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Rebecca Whitman · Postcards to the Universe

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Welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa Capria. Do you believe in magic?
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What if you were told that all you had to do was get a
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little creative and work a magic spell to bring anything you can imagine into your
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life. Here on Postcards to the Universe, we will share manifesting tips,
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postcards, creativity, abundance, and prosperity. Here's your host, Melissa Capria.
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Hi everybody, and welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa creating the
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life you crave. Hi, you guys doing today? It's Wednesday, so
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happy. I love Wednesdays. I love doing my show and as always,
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I have a really cool guest today. She's an entrepreneur, a best selling
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author, and a podcaster, Rebecca Whitman, and she's going to join me
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in just a few minutes. To my regulars who listen to me each week,
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thank you so much for being here with me, and I hope you
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keep returning. And if you're just joining me for the first time, welcome
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and I hope you keep coming back. Just so you know, we do
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always have the show on. The podcast is put up so if you don't
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get a chance to listen to it live, you can listen to it on
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Home Times Radio. They will put up it in the archive shows. And
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I also put it on my website Postcards to the Universe as a podcast,
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so you can always catch past shows and future shows if you can't hear them
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live on a replay. Just a little bit about me. I am a
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photographer, I'm an artist. I'm an author. I have a book.
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It's titled Postcards to the Universe. Harness the Universe's power and manifest your book
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and manifest your book. I did manifest your book. Manif your dreams right,
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that's what we're gonna be talking about today. We're gonna be talking about
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abundance and manifesting our dreams. And in the book, there are thirty manifesting
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stories along with the postcards that people created where they wanted to manifest something in
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their life and when their manifestation became their reality. I photographed the postcard and
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we shared their story. So that's what the book is about. And we
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talk about manifesting love and money and health and career and so much more.
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And I have a whole bunch of fun writing exercises and tools and games,
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manifesting games to play, so that if you are looking to manifest more abundance
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in any area, you'll find it in the book. So if you're interested,
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go to Amazon or Barnes and Noble and grab a book and let me
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know what you think. I would love to hear your thoughts. I am
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also I started doing this. I'm doing live readings from my book and I'm
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posting it on Instagram, TikTok, LinkedIn, and of course anything that I
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have goes up on YouTube, so you can find it there. But you
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can follow along, and I really hope that you do. I decided to
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do that. I don't know, I just got the inspiration to do it
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and I said I wanted to do it, and so yeah, come on
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over and check it out. And I'm also asking. I ask each week
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and I'm going to continue to ask because I love getting them. For you
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to send me a manifesting postcard. You can find out how to do it
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and where to send it if you go to postcards to the universe dot com.
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I tell you exactly how to create one and the address is listed on
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there so you can send me one. So do that. I love getting
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them, and let me tell you they work. Like I said, we're
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talking about abundance today, so it's going to be a great conversation. I'm
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also doing a workshop. I started doing it on Thursday evenings. It's online.
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It's called Manifesting through Gratitude, a Visual Journey, and it's Thursday evenings
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six to eight pm Eastern time. You can find out more about the workshop
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if you see that on my website. There's a little section that tells you
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all about the workshop, and basically, it's us using gratitude to bring more
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of the things that we want into our lives. And the little twist with
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my workshop is we're going to be using our camera phones as a tool to
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manifesting. So the course is five weeks and we're going to cover so much
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stuff in our lives. It's so much fun. So please check it out
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and I hope to see you in a class. Thank you. So I'm
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so excited to be doing it. It's really really fun. Okay, So,
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as part of the readings that I'm doing, I originally photographed, like
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I told you, the thirty Manifesting postcards. What I decided to do and
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release one each week. I am rephotographing the postcards that are in the book
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and I'm sharing a little bit of the person who the contributor's story. So
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I'm using that as my magical message. I release a magical message each week.
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It's a visual with an affirmation or a postcard, and I share it
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on all my social media. So this week's magical message is cooking with Love,
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and this is my friend Diana's story. Diana is going to be on
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a future show from mole Mama, a memoir of cooking, of love,
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cooking and loss, and it is about how she manifested her company, mole
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Mama. So it's a beautiful story. Of course, there is some loss
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in her story, but it's beautiful. So yeah, check it out.
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And if you guys have any questions for me, Jess, reach out to
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me. I am an open book, all right. So I want to
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talk to my guest today because everything I talk about each week in the beginning
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of my show, Rebecca and I are going to be talking about today.
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So Rebecca Witman, she is called the Magnetic Abundance mentor I Love at She's
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an international bestselling author. She graduated with honors from Princeton University. She was
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awarded Life Coach of the Year, an Empowered Woman of the Year by International
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Association of Top Professionals. LA Weekly magazine featured her as one of the top
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seven Entrepreneurs to Watch in twenty twenty three. She hosts the top one point
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five percent globally ranked Balance, Beautiful and Abundant podcasts, which won the Positive
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Change Award. Her philosophy divides life into seven pillars of abundance, which include
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spiritual, physical, emotional, romantic, mental, social, and financial.
