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90 Day Fiancé Season 12 Episode 18 “Am I Ready for Forever?” Part 1 · Vanity Farah with Chris Farah

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Speaker 1: Hello, everyone. Welcome back to Vanity Fair. My name is
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Speaker 1: Chris Farah, and today we are talking about 90 Day Fiancé, Honey.
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Speaker 1: It's season 12. This was episode 18. Am I ready
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Speaker 1: for forever? And obviously... I'm talking the Sandlot when I
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Speaker 1: say forever. Anyway. All right, my babes, don't even worry
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Speaker 1: about it. We're getting in. And for people who don't
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Speaker 1: know the reference, you're like, is she okay? And the
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Speaker 1: answer is yes. Just solidly in, you know, an older
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Speaker 1: millennial reference. Okay. So listen, honey, people will be getting married.
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Speaker 1: People be getting married, honey. You know, listen, At some
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Speaker 1: point in your life, like late twenties, thirties, when, you know,
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Speaker 1: everyone's getting married, it's the same feeling because you look around,
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Speaker 1: everyone is at a wedding and it's theirs. And that's
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Speaker 1: kind of like what this episode's like. I liked it though.
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Speaker 1: And I'm excited about the tell-all. They gave us podcasters
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Speaker 1: a sneak peek. Listen, honey, I'm going to tell you
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Speaker 1: this right now. It's going to be good. And I
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Speaker 1: think it's been a good season, obviously, because it's so
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Speaker 1: many new people. So I get like fresh meat and
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Speaker 1: I'm down for any sort of just different personality and
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Speaker 1: one that isn't had a taste of fame, starved for more,
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Speaker 1: and we'll do whatever it takes to garner that. Like
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Speaker 1: the last resort people, for instance. So this feels like
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Speaker 1: a breath of fresh air. I'm excited about the tell-all.
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Speaker 1: Sean's hosting it. So there's that. At the same time,
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Speaker 1: let's get into what I'm sure will be a two-part
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Speaker 1: tell-all because I have lots of picks and lots of
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Speaker 1: opinions and lots of times in which I'll say like
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Speaker 1: and pause. Listen, I would like to tell you that
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Speaker 1: I had complete control over all of my facilities at
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Speaker 1: all times. Every sound I made, every... nuanced breath thought
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Speaker 1: that just gets derailed, bringing it back. I wish I
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Speaker 1: could have complete control over every millisecond of, you know,
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Speaker 1: this podcast, but at the same time, I'm just a
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Speaker 1: human being. So what can you do except sing about
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Speaker 1: it and get on with it? Let's talk, shall we?
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Speaker 1: I have the most to say about Mallory and Rash
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Speaker 1: because I feel like not have the most pictures for
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Speaker 1: them and stuff like that. So I'm going to start
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Speaker 1: with them because we have so much to talk about
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Speaker 1: with other people as well. And I'm excited to talk
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Speaker 1: about it all. So let me get this out of
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Speaker 1: the way because I feel like it's a big beast.
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Speaker 1: And when you're dealing in any sort of functioning of
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Speaker 1: getting things done, you should start with the biggest thing first,
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Speaker 1: get that out of the way and then move on.
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Speaker 1: So listen, we pick up on the fact that Rosh
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Speaker 1: has walked in to the day before the ceremony where
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Speaker 1: people are obviously setting up their beautiful venue and Mallory's
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Speaker 1: mom is there and her sister is there and obviously
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Speaker 1: her dad is an asshole and her mom is named
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Speaker 1: Renee and we know that her mom and her have
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Speaker 1: had a checkered history when it comes to their relationship
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Speaker 1: and how close they are. So here, here we are.
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Speaker 1: So that's one thing, but we know that he had
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Speaker 1: started bawling upon seeing her mom. And I sort of
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Speaker 1: called it then I knew that it was this version
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Speaker 1: of seeing of obvious mom figure and having it become
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Speaker 1: real that you're getting married and that you're mom, your
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Speaker 1: mom isn't here, that that's a mom, not your mom.
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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? And so I think that
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Speaker 1: that can be something that is triggering for someone who's
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Speaker 1: lonely or homesick or, you know, all of the above.
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Speaker 1: And so that's exactly what happened, honey. And then also
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Speaker 1: it's him. He be crying. I mean, here's the thing.
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Speaker 1: We know that young man cries and he, for some reason,
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Speaker 1: early on cried and and tried to make it a
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Speaker 1: whole thing. I was like, oh, I don't want the guy,
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Speaker 1: you know, I don't like the guy. We're like, oh, okay.
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Speaker 1: And then, you know, proceeds to cry a lot. I
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Speaker 1: don't want to shame someone. I like the fact that
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Speaker 1: he cries. I like it now. Is he, yeah, he's
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Speaker 1: like me, very menopausal. I mean, yeah, I know he cries.
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Speaker 1: He cries. The drop of a hat, honey, sentimental. Um,
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Speaker 1: My dad used to never cry. And then my dad
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Speaker 1: sometimes cries now. He also had a stroke. So sometimes
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Speaker 1: that happens. But at the same time, like, you know,
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Speaker 1: Rosh feels feelings deeply. So he has to go wash
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Speaker 1: his face. He has to get his shit together, honey.
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Speaker 1: And he does. And he's happy about it. And he
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Speaker 1: comes out. And the thing about this, though, is that
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Speaker 1: it's incredibly endearing. to her mom, right? Because she has
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Speaker 1: just witnessed just meeting her daughter's fiance who comes in,
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Speaker 1: sees her face, and I just is reduced to absolute tears,
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Speaker 1: just as like a wreck. Everyone around Mallory sees that
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Speaker 1: he is very emotional and it feels like love, like
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Speaker 1: he's so deeply in love with Mallory. And that's the
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Speaker 1: reason why. I think that he, obviously I do think
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Speaker 1: that he is deeply in love with Mallory. I want
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Speaker 1: to know though, it's, he is seemingly in one version
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Speaker 1: of this, a beautiful soul who's lovely and pure, very emotional, sensitive,
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Speaker 1: like very sensitive flower who, you know, has moved to
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Speaker 1: tears a lot. And it's because he's so beautifully soft
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Speaker 1: and genuine and you know, open, open hearted. Is that
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Speaker 1: 100% true? And is that the vibe that you have?
