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Don't Waste Another Minute With Distractions · Inside Strategic Relations

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  Take a moment to look at your YouTube history, to look at the podcast
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  you've listened to, to see the time you've invested in audio content, video
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  content, and education. Look at this in perspective with the game you have
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  achieved. I'm just in hit with inside strategic relations. Lately, I've been
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  reflecting on the distractions that have taken me away from the goals and objectives that
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  I've have. Looking at my YouTube history, I'll see hundreds of videos over
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  the last couple of weeks, even thirty forty videos a day of content that
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  was often entertainment or distraction, sometimes even absurd, but it kept drawing me
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  back into the content itself. I've contemplated many times of blocking all social media
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  channels because I find myself sometimes getting pulled into the content, into the drama,
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  into the political news, into the social issues that are have little l
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  relevance on my own life. So I meditate and I think, what is
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  an ideal life? What is it that I need to do today to move
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  towards the goals and objectives that I have for myself. These are challenging questions
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  you may want to consider yourself. They're challenging questions that help you gain influence
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  over your own mind, over your own activity, over your own focus,
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  and start to develop to yourself the behavior of peak performance. See, when
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  you sit down each day, you have the same twenty four hours as anybody
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  else, and some people achieve a lot and some people achieve very little.
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  And what you achieve today, it depends on your intention, It depends on
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  your focus. It depends on what you do with the day, not what
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  somebody else does. Not the problems that come up, not the distractions,
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  the obstacles, because all those things are going to happen for a variety of
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  reasons that you can't control. Now, yes, it is possible that past
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  decisions have set you up for failure. Past decisions may have set you up
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  for distraction, Past decisions have set you up for frustration. But if you
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  take those each day and respond to them appropriately, you can turn failure into
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  opportunity, distraction into action, focus, growth, and get today as the
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  start of a new outcome. Now, when we talk about outcome management,
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  we have outcomes pre defined by our goals and our objectives. What does that
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  mean? It means if you're going to achieve something today and you predesignate it,
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  whether you're using a notebook, or you're using to do list, or
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  however you're managing tasks. You've blocked out time during the day to do specific
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  things, and you commit to doing those things, and you do those things,
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  and you move towards a goal. Now, when you don't have a
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  goal, anything you do is good enough. You know a lot of times
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  that I'm sitting down and I'm watching a video and I'm learning something. I'm
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  finding it interesting and engaging. Yet it's information I already have, Yet it
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  doesn't contribute to the things I want to do today. Yet it's taking me
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  away from maintenance elements like cleaning or dishes or anything else that really ought to
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  be done, but it's not top of my list because I don't want to
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  do it. So if we want to gain peak performance, we have to
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  make decisions. And again, the history on your YouTube channel holds you accountable.
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  Your internet searches hold you accountable. The time you spend in front of
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  a computer holds you accountable because now you can see that it's not moving you
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  towards the outcome that you want. You can use a journal to reflect on
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  these things. Like I said, I meditate on this and I think about
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  it when I'm getting ready to go, like, what are the achievements I've
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  had today? What is the goal? What do I want to accomplish tomorrow?
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  What is the outcome? What am I doing that can move me towards
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  the goals and objectives that I want. I don't steal over wasting time.
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  I do waste a lot of time, as many people waste time. But
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  I'm slowly, consider constantly and considerately focusing my activity, focusing my efforts towards
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  the outcomes it desires that I want. What's very important in this is that
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  we have to know what we want. We have to know what the goal
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  is. We have to know what the outcome we desire is, so that
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  we can push away the distraction. See, the only reason it's distracting is
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  because it has room to be in your life. If you have a full
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  schedule, if you have meetings, if you have telephone calls, there isn't
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  any room for these distractions. So what can we do each day? Well,
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  first off, if we want a time block, we want to know
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  what time we're going to get up. We want to know what time we're
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  going to start work. We want to have some structure to our day.
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  Now it doesn't have to be super rigid, but some structure to our day
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  where we're going to get at least three key objectives done. Now, how
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  do you know what the three key objectives are? Well, the three key
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  objectives are going to be based again on that goal. I've written a program
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  that's what do you want? How do you get it? And it's really
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  about going through the exercise necessary to determine what is the key goal, what
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  is the key objective? And then from their understanding, why is that the
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  key goal? Why is that the key objective? And then based on that
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  goal or objective, what is it that you want? The clear and focused
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  definition of what you want. See, when you know what success is and
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  you've carefully mapped out what success looks like for you, then you can move
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  towards it. See, you wouldn't be distracted by criticism because you've thought through
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  and you've developed a plan for the outcomes that you desire. Other people might
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  criticize it, but why do you care? Why would you listen? You
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  don't have time for those types of things. Your only objective is to move
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  towards the outcome. Now, this outcome doesn't have to be financial. It
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  can be family and relationship based. It can be learning a new skill that
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  you will apply. It can be reading a book or a resource. But
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  it's not falling towards distraction. It's not mindless consumption. It's not gossip and
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  bickering and the latest political drama. Those things will happen whether you're paying attention
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  to it or not. Yet, those things are not necessary to make decisions.
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  It's fun to watch, it's enjoyable to watch. But we can find
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  joy and achievement. We can find joy in the finer things of life.
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  We can find joy in our good health, we can find joy in good
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  quality relationships. Now, this self reflection is difficult, by the way,
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  because sometimes you might say, look, I have accomplished anything today. I've
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  had the whole day and nothing happened. Oh it was because of the rain.