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She helps people achieve balance within these seven areas so that they can experience more
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fun and freedom in life. She has been featured in New York Weekly,
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Miami Magazine, and LA Weekly magazines, and addition to her appearances on ABC
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and CBS, she has guested on over one hundred podcasts. She has given
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keynote speeches at Columbia University and UCLA, and has shared virtual stages with renowned
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thought leaders Grant Cardone, Jack Canfield, and Les Brown. You can find
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out more about her if you visit her website. It's Rebecca Elizabeth Whitman dot
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com. Welcome Rebecca, thanks so much for being here with me. Thank
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you so much, Melissa. I'm so excited to be on your show with
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such a delight to have you on my show a couple of weeks ago,
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and now we get to continue the conversation exactly. Yeah. So I was
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on Rebecca's show on her podcasts, The Balanced, Beautiful and Abundant Show,
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and it aired August twenty nine, And you guys who are listening, you
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can find it on any of the podcasting platforms, Apple, whatever, you
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listen to, Spotify, Google, and yeah, you can listen to the
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show. And it's also it's on YouTube too, right, Rebecca, I
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think you're We're on YouTube also, yep, YouTube as well as Apple,
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Spotify and all the podcast platforms. Absolutely, it was so much fun.
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It was so much fun. So yeah, so now she's here, so
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let's talk about you, and like, what got you into this kind of
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these abundance mindset, like starting to do this kind of work. What made
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you want to do it? Were you always doing this your whole life or
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is this something that you kind of fell into or came to I should say,
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Yeah, I moved to Los Angeles twenty two years ago to pursue my
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childhood dream of being an actress, and I had small parts on huge shows
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like Friends, CSI and twenty four and I never got that big break.
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So I supported myself at children's acting schools, and the children were busy during
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the day at school, so I would attend spiritual lectures with great teachers of
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the law of attraction like Michael Beck, with Esther Hicks, Louise Hey,
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Wayne Dyer, and I started applying it to my life and I got immediate
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results. I was making six figures working part time at a kid's acting school,
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and I didn't quite apply it as well to my love life. I
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had a series of really painful breakups with emotionally unavailable men, and I even
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married one thinking he would change. Three years later, I filed for divorce,
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and my marriage was slowly and painfully unraveling as my dad was slowly and
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painfully dying in a nursing home, and in one of our last conversations,
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he asked me to write a book. And a few months later, my
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dad had made his transition and my marriage has dissolved, and I was sitting
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across the desk from my financial planner. He said, Rebecca, I find
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it interesting that you are making more money than you've ever made the same year
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that you lost your marriage and your father and I think you should write a
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book. So I wrote a book based on these seven key areas of life,
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which I now call the seven Pillars of Abundance, and it's called how
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to make a six figure income working part time. And now I help women
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go from burned out to balance, beautiful and abundant and using these principles.
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I'm now happily married to my soulmate and now I just coach women. I
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have the podcasts, and I just love this mission teaching people they don't have
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to be burned out and overwhelmed to receive abundance in life. Yeah, no,
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I love that. You know, it's interesting because I remember us talking
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a little bit about it on your podcasts. See a lot of people they'll
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be abundant in certain areas, right, Like it'll either just it'll be with
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hells, or maybe it's with relationships, or maybe it's socially, but it's
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not financially. But with you, you were already creating this magnetism with money,
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right. It's just energy and your exchange with money. So you obviously
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had a sense of worthiness on what you contributed because money was coming to you,
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right, but it wasn't happening in your relationships. Do you find that
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a lot with people? Because I find that a lot with people, Like
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people say to me, oh my god, I'm doing so good in ABC
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and D, but I just can't get it together. And you know,
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ell, you know whatever E is for you, you know, Yeah,
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just like a disconnect there. So what kind of experiences if you had with
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your clients with that? Yeah, I think that's pretty normal, which is
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why I actually have a free quiz on my website that's called the Alignment Quiz.
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You can see which areas of your life are in and out of alignment,
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and usually people are crushing it and anywhere from the three areas, and
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then there's a couple areas that are really struggling. And the goal of my
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work is to bring all areas of life up to a level ten. And
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I don't believe and perfect balance all the time. I think of it more
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as a symphony. There's certain times in your week and in your day that
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you are more focused on different areas, and all the areas together form a
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beautiful harmony of your life. And it's just an awareness that you want to
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touch all seven of these areas either once a day or once a week.
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Yeah, well, that's good. Let's talk about the seven pillars of abundance.
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So what are they and can you share a little bit about you know,
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each one, because I think these are the main areas in all of
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our lives where we want, you know, to have joy and abundance.
