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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Beware of the Comparison Trap · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdler's Emily popping in with another installment of five
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  Speaker 1: Minute Friday. You know the drill now telling you a story,
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  Speaker 1: offering you a thought prompt to bring you in to
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  Speaker 1: the weekend, and then sharing some cool stuff, some highlights
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  Speaker 1: from the week, what I'm listening to, what I'm reading,
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  Speaker 1: and perhaps some cool initiatives that I just think you
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  Speaker 1: need to check out a SAP this week. I'm kind
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  Speaker 1: of in my feelings, to be honest, my birthday is
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  Speaker 1: coming up. It's next Tuesday, June second. Shout out to
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  Speaker 1: any other geminis that might be listening to this, And
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  Speaker 1: I think as we can all relate that when a
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  Speaker 1: birthday comes, you start to reflect, right, You think about
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  Speaker 1: the past three hundred and sixty five days, You think
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  Speaker 1: about the next three hundred and sixty five days, and
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  Speaker 1: then of course you just think about everything that's going
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  Speaker 1: on in your life.
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  Speaker 2: And It's funny, when I.
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  Speaker 1: Hit thirty, I didn't necessarily feel super stressed. I think
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people get to thirty and they have
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  Speaker 1: this profound moment where they think about where they thought
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  Speaker 1: that they would be at thirty, and what's happening and
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  Speaker 1: what's not happening, and to be honest, I didn't really
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  Speaker 1: feel a lot of that, but saying that on Tuesday
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  Speaker 1: I turn thirty two just gives me, I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: it makes me feel some kind of way. I actually
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  Speaker 1: just the other day one of my dearest friends his
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  Speaker 1: birthday is on May twenty seventh. Then I said to
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  Speaker 1: him as I was walking up Second Avenue on my
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  Speaker 1: morning walk, I said, Tom, can you believe that we've
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  Speaker 1: known each other for almost twenty years? I have known
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  Speaker 1: him for more than half of my life, and that's
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  Speaker 1: just crazy. Anyway, I digress. So I the other day
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  Speaker 1: was standing in my bathroom getting ready to go to
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  Speaker 1: bed and brushing my teeth. I looked in the mirror
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  Speaker 1: and I feel like sometimes when something upsets you like
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  Speaker 1: it kind of you feel it bubbling up, you know
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  Speaker 1: it's coming, You're like about to get emotional.
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  Speaker 2: You get emotional, and it's like a whole progression.
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  Speaker 1: But I literally looked in the mirror and just had
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  Speaker 1: out of nowhere. It felt like this moment where I
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  Speaker 1: thought to myself, your mom had you at thirty two,
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  Speaker 1: and I got like visibly upset, which was just so
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  Speaker 1: again unexpected and a little overwhelming, and I had this
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  Speaker 1: moment where it really built up inside of me and
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  Speaker 1: I felt it in my chest, and I walked over
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  Speaker 1: to my bed and I sat down and sure, for
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  Speaker 1: like maybe a solid minute, I just thought about this
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  Speaker 1: idea of being a woman at thirty two and being
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  Speaker 1: married and having my second child, which is not happening,
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  Speaker 1: but that's what happened to my mom. And then like
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  Speaker 1: and my next breath, I kind of kind of exhaled
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  Speaker 1: all of that out, and I was sitting there and
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  Speaker 1: I just thought, that's not what's happening for you. You are
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  Speaker 1: not having a child at thirty two. I will call
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  Speaker 1: that right now, and you know what, that's okay. And
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  Speaker 1: after I let out that exhale and I kind of
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  Speaker 1: wrangled my feelings, so to speak, I immediately got to
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  Speaker 1: be really proud because I flipped this script and start
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  Speaker 1: to think of all of the things that have happened
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  Speaker 1: in the past thirty two years. I ended last week's
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  Speaker 1: Five Minute Friday by sharing the quote that's on my
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  Speaker 1: wall that says, remember when you wanted what you have now,
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  Speaker 1: And that's so true when I take a second to
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  Speaker 1: reflect on I mean, just even the last year Nevertheless,
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  Speaker 1: you know the thirty that happened before that. I am
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  Speaker 1: so blessed with what my life has brought me, with
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  Speaker 1: all of the experiences that I've had. I mean, aside
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  Speaker 1: from fast facts, running eight May Marathon, successfully going to college,
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  Speaker 1: getting my first job in New York City, living in
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  Speaker 1: New York City.
