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Veterans, Passports, Same-Sex Marriage, Shutdown, and more | S14 E4 · Live! with Fefe and Freddy

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Hello, hello, hello. Good evening, good evening, good
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evening. I am so excited.
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I haven't been this excited in a while, but welcome to live with
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Fifi and Freddy. We have AI have a feeling that
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that there's gonna be quite a few episodes this season that
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are gonna go over the hour because there's gonna be a lot
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to talk about. Well, there was a lot to talk
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about before today, so I can imagine where we're gonna go,
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where we're gonna go, the people we're gonna see and talk about.
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I'm so excited that justice may have been served.
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Or maybe, I don't know, but I'm Felicia Fifi Minor.
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Welcome to your Wednesday night conversation and the mishap doll
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over there that may or may not be able to see because this is
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too good. It's fine.
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I can see well enough. Mostly it's fine.
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It's fine. If you say so we're it's.
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It's fine, We're fine. Everything is fine.
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I can. See.
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Mostly I can't see anything that's in front of me because
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everything in front of me is dark on a dark table.
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So I I I got nothing, but the rest of this is fine.
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As long as it's illuminated. OK?
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Tonight we have a packed show lined up for you.
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Here's what we're talking about. Can watching reality TV be
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helpful for your relationship? I feel like the news and reality
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TV are kind of mixing right now. Who got told to go fuck
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themselves recently officially, do you know?
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I do know, yes. Flight cancellations.
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Airport closures. Is the government still shut
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down? This is what we're talking
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about. And the news may change while
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we're sitting here because they are in meetings.
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I just realized this is like in front of my face.
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There's a meeting, you know they've been in meeting since
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like Saturday or Sunday. Oh, for sure.
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It's back to work, but are we gonna have a?
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Are we back to feeding our people and.
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I don't know with the with the with the Democrats decided that
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decided to roll over like. And take one anyway.
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So the quick question that I have for you tonight is what's a
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trend you secret secretly hope comes back in style?
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What's a trend that I secretly hope comes back in style?
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So this, I guess it's not really a a trend, but it's sort of a
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thing. And we were, we were talking
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about this the other day while we were watching TV because so
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for those of you that don't remember a life before streaming
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back in the day, right, you would have regular TV, right?
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So you'd have your standard channels, NBCCBS, whatever.
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That was just your TV, right? And you would just right, you
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would just watch whatever was on, you know, if you didn't like
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what was on that Channel, you would change the channel,
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whatever, right? And you had commercials, blah,
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blah, blah. Then cable came around and with
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cable you paid for cable and cable allowed you to watch
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movies and some other things. And the one thing that paying
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for cable got you was no commercials or fewer commercials
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because you were paying for cable.
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Now all of a sudden you have to pay for literally everything and
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you have fucking commercials on top of it.
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Now the whole. Point of commercials, right?
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Right, the whole fucking purpose of commercials is that's where
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where your your networks got their funding from.
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So why then am I paying for something, getting commercials
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and then have to pay more to get rid of said commercials?
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So what I would like to come back is if I'm paying for
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something, I shouldn't have to watch commercials 'cause I'm
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already fucking paying for it. Very good, very good.
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Because I'm old and I remember back in.
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The day I'm not sure what secret I hold of trends 'cause I'm
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usually kind of following them, but it pertains to music.
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I would like to go back to music that you could tell everybody
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apart. Now I'm sitting here listening
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to music and I go, oh, did Ariana Grande put out a new
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song? It wasn't even Ariana Grande was
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some girl that just came out like 2 weeks ago.
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And I'm like, why does she sound like her 'cause that's weird.
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No, no, no, don't do that. And then like everybody is, I
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mean, I guess our we had people that sounded alike, but not like
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you couldn't tell the difference.
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Like, do you imagine if Mariah and Whitney came out and then we
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were like, OK, well, you can't really tell the difference.
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And then there's also, I mean, so many people still use like
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auto tune and like everything is manufactured like it's all.
