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Ep 45. Start Saying ‘No’ To Manifest What You Want · The Manifestation Station

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You're listening to the manifestation station podcast i'm your host holly edwards
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and together we can help create your magic,
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Hello and welcome back to another gorgeous, beautiful, divine episode of The
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Manifestation Station.
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I'm your host, Holly Edwards. Think of me as your manifesting bestie.
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I don't know, is that cheesy to say that? I quite like it.
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I quite like it. Let's go with that, guys. The sun is shining.
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It is autumn. It is autumn in the UK.
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I don't know when you're listening to this. It might not be autumn anymore.
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If you're catching up and only just found the manifestation station,
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I hope it's changing your life.
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Now, I have brought my studio down to the kitchen worktop.
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One, because I've just had my dream kitchen built and I have some garden doors
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that are glass and the sun is shining through.
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That's why I'm telling you this, because I've decided that I am chasing the sun.
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I'm doing everything I can today to raise my vibrations.
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And by bringing the podcast down into my kitchen so I can enjoy my lovely new
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space with the sun hitting my face,
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if I just move into this oh I'm just moving into a lovely position here oh I
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feel like a cat in fact let's not do that because I might go to sleep on you
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now my challenge for today guys my challenge,
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is to get through the whole episode without
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editing and I don't want to jinx it because by
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saying that it makes me think oh my god I'm going to start stuttering maybe
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I'm going to start puffing and spluttering everywhere but I don't have time
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to edit you see now if you're a podcaster there are some podcasters that listen
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and if you're not this might just be a lovely little insight into the world of podcasting,
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If you're a podcaster, you will know that actually there's a bit of prep in
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terms of what you talk about. I make my notes to give you some really juicy, juicy content.
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But the actual time with podcasting is taken up. And it's the bit that I don't enjoy.
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I enjoy delivering the podcast, this bit, talking to you guys and thinking.
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Imagining you kind of listening on the other end going, yes, Holly, this is great.
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I'm getting something from this. that's what thrives me
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that's what drives me right the bit
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that I is not really my deal is the
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editing and obviously I do it all myself
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right now I'll put it out there maybe if there's a team that
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want to come and help fantastic here I am but the
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editing takes a bit of time and you know what I don't edit a
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lot and you'll probably realize that if you follow the manifestation station
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I don't edit a lot I you know
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sometimes I stumble over my words sometimes the whole
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point of this podcast is that I
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want to show you guys how manifesting is
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so relatable and it's easy
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done so I kind of feel like actually the brand is
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it is just me it's authentic I might
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stumble over my words it's just like having a conversation with you that's
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kind of how I want it to feel so you know whether I've
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done that so that I don't have to edit as much or if that's the
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brand who knows but I think it works that's what we're going with but yeah the
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editing takes a bit of time because sometimes even now I've realized also I
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just want to give a slight little apology here for everybody who has been listening
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I would say for the last five weeks of podcasts.
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I have had a rotten cold. I have been, it is not, I cannot, I could not get rid of it.
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And it was bugging me. It was actually really bringing me down guys.
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I mean, you know, you're like, it's just a cold, but one, it was quite a bad cold.
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And two, it was never ending.
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Now, if you're in the UK and you are listening to this on time,
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there is something going around and everybody keeps going, oh,
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it's called like the never ending cold.
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Well, let me tell you, I've had it. Now, I hope I'm not tracking you down here,
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guys, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry because I caught a little snippet of
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someone listening to the podcast, my podcast, last week or the week before.
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And I can hear that I'm so...
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Like my sinuses are blocked and I just, I feel like I was sniffing and I was,
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but I was, I was like, I was still bringing you the podcast.
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So if you've been listening to my voice, or even if you only started last week
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or the week before and you were like, oh, I cannot listen to this girl,
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then this is me sounding slightly more normal. I can breathe, listen.
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Oh, I can breathe through my nose. It is gone. It's fantastic.
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Now, I was going to bring you an episode on health and how to manifest good
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health, but I had something else in mind.
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But just to touch upon this with the cold thing is it was very difficult because
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as we know, as manifestors, kind of what we constantly think,
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feel or talk about is what we attract back in.
