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Season 4 - Episode 50 - Working with unresolved challenges · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happen to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the Coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. So today we're talking about
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  unresolved emotions between each other situations, whatever you
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  want to be, it's an unresolved spot in your life.
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  And oftentimes these unresolved issues just kind of niggle away
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  at us. They just poke, poke, poke,
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  poke, poke and give us these little feelings, these little
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  twinges of knowing they are unresolved.
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  And they show up in our head. And sometimes they'll show up
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  often. Sometimes they show up only when
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  there's triggers, something. You'll hear a song, you'll see
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  something, but you know, it's been a, it's been a hot moment
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  and the issue is still unresolved.
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  And you feel that you should have had it resolved, like
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  something should have done this. And you start to should all over
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  yourself, which is the worst thing that you could do.
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  No shooting on yourself at all. Because if you haven't cleared
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  it up, if the situation hasn't resolved itself somehow, there
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  is a reason. So some things to consider in
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  this, and this is not about having resolution today in this
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  podcast. What it's about is having
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  awareness in this podcast for it.
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  So often times we shut ourselves off from the past because we
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  don't have an answer. So we're just like, I'm going to
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  turn my head, I'm going to go the other direction and I'm not
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  going to pay attention to it. But then we get the trigger and
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  something happens and it could be a day later, a week later, a
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  month later, a year later, 10 years later, it doesn't matter.
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  But when it shows up, we have to make sure that we are asking new
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  questions or pertinent questions or different questions than we
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  did the first time that we could not resolve it.
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  So think of it this way, as emotions ebb and flow and they
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  go back and forth. Oftentimes we will look back at
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  a situation and we still have the eyes of the person that we
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  were then, except we're not that person now.
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  We're a completely different person now.
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  So if we keep asking the same question that we asked, then it
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  pulls us back to that identity of ourselves, which is hard.
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  It's really hard because you don't want to go back because
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  you're not that person. And, and by the end of this
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  podcast, I will not be the same person I was when I started it.
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  There's a constant evolution of us that's moving forward.
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  And that phrase you're either growing or dying is kind of
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  true. It's, I mean, it's definitely
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  true. You're, you're, when you're
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  stagnating, you're starting that dying process.
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  So there is, there is a part of me that constantly says, and,
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  and maybe this is just because I am very wired to be a mass
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  inquisitor. My curiosity is off the chart
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  and because of that I have a lot of different questions that I
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  come up with and sometimes the questions are perfect for
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  something and sometimes they suck and I have to constantly
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  curate the right question for the situation.
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  I was working on this last night with a client where we were
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  talking about different questions that we could ask
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  ourselves in lots of situations that need to be resolved from
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  the past for this person. And you can't resolve something
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  from the past with that involved other people if those other
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  people are not willing and able to talk about it with you or
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  incapable because something happened and maybe they passed.
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  So we have to start asking ourselves better questions in
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  the present to be able to move through something.
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  So again, and all doing this while being patient, which is
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  the dreaded word, be patient. Don't push yourself into a
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  position where you're just like, I got to know right now.
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  Because quite honestly, the more you pause and the more you
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  ponder something, you start to read between the lines.
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  You start to look at other people's conditions, where they
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  were, what they may have been thinking.
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  You start to open up yourself to believing something different
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  may have been involved. And then the whole thing is not
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  so harsh, it's not so hard. It's not.
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  So it doesn't RIP you apart the same way because you're more on
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  the curious side than you are on the judgment side.
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  You're more capable of taking in different perspectives of
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  things. But but when we get into these
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  situations, which is the point of today's podcast, when we get
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  into this, we have to make sure that we are coming at it from a
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  very different perspective. And we have to push ourselves
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  every time to get past the perspective we already ran
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  because that one is very available to us and we will
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  stick with it. But we can't, we have to say,
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  Nope, I'm going to look at this in a completely different way.
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  I'm going to change the questions.
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  I'm going to give myself maybe some really curious deeper
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  questions. I'm going to give myself some
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  patient questions. I'm going to give myself some
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  caring questions, loving questions, whatever it might be.
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  Label your questions, chunk them down, and you know it makes all
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  the difference when you start giving the heading to the
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  question and then start finding the questions in that way.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.