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It's yeah, everybody kind of wants to be happy and abundant in all these
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areas. So what are they for those? Of course I would love to
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so they are in order of importance in my opinion. So the first one
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is spirituality. I believe people get to tap into a power greater than themselves
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where whatever they call that, to have faith in, to guide them to
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trust. And that's exactly the work that you're doing. You know. Part
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of it is trusting that there is a benevolent force in the universe that when
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you send these postcards out, you know, magic happens. So how to
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get in touch with that is to have a morning practice. I'm a huge
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believer in journaling, and actually, as a gift to your audience, I'm
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going to gift them with my abundance journal prompts that have just completely changed my
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life and every way. I went from just being very negative and atheist even
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addicted to certain substances, to just having it's beautiful spiritual relationship with a power
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greater than myself, who I choose to call God. So the second area
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is fitness. I do believe that health is wealth, and if you have
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your health, you have every opportunity in the world. And if you don't
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have your health, then your whole life is about getting healthy again. So
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fitness is a very important pillar of abundance. The third pillar is emotion,
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and I believe just like the Course of Miracle teaches that all emotions come from
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fear or love. So fear, doubt, worry, skepticism, jealousy or
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resentment, bitterness, that's all fear based. And bliss, ecstasy, happiness,
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love, joy, contentment, appreciation, gratitude, that's all from love.
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So the key is how do we go from fear to love? And
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one way is like your wonderful workshop on Thursday nights, through a gratitude practice.
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Another way is through the power of affirmation. The next pillar of abundance
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is romance, and your romance affects all the other areas, especially your finance.
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And I really encourage people to be in a relationship that serves their highest
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good. There is no such thing as a neutral partner. They're either lifting
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you up and supporting you, or they're bringing you down and they're draining you.
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The next area is mental and that's what we're doing right now listening to
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this amazing radio show. There's so many ways to grow your mind. We're
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in the golden era of mindset work classes. There's so many different resources,
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from podcasts to YouTube, the audible to online classes, in person classes,
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so everyone who's listening to this show is definitely growing their mental capacity. The
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next area is social. Community creates immunity, and your vibe attracts your tribe,
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and being in social circles with people who have the results you want is
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so instrumental to you getting those same results. And finally, the seventh pillar
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is financial, and everybody thinks financial should comfort, so like, I'll make
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a lot of money, I'll hire a personal trainer, get in great shape,
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attracts my soul me We'll go on spiritual retreats and socialize with other couples
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and get happy. But in my experience, financial is the last thing.
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It's when I'm healthy and in love and have great friends and I'm feeling spiritually
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connected that is when I manifest the most financial abundance. And yeah, that's
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a quick overview of the seven pillars of abundance. Oh yeah, see that's
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interesting because yeah, I wouldn't have necessarily thought that financial would be last.
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I wouldn't necessarily think it would be first, but yeah, I would think
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it would be somewhere in the middle. It's interesting, but it makes sense
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then when I hear you explain it. Now, you said something about romance
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or romantic relationships, and you made a comment about neutral like either relationships they
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either have to lift you up. They either lift you up or they bring
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you down. And don't you find that in any kind of a relationship,
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friendships, co workers like it, just any kind of a relationship. If
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you're not, there is no such thing as a neutral relationship. They're either
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lifting you up or bringing you down. I think that's important to me.
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I agree, I agree, there is no such thing as neutral energy.
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It's either lifting you up or draining you. So if somebody's just if you're
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sharing your life with them there and you're not feeling supported, then that is
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a relationship that no longer serves you, and it's okay to you. Don't
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necessarily have to break up with people, but you can definitely distance yourself and
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look for communities like my community and the lista of like minded people that are
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on a spiritual paths at want to elevate themselves and elevate other people as they're
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manifesting their goals and dreams. Yeah, and you, as I said,
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something about the romantic affects you financially, and I've never heard anybody say that,
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So can you Can you share a little bit more about what you mean
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by that? That's interesting? Yeah, Well, they're both coming from your
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sacral chakra and your romance and your finance. A lot of it has to
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do with worthiness. Like you said, you know, if you feel that
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you have a high value and you're worthy, you are going to attract that
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loving, supportive soulmate. And if you don't feel that way, then you
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will accept relationships that are not serving your highest good. And the same is
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true with money. If you feel that you are worthwhile and you have a
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lot to contribute and that you're very valuable, then you won't have a problem
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attracting money and spending money. And if you feel all that you're in a
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scarcity or a lack or there's a lack of self worth and you won't want
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to attract you don't you want to attract it, but maybe you don't understand
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why you're not. And I think spending money is an important part of attracting
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money because when you are in scarcity and you're like, I can't afford this,
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I can't afford that, and you're constantly saying no to yourself, you're
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actually sending a message to the universe that you don't have enough. And I'm
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not saying to max out your credit cards and you know, become a shopping
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dopamine addict. But I'm saying that if there's something that you really really really
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want and you can get it, or you can find a way to get
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it, get it because there is an energy release and spending and earning money
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and you don't want to feel constricted. Yeah. No, that's a really
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really good point. And you know, I've worked on for years my money
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story, you know, just and I still catch to myself every once in
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a while. So I'm glad you brought that up. So for those that
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are listening that, let's say that there are things that they want, but
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realistically, what's in their bank doesn't match what they would have to spend to
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buy it. So what should we be saying to ourselves instead of I can't
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afford it? Like, is there a better affirmation that we should say you
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know too, so that we're not putting that out to the universe that we're
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you know that we can't we're not going to do it, and we keep
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saying lack and we're living in that lack mentality and that lack of energy.
