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You never recover from a death · Scott & Ally on Demand

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SPEAKER_01: Before we jump over very quickly and uh we cover what uh may not be exactly like Karen 7 Eleven here in the Heights, but uh you said it it it rings around the idea of that.
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SPEAKER_01: I have to spend just a second on something.
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SPEAKER_01: We were w a secondary topic that came out of why Scott's rooting for the uh Nor'easter to rip up the East Coast is well, that's more money back in Tiffany's pocket because that's more of the ocean's calling festival that we'd be at right now.
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SPEAKER_01: Canceled and money back.
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SPEAKER_01: And you know what?
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SPEAKER_01: I love it for this reason, because I'm a firm believer, Ticketmaster who makes you resell through their site has an algorithm where if you, Allie Payne, want to sell, resell because I don't know, something happened like your bond died.
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SPEAKER_01: Well, it buries you.
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SPEAKER_00: Well, especially because if there's tickets left to be purchased through them, of course they want to sell their tickets, get their extra fees first.
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SPEAKER_00: They want those more expensive tickets.
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SPEAKER_00: That's why they bury your your ticket.
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SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
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SPEAKER_01: So, you know, now she was down to the regular price, couldn't unload these things, was gonna be out a few hundred dollars.
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SPEAKER_01: I mean, not that it's a fortune all the way around, but it's it's enough.
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SPEAKER_00: But a couple hundred bucks, you know what I could do with a couple hundred bucks.
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SPEAKER_01: Secondary topic, and and she got a refund for yesterday because it was canceled.
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SPEAKER_01: We're expecting today, too, because that thing's not getting any nicer on the East Coast.
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SPEAKER_00: I said four to six inches of rain.
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SPEAKER_01: And if that was snow, forget it.
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SPEAKER_01: You wouldn't see New York, that'd be the top of the Empire State Building.
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SPEAKER_00: Just picturing you, Gavin and Liddy on the beach, well, you in one of those chairs, sunscreen on, just downpouring on you.
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SPEAKER_01: Like, that'd be it.
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SPEAKER_00: Uh-huh.
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SPEAKER_01: So too bad nananana boo-boo worked around you, Ticketmaster, and uh just canceled the event, and uh, we're getting the money back.
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SPEAKER_01: So anywho, yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: The secondary topic that came out of that, because this is surrounding the fact we canceled the trip that because Tiffany's mom had passed about a month ago, and it just didn't feel right to go right now.
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SPEAKER_01: And we kind of got into, you know, discussing how that loss never totally leaves you.
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SPEAKER_01: I can speak from experience 30 years after losing losing both my parents, a year apart from each other, by the way.
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SPEAKER_01: So both were gone that long ago.
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SPEAKER_01: It softens the blow softens, but there always is a little piece there that, and sometimes it'll trigger I'll be doing something in the kitchen and I'll uh start bawling.
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SPEAKER_01: I'll start thinking of my mom, you know.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, or I've I did a a repair that I didn't have to call my friend Terry to come over and bail me out of, and I'll think of my dad, handy guy that he was.
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SPEAKER_01: Yep.
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SPEAKER_01: Didn't exactly pass that down on me.
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SPEAKER_01: And some text had come in on this.
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SPEAKER_01: I do want to mention for Betty, because this is very sweet.
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SPEAKER_01: She goes, Um uh it's been 49 years.
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SPEAKER_01: I still miss him, meaning I think her dad.
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SPEAKER_00: I was wondering if it was dad or if it was husband.
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SPEAKER_00: I wasn't sure I I didn't I didn't know.
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SPEAKER_01: I think I'm pretty sure that 49 that math would be, you know, dad.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and I even said, and I've said this before grief is kind of like those birds that are circling up above, and then all of a sudden one dives down, and and that's where that that feeling just out of nowhere hits you.
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SPEAKER_00: So you don't ever fully there's no recovering.
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SPEAKER_00: I was mentioning a a friend had said the other day uh about a a death in her her life.
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SPEAKER_00: She goes, Oh, I don't think I'm ever gonna recover from this.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_00: And I I didn't respond to it.
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SPEAKER_01: I feel like recover was too hard of a word.
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SPEAKER_01: You will recover, but like you said, it will always be with you.
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SPEAKER_01: It'll just change over time.
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SPEAKER_00: I didn't respond to that part because I feel like nothing I say will make this better whatsoever.
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SPEAKER_00: But the one thing I was thinking was, I don't think you're meant to recover from it.
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SPEAKER_01: No.
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SPEAKER_01: I mean, well, yes, you have to recover, but there's pieces.
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SPEAKER_01: Excuse me.
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SPEAKER_01: God bless.
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SPEAKER_01: Sorry, wow, that came out of nowhere.
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SPEAKER_01: There's pieces that will always remain there, and that's just part of I think it's part of how we remember these people.
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SPEAKER_01: Recover is such a it's such a grand word and description.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, because now it sounds like it's dragging every element of your life down with you.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm sure people feel that way.
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SPEAKER_01: For a bit you will, but believe me when I tell you, it gets easier to live with, but don't ever think it totally leaves.
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SPEAKER_01: Even even Merle, who popped in and visited us yesterday, and Merle's lived a life.
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SPEAKER_01: Don't get me wrong.
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SPEAKER_01: We we had a great time with Merle yesterday.
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SPEAKER_01: You can and can't put pieces of your life back together after certain people who uh leave your life suddenly.
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SPEAKER_01: That's true.
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SPEAKER_00: Well, and I think with Tiffany, her mom died so suddenly and so young.
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SPEAKER_00: That is oh, or here's another one.
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SPEAKER_00: If Tiffany, I'm sorry, Tiffany, but if Tiffany were to die today, I don't know, would you recover it?
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SPEAKER_00: Because I can honestly say that I think, and I know this is like I think with my parents, it would be a little bit different because uh even if it was suddenly, I feel like it's they've still lived a big life, right?
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SPEAKER_00: And and I look at death a little bit differently, but but then I think of like the relationship I'm in now, and I know it's still on the fresher side, I keep saying the fresher side, but I think it would be a hard recovery.
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SPEAKER_00: If my parents, if one of my parents died, my mom, I don't think it would recover.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't if my and and vice versa.
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SPEAKER_00: I think that they've been together since they were 16.
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SPEAKER_00: There is no recovering.
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SPEAKER_01: By the way, I think you and I we've never talked about this, so this will be the last I'll say about this because I don't want to this is not a joke or meant to drag you down.
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SPEAKER_01: I save my death jokes for junior.
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SPEAKER_01: Um if I won't recover.
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SPEAKER_01: If uh if it well, I still think about Fred and Wilma and Pebbles.
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SPEAKER_01: I know.
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SPEAKER_01: So don't don't think that a pet leaving you is ever 100% gone.
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SPEAKER_01: You just you you live with it day to day differently, and they carry with you differently.
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SPEAKER_00: I just need what a Friday topic, by the way.
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SPEAKER_01: Nice and dark.
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SPEAKER_01: I just need you to be prepared for something.
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SPEAKER_01: If your mom goes or your dad goes, you know how sometimes the significant other goes very soon after.
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SPEAKER_00: Happened with my grandparents.
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SPEAKER_01: I would uh I hate to say it, but I'd be prepared for it.
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SPEAKER_00: Oh, I'm super prepared.