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So when we're sick or we're unhealthy or
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we've got a cold or we've got some illness it
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is oh so easy to complain and
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tell everybody how ill we are and to tell
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everybody all the medication that we've tried that hasn't worked and to tell
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everybody how you didn't sleep last night myself included I wanted to tell everyone
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I wanted to tell Ben I wanted to tell my partner that when he was with me I
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just wasn't myself and I kind of wanted to remind him it wasn't I wanted sympathy
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maybe I did want a little bit of sympathy.
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Going to lie but it was more that you know you
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feel like you need to remind people just let you know I'm feeling really well unwell because
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I kind of felt like I wasn't being my full bubbly
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self so I kind of had to it's almost like it was
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an excuse to say just so you know I'm not feeling well but actually what I decided
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I was about a week or so in and I said to my sister she was like how you feeling
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you still sound rubbish and I was like do you know what I'm gonna stop talking
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about it and I said that to her I'd kind of go you know what I've still got
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the cold but I'm going to stop talking about it.
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And then I just changed my words with, do you know what? I'm healing.
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I'm getting better every day. The longer I have it, the quicker it's going to go.
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So that's just a little insight. This isn't about health. I will do a health
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episode if you would like one.
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If you would like one, drop into my DMs. I'm at thehollyedwards on Instagram
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and at the.manifestation station on Instagram.
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Also, although I haven't done much with that account recently
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because I have been so busy anyway
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so we're not editing I hope you're with me that's also the one the other thing
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that I was going to say about the editing the last few weeks I've had to edit
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loads because I've been having silences of sniffing I've had to go and get water
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I've gone have to go and make a lens sit I've been blowing my nose I was so
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conscious I think it was last week's episode.
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I had there was about a one minute or 90 second kind of pause in the show where
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I was blowing my nose and it was and when I was editing it I couldn't find it
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and I thought oh my god this is going to be mortifying if I put that out to the world,
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to the world, and they hear me blowing my nose and feeling sorry for myself,
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I thought, well, that's it.
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That is not going to be a good episode. So we're going all through today, no cuts.
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And it's a really, really juicy episode. But before I start,
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I want to say hello to every single one of you,
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every single listener of the Manifestation Station, whether you've been here
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from day one, the OGs of the Manifestation Stationers, right? Hello, welcome back.
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If If you're new, hello, thank you for joining us and I'm hoping you're going to stay.
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Now, I was looking at the stats for the podcast. This isn't what the podcast
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is about either, but I'm just sharing news with you because it's daylight.
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The sun is shining. The day is good. And let's talk about good things.
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I want to hear what's going on in your life.
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Think a minute about what good things are happening to you right now.
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Even if you're feeling rubbish, there are always good things that we can celebrate.
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So I was having a little look at the stats on the podcast.
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I went, hello, do you know what it does?
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The stats on my podcast, it tells you how many downloads you've had,
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that how many people are listening.
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Now, can I say day one of my podcast, when I released my How to Manifest podcast,
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the first episode had 17, 17 of you. Any of you?
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Was that you? 17 on the first week. Thank you.
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I'm not going to lie, I was chuffed. I was like, 17 people? That can't be all family and friends.
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I mean, let's face it, that probably was a lot. But I was like,
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wow, this is amazing 17 people.
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I'm going to deliver the podcast to you.
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Then as the time went on, I was a bit like, is there any point? Am I talking to myself?
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Well, now, ladies, gentlemen, everybody,
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we are up to almost 10,000 listeners
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10,000 we're actually on the cusp of
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it might even be 10,000 now so I want to
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thank you firstly thank you so much for
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listening for tuning in for
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coming back for sending me dms to say this worked
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or this inspired you today I can't tell
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you how grateful I am honestly I'm so forever
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grateful but also on the stats it tells
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you where your listeners are in the world not specifically so I'm not going
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to know your road names and things like that but it just does countries so just
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for a moment please can I say hello to listeners in the UK the USA Australia
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Ireland Canada Germany Spain Thailand.
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Dubai, Malaysia, Hong Kong, Hungary, Mexico, Singapore, Azerbaijan.
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Who's Azerbaijan? I only know them from the euro thingy. What do you call it? Oh, my God.
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You know what I'm talking about, the singing one.
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If you're in Azerbaijan, am I even saying that right? I feel like Graeme Norton.
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Hello. Welcome. Colombia, Russia, France, New Zealand, Bulgaria,
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Croatia, India, Morocco.
