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I created so many hurdles when truthfully that really was just
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me being super insecure. I felt if it wasn't
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professional, if it wasn't dialed in, that people wouldn't
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respect me. I wasn't very in tune with
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myself when I started this podcast.
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I think ambition to me was like 7 figures and like high cash
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months and like all this. Like if I could be really
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candid, like surface level shit. A surprise for me was also
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realizing how freeing it is to just be fucking real.
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I am seeing people noticing that like I deserve a break.
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I deserve grace. I deserve support.
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Do you see her? Like, do you see how great she
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is? Do you see what she's possible
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of? I think now ambition to me is
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about the ability for us as women to be in the relentless
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pursuit of our greatness. One of the hardest decisions
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that we can do as women and as entrepreneurs is to take a step
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in something when we don't have the pieces.
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Ambitious or ambition is not something you do.
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It's something you are. It's something that your
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identity is. It's in your being.
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Hello and welcome back to the Ambitious Podcast.
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I cannot believe I'm going to say this, but we have hit 100
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episodes of the Ambitious Podcast and reflecting on that,
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number one, that's crazy. Time flies when you're having
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fun, but I also feel like in celebration of today's episode,
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I want to do something that is not just a typical, you know,
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structure that we always do, not a typical guest episode.
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Today we're going to be riding solo.
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You and I, we're going to be discussing really the reflection
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that I have had on a professional level, personal
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level insights of guests and everything in between when it
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comes to this podcast because this podcast originally was full
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transparency. A strategy move for the
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business, but the beautiful thing about it has been that it
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has allowed me to grow in so many other areas and I've seen a
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lot of transformation and truthfully so many things even
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outside of anything business and strategy wise.
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So today for the episode, I'm going to be going through a
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series of questions that are, you know, partially reflection,
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partially just things that even people have asked me in
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reference to the podcast. And I want to be fully
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transparent. I have no idea what these
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questions are. I literally had them in a doc
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that I have not viewed until this very moment.
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So these are going to be fully unfiltered and fully off the
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cuff. So right now, looking at it,
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they are broken into a couple different core categories.
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So one is the origin of the podcast and the evolution of it.
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We're also going to be talking about some mindset aspects and
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the changes I've seen, some realities of what I have
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witnessed and what I've experienced being behind the
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microphone. The insane, incredible things
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that I've seen in the bucket of our community here with the
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Ambitious Podcast and the amazing people I've been able to
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connect with. And then also just some some
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lessons as well as which I think is the the fun part.
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What is the future of the Ambitious Podcast and the
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Ambitious community? So with all that being said,
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let's get into the episode. OK, so let's start with the
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first category, which is really the origin.
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What made me start the ambitious podcast.
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Well, truthfully, if I'm gonna be really candid, I feel like I
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kept getting feedback from people that they didn't feel
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like my Instagram was a fair representation of who I was and
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like, valid. That's so, that's so valid
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because I I will be, Yeah. I'll be honest.
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I don't love making content like I know that I should for the job
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that I have. I always had hopes that that
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would change in me, but I just don't love it.
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I don't love filming. I don't love making content
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that's short little pieces of content.
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And the ambitious podcast was partially #1A way for me to film
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like a long video where I could kind of just rant and not feel
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like I had to speak in 62nd increments.
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And for me, that style was very helpful because then I could
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chop it into little pieces that were bite size and valuable.
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But that for me was the content strategy side.
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The other side that I think was my, my main objective.
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Sorry if you see me if you're watching this, I am picking for
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anybody who has big dogs. I have two big dogs and I
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literally I find pieces of dog hair like on my lip gloss, like
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in my, my own hair on my face. It's brutal, but I digress.
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Strategy bucket number one was long form chopped into short
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form. That was something that I I
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really wanted because I didn't like creating short form
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content. But the other part of it was
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that I had so many comments from people who would say once they
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met me in person or once they spent some time with me, even
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sometimes in a coaching setting, that they'd be like, oh, man,
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like, you're nothing like your Instagram.
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Like, you're just like more down to earth or you're more heart
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centered or you're more like approachable, whatever it might
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be. And there was this kind of
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description of like a softness when someone got to spend time
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with me that I feel like didn't translate to social media.
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And so I did ask myself, I was like, how do I allow people to
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feel like they know me, not just what I do for people?
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And I found like that, again, it was really hard to create that
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depth and that connection in a 30 to 62nd video.
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And I know that you can do it. It's just not the natural style
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of how I would like to do it. And so I think there was an
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aspect of content creation for sure, but there was also like, I
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just felt really misunderstood. And because I like to mass
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create content and like batch content, I was using photo shoot
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photos and I was using like media from 2-3 weeks earlier.
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And so nothing felt really, yeah, like connected to me as a
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person in a deep way. And so I thought, how do I make
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this make sense from a content perspective for me?
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But then how do I make sure that like I really truly have a space
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to authentically be myself? And this became that place for
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me. And so I would say the first
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couple episodes have ambitious. I'm going to be really honest.
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I was like, I'm a little newscaster over here.
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I'm going to have my little microphone.
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I'm going to have my questions that I ask and I'm going to, you
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know, just facilitate. But what I really discovered was
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like this became me hanging out with you.
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And that was something that I really look forward to and that
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I feel like, you know, you and I get to spend time together while
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you're going on a walk or you're in the car or you're working.
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And I just felt like I got to like hang out with like my
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business girlfriends, if I could put it that way.
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And so then that became what I actually enjoyed about it is
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like pouring into you, sharing insights with you, sharing my
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experiences, experiences of the women in my world with you.
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And over time, while it was strategic initially, it became
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so much more than that to me, which I think truthfully fueled
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why I wanted to pour so much energy into prepping episodes
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and getting specific guests and things like that.
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Because yeah, it, it didn't become a business move anymore.
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It became like this bigger mission and this deeper.
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Why for me, very quickly after the first, I would probably say
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like 10 episodes that we recorded.
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Another question was, do you remember what you were feeling
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before you recorded episode 1? Full transparency, I was pooping
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my pants. Like I was so nervous.
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I was so nervous. I felt like, like I said, I felt
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like I was like a little newscaster and I was sitting
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here being like, hey, like I have to make sure that I speak
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really well and that I look at the camera and that, you know,
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like my posture is good and that I'm not with the Umm's and A's
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and whatever. And I've talked about this
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before, but I, I do feel disappointed in myself that I
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didn't do the podcast earlier because if I had, I would have
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been able to talk to you earlier and I would have been able to
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spend time with you earlier. And, you know, I would have been
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able to craft this amazing community of women earlier.
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And so I kick myself that I didn't do that because getting
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messages from you listening to the episode and saying, hey,
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this landed for me. Or like, I'm going to take this
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quote and go live by it. Or like I've had people who've
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messaged me from the episode and said, hey, this episode, you
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know, had me promote A-Team member, let go of a team member.
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I walked away from a relationship because of this
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episode. And like, I realized I deserve
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better. Like I would have never fathomed
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that that would be possible. But that was all because I just
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was like, OK, let's do the episode.
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Let's just go. And before I recorded, I had
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this big idea that I need this crazy set and I needed this, you
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know, really good camera and all this tech.
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And like, I created so many hurdles when truthfully, that
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really was just me being super insecure.
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If I could be it, be really honest about it.
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It was that I felt if it wasn't professional, if it wasn't
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dialed in, that people wouldn't respect me.
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Or maybe they wouldn't. Yeah, they wouldn't be wowed by
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it. I felt like there would be
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judgment maybe on some level. And so I think I put a lot of
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hurdles before episode 1. And I had a lot of preconceived
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idea of what made an effective podcast, what made a helpful
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podcast. And I actually had somebody who
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reached out to me the other day and it literally brought me to
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tears because she said, you know, Kate, I just want to say
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thanks so much for your podcast because it's literally one of
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the top three podcasts that I listen to.
