Latest / The MysticWithin Podcast / Ep. 6: How to Root in Self-Devotion (6 Steps to Get Unstuck in Life)
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- Vanessa: You're a time traveler and you get to go five years in the past. You arrive and you quickly realize that you're still at that job you hate. You're still not going to the gym, still not feeling content, still feeling powerless, and you're still ignoring that intuition that you're meant for more. But good news, now you're gonna go five years into the future. You look around and you see that your life is completely the same. Same job, same routines, same habits, same dreadful feeling every morning, same exhaustion when you lay your head down to rest at night. And that same intuition that you are meant for more. And all of a sudden, You realize that 10 years of your life has passed and everything has been the exact same. You are in a cycle of stuckness. If that absolutely terrifies you, good. This episode's for you. Today we are going to talk about six steps on how to get out of that stuck spiral and start finally moving towards that vision that you feel, know that you are meant for. We're gonna talk about why the fear of unknown is not a reason to stay stuck. and how belief in your power is the only antidote you need to never be stagnant again. My name is Vanessa and this is the Mystic Within Podcast, a podcast designed for women reconnecting with their power, their purpose, and their intuition, one honest conversation at a time. This is an amazing topic, so let's get into it. Feeling stuck is one of the most frustrating feelings when you have a vision, when you know you're meant for more. Instead of actually taking the steps to get there, you feel safe staying still, thinking that you're finally going to feel ready You feel something more, but you have no idea how to get there. So you stay still, thinking that's the best option until you know the way forward. but in reality, you end up wasting years of your life trying to think of the perfect first step, the perfect plan, the perfect ready decision instead of taking imperfect action that you can actually just adjust later on. We allow ourselves to suffer because the fear of the unknown feels like we're taking a huge risk. It's too uncomfortable. So again, instead we stay still. Next thing you know, five years of your life has gone by and it's looking the exact same as it always has. Yet you're exhausted physically, you're drained emotionally, and you are feeling like there's no hope. So it's begging the question, why don't we consider wasting our lives? A risk. Waiting around for the sense of readiness. But that's the greatest illusion of fear. Fear is present, so we have the opportunity to have courage, to chase what we want, to go after what we want, make imperfect decisions, That uncomfortable feeling you keep having year after year, pushing the boundaries of what you can take is actually the universe making your life so uncomfortable that you finally choose what you know deep down you're meant for. But instead we take that as a reason that we're not ready to take that leap of faith. When in reality, it's the exact opposite. It's the universe pleading us to go forward. This week I have had a lot of conversations, a lot of intuitions, messages about stuckness and when do we feel ready to make an action? But the reality is we are completely terrified. And I feel like that's the main route on why we feel stuck. We're terrified of the unknown. We're scared of failure, We scare ourselves into a corner until we think it's impossible to make any kind of move. I'm gonna let you in on one secret. Through my own experience of being stuck, there is no such thing as feeling ready. Ready is a decision that we make, and that's it. We're never going to wake up after years of feeling stuck, months of feeling stuck, and say, okay, I'm ready. Absolutely not. We can't think our way into action. We need to act our way into action. You need to do. This is going to be the foundation of how to get out of your stuckness. You have to do something, anything at that point, no matter how small of an action. The purpose of it is to get you out of the cycle of stuckness. It's the energy of movement. I want you throughout this episode to think of a flowing stream. Flowing water is a good sign of life. When water is stagnant, it becomes dangerous. And that's the same thing with us. When we are in motion, in movement, we are able to clearly make decisions. Not clearly as in we know 100% what's going to come from them, but have the confidence, have the ability, and have the power. to make a decision and then make the best of it, whatever it leads you to. Humans need to be able to move freely, without fear, without limits. And when you are stuck, you feel like that is completely out of your reach. But sometimes our metaphorical rivers inside of us get mucked up and we need to be the ones to create the flow again. We need to be the people who clean our own waters and get that muck out of there. And that is what I am teaching you to do. Through six steps today, we are going to get you from feeling stuck. I don't care if you've been stuck for 10 years, 20 years, three days, four seconds. We're getting you out of stuckness and getting you into movement, into your flow, into your power. So you never have to deal with this again. And your river can constantly be flowing. Or You can catch the signs before your river becomes totally stagnant. Let's get into this today. Step one, we need to understand and accept why we have been stuck. We can't move forward without the acceptance that time has passed and I've been here for a long time and it's not okay. I want to change. There's so many reasons why you have been stuck. And it's human. I think everyone feels stuck at a certain point. what