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From Dysfunctionality To Functionality · Apostle Lazarus Femi

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  Speaker 1: Apostle Femi Lazarus is a man raised by God to
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  Speaker 1: demonstrate his wisdom and authority to the last day church.
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  Speaker 1: He is the lead pastor of Sphere of Light Church
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  Speaker 1: and God told him years ago that a time will
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  Speaker 1: come where my wisdom will be needed to navigate tough
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  Speaker 1: times in the body of Christ.
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  Speaker 2: Then I will cause your voice to be heard.
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  Speaker 1: And all who pay attention to my word on your
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  Speaker 1: lips will not lack light and direction. He's a man
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  Speaker 1: sent from God, sent to raise God's end time armies.
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  Speaker 1: With Apostle Fermi Lazarus, every minute counts as you listen attentively.
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  Speaker 3: Your word is yes and amen. We return all praise.
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  Speaker 3: We return all glory. We return all honor to you.
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  Speaker 3: We take charge of this atmosphere that only your counsel
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  Speaker 3: prevail and your will instruct us. Blessed be your holy name.
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  Speaker 3: In Jesus' mighty name, we are praying. Who is excited
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  Speaker 3: to be in church?
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  Speaker 4: All right.
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  Speaker 2: You want to put those hands bigger and better for Jesus?
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Is that the best you can do? Amen. God bless you.
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  Speaker 3: You may please be seated.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you.
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  Speaker 3: Good evening, everyone. So I'm going to start by laying
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  Speaker 3: a very important foundation. And like I said, this series
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  Speaker 3: in itself.
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  Speaker 2: It's therapeutic, but it's offensive. Is that clear?
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  Speaker 3: So I don't really care about the standards of the
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  Speaker 3: society that will offend. My loyalty is to the truth.
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  Speaker 3: Is that clear now? So get ready to be offended
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  Speaker 3: at some point. I just need to lay that foundation.
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  Speaker 2: Amen. All right.
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  Speaker 3: Turn your Bibles quickly. Turn your Bibles quickly to the
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  Speaker 3: book of Psalms. And that's going to be our anchor scripture,
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  Speaker 3: even as we dig into this subject. If you're in
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  Speaker 3: your Bible, turn to the book of Psalms, chapter number 11.
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  Speaker 3: Psalms 11, verse 3. Psalms chapter number 11. verse 3.
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  Speaker 3: Quite a popular scripture says, if the foundations be destroyed,
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  Speaker 3: what can the righteous, what?
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  Speaker 2: Do.
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  Speaker 3: If the foundations be destroyed. Can we read it together
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  Speaker 3: three times?
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  Speaker 2: One, two, three, go. Second time. The third time.
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  Speaker 3: If the foundations are out of place, what can the
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  Speaker 3: righteous do? Now, if you look at what the Bible says,
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  Speaker 3: Psalms chapter number 82.
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  Speaker 2: Psalms 82. I'm going to read from verse.
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  Speaker 3: 1 for the sake of contextual understanding.
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  Speaker 2: Is that okay?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: God stands in the congregation of the mighty. He judges
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  Speaker 3: among the gods. How long will you judge unjustly and
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  Speaker 3: accept the persons of the wicked? Defend the poor and fatherless.
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  Speaker 3: Do justice to the afflicted and needy. Deliver the poor
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  Speaker 3: and needy. Read them out of the hands of the wicked.
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  Speaker 3: They know not. Neither will they understand. They walk on
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  Speaker 3: in darkness. All the foundations of the earth are out
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  Speaker 3: of course. So, in a nutshell, what the Bible is
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  Speaker 3: saying is that we have a pattern of injustice. Number one,
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  Speaker 3: because of ignorance. When there is ignorance... the Bible said,
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  Speaker 3: ignorance will offset the balance of foundations. Is that okay now?
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  Speaker 3: Where there is ignorance, it's what? Offset the balance of what?
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  Speaker 2: Foundations.
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  Speaker 3: So the family system is the foundation of the society.
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  Speaker 3: And if the church is a living component or active
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  Speaker 3: component of the society, it means the family is also
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  Speaker 3: the foundation of the church. In fact, from the beginning
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  Speaker 3: there was no church, but there was a family. Is
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  Speaker 3: that simple enough? There was no church. So we all
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  Speaker 3: are gathered here as members of a church, of this church,
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  Speaker 3: from different backgrounds. And the way the family system goes is,
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  Speaker 3: is the way the society will go. Where the family
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  Speaker 3: turns is where the society will turn. In fact, I
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  Speaker 3: think I heard this from Dr. Miles Monroe. And he
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  Speaker 3: talked about a time that they did a survey and
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  Speaker 3: to check the reason why there were so many black
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  Speaker 3: Americans in prisons. males particularly. Some were imprisoned for drugs,
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  Speaker 3: for rape, car theft, and all that. And they saw
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  Speaker 3: that 90% of the people had daddy issues. God will
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  Speaker 3: have to judge me if I fail to tell you
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  Speaker 3: the truth. Are you following what I'm saying here? I
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  Speaker 3: owe my life to this cause.
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  Speaker 2: Let me tell you.
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  Speaker 3: In fact, thank God my wife is a counselor. In
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  Speaker 3: the next 10, 15 years, the richest guys around the world,
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  Speaker 3: apart from tech guys and all those other guys, will
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  Speaker 3: be therapists. Because the world is moving to the point
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  Speaker 3: where we are going to bet many problems with the
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  Speaker 3: way we are going. Whatever it is, you see people
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  Speaker 3: talk about the need for healing from family cases, all
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  Speaker 3: the vices and different things we are all about to outgrow.
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  Speaker 3: We are still dealing with the things that happened some 20,
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  Speaker 3: 30 years ago. We are not yet dealing with the
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  Speaker 3: generation that are the victims of the kind of parents
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  Speaker 3: there are now and the kinds there will be. The generation,
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  Speaker 3: I don't listen to anybody, will soon become parents. And
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  Speaker 3: children will be born from that. So we have to
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  Speaker 3: go back to the Bible. And that's where we are now. So,
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  Speaker 3: teaching this, um, is building a hack of safety for
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  Speaker 3: the generations now and for those to come. Anybody who
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  Speaker 3: is going to do marriage right must choose. You either
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  Speaker 3: do it the society way or you do it the
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  Speaker 3: Bible way. I'm going to address those coming up first
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  Speaker 3: to lay my foundation then I'm going to address those
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  Speaker 3: who are already victims and how to come out.
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  Speaker 2: Is that okay now?
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  Speaker 3: But one of the things I've discovered about family issues
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  Speaker 3: is that you can be a victim and a villain
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  Speaker 3: at the same time.
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  Speaker 2: You can be. And I want us to pay very
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  Speaker 2: keen attention to that.
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  Speaker 5: Um....
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  Speaker 2: Um....
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  Speaker 3: There are many issues on ground and we can't deal
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  Speaker 3: with everything in one sermon. There are complications that we
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  Speaker 3: are betting that we have not seen the problems that
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  Speaker 3: will emerge.
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  Speaker 2: There are problems we have not seen the type before.
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  Speaker 3: They are still brewing. The generation that is pushing That
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  Speaker 3: women and women can marry each other and adopt. And
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  Speaker 3: men and men can marry each other and adopt. Those
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  Speaker 3: children will grow and they will try. to fit in
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  Speaker 3: to a society that is quite alien to that. There
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  Speaker 3: are countries right now that your five-year-old son can decide
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  Speaker 3: that he is not a boy, he is a girl.
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  Speaker 3: If you stop the child from opting for the surgeries
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  Speaker 3: that will change the sex, you will be jailed as
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  Speaker 3: the parent. Until we revive at least the consciousness of
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  Speaker 3: the fear of God, that's.
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  Speaker 2: Where we are going.
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  Speaker 3: And it will begin with being sympathetic with what is wrong.
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  Speaker 3: It's a tricky game and we are playing into the
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  Speaker 3: hands of the devil.
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  Speaker 2: It's a tricky game. It's a very tricky game.
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  Speaker 3: So, a family structure that will be dysfunctional does not
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  Speaker 3: become dysfunctional because two young people are married.
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  Speaker 5: No.
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  Speaker 4: No.
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  Speaker 3: You can be single and you have the potential for
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  Speaker 3: betting a potential dysfunctional home.
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  Speaker 2: It's not until you marry.
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  Speaker 3: It is the quality of people getting into marriages that
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  Speaker 3: determines the quality of the marriage. You see, let me
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  Speaker 3: tell you something. You're already going to be a disaster
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  Speaker 3: in marriage if you don't believe you can be wronged.
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  Speaker 3: If every time you think about who is wrong, it's
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  Speaker 3: the guy, oh, it's the girl, it's him. When you
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  Speaker 3: hear a sermon, you are thinking about your spouse. Tell him.
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  Speaker 2: Tell her. What about you? The word of God is
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  Speaker 2: double-edged sword. A sword is already double-sided.
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  Speaker 3: So double-edged means that it pierces the preacher as it
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  Speaker 3: pierces the pew. then it pierces the both genders. That's
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  Speaker 3: the word. Say, I hear you.
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  Speaker 2: That's the word.
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  Speaker 3: So we are going to trace very important things to discuss.
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  Speaker 3: But I need us to know that we are not
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  Speaker 3: ready for what is coming. Some of us have seen
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  Speaker 3: it ahead. And we approach teachings like this with.
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  Speaker 2: Fear and trembling.
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  Speaker 3: If many people need healing from family structures right now,
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  Speaker 3: from what happened whatever year, the 80s, the 70s, the 60s,
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  Speaker 3: the 90s, the children that are being born in 2020, 2021,
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  Speaker 3: 2022 downwards, I fear that the kind of parents they
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  Speaker 3: are coming to meet will do worse than those who
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  Speaker 3: were their own parents.
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  Speaker 2: You know, you can blame your parents for what you
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  Speaker 2: later do worse.
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  Speaker 3: And you have no right to really judge people until
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  Speaker 3: you are at their level and you did not make
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  Speaker 3: their mistakes.
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  Speaker 2: You have no right.
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  Speaker 3: Because you can hate it, but yet you are not
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  Speaker 3: wise enough to live above it. You can hate it
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  Speaker 3: so bad and become worse than that. And many of
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  Speaker 3: the complaints borders around the fact that maybe they should
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  Speaker 3: have made more sacrifices for the children. But this is
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  Speaker 3: the same generation that believes that if marriage stresses you small,
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  Speaker 3: get out of it.
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  Speaker 2: Are there cases that require separation? Oh yes. Get the balance.
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  Speaker 2: But marriage is still for better for worse. The last
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  Speaker 2: I remember. Talk to me now. I said it is
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  Speaker 2: still for better for worse.
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  Speaker 3: In the sense that you can be married and sometimes
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  Speaker 3: the home can be broke and it is still your
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  Speaker 3: husband and your wife.
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  Speaker 2: True or not true? It is not for better for stay,
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  Speaker 2: for worse for go. It is not. It is not.
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  Speaker 2: Let me show you a scripture.
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  Speaker 3: 2 Timothy chapter number 3. We start the reading from
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  Speaker 3: verse 15. 2 Timothy 3.
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  Speaker 2: From where?
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  Speaker 3: Verse 15. Now listen attentively to what the Bible says.
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  Speaker 3: He said, and that from a child you have known
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  Speaker 3: the holy scriptures which are able to make you wise
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  Speaker 3: to salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. All scriptures,
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  Speaker 3: scripture is given by the inspiration of God and is
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  Speaker 3: profitable for doctrine. The word doctrine there means an established
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  Speaker 3: body of teaching.
