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Guard Your Heart: Biblical Relationship Boundaries, Discernment & God’s Design for Love · Girl, Date the Good Guy ™ | Healing After Heartbreak & A Toxic Relationship

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  Hey sis, welcome to Girl Date the Good Guy podcast, the space where we strip
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  away the noise and get real about toxic cycles, healing, and stepping into the love God has for us.
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  I'm your host, Emily Jordan, and I've been where you are, heartbroken,
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  confused, and chasing love that didn't come.
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  Hey sis, welcome back. I am so excited to have you here with me today and I
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  just thank you for being in this space with me.
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  Today's episode is close to my heart because I'm sharing something real.
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  Parts of my own journey of heartbreak, healing, and finally realizing why discernment
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  and God's design for love are everything.
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  I'll be honest with you, I was not following God's path when it came to my relationships.
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  I never asked him about my marriages. I didn't pray about who I dated.
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  I wore my heart on my sleeve when God clearly tells us to guard it.
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  Proverbs 4.23 says, Above all else, guard your heart for everything you do flows from it.
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  And sis, I wasn't guarding mine.
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  I was handing it over carelessly, and it cost me everything.
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  It took my last marriage and season of flings to finally open my eyes.
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  That's when I understood why discernment is essential and why Christian dating
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  is more fulfilling than any fleeting romance.
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  Because all of that other stuff, the situationships, the rushed marriages,
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  the men who were never assigned to us, that's nothing but a setup for heartbreak.
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  And whether we admit it or not, heartbreak leaves us feeling downright confused and unworthy.
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  We waste years, sometimes decades, investing in relationships that were never God's plan.
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  And the tears, the pain, the brokenness, it lingers long after the relationship ends.
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  But here's the truth. Breaking toxic cycles doesn't start with finding the right
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  guy. It starts with healing.
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  It starts with forgiving yourself, offering yourself grace, and letting God
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  restore what was broken.
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  As Psalm 147.3 reminds us, God heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
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  That means he sees your pain, sis, and wants to restore you.
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  For a whole decade, I walked this out. I embraced celibacy, leaned into my healing
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  seasons, and learned to trust God as my brother, my father, and my closest friend.
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  I had to overcome loneliness. I had to let go of that constant need for validation from men.
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  And little by little, God healed me from the hurts of my past.
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  What I learned in that season is this. God never designed for us for counterfeit
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  love. He intended for us to be loved, respected, and honored,
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  like a garden, where the gardener tends it well. We thrive.
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  If that's not what you're getting in your relationship, sis,
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  it might be time to pluck some weeds yourself.
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  When I launched this podcast, I made a vow. I would share my truth,
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  because I know I'm not the only one who's been through this.
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  So many women are tired of settling, tired of being mistreated,
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  tired of confusing attention for love. and I knew if I could use my story to
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  help another woman win, it was worth it.
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  Because let's be real, who doesn't want a beautiful love story?
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  But here's the key. It has to be God's story.
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  His design for love is more fulfilling than any romance you could ever have.
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  In 1 Corinthians 13, 4-7, it says, Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy.
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  It does not boast. It is not proud.
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  It does not dishonor others. It is not self-seeking.
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  It is not easily angered. it keeps no
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  record of wrongs love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth it
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  always protects always trusts always hopes and always perseveres and at the
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  end of the day don't you want a relationship that looks like this one that's
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  built the way god intended.
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  That's where the real love story begins if this resonated with you today i want
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  you to take a moment and reflect.
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  Are you leaning into healing and trusting God in the meantime?
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  Or are you just hustling for love that was never meant for you?
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  God's way is always worth the wait. So if you're ready to stop the cycles,
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  lean into healing, and prepare for the kind of love story God designed for you,
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  then stay connected right here.
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  Share this episode with a friend who needs this reminder today.
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  And remember, God's best for you is always better than the best you could ever choose for yourself.
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  And I want to say that again, God's best for you is always better than the best
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  you could choose for yourself.
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  Thank you for tuning in to Girl Date the Good Guy. Until next time,
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  keep your heart soft, your standards high, and your faith even higher.