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I have lots of friends in morocco so i i understand that
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vietnam italy netherlands greece sri
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lanka belgium indonesia brazil austria cyprus
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south korea hello south korea switzerland island man bahrain czech republic
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kazakhstan kenya norway pakistan portugal romania guys this goes on this goes
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on let me go to the bottom because the bottom ones are normally a little bit
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like there's just like a few listeners.
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Nepal, Tunisia, Mauritius, Malta, Mongolia, Latvia, Lesotho.
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I don't know Lesotho. Should I?
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Hello, Lesotho. Lebanon, Jersey, Israel, Georgia, Estonia, Coat.
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Oh, let's end on this one. What's this? Coat?
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Cote d'Ivoire. Oh, how fancy. Cote d'Ivoire, Botswana, Bhutan.
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Anyway, Zambia, South Africa. Guys, there's more.
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There is more. Hello to each and every one of you. If I've missed you out, I'm sorry.
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Poland, Monaco, Japan, Jordan, Bangladesh, Ghana, Puerto Rico, Sweden, Romania.
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If I've missed you out, I'm sorry. I'll get you next time.
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But I just wanted to say hello to every
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one of you each and every one and to get
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into the nitty-gritty of today shall we this
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is a juicy episode it's one I think
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it's something that we all do even
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the manifestors of all manifestors the most
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self-aware manifesting journaling vision
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board making versions of us we all do this thing and
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we we say we want
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a certain kind of life but then what we
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do is we keep saying yes to things that don't align with it that contradict
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it so that is why we're calling this episode something like decide what you
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actually want and start saying no to everything that isn't that.
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So that is one of my favorite quotes. Decide what kind of life you actually
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want and then say no to everything that isn't that.
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It is so simple, but it is one of those things that kind of hits different when
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you actually start living it.
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You might go, yeah, I get it. I get the quote. I understand that in theory.
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So many of us aren't living. They're not living it. And that's the thing.
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And I'm going to be honest, it's not always easy.
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And some of these steps, it's not always easy, but sometimes just with an energy
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shift, we can figure it out.
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And it sounds empowering and glamorous to only say yes to things that align.
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But in real life, I'm a real life girly, and that is why I'm here.
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And that sometimes means saying no to opportunities, to people,
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to events, to habits that maybe feel
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comfortable and I know I know
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guys that that can feel scary I'm
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gonna cough I'm not going to edit that out so this is the kind of conversation
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I think I think that changes lives because it's about getting really really
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clear on what we want and then really consistently consistent with our actions.
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So we're going to talk about how to figure out what you actually want.
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Now I had a hilarious, no it wasn't hilarious, that's the wrong word.
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I had a really intriguing, insightful conversation with someone on a film set
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the other day and I'm going to throw that in in a second.
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We're also going to talk about the subtle ways that you might be saying yes
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to misaligned things without realising it.
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And also how to start saying no confidently, kindly, without guilt,
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so that your actions, your energy and your environment all start matching your intentions.
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So sit tight guys grab a
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coffee put your headphones in put your trainers
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on go for a walk get your journal and let's get
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into it so the problem the energetic confusion here let's start with a bit of
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honesty have you ever said you wanted one thing but if you really started looking
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at it over the week, maybe your decisions,
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your conversations and your energy, it's all pointing in the wrong direction.
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Think about that for a second. So it's almost like saying, excuse me, the tail end of the cold.
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It's like saying, I really want more peace in my life.
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And then filling your calendar to the brim, saying yes to every favor,
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every job, every client, and then scrolling on TikTok until midnight.
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Okay, now my lovely sister, I think she's been guilty of this recently and she
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has done the biggest shift I think I've ever seen in the world of manifestation.
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So a few months ago, she was really burnt out.
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She was juggling three kids. They go to different schools and one had started
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a new school, which was a bit further away.
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So she now has like a really kind of a very long school run to do in the morning.
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She was dealing with that.
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She's also a self-employed reflexologist and she is busy.
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She is busy. She is based in Essex. She's been on the Mummy Diaries.
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She's got celebrity clients she has a gorgeous cabin
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in her garden it's called the garden retreat and she
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does reflexology and reiki and oh
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my god it is delightful if you're in Essex check her
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out she's Essex she's at Essex
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reflexology maybe I'll drop that in the show notes below
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I didn't mean to give her a shout out but Emily you
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are welcome so she was really
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busy she was really burnt out and I
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don't think I've ever seen her so busy she's my manifesting buddy
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so we always go to each other we call each other we text
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each other we come up with strategies for each other
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and she was like really burnt and she was like I've got no time I've got no
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time I'm really burnt out and I'm feeling this and I'm feeling and she was just
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running a million miles per hour but actually when you when she sort of started
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looking at her life she was she was also trying to fit in too much, kind of through guilt.