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  Speaker 2: For reproof. for correction, for instruction in righteousness. All right?
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  Speaker 3: Now, look at what the Amplified said in verse 16.
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  Speaker 3: It says, Every scripture is God-bretted, given by His inspiration,
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  Speaker 3: and profitable for instruction, for reproof.
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  Speaker 2: And for conviction of sin.
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  Speaker 3: Meaning that when you read the Bible and listen to
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  Speaker 3: the Word, the Word should actually convict you in the
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  Speaker 3: areas that you are wrong. The word should convict us
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  Speaker 3: in the areas that we have wrong mindset.
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  Speaker 2: Let's take for instance now, subject like forgiveness. Alright. What
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  Speaker 2: determines forgiveness?
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  Speaker 3: Is it the level of a person's sin towards you
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  Speaker 3: or because the Bible says to forgive? Are you seeing
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  Speaker 3: that now? You say, well, although the Bible says to forgive,
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  Speaker 3: but I have chosen as a Christian never to forgive
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  Speaker 3: this person. Well, you have not spoken as one. Because
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  Speaker 3: two Christians submit under the authority of the word. Will
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  Speaker 3: it be painful?
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  Speaker 5: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Is it possible to cry? Yes.
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  Speaker 3: And I found out that bulk of the instructions the
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  Speaker 3: Bible gives to us is for our benefit.
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  Speaker 6: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: I can show you how the.
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  Speaker 3: Root of bitterness can make me fall sick. And create
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  Speaker 3: a venue for the devil to study. And that's why
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  Speaker 3: we are starting from here. Are you following what I'm
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  Speaker 3: teaching here now? Now, look at this. We must understand...
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  Speaker 3: That it is the principle of scriptures that is designed
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  Speaker 3: to run our lives. That is also designed to form
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  Speaker 3: perspectives for us. So a true believer in Christ is
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  Speaker 3: not to form any perspective outside the injunctions of scriptures.
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  Speaker 3: We don't try to make the scripture mean what we
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  Speaker 3: want to say. You don't try to engineer the scriptures
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  Speaker 3: to speak your thoughts. You adjust yourself to the truth
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  Speaker 3: of the scripture. And that's why doctrines are established contextually.
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  Speaker 2: Alright?
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  Speaker 3: In biblical humanetics, you don't just bring a framework of
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  Speaker 3: topic verse. No, you must understand what the pretext is
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  Speaker 3: and the post text. Because this is what forms the
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  Speaker 3: framework and framework. It is becoming much more injurious. That's
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  Speaker 3: why you have to be taught. Everybody has an opinion.
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  Speaker 3: The media has an opinion. Blogs have an opinion. Wounded
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  Speaker 3: people have opinions. Bruised people have opinions. Those whose voice
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  Speaker 3: should not be heard also have opinions. But where the
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  Speaker 3: Bible is, no opinion is sufficient. The opinion of the
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  Speaker 3: world is supremely. So what we do is that we
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  Speaker 3: bring whatever it is that our thought process is, and
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  Speaker 3: we lay it down at the altar. What has the
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  Speaker 3: Bible commanded? This is the basic foundation of Christianity, to
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  Speaker 3: live by the word.
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  Speaker 2: Is that okay now?
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  Speaker 3: We don't live by the story of other women. Do
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  Speaker 3: you know what women have gone through?
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  Speaker 2: No, no, no. That doesn't form the basis for our
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  Speaker 2: own stories. It is what the word says.
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  Speaker 3: We don't live by the story of other men. Have
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  Speaker 3: you seen where women poison their wives? We come to
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  Speaker 3: submit to what the word says. The same doctrine you
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  Speaker 3: use to excuse the wrong things in your life, the
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  Speaker 3: devil likes it so. There is a bigger game plan
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  Speaker 3: coming that you are not a part of. That same
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  Speaker 3: body of doctrine will excuse that thing. While Nigeria as
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  Speaker 3: a country is celebrating revival, we bless God for the
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  Speaker 3: revival movement. But are you aware of the sexual orientations
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  Speaker 3: that is closing in quickly? Subtle ways through movies. That now,
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  Speaker 3: if care is not taken, you can see a Nigerian
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  Speaker 3: movie and somebody is bare butt. What was once sacrilegious?
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  Speaker 3: There is an advancement of thought in bits and pieces.
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  Speaker 3: And the devil knows how to close it in because
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  Speaker 3: many are wounded. And when you are wounded, you are
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  Speaker 3: not really reasonable. What you think about is the pain.
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  Speaker 3: That's why they use pain to get people to confess.
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  Speaker 3: Because when there is pain, you are not thinking about
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  Speaker 3: Let's just do what is right. Anything to get me
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  Speaker 3: out of the pain. That is not the way we
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  Speaker 3: are designed to live. I'm about to teach you what
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  Speaker 3: those you feel have better dysfunctionality in your homes. What
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  Speaker 3: you wish they knew. And let's hope your children will
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  Speaker 3: be glad you heard it. We have to hope so.
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  Speaker 3: We have to hope so. I've said a few things
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  Speaker 3: I want to reaffirm. Many people can stand here and say,
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  Speaker 3: I am where I am because of the sacrifice of
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  Speaker 3: my mother. Will the mothers of tomorrow also have sacrifices?
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  Speaker 3: Will the fathers of tomorrow also have sacrifices?
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  Speaker 2: We have not been.
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  Speaker 3: Leadership means that you live for a cause.
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  Speaker 2: And it can be painful. If it is painful and
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  Speaker 2: I'm out, that is not leadership. Leadership. Are you following
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  Speaker 2: what I'm saying here? We live for a what? A cause.
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  Speaker 3: Get what I'm saying in context. There are abuses that
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  Speaker 3: people should be pulled out of. But we must not
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  Speaker 3: form a mentality as touching homes that we treat it
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  Speaker 3: like a piece of cake. The oath of marriage is deep.
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  Speaker 3: So that one day doesn't come, I just look at
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  Speaker 3: my wife. and say, I didn't know you would be
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  Speaker 3: this yellow.
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  Speaker 2: I would have not married you.
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  Speaker 3: Since divorce is not really a sin like that, you
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  Speaker 3: are quite yellow for me.
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  Speaker 2: Don't worry.
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  Speaker 3: We have three children. We have two children. We are
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  Speaker 3: going to be fine. You just be good. I will
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  Speaker 3: give you some money. But you are actually too yellow
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  Speaker 3: for me. Just enjoy. I will be sending you this
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  Speaker 3: and this per month. If we ever watch till marriages
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  Speaker 3: become like that, we are in trouble. Our words must
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  Speaker 3: count for something. That if I say that I love you,
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  Speaker 3: I stand by it. Does that mean I will not
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  Speaker 3: see somebody else who is finer? Beauty lies in the
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  Speaker 3: eyes of the beholder. Does that mean I will not
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  Speaker 3: see somebody else that days my wife gets me angry?
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  Speaker 3: Who is not getting me angry?
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  Speaker 2: There will be.
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  Speaker 3: In fact, the moment you are pained by your wife
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  Speaker 3: or your husband... That is the moment there's somebody around
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  Speaker 3: who is just bringing tea for you. There will be
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  Speaker 3: people that in the days of dispute with your spouse
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  Speaker 3: that look more appealing than your spouse. They are not
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  Speaker 3: more appealing. It's your emotion that is clouded. You sought
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  Speaker 3: them before you chose this person. Maintain your choice. Maintain
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  Speaker 3: that choice. We must understand what love means.
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  Speaker 2: Love is commitment. It's not just a statement. It's a statement.
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  Speaker 2: Love is not a feeling. Love is devotion. Love is patient.
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  Speaker 2: Love is kind.
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  Speaker 3: That if we say, we bring people and we say
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  Speaker 3: for better, for worse, we understand that they are ready
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  Speaker 3: to pay the price and the sacrifice required to maintain
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  Speaker 3: that word. We don't judge ourselves by what is going
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  Speaker 3: on by one celebrity or the other.
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  Speaker 4: No.
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  Speaker 2: It is by what happens in the Bible, not even
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  Speaker 2: with pastors.
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  Speaker 3: That the example of what marriage is supposed to mirror
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  Speaker 3: is the union of the church and Christ.
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  Speaker 2: Don't let me get into grace. But if you.
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  Speaker 3: Understand that if at every sin Christ divorces you, then
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  Speaker 3: it will be wrong also to condemn divorce.
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  Speaker 2: You must understand that. He washed the bride with the
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  Speaker 2: washing of the blood and water.
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  Speaker 3: Is the groom that takes care of his bride. And
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  Speaker 3: grooms the bride. We must reaffirm our convictions. On the
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  Speaker 3: principles of scripture. This is what I read. I don't
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  Speaker 3: sit down on Facebook. Or Instagram. I read the Bible.
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  Speaker 3: Two good Christians. Will make two better spouses. That is
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  Speaker 3: our foundation.
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  Speaker 6: The word.
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  Speaker 2: The word.
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: The word of God. That's our foundation. The word of God.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: That's our foundation. In the days our mothers were foolish,
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: marriage is last better. The word dragged me for a
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: billion years for this truth.
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  Speaker 2: Here I am.
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  Speaker 3: I told you before we started that we are entering
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: into the thick darkness and stay there and show you
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  Speaker 3: it is nothing.
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: Oh yes, I mean it. We will stay in the
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: midst of it. Stand the ground. Stand the ground. And
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: many more can begin to say, oh, we can stand
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: in the midst of it. Oh, let's rise and stand.
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: The voice of scriptures cannot be subjugated. The word will
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: do marriage the way the Bible says to do marriage.
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: When two people are not married and they are living
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: couples life, it may not show yet, but the effect
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: will show later. When you violate scriptures, you will reap
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: the harvest. You may not necessarily go to hell, but
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: your life can become one. People may not tell you
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: the side effect of certain practices. But that doesn't mean
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: they don't go through.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: It.
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  Speaker 3: We do marriage the way the Bible says to do it.
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: We do relationship the way the Bible says to what?
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: To do it. So that they don't come.
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: They say, Apostle, if you don't join two males together
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: in this church, we are going to close down this.
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: You better come and close it. If you are the
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: one who opened it. You better come and close it.
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: We say we are going to sentence pastors to jail
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: who refuse to join.
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: This is my hand.
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: Some of us were raised in the north. We were
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: taught to learn to die. That's the foundation we have.
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: We may wear a suit on top, but we still
• 26:58
  Speaker 3: have that rugged faith.
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: So we must defend the cause.
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: The generation on ground are about to do worse than
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: those they hate. It's time to bring back the word.
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: Re-engineer our thinking, our thoughts. There is something the Bible
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: says about how to love your wife. There is something
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: the Bible says about how to honor your husband. We
• 27:18
  Speaker 3: go back to it. Are you following what I'm saying here?
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: Say it again.
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: We go back to the word. Say it again loud
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: and clear. We go back to the word. So the
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: word of God is the governing principle. That's the governing
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: principle that has been ordained to run our lives. So
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: the Bible says if the foundation is destroyed, what can
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: the righteous do?
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: That's the homes. That's the family system.
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: If I run a home in a way that I
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: always have my way, then the home will be bad.
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: Nobody likes to be wrong, but I can be wrong.
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: That's the truth. Nobody likes to hear that you are rude.