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And like, for me, when I got that message, I was like, this
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makes me want to just like run through a wall for you.
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Like it really did. It puts so much fire in me to be
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like, how can I better help you? How can I better serve you?
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And so I said to her, you know, what are the things that you
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found helpful? What do you feel like you want
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to learn more of? Like just any feedback that you
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have, like this is a show for you.
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And I would say from the first episode that I recorded, I would
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have never imagined that it could have bloomed into such a
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beautiful connection with so many amazing women.
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And so I think if I had known then what I know now, I would
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have started so much earlier, so much earlier because the the
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blessings that it's brought versus the, you know,
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bottlenecks that I've experienced.
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There's no comparison. Like it's just it's all been
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blessing with the podcast. You know, another question I had
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was, did I have a fear about starting?
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And, and yeah, it was definitely that no one was going to care to
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listen. I was like, how do I make this
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valuable? And do people care?
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And even truthfully now I struggle with that a little bit.
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Like sometimes even this episode, I think to myself, OK,
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are these questions that are going to be valuable to you?
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Are you going to care about these answers?
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Like I always have a little bit of insecurity.
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I think in that way, because my number one metric for my
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business, for my brand is that I want people to feel that when
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they listen to me and when they consume me, that they know that
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they're home, that they have like a space that is really
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about them, that they're not feeling that you you press an
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episode of mine, you feel like you're being sold to the entire
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time. Because I know those podcasts
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all too well. It's like, here's what I did and
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here's what my client this and here's my program and here's my
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framework and here's my whatever.
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And I just never wanted the podcast to be that.
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And so I think one of the things that was my fear starting was
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that it wouldn't be valuable. And I think to an extent, I
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still have that fear today, which is that, you know, I
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always want to make sure that anything that I put out on the
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podcast, I'm not doing just to check the box that I got an
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episode out, but that it really is valuable.
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And so when I first started, the vision for the podcast was the
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fact that I, as I said, wanted to have, you know, shorter form
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content. I wanted to have an ability for
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people to really get to know me. But I think how it's evolved is
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I realized that women need a space to have the holistic view
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of them honored. And when I first started, I
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didn't know if I wanted it to be a business podcast.
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Did I want to be like a women's podcast?
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Like what did what did I want it to be?
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And I, I feel like I really struggle with that because I
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didn't know. And I think over time it now,
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the vision of it has changed because I realized, yes, you
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know, obviously, you know, I love to talk strategy.
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I love a good framework. I love a good structure, but I
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think that, you know, as time progresses and the more women I
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meet with, the more women that I coach, the more women I see it
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like our dinners or our retreats and the deep conversations that
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we have. I realized like we are so multi
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dimensional. We have so much that impacts our
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business. And so while I definitely want
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to lead in the business aspect, our trauma impacts our business,
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our physical body and our, you know, hormones impact our
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business, our worries about having a family and growing our
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family, starting a family and our age and like what is the
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right time to do that? That impacts the way that we
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look at our business, how we grow our business, our
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relationships impact our business.
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So when I started to think about I'm going to teach strategy, I
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felt like it wasn't an honor to us as women and the reality of
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how much we navigate and how much our lives and the other
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aspects outside of strategy influence our ability to grow a
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business. And so one of the things that I
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think has changed is initially I wanted it to be a business
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podcast. And I realized over time that I
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wasn't actually honoring women in business by only talking
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about business because if I did, it meant that there was a lot of
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things that they weren't being seen in.
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And so I found even for myself when I was a business owner, I
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would have like 1 podcast I listened to for strategy.
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I'd have another one I listened to for personal development,
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another one that I listened to for like physical health.
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And I literally sat there. I'm like, what about like the
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one place where someone feels like at home, they kind of get
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all the flavors of what they need.
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And so now to talk to an expert about paid advertising and then
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talk to someone about, you know, the realities of fertility and
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then talk to someone else about understanding how to reprogram
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our subconscious. Like all of those are the the
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tools, the conversations, the insights that can be really
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helpful to us as women. And so I'm just excited to kind
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of see and expand that vision and see where it can go.
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There was a question as well. When did you realize that the
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show is becoming something really real?
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And I truthfully like getting messages from someone who
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listens to it or like seeing people share that they're
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listening to it on their stories initially was like confusing for
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me. And that's going to sound really
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weird, but like, I sometimes forget that people are listening
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to this. Like I sometimes forget that
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you're tuning in every week. And like, thank you if you do
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for like you OG listeners, you know who you are.
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Thank you. Because I again, I think I just
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had this belief of like, is anyone going to find this
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valuable? Is this going to be helpful for
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people? And so then to see this like,
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you know, kind of confirmation of like, I put this out into the
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world and it's being received was so OK.
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Whoa, like there's something happening here.
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And having conversations with people about, you know, oh, we
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should do like a merch line of like ambitious.
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I was like, whoa, like this is it really just kind of started
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to take a life of its own. And I realized that there's a
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big difference between content and community.
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That's what I learned is that, you know, I am not like a Mel
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Robbins exposure at the moment. And the reason I say at the
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moment is the girl can manifest OK, but I'm not a Mel Robbins
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exposure at the moment. But I have like the most die
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hard community connected to ambitious and the most amazing
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women who listen to this and who I connect with every single
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week. And so I because of that, I'm
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like, this is as real now as I think it ever will be because I
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with every message, every share all of that, it was like, wow,
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this is something that is not just content for people.
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This is actually a taste of a catalyst of change in a certain
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area of their life. And so I thought there's a
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responsibility that comes with that.
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And so as a result, that's when I really started to take the
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podcast a lot more serious. What surprised me, which is the
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question, what surprised me most about podcasting, I think how
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vulnerable it is. Truthfully, I think it's really
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easy in podcasting to hide behind a structure or hide
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behind notes. And you may even have felt this
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if you've listened to multiple different episodes.
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You can tell when I'm speaking organically and you can tell
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when I'm trying to say the right thing.
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And I've even noticed that about myself, like seeing, I audit
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some of my own episodes. I will watch some of them back
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to like kind of see as a consumer, how does it feel when
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I'm on a walk to listen to it? How does it feel when I'm in the
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car to listen to it? And also when I'm watching it,
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does it feel stimulating all of that.
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So I, I kind of audit myself at times to see like how can I
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improve? And I, I did notice that about
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myself, which is that when I speak more organically, it lands
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more from me listening to it. And so one of the things that
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surprised me about podcasting is really that like it's a very
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vulnerable place. Like when you think about the
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setup of a podcast. I'm here currently as I record
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this in my basement of my house, you know, in my little studio
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that I made from purchases off of Amazon.
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And you know, I, I sit here and I kind of just open up and share
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with you each week. And originally I again, trying
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to go strategy heavy, like business podcast, business
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podcast. I really did think that I could
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just hide behind strategies. And I realized that there was
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this like feedback loop. The more vulnerable that I was,
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the more connected I was to what I was talking about, the better
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it was received and the more feedback that I got from people.
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So like when I was more authentic, when I shared more,
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when I was more real, I got more like this really landed for me.
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This episode changed everything. Like this gave me insight on X
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and then when I went surface level and when I went, you know,
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just like steps and things like that and didn't have any of that
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connection piece, it wasn't as well received in the sense that
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there wasn't a lot of feedback coming back.
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So as a result, when you have that loop happen of like the
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more vulnerable I am, the more or the more real I am, I should
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say, the more feedback I get, you kind of start to have this,
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this pull that's like stretchiness toward being more
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real to toward being more vulnerable.
