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189.Essential Skill in Leadership | Charisma · The Kathie Owen Perspective Podcast

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  Hello, my friend.
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  Welcome back to top workplace wellness podcast and YouTube channel.
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  My name is Kathie Owen.
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  Your host and corporate wellness expert.
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  Today, we're diving into a topic I absolutely love teaching in my corporate wellness, leadership and communication programs.
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  And that topic is charisma.
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  And specifically.
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  How the concepts from the book, The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane can totally transform your leadership styles.
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  Be sure to check the links in the description and show notes below.
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  To every video that I do, I always include a blog post that has bonus resources, including the book and more so be sure to check that out in the links, in the description and show notes below.
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  You know, charisma is one of those things that people think you either have, or you don't.
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  But what I'm here to share with you today is you can learn charisma.
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  Charisma is skill anyone can develop.
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  And in this episode, we are going to break down how power presence and warmth the three key elements of charisma can make you a more effective and inspiring leader.
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  Plus I'll be sharing how my experience with complex post-traumatic stress disorder has given me unique insights into reading micro-expressions and understanding these charisma components on a deeper level.
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  So, whether you're leading a team.
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  Building wellness initiatives or just looking to boost your communication skills.
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  This one's for you.
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  Let's dive in.
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  So let's start with what charisma really is.
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  In the charisma myth, Olivia Fox Cobane debunks, the idea that charisma is something only a select few people have.
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  And maybe they're just born with it.
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  You don't need to be super extroverted.
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  Or naturally charming to be charismatic.
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  In fact, it's a skill that you could develop through practice.
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  And anyone can do it.
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  Olivia Fox Cobane breaks down charisma into three components, power presence, and warmth.
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  These are the building blocks of charisma.
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  And they work together to help people find trust in you, respect you.
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  And even feel connected to you.
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  And as a leader, that's exactly what you want.
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  Let's start with power.
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  This is not how much authority you have.
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  Or how loud your voice is in the room.
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  It's about confidence.
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  It's about making people believe, you know what you're doing.
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  That your competent.
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  And that you can handle whatever situation comes your way.
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  Next we have presence.
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  This is such a big one in today's world.
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  Where we're constantly distracted with our phones, emails, and meetings.
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  Presence means being fully engaged with the people or the person right in front of you.
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  When you're truly present the people around you feel heard valued and understood..
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  And that builds connection.
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  And finally there's warmth.
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  Warmth is about making people feel comfortable and cared for.
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  It's that sense of genuine kindness and empathy.
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  That makes others trusts you.
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  This is where emotional intelligence comes into play.
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  And leadership being warm means creating an environment where your team feels safe to express themselves and confident that you have their best interests at heart.
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  Now let's talk about how power presence and warmth.
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  Can transform your leadership style in the workplace.
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  As someone who spent over a decade in corporate wellness.
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  I've seen leaders who really get this.
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  And leaders who.
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  Well, they just don't.
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  Let me give you an example.
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  Imagine a leader.
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  Who's all about power.
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  They're competent.
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  Sure.
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  But they come across as distant.
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  Or even a little intimidating.
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  Their team might respect them.
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  But they don't feel comfortable approaching them.
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  On the flip side, there's the leader.
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  Who's all about warmth.
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  Everyone loves them but they might struggle to make real decisions.
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  Or lead with authority.
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  The goal is to strike a balance.
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  When you can integrate all three, the power, the presence, and the warmth.
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  You create this magnetic leadership.
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  Where people not only trust you.
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  And your abilities.
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  But also feel genuinely connected to you.
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  And that's where the magic happens.
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  Your team becomes more engaged.
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  More motivated.
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  And more productive.
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  And my corporate wellness programs.
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  I teach leaders how to develop these skills.
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  In a very practical way.
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  Whether it's leading a health fair.
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  Communicating new wellness initiatives.
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  Or just improving every day team interactions.
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  Charisma plays a huge role in how your team responds to you.
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  Now I want to share something about my own journey.
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  As many of you know, I was diagnosed with complex post-traumatic stress disorder many years ago.
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  And while it's been a challenge.
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  It's also given me a unique gift.
