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This Is Why Men Don't Want You! Breaking Down Negative Traits In Women · Black Girls Are Easy Podcast

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What's wrong with me? What's wrong with me? Or why am I still
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single? Why aren't I being asked to go out on dates? Why nobody
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is proposed to me? Seven types of women to avoid The desperate relationship girl
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surface traits. Afraid to be alone, usually a serial monogamist. Girls fresh
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out of a long time relationship or college relationship, aging beauties about to hit
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milestone birthdays like thirty, forty or even fifty. Single mothers that buy into
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the idea that they're unwanted, ring chasers that want to prove to friends or
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family they can get your last name. Deeper traits. Women are reared in
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a world where their value is determined by their relationship status. She went to
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an ivy league university. Book that degree. Where's her man? She owns
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her own home with no kids, Fuck that empty ass house. Where's her
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man? She just cured cancer, Fuck that she should have cured those cobwebs
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in a vagina because she still can't get a man. Imagine being judged like
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that. Email after email, conversation after conversation. Successful women lament that they're
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ready to give up and just pick the next guy they date because they are
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sick. Of being lonely and considered as less than those women who are in
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the relationship game. Do you want to be some desperate woman's hail Mary choice
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because she's up against the clock. These women are trying to skip to the
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part where you're laid up and cuddling in bed, posting ussies online, taking
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vacation trips, and all the other shallow relationship goals propaganda that makes Facebook run.
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She needs a man, and her job is to apply pressure until she
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gets a commitment out of you. Why does this woman want me to be
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her boyfriend? The male ego will feed you this lie that she likes you
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because you're charming, good in bed, or someone on the rise. Bullshit.
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Stop sucking your own dick and go deeper. Does she know you enough
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to want to be exclusive? Have you shared deep hearts of yourself that would
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earn her empathy? How fast is she trying to move in a relationship to
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what you know is normal? When a girl doesn't know you but is in
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a rush to get the title, it's not about how great you are,
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but about how great her insecurity is. She's in such a hurry to prove
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to the rest of the world that she can get a boyfriend that she forgets
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to learn who you are. She's so hurt or disappointed by her last failed
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relationship she's racing to replace her last man with you. She hates being the
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last one of her friends still on dating apps, so she looks to catch
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up by fast tracking you, regardless of compatibility. You're a dance partner who
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she calls her soulmate because she needs to be able to show her friends she's
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loved, to boast to the Internet that she's taken, or to prove to
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her family that she can do better than her last guy. No man with
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self respect will be an accessory in this game of Where's Your Man that these
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basicas play. No man with common sense will get hustled with sex, submission,
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or overly nice behavior because he knows that if he didn't earn it,
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then it must be bait for something diabolical. If she's right for you,
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she will understand that it's not about talking to each other. It's about talking
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with each other. It's not about favorite movies and where you work. It's
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about learning real shit that makes you tick and why relationship girls are just looking
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to fill a roster spot. Beware avoidance checklist. Girls that have only been
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in long term relationships don't know how to date, and this will be evident
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early on. They aren't patient or emotionally disciplined enough to deal with vetting.
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The thought of having to continue to date multiple men is scary, so she
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grabs onto the first seemingly decent man to avoid real effort. The thought of
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you dating other girls creates a paranoia, as she's only used to a man
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being exclusive to her, so the moment she decides you'll do, she will
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try to headlock you into a relationship, either by pushing for something exclusive via
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ultimatums or by clinging to you and doing nice girlfriend type things that spoil you.
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Next thing you know, you wake up in a relationship you never agreed
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on. A more obvious characteristic is if a woman keeps bringing up her age
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and where she wants to be sooner than later, marriage by that age,
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kids, by this age. She's showing you her hand because she wants you
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to take it. You don't want to be sperm for her vanishing eggs,
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nor do you want a woman that non discriminately looks to fill the role of
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a husband like he's a mal Santa. Be cautious of women who already have
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kids that begin to put you in that child's life too early. A woman
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once asked me if she could introduce her son to guys quicker and hopes it
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would give her more time to grow on that man via the bond with the
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child. Think about that shit. She's trying to use her son to keep
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a man around because she knows her personality isn't enough. A mother's top priority
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should be to protect her child from a stranger. If you're on date one
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or two and she's already trying to connect the two of you before you've passed
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any deep vetting, she's showing her thirst for a stepdad. You also have
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those women that are scouting for a trophy husband. This works on several levels.