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But truthfully, it's a very exposing feeling.
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It's a very, it's a very vulnerable feeling.
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There's many things that I've shared on this podcast over the
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various episodes and I've wondered, is that too much or
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should I have said that or, you know, should I be, you know,
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sharing this experience or mentioning the thing that I did?
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And a surprise for me was also realizing how freeing it is to
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just be fucking real. Like, if I could put it that
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way, Like I just some of the things that I've shared, like
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the episode that I shared, how I was feeling and like the real
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ways that I was navigating leaving an engagement.
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Like, I don't even think you understand how much making that
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episode for you and sharing my insights and lessons from that,
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like healed me. And your messages from that
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episode healed me because it was the first time that I was like,
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I don't want to have this facade of like, I'm fine and I'm a boss
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babe and I'm handling it. And I was like, guys, I'm
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unglued. Like I just was really honest
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and I was really transparent and that there was such like a
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beautiful weight that got lifted off of me when I did that.
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And I felt so, so held, so safe, so supported by the amazing
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women who reached out and were like, hey, like this episode was
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everything for me. And they shared their
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experiences and relationships. And it was like this beautiful
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healing moment as women. But all of that was started from
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the first kind of ripping of the Band-Aid, if you will, of me
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being vulnerable. And so I think what I'm
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surprised with the podcast is how much it really causes you to
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open up. There's something almost like a
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journal in a way. Like when I sit here and I
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record, I find that I'm really with myself.
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Like there's no, there's no feedback here.
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So I'm like, does that land for you?
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I don't know. Like I don't know till weeks,
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sometimes months later whether the thing that I said lands for
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you. So it's difficult because it's
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like you're sat with yourself and in the moment when you're
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recording, it's like journaling. You're just like in your words,
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in your thoughts, in your feelings.
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And so I think over time, it kind of cracks you open, if I'm
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going to be honest, because you start to get more and more
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comfortable. And with that, you start to want
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to just be more robbed, more transparent, more shares.
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And it surprised me because I'm not previous this podcast and
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I've gotten messages from you saying the same thing.
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You're like, I remember your OG like episode 5 and how you
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showed up. And then I can see how you show
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up now and like I have had some of you witness and literally
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watch my growth week to week in the way that I change how I show
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up. And that's been part of this
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podcast. It's been part of you.
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It's been part of your recommendations, your questions,
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your feedback and the incredible guests and all of it.
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So I'm really surprised on how much this podcast has cracked me
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open, to be honest. Now, if we shift a little bit
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into more of like the mindset bucket here of like the personal
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growth of mindset questions, the first one being what does
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ambition mean to you? Now?
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I think ambition when I started was very, I wasn't very in tune
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with myself when I started this podcast.
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So because of that, I think ambition to me was like 7
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figures and like hi cash months and like all this, like if I
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could be really candid, like surface level shit.
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And I think that I just, I hate the word bot.
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Like there's the phrase boss babe.
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But I think that that's kind of indirectly what at the time I
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was going for, I was kind of like, OK, you know, hit these
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milestones and like, you know, making sales and marketing and
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all this stuff. And I remember thinking that
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that was like I made it. And I think now I would say
21:51
ambition is about as women being in the relentless pursuit of our
21:57
greatness, because I think the aspect of relentless pursuit is
22:04
important because I don't like the idea that we're done.
22:08
I don't like the idea of like, I hit 100K month, boom, I made it.
22:10
I'm, I have a 7 figure business, boom, I made it.
22:13
And I also to the aspect of our greatness.
22:17
I think that I really have come to appreciate the different
22:22
flavors of greatness that women have.
22:24
I have a team member who edits this podcast.
22:27
She'll she'll know that I'm speaking to her and it's going
22:32
to make me emotional seeing her in her greatness, running her
22:39
business while she was pregnant and super nauseous.
22:43
I remember being on Zooms with her and her being like super
22:46
quick while I go throw up and seeing the way that she
22:52
navigated becoming a mom and the way that she navigates
22:56
motherhood now in being in business and allowing herself to
23:00
evolve in her identity and to just achieve so much greatness
23:07
as a woman, as a partner to her husband, as a mom.
23:13
Like to just like from the moment I met her years ago when,
23:17
you know, we were at a very different stage for both of us
23:21
in our life and in our business to see the person that she's
23:23
become now. And, and the way that she's just
23:27
tapped into her, her full greatness of being an incredible
23:31
entrepreneur and, and managing so much.
23:33
There's so many times like, I don't know how she's doing it.
23:35
I don't know how she's doing it. And she just does it with so
23:37
much grace and she does it with, with just like the softness and
23:41
a smile on her face the entire time.
23:43
And she just handles it. And I thought, you know, I don't
23:47
think that the person who makes X amount per year is more great
23:53
than her. And so I think that the idea of
23:58
ambition is often like this. We're chasing X and this idea of
24:03
destination. And I think what I've come to
24:06
appreciate is like the relentless pursuit, like she was
24:09
in constant seeking of discovery of the new version of her,
24:12
whether conscious or not. And she was evolving and tapping
24:16
into just like new levels of greatness for her.
24:19
And you know, as I said, as a partner, as a mom, as a business
24:22
owner, as a leader for her business.
24:25
And when I saw that, when I witnessed her in this evolution,
24:31
it was really profound for me because it made me realize that
24:34
like as women, we give ourselves boxes of what it means to be
24:40
ambitious. And especially for women who are
24:46
moms and who have families, I think many of us just discredit
24:51
the true power in that and the true ability to be a mom and to
24:55
be a business owner. And I'm not saying that you
24:57
don't have ambition if you're not a mom.
24:59
I'm not a mom. But I think I've just realized
25:03
there's different flavors of ambition.
25:04
There's different flavors of goals, there's different flavors
25:07
of achievements. And I think all too often as
25:10
women, we kind of get given this prescription of what it means to
25:15
be ambitious. And it means that you're like in
25:18
some aspects of, of business, you're like rocking Blazers and
25:21
you're like at these like crazy photo shoots and all of that.
25:24
And like, yeah, sure, that's one flavor.
25:26
You're, you might do stages, you might be like a public speaker
25:29
and an author and all that. But like, if you're not doing
25:31
that, that doesn't mean that you're not ambitious.
25:34
And I think that for me, ambitious has been.
25:36
So watching her redefine my experience and my witnessing of
25:42
ambition and it made me really re evaluate what it being
25:44
ambitious means to me. So I think if I could define it
25:47
now and truthfully, I just came up with that last 30 seconds,
25:51
that quote, but it really is that's what it comes from the
25:53
heart truthfully is just the relentless pursuit of our
25:58
greatness. And I think the most important
26:01
aspect of that is what that greatness means to you.
26:03
And only you know that. And so it's are you relentlessly
26:07
pursuing what you define to be your greatness?
26:11
And that's ambition to me. It's a long winded answer, but
26:13
that's the truth. What's a belief about success
26:16
that you've completely outgrown that you can't be messy and make
26:22
progress. Like I, I never shared so many
26:27
things because I thought it made me less legit.
26:30
I thought it made me less inspiring less, I don't know,
26:35
less of a leader. Maybe I would put it like, I
26:37
think success for me was always to be perfect.
26:41
And it was to, like have the answers and have it handled and
26:44
to have, you know, everything squared away.
26:47
And I realized that success is not about numbers.
26:50
It's not about perfection. It's not about there never being
26:53
a problem. It's actually the opposite.
26:56
It's about honoring the mess and acknowledging the problem and
26:59
acknowledging the progress and acknowledging the lack of
27:02
perfection. I think about it like this, like
27:04
when you're a leader and you say to someone trust me, they don't
27:08
trust you because you tell them to trust you.
