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Mentoring Made Real With Nancy Lindgren · She Speaks Life - Christian Women, Strengthen Your Faith, Bible Study, Grow Spiritually In Christ

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Today I sit down with author and founder of More Mentoring, Nancy
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Lindgren. She runs an organization that's
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dedicated to mobilizing mentors with transformative courses and
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equipping them with tools and training for impactful mentoring
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relationships. We talk about her book called
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Mentoring Made Real, The Power of Authentic Connection.
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And you guys, if you're anything like me, then you know how much
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we need that spiritual mentorship in our lives no
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matter what age we are, and how we can be a mentor and be
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pouring into someone else's life as well.
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We cover everything on mentorship as Nancy reveals the
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four pillars of mentoring. And it's so good.
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Love everything Nancy shares with us.
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And I can't wait to implement this mentorship in my church.
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And if you're interested in that as well, the link is in show
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notes and she shares at the end of this conversation.
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OK, let's get to it. Here's my guest, Nancy Lindgren.
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Hey, Nancy, welcome to She Speaks Life.
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I'm so glad you're here today. Oh, thanks for having me, Jamie.
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I'm thrilled to be here today, too.
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Your message is incredible. I can't wait to dive in.
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We're going to talk about mentorship, and I don't think
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I've ever had anybody on here yet to talk about the impact and
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the meaning of mentoring others and those mentoring
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relationships and how essential it is as as women encourage and
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love each other. Well, so I can't wait to dive
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into that further. But before we get started, I'd
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love for you to share your favorite scripture verse and why
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it's special to you. Well, I love that question And
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this verse really as a young girl became my life verse.
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And it's John 3:30 and it's John the Baptist talking about Jesus
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that he says he must become greater.
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I must become less. And another translation says he
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must increase, I must decrease. And really, that's what I want
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my life to be about. I want to be pointing people to
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him. I want, you know, even in
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mentoring, it's not about me as a mentor.
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It's really about God. And I remember a moment in time,
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probably 15 years ago. I was sitting with my daughter
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in the car at a red light and I asked her this question, kind of
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a morbid question, but I said what do you think would go on my
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tombstone when I die? And I don't think I've ever
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asked my kids that question before.
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And. I know.
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It's like, what is she going to say?
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Oh, she was an OK mom, you know? But the words that came out of
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her mouth so touched me, and she said how great is our God?
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And I thought that is what I want to be about.
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And it just was like she got it, you know, at least one out of
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the four of my kids got it. And that was her response.
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So that really touched me, you know, I want that's really what
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I want to be about. And she she captured that.
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Oh, that's so sweet. I love that.
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See, I I love asking what people's favorite scripture
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verses because there's usually something that really makes us
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find out more about that person. And so that's such a great
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story. And what a sweet daughter to
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take it back to Jesus, take it back to God.
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Not something like, you know, you've done, you know, even
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though that's great. You leaving a legacy, you know,
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there's probably something you know, you're probably thinking
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you'd hear. But for her to direct it back to
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the Lord like that, I mean. It really touched me.
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I just, yeah. I don't know if she'd say that
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today or not, but she did then. Yeah, that's so great.
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Yeah. So what we are going to talk
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about mentorship. You are a founder and CEO of
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more Mentoring which is an organization dedicates to
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mobilizing mentors and with transformational courses and
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tools for them to get trained on how to be impactful and mentor
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others. Well and so you also wrote a
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book called Mentoring made real the power of authentic
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connection. And I think all of this is just
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so important when it comes to US women and how we can mentor.
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Well or maybe we're in a situation where, gosh, I'm, I'm
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looking for a mentor. I know I've, I've got, you know,
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a younger daughter who, you know, looks for that mentor.
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And so either way, this story is going to speak to both sides,
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whether you're looking for a mentor or you've just have had
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this poll from the Holy Spirit on wanting to maybe mentor
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another woman or. And I really feel like it.
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I think we can get it confused. Tell me if I'm wrong, that we
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have to be older than the person, but really, I mean, we
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can mentor somebody the same age as us, right?
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And so anyway, I I would love for you to start us off with.
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Why mentorship. Why this is so meaningful to
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you. Well, thank you for, you know,
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just even asking that question because it is meaningful to me
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and it really started back when I was in high school.
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So we don't have to be 50 plus to be a writer.
