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Relationship series: Believing in people · Spending time with Dr. Christina

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  Welcome back to my podcast spending time with
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  Dr. Christina. We're in season 9 episode 3 of
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  the relationship series. Today we're talking
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  about believing in people. I want to especially
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  focus on this because it's such an important
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  aspect of any relationship When you are in a
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  relationship with another person again, whether
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  it's a interpersonal relationship Such as couples
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  or it's even a relationship in the workplace
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  Boss to employee employee to employee and you're
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  in a particular relationship It's important to
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  have faith to believe in other people. When we
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  believe in other people, it strengthens them,
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  it inspires them, and hopefully it will help
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  them to reciprocate the process. Believing in
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  people gives them an inspiration. It empowers
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  them. It helps them to go forward in life, especially
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  when things can be not so great at home or in
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  other places in their lives. Believing in people
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  will empower them to overcome whatever they're
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  dealing with. So I want to spend some time talking
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  about this today. And I know for many of you,
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  you may not have experienced having someone to
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  encourage you or to be at your side or to be
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  loyal. This is something in today's society that
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  can be far and few in between at times. However,
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  There's a power in rediscovering what the ability
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  to believe in someone can do for them and even
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  do for yourself. So let's spend some time on
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  this and talk about it. When we believe in other
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  people, it helps them to find an inner strength
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  that they can do things and that they can overcome.
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  for some of you again you might have heard growing
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  up from your parents or grandparents to that
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  effect you can do anything well this is a mindset
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  this is positive thinking and i'll be talking
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  about that later on in another series um the
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  five minute bible study however when we talk
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  about believing in people again it gives them
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  a strength to do anything and it helps you as
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  well and you may be thinking how does it help
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  me well number one you're encouraging other people
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  and you will find that this encouragement will
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  in turn be there when you need it so let's start
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  from a place of where we know that no one is
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  perfect and there's really no perfect relationship
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  however there are strong relationships out there
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  and Yours can be one of them. A number of the
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  relationships in your life can be healthy and
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  good when we learn to work on this particular
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  attribute because see when we encourage other
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  people it builds trust, it builds respect, it
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  builds a care between the two of you and they
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  can go out into the world and do the same. See
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  when we believe in people it also helps them.
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  to find a value in themselves. We have identified
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  a trait in other people when we say, hey, I believe
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  in you. You can do this. And essentially, you
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  are helping a person to build up a when type
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  of scenario in their thinking. And listen, not
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  everyone gets there right away. everybody's in
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  different places in their lives. However, you're
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  starting to help this person build positive thinking
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  about themselves, about their world, about the
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  environment, about dealing with situations. And
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  again, this is something that is very hard to
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  come by these days. So many people think doom
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  and gloom they think they have no value they
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  have people in their lives tearing them apart
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  and it's really sad however you can be that person
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  to change their life's direction no matter what
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  is going on sewing those positive words affirmations
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  into their lives will help to build this person
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  up and they in turn Will build someone else up
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  you and it will continue it is paying it forward
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  Now let's talk about another aspect about who
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  we invest time into See ideally what you want
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  to do is You want to put yourself in a place
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  where you are investing in someone? That you
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  know has the potential that you know for whatever
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  reason this potential is being smothered or being
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  held down or It's just not come to the surface
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  yet. Right? We all get to different places at
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  different times in life so use wisdom because
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  it's not about you putting yourself out there
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  and being used or Displacing your trust and and
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  being disrespected. No, this is about putting
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  a value someone's life and helping them to rise
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  to the top so let's talk some more about how
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  to do this the first thing is that you should
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  know is you should always be in a posture of
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  having healthy boundaries with people and you
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  may be thinking well how do I do that how do
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  I begin if I'm already in certain relationships
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  and I see that these people have potential Where
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  do I go from here? Well first you want to recognize
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  if you have healthy boundaries with whomever
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  you you want to help to build up Healthy boundaries
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  means that you are not in an abusive relationship.
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  You're not letting a person Disrespect you you
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  are not letting a person walk all over you instead
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  You're building on good traits. You are building
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  on giving honesty to this person you are building
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  on being supportive and patient with this person
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  and Most of all you are giving this person a
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  fair chance to rise to the occasion to come up
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  and be a better person and I want to be very
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  clear about this because there are many people
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  out there in abusive relationships This is not
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  necessarily for you If you are an abusive relationship,
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  you want to start to install healthy boundaries,
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  distance yourself, and seek professional counseling.
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  However, for those of you that are out there
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  and find yourself in a position where you love
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  to encourage people, you love to see people advance
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  and do better than you. You love to see people
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  come out of situations where there was no way
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  to get out of them and I will also say that you
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  love to see the goodness in humanity and especially
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  in an abundance and When you stop to pay it forward
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  to believe in people This is what you're doing.
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  You're not creating many means of yourself or
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  anything like that, but you're helping to Create
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  at times or build on good traits and this is
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  something that Again, it's just for a few in
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  between today When you stop to help someone recognize
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  their potential and believe in them This could
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  be the encouragement between night and day in
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  their lives. And we don't know what people are
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  facing at home. Some people are thinking about
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  suicide. Some people are thinking about, you
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  know, ending the lives of others. A positive
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  word from you can change their whole thought
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  process. So when we believe in people, there's
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  just a whole scale of what you can expect in
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  outcomes. But ideally, you are turning their
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  life around for the better. You are helping them
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  to see inside themselves the good. And that good
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  is going to help to change other people's lives
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  for those that they reach. So as I bring this
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  message to a close. I will share a final thought
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  where we all need people that refuse to give
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  up on us and Sometimes we don't have the parents
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  or the grandparents or the relatives to do it
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  But you could be that person you could be that
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  light in a dark place to help change someone's
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  life for the better these are things to think
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  about and If you feel like you're not in a position
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  to do something like this now, then don't do
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  it We all get to certain places in our lives
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  at different times But just know that even one
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  positive word can help change someone's life
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  for the better Even if it's not so often So this
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  is the end of this week's message. I hope it's
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  a help to many of you out there I look forward
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  to you guys joining me again for the next episode
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  and I wish you all a good week