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Let's start with looks. Many women are trying to find a man that
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looks good enough to evoke jealousy, who they can show off to friends or
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online. Be cautious of any woman in the early dating stage that's trying to
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take pictures of you or introduce you to friends or family early on, as
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if you already belong to her, she won't care about where you work,
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what you went to school for or any of the things you're into, because
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she's trying to hold on to you based on the physical. Next up is
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money or financial success. Money is an obvious one, as a woman of
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a certain age will be looking for security. There's nothing wrong with maintaining a
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man that makes equal or above. It should be on any smart woman's list.
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However, just like blindly clinging to looks, there are women that are
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dating you for your job or income without taking time to see if you two
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mesh as a couple. I have friends that are in their thirties that lead
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with he does this. He has this kind of condo, he drives,
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this kind of car. The dates or conversations aren't touted. He's simply a
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means to an end that they can show off and exploit. Don't feel that
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because you're not rich that this doesn't apply. As long as you have a
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steady income and a legit job title. That's good enough for most girls who
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are used to dating bums. The final trait this relationship girls show is status.
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Fucking dating you simply because you're a known entity. We live in a
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world where being Instagram famous is a real thing, and where promoting a nightclub
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is seen as being in power. You don't have to be legitimately famous,
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just known enough in a certain circle, and a woman will attach herself to
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you just to get some of that chine. It could be something as simple
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as being a guy that her group of friends knows and thinks highly of.
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Those of you in college or who work at large corporations will notice this mentality.
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I have to get him, because then I'll show up the rest of
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the girls in our group, athletes, DJs, the funny guy in the
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office, even the guy on social media with a lot of followers. If
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other people see you as important, it opens it up to thirsty girls that
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want to leach onto your vibe. With any of these motives, you have
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to take your time to feel these ladies out. Ask yourself at the beginning,
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why does she like me? In the middle, why does she keep
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dating me? And once you get a feel for her desire to be with
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you, finish it off with why does she want to be with me?
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The diabolical girl surface traits revenge seeker traumatized by past relationship, needs to be
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in control to feel safe. Usually antime man due to being hurt by them,
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loves to get a reaction and push Buttons loves to emasculate and be the
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one that wears the pants deeper traits. Being emotionally unavailable makes people chase you,
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no matter if you're a man or woman. Normally, women that are
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cold hearted are putting on an act that melts away by the time you get
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to the deep dating stage. But these women are the exception. Recognize that
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for every five women that claim to be a savage, there is one that
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truly doesn't give a fuck about being your girl. These ladies want to bring
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you to your knees, and if she can't accomplish that, she will settle
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for setting fire to your life. These females aren't sociopaths. They're simply so
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broken by their lives that they've embraced the dark side like Anakin walking into that
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Jedi temple to lightsaber the hell out of young Lin therapy, confronting their core
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issues, realizing that you can't ever get paid back by taking it out on
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the next person. That's what these women need. Yet here they are dating
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you and hoping that you'll be the next victim on their sith Lord list.
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I have a friend that's a lesbian for about ten months out of the year.
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In that time, she likes to go after girls that usually don't identify
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as gay, or girls that are in relationships and turn them out. It's
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not their looks, it's their vulnerability she spots and exploits because she's been in
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that role herself, and as they say, you smell your own. Exploiting
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lesbian or bisexuals is easy and safe for her. When she gets around to
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fucking with guys, she endears herself to them by not moving how the average
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woman moves. She doesn't chase, she stands them up on dates, she
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doesn't apologize. She pulls them back in with overly sexual flirting. In the
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end, they race back, only for her to push them away once she
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gets whatever she wanted from them, money, attention, kinky sex. In
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the times when she has gotten in her feelings, her reactions are always ruthless.
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She once told me, I'm thinking about just letting his bitch ass come
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in me so I can kill him with child support. That's her mindset.
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She's not thinking rationally because she's embraced her villainous side that goes beyond the petty
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key your car rage, the little girl's experience. I thought she was just
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an anomaly. But over the years I've met dozens of these types. Sexually
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perverse and kinky, cool and engaging, yet still vulnerable that armor, and
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extremely savage when the feelings they pretend not to have are hurt. Avoidance checklist.
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Those men that still walk around trying to stick their dicks and everything will
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always come across this type of woman and fall hard because she uses sex and
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lust as a woman against males. She doesn't want to date, she wants
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to chill. She doesn't want you to drop her back home. She wants
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to keep partying. She doesn't want to drink and smoke a little. She
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wants to get fucked up. Why because she knows that men remember the wild
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ones over the sweet ones, which makes her a must contact when you look
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at your phone the following weekend. We've all experienced the fun time girl.