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  I did a video on this and I'll link it in the show notes and description below.
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  But that gift.
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  Is the ability to read micro-expressions.
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  These are the tiny, almost imperceptible facial expressions.
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  That reveal what people are truly feeling.
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  Even if they're trying to hide it.
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  This ability has helped me become much more attuned to the emotional.
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  undercurrents in the workplace.
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  It's like having this little superpower that allows me to connect with people on a deeper level.
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  And tailor my leadership style.
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  To what they really need in the moment.
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  Coaching as well.
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  For example, if I'm leading a meeting, and someone gives a quick look of frustration.
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  Maybe their eyes narrow.
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  Or their smile doesn't quite reached their eyes.
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  I can pick up on that and address it.
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  I might ask if they have concerns or ideas they want to share.
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  Because that's how you build trust and improve communication.
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  And this ties directly into the concept of presence.
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  When you're fully present with someone, you notice these cues.
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  You're not just hearing the words they say.
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  You're reading their body language their tone and their micro-expressions.
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  This is how you connect with your team on a much deeper level.
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  So, how do we develop charisma?
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  Especially in the leadership context.
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  Here are a few practical tips from the book, the charisma myth that I've seen work wonders.
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  Both in my own leadership journey and the leaders that I coach.
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  Number one mindfulness for presence.
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  One of the best ways to develop presence is through mindfulness.
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  This could be as simple as taking a deep breath right before a meeting.
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  And reminding yourself to focus on the person in front of you.
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  Not your watch when it buzzes.
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  Because it sounds easy, but in our busy world, like the watch buzzing.
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  That's a distraction and it can be a game changer.
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  Number two power posing.
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  What is that?
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  Cabane talks about the concept of power posing.
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  Where you take a stance that boosts your confidence.
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  Think standing tall, hands on your hips.
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  And chin up.
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  This actually changes the way you feel internally.
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  And helps you project more confidence.
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  And number three, warmth through empathy.
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  For warmth, we want to practice empathy.
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  This can be as simple as asking your team how they're feeling.
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  Not just in terms of work but as human beings.
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  Show them that you care about their wellbeing.
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  And they'll actually feel that warmth coming from you.
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  And of course always be aware of your body language.
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  And micro expressions.
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  I know I make a lot of eyebrow expressions.
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  My.
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  Eyebrows are high component of my micro expressions.
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  But if you notice I smile a lot and I keep that warmth going and the confidence by taking a deep breath, holding my shoulders back, I teach.
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  Body language and posture in my personal training, I've done it for many, many years.
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  Not only do you propel that outside, but you feel it inside.
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  Just think of a smile when you smile, you send signals to your brain, that everything is okay.
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  It's been scientifically researched.
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  Besides that if you're frowning or your posture is off.
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  You might be sending a message you don't intend to.
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  I know I've seen a lot of upper-level management or walk around the building with a frown on their face.
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  And that just sends the wrong signal across the board.
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  So little adjustments can go a long way.
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  So there you have it.
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  The charisma myth is not just a great read.
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  It's actually a roadmap to becoming a more effective charismatic leader.
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  By developing power presence and warmth.
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  You connect with your team in ways that inspire trust engagement and motivation.
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  And remember charisma, isn't something that you're just born with.
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  It's actually something you can learn, develop, and grow with over time.
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  I've seen it firsthand in my own experience.
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  And I know you can apply it to.
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  If you'd like to dive deeper into these concepts or learn more about how to develop charisma in your own workplace.
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  Be sure to check out the book, I'll have a link to it in the show notes and description below and the blog post that goes along with this episode.
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  And also I do have a program called top workplace wellness, and I do teach leadership workshops from time to time.
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  Because I'd love to help you take your leadership and communication to the next level.
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  Thanks for watching.
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  And of course, if you're listening on the podcast, be sure to leave a review.
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  It really helps the show grow.
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  Until next time.
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  Stay inspired.
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  Stay engaged.
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  And remember you have the power to lead with charisma.
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  All right.
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  That's my episode for today.
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  I trust that you found it helpful.
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  If you know someone who could benefit from this, please share it with them.
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  And until next time I will see you next time, peace out and Namaste.
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  Bing!