27:11
They trust you because there's moments when things have not
27:14
been going well and you go, hey guys, I know things are not
27:16
going well. I want to be honest with you.
27:17
They're not going the way that I thought it would go or I had a
27:19
plan that this was going to be the outcome.
27:20
I know that that didn't happen and I'm sorry because I know we
27:23
put a lot of effort into it. But here's what I'm thinking for
27:26
next steps to pivot it. Like I realized there was a lot
27:29
of opportunities that showed me that true success is about being
27:36
your true self within business and in every bucket in your
27:41
marketing, in in sales, with your team, with your clients.
27:44
And that cracked me open in the last like year and a half
27:47
because success to me now is not really about a number.
27:52
Like there's obviously numbers and targets and goals and
27:54
milestones that I want to go for just as much as the next person.
27:58
But I'm like, I'm not going to have my identity tied to this
28:01
number. I'm going to have it tied to the
28:03
way that I show up. And for me, that becomes my
28:07
success metric now, which is my barometer for success is
28:11
directly linked to my daily, weekly, monthly behavior, not
28:16
the achievement of the things. Like if I could give you an
28:19
analogy, it's not about you if your target is $100,000 a year
28:23
or $100,000 a month. It's not about like, oh, I hit
28:27
that because if you hit 99,000, you're still an incredible
28:30
entrepreneur, whether that's per year or per month.
28:33
It's about how did you show up yesterday and how did you show
28:36
up last week and how did you show up the last month in your
28:40
business, in your life, in your relationships.
28:42
And I think that that really, if that's congruent to the kind of
28:47
person you want to be and the kind of results you want in your
28:49
life, you are on your way to the results that you're wanting.
28:53
And whether that achievement, IE that North Star has happened yet
28:58
is not the defining factor of whether you're successful.
29:01
It is the, again, the pursuit. That's I think the main anchor
29:04
word here is like the pursuit of the success, not the achievement
29:07
of the yes or no. I did it.
29:08
And so I think that that's an important factor because I
29:12
always tell people, if you show me what you do, I'll tell you
29:15
your goal. So if I ask someone, show me
29:18
your schedule, show me what you how you eat each day, show me
29:22
you know how you move your body. Show me how you interact with
29:25
your partner. That's going to tell me
29:27
everything I need to know about you.
29:28
It's going to tell me everything I need to know about your
29:30
business, everything I need to know about your health,
29:33
everything I need to know about your relationship because those
29:36
are the true indicators of where you're going.
29:39
If you cancel every date night you've ever had, that's a pretty
29:43
clear indicator of where we're probably going to end up going
29:45
as a couple. If I ask you to do something and
29:48
every single time you've got an excuse and you're inconsistent
29:50
today, this week, this month, I can pretty much tell you where
29:53
you're going to end up in business.
29:55
So I think the the behaviors of the now are really the thing
29:59
that creates the success down the road.
30:02
So success to me is much less now about a destination and a
30:05
milestone as it is the monitoring of the pursuit and
30:09
behaviors that we're doing today, today, this week, this
30:13
month in an effort to get there. And I think that's important
30:17
because, you know, I had the classic experience that some do,
30:20
which is the fact that I went for this big target and it felt
30:23
like I didn't evolve in the process, even though I hit the
30:26
target. So like, I did stuff, I made
30:30
things happen, but I didn't really, like evaluate who I was
30:32
becoming or how I was behaving in the pursuit of that goal.
30:35
And I really wish that I had done that.
30:37
What's the biggest mindset shift that you've made in the last 100
30:40
episodes? That's like a stretchy one for
30:45
me. That to me is I have a couple
30:49
things that come up. I'm just going to go from the
30:51
heart. What is the biggest mindset
30:52
shift that you've made in the last 100 episodes?
30:54
I would say my biggest mindset shift is that my problems in my
31:02
life are my pathway to the progress I desire.
31:07
I've had a good amount of problems.
31:09
What I mean by that is like resistances that have happened
31:11
in the last year and a half, two years.
31:14
And I think my perspective around those problems and
31:18
resistances has changed greatly. And as a result of that, it's
31:22
allowed me to make more progress.
31:25
And I think when I started this podcast, I had a different
31:30
relationship with problems. I'd get frustrated by them, I
31:34
would be annoyed by them, I'd be stretched, stressed out by them.
31:37
But now I'm like, OK, like what's the pathway of
31:39
opportunity here? What's the pathway of growth
31:41
here? What's the pathway for progress
31:42
for me here? And I think that that was a big,
31:46
a big aha moment for me because my relationship to problems
31:49
changed. And as a result, my progress in
31:51
those areas that I was experiencing the resistance
31:53
changed. So I would say my relationship
31:56
in the correlation between problems and my progress was a
31:59
big shift mindset wise for me. What's been the hardest part of
32:03
staying true to your voice? I think knowing if it would be
32:07
liked. I think I, I've realized in this
32:10
that I, I, just as much as the next person have a desire to be
32:14
accepted. I have a desire to be liked.
32:16
I have a desire to, to say the right thing or make sure it
32:19
lands. And I've caught myself in
32:21
moments, you know, wondering if what I really want to say is
32:25
going to land for someone. And I think for the beginning,
32:28
like the 1st 15 episodes, I played it very safe.
32:30
I was saying like very neutral things.
32:32
Didn't want to be too controversial, didn't want to
32:34
say anything too spicy because I thought, you know, I don't want
32:38
to like, ruffle any feathers. But then I realized by saying
32:41
nothing, I'm not doing anything. Like I'm just this like neutral
32:44
middle ground, you know, Gray area individual.
32:50
And I think there's an opportunity for all of us when
32:54
we think about how to honor our voices.
32:55
Like what's the thing that you're afraid to say or that you
32:58
haven't said? Or what's the thing you know to
33:01
be true that you haven't spoken to?
33:03
What's the thing that you fear? If you said it out loud, you'd
33:07
be disliked. And I challenge myself now on
33:10
what those are and to speak to those because the thing that
33:14
creates the most impact is truth.
33:18
And I think that sometimes truth is uncomfortable for people to
33:22
receive. So as a result, we're not always
33:25
the one who's excited to jump to say it.
33:27
But over time, I've realized my voice has gotten stronger
33:30
because the more that I speak truth for me and kind of release
33:35
the idea of what that looks like or how that's received, the more
33:39
authentic I am, the more real I am.
33:41
And so the more I can kind of, you know, fall asleep at night
33:45
and be OK with myself when I feel like something was not
33:49
spoken or I feel like something was not said, I feel out of
33:53
alignment all day because I realized that like, this is
33:56
stuck in me. I need to share this.
33:58
I need to say this. And again, once I do, it's
34:00
really the only time that I'm actually showing up as me.
34:03
So I think to stay true to your voice is also part of tuning out
34:08
the noise. I think one of the the best
34:10
things I learned is like the reason you can't hear what's
34:13
true for you is because you're being drowned out by all this
34:16
other noise. I don't really consume online.
34:19
I don't really get stuck in these chambers of noise.
34:24
And that's because if I do, it's a slippery slope for me.
34:27
If I feel like I have so and so in my ear and I listen to, you
34:31
know, someone else's video that shows up and that person's now
34:34
in my mind, that does cloud my ability to say what do I think?
34:37
And I've noticed recently that when I remove the stimuli from
34:42
my environment, I'm so clear on who I am and what I want.
34:47
The only thing that clouds who I am, what do I want, what do I
34:51
believe? Is this really aggressive or
34:54
loud or intense or consistent outside stimuli?