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Yeah, if there's something that you really want that you can't afford, I
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would suggest that you find a way to experience it without buying it. So
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let's say you want a loving, committed, monogamous relationship with your soulmate,
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hang out with a couple that's in love. Or if you want to have
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a luxury dream car, go test drive one. And if you want to
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manifest your dream house, go on an open house tour and tour a bunch
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of dream houses, And that way you can kind of experience it and feel
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what it feels like to be in that energy without blowing your bank account.
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And that way, when you when you want it, you can be like,
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I know what it feels like I and I affirm that it's on its
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way that it is going to be coming to me. Yeah, that's good.
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It's on its way, right, Yeah, it's on its way.
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Yeah, it's on its way. And don't worry about how how is it
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on its way because that's where we get in our way. When how I
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haven't seen it yet? Show me the evidence, you know, and you
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have to be What we know now is you have to be in the space
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for it before you get the evidence. It's like opposite of what you would
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normally right, what we wouldn't normally want. Yeah, And one of my
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favorite affirmations is, you know, I am open to an unexpected miracle because
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some times things show up in a way that we're not expecting. We're expecting
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our abundance to come through a certain business plan or a certain job, or
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through a certain person, but then all of a sudden, someone else offers
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us something, and sometimes we miss it because we're like, oh no,
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I'm too busy, I'm focused on this. But it's like when things cross
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my desk, I do my best to stay open minded and open hearted because
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I am expecting an unexpected miracle and I am excited to see how and where
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it shows up. Mm, I like that. I like that be open
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to an unexpected miracle. I really like that. That's a good one.
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I like that affirmation. So I know you talk about you know, we're
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talking about being abundant and magnetic. So what is being magnetic mean? So
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there's two types of energy. There's masculine energy, where that is competing,
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controlling, conquering, pushing your energy out into the world. And then there's
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seminin energy, which is more receptive available magnetic, where you're more in receiving
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mode. So I do believe that we have both. So when you are
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going for a goal or dream, I don't believe just to stay home in
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the lotus position and just meditate. It does involve action. But also being
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magnetic means being willing to receive, being open to receiving and not chasing,
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not convincing, knowing your value and then being willing to receive and being willing
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to receive from different avenues and not exhausting yourself. Being magnetic means that you
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are keeping your energy and your vibe high and intact. You're not going out
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and just put showing yourself to burn out an exhaustion, because that's not magnetic.
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When you are in burnout an exhaustion. People do not want to be
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around someone who is just tired and low energy. So keeping your VIPI,
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doing your self care practices and so you can be magnetic. Yeah, because
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you talk about how being you know, self care is not being selfish.
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So because a lot of people think like, oh, I don't have time
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to work on myself. I don't have time, you know, because I
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take care of everybody. I take care of my spouse, my kids,
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my parents, whatever, my job, everything. So what do you mean
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by like being self care and not having to worry that you're being selfish?
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Yeah? So women are taught that being selfish is the worst thing you could
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ever be. To put everyone else first, to put their husband, their
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kids, their boss, their parents, everyone else first, and then they
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are absolutely exh austed and have no energy for self care. I teach women
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that self care is not selfish. That we get to give from the overflow
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when we are feeling rejuvenated and full and we're rested, and we've exercised and
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we've had fun and play in our life and we feel pampered and good.
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Then we show up and we have so much more to give so self care
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is not selfish. It's actually a necessity to show up for other people.
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We get to be poured into first, and we don't have to wait for
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anyone to pour into us. We get support into ourselves and then when we
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show up. I don't know about you, guys, but if I show
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up to something and I'm exhausted, I'm not fun to be around. So
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I like to say to my clients, we don't do anything out of fear,
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obligation, or guilt. Show up for things that light you up,
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and you don't have to justify, defend or explain your no. You can
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just say no, thank you, I'm not available, and that's and that's
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good enough. And if people call you selfish, then they're not your people.
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Yeah, I love that. One of the greatest things I learned was
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so I heard somebody say it. I wish I could remember who, but
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no, just no is a complete sentence. Can you do that? Yeah?
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You know? And I was like, oh my god. And when
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I really got it, I really got it. So now my no is
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I have no problem saying no. I can't because I know myself well enough
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to know when I've pushed too far and I'm like you, you don't want
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to be around me when I'm I'm overstress or overexhausted. I'm not as nice
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right as I usually i'm exactly you know. All right, let's take our
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break here because I just looked at the clock and then I have so much
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more I want to talk to you about. So guys, stay tuned and
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who enrich our lives. Hey, everybody, welcome back if you're just joining
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me. I have the magnetic abundance mentor and international best selling author Rebecca Whitman
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with me today and we're talking about, you know, having the light the
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life that we want, a light filled with a joy and abundance in every
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area. And that's what Rebecca helps women find, you know, and we
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need all the help we can get right now. I believe I think it.
