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A narcissist can make you feel CRAZY! · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  You're not crazy. Yeah, that's what we're talking
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  about today. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of The Narcissist Code. Boom right into it today.
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  Y'all we right into it. I'm hype.
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  I got some energy. Shout out to my friend Lisa for
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  she part Lisa's part of my support group.
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  We had a good conversation on in our morning support chat and she
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  inspired me. So shout out to Lisa.
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  My support groups links are in the bio description everywhere.
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  You find them there. Y'all but yes, yes yes you are
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  not crazy. Narcissistic people talks to
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  people. They want you to feel crazy.
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  They want you to think you're going crazy.
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  But you are not crazy. You might feel like you are
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  y'all. Just be realistic.
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  When you're in these toxic relationship dynamics, you
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  might. You lose a bit of who you are
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  you like, you lose a bit of who you are.
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  You. You lose the most authentic
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  version of yourself. You lose who you were at the
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  beginning, right? You're no longer the same
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  person. And it's understandable.
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  A lot of people face this dilemma of it going through
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  like, I don't know who I am anymore.
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  And because you've been gas lit and manipulated so much and lied
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  to so much, you start to question your own.
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  You start to question reality. Am I the crazy?
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  Am I overreacting? Am I really insecure?
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  Did they really, Did I really catch them cheating?
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  Are these screenshots real? Is this?
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  Has this has this video of them clapping them other cheeks?
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  Has this been doctored in any way?
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  I don't know what's going on anymore.
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  You are not crazy. Your feelings are valid.
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  You saw what you saw. You heard what you heard.
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  You spoke what you spoke. You tasted what you tasted.
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  You know what I mean? All all 5 senses.
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  You feel it. But see, Yeah, you smelt it too.
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  You smelt what they dealt. He you know you smelt what they
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  dealt. You get it?
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  Y'all. You are not crazy.
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  They will. I'm just.
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  I'm just telling you, it serves the narcissist to make you feel
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  like you're crazy. It does it.
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  It really, really, really does. It serves them to make it.
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  To make you feel like you are the narcissist or make you feel
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  like you're crazy. To make you feel like you are
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  the toxic one. Quick break, Y'all, sorry for
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  the interruption. Want to make sure you hit that
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  subscribe button? Turn on all notifications, Check
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  out my courses and my support groups as well and back to your
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  video. Like they love it when you
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  react. Like if you're reacting to the
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  abuse, like if reactive abuse is a real thing.
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  If you're reacting to something that they did to you and you're
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  having an over the top reaction, like you're screaming, you're
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  crying, you're yelling, you're in pain, and they record you to
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  make it seem like you are, this are, you are the main
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  antagonist. Look how crazy you are.
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  See. You're going crazy.
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  Look how look. Look how calm I am.
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  I'm recording you. I'm going to show this to
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  everybody to show you how crazy you are.
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  Look how calm I am. Only one of us is yelling and
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  screaming, and that one of us is you.
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  So you must be the crazy one. And they do that over and over
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  and over again. And the longer you stay in it,
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  the more you feel like you are the problem.
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  The longer you stay around this person, the more you feel like
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  you are the issue. The longer you are here, the
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  more you start to feel crazy. And that's why I just simply
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  entitled this video. You are not crazy.
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  That's why I simply entitled like this is the episode.
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  You are not crazy because I got y'all need to.
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  You need to hear those words. Because when I'm talking to
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  people one-on-one over zoom, when I'm when I'm interviewing
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  people, when I'm speaking to people, I'm doing podcasts and
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  whatnot. That's why I all I hear is I'm
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  going crazy. I feel like I'm going crazy.
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  I'm losing my mind. This is where I'm at right now.
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  This is how they this is how they want you.
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  When you when they feel like they have you thinking you're
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  going crazy, they win. It's a victory for them.
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  It is narcissistic people. A lot of them think in terms of
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  wins and losses and you going crazy or you feeling like you're
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  going crazy is a victory to them because they can keep you off
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  balance. Hey, my friend said they saw you
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  out last night at the bar. Your friend didn't see anything.