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: But if I'm rude, I'm rude. Nobody likes to hear
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: their wife say that you don't give me attention. But
• 28:21
  Speaker 2: if your wife says you don't give her attention, according
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: to her, you don't give her attention. Women don't count
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: attention as being present. Women's attention is be present, do nothing,
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: eyes on me, ears open.
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: And that's quite difficult for a man. Because sometimes what
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: the woman is saying is heavy. And the phone is
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: a way for the man to divide his emotions so
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: that he will not break down. Am I speaking your truth?
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: So I want your undivided attention. Even if it's for
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: 10 minutes, just give me the attention. And it's quite
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: tough for a man. You mean the business plan, the client,
• 29:06
  Speaker 3: everything I'm thinking, I just stop and listen to just you? Well,
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: if that is what brings joy and peace, all right,
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: let's have it. Then the woman starts with, So, last week. Okay,
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: you seem to know what that means. When you hear,
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: so last week. It means the conversation has gone through.
• 29:40
  Speaker 3: several thoughts and somebody has planned you this is why
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: I like to press my phone in the midst of
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: this kind of conversation so I don't really listen but
• 29:50
  Speaker 3: if that is what brings peace we give it because
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: love is sacrifice love is sacrifice If your husband says,
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: you don't honor me, the question is, how do I
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: honor you? What is honor to you? Because what honor
• 30:11
  Speaker 3: may be to me is not what honor may be
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: to you. Your wife can say, I don't like the
• 30:16
  Speaker 3: way you embarrass me in public.
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: Say, me. Embarrass you.
• 30:22
  Speaker 4: How?
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: Say, the last time we were talking in front of
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: your friend, that statement you said to me, you should
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: not have said that where your friend is. Don't say, ah, ah,
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: see this woman now. See, see, just one thing I
• 30:36
  Speaker 3: told you. No, she's saying she's hot. Like my wife
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: would say, validate the feelings first. So the day my
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: wife first told me, validate the feelings. So when she
• 30:47
  Speaker 3: told me, I said, okay, I validate your feelings. So
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: she said, you know, I don't like this, I don't like,
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: I said, I validate your feelings.
• 30:58
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 31:00
  Speaker 3: She said, no, no, that's not what I mean. I said, no, okay,
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: if that's not what you mean, I validate that feeling too.
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: Then finally she said, you know what, no problem. I
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: actually knew what I was doing. She thought I didn't
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: know how to validate feelings. She said, so this, this, this, no, no,
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: I said, I validate your feelings. If this validating feelings
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: is what will give us joy, I validate your feelings.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: Don't be like me. Amen. So, the people who are
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: married or about to get married, first, accept I can
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: be wrong. Even as your pastor, I can be wrong.
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: I can be.
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: I think it was the one that posted a status
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: that what they said that, um, The eagle used to
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: separate itself once in a year, even with the feathers.
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: I said, it's not true. The eagle fly the highest altitude,
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: it's not true. Isha listed all those. I said, hey,
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: let's go and fact check because I don't use this
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: thing pre-style. I said, let's go and fact check so
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: I know where my trouble will start from. Because I
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: know I can be Now, put your right hand on
• 32:29
  Speaker 3: your chest. Say, I can be wrong. It is possible
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: I am wrong. And when I am wrong, I accept
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: that I am wrong. Okay, let's say this one. I
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: can apologize. So, let me ask a question. Between male
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: and female, who doesn't like apologizing? This argument will continue
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: till Jesus comes. It is like, which came first, the
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: egg or the chicken? If you believe, now hear what
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: I'm saying, that males don't like to apologize, prove it
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: by apologizing. If you believe that females don't like to apologize,
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: prove it by.
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: How.
• 33:14
  Speaker 3: Can you not apologize and believe that it's opposite sex
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: who does apologize? You are being the victim and the villain.
• 33:26
  Speaker 3: I can be wrong. Now, I want to say this,
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: and this is a very important one. Knowing fully well
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: that the family is the foundation of the society and
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: even the foundation of the church, get what I'm saying
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: in context. I'm talking about church as a gathering, not
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: church as the redeemed people. The revelation of Christ as
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: the son of God is the foundation upon which the
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: church is built.
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: But when we gather, we are coming from homes. Is
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: that clear in terms of doctrine? Very important. You see that.
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: So when you see people fighting on the streets, it's
• 34:10
  Speaker 3: because of the orientations they have. You were telling me
• 34:14
  Speaker 3: about two males that parked on the street here in Abuja.
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: To beat each other. It's the orientation. The other one said, me,
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: I'll use hand with you. No, no, no, no. God forbid.
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: I'll bring kuboko. Brings that out. And flog the fellow man.
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: It's the orientation. There are men who believe you, my wife,
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: argue with you.
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: God forbid. That day will never come. I will beat
• 34:38
  Speaker 3: you with belt. There are women who believe me. I
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: can't fight with a man. You do anything like this.
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: I cook spoiled food for you. It's the orientation. You
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: cannot repeat what you have not seen as possible. Anything
• 34:55
  Speaker 3: you repeat, somebody has mirrored it. Let me show you
• 35:01
  Speaker 3: the danger of that. Let me show you the danger
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: of what I just said now.
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: Alright. Pass it to me, please come. Okay, Mr. Shafia,
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: please come.
• 35:19
  Speaker 3: Alright, please stand here. So, if Nakale, please come. Nakale
• 35:25
  Speaker 3: is their first son. And Nakale sees daddy slapping mommy.
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: The first thing that happens to him is that this
• 35:36
  Speaker 3: is wrong. I don't like this. How dare you slap
• 35:41
  Speaker 3: my mother? I don't like this. I hate the day
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: I saw him do that. As much as you ate
• 35:49
  Speaker 3: the day you saw him do that, something has been
• 35:52
  Speaker 3: communicated to this guy that there is a point it
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: can get to that a man will slap the wife.
• 35:59
  Speaker 3: When we are dealing with matter of orientation, you check
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: what has been communicated to you that you are not
• 36:05
  Speaker 3: doing yet because you have not gotten to the end
• 36:08
  Speaker 3: of the wall. There are orientations you have, but nothing
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: has triggered it yet. It is possible that you are
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: a kind of woman that can look at your husband and.
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: Say he's a bastard because you heard it.
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: But nothing has triggered it yet because shawarma is still
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: sweet and ice cream is still cold. And you can
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: be a kind of man that your wife will do
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: something and watch her sleep at night and remove the duvet.
• 36:38
  Speaker 3: And say, I'm the one you were talking to in
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: the afternoon. You Somebody can carry that orientation and yet
• 36:56
  Speaker 3: the person is good looking.
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: Now, please sit down. Thank you so much. So the
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: issue with what.
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: We see is the challenge of the possibilities it communicates.
• 37:13
  Speaker 3: So sometimes when we need to detoxify our lives, our
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: mind from those things, we're actually saying, I have seen
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: things I ought not to see. Although I ate it,
• 37:25
  Speaker 3: the fact that I've seen it has shown me that
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: it is possible. I need the word of God to
• 37:30
  Speaker 3: remove the tendencies from my subconscious. And I will have
• 37:38
  Speaker 3: to eat that word till there is no muscle in
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: my hand that can rise up to slap a woman,
• 37:45
  Speaker 3: although I've seen it. I will have to eat that
• 37:51
  Speaker 3: word till there's no iota of strength in me that
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: can call my wife a fool, although I have seen it.
• 37:59
  Speaker 3: I will have to eat that word till there's no
• 38:02
  Speaker 3: iota of strength in me as a woman that can
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: look at my husband and say, you useless man, although
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: I have seen it. We eat the word till the
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: word neutralizes wrong establishments. Let me show you what the
• 38:15
  Speaker 3: Bible says about that. 2 Corinthians chapter number 10. 2
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: Corinthians chapter number 10, we start the reading from verse 4.
• 38:27
  Speaker 3: 2 Corinthians chapter number 10, we start it. So, for
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: the weapon of our warfare, not canal, but mighty true God,
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: for the pulling down of what?
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: Strongholds. Strongholds are body of thought.
• 38:41
  Speaker 3: Body of thought, reasoning, kinds of reasoning that has been
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: communicated to us. I'm trying to see if I can
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: show you another rendition, if they can project TPT. So
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: there are thoughts that people have that is now a stronghold.
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: Do you know you may honestly not know how to
• 39:08
  Speaker 3: treat a woman and is a stronghold? You may honestly
• 39:12
  Speaker 3: not know how to treat a man and is a stronghold.
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: You may honestly not know how to be joyful and
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: is a stronghold. You may have thoughts about how to
• 39:31
  Speaker 3: silence a woman when she's growing wings, in quotes now,
• 39:36
  Speaker 3: and those thoughts have become strongholds. You may also have
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: thoughts on how to put your husband under. Because the
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: kind of women now, we are the boss ladies, and
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: that thought is a stronghold. You may dance on your
• 39:51
  Speaker 3: wedding day till the strongholds begin to show up. When
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: you look at people, they are not their makeup.
• 39:59
  Speaker 2: No. When you look at people, they are not the
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: suits they wear.
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: No.
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: They are not the caftans they wear. No.
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: They are not the colorful lipsticks or the well-trimmed hair
• 40:10
  Speaker 3: and beards.
• 40:10
  Speaker 2: No.
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: People are their orientation. It is the orientation people have
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: that makes them. That is what determines the way they
• 40:24
  Speaker 3: respond to life, the way they perceive life, the way
• 40:27
  Speaker 3: they perceive issues. When you are in a relationship with
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: a person, be patient enough to know their orientation. And
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: I'm saying, when you start touching, you won't know it.
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: A person can be sweet, but yet coerced.
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: And sharp and bad.
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: And you have to know it. You have to be smart.
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: You have to be intelligent. You have to embrace the
• 40:56
  Speaker 3: situation that shows you how this person can react. You
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: have to listen when they talk. Don't just be, oh
• 41:03
  Speaker 3: my God.
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: Any small thing. That's deep. That's deep. What's deep?
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: Nowadays, before you marry a person, check their social media.
• 41:25
  Speaker 3: The people they are dragging there, it's a matter of time.
• 41:28
  Speaker 3: They will drag you and drag your dad.
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: I tell you. No, check. No, no, no. He just
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: gives them the peace of his mind when he's angry.
• 41:41
  Speaker 3: The peace of his mind. I like them young, free
• 41:45
  Speaker 3: and wild. I like people who are outspoken.
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: Be outspoken. But don't be rude. I'm a Christian. I
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: don't take nonsense. I curse anybody, Papa. We give them
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: hot hot. Oh God. No, you have to check. How
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: do you think? How do you talk? What can you
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: say to me when you are not happy with me?
• 42:22
  Speaker 3: What can you do to me? Can you slap me?
• 42:26
  Speaker 3: And you don't know the answer by asking, can you
• 42:29
  Speaker 3: slap me?
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: What will he say? I can never slap you.
• 42:33
  Speaker 3: Me, slap you. I'm here to defend you. But does
• 42:36
  Speaker 3: he slap his sisters? Does he slap those who offend him?
• 42:40
  Speaker 3: It's just a matter of time before you are in
• 42:41
  Speaker 3: their shoes. The elders have a saying that the whip
• 42:45
  Speaker 3: they use to flog the first wife is in the
• 42:47
  Speaker 3: roof for the second wife Let me get him now.
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: I finally won him. I won him over. But the ex,
• 43:02
  Speaker 3: many bruises on her face. He will beat her blue
• 43:05
  Speaker 3: and black. Say he loved me more than he loved her.
