speaker 4: in a way that we thought he would want to
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  Speaker 4: be remembered. And his passion was football. So there was
• 5:49
  Speaker 4: no better way really than to do it. So we're
• 5:52
  Speaker 4: doing it in April because his birthday is in April.
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  Speaker 4: So we just thought every year his kids can remember
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  Speaker 4: him and it be a joyful event other than a
• 6:00
  Speaker 4: sad day.
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  Speaker 3: Really, right, it sounds like a sudden sort of from
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  Speaker 3: being diagnosed when he passed away. It sounds like a
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  Speaker 3: very quick time, was it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean he was he had the diagnosis for
• 6:12
  Speaker 4: five years, but it was horrible because for five years
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  Speaker 4: we couldn't really live our lives properly because he was
• 6:18
  Speaker 4: on treatment and we couldn't plan ahead because you just
• 6:20
  Speaker 4: don't know what's going to change at any point, even
• 6:22
  Speaker 4: though he was doing really well. We sort of had
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  Speaker 4: that hanging over us for so long, and then it
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  Speaker 4: still happened so suddenly with no warning, so we sort
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  Speaker 4: of had the worst of both worlds. Really sort of
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  Speaker 4: a really.
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  Speaker 3: Really tough time for you, and not only you, the children,
• 6:38
  Speaker 3: all the family, all his friends on that, but just
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  Speaker 3: this is where you come in. You've been old friends
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  Speaker 3: with Ruth, so I mean, where did you fit on
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  Speaker 3: this journey?
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  Speaker 5: Wherever I needed to be honest, we was at the
• 6:49
  Speaker 5: hospital obviously, actually said. Their youngest was only four months
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  Speaker 5: old when Alex had his stroke and needed to be
• 6:56
  Speaker 5: with free for all the time, so I was kind
• 6:58
  Speaker 5: of childcare. We went to the HOSPITALX got tip to
• 7:01
  Speaker 5: London Hospital and I went up there with them to
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  Speaker 5: look after the baby and just picked up childcare as
• 7:08
  Speaker 5: and when needed, to be honest, went and entertained the
• 7:12
  Speaker 5: baby whilst at the Pilgrim's Hospice yeah, just did what
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  Speaker 5: any friend.
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  Speaker 3: Would indeed, a true friend to you, Yeah, yeah, she
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  Speaker 3: has just at this point say that we do understand
• 7:24
  Speaker 3: up to a point what you're going through because my
• 7:26
  Speaker 3: colleague here, Adrian, is a cancer survivor and he's been
• 7:30
  Speaker 3: through the meal. I've been a compare MC Race for
• 7:35
  Speaker 3: Life for over twenty years and heard some stories very
• 7:40
  Speaker 3: similar to what you're telling us, Ruth. So I lost
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  Speaker 3: my since I lost my sister to cancer, and so
• 7:47
  Speaker 3: it's a terrible thing and you've just got to get
• 7:50
  Speaker 3: through it and support each other like Jess has supported Ruth,
• 7:54
  Speaker 3: and just be there for each other. But it's a
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  Speaker 3: great thing that you're doing, Ruth. As you said, Alex
• 8:02
  Speaker 3: loved his football and you're turning it into a football
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  Speaker 3: match where all his friends can get together. So I
• 8:09
  Speaker 3: mean Alex himself when he was active, did he play football?
• 8:13
  Speaker 4: Yeah he did, Yeah, he a long time ago. He
• 8:15
  Speaker 4: did actually play for Folks in Victor. I didn't know
• 8:18
  Speaker 4: him at that point, so don't ask me what year.
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  Speaker 4: But yeah, he was a very keen football player and
• 8:22
  Speaker 4: right up until he could he was still playing like
• 8:25
  Speaker 4: five us tide with work and stuff like that and
• 8:27
  Speaker 4: with his friends. So yeah, he loved it.
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  Speaker 2: Great.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, so we're going to play a little song now,
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  Speaker 3: and what we're going to do, We're going to come
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  Speaker 3: back and we're going to chat about the game and
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  Speaker 3: tell us the teams and are they all dusting off
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  Speaker 3: their boots and haven't played since last year's game? And
• 8:45
  Speaker 3: we're just going to just you know, just keep talking.