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So, you know, it was like the first weekend that she had off and she was like,
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haven't taken the kids out. So I'm packing them a lunchbox.
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We're going to here and we're going to there and I get them.
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And I was like, Emily, stop for a minute.
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Stop. Do something for you. Do something that calms you. You want peace.
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You are in your era of desiring peace.
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Let's take steps to align with peace. And you know what?
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It's really weird. I actually think the universe intervened.
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So do you know what happened? She does a lot on social media.
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You know, anyone who's self-employed.
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You know, it's about consistently posting and being visible online.
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Now, her Instagram went down. It got hacked.
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You know, her phone got hacked. She got all these spam messages from Korea.
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The language had changed on her emails and her Instagram had disappeared. Yeah.
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And she had built this Instagrammer for years. And if you are self-employed,
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you are going to feel the pain of her situation of just, oh my God, it disappeared.
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And she was like, that's it. All the clients she built up, you know,
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she had content from being on the Mummy Diaries and being on The Only Way is
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Essex and her regular clients. And it was where she advertised all her appointments,
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you know, if she had cancellations.
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So she started losing money and she started, you know, she was really stuck.
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And for weeks and weeks it went on. and you know what happened?
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She was really stressed first of all, she was on the phone to Instagram,
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on the phone to Apple, she was at the Apple store.
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Then she conceded to the fact that it had gone and you know what she started doing?
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She started doing things for her. You know why? Because she wasn't scrolling,
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she wasn't posting and she was forced, forced to take time off.
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And I mean, I don't mean time off, she was still doing reflexology,
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but she was forced to stop, reflect and take time for herself because she wasn't
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scrolling and posting and creating content.
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And after a while I kept saying oh my god this is really bad and
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I said to her firstly I knew she was going to get it back I
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just knew I was like it's coming back it hasn't been hacked no one's asked you
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to ransom you know no one's sending spam messages from it I said you're going
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to get it back and then after a while she kept going do you know what it's freed
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up my time a little bit And she became less burnt out because she started doing things for her.
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Now, I think the universe intervened. I said to her she was heading for,
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you know, some illness or real kind of dangerous repercussions from burnout.
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But the universe decided to intervene. And I thought that was fabulous.
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So she was saying yes to a lot of things that weren't aligning with her desire for wanting peace.
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But also like maybe like it's like saying I want to attract a really grounded
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emotionally available partner.
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And now I see this a lot with friends, but then what they do is they go on dates
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with people who are toxic, who just kind of breadcrumb, or they throw out mixed
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signals because they are scared to hold out for more.
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Now, I have some very good friends, a couple of very good friends,
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who are really desperately wanting to attract their dream partner,
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where they feel safe, where they feel like
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they're not playing games it's not toxic it's
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not drama it feels safe and romantic
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and happy and they can just build a
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life that is uncomplicated however
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whilst they're waiting they are
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saying yes to toxic ex-partners ex-partners
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who come out the woodwork who treat them poorly
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really really poorly and they're saying yes
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to it whilst waiting because they're almost like
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scared to hold out for something else and scared to say no because it's some
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form of connection it's some form of entertainment it's some form of attention
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and I get it guys I've been there you know me if you know me and you follow
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me for a while I was single for a lot of
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my 30s or for the first half of my 30s.
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And it can be really easy when you feel a bit lonely or you want that attention
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from a guy and you want something.
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It can be really easy to go, yeah, sure, I'll go on a date with you.
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You give me the bare minimum, but sure.
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Or you entertain, you know, ex-partners that come out the woodwork.
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And because you've romanticized the idea of them rather than what they're actually
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giving you, you kind of say yes to the hope that they might change.
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But those saying yeses, they are not aligning with your want of wanting to attract
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a really grounded, emotionally available partner.
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Or maybe you're saying, I want financial freedom.
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But then you never actually sit down and you look at your money and you track
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it because you're scared to go on your online banking or say no to spending
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things that don't add joy.
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So you just kind of spend flippantly, you know. and that's not aligning with
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your thought of I want financial freedom.
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We've all done this and it doesn't mean you're failing or that you can't manifest.
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It just means your energy and your actions aren't matching up yet.