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Yeah, and I'm not looking forward to not being able to
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tell if it's AI or a real person 'cause there was a woman that
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was like interviewed because she's like, I think she's China
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Styles or Tokyo Styles. But her AI can sing, and it's
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her voice that AI has developed into a song and she's making
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money off of it. Right, but she Can't Sing.
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It's a machine. That's no so right.
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Like, yeah, I, I. So let's get back to like, I
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don't mean to sound like a old fogey, but let's get back to
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that people like actual. Talent and.
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Yeah, sounding like people and not depending on robots to sing
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for us. Right.
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So anyway, that's my secret trend that I would hope that
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comes back. You can be a part of our
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community, our Patreon community by going to patreon.com and get
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exclusive content. Well, just right now I was
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putting on my makeup and then I think the baby up.
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But there's plenty of stuff like Freddy has recipes on there.
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We've been putting stuff on there before the episodes come
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out, dropping little Nuggets in there maybe.
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You get sneak peeks, first looks at photo shoots, behind the
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scenes stuff, there's all sorts of stuff up there.
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All sorts of stuff. We'd like to thank Bill,
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Brandon, Cassandra, Chris and Michelle D, Drake, Jensen and
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and the Grand Arbiter, Nicole, Patricia, Mason and Shannon for
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supporting us. Hello.
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Oh, sorry. I was like, where do I go?
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And a huge shout out to Wigs of a Kind for supporting us this
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season. This is the.
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This is the new one. It's very, it's giving, it's
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giving Grinch and I kind of like it.
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I might have to try that once we.
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It's the it's the whoop Dee. It's the.
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It's the the whoop Dee. I'm sure that's the official
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term. It is, yes.
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If you go to like, that's what it is, Yes, sure, I'm sure.
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If you want to support us, we more than welcome it.
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If you have Black Friday sales and your mom and pop and looking
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for people to spread the word, we're good at opening our mouths
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and spreading the word. We are very much so.
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We will spam the Internet. We will write blog post.
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We will. You know, do all the things.
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We will do all the things. Now, if you pay us well enough,
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we might destroy your competitors.
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It's up for debate. I don't know, with all the
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things that are going on right now, is that really that
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outlandish? Really.
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Right. Think about it, your business,
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not mine. How was your weekend?
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My weekend was actually pretty good.
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So I'm I'm on the struggle bus today because for some reason I
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was up at wide awake for no reason at 3:15 in the morning.
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Couldn't go back to sleep. So I am like I'm exhausted.
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My brain has been unable to brain all day.
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And then I decided to add insult to injury and basically give
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myself zero vision tonight. So yay for me.
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Can't. Wait, so my partner was in
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Flagstaff all weekend with like, her boyfriend, which I'm really
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mad about. Not because she was there with
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her boyfriend, but because I was not there and it was like in the
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60s. Yeah.
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Meanwhile I'm running around in shorts and AT shirt down here,
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which it's November. T-shirts should no longer be a
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thing. At the very least, at the very
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least I should be wearing like a long sleeve T-shirt or maybe a
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flannel. But running around in T-shirts
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and shorts in halfway through November.
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No, no, that should not be a thing.
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And I'm, I'm, I'm mad at it. So that meant with her being
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gone, I, I kind of had the house to myself, sort of the kids were
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here. Technically this was our weekend
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with the kids, but I never saw the oldest.
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Like he was only here one night last week.
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He was with his girlfriend the rest of the time.
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I saw the middle one for maybe 5 minutes total, and then about
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the same for the youngest. They're teenagers.
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They disappear into their room. They do whatever it is that they
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do. And I had whatever, you know.
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And then Saturday evening, I was at the Queer Center Fall Fest,
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which was at Bunkhouse. It was a cute little, cute
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little shindig. I wish that I don't know, I
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don't know who dropped the ball at Queer Center and I've already
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talked to Jesse about this, but somebody dropped the ball at
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Queer Center because there was no, I didn't see any advertising
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for it. I saw the 1st post.
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Hunt for it when I was. Right.
