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Wounded Feminine vs Empowered Feminine | Feminine Energy Inner Work · Mindful Success Path

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  When a woman enters her empowered feminine stage in life, she starts to manifest like crazy, whether it's love or money or opportunity or a better body, because she's understanding how to align masculine and feminine energies within her.
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  The problem is that most women either live in a wounded feminine energy space, or they've gone overboard into masculine energy.
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  In this video, I'm gonna be explaining the difference between wounded feminine and empowered feminine with a little bit of a detour into, uh, masculine energy in a woman so that you are better able to understand how to reach an empowered feminine state so you can start to manifest whatever it is that you want in your life, whether it is, you know, a better relationship or a business, or more money, or just if you're ready for more ease and flow in your life.
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  Hi, my name is Amanda Abe.
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  Welcome to this channel where I teach you how to manifest whatever.
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  Lately, we've been talking a lot about masculine and feminine energy and relationships because that's what people have been requesting.
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  So we're just gonna keep it going in terms of, uh, that, that trend that we are seeing on this channel so that I'm able to serve you guys and what it is.
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  Okay?
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  So let's get into, you know, why it's so important to be in this empowered feminine place?
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  Right?
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  The reason why it's important is because most women in the world have a feminine essence, right?
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  And it's actually a superpower.
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  It's just for lots of reasons.
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  Uh, it's been kind of.
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  Conditioned out of us.
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  And I often say this to, to my girlfriends and also to my husband, I've said this, uh, is that most women do not understand how powerful they actually are and how much influence they actually have over their children, over their men and honestly of, of the world around them.
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  And again, lots and lots of reasons for this that we don't have time to get into.
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  And I've always been like, if women understood just how powerful.
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  They actually are.
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  And I don't mean like the rah rah feminism, I'm equal to a man or better than a man.
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  Powerful.
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  I'm saying understanding what her power is as an empowered feminine essence being the world would be a totally different place.
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  We wouldn't be having the relationship crisis that we're seeing.
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  It would be a lot easier for people to make money.
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  Um, and we would just be in, in, we would be healthier as a society.
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  And I always say like the women need to start understanding.
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  What it is to be empowered feminine and then the rest of the society is going to start responding to her energy.
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  That's not to say that men don't have a role to play and that they shouldn't be developing themselves or doing inner work.
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  Absolutely, they should be.
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  It's just a lot, most of the time, uh, because the feminine energy is so powerful, her surroundings are going to respond to her shifts, and that's why in a lot of these feminine energy spaces where you'll hear it.
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  In relationship spaces, you'll often hear women have to go first, and a lot of women get very upset when they hear that.
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  I used to get very upset, um, when I would hear that.
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  And now that I've entered the empowered feminine era, now I understand why.
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  Because in understanding how to be an empowered feminine woman, you can, you can affect everything around you and it's just going to respond to you.
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  So let's get into what, where most women start, which is the wounded feminine energy.
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  Most women start in wounded feminine.
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  Wounded feminine, uh, looks like the victim, the doormat, the woman who doesn't speak up for herself.
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  Um, you know, a lot of people will try and pin housewives into this category.
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  Now, a lot of housewives are wounded feminine, but that doesn't mean they're all wounded feminine, you know, it's, it's the woman who usually you'll see her in relationships.
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  Either she can't make money or can't figure out how to make money, or is an under earner, for example.
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  Or you'll also see her not really being able to take care of herself and her body and her physical appearance.
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  Um, unless it's, it's to get something out of it, for example.
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  Or the other thing that you will see is you will see, like in relationships for example, the wounded feminine may end up in very controlling situations.
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  So a lot of women for fear out of ending up in those situations because they saw a lot of it, um, a few generations back.
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  Then comes feminism, which was great for this one thing, and that was, uh, teaching women how to get outta that place and to a place where they could take care of themselves so that they would no longer have to make decisions from desperate situations.
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  I believe that that was probably the best part of feminism.
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  Then it just went off the rails, right?
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  And then it started going like, I'm 50 50, I'm equal to a man, which I've talked about several times on this channel, how that goes against polarity in healthy relationships.
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  Uh, and also it's turned out to be a bad deal for most women because most women are now paying half the bills.
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  Uh, they're in it, it infantilizes.
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  They're men because you're essentially emasculating them from being the provider and the protector.
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  So you feel like you're taking care of a grown person.
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  You feel like you have an extra child, um, in your husband, and you're taking care of kids and you're working.