• 43:07
  Speaker 3: He never really loved the girl. He really loved the girl.
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: But he loves me. I'm the favorite one. Wow. Integrity
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: is not selective character. Listen to what I'm saying.
• 43:29
  Speaker 3: The word integrity is taken from a mathematical root from
• 43:32
  Speaker 3: the word integer.
• 43:34
  Speaker 2: It is the quality of being a constant. Integer. Seen
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: or not seen. Integer. Angry or not angry. This is
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: your frame stand.
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: I bet you the sweet angel you want to marry
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: will provoke you more than anybody.
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: In the world. The defensive guy. The one I just
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: love the way he trims his beards. My God. My God.
• 44:03
  Speaker 3: There is a way he will talk to you and
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: you are not seeing that beard. What you are seeing
• 44:06
  Speaker 3: is a beast. That beard will be irritating you.
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: You are provoked. What can you do when you are hungry?
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: How far can you go? Have you dealt with the
• 44:20
  Speaker 3: anger issues? Have you dealt with the tendencies? You break plates.
• 44:30
  Speaker 3: You can smash the TV.
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: You can smash the TV. You don't know when you
• 44:35
  Speaker 2: get angry and start using F words. You use it
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: at will. You don't have boundary.
• 44:42
  Speaker 3: Once that thing is there, you are shaking. You are
• 44:46
  Speaker 3: looking for something. Although you have not broken anything on
• 44:49
  Speaker 3: his head yet, but you are shaking. When anybody look
• 44:53
  Speaker 3: at you, it's like something is manifesting that wants to
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: come out. You say, I'm just holding it. What about
• 44:58
  Speaker 3: the day you will not be able to hold it?
• 45:00
  Speaker 3: Why don't you deal with the beast before he tears you?
• 45:14
  Speaker 3: And I've asked you to ask, if anybody should marry
• 45:17
  Speaker 3: you now, is the person judged or favored?
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: Go to school campuses. The cleaners that clean the toilet,
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: every morning there are always raining courses.
• 45:37
  Speaker 3: The child that went to use this toilet, it shall
• 45:40
  Speaker 3: not be well received. I don't know if you came
• 45:42
  Speaker 3: from such school. Some of you went to, oh my.
• 45:48
  Speaker 3: Go to boys hostel, the cleaner is, all of you here,
• 45:53
  Speaker 3: it shall not be. I thought it was just boys hostel.
• 45:57
  Speaker 3: We went for evangelism in girls hostel.
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: All of you girls here, you will not see your husband.
• 46:07
  Speaker 2: The same people that will use the toilet and not
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: flush when they dress finish. When they dress finish. When
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: the boys put the perfume. You don't even rub and shine.
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: You are your orientation. You are your orientation. Say, you know,
• 46:38
  Speaker 3: I'm a clean guy. It's just this boxers thing.
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 46:45
  Speaker 3: I just can't help it. You say, my God, I
• 46:50
  Speaker 3: can't believe what I'm seeing in my husband. You won't believe,
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: even at our wedding night, I went to pick his
• 46:54
  Speaker 3: shoe and socks from the toilet.
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: My God, is this what I'm... You have started. You
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: are your orientation. Who am I?
• 47:12
  Speaker 3: If I should marry me, you know, you don't even
• 47:14
  Speaker 3: have to marry somebody else to have a bad home.
• 47:17
  Speaker 3: If I marry me, will I have a good home? No,
• 47:20
  Speaker 3: you ask the question, if I marry me, will I
• 47:24
  Speaker 3: have a good home? Now, a lady was getting married.
• 47:31
  Speaker 3: And they told the father of the girl that it's
• 47:35
  Speaker 3: time to come and pray for the bride.
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: He said, I shall read more to you. I shall
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: do a lot of work.
• 47:48
  Speaker 3: Let me tell you what he said. He said, I
• 47:53
  Speaker 3: saw that I sat down. I didn't speak to his mother.
• 47:55
  Speaker 3: I know that the marriage I've come to do today
• 47:57
  Speaker 3: is not going anywhere. He said, see, this is the
• 48:01
  Speaker 3: key of our room. I know, like I know my name,
• 48:04
  Speaker 3: she's coming back. Just so that it doesn't look like
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  Speaker 3: I didn't tell you.
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: This is me, her father. But since you have asked
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: me to pray, I bless this union. I bless you.
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  Speaker 2: Go in peace.
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  Speaker 3: Let me tell you what the father did. The father
• 48:18
  Speaker 3: knew his daughter. Every time that thing enters her and
• 48:24
  Speaker 3: she wants to react, she remembers.
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  Speaker 2: They are waiting for me at home. They will laugh.
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: She calms down.
• 48:30
  Speaker 3: Sometimes you need people who know that your home may
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  Speaker 3: not work for your head to be correct. As you
• 48:38
  Speaker 3: are getting married, you already predicted three years.
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: You want to react.
• 48:43
  Speaker 3: They are waiting for me to come back with Shembo.
• 48:46
  Speaker 3: In the name of Jesus Christ, you will not see shame.
• 48:52
  Speaker 3: Foundation is everything. We began thinking about the root of bitterness,
• 48:58
  Speaker 3: saw the biblical description of the man Absalom. The Bible
• 49:02
  Speaker 3: said from head to toe, he was clean. There was
• 49:07
  Speaker 3: none like him in the whole Jerusalem. But yet he
• 49:11
  Speaker 3: was a man that could keep matters for two years
• 49:14
  Speaker 3: and kill somebody.
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: Who am I marrying? Don't accept societal pressure as a
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: yardstick not to vet the fellow you want to do
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: the rest of your life with. It doesn't matter how
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: you feel singleness is hurting. Ah, another Saturday now, I'll
• 49:36
  Speaker 2: never get married. See, there are many Saturdays though. And
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: your own will come.
• 49:41
  Speaker 3: But may it not be that it is one of
• 49:43
  Speaker 3: those Saturdays you have chosen to marry a fool. There
• 49:47
  Speaker 3: are many Saturdays. And it's not just Saturdays. People are
• 49:50
  Speaker 3: getting married on Mondays, on Tuesdays, on Wednesdays. If we
• 49:54
  Speaker 3: don't want to invite people, put it on Monday morning. Say, Apostle,
• 50:02
  Speaker 3: will you join us?
• 50:03
  Speaker 2: Right away. Monday morning.
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  Speaker 6: Yes.
• 50:08
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 50:10
  Speaker 3: But you see, the pressure on people is so strong
• 50:18
  Speaker 3: that you can be successful and feel you are a
• 50:20
  Speaker 3: failure because you have not been validated by marriage.
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: Who am I marrying? Who am I?
• 50:34
  Speaker 3: What are my beliefs about marriage? What Who is a man?
• 50:42
  Speaker 3: And how do I think a man is to be treated?
• 50:45
  Speaker 3: How do I think a woman is to be treated?
• 50:50
  Speaker 3: How do I think a woman is to be loved?
• 50:54
  Speaker 3: How do I think a man is to be honored?
• 50:57
  Speaker 3: What's my perspective about dealing with in-laws? How about dealing
• 51:01
  Speaker 3: with people that want to live with us? What's my
• 51:04
  Speaker 3: perspective about conflict resolutions? What's my perspective about anger and recovery?
• 51:14
  Speaker 3: What's my perspective about the subject of forgiveness and restoration
• 51:18
  Speaker 3: of affection? What's my perspective about the word of God
• 51:23
  Speaker 3: as the foundation of our home? What's my perspective about
• 51:27
  Speaker 3: family altar? What's my perspective about parenting? What do I
• 51:31
  Speaker 3: think about those things? Because the both of us are
• 51:35
  Speaker 3: coming together and these are the ideologies that will form
• 51:38
  Speaker 3: the background of our homes. Are you following what I'm
• 51:42
  Speaker 3: saying here? What do I think about family finance? Should
• 51:46
  Speaker 3: we discuss it? Don't say, no, no, no, no, no.
• 51:50
  Speaker 3: We have all that pertains to life and godliness. No,
• 51:52
  Speaker 3: discuss about it. How much are you earning? It's not
• 51:56
  Speaker 3: the wrong question. I said it's not the wrong question.
• 51:59
  Speaker 3: How much are you earning? How much am I earning?
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: Am I ready to work? What's my perspective?
• 52:05
  Speaker 3: What do you want to do? Do you want to
• 52:07
  Speaker 3: be a full housewife or do you want to work?
• 52:10
  Speaker 3: Do I have what it takes to permit full housewife?
• 52:14
  Speaker 3: Or I will be irritated and I need you to work.
• 52:18
  Speaker 3: What's my perspective about inter-tribal marriage? Can I handle it?
• 52:22
  Speaker 3: Can I handle conflicting cultural differences? Can I handle being
• 52:27
  Speaker 3: a Yoruba man and my in-laws are Hausa's or Igbo's?
• 52:31
  Speaker 3: Can I handle having my children as a man from
• 52:34
  Speaker 3: Ogun State, having their uncles in Mbise, or.
• 52:38
  Speaker 2: In River State now? Give me a name now. Sapele?
• 52:45
  Speaker 2: In Wari?
• 52:47
  Speaker 3: Can I handle it? No, be honest with yourself. I
• 52:53
  Speaker 3: love you so much with the love of Christ. Hope
• 52:55
  Speaker 3: you know that is agape.
• 52:58
  Speaker 5: Hey.
• 53:00
  Speaker 2: What's my perspective about size? You don't think it's something
• 53:06
  Speaker 2: to think about? No, no, it is not giving up.
• 53:12
  Speaker 2: I just take it. That's my dealing.
• 53:15
  Speaker 3: I pledge allegiance to the Lamb with all my life.
• 53:20
  Speaker 3: You need allegiance to marry this one. And nobody says
• 53:24
  Speaker 3: something is wrong already. You see, we lie and we
• 53:29
  Speaker 3: deceive ourselves. We remove the place of attraction.
• 53:37
  Speaker 2: I'm attracted to my wife. And I've never been attracted
• 53:40
  Speaker 2: to another. My wife.
• 53:44
  Speaker 3: Look at the number of beautiful people I'm pastoring. I'm
• 53:47
  Speaker 3: now trying to manage my wife. I can't even stand
• 53:50
  Speaker 3: her presence. That's why they die small, small.
• 53:55
  Speaker 2: It calls for discussion. Question. Can I stand a woman
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: with tribal mark? Can I stand a man with... No. Oh.
• 54:15
  Speaker 4: Yes. Yes.
• 54:18
  Speaker 3: Ask yourself. And your answer be true. So that you
• 54:23
  Speaker 3: don't go finish until they force you.
• 54:24
  Speaker 2: Uh-huh.
• 54:26
  Speaker 3: On the way, we ask, do you of your own
• 54:28
  Speaker 3: free will take this woman as your lawful wedded of
• 54:32
  Speaker 3: your own free will?
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: Your own free will. That thing is there. Do you
• 54:41
  Speaker 2: of your own free will?
• 54:45
  Speaker 3: Now say, actually, no, no, no. You answered that you
• 54:49
  Speaker 3: did of your own free will. We must understand that
• 54:55
  Speaker 3: godliness with contentment is great gain.
• 55:00
  Speaker 2: It's great gain. My wife used glasses. I actually don't mind.
• 55:13
  Speaker 2: It's fine.
• 55:16
  Speaker 3: You understand what I'm saying? If she buy the frame.
• 55:20
  Speaker 3: If I see that I don't really like the frame,
• 55:22
  Speaker 3: I say talk. What's up with this friend now? What's
• 55:25
  Speaker 3: going on?