differentiates people is how they deal with it. Do you catch the signs early and pivot? Do you feel like you don't want to move forward until you know 100%? Because knowing 100% is an unrealistic expectation of being human. Here are a few reasons why you might be stuck. You want everything to be perfect. Waiting for that perfect moment is, again, an illusion. Ready is a decision that we make. And it starts with you saying, Yeah, I'm scared, but I'm going forward, or I'm scared it won't be perfect, but I'll fix it later. That leads me into two fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of the next step, fear of not knowing what to do, fear of failure. Fear is natural and we can still get out of stuckness being scared. Three, procrastination. We might feel like we want it so bad, but we hold back because again, we have fears. We want it to be perfect. We don't know the way. We procrastinate and procrastinate, and then over time that accumulates into shame or guilt that we haven't even done anything at all. We might overthink. We're in constant analysis paralysis. We constantly wanna know the next step. We wanna know 100% that the next step we take is gonna be perfect. But the reality is, again, you're never going to get out of this stuck cycle thinking about it. You have to make a physical action. That is the only way that you are gonna get the ball rolling. And that's what we're learning today. And lastly, you might be questioning yourself and doubting yourself and your abilities and how you're gonna move forward, how you're gonna trust yourself like crazy. Getting out of stuckness is going to test you. Questioning your every decision is not going to illuminate the path. It's just going to make you feel more confused, more shameful, more guilty, more fear-based in thinking than anything. You're not going to be able to know the answers to all of those questions. You're going to have to prove it to yourself. That's where the action comes in. Ready is a decision. And that's a decision that you're going to be making today to commit to the vision that you have for your life and get out of this stuckness because it's not serving you anymore. Let's get into the actual steps now. So understanding why we have been stuck. Not with judgment, not with shame involved, not with guilt that so much time has passed. No one's going to believe in that vision more than you. And you can't have someone on your side, even if it's you, doubting you, making you feel guilty that so much time has passed. you needed that time. This is the chance where you can let that go. This is the chance where you can embrace that and say, thank you for experiencing all that you've experienced. You've served your purpose. That's exactly what this step's about. Step one. Step one is acceptance. If you can accept that you have been stuck and it's time to move forward, that's it. Step two. Decide change is possible for you. We've accepted now that we're stuck now. What? We can accept that all we want. But when you finally decide I want to change, this is something I want to put my time in, energy, I'm gonna commit. I'm gonna do it. This is when you take your power back. This is the exact moment. You decide that no matter what's happened in the past, no matter if I've been stuck or not, I'm allowed to change. It's possible for me. And I'm here to tell you it's 100% possible for you. I wouldn't have made this episode if I didn't think every single person who listened to this would be able to do it. Decide that you are going to be unstuck. There is life outside of this cycle for you. I say this is one of the most powerful steps because this is when you first affirm. This is when you stop telling yourself I can't do it. And it's the first step where you say, I can. I can do this. I can change. I can move forward. What I'm looking at right now doesn't have to be my life. I can do it. The first two steps are about trusting. And giving yourself an opportunity to change. If you can accept, understand why you're stuck, and decide that it's possible for you to move forward, you've done the first Base foundation steps to moving it along, to getting the dream that you want, These are huge steps, especially when you have been stuck for many years, because it feels like that's the normal you. You're destined for more, you know it, I know it. Your intuition is telling you that. So why do we trust our fears and feeling like it's constantly going to be a cycle for the rest of our lives more than the feeling inside of us? Those are your first two steps. If you could take time out of your day to deal with those two, you're on your way. Step three. Pull out a journal. Speak out loud. This is the step that you are clarifying. Clarifying why. What is your why? Why do you want to change? Why do you want more? I want you to ask yourself why until you, without a flinching doubt, know exactly why you are moving forward right now, why you are meant for more, why your intuition is telling you that, why you've been complicit. This is a very powerful step as well, because you are dictating your northern star. Because later on, when things get a little tough, this is exactly what you're gonna look at. This is why I'm doing it. This is why I can't go back to the life of stuckness. This is why I'm not going back to that job. This is why I'm not going back to that relationship. This is why I am putting in the time right now, investing in myself and coming out to a life that I want, living my dreams, even if it gets tough. Clarify, clarify, clarify. Keep asking yourself why. And you will understand. It will come down to one thing. Here's exactly how you're gonna do it. Again, you can say it out loud, film yourself. That might be cool. You can look back at it later, write it in a journal. Do whatever you gotta do to speak it