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Speaker 1: And it's like, is that all it takes is just
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Speaker 1: for a man to cry overwhelmingly? Like what if he
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Speaker 1: can really cry on command? I'm not saying he is.
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Speaker 1: I do think that he's a good guy. Overall, I
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Speaker 1: do think he's a good guy. But maybe everyone's just like, well,
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Speaker 1: he's not a good actor. So the fact that he's
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Speaker 1: crying so much, that is indicative of something. It's just
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Speaker 1: so interesting. So I will say this, I love Mallory's wedding.
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Speaker 1: But as we get into it, we have a really
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Speaker 1: lovely scene where after they leave that area and they've
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Speaker 1: gone back to their home, they leave their home and
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Speaker 1: they're going to now, of course, check into the wedding
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Speaker 1: venue and they have like different spaces for each to
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Speaker 1: get ready for the ceremony. Now, it's interesting because A,
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Speaker 1: when they leave the house and it's like Mallory's house,
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Speaker 1: I noticed that that there is a lot of bird homes,
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Speaker 1: a lot of wooden bird homes everywhere. And like wooden,
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Speaker 1: like there's so many, there's like a couple of them
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Speaker 1: in the front and a couple of them in the back.
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Speaker 1: And I wonder, or in the front, like at the
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Speaker 1: driveway area, did he make those? We know that he
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Speaker 1: has that woodworking shed in the back where he goes
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Speaker 1: like a little sim character, you know, and gets his
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Speaker 1: skills laid right, working the woodworking. You working woodworking. Sorry.
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Speaker 1: He better woodwork, bitch. Sorry. Okay. Please help me. Put
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Speaker 1: me out of my misery. I like it though, but
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Speaker 1: I was like, he's doing those, right? That's his thing, right?
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Speaker 1: He likes making wood things and I bet he knows
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Speaker 1: how to make them birdhouses and now they have a
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Speaker 1: bunch of them. I would assume that at some point
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Speaker 1: the whole town will be like littered in his like birdhouse.
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Speaker 1: I like the fact that he has bird homes. By
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Speaker 1: the way, in LA, I guess there's a bunch of
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Speaker 1: hummingbirds that are flying through. And I think it's lovely.
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Speaker 1: There's like beautiful hummingbirds with orange and blue feathers. They're
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Speaker 1: just so great. And yeah, I think I need a
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Speaker 1: hummingbird feeder. Truly, they have the ones that are water-based
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Speaker 1: or the ones where you have that red dye. But
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Speaker 1: maybe I can just get one of Rosh's bird homes and,
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Speaker 1: you know, litter it with bird seed and see who'll
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Speaker 1: come to my door. Come and knock on my door.
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Speaker 1: You're like, Chris, can you stop singing? I'm like, yeah,
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Speaker 1: I get it. I will stop. But, you know, I
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Speaker 1: think it'd be lovely. I like bird. You know one
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Speaker 1: of the things that I like? Bird baths, bird homes. Beautifully...
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Speaker 1: toned chimes, you know, like wind chimes, but only ones
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Speaker 1: that are like beautifully toned. Okay. So then they get
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Speaker 1: in the car and this is where something happens where
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Speaker 1: I become even more obnoxious than you would possibly think
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Speaker 1: that I could ever be because they sit down in
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Speaker 1: this car. She's wearing like a tie dyed shirt. It's
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Speaker 1: blue and purple. And she's like, you know, of course,
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Speaker 1: freaking out because she's like, you know, nervous or whatever.
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Speaker 1: And he gets in and he sits down and he's
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Speaker 1: wearing a white shirt within the corner, like a pencil
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Speaker 1: drawing of a person. And it took me point six seconds.
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Speaker 1: And I was like, who's that? Oh, it's Van Gogh.
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Speaker 1: It's the self-portrait of Van Gogh. And I was like, yeah,
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Speaker 1: I'm right. But just to make sure I looked it
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Speaker 1: up and I am right. And unfortunately that alone, the
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Speaker 1: fact that I clocked who was on his shirt so,
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Speaker 1: so quickly made me feel smart. Wildly too smart. Almost
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Speaker 1: like I should be an art scholar or something. I
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Speaker 1: should just be like some sort of tour guide in Amsterdam.
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Speaker 1: The meadow of Amsterdam, honey. Showing people this is Van
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Speaker 1: Gogh's house. These are his works. I hold all the
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Speaker 1: knowledge about him now. I can pick him out of
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Speaker 1: a lineup, especially the portrait he drew of himself with
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Speaker 1: the gray hat. Anyway, I'm proud of myself. I know
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Speaker 1: I'm insufferable. You know, I just, I think that it's,
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Speaker 1: you know, we have to pat ourselves on the back
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Speaker 1: and at least in this world, I know one thing
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Speaker 1: and that's art and aesthetics. Okay. So I like the wedding.
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Speaker 1: Like I said, she drops him off at a little
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Speaker 1: house for him to get ready. It's like a little shack, honey,
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Speaker 1: a cute little shack. Okay. And then she takes herself
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Speaker 1: to like, you know, pretty much like a mega mansion.
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Speaker 1: It's cute, but she's getting ready with all her girlies.
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Speaker 1: So she needs the room, honey. And it's a parade.