• 8:48
  Speaker 3: This is so interesting, and I think the people out
• 8:51
  Speaker 3: there that's listening, they might want to just prick their
• 8:54
  Speaker 3: ears up and stay tuned because this is such an
• 8:57
  Speaker 3: important hour of the show.
• 9:15
  Speaker 1: There you go, there's Ballinonda, Carlisle and the Go Gos
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  Speaker 1: and that one again from nineteen eighty one.
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  Speaker 2: At this time, that's our lips are sealed.
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  Speaker 3: What a tune that was, right, Adrian. So Ruth's switch
• 9:27
  Speaker 3: it to you. I'd like to go back actually and
• 9:31
  Speaker 3: to last year. You had a game last year and
• 9:34
  Speaker 3: that was the first game. Obviously you've learned a lot
• 9:37
  Speaker 3: putting this game on, So just tell us about how
• 9:41
  Speaker 3: it went. Was it good fun? Did you get many
• 9:42
  Speaker 3: people there and just recapped last year's game?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, so it was a really great day. Obviously we
• 9:48
  Speaker 4: didn't really know what to expect with it being the
• 9:50
  Speaker 4: first year, we didn't know how successful it would be.
• 9:53
  Speaker 4: Last year we raised money for cancer research. We're trying
• 9:55
  Speaker 4: to choose charities that are obviously linked to Alex and
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  Speaker 4: I think we had about five hundred people come to watch.
• 10:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I mean I was in the PA box doing my
• 10:05
  Speaker 1: little bit for you, and I was very very surprised
• 10:09
  Speaker 1: how professional you run that You run the whole day.
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  Speaker 2: You had a.
• 10:15
  Speaker 1: Timetable which you were there to really really well, from
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  Speaker 1: the very start to the team's coming out kick off,
• 10:26
  Speaker 1: just everything and you seemed to work perfectly on the day.
• 10:29
  Speaker 1: And I think you say there was a good four
• 10:31
  Speaker 1: or five hundred people. There was obviously people coming throughout
• 10:33
  Speaker 1: the day because you had other offense going on.
• 10:36
  Speaker 4: So yeah, we've tried to make it good. We tried
• 10:39
  Speaker 4: to make it like a family fun day as well
• 10:40
  Speaker 4: as a football match, so that if people wanted to
• 10:43
  Speaker 4: bring their kids, there's something for them to do. We
• 10:45
  Speaker 4: had a dance performance. I don't know if you remember that,
• 10:49
  Speaker 4: face painting, pancycastles, that sort of thing, So I think
• 10:51
  Speaker 4: that obviously attracted people to come. But Alex was quite
• 10:54
  Speaker 4: a popular guy, Like if you met him, you wouldn't
• 10:55
  Speaker 4: forget him. He was quite well known around boats, and honestly,
• 10:58
  Speaker 4: we'd go anywhere and he'd have someone saying hello, and
• 11:01
  Speaker 4: half the time he said to me, I don't know
• 11:02
  Speaker 4: who that is. But yeah, So we did have a
• 11:04
  Speaker 4: really good turnout. I think that was about twenty five
• 11:06
  Speaker 4: players each team, because obviously they haven't all been playing
• 11:10
  Speaker 4: football that much, so they were swapping on and off.
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  Speaker 4: But it was nice to know that so many people
• 11:14
  Speaker 4: wanted to turn up and do it for Alex really,
• 11:17
  Speaker 4: so yeah, it was a really successful day.
• 11:18
  Speaker 2: Was any injuries for the players, Yes, it was. I
• 11:22
  Speaker 2: see a few of them.
• 11:23
  Speaker 1: They were all enthusiastic at the start, and then after
• 11:25
  Speaker 1: about ten to fifteen minutes, get me off, Get me off, Yeah,
• 11:29
  Speaker 1: started flagging on.
• 11:30
  Speaker 2: Just wondered if anybody got hurt.
• 11:31
  Speaker 4: Yeah, there was one quite bad. I think one of
• 11:34
  Speaker 4: the guys on one of the team's snapped his achilles
• 11:38
  Speaker 4: and it took about six months to recover out.
• 11:41
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 11:41
  Speaker 4: Other than that, it was just a few bruises, and
• 11:43
  Speaker 4: I think that was a pulled hamstring or something as well.