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  Speaker 2: On my own.
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  Speaker 1: I mean every day when I sit in this one
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  Speaker 1: bedroom apartment that I successfully pay for month in and
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  Speaker 1: month out, it blows my mind that I have managed
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  Speaker 1: to on my own be able to have this lifestyle.
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  Speaker 1: I think about, you know, the work that I've done personally,
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  Speaker 1: whether that's with the help of my therapist or just
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  Speaker 1: on my own and journaling. I think about hurdle, I
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  Speaker 1: think about all of you. I think about the little
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  Speaker 1: things like getting up in the morning and believing enough
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  Speaker 1: in myself and knowing that I am worthy of my
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  Speaker 1: own investment to go out for something as simple as
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  Speaker 1: a run. There are so many things big and small
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  Speaker 1: that I have accomplished over the past thirty one years.
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  Speaker 1: And just because I am not where someone else is
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  Speaker 1: in their life right now doesn't mean that what I
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  Speaker 1: have accomplished is any less great.
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  Speaker 2: And that is a fact.
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  Speaker 1: So for anyone else that can identify with this, that
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  Speaker 1: can relate with this comparison trap that wonders if maybe
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  Speaker 1: they're good enough. I just want to tell you that
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  Speaker 1: you're good enough.
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  Speaker 2: We're all good.
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  Speaker 1: Enough, and it's normal to have these feelings. But I
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  Speaker 1: think that what's most important is to take a step
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  Speaker 1: back and recognize that we all have our own accomplishments,
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  Speaker 1: and those accomplishments, these everyday feats, they make us great.
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  Speaker 1: So my prompt for you this week, what is something
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  Speaker 1: that you've done in the past month that makes you proud?
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  Speaker 2: Again?
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  Speaker 1: What is something that you've done in the past month
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  Speaker 1: that makes you proud? All Right, highlights of the week,
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  Speaker 1: And as you know, all of these links to everything
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  Speaker 1: I mentioned can be found in the description to this
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  Speaker 1: episode in the show notes.
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  Speaker 2: All right, let's see here. First things.
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  Speaker 1: First, Track Smith, as you heard about in Monday's episode
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  Speaker 1: with their CEO and co founder Matt Taylor, Track Smith
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  Speaker 1: is teaming up with us flu of other brands including Whoop,
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  Speaker 1: Hyper Ice, Rocca, and so many more for what they're
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  Speaker 1: calling the Perfect Mile, which is a global virtual run
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  Speaker 1: to raise money for those helping to fight COVID nineteen.
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  Speaker 1: So registration for the Perfect Mile. It opened on the
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  Speaker 1: twenty sixth. The event is going through this weekend on
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  Speaker 1: May thirty first, at eleven fifty pm Eastern Standard time.
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  Speaker 1: It's a fifteen dollars sign up fee for the virtual run,
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  Speaker 1: and once you pay up, participants get a digital race
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  Speaker 1: pack which has a ton of discounts to all the
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  Speaker 1: participating brands, as well as a commemorative digital sticker that
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  Speaker 1: can be shared on social and so much more. Again,
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  Speaker 1: one hundred percent of the proceeds raised from the Perfect
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  Speaker 1: Mile will be donated to support the United Nations Foundations
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  Speaker 1: COVID nineteen Solidary Response Fund for the World Health Organization.
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  Speaker 1: Another thing to check out a dear friend of mine,
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  Speaker 1: such a sweetheart, Cassie short Sleeve. She just launched Deer Sunday,
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  Speaker 1: which is an online platform offering real pregnancy, postpartum and
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  Speaker 1: new mother guidance.
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  Speaker 2: She is a.
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  Speaker 1: Super smart veteran journalist and after having her daughter, who's
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  Speaker 1: named Sunday, last year, she basically realized that she just
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  Speaker 1: wanted a lot of information that she didn't have great
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  Speaker 1: access to and that is where her new baby, Deer
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  Speaker 1: Sunday comes in. So Deer Sunday offers pregnancy e guides, wemtars,
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  Speaker 1: prenatal coaching services, and so much more. And to celebrate
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  Speaker 1: the launch, Cassie's encouraging woman to share a photo of
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  Speaker 1: their motherhood experience to Instagram using the hashtag dear mom
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  Speaker 1: to be and tagging their Instagram which is at Deer
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  Speaker 1: Sunday Motherhood.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm super stoked for her.