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Speaker 1: It's a parade of products i took a picture of
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Speaker 1: all of them first shot honey there's some maybelline mascara
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Speaker 1: it looks like some benetint or like a benefit product
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Speaker 1: that like incredibly telltale silver canister with a weird top
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Speaker 1: you know god bless makeup looks so weird then there
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Speaker 1: was this palette it looks like an anastasia palette maybe
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Speaker 1: it's yeah i'm not quite sure pro palette a lot
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Speaker 1: of what seems like Beautiful neutrals and mattes. It's a
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Speaker 1: good palette, though. And then a lot of Amika hair
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Speaker 1: care products. Almost so many that I was like, well,
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Speaker 1: it's the girl that's doing her hair literally in Amika Ambassador.
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Speaker 1: Look at that green velvet chair in the back. Gorgeous. Okay,
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Speaker 1: so she gets ready. She looks gorgeous in her dress.
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Speaker 1: She got that spray tan. Again, she looks great. Katie
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Speaker 1: comes in with a mimosa, you know, and listen... Mallory
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Speaker 1: is not nervous because she's marrying the love of her
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Speaker 1: life that she is like, it loves me. So, and
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Speaker 1: guess what? I have control over everything because I almost
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Speaker 1: died and then I didn't, I got some money and
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Speaker 1: now I'm going to live for myself. And that's doing
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Speaker 1: whatever the fuck I want to do, which is having
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Speaker 1: 17 dogs in one bed. You know, before I met him,
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Speaker 1: fuck Brandy when I wanted, then Brandy met you, Katie,
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Speaker 1: and now you're here. It's good. I had a one
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Speaker 1: night stand with this hot ass guy in Turkey and
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Speaker 1: now he's here and he loves me. My dad sucks.
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Speaker 1: My mom sucked. And now I'm getting back with my mom.
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Speaker 1: My dad sucks. I'm not nervous about this, though. I'm good.
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Speaker 1: And there's something incredibly confident and secure about Mallory in
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Speaker 1: her place in life that does make me wildly happy
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Speaker 1: for her. She's not always touching her hair. She's not
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Speaker 1: an Emma. She's not whiny or overly needy. She's not
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Speaker 1: someone who seemingly chases drama or craves it or wants
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Speaker 1: toxic attention. She is seemingly really grounded and really emotionally mature.
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Speaker 1: Especially for her age. I'm so happy for her, you know,
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Speaker 1: and I know that we're getting a version of that.
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Speaker 1: And I feel like we've gotten for both of them
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Speaker 1: a highly positive narrative story of them. Together, they are
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Speaker 1: nice and good people and a good couple. And then
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Speaker 1: also separately, you know, like they've gotten good edits together.
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Speaker 1: across the board and again I'm not saying they're not
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Speaker 1: good people but it's just interesting and it's a it's
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Speaker 1: a wonder if there are like anything we didn't see
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Speaker 1: about them anyway okay so she tells her sister that
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Speaker 1: she got a text from dad and basically her dad
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Speaker 1: had seen the engagement photos online of her and Rosh
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Speaker 1: and had a change of heart was like I'm I
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Speaker 1: saw them pictures and you look so beautiful and he
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Speaker 1: looks nice. He was crying. So I saw the pure
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Speaker 1: soul in his eyes. I could tell that he was
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Speaker 1: crying in the pictures. And I was like, he loves
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Speaker 1: my daughter. And I was wrong. Can I come? He
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Speaker 1: doesn't really know if he says he can come or whatnot,
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Speaker 1: but I think, I think maybe he does. And Mallory's like,
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Speaker 1: devil fuck no. No, it's a wedding. Sorry. The tables
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Speaker 1: are set. And the person walking me down my aisle is, well,
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Speaker 1: is going to be asked. Don't worry about it. Um,
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Speaker 1: he is getting ready with his friend and you know,
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Speaker 1: it's nice. At some point I was like, I'm, I
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Speaker 1: almost thought that Brandy would be there helping him get
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Speaker 1: ready for some reason, but Brandy's a guest and he's
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Speaker 1: enjoying his life. Mallory decides to ask her mom, Renee,
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Speaker 1: if she will walk her down the aisle and we
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Speaker 1: get this cliffhanger situation. Because it's set up like, well,
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Speaker 1: my mom and I haven't always had a good relationship.
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Speaker 1: So I have to ask her this question. And there's
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Speaker 1: like a lot of pauses when she asks the question.
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Speaker 1: And then, you know, it's like, will you walk me
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Speaker 1: down the aisle? And then it's cut away from the
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Speaker 1: storyline as if we're supposed to honestly think that Renee's
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Speaker 1: going to be like, no, absolutely not. How did, no,
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Speaker 1: I'm leaving. God, your dad was right. You know, like,
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Speaker 1: obviously not. I guess I was like, yeah, she's going
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Speaker 1: to say yes. So can we just not, can we just, yeah,
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Speaker 1: just quickly say yes. And even if you want to
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Speaker 1: cut to the next storyline, that's fine. But don't insult
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Speaker 1: our intelligence by making us think that there's a possibility
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Speaker 1: that this mom is going to be like, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I was just really hoping to sort of
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Speaker 1: like sit in the back and just like have like
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Speaker 1: a low profile reaction. part of this wedding where I'm
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Speaker 1: just like no one's really looking at me and I
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Speaker 1: maybe I'm wearing sunglasses or I'm just like I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: duck out pretty fast you know so um obviously yeah
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Speaker 1: she does she's overwhelmed and grateful you know she's just
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Speaker 1: like I wasn't expecting this but I'm just so happy
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Speaker 1: and you know I'm this is like a turning point
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Speaker 1: in our relationship blah blah blah blah so Great, great
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Speaker 1: for them. She seems to, you know, I don't know
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Speaker 1: exactly the entirety of their history, but I will say
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Speaker 1: that Renee, her mom, certainly seems sincerely understanding, sorry about
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Speaker 1: her role in the hurt and pain that Mallory feels.