• 11:46
  Speaker 4: But overall it wasn't too bad.
• 11:50
  Speaker 2: Playing this year.
• 11:52
  Speaker 4: One of them is the achilles guy. I saw him
• 11:54
  Speaker 4: out last week actually, and he said he wanted to
• 11:56
  Speaker 4: but I said no, no.
• 11:58
  Speaker 2: No, probably best not.
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  Speaker 4: No, you can watch from the sidelines.
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  Speaker 3: So there's two teams themselves actually, I mean where where
• 12:06
  Speaker 3: where did they come up from?
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  Speaker 4: So Alex was a police officer. So one of the
• 12:13
  Speaker 4: teams is friends and colleagues, which is called Blue Light Legends,
• 12:16
  Speaker 4: and the other team is his friends and family and
• 12:19
  Speaker 4: that team is called Ours All Stars. So it's a
• 12:22
  Speaker 4: mixture of both work and friends and family, which is nice.
• 12:25
  Speaker 3: And yes, if you've got anybody you know that's playing
• 12:27
  Speaker 3: or you're just you're going to be on the side.
• 12:29
  Speaker 3: You're not the first daid lady, are you.
• 12:31
  Speaker 5: Absolutely not.
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  Speaker 3: So what will your role bey on the day?
• 12:39
  Speaker 5: Just looking looking after looking after the kids, just helping out.
• 12:43
  Speaker 5: Just I'll be there with my own children, so just
• 12:47
  Speaker 5: just being there to make sure it all runs smoothly
• 12:49
  Speaker 5: really so.
• 12:50
  Speaker 3: So Rufe once again, it's a little bit more than
• 12:52
  Speaker 3: a football metch today. Sorry, on the day you've got
• 12:57
  Speaker 3: some other stuff lined up.
• 12:58
  Speaker 4: Yeah, this year we've gone for a singer because obviously
• 13:01
  Speaker 4: they've got a new pitch there now, haven't they. So
• 13:03
  Speaker 4: the less people on there the better, really, So we've
• 13:05
  Speaker 4: got a singer this year, Bantcycastle. Again we have a raffle,
• 13:08
  Speaker 4: which is where we make a lot of the money
• 13:11
  Speaker 4: and like children's tombolas and activities and things. We'd normally
• 13:15
  Speaker 4: sit up a little football girl. But again weather dependent.
• 13:17
  Speaker 2: Really and what time is it? We haven't mentioned that yet,
• 13:22
  Speaker 2: So gates.
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  Speaker 4: Open at twelve thirty. Kickoff is at two twenty two.
• 13:26
  Speaker 4: No last time, yeah, exactly the same, well remembered.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, so I think we'll have a little loving music
• 13:32
  Speaker 3: break now, and don't press the button too soon this time.
• 13:34
  Speaker 2: I will tell you you can't.
• 13:37
  Speaker 3: You can't beat Live Raadio.
• 13:38
  Speaker 2: I'll tell you this.
• 13:39
  Speaker 3: We make mistake every Saturday, so you never know that. Okay, good,
• 13:44
  Speaker 3: Then tell us what we've got.
• 13:45
  Speaker 1: Okay, this is Joy Division and this is another one
• 13:47
  Speaker 1: of my favorites. It's always the eighties, isn't it. This
• 13:51
  Speaker 1: is Joy's vision and love will tear us apart. Joy
• 14:09
  Speaker 1: Division there and that love will tear us apart. Slightly
• 14:12
  Speaker 1: different version that I normally know, but still a good
• 14:16
  Speaker 1: track anyway.
• 14:16
  Speaker 3: I tell you Live Radio, you don't know what to expect,
• 14:18
  Speaker 3: even we don't know what's coming up. Okay, Ruth, so
• 14:22
  Speaker 3: let's take us back. I mean, it's great that you're
• 14:24
  Speaker 3: you're celebrating Alex's life with the match, but I want
• 14:28
  Speaker 3: to get back to the more serious side. I mean,
• 14:32
  Speaker 3: when he was suffering with cancer, who helped you along
• 14:36
  Speaker 3: the way apart from family and friends? And was there
• 14:39
  Speaker 3: any organizations that you want to mention?