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They're fun, care free, like one of the fellas, except you want
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to rip her clothes off. Nothing in life is free. Few women are
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going to be down to let you live out of fantasy with them. There
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is most likely a catch, and if you don't realize this early, she's
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going to have you in the palm of her hands. These girls are usually
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pretty, and if they aren't, they make up for it by seducing you
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verbally to the point where you forget that she's only kind of cute. They're
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also into shock value and button pushing. She's trying to say the most outlandish
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thing to make you react or blush by telling you wild stories about her past
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adventures that spell it out for you that she's not a square. Often thereby,
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and it's more of a control issue than a reflection of her true sexuality.
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Unlike a woman that genuinely fell in love with another woman, her stories
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about women will never point to affection or any form sentiment. They talk about
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dumb bitches and past conquests more than high school seniors. She will most likely
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drop hints or volunteer her history of women in a sensationalized way because she knows
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a man's fantasy is two women at once, and she's trying to entice that.
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Remember, her entire hustle is to impress to the point where you want
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to join her cult of madness. Once you settle into dating her, you
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will notice her becoming flaky in terms of communication. She won't feel a need
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to apologize or explain herself, and if you push back, she'll cut you
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off, only to bait you back in or wait for you to come sniffing
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around. When she argues it's dismissive. She's beyond you and doesn't argue with
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peons, so she won't even give you the time of day with a response,
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which of course infuriates some men to keep coming back for closure. If
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you meet one that does think enough of you to spar verbally, she always
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cuts deep to the bone. Your job, your sex skills, your looks,
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your family, or any information you told her in confidence will be thrown
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at you with the force of a North Korean nuke. Why she doesn't hate
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you, she barely knows you. She hates what you represent and wants to
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see you feel pain and shrink your manhood. This is a tactic because insulting
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you is likely to make you want to get back with her to prove her
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wrong. In terms of vetting her, when you ask questions about her past,
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she'll tell you the crazy stories, not the emotional connections of first kisses
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or first loves, or her mother or father doing something nice on a birthday.
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The real her is lost She's only going to allow you to see the
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wild side, the part of her that males always praise and that other women
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secretly envy, the attention or surface traits. Perpetually bored has friends who all
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engage in the same thirsty behavior, has something to prove to someone that doubted
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her. An ex friend, boyfriend, or parent aspires to be famous or
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infamous, but with no real talent or business plan, obsessed with male validation
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deeper traits. When do women become conscious of competition? Unlike little boys who
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are given activities like seeing who can pick up the toys the fastest, or
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who can win a race, competition in females isn't encouraged in a healthy way.
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Often it's a byproduct of observing who gets better treatment and why, which
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makes one girl want to compete against another. If the teacher smiles and compliments
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a girl in pre k, how does that make the other female students feel
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they feel left out and begin to crave that feeling of being singled out and
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applauded. In my book, Men Don't Love Women Like You, I went
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through the story of a girl who competed with her sister for her father's affection
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by purposely changing the grades on her tests so dear Dad would shower her with
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praise. Moving beyond scholastic and career achievements, the easier way for any woman
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to get attention will always be appearance. To be asked where they shop because
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of their style, for men to either stare in awe or try to get
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that number because of their body or face. That's instant gratification that damn near
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any woman can achieve because it's not based on intelligence, talent, or skill,
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just a look. Next on the list of attention grabbing is to be
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sexual, either in actions or perception. The not so cute girl at the
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bar that talks too loud about how she gives a blowjob knows what she's doing.
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The girl that sleeps with multiple guys who know each other knows what she's
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doing. Play up the sex kid an idea, and men will flock no
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matter how you look. This is the sad but true world for too many
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women to be wanted, to be looked up, to, to be seen
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as special as a drug that hooks all humans. However, men benefit from
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not having to fit into this role of fashion icon or sex symbol or brainiac
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to be shown attention. We can dress, however, not be classically handsome
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or be ill informed about a number of topics. Yet if our confidence and
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wit are on point, we will still attract women that think we're awesome,
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men that think we're cool. Not to mention teachers or employers who cut us
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slack because they find us charismatic. Women aren't judged on a curve. They
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have very specific things they are taught to do in order to get props,
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and this is the foundation of which the attention whore builds her castle of thirst.