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Speaker 1: And relationships with people are hard because, you know, especially parents,
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Speaker 1: I think a lot of parents don't ever really want
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Speaker 1: to sit in the sincere understanding of the pain their
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Speaker 1: behavior caused their children. And so if you have a
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Speaker 1: situation where you have a problem with a parent like that,
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Speaker 1: and they aren't even willing to understand or truly feel
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Speaker 1: and see what happened in your mind or in your
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Speaker 1: eyes or you know whatever I don't know whatever trauma
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Speaker 1: or aversion you're having of your childhood and relationship to
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Speaker 1: them like there's not a lot of healing that can
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Speaker 1: happen communication is hard relationships are hard And mental health
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Speaker 1: is a bitch. And there's also like generational understanding of
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Speaker 1: mental health and the way that you hold space for
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Speaker 1: others and accept accountability and responsibility. There's like a lot
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Speaker 1: of shame for some people to admit that. They're either
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Speaker 1: failures or their behavior or their, I mean, yeah, their crimes,
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Speaker 1: I guess, in the situation. Like, and if they know,
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Speaker 1: like there's a part, let's just say majority of people
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Speaker 1: know what they've done in some small recess of their
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Speaker 1: mind and almost like a self-preservation or survival mechanism. the
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Speaker 1: way that they're denies that that happened, almost to save
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Speaker 1: them from their own shame and humiliation, causes them to
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Speaker 1: also not be able to connect truly with their victim
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Speaker 1: slash you or whatever. And therefore they be present for
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Speaker 1: actual healing. Isn't that so weird? To me, it's weird, right?
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Speaker 1: But it's like true. Shame is a very hard thing
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Speaker 1: to go through, feel, deal with. And it's so subjective, right?
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Speaker 1: Because we assign shame and it's something that can dissipate
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Speaker 1: through just giving it air and or talking it out
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Speaker 1: or hearing someone else's story. You know, not all the time,
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Speaker 1: but because we're all humans and we're kind of all
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Speaker 1: in this world doing a lot of the same shit,
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Speaker 1: the patterns of behavior that have happened over and over
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Speaker 1: again in different life cycles, people, you know, have commonalities.
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Speaker 1: I think that, you know, hearing someone's story when it
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Speaker 1: relates to yours, and especially if that story is admitting
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Speaker 1: a hard truth, I didn't know at the time, but
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Speaker 1: when I decided to choose my happiness over my child's security,
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Speaker 1: it really fucked them up. And I made a selfish decision.
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Speaker 1: And that's what happens because no one's perfect. But at
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Speaker 1: the same time, you know, no one wants to be
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Speaker 1: abused by someone over and over again. And in a
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Speaker 1: kind of like parent-child relationship, if... And I guess it
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Speaker 1: can go back and forth. But if someone doesn't take
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Speaker 1: accountability for what they've done, it sort of feels like
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Speaker 1: being okay with your abuser. Does that make sense? It's
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Speaker 1: so fucked up, but... Having said all of that, Mallory
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Speaker 1: has gone through therapy and has truly, seemingly disconnected herself,
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Speaker 1: her happiness, her state of mind from any sort of
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Speaker 1: need to make her parents happy or to have her
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Speaker 1: parents in her life on their terms. Do you know
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Speaker 1: what I'm saying? And I think that that's a really
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Speaker 1: great thing because we're watching someone say, well, my dad...
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Speaker 1: is a no. I'm not comfortable. It doesn't make me
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Speaker 1: feel happy. It doesn't make me feel safe. Just absolutely not.
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Speaker 1: If he sees some pictures and he decides to send
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Speaker 1: me a Facebook message, that's fine. He can do what
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Speaker 1: he wants. It doesn't mean I have to jump through
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Speaker 1: hoops to suddenly make this man happy by being at
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Speaker 1: my wedding. I'm cool. I'm good. At the same time,
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Speaker 1: my mom and I have gone through it and I
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Speaker 1: can feel a genuine desire for closeness from her that
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Speaker 1: isn't so much selfish or self-serving, but a sort of,
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Speaker 1: I guess, apology for what she has missed for these years.
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Speaker 1: And an ability to put her ego aside, I guess,
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Speaker 1: to be able to sit with me and then hear
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Speaker 1: what my thought, my, my points on it. And it really,
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Speaker 1: it's really gorgeous. And I cried a lot, you know,
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Speaker 1: I'm so happy for them, you know? Okay. Okay. So
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Speaker 1: another thing that happens is that she has a red
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Speaker 1: veil and she gets to wear that red veil because
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Speaker 1: it's like a Turkish thing and it symbolizes like her
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Speaker 1: leaving singlehood. Now, I wish it was tiny bit more veil-like.
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Speaker 1: It sort of just feels like a long piece of
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Speaker 1: red glue. lace that's somehow poking through on top of
24:10
Speaker 1: her updo and it's just like shimmied down. Anyway, but
24:14
Speaker 1: it must be hard. Now I'm happy that she did
24:16
Speaker 1: that because it represents like a version of, you know,
24:21
Speaker 1: his culture. I don't know if it was a last
24:25
Speaker 1: minute addition. It didn't go with the dress at all.
24:29
Speaker 1: So much so that I was like, is there anything
24:33
Speaker 1: else we can bring in from his culture? Like that
24:36
Speaker 1: also would either like make this outfit complete with like,
24:39
Speaker 1: you know, like some red gloves or, you know, like
24:41
Speaker 1: something more out. You just like tie this together a
24:43
Speaker 1: little bit or like, let's put on that red lipstick.
24:46
Speaker 1: You look good on it. Like, I felt like I
24:48
Speaker 1: needed like one other thing like that. Or yeah, like
24:51
Speaker 1: some Turkish music, Turkish band, Turkish food, Turkish food, something. Okay.
25:01
Speaker 1: I'm happy it happened though. Okay. So she walks down
25:05
Speaker 1: the aisle and, oh wait, so he's just, wait, so
25:08
Speaker 1: we haven't got to this part. So let me say this. Oh, okay.
25:09
Speaker 1: I died. He comes up. I like his suit a lot.