• 14:42
  Speaker 4: I mean, he didn't have that much involvement with with
• 14:46
  Speaker 4: anybody other than the oncologists really for the majority of it,
• 14:49
  Speaker 4: because he handled it so well. But the reason why
• 14:52
  Speaker 4: we've chosen Pilgrim's Hospice this year is because, as I
• 14:56
  Speaker 4: mentioned earlier, he spent his last two days in Unfortunately
• 15:01
  Speaker 4: it wasn't manageable at the hospital anymore, so to make
• 15:04
  Speaker 4: him more comfortable, he was transferred to Ashford Pilgrim's Hospice
• 15:08
  Speaker 4: and they were brilliant. Really, it was such an awful
• 15:13
  Speaker 4: time for us, As horrible as it sounds, we were
• 15:16
  Speaker 4: pretty much waiting for him to pass. He wasn't able
• 15:18
  Speaker 4: to communicate with us by this point and it was
• 15:20
  Speaker 4: just like he was asleep, So you can imagine how
• 15:23
  Speaker 4: difficult that was. Obviously, had our youngest baby with us
• 15:27
  Speaker 4: at the time, he was there with me because I
• 15:29
  Speaker 4: was breastfeeding, so he was needing entertaining and stuff, and
• 15:33
  Speaker 4: the nurses there would come and take him off and
• 15:37
  Speaker 4: look after him so that we could have those last
• 15:39
  Speaker 4: precious moments with Alex. Jess came up, didn't you, and
• 15:43
  Speaker 4: they sort of took Bailey. They were really good. They
• 15:47
  Speaker 4: made us tea, toast, anything that we wanted. They'd come in,
• 15:50
  Speaker 4: hold your hand, talk about it. They were a shoulder
• 15:53
  Speaker 4: to cry on.
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: Really, they are fantastic. My mother passed away in two
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: thousand and five there. She was there for ten days,
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: so I appreciate how brilliant the staff are at the
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: Pilgrim Hospice in Ashvid. They are fantastic, and that was
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: probably one of the reasons why I agreed to do
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: it last year, to help you and.
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: To thank them in a small little way.
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: I'm sad I'm not going to be there this year,
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: but unfortunately due to my folks and the Victor commitments,
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: I should be in Cray Valley at the time, but Kevin,
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: good old keV is stepping in reach.
• 16:28
  Speaker 3: I will just say getting back to Pilgrims, and I
• 16:30
  Speaker 3: mean I've had dealing with Pilgrims, and I've had a
• 16:32
  Speaker 3: couple of friends passed away out there, and they are
• 16:36
  Speaker 3: a different breed of Pilgrims nurses, aren't they. They're so
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: sympathetic and understanding. I mean, what a job, you know.
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: I do remember on a lighter note, I was seeing
• 16:47
  Speaker 3: my friend in Pilgrims and a nurse came in and
• 16:51
  Speaker 3: I think there was an award of about half a
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: dozen at the time, and she said, anyone want a Guinness?
• 16:58
  Speaker 3: I put my maid up sitting. It's not for visitors,
• 17:01
  Speaker 3: it's for the place.
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean they interestingly. Obviously we were there for
• 17:07
  Speaker 4: two days, two nights, so we spoke to them quite
• 17:08
  Speaker 4: a lot. And I think the reason why they are
• 17:11
  Speaker 4: so lovely and supportive is because most of them work
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: there because they've actually been through something similar. They all
• 17:18
  Speaker 4: sort of had a story and they were able to
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: sort of support us, and even ongoing, they've offered me
• 17:23
  Speaker 4: like therapy sessions. They don't just sort of leave it there.
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: They are brilliant.
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and it's such a lovely place. As strange as
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: that sounds.
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: It doesn't look like a hospital, get that.
• 17:33
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 17:33
  Speaker 5: I think even just driving up the driveway to Pogo's hospice.
• 17:36
  Speaker 5: Do you get this odd sense of just I mean,
• 17:39
  Speaker 5: I'm not spiritual by any means, but you just get
• 17:41
  Speaker 5: this weird.
• 17:43
  Speaker 3: Calmness.
• 17:44
  Speaker 5: Yeah, and somewhere so horrific, but you know what happens there,
• 17:48
  Speaker 5: just the feeling you get inside.