34:59
And so I noticed that when I struggled to have my voice or to
35:03
know my voice, it often came from the fact that I just had
35:06
too much of that. So anytime I isolated and got
35:08
silent, I started to get clear. So I think that that's also
35:12
something that I would just recommend to you.
35:13
If you feel that you sometimes struggle to know who you are or
35:16
to show up the way that you want to, or to say the thing that you
35:18
know to be true. There could be an invitation for
35:21
you to start to have some more silence, some more space to sit
35:24
with yourself so you can turn up that volume of you as a result
35:28
of turning down the volume of others.
35:30
How do you keep showing up when motivation dips?
35:34
I'm not I well, first I realized that I'm not going to be
35:36
motivated. So I recognize that there's many
35:40
times, many, many times, but I do not want to do a podcast.
35:44
There's like in the in the moment, I'm like, I don't want
35:46
to record this. I don't feel like it.
35:48
I don't feel like talking. I don't feel like, you know,
35:51
doing my hair, like I don't feel like doing this right now.
35:54
But when I start to press record and I start talking, every
36:00
single time I feel like let's go, like I, I, I feel excited to
36:03
record, I feel excited to share. So I think part of it is like
36:07
sometimes we kind of create this like what I consider to be
36:11
catastrophizing. Like we make things up to be so,
36:13
so difficult, so intense, so overwhelming in our head.
36:15
And then when you go to do them, you go, oh, OK, that wasn't that
36:17
bad. So I think there's that portion
36:20
which I recognize that like my brain is doing mental gymnastics
36:23
before I actually press go. So to be cognizant of that, I
36:28
think truthfully, a thing that does help me as well is
36:32
realizing that this is also not just about me.
36:36
When I got a message from someone that says, I literally
36:39
wait for every Thursday episode to come out.
36:42
I, I literally have had moments where I had a moment of weakness
36:46
and I was like, well, if we skip an episode, it's not a big deal.
36:48
But then I think about like, you know, Sarah, who listens and is
36:51
like, where's the episode this week, right?
36:53
And just kind of feeling like I let somebody down and I realized
36:57
that I, I don't want to ever feel like this is about me.
37:02
And I think that every time that I'm like, I don't feel like
37:04
doing like this and I don't feel like that it's like this is not
37:06
about me. And so I think there's many
37:08
instances in our life that that's the case, right?
37:10
That you want to ask yourself, what is it really about when
37:13
you're not motivated? And when I'm not motivated for
37:17
something, when I anchor into the actual why of why I'm doing
37:21
the thing that I don't want to do, it helps me to get moving.
37:24
Because when I make it about the small little thing in front of
37:27
me, like it's not, this is not about, oh, I don't feel like
37:30
recording today. This is about you not recording
37:35
is you showing yourself that you can't push through how you feel.
37:40
It's you giving yourself evidence that you're not
37:42
consistent. It's the ability to have what
37:46
you made as a promise to someone else that you're not fulfilling.
37:50
Like there's there's depth to I don't want to.
37:54
So I then tell myself if I'm going to say I'm going to skip a
37:58
week, I have to be fully committed to accepting all those
38:03
truths alongside the truth of I don't want to record.
38:07
And when I have that conversation with myself, I
38:10
never don't record. And that's because again,
38:13
there's a deeper why there's a deeper connection there.
38:15
OK, Section 3 behind the mic. What has been your favorite
38:21
episode to record and why? I think I mentioned it earlier,
38:24
but I think that there was a couple episodes that were more
38:27
relationship driven, mindset driven.
38:29
That was like the first time that I was really actually
38:31
vulnerable. And I would literally remember
38:32
messaging some of the team members being like, I don't know
38:35
about this episode. Please let me know what you
38:37
think. Please let me know if this lands
38:38
for you because I was so scared. I was so scared.
38:41
Full transparency, I was freaking out because I don't do,
38:45
I don't, I haven't. I should reuse my wording here.
38:48
NLP language. In the past, I wasn't great with
38:52
vulnerability and so when I'd be vulnerable, it would make me
38:55
very uncomfortable. But then again, when you get
38:59
that feedback that it resonates with people, you start to
39:02
realize, OK, wow, like there actually is a value in this,
39:05
this share. It's not just about sharing it,
39:06
share it to like dump on people. It's to help people.
39:11
And so I think that the episode being able to talk about some of
39:16
those vulnerable things, to be able to share some of the stuff
39:18
that I've gone through, to be able to speak to how it impacted
39:21
me as a business owner. It kind of was like this, like
39:24
Band-Aid, this like ripping of, of a Band-Aid of creating relief
39:27
because it showed me that like, Oh, I can breathe.
39:30
I don't feel like I have to show up as, as this person that I'm
39:32
not right now or to show up. Oh, I feel great when I don't
39:36
feel great. Like I think that that was, it
39:39
was such an aspect of relief for me because it allowed me to just
39:43
truly deeply be authentic and it was a really powerful shift in
39:48
me, in my life, not even just in the show.
39:50
What episode stretched you the most as a host?
39:57
I wouldn't actually say that there is an episode that has
40:00
stretched me because I feel like if something is stretchy I
40:05
typically will like kind of like combat, the guest kind of thing.
40:08
I wouldn't say that there's something that has stretched me
40:10
as a host. Which episode completely changed
40:14
the way that you think? I truthfully would say the
40:19
episode that I did with George, which I highly recommend that
40:22
everybody go listen to. I think it's a really valuable
40:24
conversation that I actually want to do a Part 2 of.
40:26
At some point we had a masculine, feminine discussion
40:29
about masculine and feminine energy.
40:31
And I think that that really solidified.
40:34
I wouldn't say it changed the way I think because I was
40:35
already kind of starting to see some momentum in that shift of
40:37
thinking. But I think that that episode
40:40
really solidified for me the understanding of like the true
40:45
depth of how masculine and feminine energy impact women in
40:48
business. Because I think sometimes we
40:51
don't give maybe like enough credit to one or the other.
40:56
So like if you're super and you're feminine, you're always
40:58
in flow and like you're not, you're kind of anti structure.
41:00
You don't love strategy, you know, being too far on that side
41:03
is really detrimental to your business, as well as being too
41:07
far in the side of like in your masculine.
41:09
We really need that duality. And I think that that
41:11
conversation and where that went was really impactful because
41:16
that was something that I think was kind of reflecting my own
41:22
growth back to me at that time. But it also was something that I
41:26
think solidified my beliefs around, OK, this is the way that
41:29
I do want to do business with this kind of duality of both
41:31
these energies at the same time. What was your biggest podcast
41:35
fail? So I did have an episode
41:39
actually with somebody that I was really excited to interview.
41:43
It was a naturopath episode. And anyway, we had a great time.
41:46
And then I go into the footage and and realize that her
41:50
microphone was like not like I. Could hear her when I was
41:55
recording. But it was just like not
41:56
connected afterwards when we got the episode.
41:59
And so the entire episode was awash.
42:01
And so I think that that was unfortunate.
42:06
That really sucked. And I think there's obviously
42:08
been like small things along the way.
42:09
Like there's, you know, times where I've been like, like I had
42:13
like false lashes or something on and it was like falling off
42:16
and like flailing in the wind the entire, the entire episode.
42:20
And so I'm like, wow, what you gonna do?
42:21
We just got a 321, you know, put it out.
42:23
Anyway, it's progress over perfection.
42:25
So there's definitely been some stuff along the way.
42:27
Maybe you haven't noticed, but like I definitely noticed.
42:29
Like I have something on my face, right?
42:31
Something in my teeth or my eyelash was falling off or
42:34
whatever. But you know what?
42:35
At the end of the day, I'm just like 321 put it out and we'll
42:38
just we'll keep attention to that for next time.
42:41
What's something no one sees about the podcast process?