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You know, I had a really good friend whose mom passed away
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when she was a sophomore in high school and I was a senior in
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high school and I just came alongside her and I didn't know
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what to do. I didn't have experience in
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that. I just sat with her.
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I cried with her. I let her talk it out.
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I walked with her in that. That season.
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And to this day, she calls me a mentor, even though all those
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years ago, that word probably wasn't even around, right?
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Right. Yeah.
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But to think about someone walking with you.
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And that's really how I define a mentor, someone who walks
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alongside another and points them to Jesus.
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And so age really doesn't even have to matter all that much.
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It's you have to love Jesus and be willing to come alongside
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another person. And I think there's so much fear
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out there of I can't do this. I'm not qualified.
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You know, I don't know enough. I'll have the wrong answers.
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Well, back as a senior, I didn't have the right answers.
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You know, I didn't have advice. But I sat with her, sat with her
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in a really hard season. And I think that's so much of
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what a mentor is, is, you know, someone pointed this way.
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Thank you, Nancy, for sitting with me in the pit, you know,
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and a mentor often is that person you're willing to go
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there with another person. And the hard things and the
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great things. We rejoice with those who
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rejoice and we mourn with those who mourn.
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And that's biblical. And I see that is what a mentor
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is. That's so great because I look
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back at the women I've mentored and it is walking beside them in
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the difficult times. That's exactly it.
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That you hit the definition so well.
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I love that. OK, you provide 4 pillars of
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mentoring, cultivating, transformation through love, act
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of listening, encouragement and prayer.
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So I would love for us to kind of touch on each key point.
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I think this is just the foundation of it all.
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I do too. And you know, I'm a person that
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loves to keep it so simple. I think if we complicate it and
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make it really hard, no one is going to do this.
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And so I just love simplicity, but yet it's so powerful and
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I've seen it in woman's lives. They have said to me this has
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changed my life, you know, so I've seen the transformation and
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it doesn't have to be hard. And so for those of you that are
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even considering being a mentor out there, you know, start with
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love. Start with loving another person
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and maybe that feels a little bit strong or uncomfortable, but
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think about it as being empathy, You know, step in with them and
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sit with them, or just being concerned or caring about what
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they care about. You know, maybe it's a mom with
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little kids and you step in and you love her kids and you you go
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to her the park with her kids and you sit and talk, you know,
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but you, you care about what she cares about.
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And I think that's huge. And I think today, women really
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need to be seen. Heard and known and love
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encompasses that. They are going to feel so loved
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if they are seen, heard and known.
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And so I think that's just kind of the bottom line.
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Jesus loved people really well. He had compassion for them and I
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think that's how we start in these relationships.
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We really just care. And we look at what they're
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going through and we really want to know and be interested in
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what they care about as well. Yeah.
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And I think it's important to fill ourselves up with God's
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love. Like, if we're not connected in
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that personal relationship with the Lord and we're not filling
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ourselves up with God's love, it's going to be harder to be
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empathetic or compassionate or reach out to somebody else with
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love. So as we develop our, you know,
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great love for God and and acknowledge how much He loves us
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and we're filled up with God's love, we can't help but in that
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outpouring to serve others and to share that love with women
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and to be there for them and and be a sacrifice.
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You know, take that time out during your day, sacrifice some
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of your your time for somebody else.
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And we can't do that without filling ourselves up with that
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godly love. Yeah, you're speaking my
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language, Jamie. I love it because I talk about
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this I speaking from experience. I love it.
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Well, I really talk about the goal in mentoring is to fill up
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and pour out. And so we can't pour anything
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out. And you use that word overflow.
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We can't pour anything out unless we're filled up.
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And I even have a cup sitting here because I love just sharing
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this visual and it, you know, it says mentor on it.
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So mentors, you know, we fill up with Jesus every day and we just
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let him pour into us and then we can pour into someone else's cup
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that might be really empty. And so many times God has given
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me a scripture in the morning as I spend time with him and I keep
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my Bible open and then throughout the day.
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As people contact me or I text someone, I'm just sharing a
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verse that God used in my life that day.
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So as I filled up with him, I pour it out and it's amazing how
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many hundreds of times people have said how much that has
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meant to them. And so it's really not us coming
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up with something new. It's just every day we fill up
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with Jesus and we pour it out to others.