• 55:25
  Speaker 2: I ask. She buys a dress and says, oh, babe,
• 55:32
  Speaker 2: do you like this? I validate your feelings. But... I
• 55:46
  Speaker 2: validate your feelings, but....
• 55:57
  Speaker 3: How do we lay the foundation of a functional family?
• 56:04
  Speaker 3: Number one, are we practicing Christians? Are we practicing Christians?
• 56:15
  Speaker 3: You can't jump Christ and have a good home.
• 56:19
  Speaker 4: No.
• 56:20
  Speaker 2: No. You can't jump Christ. Let's just jump this Christianity thing.
• 56:24
  Speaker 2: Now you are like....
• 56:26
  Speaker 3: I'm not really the Jesus type. Who then is in
• 56:31
  Speaker 3: charge of your home? Whose school of thought are you
• 56:35
  Speaker 3: using to build? Are we Christians? If you start a
• 56:41
  Speaker 3: relationship with a person and forget to know if the
• 56:44
  Speaker 3: person is born again or not, it's because that's not
• 56:46
  Speaker 3: your value. That's not your core value. You are not
• 56:52
  Speaker 3: even interested in that. Don't ever get to the point.
• 56:55
  Speaker 2: Of anything goes. Is he a man? Give it to me.
• 57:01
  Speaker 2: A girl, she wears a skirt, give me. No. Are
• 57:06
  Speaker 2: we Christians? Do we love God?
• 57:10
  Speaker 3: Is he the kind of man I can go to
• 57:13
  Speaker 3: church with and sit down and learn? Not go to church,
• 57:16
  Speaker 3: they'll be pinching and say, see what pastor is saying
• 57:17
  Speaker 3: about you.
• 57:22
  Speaker 2: Not pinching, see your life, see your life. Is he alive?
• 57:25
  Speaker 2: I'm going to tell you. Or as I'm teaching, text
• 57:27
  Speaker 2: the man or text the wife. I say, join Apostle
• 57:30
  Speaker 2: Lazarus now. Join Apostle Lazarus now.
• 57:43
  Speaker 3: But that when we sit down to read the word,
• 57:47
  Speaker 3: I can see that, ah, I have not treated you
• 57:49
  Speaker 3: the way the Bible says to treat my husband.
• 57:51
  Speaker 2: I apologize. I apologize. What are our core values? We
• 58:04
  Speaker 2: are trying to make Christianity and Christian principles look like
• 58:07
  Speaker 2: old school.
• 58:09
  Speaker 3: Like things that doesn't really matter in this woke generation.
• 58:12
  Speaker 3: It has mattered for the past 2,000 years. It will
• 58:15
  Speaker 3: matter till Jesus comes. The world with all their intelligence
• 58:19
  Speaker 3: and wisdom will come back to learn the way of
• 58:22
  Speaker 3: the cross. They will fail in their wisdom. They will
• 58:26
  Speaker 3: fail in their smartness. And many of the things that
• 58:29
  Speaker 3: they are doing will fail. But this is my counsel
• 58:31
  Speaker 3: to you. Your orientation should not be built by the media.
• 58:35
  Speaker 3: We should go back to sit with the word. I
• 58:37
  Speaker 3: have chosen. Are you aware now it is almost becoming
• 58:40
  Speaker 3: a cake if a woman takes the wedding vow and say,
• 58:44
  Speaker 3: I will honor you.
• 58:45
  Speaker 2: And I say, you will what? Honor you. Say, to
• 58:47
  Speaker 2: love and to honor. Say, oh, what? Love and oh, what?
• 58:50
  Speaker 6: Honor.
• 58:51
  Speaker 3: And if you see a woman saying, I will love
• 58:54
  Speaker 3: you as my head, I will honor you and submit
• 58:57
  Speaker 3: to you. They say, no, no, look at her. She's
• 58:59
  Speaker 3: a foolish woman. But the foolish woman has a good home.
• 59:10
  Speaker 3: We have the bandwagon effect. The bandwagon effect. You know,
• 59:14
  Speaker 3: when I proposed to my wife and I said, will
• 59:16
  Speaker 3: you marry me?
• 59:20
  Speaker 2: She was. Yeah, she said yes. Of course. That's why
• 59:25
  Speaker 2: we are here.
• 59:27
  Speaker 3: I knelt down to propose. That's what I've seen people do. So,
• 59:33
  Speaker 3: I did it. It didn't reduce me. My height didn't reduce.
• 59:36
  Speaker 3: My complexion didn't change.
• 59:38
  Speaker 2: It's fantastic. I like it. It's my business. And my wife,
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: for reasons best known to her, also knelt down and
• 59:45
  Speaker 2: said yes. Somebody went to the comment section and said,
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: what nonsense. You are disgracing womanhood. Not your wife. Not
• 59:53
  Speaker 2: you I propose to.
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 3: We must not allow popular opinion change our perspective about
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 3: what the Bible says.
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 2: We must not. This is where we pick our orientations from.
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 2: The Word.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 3: As a family, we come to church for Bible study.
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 3: If the Word addresses us, we go back home and
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 3: apologize to each other and say, I love you more.
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 3: We will not bottle issues in our hearts and be
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 3: looking for a way to bolt out on each other.
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 6: No.
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 3: I chose you from the very beginning. We will fight
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 3: this through. Are you seeing that now? We will fight
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 3: it through. Are there exceptions to that?
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 2: Yes. When we get to that bridge, we will cross it.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 2: But is this person a born again Christian? Yes. Does
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 2: he beat you?
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 1: No.
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 2: Has he left God?
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 6: No.
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 2: Does he provide?
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 2: Support each other.
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 3: Sometimes you have to start praying that I choose to
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 3: be a blessing to whomsoever I marry. I will love
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 3: you with the love of Christ and even with my emotions.
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 3: I will be a blessing to you. I will do
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 3: you good all the days of your life. You are
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 3: praying that prayer for yourself and your spouse. I am
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 3: a blessing to whosoever fight me in the name of Jesus.
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 3: I am not a painful spouse.
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 5: No.
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 2: I will love my spouse with the love of Christ.
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 3: I will be humble. I will be patient. I will
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 3: endure with my spouse. These are confessions we'll make. Marriage
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 3: really in itself, nothing is more humbling than marriage marriage
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 3: is humbling it will humble you it humbles me I
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 3: wish I can look at my wife sometimes and say
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 3: take it now and she sleeps off but this one
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 3: you can't this one will not take you, see what
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 3: I say see what I say, take what Sit down,
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 3: let's talk.
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 2: That's the person that can tell me. You need to
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 2: put your phone aside, let's talk.
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 4: Alright.
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 3: I can't say, what did you say? I wasn't trained
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 3: to talk like that. You dare to tell me to
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 3: sit down? Do you know who I am? Well, if
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 3: you have to announce who you are, you are not.
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 3: I made up my mind before I got married. I
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 3: don't have what it takes to slap my wife.
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 2: I don't. I don't have the energy. May that day
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 2: never come.
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 3: I don't have what it takes. I don't have what
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 3: it takes. I don't have what it takes. You must
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 3: inform yourself again and again that we are going to
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 3: do it the Bible way. The Bible way. That's the foundation.
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 3: That's the sure foundation. Wise man is the man that
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 3: builds his house on the rock. It's more, it might
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 3: be painful initially, they may mock you and call you
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 3: a fool.
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 2: The Bible way.
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 6: The Bible way. The Bible way. The Bible way. Don't
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 6: let people whose life.
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 3: Is bitter give you perspectives. You are the one that
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 3: know where you are coming from. Protect your heart. Any
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 3: orientation you want to take, check those who have run
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 3: with it, where did they usually end? Every orientation has products.
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 3: If I read the Bible way, where are the products?
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 2: If I do it the Bible way, I will feel
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 2: cheated sometimes.
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 2: Yes. If I do it the Bible way, I will
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 2: feel cheated sometimes. Yes. If I do it the Bible way,
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 2: I will look like a fool sometimes. Yes.
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 3: No, I need to tell you that when you do
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 3: marriage the Bible way, there are many times you look
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 3: like a fool. Because you know what you can do,
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 3: even though for Christ. But meekness is power under control.
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 3: Never let anybody tell you that the Bible way will
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 3: not come with it. No, it will come with some things.
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 3: You have options.
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 2: But you can't exploit. That's the Bible way.
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 4: Oh yes.
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 3: That's the Bible way. I will not always look right.
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 3: Lift up your right hand again. Say I choose to
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 3: do it the Bible way.
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 2: Say it again. I choose to do it the Bible way.
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 3: So the standard that God has given to us for
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 3: building a godly home It's not people's opinion, neither is
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 3: it people's pain.
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 2: It is the word. It is the word.
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 3: You cannot separate solid Christian values from the foundation of
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 3: your home. A true child of God can't lie. Did
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 3: you do it?
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 2: Yes. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. A true child of God
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 2: is faithful. That's part of the fruit of the Spirit.
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 2: I love you. You will never meet me texting another person.
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 5: No.
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 2: I choose not to. Not because I can't do it
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 2: and hide it. I choose not to because I fear God.
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 2: This marriage is not you and I. It is you
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 2: and me with Christ in our midst. I will never
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 2: go back to my ex and talk to my ex
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 2: about my wife that I miss you.
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 5: No.
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 2: Is it possible for there to be things I miss
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 2: in my ex? Maybe.
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 3: But because I fear God, I protect the woman I marry.
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 3: I will never go to my family members and watch
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 3: my husband before them.
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 6: No.
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 3: Is it because he's not doing things that you watch
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 3: my husband?
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 2: No, he is. but I choose to honor him and
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 2: protect him. These are things we can settle in our
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 2: own home. I choose to do it the Bible way.
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 3: And when you do it the Bible way, people can
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 3: take you for granted.
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 2: But you have chosen to honor God.
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 3: When the wife of Potiphar said to Joseph, come lie
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 3: with me, he said, how shall I do these things
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 3: and sin against God?
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 2: How shall I.
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 3: The purity test that you fail in your single days,
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 3: you will have to rewrite the exam as a married person.
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 4: Oh, yes.
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 3: Speak in tongues from now till tomorrow. There is a
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 3: place called self-control. You will pass the test. And our
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 3: Christianity is meaningless if we can't pass sexual tests. What
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 3: is the Christianity we are running up and down with
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 3: sexual perversions?
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 2: Huh?
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 3: Several girls are wondering and say, look at the things
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 3: he's teaching. If only they know he's a predator. But
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 3: Jews less pastor.
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 2: Huh? What's our Christianity? What's our Christianity? These are the
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 2: basic test. Love of mammon. Dealing with it. The lost
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 2: of the flesh. Pride of life. Basic things.
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 3: But it's not enough to come and hold the mic
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 3: and vibrating, can I hold myself before the opposite sex?
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 3: Not because my wife will see it, but because I
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 3: fear God. We must go back to holding the tenet
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 3: of purity. Learn to forgive. You two that are forgiving,
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 3: why are you repeating the same thing every time? Imagine
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 3: that it is possible to be preaching in church like this.
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 3: And many girls are seated. who have seen the nakedness
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 3: of the pastor. And they're just looking at him and say,
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 3: it's not that deep. The depth of wisdom is not
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 3: in speech, but in a life demonstrated like Christ. That's
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 3: the depth of wisdom. Show me you are a wise man,
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 3: not by the things you say, but by the quality
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 3: of life that you live. Are you following what I'm
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 3: saying here?