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They need to be a little kind of partnership that work in tandem.
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So manifestation isn't just about wanting something. It's about deciding and then aligning.
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And I think it's those two things, like sometimes people will forget one of
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them. It's about deciding and then aligning.
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Because when you're not clear, the universe gets mixed signals.
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So it's like, imagine placing three different orders at once and wondering why nothing's showing up.
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This is where an energetic confusion comes
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in you're saying yes to things that contradict with
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your vision so you're putting an order in and
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then you're doing everything against that order for it not to arrive and the
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universe is like hold on i'm a bit confused here guys you've just told me you
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want that thing but your energy isn't matching so therefore i'm confused do
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you want that thing or not okay what i'm going to do i'm going to press hold
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on that order and not deliver that yet.
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And then we're wondering why it's not showing up. And even if your words say
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one thing, your energy is saying another.
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And that's why I call it energetic confusion.
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Today, I want you to think of this episode as your gentle nudge to get really clear.
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So we're talking about the power of deciding because clarity,
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real, real clarity is magnetic.
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The moment you decide what you actually want
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things start rearranging it's like the universe goes
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oh okay I understand now I know what you mean you have to be really really clear
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now I was working on a film set last week a really amazing top secret film set
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and I wish I could share it with you but hold on I'm going to sip my drink whilst
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I'm not allowed to tell you what it is hold on.
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Hmm so yeah if you don't
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know me I also work in tv and
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film that's that's been my life for 20 years now
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I was working on a film set and we were holding kind of a little kind
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of manifestation circle and you
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know some people some of the girls were into manifesting
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already some were like I'm intrigued but I don't know much about it
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and um I said do you know what you start the very
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basics the very basics is to get
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clear on what you want and we were talking about vision boards and creating
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a vision board and some of the girls hadn't done one
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before and I said the thing is what people don't realize is they think
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it's just like a really cool bit of arty mood
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board and that's it and you know your dreams will jump off the plate the page
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which I'm going to tell you they actually do but what people don't realize and
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I always say that the power of a vision board is actually to get clarity on
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what you want because one of the girls went oh yeah kind of you know,
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I'm having a really good life and I've got, you know, a really nice house and
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partner and blah, blah, blah.
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But I haven't done a vision board, but I don't know what I put on it because
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I don't really know what I want.
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And I was like, well, think about it. What do you want? She was like,
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oh my God. It was like a realization.
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She went, I've been living life and I'm having, you know, a nice time.
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She went, I don't know what I'm working towards. I don't know what I want to attract in.
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And it was like this light bulb moment of her going, I can't believe that I don't know.
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And this is why clarity and deciding what you actually want is the keys,
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the foundation of becoming a really good manifester.
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So here's the keys that most people actually don't know.
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You know, they don't know what they want or they know what they don't want.
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That's what happens a lot of the time. They know what they don't want,
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but they actually can't be clear on what it is they want specifically.
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So I want you to do a quick pat-
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Practice here. Yes, I stumbled on my words.
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You know why? It's because the bin man is outside of my house as I'm saying this.
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And I'm distracted because he didn't take my bin last week, guys.
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And I need him to take it. And I'm hoping you can't hear him because I've moved to the kitchen.
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There is some noise outside the house. He's gone. He's taken it.
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Here we go. So we're back in business. So I want to do a quick practice with you.
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Now you could do this maybe later with your journal or just start thinking about it now.
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There's three questions that
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I want you to ask yourself. So if you're journaling, write these down.
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If you're listening, just have a little think about them in your head.
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If you want to, because I'll be speaking kind of fairly fast for a podcast,
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you may want to pause, come back.
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Anyway, your three questions are number one, what do I want to feel in my life?
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Now, a lot of the times we manifest things, material things or partners, or things.
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But actually, sometimes it's really good to know what feeling you want to manifest.
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Not what you want to have, but what you want to feel.
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So maybe you want freedom, excitement, peace, creativity, love, security.
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What do you want to feel in your life?
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The next question is, what does that look like on a day-to-day basis?
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So what does that look like day-to-day?
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If you were living that life right now, what would your mornings look like?
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Who would you spend time with? How would you spend your evenings?
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What would you say yes to?
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What would you say yes to? And what would you say no to?
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That's going to take a little bit of thinking time for you guys.
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And actually, I love it. When you figure out what it is that you want,
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and then look how that fits into your day-to-day and how you would feel and
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what you would do in your day-to-day life differently, that's when this idea comes alive.