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The first post that I saw about it was after Jesse asked if I
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wanted to come judge the the Bake Off and then he posted
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about it. And that was the first post that
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I saw about it. And I think that if more people
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had seen it, I didn't see anything.
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So I don't know who's doing what or who's not doing what, but
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somebody needs to be on the get on the ball with that.
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Because I feel like the people that were at Bunkhouse weren't
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there for the event. They were there to hang out at
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Bunkhouse and the event happened to be there at the same time,
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you know what I mean? And it could have been like, we
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only had one person for the Bake Off.
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There could have been more. Like, I feel like there
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definitely could have been more, but nobody knew.
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And that's unfortunate. I they, I mean, they still did
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OK with things. Like, they still did all right
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with, like, the silent auction. But I think that it could have
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been better if people had planned for it, you know what I
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mean? So queer center folks, social
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media, get on it. Sunday was the Emperor's ball at
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the Rock. Another cute little shindig.
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My, my whole thing is you're gonna call something a ball for
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two hours. That's not a ball.
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But it was only two hours. It was only two hours.
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It went from 4:00 to 6:00, which was fine 'cause it got me home
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early. 2 hours. Has it always been?
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I don't know. I don't think so.
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I feel like it has been a longer thing, but I mean it was.
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A bird's ball. Normally it's like there's
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dancing and drag and stuff, but there were only two performances
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and then some dancing sort of it was, it was, it was interesting.
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I'm, I did not go all out as far as face or anything like that.
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Like I went in sort of 1/2 face. I looked cute, but I yes, I, you
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know, I didn't like I didn't I, I'm, I'm gonna be honest, I
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didn't put a whole lot of effort into it because it was 2 hours,
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so I'm not gonna go all. Out if you're not like going
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somewhere after. Right.
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Like I just, I, I'm gonna be honest, I didn't, I didn't put a
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lot of effort. Into it because the show is like
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4 hours that's why I'm asking like why is it only two?
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It was, it was, it was very short.
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But again it got I. I was home early both nights, so
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Saturday I was home around 10:00 and Sunday I was home by like 7
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I think. So I'm right.
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So I'm like, I'm OK, I'm fine with that.
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Which I'm, I'm, I'm OK with that.
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Last night was actually kind of fun.
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So my partner and I sort of had an impromptu date night at the
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Orpheum because I won tickets through the Blue Ribbon Army to
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go see Psycho at the Orpheum, which was fun.
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I'd seen, I've, I've seen Psycho before.
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I've seen it. Not you.
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Not a play the movie Psycho. Oh.
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Alfred Hitchcock. Yes, I'm I'm asking questions.
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Jeez. Like please tell me you know
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what psycho is. My partner apparently had never
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seen it. I know I was like really?
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Which was kind of funny because there was 1 scene that anybody
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that's seen Psycho knows it as it it is.
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It is classic Hitchcock. It is the movie that put
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Hitchcock on the map. It is the movie that kind of
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laid the groundwork for pretty much every horror movie going
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forward. It was extraordinarily shocking.
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References to that she never understood that like silhouette
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in the shower. She'd seen like, clips of the
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shower scene and stuff like that, but not like she'd never
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seen the movie. And it was funny, 'cause I'm
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sitting there and then there's one part where he comes out on
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the landing and a like the, the private detective is walking up
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the stairs and he comes out, you know, this way.
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And you hear that Ree Ree, and she jumps and I'm like, no way.
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Oh yeah, she jumped. It was kind of funny, but so fun
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fact, Mayor Gallego has actually proclaimed December 11th to be
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Psycho Day. And the reason being is first of
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all, the, the, the, the film has been named culturally visually
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important because it's, it's, it's got a there's a lot to it.
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But the very first opening scene is downtown Phoenix.
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You see the hotel San Carlos, you see like the herd building,
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you see like all of that. And because it was filmed in in
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December, you see holiday decorations up.
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So in the opening it says Phoenix, AZ, December 11th, 1960
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2:43 PM. So because it that was the
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specific. Time.