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I think we really do. And people who have learned how to do
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it, you know, and are doing it. You want to be around
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those people. You want to be in those conversations you want to find out
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like what did you do? What do you think I should be doing?
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And right before the break, Rebecca, we were talking about how important self
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care is and how it's not being selfish to fill our own cup. What's
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your self care routine? Like what are your non negotiables for you? Yes?
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Well, every morning, I wake up and I drink lemon water first,
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and then I drink my liquid College and Supplement, which is the Fountain
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of Youth. And in my link tree, your listeners can get a promo
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code if they want to try it. Then I grab a caffeinated beverage,
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either coffee or tea. I sit down in a cozy little corner of my
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couch. Next to my couch, I have my abundance journal and my spiritual
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books and my daily planner. So I write a my abundance journal, I
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read a couple of my spiritual books, and then I do my plan for
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the day and my daily planner. Then I go to the gym and I
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switch it up between weightlifting classes, walking and yoga. Then I come back,
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I make myself a healthy breakfast and that is my self care morning practice.
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Also once a week, I do my best to get him assad.
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I like taking a couple of bubble baths a week with magnesium salt. And
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I really like spending time with my new puppy because she's so playful. She's
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five months old, and she reminds me about what really matters in life.
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And I try to stress every day for a few minutes and just in the
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middle of the day. Some people I know meditate in the morning. I
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like to break up my morning from my afternoon with a guided meditation. I
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really like insight timer app. And yeah, right before our call was just
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doing a guided meditation. So those are some of the things that I do
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for self care. No, that's great. Yeah, I have a morning
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practice too. Usually it's similar to yours, a little different, but like
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as soon as I get up, I shut my phone off for the first
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two hours in the morning and I do a lot all either whatever I feel
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called too. I'll listen to something, I'll read something I have like my
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whole ritual for coffee. Like my coffee is like a whole ritual. It
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is my treat with cinnamon and whipped cream. And I mean it is a
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thing like my coffee thing in the morning, and then I row a lot,
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like I'll do yoga, but I have a rowing machine I purchased during
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COVID actually, and I fell in love with that thing. So it's like
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I listen to cool stuff while I'm rowing. It's like my whole thing.
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So yeah, and it really sets me for the day. I do notice
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a difference when I can't do it for whatever reason, you know, like
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if my morning routine is off and I can't do it, I feel like
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off. So it does make a big difference. And not everybody has hours
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at a time. So what would you recommend for somebody who says, listen,
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I can't do that. I gotta get my kids to school. I
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have so much to do. Like what could somebody do in maybe a fifteen
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minute in the morning, just to kind of start their day off, you
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know, in that space of self care. Yeah, great question. I
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would recommend as soon as you wake up, throw in an earbud, listen
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to a guided meditation. You don't have to be quietly sitting there to feel
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like the power of it. There's a lot of beautiful affirmations and guided meditations
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out there. So I would do that as you're getting ready to get your
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mindset. If you have time, I would definitely do a journal practice.
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And that's why I love my Abundance Journal gift because it makes it really simple.
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Do some kind of a writing practice and then just read something really quick.
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I like the Daily Readers. There's a different one or two paragraph reading
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for each day of the year, nothing too long. And then if you
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have time after that, you can just shut your eyes and meditate for three
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to five minutes, and that would be a ten or fifteen minute morning practice
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that would set your day and once you get used to it, once you
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get in the groove. They say it takes twenty one days to form a
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habit, ninety days to form a lifestyle. Once it becomes part of your
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routine and you kind of build an inch your habit stacking. It's really easy
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and something that I do when I travel. It's something that I do when
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there's a major turmoil going on in my life. You know, like no
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matter what, or when there's major excitement like the day that I got married
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for the second time and then day that my dad died, you know,
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it doesn't matter, like I'm going to do that morning practice because it really
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grounds me and it connects me to spirit, and I also get to be
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present and my body and really take note of what's happening in my life and
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how my life is unfolding in a divine way. And I couldn't imagine my
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life without it, and it's just something that's really beautiful. And I too.
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I have fun with my caffeine and I put like different supplements and my
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coffee or tea, and I have the self boamer and then I saw a
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centimon on top, and I make the copyright key really special and that's part
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of the ritual, just getting that hot drink and then hunkering down, even
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if it's for five or ten minutes, it really makes a difference. Yeah,
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and I love thank you for those listening as a gift for the journal
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that's really that's really nice of you. Yeah. I'm a big journaler,
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I guess for sports though. So what will happen is I'll do it for
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like months and months and months at a time, and then months I'll go
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by and I'll just be reading like I like to. I just switched it
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up. It just goes with my personality. But yeah, I believe journaling
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is huge in getting on paper whatever stuck in your body. You know the
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artists, you know the artists way, are you familiar with the artist way?
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Yeah, the morning Pages. I did that for like a year and
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that really cleaned out a lot of crap that was stuck, you know,
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deep in my subconscious. So yeah, that's that's a really really good practice
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to do. And it doesn't take long. You're right, it doesn't take
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long at all. It doesn't. So that's that's that's a good that's good.