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It's in a woman's best interest to use what she has to get what
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she wants. I'm constantly telling girls to dress in a way that makes them
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want to fuck that reflection in a mirror, because if she feels sexy,
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we as men will feel that energy. The problem with attention whores is that
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they aren't going for empowerment. They're going for a cheap pop. Have you
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ever watched a concert or a wrestling match and the performer says the name of
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the city, I'm happy to be here in the great city of Baltimore,
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and everyone goes crazy. That's a cheap pop. Because pandering is the easiest
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way to get someone on your side. Women pander to the lowest common denominator
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to get quick attention that will in turn make them feel good. A girl
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with a large ass knows how to accentuate that, so she does it all
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the time, not to embrace her body, but because she wants the attention
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that comes from wearing jeans that are too tight or shorts that rise too high.
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Put that same body type with the mind of a secure female, and
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she's going to dress in a way where she keeps it classy, not overt,
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because life has taught her that the type of man that whistle after a
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fat ass are usually the lowest of the low. Secure women aren't going for
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the cheap pop. They don't want that kind of attention at all because it's
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tied to low quality men. But insecure women don't care about quality. Attention
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is attention turning to the more cerebral games this basic type of woman plays.
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Look no further than how she brags. We live in a social media heavy
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world. People share things for family, or because they're proud, happy,
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or they did look amazing and want to capture it. An attention horase simply
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looking to get a reaction I've seen it on my own personal Facebook feed,
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where two girls I went to high school with were constantly trying to one up
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each other with everything from nails to budget vacations. Women have been doing this,
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I dare you to copy this battle for years, but the Internet has
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made it even more transparent. They post about something before they do it,
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just so people can give them props on something that most likely won't happen.
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They go to regular restaurants and make it out to be fine dining in Paris.
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They take someone else's birthday and write a long message or give a long
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toast that's about themselves. They post the same selfie repeatedly with the fake deep
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captions that have nothing to do with the picture. Listen to how a girl
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responds when someone else talks about something they're doing that dares to steal the spotlight
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from them. Oh I went there. Oh I'm about to buy that too.
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Oh from my birthday, I'm planning something like that as well. They
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need to focus on them because they are jealous of those that can draw attention
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without effort. Avoidance checklist. When you begin to date a woman like this,
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or even get into deep dating, where does this insecurity, this want
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to be admired go. Is she suddenly fulfilled and no longer craving attention at
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that level? Hell no, It focuses into a ball of needy energy where
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she expects you to worship her, always be around to see her or deal
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with her problems, and never take your eyes off her as the center of
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your universe. If you aren't there to give her attention, she finds other
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men that can feed her ego sound familiar. A huge trait to look at
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is how many men a woman is talking to, not dating, talking,
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meaning she is just using them to fill the free time in her day with
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no real interest in a relationship. To be a grown ass woman that needs
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to have a phone full of men to text so she feels less lonely is
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a sign of a hole in her that she doesn't know how to fill.
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Look at all my boyfriends is how women with abandonment issues get through life.
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She wakes up and measures her self esteem and how many texts she gets or
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how many missed calls she ignores. Not all men are simp enough to chase
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her. In order to replenish men that will feed her attention, She's always
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giving out her number. In the future chapters, we'll talk about how a
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lot of girls will flirt and fake like they're interested just to friend zone you
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or dick tease you as an ego stroke. That's the primary trait of an
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attention wore. At the early dating level, there are girls that want you
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to have access to them so they can send nudes, tease you with sex,
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vent about problems, and playfight so she has some form of drama in
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her boring life. The checklists are numerous and easy to spot, but you
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will probably fall into the trap of liking their pictures, approaching them, texting
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them, and the list goes on why because thirst traps work. That girl
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has her cleavage as her avatar for a reason. She takes full body picks
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with her ass poked to one side for a reason. She switches exaggerated in
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front of you for a reason, men will take the bait. Things to
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look out for when you're dating include wanting to see you several times a week
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because her own life is boring. When you're not free to see her,
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talk to her, or heaven forbid, you don't respond to a text,
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she seeks attention by acting out. For instance, an attention. Horror will
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take to social media to post a picture or video to get your attention because
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she thinks that seeing her looking sexy or other guys liking her pictures will make
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you run back to her with attention. Another characteristic is that she doesn't date
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multiple men. She merely talks to them when you're not showering her with the
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attention she needs. She has guys on her phone from six months ago who
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she's never even been out with and never will because when she's lonely, he's
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hungry enough to respond at two am. In terms of wardrobe, she's still
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dressing like she's twenty two, even on a date with you, because she
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hates to feel as if eyes won't be on her no matter the occasion.
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She tweets like it's her running diary. She posts everything she does on Facebook.