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Yeah, it's amazing what can happen in that quiet time, that
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time with the Lord. You have no idea what that
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prayer or that scripture verse that you meditated on or noodled
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on that that would carry over throughout your day or something
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during the week. I mean it's just I love how God
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reveals like that. It's really cool when when you
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can see the the big picture sometimes of what happens in
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your quiet time and and what you study.
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OK, so you go from love. OK, active listening.
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Wow. Active.
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Listening, I know. So important.
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I can't even tell you how many times.
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And this is, you know, not just outside the four walls of
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church. I mean also inside church where
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you're having a conversation with somebody and you kind of
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see eyes drifting, You can see that they are not active
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listening and they're nodding their head cause somewhere along
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the line you lost them. So I really appreciate it when
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I'm having conversations with ladies and they are actively
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listening, 'cause they lock eyes with you, they're responding to
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what you're saying. So it ends up being a
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conversation, not just a monologue.
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It becomes this dialogue. So I love that you share about
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active listening, so let's expand on that.
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Yeah, well, I think it's so biblical.
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You know, in the Bible, all you know, there's many verses that
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talk about listen before you speak and you know, so leaning
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in and really listening to someone's heart, I think instead
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of being ready with your next answer or be thinking about what
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am I going to say next. Like you said, look at their
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eyes and you know, watch the expression, see when they're
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sad, see when they're happy. And maybe ask another question
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that takes them deeper into why are you feeling that way, You
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know, so we're focused on them instead of us and and we lean in
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and we're paying attention to those things.
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And and I always want to be coming back with, you know, the
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listening to remember so I can come back with another question
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to ask or even the next time we meet, you know, how did that go,
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you know, when you shared this? So she really knew that I.
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I was paying attention and and often times I'm writing down
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because I can't remember very well anymore in my old age, you
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know, So I want to be writing down and remembering and being
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willing to to go back to something that she shared.
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And I think that just means a lot to someone to know they've
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really been heard. Yeah, I think that follow up is
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key. I mean, people light up, you
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know? I know.
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I knew when somebody comes up to me and says, hey, you know, how
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was dropping your son off at college?
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I mean, people remembering where you left off in conversation, it
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really means a lot. And it goes back to women
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feeling, you know, seeing, heard and known.
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So yeah, love that active listening and being intentional
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with that and making sure we're respecting others and really
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taking in what they're saying and answering or asking
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questions is key too. And it's not about you and I do
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love that asking the questions, moving on to encouragement.
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This is a biggie. And this is something that has,
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you know, really hit home with me and made it an importance,
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made it intentional in my life to encourage others.
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Because I know what it does for me and I'm no different than any
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other woman. So let's hear about
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encouragement. Well, I love that word,
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encouragement. And you know, it is a spiritual
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gift. So some people have the
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spiritual gift of encouragement and it comes really natural and
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it just flows out of their life. You know, I have a relative in
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my life and she walks in the door and she's just so positive
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and encouraging and just life giving, you know, It's just so
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natural for her. But I want to be around her all
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the time. I do.
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Can you live here I. Know, I know.
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But I have people in my life too, that it doesn't come as
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natural too. I think they have to work at it
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a little bit harder and we all can work in it.
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And so I think just being conscious of focusing on that
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other person and really the word encourage means to put courage
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within somebody else. Encourage.
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And so we're putting courage within them.
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We're focused on them. We're calling out the good that
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we see in them and we're just, we're focused on them instead of
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us. And I think we.
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We all need it. And, you know, even I think
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encouragement comes probably more naturally for me.
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And so I love to encourage people.
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But there's times like I asked the Lord for encouragement when
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I having a hard day or I'm just feeling discouraged.
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I asked him, God, would you just send someone to encourage me
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today? And he so often does, whether
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it's just a little text or a verse or something.
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But I just think we all need it, you know?
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And there's times where encouragement can mean we're
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just sharing our story or we're sharing a.
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Verse or we're sharing something uplifting, or we're speaking
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life over someone. There's different ways to do it,
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but I think we all need it desperately.
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Yeah. You never know what that will do
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for somebody in their life. It could totally change their
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trajectory and you know, head for something that they feel
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called to. And your encouragement just gave
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them that that boost to step forward in faith and do it.
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So yeah, you never know what those seeds do.
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And so important and then lastly, but probably the most
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important here is prayer. So let's hear about prayer.