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I like it. So I know you talk about success, right,
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you talk about success, and a lot of people feel like, you know,
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well I'm not successful. Look at what she's doing and look at what
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he's doing. What would your definition of success be? Okay? And my
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opinion, success is the amount of joy you feel, because why do we
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want the house or the car, or the soulmate or the vacation so we
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can feel happy and we're putting our happy happiness out ahead of us, like
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call that over thereism, Like I'll get happy when when I can just get
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over there. And it's like we're a mule chasing the carrot. We never
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get over there because as soon as we get over there, our egos like,
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okay, well now we need this to be happy and it's just right,
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never ending. So joy is a choice. It is feeling the beauty
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and the abundance and the happiness in the moment and just deciding that hey,
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I'm here, I'm alive, I'm on the planet for just a short amount
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of time, and I might as well enjoy myself while I'm here, right
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here, right now. I have everything I need and all is well,
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and if I have my next breath, then that is enough to be joyful.
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Yeah, no, I agree. That's why I wanted to do the
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manifesting through gratitude because we're so busy what it like looking at what we don't
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have and what we want, and I'll be grateful when yeah I have this
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and this and this, but you're not looking at what's right in front of
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you. So it's and I wanted to create something that we focus on what
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is right in front of us that we already have, so that we will
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bring in more of that. That's what we want to do, which exactly,
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you and I are so aligned what you focus on expand so if you
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focus on what you don't have, and everybody can find reasons to be unhappy
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every single day, because that's just the nature of the human condition. So
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it's a mental discipline to turn your mind from the fear channel to the love
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channel. And the fastest way to go from fear to love is through the
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gratitude practice, through looking at everything that's going well. I mean, it
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can be as simple as having ten fingers, ten toes, four limbs.
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I actually shared this once at a speaking of it. I'm like, I'm
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just grateful to have, you know, ten fingers, ten toes, all
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organs working, four limbs. And some guy came up to me and he
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said, I really appreciated what you said about being grateful for ten fingers and
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ten toes. And he showed me his hand and he had a finger missing,
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and he said, yeah, when I was a kid, I was
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playing around with fireworks and it blew off my finger. So having ten fingers
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and having ten toes might seem like something we never even think about, but
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it is something to be grateful for it because not everybody has that. No,
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I know, we take it for granted. In the book, I
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have a whole ritual that you can do in the shower as a gratitude to
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your whole body as you're showering. Since you got to take a shower anyway,
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you might as well instead of worrying about like I go, what do
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you got to get to the grocery store? And if you did, you
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know all the bills that you have to take care of? Whatever you can
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in the shower, you know, thank your body for doing what it does
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for you every day. So yeah, I love that. It's beautiful.
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Yeah, it was fun. It's fun, and I do it when I
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tire a shower, and I you know, you can just do like a
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small version of it while you're brushing your teeth every day. I mean,
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those are the things we do every single day, and it helps us get
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into that mindset. Because which I want to talk about and you talk about
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a lot and your work, is we all have limiting beliefs, right,
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we all haven't. We usually inherit them from you know, the family we
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grew up in, the ironmen, or that we're around, you know,
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society. So how do we get through these limiting beliefs? And one of
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them that I see quite a lot, and now when you become aware of
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them, you really see them. I have some friends who are at that
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age group of middle age where they're divorced and single again, and there is
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a belief that there's nobody out there. And when I talked to some of
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my friends, I said, stop saying that. Stop saying you keep saying
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that. What do you think is going to happen? And I notice it's
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kind of like a joke, like, oh, dating after forty whole what's
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out there? And I'm like, well, if you keep perpetuating that belief,
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what's going to happen? Right? So how do we overcome our limiting
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beliefs? And I know you talk about manifesting in midlife, so you can
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hit both of those in the same definition. Yeah, it's funny because I'm
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in midlife too, and I have many friends who are like, oh,
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the dating apps are a waste of time. I've aged out, I'm so
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over being single. All the good ones are already taken. And then I
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have friends in midlife, many friends, I would say, like almost ten
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that actually manifested their soulmate on the dating apps. I think I'm one of
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the only people that manifested their soulmate the old fashioned way in person. And
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it's all about your law of attraction. What you really are telling yourself going
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into it. If you're saying, you know what Internet dating is fun,
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I'm going to meet some amazing people. I know my soulmate is out there.
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I trust divine timing. That is a whole different approach than oh my
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god, this is such a waste of time. These guys are all a
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bunch of losers. And if you have that negative attitude, that limiting belief,
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it's almost impossible for the universe to deliver your soulmate through through dating apps.
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So I have a course. It's called Seven Steps to Manifest your Soulmate
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in Midlife, and it is exactly what I did to go from that person.