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She is willing to show half her pussy on Instagram for likes. Even
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in conversations that are about you, she somehow brings it back to what she
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is doing or about to do. She claims to know celebrities she can get
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into the club free. She has all these business ideas, but when push
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comes to shove, she can't produce any of those things in real life.
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She's all talk, all image and bullshit twenty four to seven. Miss think
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like a man, surface treats, know it all, claims to treat men
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like men treat women, but only in her mind. Always promotes whole phases,
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but never goes through with it. Thinks feminism is about bashing men,
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highly opinionated about how men operate, yet doesn't enact any of it day or
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in her own relationships. Deeper traits having your heart broken can strip a woman
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of her innocence and shake her belief in all romantic notions. Many women come
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to me because they love that I've pushed for a hard warrior like mindset when
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it comes to dating and relationships, but many of them miss the boat in
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terms of my core message, Grow wiser, not bitter. The problem has
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never been a woman's wont to live a fairytale life. It's been the naive
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chase for it, where she doesn't realize she has to pick her prince charming
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wisely, not wait for one to slip on that glass slipper and solve her
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problems. Wisdom evades her time and time again, and instead of accepting that,
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she needs to date smarter. She places all the blame unmen and pretends
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to be a man eater. When a girl tells me, I'm going to
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start acting like the boys, it means that they want to become emotionally detached
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in order to spare their feelings another round of torture. They want to use
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men as tools to come or be entertained. They want that big dick energy
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shown by stereotypical males who seem to be in control, thus avoiding the anxiety
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of having men pick her up and put her down. Good luck with that.
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The savages who can actually pull this off, aka the diabolical girls we
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already covered above. These women are not built for that life. What this
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act like a boy proclamation really means is that these girls are upset, afraid,
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and confused on how to get what they want, so they want to
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emulate the men that hurt them. It sounds great on paper, but what
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happens when these types of women try it out in the real world. They
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crash and burn. I've seen failed whole phases that make the one that Esa
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from Insecure went through seem tame. These fake savage girls come to me less
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than a month into this new philosophy on life, asking why didn't he call
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me back? Or how can I make him want more? Wait, I
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thought you didn't want anything serious and you were doing you It's all bullshit.
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They're not having casual sex for their own enjoyment. They're reacting to the damage
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someone else did, which makes it fraudulent. Real whole phases aren't about sex.
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It's about attaining a do what you want attitude without fear of perception.
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You can fuck who you want, talk to who you want, be single
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by choice, be in an open relationship. It doesn't matter because it's about
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you being free. These women are going through a crisis, not maturing women
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experimenting or shedding their old restrictions, which is why their actions will always contradict
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their words. She will act like she doesn't want you, then ask where
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is this going? Later on, she will pretend that it's an open relationship
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and you're just a booty call, then get upset when you date other women.
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In terms of conversation, they swear they know how men think because they
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had a brother or best friends school them to the game. If that were
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true, why is she in the same boat as the naive college freshmen.
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These women think they know everything but can't prevent being hurt because it's all hot
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air rhetoric that they heard other women swear by but never tried to test drive.
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You will notice it's the girls that act mean and picky, that push
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away all the men except the ones trying to play them. It's the ones
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that claim to cut men off the moment they see a red flag that end
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up giving in chance after chance. It will always be the fake, tough
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female that claims she isn't looking for anything serious that turns around and catches an
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attitude because it's been months and you aren't trying to take it to the next
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level. She's not crazy, she's confused. She doesn't think like a man,
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just a defensive girl. Avoidance checklist look for confrontational disposition about men and
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their actions. This woman will harbor resentment for the things you all are allowed
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to get away with, but in the same voice will proclaim how women need
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to start acting in a similar method to fight fire with fire. She will
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have a cocky attitude about how she's already informed on the moves men make,
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which will lead to her assuming things about you even though she doesn't know you.
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She's piled all men into one big ain't shit pile, but that hasn't
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stopped her from dating. If you're looking to approach her on the street,
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one early indicator is that she keeps a resting bitch face as not to be
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bothered. But if you're one of the men that understand that's affront, she
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will not only give you her number, but be extremely into you in no
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time. Why no one else is bothering to approach her because of that very
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same attitude you saw through, which means her bitterness created a cage, not
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a tank. In terms of sex. Again, she will play hard,
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but this type of woman is a prime candidate for first date sex. In
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her brain, she doesn't want you. You're just dick, so, unlike
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women that are vetting in a healthy way, she doesn't mind allowing the date
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to go to a sexual place quickly, as that's all she's telling herself she
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wants. In the end, she will want the sex to lead to something
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more. No matter how much she rants and raves about why do men always
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think we want to be wifed? I'm good? Trust me, She's not
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good. That's why she'll get passive aggressive after sex or start acting psychotic basically
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look out for any woman that makes power statements when you meet her, then
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acts opposite those declarations after sex or short time dating. The pushover surface traits
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enabling, overly submissive, happy to get along, and won't challenge you very
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often, always willing to apologize even when it's not her fault. Constantly trying
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to figure out what the other girls do that guys don't like or do like.
