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Own Your Choices (S5) S10:E1 · Inspirations for Your Life

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  Well, hey guys, good evening.
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  It is John C.
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  Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
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  It's great to be with you on Inspirations
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  for Your Life.
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  We have a great master topic for the
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  week.
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  We'll get to that in just a minute.
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  But if it's your very first time with
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  me, I want to say welcome and thank
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  you.
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  Have you been here many times before?
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  Well, of course, I want to say thank
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  you and of course, welcome back.
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  Some news that I want to share with
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  you guys, you know, I'm not telling you
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  too much about the book.
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  But what I do want to let you
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  know is that I just finished chapter 12.
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  There are going to be 14 chapters of
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  the book.
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  And what I can tell you is the
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  book's going to be, looks like somewhere around,
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  I don't know, 110, 115 pages, give or
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  take a little bit.
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  And if you read each chapter, it's a
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  motivational book.
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  It's a very easy read.
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  You will be able to do that in
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  about a half hour with doing the exercises.
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  So it's not just reading the book because
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  reading doesn't do anything for us, right?
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  We have to actually apply these things into
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  our life.
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  So don't forget to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com
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  for more of my amazing, of course, inspiring
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  creations, which you can do 24 hours a
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  day.
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  Well, friends, this is our very last show
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  in the month of February.
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  Tomorrow, we're on the new master topic today
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  because we go from Saturday to Friday.
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  But tomorrow is Sunday and we're kicking off
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  not a new master series, but a new
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  month.
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  And there's a lot happening in March.
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  So we'll get to that later.
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  My book is scheduled to go to press.
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  It looks like it'll be April and it
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  will be dedicated to my parents the middle
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  of April around the 18th.
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  And then it looks like the public release
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  of the book will actually be in probably
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  early May.
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  So I'm very excited about that.
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  And then the book tour will start soon
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  after that.
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  All right, guys.
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  So let's kick this show off.
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  But before I do, I do want to
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  let you know that if you're thirsty, if
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  you're hungry, I don't want you famished during
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  the show.
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  No, don't want anybody starving here.
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  So what I encourage you to do is
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  to, yes, go grab yourself something.
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  Maybe that's a treat.
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  Maybe that's a drink.
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  Maybe that's water.
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  Maybe it's something else.
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  Whatever that is, feel free to grab that.
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  And I think you guys will find that
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  it is pretty amazing to see what's going
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  on and all the great things that we
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  are doing.
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  So, again, I want to say thank you
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  to everyone here.
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  Again, we have an amazing, amazing, amazing, amazing
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  show.
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  And I know that you're probably going to
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  really appreciate the value that I'm bringing to
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  the table because I definitely am bringing –
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  I'm definitely bringing a lot of value here
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  to the table.
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  I think that's an important thing to realize
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  is all the value that I'm bringing.
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  And so the book, I'm excited about the
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  book.
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  Like I said, the book, we'll have more
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  details on the book later on for those
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  of you that are wondering.
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  But I'm really excited about the book.
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  And, again, we have a pause to reflect
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  at the end of each chapter.
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  So that's kind of cool because you get
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  to read, and then you also get to
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  go back and, well, practice what you learned
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  in the chapter from my live lessons in
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  my life.
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  So I think that's a pretty cool thing,
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  guys.
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  And so without any further ado, I'm going
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  to go ahead and, yeah, I'm going to
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  go ahead and kick this show off.
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  Are you guys ready for the show?
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  I know you are.
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  So let's kick this show off.
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  All right, everyone?
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  This is Inspirations for Your Life.
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  It is series five, which means we're in
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  our fifth year.
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  We've been on the air four years, and
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  now we're going to be going just about
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  into our third month very soon.
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  And this is show 10, and this is
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  episode number one.
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  All right, let's kick it off.
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  All right, everyone?
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  So, again, it is such a privilege and
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  a pleasure to be with you.
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  I'm John C.
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  Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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  I'm an engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast
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  host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, and, yes,
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  a passionate lifelong learner.