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  I wasn't even at the bar. And if I was at the bar, why do
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  you have your friend watching me?
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  You're like, why you stalking me?
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  Your friend is stalking me. You're you stalking y'all crazy.
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  You're so insecure. They plant the CEO, Y'all.
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  They plant the crazy seed. You see what I'm saying?
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  Like, matter of fact, look, look, the peppercorns.
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  Like little peppercorns right here.
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  They plant the little peppercorns, they plant the
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  little seeds in the ground, and then they water them.
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  They water the seeds of insanity in your mind, right?
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  They make you feel like you're going crazy.
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  They make you question what you saw or what you heard, and then
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  you start to do it on your own because they they've yelled and
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  screamed at you so much over time for being insecure, for
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  being crazy that you stop wondering, that you stop wanting
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  to even talk about it anymore. Now you don't even want to talk
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  about it anymore. Now you don't want to bring it
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  up because you don't want to be yelled and screamed at, right?
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  So you just sit with it. You sit with it and you sit in
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  it and these thoughts flow through your head.
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  They keep flowing through your head the entire time, and they
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  make you feel like you're going crazy.
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  Am I crazy for bringing this up? Am I?
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  Am I going insane? You going to feel like it?
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  Y'all you're going to feel like you know, y'all.
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  You don't understand how many people I've talked to over the
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  last few years that have said those exact words.
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  You might. You might you watching this
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  video? Because you might have said
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  those exact words, haven't you? You may be watching this video
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  right now because you said the words.
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  I feel like I'm crazy. I'm going crazy.
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  I feel insane. I feel like I'm the problem
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  because they keep messing with you.
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  Y'all. It benefits a narcissist to mess
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  with you. It greatly benefits them to keep
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  you off balance, to keep you off guard.
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  It just does. Y'all.
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  It's one of those things that it just they benefit directly from
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  you feeling like you're going crazy because they can keep
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  doing what they want to do and you might stop questioning it
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  and start questioning yourself. You might stop questioning them
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  and start questioning your own actions.
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  You might stop questioning them and start questioning how you
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  feel like you stop wanting to go out the house because they feel
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  like you. You you get scared to go outside
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  and talk to your friends or or go out and have fun with your
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  friends because you get afraid that they're going to say
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  something to you when you get home or they're going to be
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  blowing your phone up the entire time you're out with your
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  friends. They don't let you have no any
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  kind of yeah, it's hard to. It's hard not to feel crazy when
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  you're always in fight or flight.
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  When you're stressed you you when you always under constant
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  stress, it's hard to feel peace or find peace in any type of
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  these situations. So this video right here is for
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  you to understand that even if you are still in the
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  relationship, you are not crazy. Some people might call you crazy
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  for still being there, but I know everybody's situation is
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  different. I don't.
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  I'm not. I'm not trying to drag you out
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  of your relationship. I just, I'm just bringing,
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  trying to bring this level of understanding to you, so you
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  understand what you're going through, so you understand what
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  you're experiencing, so you understand the dynamic, the the
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  subtle intricacies of what's going on here.
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  Because I want you to understand it and see it.
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  If you're still in a relationship, you can start
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  setting boundaries and start believing your truth.
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  Your truth is the truth. There's not a version of the
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  truth. It's not a version of the truth.
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  It's not something you made-up of your head.
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  There's not three sides to every store.
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  Your side, my side in the truth. Your version is the truth.
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  Your version is the objective truth.
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  You saw it. You heard it.
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  You seen it. You smelt it.
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  Your version is the objective truth.
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  There's no denying this. But they're going to deny it
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  anyway because and I know and I know what goes on a lot of
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  people's minds, like, you can catch them in the act.
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  Video recording. Look, they can be holding their
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  license and registration in the camera, in the, in the
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  recording. Y'all, yes, this is me.
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  I'm Lee Hammock. Here's my license and
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  registration. I'm doing whatever they accuse
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  me of. You showed them that video and
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  they were like, Nah, that ain't me.
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  Because the audacity and the brazenness of it is they.