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  Speaker 1: Encourage all the mama hurdlers to give this one a look,
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  Speaker 1: another opportunity to give back. Two of my friends, Nadav
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  Speaker 1: and Kenny, we met a few years ago doing CrossFit
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  Speaker 1: at Brick in Midtil, Manhattan.
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  Speaker 2: That feels like so long ago. God.
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  Speaker 1: Anyway, just last year they launched their own group fitness
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  Speaker 1: studio here in New York called Rogata, And as you
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  Speaker 1: can imagine, and they're.
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  Speaker 2: Having a little bit of a hard time.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's a hard time to be a studio
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  Speaker 1: owner here when you can't open up your space to
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  Speaker 1: fitness people. And so they are trying to save their
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  Speaker 1: studio in the wake of the coronavirus pandemic, and they
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  Speaker 1: are stepping up and trying to raise money. So beginning
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  Speaker 1: tomorrow Saturday, May thirtieth, and they'll be attempting a series
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  Speaker 1: of increasingly difficult challenges with the hope of raising awareness
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  Speaker 1: and money for ROGATA. Tomorrow, they're kicking it off with
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  Speaker 1: one thousand berbies each streaming it to their YouTube channel,
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  Speaker 1: Facebook Live, Instagram Live, and a zoom because why not?
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  Speaker 1: So check it out. Support their cause give a few bucks.
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  Speaker 1: I know that they would greatly appreciate. These guys have
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  Speaker 1: the best hearts. Next highlight, as someone who knows what
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  Speaker 1: it is like to be on the injured list, I
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  Speaker 1: love this next thing. I'm bringing to you from Custom
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  Speaker 1: and coaching and recovery, and they are offering pay what
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  Speaker 1: super helpful. I mean, I don't know a single runner
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  Speaker 1: or athlete or just individual that couldn't benefit from this.
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  Speaker 1: They've also got a news service called I Believe Fresh Start,
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  Speaker 1: which is made especially for runners who want advice and
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  Speaker 1: direction on where to go next right now, which a
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  Speaker 1: lot of us do. If your local to New York,
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  Speaker 1: The Custom Performance Studio itself is opening back up on
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  Speaker 1: gu fifteenth for hands on care and they are offering
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  Speaker 1: fifty percent off services, which is a crazy deal if
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  Speaker 1: info on that, you can email info at ny custompt
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  Speaker 1: of course the'll link for that is in the show notes.
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  Speaker 1: I am really digging this company called Ellsworth and Ivy.
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  Speaker 2: It was sent into me from a hurdler.
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  Speaker 1: They are selling a super cute We're in This Together
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  Speaker 1: sweater and seventy percent of all proceeds from the urchase
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  Speaker 1: on this sweater we'll be going to Feeding America's Coronavirus
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  Speaker 1: Response Fund. So click on into the show notes, grab
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  Speaker 1: yourself a sweater, do some good to win in my
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  Speaker 1: book last highlight for you if you haven't checked it
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  Speaker 1: out yet. This week, I'm on tinam Yours Running for
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  Speaker 1: Real Podcasts. I'm so appreciative to her for having me
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  Speaker 1: on the show, and so amped about all of the
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  Speaker 1: Running for Real podcast listeners that are coming over to
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  Speaker 1: the Hurdle feed and giving me a listen. So welcome
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  Speaker 1: to the community. I hope you stay a while. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I just ran a marathon in like eight
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  Speaker 1: minutes time. Thank you as always at Emily Abadi at
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  Speaker 1: Hurdle Podcast. I'm always available for you over email. It's
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  Speaker 1: Emily at hurdle dot us. And this week I am
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  Speaker 1: leaving you off with another quote from Dina Caster's book
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  Speaker 1: let Your Mind Run.
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  Speaker 2: I had my.
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  Speaker 1: Book club discussion on this last night and it's feeling
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  Speaker 1: close to my heart right now. The quote is your
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  Speaker 1: inner strength is where you gain a real advantage. Another
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  Speaker 1: hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.