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  It's a bad deal.
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  The whole 50 50 thing, it doesn't even work for polarity in relationships, and it's turned out to be a really shitty deal for most women, for lack of a better term.
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  Then you go into, I don't even know what wave of feminism we're in right now.
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  I can do whatever I want with my body.
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  I'm superior to a man.
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  So on and so forth.
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  It just got unhealthy, um, for lack of a better term.
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  And then you, now you have the red pill movement, which is also super unhealthy on the, on the men's side in response to that.
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  And then lo and behold, there's a relationship crisis, uh, in the United States and also in parts of Western Europe and Canada.
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  So on the one hand, right, in order to get outta the wounded feminine space, you do need to take on a bit more masculine energy.
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  So you learn how to take care of yourself and you're not in a desperate city.
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  The problem is what we saw happen with feminism is that it went overboard and what's happened for a lot of women in going overboard into their masculine energy.
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  And I'll do another video on like the hidden costs of a woman living way too much in her masculine energy, her relat, she might be making money, but it's hard.
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  It's a struggle.
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  Instead of it being ease and flow.
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  Now the good news is at least she's making money because in the wounded feminine she wasn't.
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  And then that leaves, leaves her in another um, situation.
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  That's a problem.
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  Here, she's making money.
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  It's just a grind.
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  Um, and it's hard.
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  She usually ends up in relationships with more feminine men.
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  She's burning out, it's causing a bunch of hormonal issues.
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  If you go too far, it causes a lot of problems, and I'll do another video on that in order to get to the empowered feminine place.
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  Once you've gone through the masculine and learning how to take care of yourself, it's about not going overboard, but most of us do because we haven't really had examples and templates for these things up until now.
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  Then if you do go overboard, it's learning how to reel it back in, into more of the feminine energy.
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  So for example, that might look like, Hey, I am, uh, you know, I have a career and I'm making a lot of money and I'm the boss when I'm making a lot of money.
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  But I'm not bringing that into my relationship at home.
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  I'm learning how to switch, uh, between when I need to use the masculine energy versus when I need to use more of the feminine energy.
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  Then of course we go into this whole other conversation about what that looks like, uh, in relationships, because that's a whole other dynamic that once you are partnered with somebody and you are in the, uh, proper polarities as I call it, then you guys are, you're able to manifest so much faster.
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  So once a woman gets into an empowered feminine place, which is when she's balanced out those masculine and feminine energies within her, she has a lot more experience in terms of like when to use which energy.
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  Usually she's in a lot of inner work.
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  So, for example, when I hit my rock bottom moment, I basically lost everything and had to start over.
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  You know, I decided, you know what?
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  Now I think I'm understanding the feminine energy because up until this point I went overboard with the masculine and I was making money, but it was coming at very high costs and I was neglecting every other area of my life.
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  Let me start balancing this out, and that process of balancing out required me to do a lot of inner work around my traumas, insecurities, fears.
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  Why I had built a life the way that I did, why I have the certain patterns that I did in my life, in relationships, in business, so on and so forth.
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  And in the beginning it was very hard because my life as I knew it kind of fell apart.
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  But once I started to rebuild, then I started doing it from more of that feminine place, which was, it was like, whoa, like suddenly I started manifesting really fast.
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  I manifested my husband in four months.
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  A year later I'd moved to another country.
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  And now we have these businesses that are easier than any.
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  My husband was an entrepreneur before we met, so was I easier than anything we've ever done, um, before, but I had to get to that empowered feminine place first to even attract him into my life.
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  And then as a partnership and as a couple, when I'm in my empowered feminine and he's in his empowered masculine, and I'll eventually have him on here to talk more about that and talk more to the men.
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  You man, you start manifesting so fast.
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  So easily that you're just like, whoa, like we're both doing nervous system regulation work.
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  Just to, um, be able to, A, not sabotage, but b, keep expanding, expanding and expanding some more.
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  It would've been impossible to get to that place.
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  Had me personally, I started in the wounded feminine, got into the masculine, went too far, uh, into the masculine, then had to reel her back in to get more into the empowered feminine.
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  So wounded feminine.
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  I'll, I'll break it down like this'cause I just talked about the process.
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  Wounded feminine doormat people pleaser, doesn't speak for herself, can't really take care of herself.
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  Lazy overindulges in the emotions, things like that.