• 17:50
  Speaker 4: Is and they were They allowed us to you know,
• 17:52
  Speaker 4: Alex's closest friends to all come in and say they goodbye.
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: There was no limit on who can come and go.
• 17:58
  Speaker 5: Incredible, incredible, And I.
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: Think what people don't realize is that it is a
• 18:03
  Speaker 3: charity and they the fundraise. What you're doing is just
• 18:07
  Speaker 3: adding to keeping the hospices open. I mean, I've done
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: a few events for Pilgrims, and I can't remember all
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: the facts now, but if I've done a walking event
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: where they all go off and there's like a brief in,
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: then I quote the fact that they need millions to
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: keep them going. And this is why you always see Pilgrims,
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: you know, fundraisers events. I mean, the big one that
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: I've been involved with in the past was the Christmas
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: Fun Run. I mean, there's fantastically supported. A lot of
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: people don't know why they're there. It's good fun, but
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: pilgrims just need that money to keep going. It's not
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: if it dries up then the place is nearly closed
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: a few years ago. But so what you're doing is
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: it's great for the community, great for you, Ruth, and
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: you just to move on and get all Alex's friends
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: involved and have a great day in his memory. So yeah, okay,
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: so we're running out of time now, so we've got
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: to have a little think back, Ruth and Jiss. So
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: it's kind of the last few words from you now.
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: I mean, it's been a happy, sad journey, but there
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: must be lots of people this is a tough one
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: that you want to thank, So just just start name
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: drop in and say loo to a few people.
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: Ruth.
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I think Alex's parents, Roger and Nora
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: Miles are listening today, So I just wanted to thank them,
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: really because throughout all of it, they've been a huge
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: support to me and my children and to Alex. And
• 19:36
  Speaker 4: you know they've lost their son too, so I know
• 19:39
  Speaker 4: it's been so incredibly difficult for them, yet they've still
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: been there for every step. So I do want to
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: sort of thank them, my parents, my friends. Jess has
• 19:48
  Speaker 4: been a great support to me. All my colleagues and yeah,
• 19:53
  Speaker 4: friends from all over the place have all checked in
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: regularly and made sure that we're all okay. Alex, as
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: I said, had five kids, Millie, Jake, Mason, Layla and Bailey,
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: and they've kept us going really like if they can,
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: if they can get up every day with a smile
• 20:06
  Speaker 4: on their face, then then so can we. And then finally,
• 20:10
  Speaker 4: really Fran and Alex who have been a huge part
• 20:13
  Speaker 4: in helping me put the event on. They've been there.
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: Unfortunately they can make it today, but they've been a
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: great help and it was a really lovely idea. So
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: very grateful to everybody.
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: Right, And Jess, what about you? I know it asn't
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: it's not your family, but I mean you've been friends
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: with Ruth for thirty or years, yeah, and so you're
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: like joined of the hip. I mean, who do you
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: want to think along the way, and please listen, tell
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: us the names of your children as well.
• 20:41
  Speaker 5: Oh my children are Scarlet and Chloe, and they'll be
• 20:43
  Speaker 5: listening at some point, I'm sure. But I just think
• 20:46
  Speaker 5: Alex is a true testament if you get back what
• 20:49
  Speaker 5: you put out to the world, if you put out kindness,
• 20:52
  Speaker 5: joy and are really positive. The support he was deceived
• 20:57
  Speaker 5: while he was poorly and also really for the kids
• 21:00
  Speaker 5: have received since he passed has been nothing short of incredible.
• 21:04
  Speaker 5: Even looking at his funeral, there's picture taking at his funeral.
• 21:07
  Speaker 5: It's just amazing. I say the football last year, but
• 21:10
  Speaker 5: just the constant support is insane and it just really
• 21:14
  Speaker 5: does remind you just to be a good person because
• 21:17
  Speaker 5: it will, it will come back to you when when
• 21:20
  Speaker 5: you need it.
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: Really, I know he'd be so grateful knowing that he
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: can't be here to look after us, and that everybody
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: that he left behind has all pulled together and they've
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: all been really great and I can't thank them enough
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: to got us through the last nineteen months.
• 21:34
  Speaker 3: Right well, I just want to say, Jess and Ruth,
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: you've had a fantastic journey. And Adrian, what do you think.
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: I mean?
