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The Gift of Unexpected Kindness · The World Knowledge

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  Speaker 1: I think the first thing that comes to mind is
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  Speaker 1: like just being myself. Honestly, I was such a shy
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  Speaker 1: little kid and even just like going up and like
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  Speaker 1: making friends was like terrifying to me for some reason.
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  Speaker 1: Like I would go to summer camp and like, I'd
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  Speaker 1: go into the art room and like sew myself a
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  Speaker 1: friend that I would like carry around. Cause I was just,
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  Speaker 1: I just didn't like tear other people is terrifying me.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. Um, And I think now looking back,
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  Speaker 1: like especially compared to that, I've like broken out of
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  Speaker 1: my shell. And don't fear that as much and kind
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  Speaker 1: of like know that just be myself. And some people
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  Speaker 1: might not like it, but then you'll find the people
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  Speaker 1: that do. But kind of like you touched on just
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  Speaker 1: this like I think a really powerful thing of Monsters, Inc.,
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  Speaker 1: not only Boo facing your fear, but just the underlying
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  Speaker 1: theme of like laughter and joy being more powerful than fear.
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  Speaker 1: is a really cool concept that I think Pixar brought
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  Speaker 1: through that movie. So that's a good reminder too.
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  Speaker 2: Do you have a specific moment when you remember or
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  Speaker 2: it just sticks out to you when you were yourself
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  Speaker 2: with someone or in a situation and it went better
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  Speaker 2: than you thought it was going to go? Yeah, I think.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's always.
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  Speaker 2: I love how you're like, uh-huh, maybe. Maybe.
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  Speaker 1: No, no. But I think it would always go better
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  Speaker 1: than I thought it would. And just generally. I think like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I went to six different high schools. And
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  Speaker 1: every time you start a new school, especially once was
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  Speaker 1: like in the middle of junior year twice because I
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  Speaker 1: kept moving. And I'm always just afraid, yeah, are people
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  Speaker 1: going to like who I am? All this stuff. And
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  Speaker 1: then you realize like, you know, or I realized that
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  Speaker 1: it did go better than I anticipated and then I
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  Speaker 1: built up. So that's kind of the first thing that
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  Speaker 1: comes to mind with that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It's still scary, but it does normally turn out better
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  Speaker 1: than you think in your head.
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  Speaker 2: Do you think it's easier to have friends as adults
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  Speaker 2: or kids?
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  Speaker 1: I think it's harder to make friends as adults.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Like, like I'm, I'm, I now live back up in
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  Speaker 1: the Bay Area. I grew up in the Bay Area
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  Speaker 1: until I was about 14. And then I moved around
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  Speaker 1: a lot. And now I'm back up here. And I
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  Speaker 1: have one friend that I've known since I was in
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  Speaker 1: seventh grade. And we're still really close. But I'm still like...
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  Speaker 1: I found myself, especially when I first moved, like I
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  Speaker 1: would be hanging out with her and her friend group.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm still a couple years into moving back here
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  Speaker 1: and still trying to like find my own friend group.
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  Speaker 1: So I think just like making friends as an adult
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  Speaker 1: is hard.
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  Speaker 2: I mean.
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  Speaker 1: from my story being a Shiloh girl that was hard
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  Speaker 1: making friends too but I remember just you know when
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  Speaker 1: you're a kid you just have so much fun with
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  Speaker 1: the friends that you do have and they like they
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  Speaker 1: make believe and like I don't know just kind of
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  Speaker 1: like hang out do like just in your innocence like
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  Speaker 1: I don't know and so yeah I think I know
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  Speaker 1: the specific question wasn't what's harder to make friends but
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  Speaker 1: I definitely have found as an adult harder to make
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  Speaker 1: friends so you're like I can't just like be in
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  Speaker 1: elementary school and meet friends on the playground anymore.
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  Speaker 2: Like, what do I do?
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  Speaker 1: Where do I go?
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  Speaker 2: Well, like, and even just when you were a kid,
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  Speaker 2: you would always just walk up to someone and be like,
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  Speaker 2: do you want to play? Yeah. Nowadays, if you do that,
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  Speaker 2: they're like, um, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: What's that mean?
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, no, I, I think like, I mean, I don't,
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  Speaker 2: cause you, do you have a, like, cause I, outside of,
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  Speaker 2: obviously relatives, do you have like a family of your
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  Speaker 2: own or is that something you want in the future? Or.
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  Speaker 1: I'm an only child. If that's what you're asking, as
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  Speaker 1: far as like family of my own, I don't have
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  Speaker 1: any kids. I just have my fur baby.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Maple. Uh, but it's definitely something I want one day
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  Speaker 1: for sure. Uh, always dreamed about it. So when the
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  Speaker 1: right time comes for sure, when I feel me on
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  Speaker 1: my own, but, But yeah, I actually just last weekend
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  Speaker 1: got to go to my cousin's wedding and see a
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  Speaker 1: bunch of my extended family I haven't seen in a while.
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  Speaker 1: So I have a big extended family. We're kind of
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  Speaker 1: all spread out, so we don't get together as much
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  Speaker 1: as we all want. But that was nice. But for now,
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  Speaker 1: I'm being faithful.
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  Speaker 2: Was it hard for you being an only child or
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  Speaker 2: did you not mind?