out to existence, slash always be reminded of it. So I recommend writing it or saying it to a camera, which obviously I understand that could be uncomfortable, but just do it. Just do it. It's just for you, anyways. First question I want you to ask yourself is why do you want to change? Why is stuckness not serving you anymore? After you've got those situated, I want you to ask, why is it so important that I follow this vision? Why isn't this life working for you? Why do I want to live the life that I have an intuition about? Why is it important that I follow it? Why is it important that I move on from this point of my life? Why do I want that? Why haven't I ever gone for it? You're gonna come down to a few conclusions about yourself that are going to be pivotal in your transformation. Why? Because I've been scared and I owe it to myself to prove something. Why is it so important to prove it? Because I deserve it, Questioning yourself is going to give you the answers you need to move forward. And not only that, not only the answers, but a version of yourself that is going to be the compass. You need to build that person up. Who is that person? And why is it important that I align with that? Why do I want a nice car in five years? Why do I want to live in Paris? Why do I want to own my own business? Why do I want to run a podcast? Why do I want to start posting content? Why do I want to own a bakery? The list goes on. That is your Northern Star. That is it. Why do I want to do that? Keep asking until you come down to one conclusion about yourself. step four is all about committing yourself to devotion. I love the word devotion. It has helped me immensely on my own journey when times were tough and I had to persevere through. I didn't ever relate to the word discipline. I don't like the word discipline. That's a fun fact about me. I don't think it helped me on my feminine empowerment journey because discipline to me felt like a boardroom. It felt like hustle culture. It felt like I was pushing my body to do so much of my mind to be something that it's not. And instead of discipline, I had a mindset switch where I started using the word devotion. Instead of I have to go to the gym, no matter what I feel like, I started saying I deserve a body that I love. I deserve to be in a healthy body that makes me feel happy and confident and empowered. Well, when I started putting it like that, when I wouldn't go to the gym or wouldn't move my body in a way that felt good to me, it started to contradict that statement. So, what I'm saying is, I don't deserve that. I do. I know I want that. I know I deserve it. So I'm going to do this because of that reason. That's going to be my why. That's what it is. Through constant action with the self devotion. I started showing up for myself in a way that was actually meaningful. Devotion really means a deep, strong love and loyalty, a dedication to yourself. Self-devotion is the greatest gift you can give to yourself and how you can show up better in this world, better for your dreams, better for you, better for everyone around you. When you are able to embrace and dedicate your time and energy to yourself, that's power. That's you showing up. That's you showing up authentically. Because love is the highest level of frequency, basically. Love and gratitude for yourself, for the world around you. Step three was about building your Northern Star. And it's because this step four is about dedicating yourself to it. It's about choosing dedication and devotion to it. It's about loving it. Because again, this is not an easy process. Changing yourself, changing your life, and dedicating yourself to getting unstuck can become challenging. It's hard. But when you are rooted. In such a high energy, high frequency of love, gratitude, and that devotion, it's so powerful because it's hard to talk yourself out of it. It's hard to say, I don't deserve to do XYZ. Because then you can challenge it. Why? Why aren't you? Why not? And it's going to come back to fear, procrastination, perfection. Self-doubting questions, overthinking, mostly fear. Fear is like the leader of those. You're gonna see. when you start changing your mindset from I have to do this to I am so happy I get to do this and I deserve to do this because of the consequence of it. I deserve to read at night for 10 minutes before bed because I love a calm mind when I go to sleep. Even though you used to watch TV and you'd wake up exhausted. It's rooting in the feminine energy that I'm all about. I like that flow, the flow to the river. This is where you start creating softness in your life. And I don't say softness as in, you know, it's gonna be easy. This is where you're starting to tap into a very, very deep, powerful core. And that is what I believe in. I believe in very strong, powerful women. And this is how you do it. This is how you initiate change into your life by starting with devotion and dedication to yourself. We don't need to follow in line with disciplined action. Feminine energy is not going to really work in that box. We need to be able to flow. We need to be able to adorn ourselves, worship ourselves. And if you aren't at that stage and you think that sounds ridiculous, I need you to start asking yourself why that sounds ridiculous. That is about feminine energy. That is the flow. I really believe that. Step five is about making aligned decisions and persisting. I speak about this all the time because this is really the root of how to change. We have the vision of who we want to be, who we know we're meant to be, We now need to make aligned decisions, decisions that that version of yourself would make. When you are stuck, it is very hard or it feels hard to make decisions. But the reality is, you don't need to make black and white decisions. You can meet yourself halfway