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  The empowered feminine has a pretty good relationship between her masculine and feminine Energy Knows when to use which one spends most of her time.
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  In the feminine energy because that's what helps in her relationships in other parts of life, and even with making money, but knows how to use and implement those masculine structures when she needs to and knows when to use which what Now, obviously when you get married to a masculine provider, man, that obviously changes things too, because before I met my husband, I was basically just taking care of myself while I was learning these things, and then now marrying a provider husband.
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  Now, now I make money for fun.
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  Right now I make money because, um, I enjoy doing stuff like this.
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  This YouTube channel started for fun because I thought it would be great to talk about, um, these topics.
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  The other YouTube channel, which turned into a full blown business, uh, for my husband also started for fun, the entrepreneur expat channel because, you know, I didn't really have to worry about making money because my husband was bringing on more of the provider role, which then let me be more in the feminine pole.
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  And then it was just like a.
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  They call it here.
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  It was just brainstorming all the time and all this creativity that I had lost sort of coming back on lines.
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  So first you balance the energy within yourself as a woman.
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  Then it's what the energies look like when you're in relationship.
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  But long story short, wounded feminine is the doormat, overindulges, lazy, so on and so forth.
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  Empowered feminine knows she has self-esteem.
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  She's done a lot of inner work.
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  Um.
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  She's, she knows how to regulate her nervous system.
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  She knows how to use which energy when, so she'll know to use her masculine energy and work, but she'll know to leave it at the door when she comes home.
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  Because when she comes home, now you're in your personal life, in your relationship.
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  That's where more of the feminine, uh, energy comes into play.
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  She is assertive, not aggressive.
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  So one of the things I used to teach for a very long time when I taught a lot of sales trainings, and you guys can still purchase this.
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  Called Persuade to Profit.
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  Just go to the courses, link in the description, go find Persuade to Profit, and you'll see everything that's in it.
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  That's a business training program I've had for many, many years since 2017.
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  Hundreds of people have been through that and they've made a lot of freaking money and built a lot of businesses.
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  But one of the things that I teach in there when it comes to, uh, sales conversations or negotiations, for example, and this helps in every area of your life, is understanding the difference between passive, assertive and aggressive.
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  A wounded feminine woman is usually very passive, um, in her demeanor in how she goes through life.
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  And a woman who's gone too much into her masculine oftentimes goes into the aggressive category, and then an empowered feminine woman is assertive.
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  So when you're passive, essentially what it means is you value yourself less than you value other people, right?
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  So that's in relationships, you'll see women getting in very controlling situations.
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  Where the men are controlling them, so on and so forth.
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  If you are aggressive in relationships, that's when you think you're better than other people.
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  So that's where you have all these women online demanding that every man makes six figures by her, a bunch of stuff, but she's not exuding any feminine energy herself.
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  That's usually a very, uh, masculine woman.
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  She usually thinks she's better than whoever she's having a conversation with, whether consciously or unconsciously.
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  And then when you're assertive.
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  When you're in negotiations, but it works in relationships as well.
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  You value you and the other person equally.
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  So like one person is not better than the other.
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  There's an equal mutual respect.
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  It's just when it comes to, uh, personal relationships and romantic relationships, it's understanding, you know, this is kind of like my realm and my energy, and this is your realm and your energy, and they're different.
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  Right?
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  But they have, they have equity.
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  So it's not necessarily about equality, like I can do all the same things as you.
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  That's not what we're talking about.
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  It's that what we're both bringing to the relationship, while it's different skill sets and different energies, they are equal and importance.
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  That's really what it is.
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  Not equality in terms of what you do just equal in terms of importance of what each party brings.
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  So that's probably where I'm gonna leave it off today, right, is understanding that when you're an empowered feminine, you're in that assertive.
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  Place, right?
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  You are in that place where you value yourself just as much as you value other people.
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  Uh, you value yourself just as much as you value your spouse.
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  That's really the key more than anything, because that's when you're in that middle ground where you haven't gone to the extreme of the wounded feminine where she's passive, or a woman who's too much in her masculine energy where she's aggressive.
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  It's really about finding that.
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  Middle way.
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  Um, that's when you can move into empowered feminine and that's when things start getting a whole lot easier for you.
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  Hope you guys enjoyed this video.
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  For those of you who are interested in more business training and wanna dive deeper into that assertive, passive aggressive.
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  And how it works in negotiations, conversations, and business.
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  And I'll catch you guys on the next one.