25:13
Speaker 1: He's wearing this olive suit. And then I realized that
25:15
Speaker 1: their colors are really, really beautiful. Like he's wearing this
25:18
Speaker 1: like dusty kind of again, olive suit with peach sort of, um, paisley,
25:23
Speaker 1: silky tie, white cream, lightly dusty peach colors. And He
25:32
Speaker 1: looks great. He's already tearing up. His family's coming in
25:36
Speaker 1: through Zoom or FaceTime. Now, his brother looks right into
25:41
Speaker 1: him and he looks and he says, is Rosh crying?
25:45
Speaker 1: And he knows he is. Yeah, of course he is.
25:50
Speaker 1: It's your brother, right? He's crying. Oh, do you see
25:53
Speaker 1: your brother? Then yeah, he's crying. Is Rosh crying? Is
25:59
Speaker 1: Rosh breathing? Is Rosh crying? Uh-huh, crying then. He likes,
26:06
Speaker 1: he stays crying. You know how some, you know how
26:11
Speaker 1: all puppies have wet noses? Rosh has wet tear tracks always.
26:21
Speaker 1: They're going down, he's still crying. He's so teary. He's
26:29
Speaker 1: a little teary boo. He doesn't need Visine. He doesn't
26:36
Speaker 1: need it. Whatever that Jennifer Aniston problem is. Remember when
26:40
Speaker 1: she was like, I suffer from dry eyes, so I
26:42
Speaker 1: take whatever the fuck that is. He doesn't take it.
26:45
Speaker 1: He can't. Okay. Okay. It's hard for him to say
26:55
Speaker 1: the vows. That's fine. She walks down the aisle. He
26:58
Speaker 1: loses his goddamn mind. She loses her mind because she's
27:01
Speaker 1: looking at him. He's looking at his mind. Then she says...
27:04
Speaker 1: I'm glad you cried because if you hadn't, I would
27:06
Speaker 1: have divorced you. Could you have met? First of all,
27:09
Speaker 1: I would too. Because if you know that that's that man,
27:11
Speaker 1: if you know that his name is Rosh and he's
27:14
Speaker 1: prone to crying and you come out on your day
27:17
Speaker 1: of days, when you have all of your friends who
27:20
Speaker 1: have primped the fuck out of you, honey. And he,
27:24
Speaker 1: and if he just like, was like, Hmm, if he
27:27
Speaker 1: could just take her, leave you in that moment, then yeah.
27:30
Speaker 1: I've talked about this before. I, Unfortunately, it is wildly
27:40
Speaker 1: attractive to watch someone either be overwhelmed by you or
27:51
Speaker 1: by your attractiveness or by how much they want you
27:54
Speaker 1: or how lucky they feel to be with you. I mean,
27:57
Speaker 1: you know, all of those things, that's like winning the lottery.
28:00
Speaker 1: It's like one of those feelings where it's like, Ooh, yes, honey.
28:03
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, who wouldn't want that? You know, who, who,
28:05
Speaker 1: who's as bad as it's good. Bottle it, make millions. Okay.
28:13
Speaker 1: So obviously, um, They do the whole thing. And then
28:17
Speaker 1: they get to the party and it's super cute. It's like, again, outdoors.
28:20
Speaker 1: I love a Southern wedding. I love the South. I mean,
28:24
Speaker 1: you know, there's good parts and there's bad parts, of course.
28:27
Speaker 1: But when I say I love the... visceral nature feeling
28:32
Speaker 1: of the South. Like I love the humidity. It's so lush.
28:35
Speaker 1: Like I love that. I've said this before on so
28:38
Speaker 1: many things. It's like the way nature feels in the South,
28:42
Speaker 1: especially this, like the Southern parts or the Delta, like
28:45
Speaker 1: with the crickets and the fucking frogs and those like
28:49
Speaker 1: cicadas and dear God, just the heavy vegetation with that,
28:53
Speaker 1: like sort of invasive green, lush tropical esque, fucking foliage everywhere,
29:01
Speaker 1: climbing up the trees. It all is hanging down in
29:04
Speaker 1: the moss. Like it's just so magical. It's eerie, but
29:08
Speaker 1: like dense. And at night, it just feels alive. The
29:16
Speaker 1: thickness of the air coupled with the like lushness of
29:24
Speaker 1: the vegetation and the fact that it's like kind of, yeah,
29:27
Speaker 1: sticky hot. makes your skin feel like dancing with the air.
29:35
Speaker 1: Does that make sense? I can't. It's like on a
29:39
Speaker 1: hot night, all of a sudden, of that stuff coming together,
29:41
Speaker 1: the way the air feels, what it looks like, the
29:44
Speaker 1: smell in the air and the sounds, it is electrifying
29:49
Speaker 1: in such a great way that celebrating something like a
29:53
Speaker 1: wedding or like any sort of either love or romantic
29:57
Speaker 1: or sexy or celebratory or fun thing is heightened because
30:02
Speaker 1: the setting is such. And I say that because I've
30:07
Speaker 1: never been married, but there's all these like exotic locales.
30:11
Speaker 1: I mean, there was this, what, 10 year, if not,
30:14
Speaker 1: we're still in it. It was because of George Clooney
30:18
Speaker 1: thing where everyone wanted to get married at Lake Como,
30:21
Speaker 1: quote What if it was Anthony Andrew Cromwell, whatever his
30:27
Speaker 1: name is. Okay. I am, uh, feral, but here's the
30:31
Speaker 1: thing by that. I mean, yeah, there is something so
30:35
Speaker 1: fun about a Southern wedding and outdoor Southern wedding where
30:40
Speaker 1: you can hear the sounds and be against trees like that. Um,
30:50
Speaker 1: It's buffet. Michaela again is like, we just like love Rosh.