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The next question is, what decisions am I currently making that contradict that?
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I want you to really be honest. There is no judgment.
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Really be honest and think, how
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are my actions, my decisions contradicting what it is that I really want?
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It happens a lot with love and what you're putting out there,
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the exes that you go back to.
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It happens a lot also with work and jobs and people wanting to attract specific jobs,
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but actually decisions that they're making don't
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align with that want and that
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desire so there's your three questions now this
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is where the real work of manifesting actually starts it's
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not wishing but it's it's it's doing and it's the energy shifting so it's the
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I want to kind of more think of it just really simplifying it it's like the
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saying yes and no what are you saying yes and no to that aligns or doesn't align
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with your manifestation.
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So maybe you realize you want calm grounded life but you're constantly surrounded
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by chaos, by drama or people who drain you.
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Maybe this is about saying no to hanging out with people who drain you.
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Guys I know that sounds really like harsh but if there are people you have drains
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and you have radiators in your life if people are draining you,
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you are not aligning with the calm, grounded life that you want to attract in.
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Maybe you want to feel confident, but you keep making yourself small to avoid being too much.
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And you're not being authentic to yourself. Now, I keep drilling into people.
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Authenticity is a superpower. And that's how you become confident.
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It doesn't mean that if you're shy, you can't be confident it's about being
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authentic or maybe you want abundance but you're saying no to opportunities
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out of fear out of feeling like you're not good enough.
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When you see it on paper, guys, it is really powerful.
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It's like you can't unsee it and you'll laugh. You'll be like,
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how have I been living like this for so long and not seeing the real truth?
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And from there, you get to decide again. How am I going to shift?
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How am I going to change my actions to align?
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So deciding isn't a one-time thing. It's a daily energy.
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What are we deciding today? It's a quiet, like, but strong, no,
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that's not my story anymore.
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That's what you're doing. You're going to change the narrative.
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You're going to switch it up
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and you are going to start making daily decisions align with your desire.
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And it's about saying no with confidence.
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Let's talk about saying no for a moment. So many of us find it difficult to say no.
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I have got really good at this. I think I used to be this person that would
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find it difficult to say no.
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But now when things come up or things come in, jobs, events that don't align
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with me, that don't align with my peace,
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my happiness, my contentment, I've learned to say that doesn't serve me.
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And the universe like backs me up. And I'm going to give you an example in a minute.
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Actually, let me give the example now. so with the job that I do for a living
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I'm also a makeup designer so I design the feel the makeup for films and tv
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shows so I work with companies like Netflix, Disney,
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live in the dream guys right and I work abroad a lot and I travel a lot so I've
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worked abroad an awful lot I've been filming in Morocco a lot I don't know why
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I keep ending up in the desert but I've filmed in amazing places in Spain, in Iceland,
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in Malaysia, and it's fantastic, right?
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But also, what happens is that when you're self-employed, and a lot of people
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that listen to this podcast are self-employed, when you're self-employed,
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there's this thing where you feel like you have to say yes to every job.
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Now, I think at the start of building up your business, your brand,
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your self-employed status,
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I think you should say yes to every job because you're going,
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yes, you're building up your contacts, you're building up your repertoire,
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your work, your portfolio whatever it is that
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you do but then once you kind
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of find your flow and settle into that that
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course of work I think it's really important to say no to jobs that no longer
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align so for example recently I got offered I had a job offer I'm not going
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to say where it was but it was I feel like it was in a slightly Middle East way, right?
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And, you know, the job itself, it sounded chaotic.
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It would take me away from home and from my partner at Christmas.
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And Christmas is a really important time of the year for me.
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I was away filming last year over December and I loved it,
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had a great time, but I really missed my Christmas build up with my family,
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with my partner Ben it's my really like happy time and we get to spend time
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together so that was really good but I decided that this year so this job came
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up it sounded really chaotic it started getting really chaotic about the budgets
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and things like that I won't bore you with the ins and outs.
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And it wasn't sitting well with me. It just wasn't making me fire up.
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It wasn't making me feel alive. If anything, it was making me feel drained thinking about it.
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And also, it made me feel sad, like the idea of being away at Christmas again.
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Now, you know, it was with a really good company.
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And, you know, it would pay me money. And when you're self-employed, that's really good.
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And you know what? I was like, no, thank you.