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 2: We fear God.
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 3: Say it again, I fear God. Say it again loud
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 3: and clear, I choose to fear God. I choose to
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 3: honor God with my life. I choose to honor God
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 3: with everything. I choose to honor God with my body.
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 3: Say it again, I choose to honor God with my body.
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 3: That means that we are in a relationship, I know
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  Speaker 3: we will marry, but I.
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  Speaker 2: Choose to hold on.
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  Speaker 3: It's like we no longer talk about those things again.
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 3: What kind of Bible study do you come to and
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 3: go back living couples life and you are not married?
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 3: And you are not feeling it. What kind of Bible
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 3: study is that? Nothing pricks your heart. Nothing tells you
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 3: it is wrong. Say, I have accommodation issue.
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 2: Nah, lie. If you have accommodation issue, let another sister
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 2: host you or another brother. True or not true? Talk
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 2: to me now. True or not true?
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 3: Because when you finish taking the honey, the moon becomes boring.
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 3: People start beating themselves wedding night. There's nothing to honor.
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 3: The person you partner with in defiling your body, you
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 3: are now demanding for what you get when you don't
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 3: defile your body from the same person.
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 5: Wrong.
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 2: Wrong.
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 5: Wrong.
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  Speaker 2: Am I saying that as an ex you are going
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 2: to maltreat each other? No.
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 3: But we are saying that both people who don't like
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 3: trouble should choose to honor God from the scratch. This
• 1:11:11
  Speaker 3: is the foundation. Are you following what I'm saying here?
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 3: That I will not go and touch a woman that
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 3: is not my wife. This is the foundation. We must
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 3: tell ourselves this truth. You know, whether we are in
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 3: Canada or United States, you know it's a very cold place.
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 3: In this place, you need people to help you keep warm.
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 3: My sister, on stove. On your gas cooker, whatever it
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 3: is you use there, on it. If you don't find something,
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 3: get firewood, my friend. The Bible says it is better
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 3: to marry than to what?
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  Speaker 2: To burn. The thing they hold you. You're too married now.
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  Speaker 2: Praise God.
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 3: This is the foundation. If there was a generation that
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 3: bated pain, this is what was missed. I'm saying that
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 3: you have no.
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  Speaker 2: Right to castigate anybody if you are not preparing to
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 2: do better. You have no right. Be sure your children
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 2: will not hate you more than you hate them. Be sure.
• 1:12:17
  Speaker 2: You never can be sure.
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 3: Be sure your children will not be broken by you
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 3: more than you were broken by them.
• 1:12:25
  Speaker 2: Be sure.
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  Speaker 3: This thing comes with sacrifices. You cannot expect privileges without
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 3: making sacrifice. What are you willing to do differently? I
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 3: shared a story of a man that went to a
• 1:12:38
  Speaker 3: restaurant to eat and they said to him, in this restaurant,
• 1:12:41
  Speaker 3: any food you eat here, your father already paid, so
• 1:12:44
  Speaker 3: you don't pay.
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 2: I said, really? He said, yes. Your father paid, you
• 1:12:48
  Speaker 2: don't pay.
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  Speaker 5: Really?
• 1:12:49
  Speaker 2: He said, yes. He ate.
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 3: He ate in a way that, you know there's a
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 3: way you eat in a restaurant, they come and tell you,
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 3: please don't come tomorrow.
• 1:12:59
  Speaker 2: That was the way he ate. By the time he
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 2: was done, he said, ah, thank you. May God bless
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 2: you guys and all that.
• 1:13:06
  Speaker 3: And he was about to leave. And they called him back.
• 1:13:09
  Speaker 3: What you just ate, your father paid for it. What
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 3: will your own son eat? Don't just expect privileges without what?
• 1:13:21
  Speaker 2: Sacrifices.
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 3: The people you are angry at for the kind of
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 3: family they gave you, there are children in your loins
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 3: also who we don't know what they will feel about you.
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 3: Communicate that anger into thinking differently. Communicate that anger into
• 1:13:39
  Speaker 3: doing differently. Communicate that anger into changing your own orientation.
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 3: Use your anger well.
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 6: Don't just use the anger to be bitter and battered
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 6: and broken.
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 2: And because of that, you're already creating another dysfunctionality. I
• 1:13:57
  Speaker 2: have pains, but I know where I channel them to.
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 3: I sat down to calculate family history from what I
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 3: see here. At what age did this person do that?
• 1:14:08
  Speaker 3: At what age did this person do that? When I
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 3: crossed that age and I didn't make that mistake, I
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 3: celebrate that birthday. That's my only thing for celebrating birthdays.
• 1:14:16
  Speaker 2: It is history. I check. This is what I see.
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 2: At what age was this made?
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 1: This.
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 2: At what age was this made?
• 1:14:21
  Speaker 5: This.
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 2: At what age is this?
• 1:14:23
  Speaker 3: If I have no right, I must pass that age
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 3: and refuse to do it. That is when my life
• 1:14:29
  Speaker 3: at that season is worth celebrating.
• 1:14:34
  Speaker 2: I don't like my dad. He has several wives. He
• 1:14:36
  Speaker 2: has several this. He has several.
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 3: You too now, you are not married. But you know
• 1:14:41
  Speaker 3: how to manage four girls. You're a low budget version
• 1:14:46
  Speaker 3: of him. I don't like my mother. She's not sacrificial.
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 3: She didn't make the sacrifice for us. She abandoned us.
• 1:14:59
  Speaker 2: Do you know what sacrifice means? Sacrifice is painful. Sacrifice
• 1:15:06
  Speaker 2: comes at a cost. It comes at a cost. It
• 1:15:12
  Speaker 2: is painful. It is painful.
• 1:15:17
  Speaker 3: The sacrifice of choosing to be the kind of man
• 1:15:21
  Speaker 3: that my children will say, my daughters will say, I
• 1:15:24
  Speaker 3: want to marry a man.
• 1:15:24
  Speaker 2: Like my dad.
• 1:15:25
  Speaker 3: The sacrifice to be like that will be a sacrifice
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  Speaker 3: that will make me see people that are fine.
• 1:15:31
  Speaker 2: And I will say, I fear God.
• 1:15:36
  Speaker 3: It is sacrifice where there will be avenues for me
• 1:15:38
  Speaker 3: to raise my voice at my wife in their presence.
• 1:15:42
  Speaker 3: And I will say, no, they must not see this.
• 1:15:45
  Speaker 3: And I'll get inside the room and say, please, we
• 1:15:47
  Speaker 3: must not do this. I may feel cheated at that point,
• 1:15:52
  Speaker 3: but you have saved the future. You cannot have your
• 1:15:55
  Speaker 3: way and say you are sacrificial. What are you two
• 1:16:00
  Speaker 3: going to bring to the table differently? Are you following
• 1:16:04
  Speaker 3: what I'm saying here? Is this simple enough? You cannot
• 1:16:10
  Speaker 3: expect privileges without making sacrifices. It takes a bad egg
• 1:16:18
  Speaker 3: to give a bad omelette. It takes a bad egg.
• 1:16:23
  Speaker 3: What kind of single am I? Now that I'm not
• 1:16:27
  Speaker 3: even married, I'm fighting myself. All my room, every roommate
• 1:16:31
  Speaker 3: we've ever had, everybody who's separated with a fight, every
• 1:16:36
  Speaker 3: roommate we've ever had.
• 1:16:39
  Speaker 2: From part one in school, even the, what's it called now?
• 1:16:44
  Speaker 2: The boarding school days. till part two, till final year.
• 1:16:48
  Speaker 3: You even went for camp meeting somewhere, they locked all
• 1:16:50
  Speaker 3: of you together, only you, there's nobody that you greet now.
• 1:16:53
  Speaker 3: You block everybody's contact. And you always say, they are
• 1:16:56
  Speaker 3: bad people, they are bad people, they are bad people.
• 1:16:58
  Speaker 3: You see, you are making those excuses. Now you are
• 1:17:01
  Speaker 3: about to say, I do, without learning the culture of peace.
• 1:17:05
  Speaker 3: Am I a peaceful person? You see, people were saying that,
• 1:17:10
  Speaker 3: how can a person say that? Women go through a lot, let.
• 1:17:14
  Speaker 2: Me tell you.
• 1:17:15
  Speaker 3: Let me tell you see let me give you the
• 1:17:18
  Speaker 3: balance it doesn't matter what the pain is you will
• 1:17:21
  Speaker 3: never as a woman go and slap a police officer
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 3: no come on let's stop this nonsense.
• 1:17:28
  Speaker 2: Let's stop this nonsense is this something that is more
• 1:17:31
  Speaker 2: than enough that people go through yes but there's something
• 1:17:35
  Speaker 2: called self-control this is the way we build families are
• 1:17:40
  Speaker 2: you following what i'm saying here you are quiet this
• 1:17:43
  Speaker 2: is the way we build what families There is no
• 1:17:48
  Speaker 2: amount of pain I will feel. I will look at
• 1:17:50
  Speaker 2: my husband and say, you are a bastard. I say,
• 1:17:51
  Speaker 2: what is the problem? He says, I am having cramps.
• 1:17:52
  Speaker 2: I say, no.
• 1:17:55
  Speaker 4: No, no.
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  Speaker 2: Drag me from now till a billion years. No.
• 1:18:01
  Speaker 5: No.
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  Speaker 2: I am a man.
• 1:18:03
  Speaker 3: I am frustrated. Because I am frustrated, you need to
• 1:18:05
  Speaker 3: know what men go through. It is not easy also.
• 1:18:07
  Speaker 3: I look at my wife and I tear her down.
• 1:18:09
  Speaker 2: No.
• 1:18:09
  Speaker 3: No. You don't use excuse of emotions to validate what
• 1:18:17
  Speaker 3: is wrong.
• 1:18:18
  Speaker 2: You can't say the wife of Job was right because
• 1:18:20
  Speaker 2: she was a woman. No. You don't curse God. No.
• 1:18:27
  Speaker 5: No.
• 1:18:30
  Speaker 2: That's scriptures.
• 1:18:32
  Speaker 3: There's nothing we humanly feel that should take us away from.
• 1:18:35
  Speaker 2: What the Bible says we should do. That's scripture. Let
• 1:18:39
  Speaker 2: me show you a few scriptures. Turn your Bibles with me.
• 1:18:45
  Speaker 3: You see, the subtle adjustment to excuse fault characters, it
• 1:18:51
  Speaker 3: will come back to haunt.
• 1:18:52
  Speaker 2: The society in a bad way.
• 1:18:55
  Speaker 3: The things we're excusing, the things we're excusing, the things
• 1:18:59
  Speaker 3: we're excusing. You say, man, he just likes to behave
• 1:19:02
  Speaker 3: like a woman.
• 1:19:03
  Speaker 2: Leave him like that. That is what he has chosen.
• 1:19:05
  Speaker 2: My God. My God. He says, no, no, that is
• 1:19:13
  Speaker 2: the way he wants to do his own Christianity. Is
• 1:19:15
  Speaker 2: he going to make heaven? Yes. So allow him. Are
• 1:19:23
  Speaker 2: you aware that it's becoming more popular now?
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 3: The devil is after the testes of the guys. Very
• 1:19:30
  Speaker 3: soon now you see them, everybody, butt implant. You know,
• 1:19:37
  Speaker 3: in this generation now, your ex-boyfriend can become somebody else's wife.