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  Oh no, it was because of the U I had to wait in
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  line for too long. It's very easy to come up with excuses. It's
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  very easy to distract ourselves. Again, when we have goals, we have
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  direction those goals when they're worthwhile, we move towards success. When we clearly
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  understand what success looks like, we can more easily know whether we're on the
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  right track for success or the wrong track. Again, you can manifest what
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  you want in life, but it takes focus and effort to define, plan
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  for, and move towards where it's through activity to the achievement you so much
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  desire. The results that you want can come to you now, and they
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  can come to you quickly when you have this focus. Now with the Inside
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  Strategic Relations Newsletter, we have a lot of folks that want to gain political
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  influence, they want to gain social influence, they want to have better career
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  paths, they want to be able to get more of what they want.
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  This is where we run into the conflict where other we depend on other people.
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  So now instead of spending time in front of the television, we're spending
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  time listening to podcasts or spending time away from people. We need to invest
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  in connections. So put some music on in the background, open up your
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  laptop and start sending emails to people in your list. More importantly, have
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  some cards and write little note in each card, and mail cards to your
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  friends and to your family, to your coworkers and to your associates. Follow
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  up on work that you've done previously in the week. There are small connections
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  you can make because again, we gain the majority of what we have through
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  other people. And so rather than having an isolated and distracted activity, what
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  kind of activities can you do that connect Now, if you're distracted with your
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  friends, you're hanging out at the country club and you're relaxing with your friends
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  and you're having a conversation, that's not wasted time because again you're contributing to
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  other people's lives. Other people are contributing to you. It's far different than
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  sitting in front of the television because there's a shared experience. There's an opportunity
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  for mutual influence and impact. This could be getting involved in social organizations,
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  or getting involved in fraternal organizations, or getting involved in volunteer organizations. This
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  gives you an opportunity to connect professional organizations. So now rather than being isolated
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  in front of a television or isolate it listening to a podcast, or isolate
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  it reading a book all alone, or isolate it surfing the internet mindlessly or
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  running around on social media, you can actually be in social environments and cultivate
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  interactions that provide access to resources, that provide access to new information that provide
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  a constructive dialogue that help you reduce stress, that overall help you connect with
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  people who can help you. This is the application of relationships or strategic relationships,
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  and it's a decision between doing isolated activities versus doing activities with other people.
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  Now, if you want to entertain yourself or listen to a podcast,
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  or mutually educate each other, you can do that in a group. You
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  can have a watch party. Hey, folks, come on over Friday night.
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  We're gonna watch a movie. We're going to share some conversation, we're
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  going to share some good food. Hey, folks, I'm learning from this
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  podcast. So, for example, I don't know of any situation right now
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  where there are listening parties. But if there is a few people who got
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  together listen to a podcast and then wrote a little bit about that or had
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  a discussion about that podcast, that that time is going to increase in quality.
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  That time is going to have more depth to it. That time is
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  going to give you the opportunity to learn a little bit more about what your
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  topic you're covering, and you're going to get better results. You're gonna get
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  more connections, you're going to get better outcomes. So let's summarize. If
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  you've ever looked at your YouTube history, you've ever looked looked at the list
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  of podcasts you've listened to, you know those activities are distracting from the focused
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  activities they get you the results you're looking for. Now. There's nothing wrong
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  with listening to something while you're driving down the road or when you couldn't use
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  the time otherwise. Yet are you listening to one program after another and not
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  even remembering the one that you've got, the one you listen to already.
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  So don't be afraid of the silence, because that again is going to be
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  that reflective state, that state where you can look at your habits and look
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  at your investment of time and then reorient yourself. But also the times that
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  you can connect with other people so that you can advance relationships, those have
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  greater value than the unlimited number of distractions that are available today. If you
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  have challenges with distraction, and I admit I have those challenges myself, we
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  have a coaching program available that can help you with accountability. It can help
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  you with planning. A lot of the resources I have, I'll sit down
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  with a client, sit down with the coaching of course, a coaching client
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  and we'll go through a course and we'll get that thing set up in your
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  life so that now you have new activities to fill your calendar that have high
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  value, high outcome, production, peak performance. Very often you're doing things
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  that work really well, but you don't know they work well because you're not
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  measuring. And so in our coaching programs we can help you with the measurements.
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  But even if you don't do any of these things, make the most
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  of your time, create something, be a producer. Stop consuming. They
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  want you to consume, so you stay distracted. If you want to gain
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  influence at a marketplace, you've got to be influential. If you want to
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  connect with people and help those people solve problems, you've got to connect.
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  You just can't watch television and make it work. And why I say television,
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  I mean YouTube and Rumble and all these different platforms where they're just it's
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  a talking box, no different than network television. And if you're interested in
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  coaching or you're interested in additional resources, visit us at www dot inside Strategic
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  relations dot com where you can join our free newsletter and then we also have
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  podcast show notes and other resources that are going to help you transform business relationships
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  into profits. I'm just hit with Inside Strategic Relations and this has been about
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  reflecting on your time and then reinvesting your attention to get the most from that
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  time. Well to thank you for listening and being a part of what we
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  do. If you ask questions in the comments below or you visit us at
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  www dot inside Strategic Relations, I'll be more than happy to answer your questions.
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  It's a great pleasure of mind to interact with listeners and more value and
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  gain value in helping clients. Again, I'm just a hit inside Strategic Relations.