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They read all the love advice books and try all the dating gimmicks.
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Believes in old fashioned gender roles deeper traits. Unlike the desperate relationship girl,
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the pushover can't be accused of not wanting you for you. She will ask
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questions, she will take an interest in your life, and she will try
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to fit into that life with the intensity of a bar exam. Her personality
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is vanilla, not because she was born that way, but because she's been
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through trauma that has forced her to dial down who she truly is and become
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what other people want her to be. This isn't just in regard to her
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romantic life. Her father or mother most likely bullied her into a school or
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a career. Her friends take advantage of her to the point where she's either
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a sidekick to a queen bee or a sheep, and a flock of stronger
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women who people barely notice. Her goal is to use being nice to gain
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acceptance. The term pick me is used to describe those women that are looking
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to gain favor with men by doing or saying things they believe men love.
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Sometimes it's done in an attention war way, such as boasting about how women
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wear makeup, but she's naturally beautiful with no filters. Other times, these
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women are very sincere in their lack of standards. For example, you don't
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need to take her on a real date. She's cool with sitting in your
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car, eating chicken nuggets and talking about how the earth is flat. If
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you were her man, she wouldn't mind splitting the bills and helping you out
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financially. Arguments to her are always a normal part of love, and she
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will promise to always work on it and never give up on us as a
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man. Those things sound exciting from a distance, especially in a world where
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women rant about how men need to do X, y Z to win them.
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For a woman to have this I'll do whatever for my man mentality before
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you even earn it proves that something else is going on inside. It's one
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thing to gain favor with her through similar treatment, or to impress her to
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the point where she has undying loyalty. Giving you her all for no reason
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when it's only the dating stage. Lets you know that she's not a girlfriend
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in the making. She's a zombie with a pussy. This loyalty and readiness
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to struggle with you isn't built on love. It's just who she is as
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a person. She's trying to buy your love by being easy to get along
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with and overly compromising. These are the types of women you get bored of
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after a few months. These are the types of women men cheat on repeatedly.
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These are the types of women whom men who write me describe as great.
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But there's something missing. These women aren't starting players on a team.
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They're the water girls that don't really add shit to the life of a man
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that doesn't need to use a woman avoidance checklist. Pay attention to how accommodating
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she is to a fault when planning a date. It isn't just about the
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typical indecision of where to go or what to do that most women are guilty
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of. She will go out of her way to tell you she doesn't need
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anything fancy before you even mention it. But she will be good with the
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house date. She's useless at a restaurant, so she wants to take it
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to a place where she can show you how she submits and accommodates. In
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terms of opinions and things, she will answer with I don't know, what
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do you think, or if she makes a statement you don't agree with,
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she'll be quick to back down with I see what you're saying, You're right.
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She's utterly spineless when it comes to sex teasing again, she wants to
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give you what you need to choose her, so most likely you can get
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away with fast sex in the bedroom. However, you will have to lead
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her to do things, as she's not trying to get herself off and be
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adventurous. She's trying to be a robot that responds, never directs. She
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won't press for a relationship. She will play the role of friend or allow
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our situationship, but her hustle is to treat you like a boyfriend and stick
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to you like glue, hoping you will reward her loyalty. I don't have
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to spell it out for you. This kind of woman gets real boring,
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real fast. But even when you cheat or start talking to other girls,
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she will always leave the door open for you to come back because she has
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no self respect. The scammer surface treats money is the motivation, not love.