• 1:19:44
  Speaker 2: Your ex-boyfriend. Your ex-boyfriend. Somebody else's wife. Your ex-boyfriend. You
• 1:19:54
  Speaker 2: don't even know how to say, but that was mine.
• 1:19:58
  Speaker 2: Wait a minute. You don't understand. How do you deal.
• 1:20:12
  Speaker 3: With the issue when you find out that your husband
• 1:20:17
  Speaker 3: is cheating on you, but not with a woman.
• 1:20:23
  Speaker 2: No, wait, you see, why are you laughing?
• 1:20:27
  Speaker 3: How do you deal with the knowledge as a child
• 1:20:31
  Speaker 3: that your dad is cheating on your mom with a
• 1:20:32
  Speaker 3: fellow man? How do you deal with the knowledge as
• 1:20:37
  Speaker 3: a child that your dad, your mom is cheating on
• 1:20:41
  Speaker 3: your dad, not with.
• 1:20:42
  Speaker 2: A woman, not with a man? with another woman.
• 1:20:46
  Speaker 3: This and many more are the questions the next generations
• 1:20:50
  Speaker 3: will have. Who are the pastors that will pastor them?
• 1:20:54
  Speaker 3: Are they being equipped for it? Think about it right now.
• 1:21:10
  Speaker 3: You saw a message on your husband's phone. I love you.
• 1:21:14
  Speaker 3: I can't wait to have you. And you are shocked
• 1:21:17
  Speaker 3: from a fellow man. That a person is cheating is bad.
• 1:21:24
  Speaker 3: That one is not. The pain is a pain you
• 1:21:27
  Speaker 3: can't explain. So when we are talking about the issue
• 1:21:31
  Speaker 3: of homes, this is delicate.
• 1:21:33
  Speaker 2: It's a warfare. It's a warfare.
• 1:21:48
  Speaker 3: Every time you see me standing outside, just pray in
• 1:21:50
  Speaker 3: your heart for your pastor. Because we are dealing with
• 1:21:53
  Speaker 3: the things that the devil hates. The one that is
• 1:21:59
  Speaker 3: still paining you is that your father has children outside.
• 1:22:05
  Speaker 3: What about your father dating your chemistry teacher a male?
• 1:22:15
  Speaker 2: So let people live the kind of life they want
• 1:22:17
  Speaker 2: to live. That is where it ends.
• 1:22:19
  Speaker 3: The devil starts with the small things that you have excused.
• 1:22:22
  Speaker 3: The same you who excused that will have to allow
• 1:22:24
  Speaker 3: the big things. That's the bargain. You'll have to allow
• 1:22:29
  Speaker 3: the big things.
• 1:22:35
  Speaker 5: If anyone have any idea of the work ahead of
• 1:22:41
  Speaker 5: the church, then the next conclusion you will know, you
• 1:22:44
  Speaker 5: will have, is that we are being distracted at the moment.
• 1:22:50
  Speaker 2: There is work for the church.
• 1:22:54
  Speaker 3: We don't know what is coming. You see, I understand
• 1:23:01
  Speaker 3: that you are being blessed by my teachings on trauma.
• 1:23:04
  Speaker 3: But I tell you, they will still be relevant in
• 1:23:06
  Speaker 3: another 15, 20 years, 30 years. Because that generation will
• 1:23:09
  Speaker 3: need it more. They will need it more. I can't
• 1:23:18
  Speaker 3: have my way And God has his way at the
• 1:23:20
  Speaker 3: same time.
• 1:23:21
  Speaker 6: No.
• 1:23:23
  Speaker 2: Both of us can't have our way. No. No. No. No.
• 1:23:31
  Speaker 2: I want to show you something. Ephesians chapter number 5.
• 1:23:44
  Speaker 2: From verse 20. Ephesians 5 from verse 20.
• 1:23:51
  Speaker 3: Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the
• 1:23:55
  Speaker 3: Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Submitting
• 1:24:01
  Speaker 3: yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives,
• 1:24:07
  Speaker 3: submit yourselves to your own husbands as to the Lord.
• 1:24:12
  Speaker 3: Meaning that you cannot claim to love God more than
• 1:24:14
  Speaker 3: you actually submitted in your homes. For the husband is
• 1:24:18
  Speaker 3: the head of the wife. This is Bible. Is this
• 1:24:20
  Speaker 3: the Bible? Talk to me now. Is this the Bible?
• 1:24:23
  Speaker 3: Talk to me now. Is this the Bible? If the
• 1:24:25
  Speaker 3: home will be peaceful, should there be submission?
• 1:24:27
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 1:24:29
  Speaker 3: That is the Bible. This is where we build on.
• 1:24:32
  Speaker 3: That if I'm going to marry you, I have chosen,
• 1:24:34
  Speaker 3: I will honor you. I will submit to you.
• 1:24:39
  Speaker 2: I cannot disappear from the home and say, when I return,
• 1:24:41
  Speaker 2: when you see me, you see me.
• 1:24:43
  Speaker 3: No. We can't ego build. You know, in the gym,
• 1:24:49
  Speaker 3: there's something called ego lifting. Maybe a guy has entered
• 1:24:54
  Speaker 3: the gym and he has spotted a very fine girl.
• 1:24:57
  Speaker 3: And he wants to prove to the girl that the
• 1:24:59
  Speaker 3: mantra is here. This is a guy that they still
• 1:25:03
  Speaker 3: beg to lift 40 kg. What is it called now?
• 1:25:09
  Speaker 3: The iron rod itself, I think it's about 25 kg.
• 1:25:11
  Speaker 3: They help him to put some 5 kg on the side.
• 1:25:14
  Speaker 3: We have 20 kg on the left. He lifts the thing,
• 1:25:18
  Speaker 3: the whole thing is crashing in on him. That is
• 1:25:20
  Speaker 3: what ego does. It will break the roof over your head.
• 1:25:27
  Speaker 3: Good marriage will cost us. It will cost me my ego.
• 1:25:33
  Speaker 3: Nothing goes for nothing though. It will cost me my ego.
• 1:25:36
  Speaker 3: It will cost me my appetite. Good marriage is costly.
• 1:25:40
  Speaker 3: But a bad one is more costly. We pay the
• 1:25:43
  Speaker 3: prices in two different ways. The good thing is that
• 1:25:47
  Speaker 3: if my home is good, I pay the price. But
• 1:25:50
  Speaker 3: my children don't have to. They benefit from it. If
• 1:25:53
  Speaker 3: I make it go bad, they will pay the price.
• 1:26:07
  Speaker 3: This is the Bible. For the husband is the head
• 1:26:11
  Speaker 3: of the wife, even as Christ is the head of
• 1:26:13
  Speaker 3: the church, and he is the savior of the body. Therefore,
• 1:26:18
  Speaker 3: as the church is subject to Christ, so let wives
• 1:26:21
  Speaker 3: be subject to their own husbands in everything. I appreciate
• 1:26:25
  Speaker 3: the way you honor me as a pastor, but I'm
• 1:26:28
  Speaker 3: somebody's husband.
• 1:26:29
  Speaker 2: You have your own.
• 1:26:30
  Speaker 3: I must see what validates your honor is that you
• 1:26:34
  Speaker 3: honor your husband more. When I come to visit you
• 1:26:37
  Speaker 3: at home, I don't deserve the best place.
• 1:26:39
  Speaker 5: No.
• 1:26:40
  Speaker 2: Your husband deserves it. Is that okay now?
• 1:26:43
  Speaker 3: Before you kneel down to greet a pastor, be sure
• 1:26:45
  Speaker 3: you are doing the same for your husband. If not,
• 1:26:48
  Speaker 3: you are communicating to that man that you don't deserve it,
• 1:26:50
  Speaker 3: my friend. Many men now hate the church the wife attends.
• 1:26:54
  Speaker 3: Because the woman will not stop talking about the pastor,
• 1:26:57
  Speaker 3: how that is a blessing.
• 1:26:59
  Speaker 2: You know, when my wife got married, there's one guy
• 1:27:02
  Speaker 2: she likes to listen to. I won't mention his name.
• 1:27:05
  Speaker 2: Every morning, my wife will play a song. And say,
• 1:27:09
  Speaker 2: I just like the song. I was looking at her.
• 1:27:14
  Speaker 3: Day two, you play it again. You just like the song.
• 1:27:17
  Speaker 3: Day three to play, I just like his song. I
• 1:27:20
  Speaker 3: said I will enter studio because of you.
• 1:27:21
  Speaker 2: What do you mean? Stop. Are you jealous?
• 1:27:28
  Speaker 3: I am.
• 1:27:28
  Speaker 2: I'm jealous. A fellow man like me. Play, lady, play.
• 1:27:35
  Speaker 2: We have not invited that guy to come and minister
• 1:27:37
  Speaker 2: here for that reason. What do you mean? He will
• 1:27:42
  Speaker 2: come here now. What is that? Sometimes we are having meetings,
• 1:27:50
  Speaker 2: they say Thanksgiving, let's invite him in. Don't bring that
• 1:27:53
  Speaker 2: name here. I love him from afar. Say what you
• 1:28:03
  Speaker 2: are saying is carnal. I love my carnality, it keeps
• 1:28:06
  Speaker 2: my home. Oh yes. I mean, I'm a very realistic person.
• 1:28:11
  Speaker 2: I don't deceive myself. How will you be playing a song? What?
• 1:28:16
  Speaker 2: The guy will be singing, I say I don't like
• 1:28:18
  Speaker 2: his voice. I don't, I don't, your voice is hurting my.
• 1:28:25
  Speaker 2: If she had not stopped, I would have, I'm telling you,
• 1:28:28
  Speaker 2: by now I'll be a singer.
• 1:28:32
  Speaker 3: I will be a singer. Every song, me too, I
• 1:28:34
  Speaker 3: will go and sing my own. If I sing with
• 1:28:37
  Speaker 3: the voice of a frog, it doesn't matter, I will
• 1:28:38
  Speaker 3: sing my own. You see, you must understand that when
• 1:28:43
  Speaker 3: it comes to honor, men are jealous.
• 1:28:46
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 1:28:48
  Speaker 3: So you don't want to communicate to your husband that
• 1:28:51
  Speaker 3: there's any man of God anywhere that is a blessing
• 1:28:54
  Speaker 3: to you more than he is. Sometimes the way to
• 1:28:57
  Speaker 3: even keep your home is just to hide certain things.
• 1:28:59
  Speaker 3: I'm not saying keep matters from your husband. But you
• 1:29:02
  Speaker 3: know you are being blessed. You know there is a
• 1:29:03
  Speaker 3: way you tell your husband, have you heard Apostle Lazarus?
• 1:29:05
  Speaker 3: I don't even want to hear him. I don't want
• 1:29:08
  Speaker 3: to hear Apostle Lazarus. Every time Apostle Lazarus. If you
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  Speaker 3: want him to hear it, you don't force a man now.
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  Speaker 3: Don't force a man. And sometimes you need to hear
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  Speaker 3: where he heard from. Because he's hearing the voice of
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  Speaker 3: a fellow man. Sometimes it's easier when the man is
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  Speaker 3: the one saying, have you heard this person?
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  Speaker 2: Amen. Verse 25 now. Men, are you still in the room? Husbands,
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  Speaker 2: do what? It means if you don't love your wife,
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  Speaker 2: you are not a husband.
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  Speaker 3: The word husband means a gardener, the one who nourishes
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  Speaker 3: his garden, who matures it. What a woman matures in
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  Speaker 3: is love. Are they always lovable? I bet no. If
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  Speaker 3: you call people who have been married for 20 years
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  Speaker 3: and ask them, how many of you have felt at
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  Speaker 3: one point that you married wrong?