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Absolutely. This is where I, you know, with
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mentoring, we call it prayer focused mentoring at our
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ministry. Anyway, that's what we want to
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be about and it's a focus on God.
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It's not like the mentor has to come in and give all this great
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advice, you know, or wisdom. It's like we go to prayer when
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that woman is sharing these hard things.
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I'm not there going, here's your answers, 123.
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Here's how to change it. Let's go to God together.
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And so that has been the greatest encouragement of all
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when we seek God. God answer our prayers and He's
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at work and He encourages us through His scripture.
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That's where truly lives are transformed and that's where
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I've heard this has changed my life.
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It's the prayer focused mentoring.
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And so I like to call it these four principles of prayer.
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And we look up, first of all, every time we pray together, we
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look up at God. We start with praise, We look at
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his attributes, his character. And I've written mentoring
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guides where we just kind of help people walk through this
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prayer time because sometimes it's hard, it's not always a
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natural thing to pray together and some people don't have
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experience in that. So we start with praise and we
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look at a verse maybe it's God is faithful and we look at a
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verse and we pray it back to him and say Lord, we love that you
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are faithful and we just go back and.
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Forth and praise him for his faithfulness.
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And then our eyes go in and we look within and we take time to
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confess. And sometimes that's an awkward
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thing for people to confess out loud, but it is so freeing and
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truly it breaks chains. And you know, it says in James
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516 to confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so
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that you may be healed. And the prayer of a righteous
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person is powerful and effective.
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And so confession is really an important time, even though that
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can be not a natural thing. The more we do it and get used
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to it and just confessing to God, but in front of another
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person, it really is powerful. And then we take time to look
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around. So our eyes look around and we
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thank God. You know, really, Thanksgiving
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changes us. We can't be anxious and thankful
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at the same time. Our bodies can't do it.
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And so I want to be a woman who is thankful more than she's
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anxious and that's when peace sets in.
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And so we look around and we look behind us how God has been
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faithful to answer prayers in the past and and we look right
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beside us what he's doing right now.
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Maybe it's in our kids life or in our life or in our marriage
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and we thank him for it. But we also look ahead to the
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future and we thank him for things that he hasn't even done
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yet. And that increases our faith and
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it just makes us go God, you are able to do anything.
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And I'm thankful that you are going to answer this prayer in
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your perfect time. I don't see it today, but I will
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choose to be thankful today. And then we go to him.
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Our eyes go to him in asking. And I love that story in the
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Bible of the blind man Bartimaeus, where he's standing
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before Jesus. And Jesus looks him in the eyes
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and says, what do you want me to do for you?
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And he says, I want to see. It was as simple as that.
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And Jesus healed him because of his faith and he was just so
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specific. And I I want to be the type of
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women that we are so specific and we believe that Jesus is
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saying, what do you want me to do for you?
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I can do anything. Come to me boldly and with great
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faith, and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable
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things you would never know. That's another favorite verse of
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mine. Jeremiah 33, Three.
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So those are the four simple steps of prayer and principles
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of prayer that we just like to use our eyes as we pray, but it
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kind of gives us a structure to walk through as we pray
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together. But wow, does God respond to
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those prayers. I've seen it over and over
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again. Wow.
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Yes, beautiful. I love that.
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And the gratitude. It does totally shift your your
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mood and your perspective on your circumstances and speaking
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out the the truth too and just. Declaring what you desire.
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And I was sharing the scripture verse to a friend.
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Delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your
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heart. But we always forget that first
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part of the verse delight and the Lord, because when we're
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delighting in the Lord. Our our our desires are going to
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be his desires and we're going to be lined up when we delight
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in him first and give him that delight a priority #1 front and
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center. And then He will give us the
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desires of our heart. So I just love that when we
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speak that out, it definitely it it brings.
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Power it. It's just the atmosphere.
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It moves mountains and it's definitely an importance to me
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to be able to speak that out and encourage others do it.
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You may feel a little silly at first, but.
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Man, I mean it works. It's powerful tool that the Lord
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has given us a mouth to declare and speak and so and what a
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testimony for others too when we're speaking out things as
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well so they know what's going on in your heart and they can be
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in agreement with you. And then see, yes, the praise
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report, the miracle on the other side so well.
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And I'll add one more thing to Jamie.