and you can meet that version of yourself halfway. If that person goes on an hour walk every morning to clear their mind and start the day. You don't need to do an hour right now. That seems like a lot. And that's the way that you're gonna just crash and burn. What you're gonna start with is doing 10 minutes, do five minutes, go outside in the morning and sit on the porch for five minutes. You're creating sustainable aligned decisions right now, and you're persisting. This is not the step where you need to be perfect. This is the step where you need to fall back on your why, on your northern star. You need to know why you are going forward, why you keep making these harder decisions, and why you're persisting in them. Keep making those decisions and one day you're gonna wake up and it's not even gonna be a question to you. It's not even gonna be a decision that you have to make You're going to want to live in that existence more than you will your old version. The first X amount of weeks of you changing is going to be the hardest because you're literally shedding the skin. You're shedding this old version of yourself with all of these old decisions. you're literally becoming a new person when you start doing this. the first time it's going to be hard. The second time it's going to be hard. The third time, it's like, well, I've already done it those two times. I can do it a third. that creates a positive cycle of you making choices that are in your best interest, that support this version of yourself who is living the life that you want, having the energy that you want. you persist until it becomes second nature to you. Making aligned decisions and choices that are in your best interest, it's going to feel challenging right now. You're not in a state, you haven't been in a state for maybe years where you've made choices that are good for you Or in support of a version of yourself who has everything you want, or moving at all for that matter, depending on where you are in this stuck cycle. the whole point of this is you don't have to know the full way. All you need to do is one decision at a time. You have the end goal. what decisions does that person make? If you constantly are going back on your decisions and making choices, decisions that maybe aren't in alignment with that person, then your why is not strong enough. You are not going to want to do those things. And even if you are, you're going to have the strength and power because you've been stuck for a long time and you really want this. You're addicted to the stuck cycle and you're coming out of that. This is when you root down, okay? This is when this becomes vital for you. This is your life, and you need to be taking it serious. So if you're okay being like this for the rest of your life, then you might as well just hop off this episode. This is the hard choice. And that's why we had to decide that it was possible for you to change. We had to understand why you've been stuck. So we don't make those choices anymore. Again, this is not easy. This is gonna be hard. It's gonna be worth it. You're gonna get everything you want. You're going to trust yourself more when you start making these decisions that are in alignment with you. You're proving something to yourself in step five. Fight for it. This sounds intense, but people who have been stuck and are getting out of it or feel that frustration when you know you're on the precipice of change will understand me. This is when you have to fight for your life. Fight for the life that you know you're meant for. Why are you agreeable to living a life that is exhausting? It's not okay to live a life where you're complicit. It's that simple. This is meaningful. You Having an intuition and knowing you're meant for more is a sign that you are. And that's it. I'm here to tell you that. If you need a sign today, that's your sign. This is when you double down on that power. Not run away in fear. You're proving something to yourself in this step. You're making choices and you're persisting. You go back to the why. You go back to why you're doing it. And if that becomes something that you're able to negotiate, then I need you to ask if your life does not change in 10 years, are you gonna be okay? Is that gonna be a life you want? I don't believe it. And if you are okay with that, then there's no complaining. That's what you want, right? This is when you put in the work. This is the hard part of this. This whole six step process. Speaking of six steps, the last step, step six, you throughout this entire process, you're gonna show yourself grace and compassion. Changing a cycle in your life is a big deal. I just described it as fighting for your life. So, yes, this is heavy stuff. It's gonna bring up emotions, it's gonna bring up feelings, it's gonna get hard, it's gonna get confusing sometimes when you're in between the person you were and the person you're becoming. It's gonna be weird. But at the end of all of those feelings, you're gonna wake up with movement in your life. You're gonna wake up at a job you love. You're gonna wake up every day feeling purposeful. You're gonna feel present in your life. The water in the river is going to flow again, and it can only flow if you have compassion. Acceptance. Give yourself some grace. You've been through it. Giving yourself compassion means you're gonna speak to yourself gently with love. This is where you don't forget that you are human. Time has passed and you're making change. And you're allowed to have hard days. Successful people, people who get everything they want, dreamers, they have hard days. It's how you move through those days. If you're gonna have a hard day after having amazing 10 days in a row, one hard day is gonna take you away from all of that success you've had. Allow it. Allow the hard day. Doesn't