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  Speaker 2: I can almost bet 90%. Yes. Marriage is like that.
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  Speaker 2: It's that humbling. But sometimes you say to her, I
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  Speaker 2: love you.
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  Speaker 3: What do you say? That's how you be saying. What
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  Speaker 3: you are saying now, you don't really mean it. You
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  Speaker 3: don't really mean it. When was that time you told
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  Speaker 3: me I love you? She has forgotten all the argument.
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  Speaker 3: Now what she's saying is prove it. You too, just
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  Speaker 3: kiss her now and you have proven it. Sasha, everything
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  Speaker 3: has calmed down now. The way you have saved different pictures,
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  Speaker 3: screenshots of different ladies wearing different wears.
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  Speaker 2: I hope those screenshots are for your wife. Love your wife.
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  Speaker 3: If somebody wears something that looks beautiful, let her wear
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  Speaker 3: the same thing. You will see that she is fine.
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  Speaker 2: Love your wife. Sometimes beauty is where you convince yourself
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  Speaker 2: it is. Yes.
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  Speaker 3: If all the women in the world are taking away now,
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  Speaker 3: and there's just one person there, somebody who have said,
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  Speaker 3: this fellow is not fine, I don't... At some point,
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  Speaker 3: the fellow will be fine because you don't have an option.
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  Speaker 2: True?
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  Speaker 3: Good. That is the same way marriage should be. The
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  Speaker 3: fact that you have options is the reason why you
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  Speaker 3: can go with the fact that your wife is no
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  Speaker 3: longer fine to you.
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  Speaker 2: No. Kill all those options. Love your wives. Even as
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  Speaker 2: Christ also loved... This one is serious. How many times
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  Speaker 2: have you sinned and Christ forgave you? Talk to me now.
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  Speaker 2: Sins forever. Sins forever.
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  Speaker 3: Bible says that, and he gave himself for it, that
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  Speaker 3: he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of
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  Speaker 3: water by the word, that he might present it to himself,
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  Speaker 3: a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any
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  Speaker 3: such thing, but that it should be holy without blemish.
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  Speaker 3: So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.
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  Speaker 3: He that loves his wife, love himself. I think this
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  Speaker 3: is why they might coin that word from happy wife,
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  Speaker 3: happy life. Who benefits from the fact that my wife
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  Speaker 3: is happy?
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  Speaker 4: Me.
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  Speaker 2: I'm the first beneficiary.
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  Speaker 3: If my wife dresses well and everybody says, I just
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  Speaker 3: love the way you combine things, who is receiving the honor?
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  Speaker 5: Me.
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  Speaker 3: If I wear fine stuff and my wife looks like
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  Speaker 3: somebody we picked from the bush, who will receive the shame?
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  Speaker 4: Me.
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  Speaker 3: The testimony of your wisdom is what you do to
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  Speaker 3: your garden. If you say you are a man who
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  Speaker 3: is rich, let's see the impact of that wealth on
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  Speaker 3: your wife. Sometimes my wife is looking somehow, I can't explain,
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  Speaker 3: I don't understand. I say, start dancing. Start dancing.
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  Speaker 2: Bring out money.
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  Speaker 5: Dance.
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  Speaker 6: Dance.
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  Speaker 2: Dance.
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  Speaker 3: The dance will come from nowhere. Learn that act. This
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  Speaker 3: thing can change their mood anytime. What was I even
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  Speaker 3: sad about?
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  Speaker 2: I can't remember. I can't remember. I will dance. I
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  Speaker 2: will dance. I will dance. Happy wife. Happy life.
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  Speaker 3: The moment we decide to We will do it the
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  Speaker 3: Bible way. The devil will have to look for a
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  Speaker 3: more crucial means to destroy you.
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  Speaker 2: No longer the path of ego. Yes, will I teach
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  Speaker 2: about how to come out from the injuries of.
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  Speaker 3: I will go there. But I want to make sure
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  Speaker 3: that the person I'm teaching that is not one that
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  Speaker 3: will go out to the next generation.
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  Speaker 2: Is that okay now?
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  Speaker 3: It is very easy for a message to be a
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  Speaker 3: blessing when the message addresses somebody else. But are you
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  Speaker 3: still blessed when it deals with you? Talk to me now.
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  Speaker 3: Are you still blessed when the message confronts you?
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: That is the proof of our submission to Jesus. In Christianity,
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  Speaker 3: we submit to the will of God. We don't put
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  Speaker 3: it side by side with our will and take 50-50.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 3: I look at the things I want to do. I
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  Speaker 3: look at what he wants. I drop mine and I
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  Speaker 3: pick his. This is the basic foundation of Christianity.
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  Speaker 2: We're going to do something tonight.
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  Speaker 3: And I want to beg you in the name of
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  Speaker 3: Jesus Christ of Nazareth.
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  Speaker 2: When I ask you to pray, please pray.
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  Speaker 3: But before we pray, understand fully well that there are
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  Speaker 3: aspects of marriage you don't know until you buy certain books.
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  Speaker 2: Please.
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  Speaker 3: You will get knowledge when you accept the fact that
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  Speaker 3: you can be ignorant. Buy certain books. Listen to certain messages.
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  Speaker 3: Tell yourself from the get-go, I don't know it all.
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  Speaker 3: It is possible I have opinions, but the opinions are wrong.
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  Speaker 3: It is possible I believe that the way to get
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  Speaker 3: a woman to submit is for her never to know
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  Speaker 3: my account statement, but I can't be wrong. It is
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  Speaker 3: possible for me to believe that the way you deal
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  Speaker 3: with men, men must never know what you are worth.
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  Speaker 3: Because they are going to, and I'm wrong. So we
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  Speaker 3: begin to renew our minds. I choose to do this
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  Speaker 3: thing in a way that if Jesus will come and
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  Speaker 3: vet it, he will say, well done. Is that the
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  Speaker 3: kind of homes you want to build? Do you want
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  Speaker 3: to have a good home or you want to be right? No,
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  Speaker 3: you must choose one. Do you want to have a
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  Speaker 3: good home or you want.
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  Speaker 2: To be right?
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  Speaker 3: It begins with, I'm sorry. That's where ego dies. So
• 1:36:11
  Speaker 3: we must choose it. Do I really want to have
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  Speaker 3: a good home? Or I want to be right? So
• 1:36:17
  Speaker 3: sometimes I bury the idea of being right and I
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  Speaker 3: pick this home over.
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  Speaker 2: And we see how we sort things.
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  Speaker 3: Somebody said, I think it was something I read, that
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  Speaker 3: they asked a couple that were married for 70-something years,
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  Speaker 3: that how were you both able to live together like
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  Speaker 3: this for this long? The man said, no, the woman said,
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  Speaker 3: we married at the point at a time That when
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  Speaker 3: the plate breaks, we mend it.
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  Speaker 2: We don't throw it away. Long suffering is still a
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  Speaker 2: fruit of the Spirit.
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  Speaker 3: Hope this thing I'm teaching is not becoming extinct in
• 1:36:59
  Speaker 3: this generation of opinions.
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  Speaker 2: You know you need a form of audacity. Audacity. to
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  Speaker 2: teach this.
• 1:37:08
  Speaker 3: That long suffering is still in the Bible. This is
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  Speaker 3: the prayer we are going to pray. Jesus, help me
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  Speaker 3: become more like you. That's the prayer.
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  Speaker 2: Help me. Help me become more like you. This is
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  Speaker 2: very valid. Help me become more like you. Help me
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  Speaker 2: Help me Help me Help me.
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  Speaker 3: Help me become more like you.
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  Speaker 4: I want more of you. I want more of you, Jesus.
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  Speaker 2: The more I.
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  Speaker 4: Know you, It's the more I want to hear you, Jesus.
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  Speaker 4: The more I know you.
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  Speaker 2: Now listen. Amen.
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  Speaker 3: Will I be the kind of spouse that I can
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  Speaker 3: hear God that forgive your wife? And I'll say yes, Lord.
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  Speaker 3: Am I marrying the kind of woman that I know
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  Speaker 3: that God, who is our father, can talk to her
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  Speaker 3: and she will listen? Are we still Christians? Do we
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  Speaker 3: both read the Bible? Is the word of God going
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  Speaker 3: to have foundation in our home? If I want to
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  Speaker 3: go a route because I feel so, can I be
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  Speaker 3: talked to with the word? What kind of Christian am I?
• 1:39:15
  Speaker 3: This is family life. You cannot separate it from the
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  Speaker 3: quality of Christian that you are. Do you know the
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  Speaker 3: reason why you must take my message? If we birth
• 1:39:30
  Speaker 3: children with pain, they will know you heard this message.
• 1:39:34
  Speaker 3: Because it will still be on YouTube. And they will ask,
• 1:39:40
  Speaker 3: what's your excuse? Are you seeing that now? Lift your
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  Speaker 3: hands again. Jesus Help me to become more like you.
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  Speaker 2: Ah, yes. Help me. Help me. Help me. Help me.
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  Speaker 2: Help me. Help me. Help me, Jesus. Deal with my appetite.
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  Speaker 2: Deal with every issue in me. Help me. Help me.
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  Speaker 4: Help me.
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  Speaker 2: Help me. Help me. In Jesus' mighty name, we're praying.
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  Speaker 2: Let me leave you with this instruction. Every one of
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  Speaker 2: us go back home.
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  Speaker 3: To start learning again what are the basic tenets of
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  Speaker 3: being a Christian. the biggest testimony there can be about
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  Speaker 3: you is that you are a Christian.
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  Speaker 2: Not that I'm an apostle, no. Not that I'm a
• 1:40:54
  Speaker 2: teacher of the word, no. Can my wife look at
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  Speaker 2: me and say, you see, my husband is a Christian.
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  Speaker 2: He will not take what is not his own. He
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  Speaker 2: will not lie.
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  Speaker 3: Everything he teaches, he's doing. That testimony is scarce. In
• 1:41:09
  Speaker 3: the name that is above all names, if there's anyone whose.
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  Speaker 2: Fire has died, the Lord will help you.
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  Speaker 3: All the values you used to run with that you
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  Speaker 3: don't even know what happened to them. The fire is rekindled.
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  Speaker 3: Your love for God and the fear of God is
• 1:41:32
  Speaker 3: restored in your heart. That fear and love for God
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  Speaker 3: begins to bring certain restraints and you will do life the.
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  Speaker 2: Way God wants you to do life.
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  Speaker 3: No one under the sound of my voice will raise
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  Speaker 3: another generation of dysfunction. You will get it right. You
• 1:41:51
  Speaker 3: will do marriage right. You will get it right. You
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  Speaker 3: will get it right. Those waiting for you to fail
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  Speaker 3: will wait in vain. The Lord will keep you in
• 1:42:03
  Speaker 3: the name of Jesus. You will not become miserable in
• 1:42:05
  Speaker 3: marriage in the name of Jesus. For those who are single,
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  Speaker 3: your hands will not be wrongly joined in marriage. The
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  Speaker 3: hand of the Lord will keep you and rest upon you.
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  Speaker 3: In the name of Jesus.
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  Speaker 2: It is done.
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  Speaker 3: In Jesus mighty name. Let's put our hands together for Jesus.
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  Speaker 3: Have you been blessed tonight? Let's make it more resounding.
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  Speaker 2: More resounding. Amen.
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