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Thank you for this opportunity but no I'm gonna
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pass on this and it take it took even though I've got
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really good at it it still took me a little bit of work
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to kind of get that it took me a little bit of work to
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get to the point of the courage of saying no
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and I did that and I thank I kind of thanked the
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universe for the opportunity and I said thank you so much I'm not
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available for this one but you know think of
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me in the future and hopefully we can work together said no
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and I felt really empowered I was like wow I've said no this feels
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amazing do you know what the next day I
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had a phone call for a job at a
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studios in the UK which is probably about
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35 minutes from my house it could not be
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closer and it is on
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something huge really an
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amazing amazing shoot and it's
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something that I am already a fan of that
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I love and this opportunity came
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up as I had aligned myself and
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said no to something that doesn't serve me now what I love about this the more
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I do this the more I actually think the universe drops little tests for you
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and I've really noticed this I think they test you to go how serious are you
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about this thing that you want to attract,
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let me test you and I'm going to kind of tempt you with something.
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I'm going to tempt you with an ex-partner coming out the woodwork saying, hey, how are you?
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Want to meet for a drink? And it's like one in the morning.
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By saying no, I'm good. You're choosing yourself. By saying no,
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I don't want to go abroad at Christmas and work on that job.
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By the way, it sounds really nice when I put it like that. But for me, it just wasn't working.
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By saying no, I think the universe is like, well done. You've passed that test. You've up-leveled.
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You have proven to me that you are really serious about
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this thing that you want to attract into of your life and then
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they deliver you something even better remember what I
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always say the universe will bring you what you
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want or something better so you have
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to trust that you have to trust that process
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so the idea of getting comfortable
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with saying no if you're someone who loves to please
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or who's been taught to always be nice saying
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that no can feel like a rejection or a confrontation
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but saying no is actually I think
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one of the most magnetic things that you can do it
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doesn't mean that we're saying no to our
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friends all the time you know we must at times
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show up for our friends show up to their parties and
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the baby showers it's not like saying no I
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don't care about you no I pick me it's having that
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kindness having that compassion but choosing yourself and not putting yourself
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in situations with jobs with people where you are not aligned so it's getting
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used to saying no if your energy is a house that you you can't invite new aligned guests to.
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So if your energy is a house, you can't invite new aligned guests in it if it's
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already filled with the people that you don't even like.
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You have to clear the room. And maybe it looks like saying no to plans that you know will drain you.
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Maybe it's saying no to doing everything yourself.
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Saying no to opportunities that look good on paper, but you feel off.
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They feel off. And again, I'm going to revert this
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back to my industry working in film and TV a lot
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of us say yes to jobs and I've noticed recently
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and it's not to discredit anyone I think it's a pattern in the industry we say
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often say yes to jobs out of like it's like an ego thing I've been offered this
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huge job with Universal Studios I must say yes but deep down you're going I
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don't really fancy doing that job.
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I don't really like the creativity or the people that I'm working with or where the location is.
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If the location is hours and hours from you, but you've said yes,
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because it means that you can say to people, I'm working on the next Star Wars film.
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I'm working on the next big universal film.
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Then, you know, you can see why. You can see why you go. And I've done it.
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I have done it. And I've gone, yes, yes. And I'm like, when I'm on the job,
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I'm like, this isn't aligning with me.
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Something's out of whack so they may
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look good on paper but it's also if the feeling
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is off you need to start trusting your gut a little more maybe
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it's saying no to people who make you question your worth now here is the best
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part every no sends a message it says I trust that something better is coming
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it's like a declaration of worth the universe doesn't respond to pressure it responds to power.
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So even when saying no feels a little bit scary, I want you to remember you
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are not losing something, you are simply making room.
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And one of my favourite affirmations for this is this.
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Every no I say is an energetic yes to something better.
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Every no I say is an energetic yes to something better.
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Try saying that whenever you feel torn or guilty, it completely shifts your energy.
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Now it's time to embody your decision. So you've decided,
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you've started saying no, let's talk about embodying that version of you because
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decisions only become powerful when they're backed by consistent action and energy.
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You don't have to overhaul your life in one night.
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That's not what we're talking about here. I always talk about this.
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It's not huge changes. It's about micro alignment moments.
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So it's things like checking in each morning and asking, what is one small thing
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I can do today that aligns with the life that I'm creating.
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If you check in with yourself every morning and ask yourself that question,
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it really sets you up for your day.