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Because I was jaded and cynical and divorced, and I was on five
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dating apps. I hired a matchmaker. I was going on a million dates,
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it felt like, and I didn't like anyone or the people that liked
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me, people who liked me, I didn't like the people I liked and
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like me, you know that whole thing. And I finally just figured something
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out. I had taken a lot of dating classes, hired dating coaches,
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hired relationships expert, and then all of a sudden, it just clicked and
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I had to take a total dating dtalk. So I was six weeks into
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my dating D talk. I was like, I'm not going to think about
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men, talk about men, even have a conversation with one more than two
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minutes. And the weekend before my book came out, I was at a
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part already thrown by the owner of my gym, and I invited everyone at
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the party to my book launch the following week, and the only person who
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showed up was Ben, and he bought a book and he said, I'd
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like you to sign it over dinner, and we closed down that restaurant.
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We had such connected conversation and we've been together ever since, and we got
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married on the beach and Malibu. We had a shaman officiated. It was
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just so beautiful. So I teach exactly what I did, step by step
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by step. It's not a lot of steps as seventh steps. And I
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have helped many women in midlife find their soulmates and they are so grateful.
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Oh yeah, I don't believe that. I always tell everybody, I'm like,
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well, stop believing that, because I don't believe that that's true.
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There's eight billion people on the plant and you know, don't tell me there's
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not one out there for you. And I've heard and I have friends,
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and I have one who met his wife and she lived on the other side
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of the world and there was a crazy connection. Are married now. It's
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just like you just don't know. You have to be open. You have
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to be open. But limiting beliefs apply in all areas of our life.
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And a limiting belief basically is we don't feel that there that whatever it is
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we want is there is for us for whatever reason right, whether it's money,
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the job, the house, the relationship, the car, we can't.
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We feel like we can't have it. So what would you offer anybody
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who's listening, Like, what can we start telling ourselves if we think whatever
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it is we want we can't get it, we don't deserve it, or
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we can't have it. Like, what are little tricks that we can do
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to get our minds to start shifting that I would say to go through all
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seven areas of abundance seven pillars, write down your limiting belief because even if
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you are crushing it, they're still limiting belief. Sure. And for example,
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like myself, I'm working out all the time, I'm in great shape,
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but I have a limiting belief around Oh well, you know, I'll
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never like, you know, totally feel comfortable with my stomach or whatever.
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There's always something. So write down the limiting belief, ask yourself, what
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do I really want to achieve in this area, what actions are necessary to
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achieve it? And then turn the limiting belief into an affirmation. So,
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for example, if the limiting belief and romance is all the good ones are
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already taken, change that into there are more than enough men that are sexy,
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loving and available. Switch it so flip it into an affirmation. And
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every time you think of the old story, the old limiting belief, say
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your affirmation. So that that would be something that everyone could do to start
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looking at these areas and shift and their limiting beliefs to positive affirmations. Yeah,
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now that's good. That's really good, because we don't even in what's
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really interesting? And I know you know this because you've done the work on
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yourself. Are you get amazed at how much negative self to talk you have
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until you start working on it, and you start working on yourself and you
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catch yourself and you're like, oh my god, I here I am saying
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that again, right, and it's it becomes much easier to shift it once
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you first become aware of what they are. Right, then you find that
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yes, you have to be aware of it and know what it is.
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There are the three ads of change, awareness, acceptance, and action,
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so you know, be aware of what your limiting beliefs are, which is
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why I gave you guys the assignment to go through all semine areas and write
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down your limiting belief accepted. Okay, that's where I'm at now. My
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limiting belief is you know all the good ones are already taken, and then
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take an action to change that belief, which would be to say an affirmation,
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to write a gratitude list, to do a postcard to the universe or
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using board or take it how to manifest your soulmate class with me, or
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a gratitude class with you, and start to take action to create the life
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that you want. Yes, exactly, exactly, And then what you'll find
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is you start wanting more of that because you start to feel better, even
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if you don't see anything in your environment yet, right, even if you
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don't see it in a physical form yet, you start to feel better.
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So you know, you're raising your frequency, you're raising your energy. So
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those things just a matter of time of when it comes and having faith and
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trust that the universe is going to deliver what you ordered, right, You
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just got to get out of the way. You got to get out of
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the way and allow it. Like you were talking about earlier, being magnetic
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is receiving allowing it to come to you. So I want to talk a
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little bit about your podcast. I love your podcasts. Can you share with
49:13
us like to Bate the Balance Beautiful and Abundant show? Like what sparked you
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wanting to do the podcast and what do you like to talk about on the
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podcast for those who want to check it out. Well, I wasn't planning
49:28
to have a podcast. I was at a business seminar. I'm a huge
49:32
believer in investing time and money in my own personal growth, and I was
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at a business seminar and at lunch she said, I'm going to give you
49:42
guys a challenge to ask five people who intimidate you to be on your podcast.