42:44
I think two sides. I think the prep and the post
42:48
production. I think the prep.
42:50
The prep is not like I don't just sit here.
42:52
Typically this is a structure obviously for today's episode,
42:54
but most episodes like I am researching what topics would be
42:58
most helpful for you? I am crafting notes, pulling
43:01
information, making frameworks, stats, helping you to really
43:05
anchor into what we're talking about.
43:07
So I think that there's a lot of prep typically of one to two
43:09
hours that can go into a given episode even before pressing
43:13
record. Usually the episode itself is
43:16
also an hour and then yeah, the post production.
43:19
I full transparency, we have an amazing team that helps to take
43:24
this episode from the moment I press, you know, stop recording
43:27
and get this out to people, whether it's to edit the
43:29
episode, chop it into clip, show notes, caption, social media,
43:34
stats, analytics, like all of that.
43:36
Like there's such an incredible team that makes this post
43:39
production go out. And so I think that it can be
43:41
really, it can be really easy to see that on social or to see
43:44
that and be like, oh, like, cool, I want to have a podcast,
43:47
but you know, podcasts. I, I would not have this podcast
43:51
if I had to do it on my own. Full transparency, what the
43:53
reality was in my business when I added this in the sense of the
43:55
experience of, you know, how busy I was and all of that to
43:59
think about, you know, drafting the episodes, getting the
44:02
guests, recording, prepping post production, like posting it all
44:07
like it just yeah, it it, it really is something that truly
44:10
is possible and is going as well as it is because of the amazing
44:14
people that we have behind the screen that are also making it
44:17
happen. Have you ever wanted to quit and
44:20
what made you stay? I have wanted to quit, actually.
44:28
There's definitely been times where I've thought about
44:30
quitting the podcast. Not my best times.
44:33
Tell you that typically. Moments where I'm super, super
44:35
stressed out and I think about like my schedule's really busy
44:38
or I'm navigating something personally.
44:39
And then I think about, oh, I need an episode for this week.
44:42
And I'm like, and I feel stretched in those moments.
44:45
But when you have a podcast, this is not a short term play,
44:48
which basically means that the, the growth, the exposure, the,
44:53
you know, community, all of the amazing things that come with a
44:56
podcast are not going to happen in your first 20 episodes.
45:02
They're not going to happen in your first 50 episodes.
45:04
They're not going to happen in your first, sometimes even 100
45:06
episodes. I think it was a diary of Aceo
45:08
post recently that like it took him multiple years before his
45:11
podcast actually started to take off.
45:13
And so I think one of the things I recognize when I feel like
45:18
quitting is that I am quitting before it could be great.
45:23
And I'm not willing to do that. So I think to myself, you know,
45:26
what if the difference of this podcast being everything you
45:29
want it to be is in the next 10 episodes or in the next 5
45:33
episodes or in the next single episode.
45:35
What if the difference of this episode and guest is the
45:37
difference of this podcast being everything you dreamed of to be?
45:40
And are you really willing to, because of this week or the, the
45:44
overwhelm you're feeling or the tiredness you're having or
45:46
whatever, really ready to throw that down the drain in this
45:49
moment? Like, are you really truly
45:51
stepping into and confident to say yes to that?
45:54
And I realize I'm just not. So every time that I have these
45:56
moments of weakness where I want to give up or when I want to,
45:59
you know, just say it's not convenient for me this week,
46:02
It's not because I don't want the podcast has nothing to do
46:04
with that. I think it's typically centered
46:06
around the fact that I feel like in the moment, I don't have a
46:08
lot of capacity. And so, you know, because the
46:12
podcast is not for most businesses like an instant ROI
46:15
or like an instant, like we post this, we get 8 leads kind of
46:18
thing. There's a lot of lack of
46:20
dopamine associated with it. So like when you go to create
46:23
it, you're not getting an instant feedback loop of like,
46:26
oh, sales, money, revenue, right?
46:28
Like there's an aspect of podcasts for sure.
46:30
That is an aspect of investment. It's kind of like if you think
46:33
about building your investment portfolio, when you invest,
46:36
you're not trying to invest in the stock market to take out all
46:38
your stocks three months later. You're investing so that 30
46:41
years down the road, you have a portfolio that's really helpful
46:45
for you. Well, the same thing is true
46:47
with podcasting. It is a investment into
46:50
yourself, into your brand, into your community, into your
46:53
people. And you're not going to see the
46:55
dopamine of it and you're not going to see these big quick
46:57
wins from it the way that you would with other typical
47:00
marketing channels. But that doesn't mean that it's
47:02
a reason to not do it because as I said, if you think about some
47:05
of the biggest podcasts, you know, like Diary of a CEO, his
47:09
podcast is massive now it has 17,000,000 monthly listeners.
47:13
Well, that happened because he didn't quit.
47:15
So the same thing is kind of my perspective when it comes to my
47:18
show. It's not easy.
47:20
And because that, again, you're consistent without the dopamine.
47:24
So I think that that for anybody who has a podcast who's able to
47:27
do that, I really deeply respect that because it's it's not an
47:30
easy thing to do, but it impacts so many people.
47:32
How do you prep or ground yourself before recording?
47:36
I realize every episode I kind of start like not intentionally,
47:40
it's not like something I created like a Google Doc, but I
47:43
kind of start every episode with like it's about them, it's about
47:48
them, it's about them, it's about them.
47:51
And I do that because I think that there's a, a tendency often
47:56
times in marketing for marketing.
47:58
What I mean by marketing is really any platform where you're
48:00
talking to people for your brand, it can be a really easy
48:04
thing to make it very selfish to have everything that you start
48:06
to talk about be like, look at me and more about me.
48:09
And here's a story about me. And here's like me, me, me, me,
48:11
me. And I don't know that that
48:16
really helps anybody. Like I think that stories can be
48:19
impactful. I think that stories can be
48:20
supportive, but I never wanted this to be like the Kate
48:25
Perkovic show. Like that was never my goal with
48:28
it, which is why I also, by the way, did not name it the Kate
48:31
Perkovic Show because I just, I didn't want it to be about me.
48:34
It wasn't actually about me. It was about like being a
48:37
channel, a, you know, middleman to bring value to the person who
48:41
needed it. I ground myself typically in
48:45
each episode by remembering like it's about them.
48:47
It's about it being valuable. And anytime that I feel like I'm
48:50
getting too much involved into talking about me, I typically
48:53
recenter because is I sometimes will use stories of me to help
48:59
anchor in a thought, but I never want that to be the basis of the
49:02
majority of an episode by any means.
49:05
OK, so let's go into community. What is something you want
49:11
people to feel after listening to an episode?
49:13
I would say that the natural answer that's honest for me
49:16
right now is to feel served. I would want people to feel that
49:22
that was something that they walked away with an aspect of
49:24
clarity, that they walked away with an insight, they walked
49:28
away with a framework, they walked away with education, they
49:30
walked away with a perspective shift.
49:32
I would always want anyone who presses play on any episode to
49:36
feel served in some capacity. And I think for me, if that
49:39
feeling I knew was consistent for most listeners, that to me
49:43
is like to find success of the show.
49:45
How has your audience evolved alongside you?
49:50
I have seen growth in you actually, because I do talk to
49:54
many of you each week. I get incredible messages.
49:56
So I want to thank you. By the way, for anyone who
49:58
reaches out after any episode, Some people reach out, You know,
50:02
this episode landed for me. Love this episode plays episode
50:04
today. So I I get feedback on that.
50:06
But I think ultimately what I've noticed is that a lot of the
50:13
women who listen to ambitious are very driven.
50:18
They are women that are navigating a lot.