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  And pretty soon I will be a published
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  author.
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  I'm really excited for that moment.
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  So our master topic for the week is
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  strength in choice, clarity, courage, and calm power.
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  Saturday's granular topic is awareness and mindfulness.
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  Awareness turns habits into conscious choices.
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  Pausing multiplies decision impact.
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  Spot patterns before they actually control you.
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  Each choice builds self-trust.
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  Small actions compound into results.
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  And I think that's one for a lot
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  of people to have a hard time with
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  is that our results, they compound over time.
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  Okay?
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  They compound over time.
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  That is probably one of the most important
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  things that I can share with you guys,
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  that it is something over time.
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  All right, so our next thing I want
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  to share with you is this.
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  Avoid distractions, folks, that drain your energy.
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  Because, you know, when they drain your energy,
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  you're wondering why you can't do anything.
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  It's because, well, you've eaten up all your
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  fuel.
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  Focus sharpens your intuition.
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  So continue to focus every day.
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  Observation prevents repeated mistakes.
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  Awareness clarifies priorities fast.
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  And conscious attention protects mental bandwidth.
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  Catch your impulses before they hijack your energy,
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  not after.
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  So I'm asking you to be what?
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  I'm asking you to be proactive.
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  I'm asking you to be proactive.
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  I think that's a very important thing to
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  understand is we have to understand what that
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  means and why that means something.
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  Because I think those are things that a
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  lot of people just don't get.
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  Right?
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  We just don't get them.
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  And maybe, you know, you're wondering why things
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  are a certain way.
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  And it's because of your perception.
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  Because of your perception.
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  That's a very interesting thing, if you ask
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  me.
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  Our perceptions become our reality.
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  Our perceptions become our reality.
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  Let's pause there for a moment and let's
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  think about that.
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  So when we put on a different pair
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  of glasses or lenses, we actually change the
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  energy around us.
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  Awareness clears mental clutter.
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  Being present boosts effectiveness.
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  Pause to see forbidden traps.
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  Obstacles become opportunities through awareness.
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  Recognize harmful patterns to continue to grow the
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  resilience around you.
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  Now, that's pretty deep, guys, if you ask
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  me.
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  Conscious living keeps focus intact.
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  Awareness strengthens emotional control.
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  Mindful choices accelerate our growth.
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  Awareness improves judgment under pressure.
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  Fix energy leaks before they spread.
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  Once they spread, it's harder to manage them.
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  Awareness quietly fuels confidence.
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  Mindful attention prevents any ounce of regret.
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  Align your actions, guys, with your values.
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  Awareness uncovers hidden opportunities.
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  Just an awareness.
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  Micro-choices create outsized impact.
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  Awareness multiplies focus and clarity.
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  Mindful actions build unstoppable momentum.
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  Awareness strengthens your identity.
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  And you might say, John, how is that
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  even possible?
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  Well, that happens because you
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  shift in how you're thinking and what you're
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  doing.
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  Deliberate living starts with noticing.
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  Now, the word for noticing is what, guys?
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  And I think as we think about awareness
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  day in, day out, there's so many different
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  parts to awareness.
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  So awareness helps us to make choices in
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  our life.
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  It helps us to make choices.
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  Okay?
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  It helps us make choices.
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  I think that's a very important thing.
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  How it helps us make those choices.
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  How does it do that?
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  How does it help us do that?
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  Or perspective, a shift happens.
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  A shift happens to where we are in
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  life but to where we're going.
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  Where we're going is not something that we
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  always know about.
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  It comes from our choices.
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  It comes from the paths that we're working
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  on.
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  And these paths lead us different ways.
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  But just changing your awareness on one thing
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  in your life can dramatically affect the trajectory
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  and the path that you take.
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  Why?
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  Awareness gets us to focus.
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  Awareness gets us to understand.
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  And it gets us to evaluate.
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  Awareness gets us to see there's more than
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  what's on the surface or what appears to
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  be on the surface.
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  Sometimes we say the words, you know, we've
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  just scratched the surface.