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You know I love putting our names right into Scripture and
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using the word of God when we pray.
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There is such great power in that, you know, his word goes
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out and accomplishes what it was sent to do.
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It doesn't return empty and void.
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And so we want to be using God's words and we don't know what to
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pray. We put a name right in there and
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it goes out with power. And like you said, that
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declaration, there's something about God's word.
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You know, when we speak it and declare it, it goes out and it
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will do it. And so that just gives great
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confidence too. Yes.
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OK. So this is not by accident that
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you mentioned that because I actually have a journal that by
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the time we air this episode it will be live, but.
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Versus journal and inside I created the scripture verses
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where you can write your name on the.
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In the blanks inside the scripture verse.
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So I mean, hello, this is a great it's not about me in this
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episode here, but I can't help but share that this is
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definitely. A huge importance in my life to
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put your name in the scripture verse and what it does and it
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brings that intimate, personal aspect to.
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The the verses like that and oh love it.
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Thanks for sharing that so I can have the opportunity to share my
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journal here. I love it.
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We are kindred spirits and God's working really in our lives, so
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I love it. Yeah, we are.
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OK. Anything else that you would
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love to share about your program, your organization, more
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mentoring before we dive into a take away?
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Yeah. Well, first of all, I had one
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thought I wanted to bring out as we were talking earlier, you
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know, the the word intimacy versus information.
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You know, there's the women out there today have so much
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information that they are bombarded with and it's coming
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at them at all times. But intimacy, when someone can
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truly look into me and see me for who I am, I think they're
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just longing for that. And so I don't know those words
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just jump into my spirit when and we're talking about even the
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listening and the loving. Someone wants to be seen and
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into me, see, instead of just giving me information.
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And so I guess our ministry wants to be that we want to help
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people find each other and once they find each other, help them
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know what to do. And they sit down in front of
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each other and go, OK, here's a mentor and here's a mentee.
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Now what do we do? And so we want to help.
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And so that's why we've written mentoring guides to just kind of
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walk people through that. And we have training for and we
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have training for mobilizers, those people who want to do this
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at their church and help women connect with each other or maybe
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at their organization or at their school.
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And so we call them mobilizers, those who really are the ones
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who call up people and connect them and prepare them to take
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action. That's what mobilizing is.
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And so we love helping, and that's what we're all about.
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And so I know you can find more information at our website
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morementoring.org, but check out our mentoring guides even
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because it's just a great tool to put in someone's hands.
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I know the very first church I helped back in Minnesota, we
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lived there and I went to the church we were going to and God
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had just planted this ministry on my heart.
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It's almost 10 years ago now and I just went to my church and
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said God stir and he's doing something.
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And you know, I don't know really what to do, but here I
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am. And there was two other women
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there, and they had the same desire to have mentoring
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happening at our church. And so the three of us began to
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pray and ask the Lord, what does this look like?
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And we just began writing down and, you know, had thoughts.
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But we prayed for almost a whole year until God really gave us
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the full plan. And then we kind of launched
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this mentoring ministry that we really didn't know what we were
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doing. But 65 women signed up that
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first year, and it was so encouraging.
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And so we didn't have a mentoring guide.
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We just said meet together, you know, pray together.
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And I'll never get this one to some, a mentor and a mentee,
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we're meeting together and it was really hard for them.
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I'll just say that, you know, one was from another country and
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really, really quiet and the mentor didn't know how to draw
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her out and say, you know, what questions do I ask her.
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And so I just sat there thinking, we've got to put
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something in their hands that would help guide them.
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You know, some this comes so naturally too, and they can just
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do it organically. But the majority of women out
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there just need a little something to kind of guide them
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that. And so our mentoring guides
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start with conversation starters.
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We have like 4 simple questions, two really light hearted and
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two, going deeper of how do how do I even have a conversation
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with another person? How do what are the questions to
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ask So you don't have to come up with all of that.
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And people have said that is so helpful and they have gotten to
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know each other so much more quickly because of those
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conversation starters. And then we have encouragement
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starters in there like how do I encourage someone if that
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doesn't come naturally and we just have ideas like share a
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piece of your story or share a scripture or share something you
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see in your mentee that would really bless her today.
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So just some ideas on how to encourage and then we have
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prayer starters. So we kind of walk through those
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four principles of prayer that I already shared about.