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: I was there last year and I know how how
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: much work that they put in, you know, to make
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: it a success and to raise money for Last year
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: it was cancer research. This year it's obviously for Kilgrin's
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: Hospice and yeah, if you can go it along to
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: the Alkaline Stadium two weeks today, then please do so
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: the event.
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: Sorry, could I just add the event is actually called
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: Miles Memorial Cup. I don't think I've actually mentioned right ago,
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: but if anybody is interested in coming along, it's only
• 22:14
  Speaker 4: five pounds to come and watch for adults and two
• 22:17
  Speaker 4: pounds for children. And there is an Instagram page with
• 22:20
  Speaker 4: the ticket link on there and it's called Miles Memorial Cup.
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: Right, yeah, Okay, So I think the last thing to
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: say is just to recap ruth. I know we've said
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: it before, but it really does need the message going
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: out there. Tell us about the day, time, is, who's
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: going to be there, what's going to be there, how
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: much it is gone?
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah, So, as I just said, Miles Memorial Cup, Saturday,
• 22:42
  Speaker 4: the eighteenth of April. Doors open at twelve thirty. We
• 22:46
  Speaker 4: have a live singer, we have face painting, a raffle
• 22:51
  Speaker 4: with some really great prizes. Lots of local businesses have
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: been really generous, and that is a lot where we
• 22:55
  Speaker 4: get a lot of our money raised for the charity.
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: I think last year we actually made five hundred pounds
• 23:01
  Speaker 4: for cancer research, so hoping to get something close to
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: that this year. The actual match kicks off at two
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: twenty two, but there is a two minute silence before that,
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: and we also do a balloon release because obviously it's
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: around his birthday. And then the raffle is then drawn
• 23:17
  Speaker 4: after the football match.
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: So does it spill on into the evening? It does?
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: Yeah, we we sort of have a two hour break
• 23:22
  Speaker 4: where everyone goes home, gets freshened up, and then come
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: back for seven point thirty where we have djo Jack
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: Little who is a friend of mine who is coming
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: to do the takeover for the evening, for it so
• 23:33
  Speaker 4: that everybody can get together and enjoy the evening and
• 23:36
  Speaker 4: remember and celebrate the day.
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: Really right, excellent? Just any last words from you?
• 23:41
  Speaker 5: No, you just come along on Saturday and support it.
• 23:44
  Speaker 5: Hopefully the weather will be nice. Try at least it
• 23:46
  Speaker 5: was last year, so lovely fingers crossed the same this year.
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: Okay, well, I think we've just covered every single square
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: blade of grass today or playing. Yeah, oh yeah, because
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: it's artificial, which now I hope you told the players
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: grass last year. I might have to go out and
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: buy some new boots.
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: Mightn't I yeah, I think I think they're all aware.
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, right, okay, So well I think we've covered
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: absolutely everything and it just leaves us to sign off.
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: I want to say thank you to Jess and thank
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: you to Ruth for coming in for having I thought
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: it might be a tough interview actually, but you're so
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: brave and so forward about what's going on, so positive.
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: It's turned this well. I was a little bit worried that,
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: you know, you know, we've had it in the studio before,
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: might get a bit emotional, but you're so strong and
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: I want to congratulate both of you, and I don't
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: think there's any better way to finish than by playing
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: this song by one of Alex's favorite groups. So Ruth
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: just tell us about Alex's choice of music.
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean he loved, he loved all music, but
• 24:50
  Speaker 4: Read to Chilli Peppers was definitely one of his favorites.
• 24:52
  Speaker 4: So yeah, it'd be a really nice way to think
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: about him in the moment.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: Okay, Well, once again, thank you to Jess and Ruth
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: for coming in the small It's always nice to have
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: your guests coming on Hearing Radio. Focusing on one oh
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: five ninth and are we going to play out say what?
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: Say goodbye to Jess and Ruth by playing the Red
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: Hot Chili Peppers and this one is called by the.
• 25:16
  Speaker 6: Way, standing in lad to see the shot, and that,
• 25:29
  Speaker 6: and there's a ladder on.
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: Heavy gloes, sa.
• 25:36
  Speaker 6: Cha to see me waiting for the girl singing.
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: Songs to me.
• 25:45
  Speaker 6: And in the mon