30:54
Speaker 1: He's so pure, so kind. And, you know, he just
30:57
Speaker 1: loves her so much. And all I want is for
30:59
Speaker 1: her to be loved. Then, honey, there's a moment where
31:02
Speaker 1: he gets on that dance floor. And I'm not quite
31:05
Speaker 1: sure where his friend is, honey, but he loses his
31:08
Speaker 1: ass mind. He gets, oh, I see his friend. His
31:10
Speaker 1: friend's in the back giving him like, you know, a
31:12
Speaker 1: two clap. But he gets a red... and he goes up,
31:17
Speaker 1: he goes down, he uses his knees, those Megan Stallion knees, honey,
31:21
Speaker 1: he is just going to town. I don't know how much,
31:26
Speaker 1: you know, of that weird drink, you know, that he
31:28
Speaker 1: loves he had, but they had that fancy, yeah, they're, anyway.
31:35
Speaker 1: I love a gazebo. He lost his mind in that
31:40
Speaker 1: Turkish line dancing. At one point, people are, line dancing
31:44
Speaker 1: with her and holding her dress. I'm like, get your
31:46
Speaker 1: hands off her dress. Get your buffet-eating macaroni and cheese
31:51
Speaker 1: hands off that woman's white dress. It ends with Rosh
31:58
Speaker 1: and Brandy hugging. You're like, I'm sorry I did that
32:03
Speaker 1: to you. I had the same accent, unfortunately, for everyone.
32:05
Speaker 1: I don't know how to do a difference between a
32:06
Speaker 1: Turkish and an Egyptian. So now my Rosh is going
32:09
Speaker 1: to sound like my Mito. But basically, they're like, Well,
32:13
Speaker 1: thank you for, you know, coming around to liking me.
32:16
Speaker 1: And now they're friends. And, you know, that's what Brosh said.
32:20
Speaker 1: He didn't think he would have friends or family. And
32:23
Speaker 1: now he has one friend, Brandy. And, you know, a mom.
32:29
Speaker 1: And Renee. But fuck that dad. Okay. Let's move on.
32:36
Speaker 1: Katie and Josh. So she changes into her big wedding dress.
32:43
Speaker 1: And this is an interesting part. She says that she
32:46
Speaker 1: was really worried. She loves her dress. She was worried, though,
32:50
Speaker 1: that she would not find something flattering. And that some
32:56
Speaker 1: of the obsessive thoughts about that she has running through
33:00
Speaker 1: her mind are actually also about her body and like
33:02
Speaker 1: a need to lose weight. Why I thought this was
33:06
Speaker 1: interesting is A, because we know that she's a run
33:08
Speaker 1: club girl, that she likes to run. And that's one thing. B,
33:14
Speaker 1: Truly for lots of people, disordered eating is a problem.
33:20
Speaker 1: And I could easily see for someone who also has
33:26
Speaker 1: obsessive thoughts or intrusive thoughts that that could come hand
33:32
Speaker 1: in hand, but she's never talked about it before. All
33:36
Speaker 1: the things that we've sort of heard from her in
33:40
Speaker 1: regards to the content of what her thoughts obsessive thoughts
33:44
Speaker 1: are are about making out with people making out with
33:50
Speaker 1: people and I think that a lot of people online
33:56
Speaker 1: were like well if she's only OCD because she wants
34:00
Speaker 1: to make out with people that's not OCD and so
34:03
Speaker 1: when she said this I was like I wonder what
34:07
Speaker 1: would happen if you had talked about what other OCD
34:10
Speaker 1: thoughts you had because She got so much hate online.
34:17
Speaker 1: And if she, I think, had been vulnerable with some
34:21
Speaker 1: of these other universally understood but hard to deal with
34:31
Speaker 1: obsessive thoughts that, you know, people have, especially... and the
34:38
Speaker 1: majority of Nenday fiance viewers are women, I think that
34:42
Speaker 1: the viewers would have been a lot more sympathetic towards her. Yeah,
34:52
Speaker 1: because unfortunately people really heard just the kissing and were like,
34:56
Speaker 1: she doesn't have OCD then. That's not what OCD is.
35:00
Speaker 1: Even though early on she was like, I was diagnosed
35:02
Speaker 1: as a young kid. And it's like, you think that
35:04
Speaker 1: as a young kid, as like a six-year-old, she was like,
35:06
Speaker 1: I want to kiss people? No, that bitch, little girl,
35:09
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying? I'm just, I'm saying bitch
35:11
Speaker 1: because it's my way of saying person. That person was
35:16
Speaker 1: obviously struggling with intrusive thoughts, obsessive thoughts, and went to
35:21
Speaker 1: a psychiatrist as a child and obviously got diagnosed. Okay.
35:25
Speaker 1: And is going to talk about it, you know, on TV.
35:28
Speaker 1: I'm sure it happened. Come on. I'm happy that she
35:34
Speaker 1: felt beautiful in her dress. And I'm so sorry that
35:37
Speaker 1: she feels obsessive or unhappy with her body. And I
35:45
Speaker 1: know what that feeling is like. And I'm very thankful
35:49
Speaker 1: I don't have, I mean, I think, I guess in relationship,
35:56
Speaker 1: like a medical diagnosed problem. obsessive need to think about
36:01
Speaker 1: that over and over again, or, you know, as loud
36:05
Speaker 1: as I'm sure it is in her head, you know,
36:07
Speaker 1: because of the, you know, thing, all that to say,
36:10
Speaker 1: I have empathy and sympathy for that person. Anyway, now
36:17
Speaker 1: it's hard for me to deal with this and I
36:19
Speaker 1: get it. It's just that they have no money and
36:23
Speaker 1: definitely her parents want to give her no help, which
36:25
Speaker 1: is not fine. They have no money for this wedding, nothing.
36:29
Speaker 1: No one's there to help except the people that are
36:33
Speaker 1: there as guests. The guests are the workers. His friend
36:38
Speaker 1: has to set up chairs. Her friends do all of
36:41
Speaker 1: her hair and makeup. And none of these people have
36:44
Speaker 1: ever done hair and makeup before. Ever. Forever. Okay. Okay.