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She sees every relationship as a business opportunity, while she tries to desensitize
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men in order to have a clear conscience when doing this, She's still liable
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to fall for you if you can live up to the fantasy of making her
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a kept woman. Usually she has an ex or current guy she's in love
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with, but he's broke and not a realistic option. Doesn't mind bartering second
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for money or gifts. Runs the gamut of women, from urban hood rats
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to rural trailer trash, to poor college students to small business owners. Even
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older women or moms looking to finance a caviare lifestyle can be undercover scammers,
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so you have to stay woke deeper traits. Every woman likes to be treated,
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spoiled and pampered. When you grow up on fairy tales like Cinderella all
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the way to pretty women, one can't help but get lost in the wish
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fulfillment of that fiction. In real life, the average woman is more concerned
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with genuine love and graduating to a loyal marriage, so she's not going to
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rock the boat by asking for money, gifts, or treatment. The reason
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my Whole Tactics book does so well in terms of getting these girls what they
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thought they could never have, is because I know that women don't generally ask
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for shit, even when they deserve it from a man they love. They
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don't ask for manicures, to get their hair done, or uber money because
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they are so afraid to come off as needy. They will even offer to
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pay half of dinner to prove their independence and shake off the label of a
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gold digger. Men don't mind doing for their women, but girls feel that
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a man should offer because their ego won't allow them to ask first. A
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man likes that a woman won't tell her no if he can afford what she's
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asking for. Yet women hate to hear no, so they keep a closed
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mouth and only wish they could be treated and spoiled, rarely acting on it.
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A sugar daddy that looks good, a trick that doesn't want sex.
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It's reality for some and a dream for others, regardless of where you are
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in terms of finances. Most of the women you come across that out digging
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for gold won't be very good. That's why I call them scammers and not
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hoes, because their hustle is basic and easy to read. For instance,
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one girl wrote me saying she got her phone bill paid and spending money at
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a casino. Now she was trying to level up and get more from her
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mark. I asked her if they had sex. Of course she did.
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See what I mean here? She thought she was the second coming of Black
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China, when in reality she was a low level prostitute fucking for eighty dollars
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phone bill and sixty dollars in slot machine play. I've advised women that have
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gone on to deal with billionaires. I'm talking about multiple women, but the
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learning curve between those level of hose and the scammers that you will run into
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is enormou miss. They just don't have the aptitude and will forever come off
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like a phony hooter's waitress that flirts with you but just wants to take her
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lunch break. Scammer chicks are simple minded girls that think they're smart, so
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you can always use their own lack of intelligence against them. They want a
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quick hustle. They aren't patient for a long con, which makes them sloppy.
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Girls that do credit card scams return merchandise to stores, pyramid schemes and
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the like usually have a shelf life of a year before they get caught because
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they're going for too much too fast. Turn that same mindset loose on a
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man like you, who will come to know the vetting game and not be
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controlled by a quick nut, and they won't last more than a week before
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running away once you see through their weak flirtation. On the other side,
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there will be women who will fuck you for free, thinking that you will
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open your wallet after the fact. In short, these girls are hustling backwards
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and are only savvy enough to play old married men or nerds that are suckers
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for a pretty faced woman telling him he's different. Still, you can't be
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too overconfident in your ability to spot these users, as they will come in
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many forms, with some being better actresses than you're used to Avoidance checklist.
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Pay attention to how quickly a SOB story is thrown at you. Her housing
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situation, her tuition, her car problems, her kids' school clothes, even
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money for photoshoot. If these things are mentioned on a first or second date,
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she's baiting you to feel sorry for her. Once she establishes that she's
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in trouble and has no one else to turn to, she'll ask you with
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the idea that you are the only one that can be her savior. Alternatively,
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she'll hit you up for a favor after writing your dick because she knows
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you'll be in a pussy high. A part of your vetting routine should be
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to ask about her job, not the title, but what she does.
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The same thing goes for her major. If she's enrolled in school, you
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can always sniff out a liar or a woman that has another agenda because she
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won't be able to describe why she works a job or why she has that
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major deeper than the basics. Know what level she's on financially by the life
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story she gives you. The more of a struggling lifestyle she's in, the
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more likely she is to be hard up for money. A bottlegirl that only
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works two nights a week with no help from mommy or daddy, you know
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she's hard up for money. A girl that models but pays for her own
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shoots is hard up for money. That girl you met at the bar who
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tells you she works two jobs is a hard worker, but that doesn't mean
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she doesn't see you as a way out of the struggle. Pull the thread
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of what her daily life consists of, listen to what she asks for,
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and you'll unravel her scam. Sugar baby is a hot term these days,
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but most of these chickens wouldn't know how to work a sugar daddy if their
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life depended on it, because they want the money without giving up the sugar,
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or give up the sugar before even establishing a spending routine. I could
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call out and stay the night if I didn't need the money from work.