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  That means we haven't dug deep.
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  We've just seen the cursory preview.
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  Why?
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  Because of a choice we made.
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  Because of a choice that I made.
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  And choices that we make happen every day.
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  But sometimes they don't actually give us the
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  clarity all at once.
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  They allow us to ponder.
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  They allow us to sit back.
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  They allow us to observe.
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  But when we're aware of something, we're paying
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  attention to all of its characteristics.
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  Let me see if I can give you
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  an example.
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  Maybe you're aware of your car.
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  When you get into your car, you're aware
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  of everything from opening the door, the sensation
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  you feel on your hand.
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  The moment you sit on the seat, you
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  can feel that in your body.
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  The temperature in the car.
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  The sound from your car once it starts
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  up if you haven't automatically started already before
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  you got there.
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  And these bits of awareness prep us for
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  what's going to come next.
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  And you might say to me, John, what
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  do you mean what's going to come next?
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  So what we're hearing in the car.
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  What we're seeing.
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  These different senses of ours.
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  Get us to understand that there might be
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  more than what we're hearing.
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  There might be more than what we're just
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  seeing.
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  But the big multimillion dollar question I like
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  to ask is why is it that people
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  choose not to be aware?
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  Being aware doesn't cost anything.
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  It's free.
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  But why is it people don't choose to
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  be aware?
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  Being aware, to give you another example, maybe
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  some of you ever heard the phrase, you
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  know, sit quietly like a lion.
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  And tune your ears like the lion.
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  So that you could hear a pin drop
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  around you.
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  Think of yourself as a lion for a
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  moment.
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  Sitting on the edge of your chair.
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  And noticing the subtle sounds of a pin
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  drop that gets us to be highly focused.
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  Maybe there is no pin drop.
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  But because I've gotten you attuned to a
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  certain state, you are probably not going to
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  miss a heartbeat.
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  You're not going to miss a voice.
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  You're not going to miss a heartbeat.
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  The reason people miss the heartbeats is because
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  of things that are said.
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  Or things that are not said.
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  And this changes people's, I'm going to say
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  illusion.
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  But that illusion, guys, becomes people's reality.
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  It becomes people's reality.
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  And that reality adapts to how one
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  acts.
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  How one talks.
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  How one responds.
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  And responding is something interesting.
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  Because we don't all respond the same way.
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  But when we're in an environment that has
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  a different type of stimuli, it causes us
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  to go internally.
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  You ever notice that the quieter things are,
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  the more you pay attention to what's inside
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  your body?
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  Right?
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  That's not an accident.
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  That's by design.
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  I like to call it silencing the chattering
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  monkeys that are inside our head.
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  Now there aren't really any chattering monkeys.
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  What there are is sounds.
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  There's words.
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  There's thoughts.
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  And these thoughts cause us to pivot.
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  So you're already focused on something.
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  And now you get a thought.
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  Know what's going to happen?
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  You're going to pivot away from something.
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  Pivot away.
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  And by pivoting away, you change.
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  Sometimes the change can be as subtle as
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  what you're doing.
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  It could be what you're saying.
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  It could even be what track you're listening
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  to.
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  Now that's a really interesting one.
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  So in our world, we have lots of
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  tracks playing.
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  Some of them are tracks that are just
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  giving us thought, let's say.
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  Other tracks or signals are giving us other
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  sounds.
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  We're getting tracks from our sight.
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  So we hear.
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  We see.
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  We touch.
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  We smell.
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  And we have something called proprioception.
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  What the heck, John, is proprioception?
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  Okay, well, I have a pen in my
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  hand.
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  You can take my word for it if
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  you're listening to the audio cast only.
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  And this pen is in my hand.
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  If I was to close my eyes and
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  I was to move my hand back like
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  a dart and get ready to almost throw
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  it, open my eyes, I could tell with
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  my eyes it goes that my arm had
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  changed its position.
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  We call that proprioception.
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  So see, hear, touch, taste, and proprioception.