36:56
Speaker 1: So it's interesting. She wants to do everything herself, but
36:59
Speaker 1: it's like she, yeah, she is very controlling over money.
37:03
Speaker 1: One of her friends, and I'm just, this makes me
37:06
Speaker 1: so upset, but I'll just have to deal with it,
37:08
Speaker 1: starts to braid her hair. One little piece, like in
37:12
Speaker 1: the 90s that we did, you know, like in the 90s,
37:14
Speaker 1: you get like this piece here, you would braid it
37:16
Speaker 1: and it would hang off to the side or something
37:18
Speaker 1: like that. But In the bridal updo world, if you're
37:23
Speaker 1: going to braid a piece and you're going to want
37:25
Speaker 1: to actually put it up in an updo, you have
37:30
Speaker 1: to French braid it. Like you have to do the
37:32
Speaker 1: thing where it's stuck to the skull and therefore it
37:36
Speaker 1: looks right. Or you do like a fun like fishtail,
37:39
Speaker 1: but it has to like lay on the scalp, connected
37:43
Speaker 1: to the scalp, if that makes sense. You can't just
37:48
Speaker 1: braid it and then lay it against actual hair for
37:52
Speaker 1: a bridal updo. And this is specific, but it's the
37:56
Speaker 1: exact same thing how if you go to a spin class,
37:59
Speaker 1: you have to have the spin shoes that actually go
38:03
Speaker 1: into the bike, makes you one part of the bike
38:06
Speaker 1: where you're... You can't go to a spin class with
38:10
Speaker 1: your sneakers and expect to just Velcro them to the
38:14
Speaker 1: bike and have a good experience or the proper experience
38:18
Speaker 1: or the right experience or positive experience. I wish I
38:28
Speaker 1: could tell you that watching her friend do that Lucy
38:32
Speaker 1: goose shitty ass braid that wasn't going to be stuck
38:35
Speaker 1: on her scalp, that was just going to be like
38:37
Speaker 1: laying on top of thin hair. I watched that and
38:41
Speaker 1: I was fuming. Then, honey, I watched them use the
38:48
Speaker 1: curling iron to curl with the big barrel and a
38:52
Speaker 1: weird shaped barrel, her hair, and then just plop it out.
38:57
Speaker 1: There was just... a real lack of discernible skill or
39:04
Speaker 1: any sort of foresight. I, and I hadn't really let
39:10
Speaker 1: it go because I was like, this is not your
39:12
Speaker 1: wedding and you're not friends with Katie. You're not friends
39:14
Speaker 1: with Katie. This is not your wedding. This wedding has
39:17
Speaker 1: no bearing on you. She's happy. She's happy. Josh is happy.
39:25
Speaker 1: Josh is happy. She's happy. She paid no money for
39:27
Speaker 1: this period. She happy. No, she's not like you, Chris.
39:34
Speaker 1: She's not going to look back at pictures in five
39:37
Speaker 1: or 10 years or five months or two weeks or
39:39
Speaker 1: get the pictures immediately back and be like, oh, when
39:41
Speaker 1: I get my hair and makeup professionally done, she's not
39:46
Speaker 1: like you. to regret and then think about all the
39:51
Speaker 1: ways in which you can starve off the regret. Okay.
39:59
Speaker 1: So obviously Megan, who's Josh's friend with the darker red hair,
40:03
Speaker 1: has been tasked to do a lot of the wedding setup.
40:05
Speaker 1: Like I said, it has to set up all the
40:07
Speaker 1: chairs while he just directs her in his tux. No
40:13
Speaker 1: wonder why none of his friends would come. Hmm. So
40:20
Speaker 1: he texted Danica to see how things with Katie were going.
40:23
Speaker 1: Cause he doesn't want to text Katie. And Danica starts
40:26
Speaker 1: to like text some crazy things. Like she's off her meds. No,
40:30
Speaker 1: Danica's like, I don't know. She's scared. She like, you know, he,
40:34
Speaker 1: he doesn't get a feeling like things are going to
40:36
Speaker 1: be okay. Okie dokie. Guests start coming. He's worried that
40:44
Speaker 1: she won't show up now. I cannot imagine a world
40:51
Speaker 1: in which I would ever get married. And there are
40:53
Speaker 1: two couples on this episode who are supposedly getting married.
40:58
Speaker 1: Three couples are showing up where the groom doesn't know
41:03
Speaker 1: for sure if the bride's going to show up. That's
41:06
Speaker 1: what I want to say. Not any fiance is making
41:09
Speaker 1: us watch this and wants us to be insulted, to
41:14
Speaker 1: insult our intelligence by making us feel like three grooms
41:19
Speaker 1: are like, 50-50 chance that my bride doesn't show up. Therefore,
41:26
Speaker 1: turning this episode into what feels kind of like a
41:31
Speaker 1: crossover Love is Blind finale episode. where we're seeing a
41:35
Speaker 1: lot of like people going and getting ready at a
41:39
Speaker 1: venue by themselves. And then we see a lot of
41:42
Speaker 1: guests filing in and we see a lot of worried grooms.
41:46
Speaker 1: And then we see a lot of like grooms looking
41:48
Speaker 1: at their watch and grooms, you know, like being like,
41:50
Speaker 1: I don't know they're going to come. And I don't know,
41:53
Speaker 1: you know, what they're thinking. And if they are a
41:55
Speaker 1: second guest, like we get so much of that, that
41:57
Speaker 1: I'm like, am I watching Netflix? Is this love is mine?