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And I was, Okay, I'll do the challenge. So I asked
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by people who I looked up to to be on my podcast. One said
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yes, and I was like, oh boy, I better have a pre
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fi. Yeah. So, yeah, I just used zoom. It wasn't
50:04
anything fancy. And I interviewed her and I found someone to be my producer
50:10
online, you know, through one of those apps like five or task Grabbit,
50:15
not task grab it. I forget the other one, but one of
50:19
those. And yeah, so I had a podcast and on the podcast,
50:23
I interview experts that can speak into one of these seven pillars of abundance and
50:30
they give you tips, tools and strategies on how to get that pillar of
50:34
abundance to a level ten. And I was so delighted that we won a
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Positive Change Award last year, and just a couple of weeks ago I found
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out that we were top one point five percent globally and self help, so
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it is really catching on. It is a labor of love. I don't
50:53
have sponsors yet, but it just it makes me so happy to interview people
51:00
all that are thought leaders and disruptors and just teaching people how to get results.
51:07
And I like people that are outside of the mainstream, kind of like
51:10
you do. Like I like hearing people that are on the cutting edge and
51:15
hearing how they help people get results. In one of these seven areas.
51:19
So that is what the podcast is about. It's a lot of fun,
51:23
and yeah, definitely check it out. Check out Melissa's episode because she crushed
51:29
it and it's a great, great way to help people. Yeah, and
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it's funny that you said that, because when I started out, I'm a
51:37
visual artist. That's my background. Everything is visual, right, So I
51:42
never had any intention of having a radio show or making it a podcast.
51:47
And a friend was doing it and I thought and said, you know,
51:52
you'd be good at that our conversations or whatever, and I said, yeah,
51:54
like, you know what, I like to try it. That sounds
51:57
like fun. And when I started it, I fell in love with it
52:00
because I, like you, I am interested in the work other people are
52:06
doing that inspires me. Right. If I'm inspired, I want to share
52:10
it. So that's really all I do, Like, I have no agenda
52:15
other than I look for people that inspire me with the work that they're doing,
52:20
and from there, I want to have a conversation about it and I
52:22
just want to share it with everybody else. And yeah, and here I
52:25
am years later now and I love it. It's so much fun. I
52:28
love doing because I meet the most interesting people. So I have these wonderful
52:31
hour long conversations every week with the most interesting people from all over. So
52:37
yeah, it's great. I enjoy it, and I know you do too.
52:40
So it's very similar to the work that we're doing. We just kind
52:44
of come about it in different ways, which is really cool. Right,
52:47
So it resonates with somebody. Somebody's listening, it will resonate what we're doing
52:52
with them, absolutely, And I have learned so much from my guests because
52:58
I ask questions that I genuinely want to know for my own perponal growth.
53:01
And I'm fullman, And so yeah, I've sen quite a lot of episodes
53:07
now one hundred and seven. I've had one hundred and seventy hours of conversations
53:10
that have elevated me and in turn elevated other people. And yeah, I
53:15
want to keep going with it. It's so much fun. Yeah, I
53:20
agree. So is there anything because we only have like a a few minutes
53:24
left, So I want to give you the opportunities or anything that I didn't
53:29
get a chance to ask you, or that you think is really important that
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you want to leave everybody with today. Yeah, I mean, this has
53:37
been a really thorough interview, I would say the thing that I would want
53:42
to leave people with is this is what works for me. I get so
53:46
far into the future that I get anxiety. So what's really helped me is
53:52
just doing the next right thing. Like if I want to achieve something or
53:58
create a project or do something, I get overwhelmed. So I just do
54:01
the next indicated action, and then the next indicated action and the next indicated
54:08
action. And I do my best to stay out of the past, because
54:13
when I'm in the past, I'm usually in regret or being a perfectionist.
54:17
I could would have, should have done it better, differently, And I
54:22
do my best to stay out of the future because that creates anxiety. And
54:25
true happiness is in the present moment and being in my five senses. What
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am I seeing, What am I smelling? What am I hearing, What
54:34
am I tasting? What am I touching? That brings me into the present.
54:37
And if I can't be in the present, the next best thing is
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what is my next step? And I will leave your listeners with that.
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I am excited for them to get their hands on the Abundance Journal prompts.
54:51
And there are many cool things in my link tree. There's a seven seven
54:55
seven challenge seven Pillars of Abundance in sevent days for seven dollars, where I
55:00
give you a little assignments to do in each of the seven areas to level
55:06
up. And of course, my seventh step to manifest your Soulmate course is
55:12
opening it up for enrollment in a week, so make sure you reach out
55:16
to me to get on the waitlist for that, and the best way to
55:21
find me is on Instagram at Rebecca E. Whitman. My website is Rebecca
55:27
Elizabeth with a Z Whitman dot com and yeah, check out the balance beautiful
55:34
and abundant show. And I cannot wait to stand touch with all of you
55:38
guys and Melissa, you rock. I'm so glad you started a podcast because
55:43
you're a great conversationalist. Thank you and back at you, Rebecca. I
55:47
was graping on your show. I really appreciate it. Yeah, guys,
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check her out. Our show is fantastic and check it out when I was
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on especially all right, everyone, thank you so much for listening to Postcards
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to the Universe with Melissa creating the life you crave. And I'm wishing everyone
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a wonderful week filled with joy, abundance and love. Peace,