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So you know, it's a little bit of structure with a lot of
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freedom. But we have heard that women so
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appreciate those guides just to to kind of get them going, get
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them started. We kind of call it a front porch
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ministry where you're you're just getting started into this,
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so you don't know what to do and we're here to help you.
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And so you can always do Bible studies and book studies from
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there, you know. But we're here to help you.
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Just take those first steps. Oh, I love that front porch
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ministry. It's fantastic.
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It's a turnkey mentor ministry and I know we'll be talking
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afterwards to get my church involved in this because wow,
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this is amazing. I think every church needs this
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for sure, and I would love for you to end us with a take away
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of what's something our listener here can ponder on or take
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action in. I love the taking action, you
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know, I think we can just take a small step.
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We can have that attitude of here I am, Lord, use me however
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you want to and I just say there's three PS to taking
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action. First of all, pray ask God you
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know, who is it? Do I need a mentor and and or
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should I be a mentor to somebody?
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And then Lord, would you just open my eyes to someone around
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me that maybe I don't even see right now?
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Maybe it's a family member, maybe it's someone at my church,
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maybe it's a neighbor, you know, a Co worker.
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We don't know. But God has so often answered
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that prayer when I prayed it. And all of a sudden he
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illuminates someone who could just use another person in their
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life. And so pray, just go to God and
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ask him to reveal that. And then I say the word pursue.
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You know, so many of us just kind of sit back and wait for
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the other person to respond or reach out.
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And that's easier. It's easier.
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But to go after that person and pursue her and to say, do you
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want to go out for coffee? I'd love to get to know you
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better. It doesn't have to be the words.
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Will you be my mentor on that first meeting?
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But let's. I'd love to get to know you.
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I want to hear your story. You know, Jesus left the 99 to
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go after the one. And and I just say, let's care
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about the one that God shows us and pursue her and then the word
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participate, you know, so much today is about cancel culture
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and ghosting and, you know, kind of leaving people and rejecting
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people. But let's let's lean in and
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let's participate and really get to know that person.
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And even in the messy, you know, so many of our lives are really
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messy. A lot of us are going through
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hard things. But are we, are we willing to
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step in and really participate in another person's life?
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And so those are kind of my three simple words of taking
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action. I think it's doable for any of
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us. And if any of you are out there
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feeling fearful or feeling like, oh, I'm unqualified because
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that's the number one thing I hear is I'm unqualified to do
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this. I just say Jesus is the one who
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qualifies you and you are enough in him, and it's really way more
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about him than it is about you. So keep that focus on God, be
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willing, be available, and he will do amazing things through
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your life. I know it, I've seen it, I've
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experienced it. And I know he'll do the same for
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you. I love that.
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I love the three PS that is just beautiful and everything you're
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doing. Nancy, this is just incredible.
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I want to thank you so much for coming on here.
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And where can people find your book and your website and get
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involved? Maybe they're thinking, wow,
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maybe I can approach somebody at my church for this mentorship
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program or? They want to even start one in
33:30
their home as a small group. So where can people go to for
33:35
this information? Yes, our website is more
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mentoring.org, and so you'll find everything there from our
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mentoring guides to my book, Mentoring Made Real.
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We we will direct you to Amazon because that's where we sell
33:48
them. But we also have ebooks and
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PDFs. We have free resources.
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We have all those training videos.
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All of that is there. But you can also find both
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myself, Nancy Lindgren or the Ministry more mentoring on
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Facebook and Instagram. Just search for us there.
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We're always putting out encouragement and content and
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and all that good stuff. So great thanks Nancy for your
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encouragement, your wisdom, and. I'm ready to dive into this
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organization on mentorship. I think it's so important for
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all of us to, you know, get involved and do life together,
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you know, and that's what it's all about.
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And having God be the foundation of it all.
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We can see some, like you said, chains broken, and some powerful
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shifts in our life to move forward in faith in the
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assignment and the calling that the Lord has put on US, women's
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hearts. So thank you so much for your
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encouragement to us, Nancy. Oh, thank you, Jamie.
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You've been encouragement to me too.
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So I appreciate what you're doing.
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Thanks for shining in a bright light out there.
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Thanks, Nancy. Thank you so much for listening
34:58
today, and I trust that God has encouraged you through this
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I hope God reveals himself through your own life story.