mean you're reverting. It doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. That's where compassion comes through. And you allow yourself to have that space. You continue to make your aligned decisions. You persist. You are committed to it. You give yourself the reasons and the self-devotion on why you are doing it. It can be really confusing and really hard. And it doesn't always make sense when we're, feeling like we're meant for more, but we're so scared. Fear is going to be combated when we challenge it and we show ourselves compassion for even having it. This whole process has a streamline of love and compassion. And grace and gratitude. Thank you, universe, for putting me through that because now I get to understand my power more. I get to really follow my intuition in a way that's meaningful. I get to see why I've been having this feeling for so long. I get to start from ground zero, ground floor, and build my life the way I want it to, no matter how much time has passed. It's never too late. You know, you don't deserve to live a life where you are not happy. And that's as simple as I can put this. You don't deserve to live a life where you feel stuck. That's prison. You have the power to change. There's no amount of time that you've been in a stuck cycle that's going to give merit to staying stuck longer. It's as simple as that. You deserve a life that you want. You deserve the uncomfortable feelings and fear and to overcome it to get what you want. If you knew you had to be uncomfortable and make these scary choices, but you're gonna get what you deserve and want and feel internally, would it not make it more worth it to do so? I think so. Those are the six steps on how you can move through feeling stuck and coming out feeling confident, feeling assured, feeling like no matter what decisions you have to make on the daily basis, big decisions, small decisions, you are going to be okay because any amount of forward movement is going to get you out of the cycle. You have to do something that you've never done to get out of a place that you've always been. That is the key. That is the key right there. You're not gonna get the life you want and come out of being stuck, staying stuck and choosing all of the same choices and decisions and habits and routines that you've had in that cycle. All of it is about to be transformed, and that's not an easy process. For these six steps. I want you to give yourself 90 days. Whoa, that sounds like a lot of days. Okay, well, you've been stuck for five years. That's a lot of days. And that's okay. We're gonna invest 90 days of our lives to get out of it. Invest it now. Choose yourself now. Choose it now. now for yourself. Feeling stuck is not the end of the world. But if you have a vision for more, then you owe it to yourself. It's an opportunity. That feeling is an opportunity to move forward. It takes a real desire to clean your own river and get the stream moving again. It's gonna come with being really uncomfortable because you're doing things that are unknown. the path is not illuminated. But you don't need to know the whole path. You need to take one step. And as you take the step, You're gonna start seeing opportunities unfold because you're honoring a part of yourself That is telling you the truth. It's your truth, it's your authenticity. That is what's gonna get you from point A to B. Not you denying yourself and reacting out of fear every day, over and over, and betraying yourself. All of those experiences you've had being stuck, all of those heavy feelings, that has created the groundwork and the vital work for transforming your life. That's your northern star. The version of you who is not stuck and no longer accepting that life of someone who was stuck. Commit the 90 days of your life, or else you're gonna spend so much more time exactly where you are. It sounds scary when you are faced with change, but if you are promised that you're gonna get out of the cycle. It's time to take that risk. the fear of the unknown should be less scary at this point than you staying stuck for many more years. It has to be scarier to stay exactly where you are than to move forward, not knowing the next step. And if you're someone who says, I just don't know what it is. Connect with yourself. Go into nature, go for a walk and pinpoint exactly what it is. Why have you been stuck? Is it your job? Is it a relationship? Is it a pattern you've had? Is it a mindset you've been in? That's where you're going to start making these changes. And that's what you're going to focus in on. There's always going to be fears that are going to shut you down on why you can't do something. That's a limiting belief. That's fear. There's usually many more paths on how to move forward. Commit to that vision. So you can get out of this stuck cycle and become the person you are meant to be. If you are stuck and you want a guide to help walk that path forward with you, I do exactly that in my 12-week one-on-one program, Returning Within. This is a sacred, connected program Designed specifically for you to clear the noise of fear, dismantle those heavy-hitting beliefs that we have on ourselves, And completely root into our own power and intuition. Click the very first link in the show notes below to book your discovery call. We can chat about the program, see if it's the right fit for you. Thank you so much again for spending some time with me today. If this episode resonated with you, or you know someone who is completely stuck and needs some help, needs some guidance out, six steps, send it to them. Send this episode straight to them. I believe in your inner power and in your ability to live the life that you desire. And the life that you intuitively know is for you. Until next Wednesday. Have a great week. I love you guys. Bye for now. Thanks.