50:21
So you may have a lot of hats that you wear.
50:24
You may have had a lot of trauma that's happened to you in the
50:27
last year, 2 years. You may have experienced some
50:30
trials and some things that were really painful.
50:33
You could be relationship. We've had women who have are in
50:37
the process of divorce, who've become divorced.
50:40
We've had women who have become, you know, first time moms.
50:43
We've also had people who have gone through multiple rounds of
50:47
IVF and we've had women who have experienced miscarriages, people
50:53
who have had partners who've lost their jobs, some of which
50:57
who've lost their homes due to different circumstances.
51:00
And there's just been a lot of heaviness that people have had
51:03
to handle. And one of the.
51:06
Things that I have. Watched of the people that have
51:09
reached out to me is the grace for their next step after so I
51:17
think many of us have felt the shift in business.
51:19
Things have changed this year. You are still trying to grow
51:21
your business, but you're also wearing all these hats.
51:23
All these things are happening at the same time and you go man.
51:25
I am just feeling like capped feeling at my top of capacity
51:29
here. What I've noticed is that I
51:32
think a lot more women are waking up and I think a lot of
51:34
them that listen to the show maybe in yourself included are
51:38
having this awareness of like I'm incredible.
51:42
I am so strong. I am seeing people noticing
51:47
that, like I deserve a break, I deserve grace, I deserve
51:50
support, I deserve a moment for myself.
51:54
I'm seeing women take their power back from not letting the
51:59
outside influences tell them what ambition is, or tell them
52:02
what goals are or tell them what achievement is.
52:05
I'm seeing women demand more integrity and more honesty and
52:12
to know what their truth is and to ask that truth of those
52:14
around them, whether that's in a business setting or in a
52:17
relationship or any of that. And I think more than ever, I
52:22
see that women desire what is next for them in the sense of
52:27
that. Many women who listen to
52:29
Ambitious are not. They're not settlers.
52:32
They're not people who are like yourself, maybe looking to be
52:36
like, I'm done. And this is not from a place of
52:38
ego. It's from a place of you have
52:42
this pursuit and this desire to unlock this next version of you
52:48
and this next version of your life and the next reality.
52:52
And there's also kind of alongside that, this theme of
52:55
like reinvention that you're open to reinventing yourself for
52:59
whatever is meant to be for this next chapter of your life.
53:02
And so it's been really exciting to see.
53:04
Yeah, it really goes back to, again, you know, the definition
53:07
of ambition, which is the relentless pursuit of your
53:10
greatness. And I think that that definition
53:14
is something I witnessed in women.
53:16
The more that they listen to this show.
53:18
And it's not because of me. I want to make that very clear.
53:20
We have incredible guests who give insight.
53:22
And there's, you know, even stories we tell that help you to
53:26
find something in yourself. And I think one of the best
53:28
things I learned in coaching is that coaching is not telling
53:30
someone who they are. It's helping them to discover
53:32
who they were to begin with and. That is really how.
53:37
I think about what we talk about here.
53:38
I don't feel that I'm the reason for your growth.
53:41
I think what I do is I act as a mirror.
53:44
And so my job is to hold this mirror and say, do you see her?
53:48
Like do you see how great she is?
53:49
Do you see what she's possible of?
53:51
Do you see what she's experienced?
53:52
Do you see how in pain she is? Do you see how incredible she
53:56
is? Like my job is to be a mirror
54:00
for you. And so the growth you have is
54:03
not because of me. The growth you have is because
54:07
I'm holding the mirror and I'm just the source of where the
54:09
mirror comes from. There's other mirrors you could
54:12
go to, there's other podcasts you could go to, there's other
54:13
coaching you could go to. You might even have people in
54:16
your life for a mirror for you. But this show, if you've felt
54:20
that your life or something has changed or you've gotten an
54:22
insight from it is not because of what I tell you or a guest
54:26
tells you. It's because the guests we have
54:28
or the things I share are acting as a mirror.
54:31
And So what I've noticed is the more women who look in the
54:35
mirror, the more they grow, which is like the women who are
54:38
like, I took this and I integrated it and I took this
54:40
and I integrated it. And like I did this in my
54:42
relationship and I did this within my health.
54:44
When we start to have that mirror more consistent in front
54:49
of you, you're seeing more of yourself in little bits and
54:52
pieces every single time you TuneIn.
54:55
And so that's really how I think about what I'm doing.
54:57
And also what I'm seeing with people who listen is that they
55:00
are taking a more conscious look, a more intentional effort
55:03
to look in the mirror and say, what do I need to see within
55:06
myself to honor in myself, to overcome within myself for that
55:10
again, next level of my greatness in the pursuit of
55:14
achieving my greatness. What does it mean to you to
55:18
create a space for ambitious women?
55:20
The only answer I can say that is everything because I always
55:25
felt I had to. Choose.
55:26
That's how I would say. It I always felt like I had to
55:28
choose. I had to choose to learn
55:29
strategy or I had to choose to be in my feminine or I had to
55:34
choose to, you know, have this person to talk to me about
55:37
relationships. And kind of like I talked about
55:38
earlier, like I just want there to be a room where all of it is
55:41
welcome. And I think for me, it's so
55:45
deeply aligned and so deep within my purpose to have that
55:49
space for us to have all of those conversations.
55:51
Nothing is off the table. And I think that that's
55:54
important for us as women that we don't feel like we have to
55:56
compartmentalize, that we get to be whole in this space.
56:00
And so for me, it means everything.
56:02
It's an honor to have someone listen.
56:05
It's an honor to have someone download a show.
56:08
It's an honor to have you share this with someone that, you
56:10
know, like, that's to me, it fills my bucket in a way that I
56:16
cannot even describe because it really is just the yeah, it's
56:20
it's such a massive, massive compliment and a massive
56:24
responsibility to me to have this space.
56:26
So I do take it very intentionally.
56:28
And it just it the only thing I can say is it means everything.
56:30
It means everything to me. OK, last section here.
56:34
What is a piece of advice that you no longer agree with?
56:41
I think something I believed. Originally is that the, the
56:45
experience of your pain must match the experience of your
56:48
healing. And I don't agree with that.
56:52
I don't think that the, the, the resistance you feel in business
56:55
has to match the intensity of how much it's going to take you
56:58
to come back from this. I don't think that the pain of a
57:01
relationship ending or not working out has to be correlated
57:06
to like, oh, this grind, I'm going to have to heal.
57:09
I don't think the resistance you experience must match the
57:12
healing of that resistance. So I think that that's something
57:15
that I originally I associated like the, the depth of the
57:18
problem is going to match the depth of overcoming it, which
57:22
are not two things that I correlate to be true anymore.
57:24
So I think that that's something that I would say I don't agree
57:26
with What's been the boldest and most uncomfortable decision so
57:30
far. That's stretchy for me.
57:37
I would say reinventing myself a year and a half, two years ago
57:41
just. Makes me want to take a deep
57:45
breath because. To reinvent.
57:48
Yourself. Is to have faith in the next
57:53
version of possibility without any proof that that's possible
57:57
just yet. And when I left my engagement
58:00
and my relationship and started over, never lived alone for the
58:05
first time, you know, I was alone.
58:08
I was healing. I was trying to navigate
58:10
business and like I was doing a lot of personal development.
58:12
So my identity was changing. My relationship has changed.
58:15
My living experience had changed.
58:17
I had, you know, my two dogs now that I had to handle on my own.
58:20
And I was just like, oh, like I just felt stretched.
58:23
Everything around me felt like the walls were caving in and I
58:27
had nothing to anchor into of like, what is this new life
58:29
going to look like? Like I had no clarity of here's
58:32
how it's going to all come together, right?