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Is what they call being sly. If her sexual teasing comes with a condition
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of you doing something for her, she's a work. Another huge tell sign
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is being overly sexual, then pulling back from going over to your place,
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or having excuses to leave if you two do get alone. Remember, some
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girls aren't looking for condos or cars. They're looking for food and nail money
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so they can go back and tell their friends or rival girls how they're getting
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tricked on and don't even have to fuck for it. Don't be paranoid.
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Don't judge every girl that dresses sexy as if she's a hoe. That's the
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stereotype. The real girls you need to watch for play their cards close to
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the chest in order to set you up later on. Observe what they talk
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about, know where they actually work and live. Test through kissing to see
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if she's sexually attracted to you, and make sure if the lifestyle she's living
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matches up to what she's actually doing for work. Time reveals all the critically
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damaged girl surface traits, pulls you in and pushes you away, extreme daddy
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issues. Oftentimes, a victim of sexual abuse has a skewed view of what
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love means because she's never felt it. Obsesses over a part of her appearance
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that she feels holds her back from being loved a sweetheart, but shifts into
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moods where she becomes insufferable, deeper traits. Some of you have met women
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that are great initially, then the closer you get to them, they begin
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to switch up. She stops calling you, she accuses you of something small
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in order to start a fight. She doesn't show up for scheduled date,
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She gets way too drunk or has a very intense reaction when she smokes weed.
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Not all women who act this way or bipolar, depressed, or suffering
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from some sort of social anxiety. The only thing you can say for certain
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is that they come from a childhood or romantic relationship that has deeply scarred them
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to the point where they are afraid to get close to someone for fear they
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will relive the past. There's a guy I used to hang with who was
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a cupcake. Not to say he was soft, but he was gentle,
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the type of good guy girls claim isn't out there, but is. Cupcake.
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Began to talk to this girl, and for the first two weeks it
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went well. One night he introduced me to her, and the first thing
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I noticed was how shy she was, which was totally different from the funny
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girl he described. She was in his bathroom and the next thing I here
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is a loud crash. He jumps up, thinking she may have fallen.
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Nope, she's in the bathroom, ripping pictures from the wall and tearing the
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shower curtain down. All I hear is take me home. Neither of us
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could understand what went wrong, as we just hung out, ate food and
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watched a movie. Nothing triggering. Years later, I asked what happened to
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the Redecorator, which was my joke name for her. She was now married
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to someone else and would still call Cupcake for advice because the guy she married
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was abusive and unemployed. His exact words were, she said I was too
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happy, and she knew that if she didn't get away from me, she
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would have ruined my life. There are women that don't think they deserve to
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be happy, so they self sabotage and push night skies away so they can
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find a man that reminds them of that past hurt because it's all they know
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how to handle. Avoidance checklist. The first rule of dating will always be
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to learn that other person's life story, not generic bullshit about hobbies and interest,
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but where they came from and how that shaped them critically damage women don't
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want to talk about their father's abuse or any failures, but if you get
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them comfortable and do the work I outline in the coming chapters, it will
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spew out uncontrollably. They want someone to hear them out finally, not to
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pity them, just to understand their hurt, even if they can't offer any
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solution. Start with their family. Usually, these women have more affection for
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their grandparents, and it's because both parents failed them. Listen to how she
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talks about the world at large, no matter who the president is or what
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she's doing for a living. It's eternally pessimistic, as if she can't wait
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for this shit to end. One of the more notable traits is Kulda would
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a should a. She will lean on the what if of her life because
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she feels it's not fair or her fault that she was dealt this hand.
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When it comes to sex, you would think she would be standoffish, but
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these women would rather fuck you than talk to you, because spreading her legs
54:37
has become safer than shedding her soul. When you compliment her parents, she'll
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remind you what's wrong with her body, not take the compliment to heart because
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she refuses to see any good in her. She knows you like her as
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a sexual object and is okay with that, but she refuses to admit that
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you could potentially love her just for being who she is. Look at her
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dating history. If they're all fuck boys, it's not because she's dumb.
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It's who she's used to and comfortable with. You're too nice. You're too
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calm, you're too stable, and that scares the fuck out of a woman
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that doesn't know what a healthy relationship feels like. Settle for more. The
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woman you should avoid won't come with these name tags. They'll come masked behind
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smiles, pretty eyes, hour glass bodies, or even personalities that complement your
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own. Each date you go on, each text you send, each phone
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conversation you have is about exposing a woman's character to see if she's one of
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those seven types. Chapter twenty Couple's Therapy, Saving your relationship. For those
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of you in relationships that are salvageable, it's a long road back to normalcy.
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Promising to talk more, weekly date nights, new sex positions. Sometimes
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those things just grow