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  Proprioception is also important for robots.
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  We use different things like accelerometers to tell
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  what position the arm is in or the
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  joint is in at the moment.
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  Proprioception works even on any part of your
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  body.
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  You can close your eyes and move your
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  foot to the right, and you can tell
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  that your foot is to the right.
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  We call that proprioception.
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  But we talk about a choice.
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  A choice is something that has put before
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  us.
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  Maybe we're deciding to paint a house.
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  We have thousands of colors we can choose
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  from.
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  If the color we see is not there
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  on the shelf, don't worry about it because
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  they have thousands, if not more than that.
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  You can just tell them what color you
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  want.
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  They scan it, and it mixes and matches
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  the base color and additional colors to give
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  you the final color that you want.
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  Most colors start with a white, depending on
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  what it is.
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  And so thinking about choice.
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  So we make a choice based on a
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  decision we're analyzing.
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  But what can help us with a decision?
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  So here's the thing.
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  If it's something financial, we don't want to
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  make the decision with our gut.
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  We want to look at the data.
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  Too many people get a feeling like, oh,
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  I'm going to do that.
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  But that feeling could be wrong because it's
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  not backed up, either supported or not supported,
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  by data.
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  And then when something goes away you don't
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  like, and you're unhappy because you spent money
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  on those resources, you can say, well, you
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  know, I never analyzed that data in accordance
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  to what choice I was making.
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  So we have data for lots of things
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  in life.
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  We have data that helps us make logical
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  decisions based on numbers.
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  We can evaluate things based on the quality.
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  We can evaluate things based on the quantity.
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  So we have qualitative analysis and quantitative analysis.
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  We would see a lot of, let's say,
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  quantitative analysis when we get to things like
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  the stock market, what KPIs, what key performance
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  indexes are causing this jump.
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  What's causing that jump?
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  We analyze it, right?
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  And understanding key performance indicators is vital
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  for not only achieving success but for maintaining
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  it.
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  Data is a tool.
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  Now, of course, we can analyze it and
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  gather it different ways.
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  But what we're doing is we're building a
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  system.
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  And that system helps us to be able
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  to either quantify or qualify it quantitatively or
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  qualitatively.
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  Remember, qualitatively talks about the quality of something
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  based on some standards.
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  Quantitative deals with numbers.
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  Is it higher?
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  Is it lower?
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  Is the percentage this higher?
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  Is this percentage lower?
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  What's a threshold, number or percentage?
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  For example, when we round, if the number
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  is below 4, so let's say if it's
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  54, we round down to 50.
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  If it's 55 or higher, we round up
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  to 60.
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  That's a quantitative rule for rounding.
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  And there are lots of different rules.
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  There are lots of different, I'll call them
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  boundaries.
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  And there are lots of different premises that
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  we can affect if we've chosen to become
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  aware.
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  Lots of people say to me, were you
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  not aware of this?
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  Maybe you go into a service station and
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  your tire is flat.
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  The service person comes out and says, were
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  you not aware that your back tire was
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  flat as a doornail?
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  No, I wasn't.
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  But you were riding on fumes.
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  A few more rolls and your car might
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  have popped.
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  And I think making a choice to analyze
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  data and then review that data can give
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  us the flexibility to move up or down.
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  Remember I said something to you guys a
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  long time ago.
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  If we want to change something, the first
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  thing we have to do is we have
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  to be able to measure it.
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  If we cannot measure something, guess what?
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  We can't affect it positively or negatively because
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  we don't know if what we're doing is
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  making an effect.
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  How are we measuring it?
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  How do the Nielsen's measure TV off?
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  They still do it.
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  They would send out a dollar or two
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  to you, right?
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  And because the honest isn't like, oh, of
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  course, you're going to do it, right?
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  And then you would answer the questions and
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  you would send it back to them.
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  What TV program now?
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  We have boxes that do it all electronically.
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  But they are doing a quantitative analysis to
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  see how many people are watching CNN, how
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  many people are watching Fox News.
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  And not just how many people are watching
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