58:34
Like it was just, it was just, yeah, I had just a feeling of,
58:38
of my possibility for myself and what I could see from my
58:41
potential. And I think the hardest decision
58:44
for many women is to move and take action in the pursuit again
58:51
of your greatness or the pursuit of what's possible for you
58:54
without really knowing all the steps.
58:56
Like I said to my therapist when everything happened, I feel like
59:00
if you think about like a stone pathway into a forest, I feel
59:04
like I've got 2 stones that I can see.
59:06
The rest is covered by fog. I know that there are quote UN
59:10
quote stones there where they are.
59:13
Don't know how far are they spaced between them?
59:15
Don't know is there stuff covering them like ice and you
59:19
know, rocks don't know. Like there was so many unknown
59:24
things and it was so like, physically, emotionally,
59:28
mentally terrifying. And I had someone close to me
59:34
this year or in the last year who left a relationship and
59:40
watching her basically right after me navigate a similar
59:46
situation of stepping into her possibility and potential
59:51
without having it all fared out yet and watching her do it.
59:58
And again with so much grace. It really showed me that I think
1:00:03
one of the hardest decisions that we can do as women and as
1:00:06
entrepreneurs is to take a step in something when we don't have
1:00:10
the pieces. And many of us did this when we
1:00:12
started to create our businesses, right?
1:00:15
We started the business. We had no idea where it's going
1:00:17
to go. I had no idea that I'd be
1:00:19
sitting here recording this talking to you and that I would
1:00:21
have a multiple 7 figure business and all this stuff.
1:00:23
I had never visioned any of this, but obviously here we are.
1:00:28
And so I think one of the things that's been really beautiful is
1:00:31
just to see people take action without the plan in front of
1:00:36
them. And for me, that was the most
1:00:39
bold thing to do. And I would have never, I don't
1:00:43
know where I got the strength to do that, where I got the
1:00:44
clarity, the conviction to do that.
1:00:46
Couldn't tell you. But it was so uncomfortable,
1:00:50
like so uncomfortable. And that is because it caused me
1:00:55
to only have faith in, you know, truthfully for myself, me or
1:01:01
God, like it really was, I'm with me, it's just me.
1:01:06
And I have to have faith that like, I'm going to be good.
1:01:09
And it doesn't matter what bucket that's in.
1:01:11
It doesn't have to be relationships, but I think
1:01:13
there's a massive boldness that comes with that.
1:01:15
There's a lot of discomfort that comes with that.
1:01:17
And when you only have you to rely on, it can be powerful, but
1:01:22
it also can be terrifying because you just don't know
1:01:24
what's going to happen. So I think that that's what I I
1:01:27
would say to that. What do you want for?
1:01:30
Ambitious in. The 100 episodes from now so
1:01:33
this will be a cool clip to come back to I hope.
1:01:38
That 100 episodes. From now, I am even more evolved
1:01:44
as a person that I am now for you so that I can have a new
1:01:49
level of awareness as the delivery mechanism of
1:01:52
information to bring you even more insight and value and
1:01:57
takeaways. I hope that I become a better
1:01:59
facilitator. I would say is one thing.
1:02:02
Two, my deepest hope is to grow this community and not from a
1:02:07
just numbers perspective, but from a allowing women who feel
1:02:11
lost to feel like they found a place to be would be my number
1:02:15
one desire in that bucket. And I think more than anything,
1:02:20
my goal would be 100 episodes from now that you grow alongside
1:02:26
me. Because I think that my hope
1:02:30
would be that if you've listened to 200 episodes or something
1:02:33
within that, that you also 100 episodes from now have become
1:02:38
somebody different. And that you have a different
1:02:40
level of awareness. You have a different level of
1:02:42
insight that allows you to step into a version of yourself that
1:02:46
you're not right now. And so I would also hope that
1:02:50
the tools we provide can help you to unlock some aspect of
1:02:54
your ambition in the process as well.
1:02:58
And the last question is, if your audience remembers 1
1:03:00
message from Ambitious, what do you hope it is?
1:03:04
It sounds silly, but I end every episode with, as always, stay
1:03:09
ambitious. And I think, you know, it's like
1:03:12
kind of like a catchy, I would say, marketing line that we had
1:03:15
originally. But now when I think about it, I
1:03:19
see it as like a way of living. Stay ambitious.
1:03:25
Stay. Is different.
1:03:28
Than become because the goal. Of the word stay.
1:03:32
Is that you already are there, so you already have achieved
1:03:36
ambition and it basically. Is when I say that.
1:03:40
My intention around it is to remain within ambition.
1:03:43
So if we go back to what our definition was today, ambition
1:03:46
is defined in my what I mean by it when I say ambitious or
1:03:49
ambition to me is defined by the endless pursuit of your
1:03:54
greatness. So if I was to break that down,
1:03:59
my hope for you with Ambitious is that you stay, you always
1:04:05
stay in the relentless pursuit of your greatness and I.
1:04:12
Think it's an easy? Reminder because there's times
1:04:16
where we get knocked off of that.
1:04:18
There's times where we feel like we don't have it to be in the
1:04:20
pursuit of greatness today or that we feel like we're done.
1:04:23
We've achieved this, like checked the box, right?
1:04:25
So the stay as I see it is to be anchored into that relentless
1:04:31
pursuit of your greatness and to have it as a way of being.
1:04:34
Have it a way as a way of living, have it as an identity
1:04:38
for yourself. It's not something you do, it's
1:04:40
something that you are. OK.
1:04:43
So you are always in relentless pursuit of your greatness as a
1:04:47
person. It's not like this week I'm
1:04:50
going to pursue my greatness. It's like it's an identity.
1:04:53
And I think that for me, what I'd want you to take away from
1:04:56
ambitious is ambitious or ambition is not something you
1:05:01
do. It's something you are.
1:05:03
It's something that your your identity is.
1:05:06
It's in your being. So I would ask to look at where
1:05:11
am I trying to do ambition versus how can I be ambition?
1:05:17
And that's again because doing is associated with completion.
1:05:21
Being is a state of reinvention. It's a state of, it's a state of
1:05:25
being. It's a state that you bring to
1:05:28
each thing that you touch, which is why it impacts you as a mom,
1:05:32
you as a partner, you as a friend, you as you know, in your
1:05:35
health, in your own personal development, in your business
1:05:38
with your team, with your clients.
1:05:39
Like it's this constant thing. And that's because it's
1:05:42
something you carry. It's a, it's something that
1:05:44
you're bringing into every situation in front of you.
1:05:47
And so if I could leave you with anything, it is to remember that
1:05:51
it is a state of being and it is not something that you do.
1:05:54
So 100 episodes, that's kind of crazy.
1:05:58
It's a big milestone and I'm very excited for when we do a 2
1:06:02
point O of this episode at 200 episodes and 300 episodes and
1:06:05
400 episodes. I just want to say more than
1:06:08
anything to close off today, a massive thank you.
1:06:10
There are a lot of podcasts on the Internet that you could
1:06:12
listen to. There's a lot of shows that you
1:06:14
can tune into and to have those of you who tune into this every
1:06:18
single week to listen to myself, to the guest, to, you know, take
1:06:22
the time out of your day to shoot us messages, to share your
1:06:24
insights and your feedback. I want you to know that every
1:06:27
single one of you and if you are listening to this are
1:06:29
appreciated. And so I just want to say thank
1:06:32
you because none of what we're doing would be possible without
1:06:35
you. None of what we will do one day
1:06:37
is possible without you. And so I just want to say a
1:06:40
massive thank you more than anything.
1:06:42
And with that being said, we will see you on the next
1:06:45
episode. And as always, stay ambitious.
1:06:49
Thank you.