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And it also aligns yourself with the universe as well.
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It's also catching yourself in autopilot and choosing differently.
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So throughout the day, if you're in autopilot, when I say yes to that thing
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and I always do, no, start checking in with autopilot and choosing differently.
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A lot of our decisions are made on autopilot.
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So it's just tapping into that and figuring out how you can choose differently.
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It's also adjusting your environment to match the energy of where you're going
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and not where you've been.
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I always say the environment, the people in it, your home life,
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just adjust your environment.
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Your environment is an extension of your energy field.
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If your future self is peaceful, maybe she gets up earlier for quiet time.
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If she's abundant, maybe she checks her bank account with gratitude instead of fear.
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If she's loved, maybe she stops chasing people who can't meet her halfway,
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who can't show up for her, who aren't valuing her worth.
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You're not waiting to become her. You are her. You're just remembering.
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So it's about stepping into that future version of you. And here's the beautiful
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thing about alignment is that the universe moves fast once you start showing consistency.
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The universe is literally waiting for you to choose.
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The more you choose, every time you choose differently, you raise your standards,
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you shift your frequency, you.
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Things begin to click into pace
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so before we finish kind of
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want to leave you with a little practice that you can go off and
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do this week so grab yourself a journal or you can write this in your notes
42:12
app and I want you to write these three prompts down come back to this if you're
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just listening and write these down number one this is what I actually want
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so I want you to be brutally honest, write with your heart.
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Write down what you really want, what you really want to attract into your life.
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Not just what you think you should want and not just what sounds sensible or safe.
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Think about it. Tap into your heart, tune in and think, this is what I really want.
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Your second prompt you're going to write is to have that I'm no longer available for.
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So list List the things, the people, the habits and the patterns that you are done with.
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Think about what drains you and no longer serves you.
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List those things so you're saying like to have that thing, I'm no longer available for work.
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What is draining you? What is causing you burnout? What is causing you to feel
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out of alignment? What is causing you to drain your energy?
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Number three, your prompt is my next aligned step is one small action you can
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take this week that reflects your decision.
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That's all you need to do this week.
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Just think about one small action that reflects your decision.
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What can you say no to, what can you say yes to? What action can you do that
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aligns with that thing that you want to attract?
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Do that and I promise you, you will feel the energy shift immediately.
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And that is what I love about manifesting and energy and frequencies.
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You have the ability to shift your energy right this very second.
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Manifesting isn't about getting, it's about deciding.
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It's not about getting, it's about deciding and then it's about becoming.
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You don't have to have it all figured out guys. You just need to start tuning alignment.
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If you don't know what you're doing and you feel really lost,
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just start choosing alignment and the rest will unravel.
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You will start to pick up on your feelings and
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your energy more and then you'll start saying yes
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to more things that align and that might bring you opportunities that
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you don't even know exist yet so this
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week choose your future self what would your future self do say no to what drains
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you say yes to what feels peaceful expansive romantic happy and trust that the
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more specific you are about what you want,
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the faster it is going to find you.
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And that is it. That is simply it. Thank you so much for tuning in.
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You are fantastic. And actually, I think we've almost got through this episode without editing.
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There was one moment where I had a little sniff and I was like, oh, sorry.
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And I carried on. Now, do I go back and edit that? I don't know.
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Maybe I leave it in there. You'll hear my little, little sniffle.
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But I want you to I want you
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to not I want you to I want to thank you so much
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for tuning in if you've loved this episode please
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share it with a friend I actually think it's a really nice way
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to spread love to spread kindness to spread joy to
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spread the energy it's good for you too the more
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you spread that the more that comes back to you but I just want to
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share this with more and more people if you've got a
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friend who's down in the dumps if you've got a friend who's been.
45:52
Dumped who's lost their job who needs
45:55
to attract some more energy who's trying to have a baby who
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wants to move into their dream house whatever they
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want to attract maybe just send them this episode or
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send them the podcast I'd really appreciate it if you
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have a chance it takes you two seconds to rate and
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review the podcast just scroll down and just
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tap it some stars just tap it some stars that
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would be amazing and just thank
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you guys as always come over and say hi on instagram i'm
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at the holly edwards come and say hi come and say hi and if you enjoyed the
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episode and what you got out of saying no to this week i love you guys i'm proud
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of you the universe is proud of you the universe is waiting for you to say yes
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and to say no to what aligns and i will see you next time goodbye.