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  So they're so damn brash. You'd be like, no, nobody,
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  nobody would. No, Nobody would deny all this
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  evidence. No, no, no, no.
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  Because you wouldn't deny it. So you assume nobody else would
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  deny it. Narcissistic people are built on
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  survival, Y'all. They want to survive, whatever
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  it is, you know? They want to survive.
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  They want to do whatever it takes in these situations right
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  here. They want to keep things moving
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  forward and what not. They just want to keep doing
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  what benefits them or what they feel like is beneficial to them.
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  So that's why I say it's just they're going to keep doing it.
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  Y'all they want to drive you crazy.
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  And somebody told me a while ago when I was doing a World
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  Ventures, the network market, the coming World Ventures,
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  somebody said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing
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  over and over and expecting a different result.
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  So it's just like when you end this toxic relationship dynamic,
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  if you keep doing the same thing over and over and expecting
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  something else to change, you're going to feel insane.
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  You're going to feel crazy if you keep confronting them with
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  the truth over and over again, and they just keep denying it.
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  You expecting them to admit it? They're never going to admit it
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  if there's if it's not beneficial to them, what's the
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  benefit of them admitting to doing whatever you're accusing
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  them of doing? Doing whatever you have proof
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  of? What's the benefit in it for
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  them? Typically there's not enough
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  benefit in it for them to for them to go out here and make a
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  decision to change or alter their life.
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  It just doesn't work that way. This is what I'm just telling
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  people. In these situations you have to
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  do things and benefit towards you to benefit you to build help
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  you build the strength that you need to keep moving forward.
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  You know like you have to get around other people if you have
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  to join. Like I I like I have support
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  groups and what not in order to just help people to support
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  group links or my bio. I have courses to help people
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  out as well to understand because you getting around
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  people how to stop feeling crazy sometimes requires outside
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  external validation. You of course you want to
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  validate yourself. Of course you want to watch
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  videos and like this things like this to validate yourself.
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  You want to do that. But getting around people that
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  have experienced similar things. Talking to people that have
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  experienced similar things can just yeah, it can just help lift
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  this crazy insane weight off of your shoulders where you feel
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  like, damn, I'm going. I feel like I'm going crazy.
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  I need some help. This is what people this is what
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  other talking to other people who have been through the same
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  thing helps you walk with reading literature
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  understanding. Look, look up the definition of
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  gaslighting you have to get. Sometimes you have to get away
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  from the situation in order to just come back to a base of just
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  like just stop to stop feeling crazy.
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  When I say get away from the situation, I'm not.
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  I'm not talking about leave right now.
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  I'm saying go do something for yourself, to nurture yourself,
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  to feed yourself. Go do something for yourself.
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  It helps you feel sane. They feel grounded, like go go
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  outside. Y'all take your shoes off.
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  Take your socks off. Go find some dirt or if you live
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  close to the beach or some sand or something, go put your feet
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  in the sand and squeeze the sand between your feet.
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  You want to feel grounded, like that's how you get rooted.
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  That's how you get rerouted right there.
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  That's how you root yourself in reality.
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  Put your feet on the ground and understand that the ground is
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  real. If you don't have any concrete,
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  if you don't have any sand around you, go outside and stand
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  on some concrete. Like let the let feel the
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  concrete with in your feet. Stand in some grass.
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  Feel something. Y'all feel something real.
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  You want to feel something real. You want to root yourself
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  because when you root yourself they can't take that away from
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  you. When you stop feeling crazy, you
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  and you understand when like when the when the fog starts to
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  clear and the fog starts to lift.
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  You win. There's winning in it for you.
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  So I hope you all stay in power. I hope you all stay strong.
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  Like I said, the link is in my bio description for all my like
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  you know, to for my courses and whatnot.
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  Be safe. Take care of yourselves and all.
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  As always, listen to This is out peace.
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  Thank you so much for making it to the end of my video.
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  You are a mental illness Rockstar and I appreciate you
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  for being here. If you haven't already, make
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  sure to click on the screen to subscribe to the channel and
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  Thank you. I will see you in the next
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  video. Peace.