42:03
Speaker 1: Don't worry though, Josh, nor darker red-haired Megan, because Katie
42:10
Speaker 1: does pull up in her bridal minivan for like a
42:15
Speaker 1: 90s minivan, honey. And because there's like no one there
42:22
Speaker 1: that like is helping them run stuff, Josh has to
42:26
Speaker 1: be like, hey, guests, everyone stand up. The bride is
42:31
Speaker 1: going to walk down the aisle. who's usually that can
42:35
Speaker 1: be the officiant or something, but like the officiant is
42:38
Speaker 1: their friend. This whole wedding just feels like it was
42:48
Speaker 1: strewn together by like a traveling company of college actors,
43:00
Speaker 1: you know, like, traveling i mean it's just yeah so
43:13
Speaker 1: uh her and her dad walk down the aisle he's
43:16
Speaker 1: wearing sunglasses it does feel like her parents are like
43:18
Speaker 1: get her get her out get her out and then
43:20
Speaker 1: they have to kind of walk single file down a
43:22
Speaker 1: very thin runway and i didn't know why the runway
43:25
Speaker 1: was that thin Oh, is it because the person that
43:29
Speaker 1: set up the chairs, poor Megan, like didn't know what
43:32
Speaker 1: to do and no one told her what to do.
43:33
Speaker 1: So God bless. She just assumed that'd be enough space,
43:37
Speaker 1: but it's obviously not. As I said, their friend officiates
43:44
Speaker 1: and is basically like, dearly beloved, we're gathered here today
43:49
Speaker 1: to witness the ceremony and love union of Two steps forward,
43:55
Speaker 1: they take two steps back. They came together because opposites
44:00
Speaker 1: attract and we know. Like, okay. He's Paula Abdul. And
44:06
Speaker 1: she's the cat. The tap dancing cat. He's the straight
44:12
Speaker 1: laced one. The type A one. The stable one. She's
44:15
Speaker 1: the feral one. She's crazy. Doesn't make the bed. Steals
44:23
Speaker 1: the covers. A mess. Obsessed. Baby, I get obsessed. That's
44:36
Speaker 1: what they say in the song. She has OCD. She
44:40
Speaker 1: is the cat. Oh, no. Why did I say that?
44:47
Speaker 1: I feel bad now. Well, it's not so bad. Listen
44:54
Speaker 1: and work for them. You know, that was a big hit.
44:56
Speaker 1: That opposites attract. I loved that song. It's still a karaoke.
45:00
Speaker 1: I think, I mean, Jagger not. Nothing's better than that duet.
45:07
Speaker 1: So they should sing that. Honey, Katie and Josh should
45:11
Speaker 1: find where fucking Portland has karaoke every night. And they
45:18
Speaker 1: go and sing that song. so just you know maybe
45:27
Speaker 1: aisles in the stream as well if they want like
45:29
Speaker 1: a summer nights there's a trifecta of really great duets
45:34
Speaker 1: okay he carries her back uh down the aisle after
45:40
Speaker 1: she admits that she just wrote their vows she just
45:43
Speaker 1: wrote her vows and he's like great i have to
45:45
Speaker 1: read them off his phone um Back at the reception,
45:51
Speaker 1: it doesn't feel like they have an actual guest book,
45:53
Speaker 1: you know, where people like sign a guest book for
45:57
Speaker 1: a wedding. It truly feels like she just went to
46:00
Speaker 1: Staples and got a composition book or just like a
46:03
Speaker 1: lined notebook, something you would take notes in a college
46:06
Speaker 1: course and just got a bunch of pink markers. And therefore, yeah,
46:10
Speaker 1: like his mom signs the wedding guest book like one would,
46:17
Speaker 1: you know, sign a note for a really good friend.
46:20
Speaker 1: Or like their, yeah, your book. Now, his other friend's there, right?
46:25
Speaker 1: Because he loves redheads. Remember, Megan set up the wedding.
46:30
Speaker 1: He got married to Katie. Then there's this one, his
46:32
Speaker 1: other friend. I don't know exactly what it is. She
46:38
Speaker 1: looks like a Kristen Wiig character. And specifically, it's her hair. Well,
46:46
Speaker 1: it's her face and hair. Something about... her hair is great. Also,
46:59
Speaker 1: I feel like it does contain a lot of secrets
47:03
Speaker 1: and I would like to know what them secrets are.
47:04
Speaker 1: I like the cobalt blue blazer that she was wearing. Okay.
47:14
Speaker 1: But yeah, that notebook is definitely not a wedding notebook.
47:17
Speaker 1: And that wedding notebook is like for academics. All right,
47:21
Speaker 1: my baby boos. I have talked for so long, but
47:24
Speaker 1: I've talked myself into part two. Thank you so much
47:28
Speaker 1: for listening to part one. Obviously, I am on one
47:31
Speaker 1: and I need to get it all out. And I
47:34
Speaker 1: only have so many episodes left of this season to
47:36
Speaker 1: do so. So thank you so much for indulging. Me
47:39
Speaker 1: and spending time with me, of course, if you haven't yet.
47:41
Speaker 1: Give me five stars. Give it to me, honey. Give
47:44
Speaker 1: me what I want. Five stars. Make mommy happy. Some
47:48
Speaker 1: sort of comment maybe where you tell me that I'm
47:50
Speaker 1: either like funny or pretty or both. Probably both. And
47:54
Speaker 1: maybe your favorite joke or something. But definitely don't tell
47:56
Speaker 1: me how you can't stand the sound of my voice
47:58
Speaker 1: or some weird thing that I can't stop doing. You
48:01
Speaker 1: do you then, honey. I don't know. Or edit this
48:03
Speaker 1: for me. I don't have to tell you. Come control
48:06
Speaker 1: my mouth. I appreciate, though, and love everyone who downloads,
48:11
Speaker 1: listens to me, tells me that they enjoy my stupid thoughts.
48:16
Speaker 1: It really does mean a lot. Yeah, I really feel
48:22
Speaker 1: like in lieu of being able to tour or have
48:28
Speaker 1: my own talk show, this does feel so... lucky of
48:33
Speaker 1: me to be able to have some sort of vehicle
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Speaker 1: farrah at the same time you don't have to do
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Speaker 1: any of it you can just exist and i hope
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Speaker 1: part two and i'll see you there bye