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It's just what that that's how Hitchcock does it.
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So that is just why December 11th is now at.
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That specific time. I don't think so, and I'm gonna.
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Google. That, but December 11th is
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officially Psycho Day here in Arizona, which is kind of funny.
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Officially, officially, officially.
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So that was my weekend. Although, OK, I'm, I'm gonna
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throw this out here because I can, I added this.
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So I'm, I'm every so often I'm going to throw in what I call a
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pet petty peeve because it's a pet peeve, but it's petty.
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I'm a, I'm a, I'm just going to say it.
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My, my petty peeve for this week is people who post food pics of
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food that don't look a seasoned, B appetizing or C edible.
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Like why, why are you doing that?
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I have never seen a pork chop that pale before.
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I haven't. I don't, I don't, I don't.
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I don't like. Why?
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Why? Why?
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I don't think I know these people.
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I you might actually Oh. No.
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You might actually, but I I can't, I can't bless your heart
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if you think that, you know, this is you being fancy when you
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cooking, when you're like, Oh my God, I cook so well when I'm
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high or whatever and I'm like. Oh do you definitely don't post
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that. Wait until you so bless.
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Your heart, oh Lord, I, I, it drives me.
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It it as someone who is like particular about my food.
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I know. And I like I said, I'm I fully
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admit, I fully admit that this is petty as fuck.
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I hate it. I'm like why is this on my feed?
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I'm kind of there with you. Sometimes the food looks good,
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but also presentation is everything for me.
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If I go to your house and you like just kind of sloppily put
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it on my plate, it just kinda maybe this is bougie that maybe
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that's bougie. But but I have seen some
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pictures of said food and maybe the food looks good, like you
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did a very good job, but like the beans are all over the
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place. All over the place I'm like.
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And then you kind of put the rice, just tossed it on there
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and I'm like, if you gonna show us like.
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I there should be contrast between the food and the white
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plate that it is sitting on if I cannot tell the difference
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between your food and the plate? No.
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That is a problem. We'll talk about it in the
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'cause I have an extension of this, 'cause I'm ready a text
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this weekend and. So yeah, we go that that will be
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something for the after show. So make sure that you sign, you
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know, sign into the Patreon and and do the thing.
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So how was your weekend? Speaking of waking up at 3:00
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AM, the kids woke up at 3:00 AM on Saturday and I did not wake
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up at 3:00 AM on Saturday. I was, you know, I was hunked
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out and of course got got the better end of that and had to
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stay up with them and it just threw the whole day off.
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I don't know if you feel this way.
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Well, of course you do. You know what I'm talking about.
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It just felt like, and I don't know why my stomach is grumbling
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so loud, but if it threw the whole day off, we didn't want to
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really do anything. The kids didn't want to really
21:37
do anything. They were kind of like fighting
21:39
the whole like, maybe I want to go to sleep.
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I'm like, we're not taking naps 'cause we need you to at the end
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of the night, no naps. Yeah.
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No, no, no, no. Yeah, and so that became a
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challenge. Sunday was almost back to
21:56
normal, but not quite. The only thing I can really
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remember is finishing laundry. And if you follow me on
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Instagram, I post on the stories I posted about parental burnout
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and I feel like it's a real thing.
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And a lot of you responded, like 10 of you responded.
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I did not realize that I had triggered some of you.
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But yes, we do take care of ourselves.
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And when we can get a date night, we do.
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Maybe they need to be more scheduled or more regularly
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scheduled. But yeah, parental burnout was a
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thing. I'm, I am very, very glad that
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it's like we don't really have to deal with that right now
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because the kids are pretty much all independent and doing their
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own shit. And we don't have to deal with
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like we don't have to do that. You know, like, yes, there's,
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there's still stresses when there are teens and, and you
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know, young adults and stuff, but we don't have to constantly
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be there. We don't have to constantly
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entertain them. You know what I mean?
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Like. Well, facts.
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Yours weren't even there, so. Yeah, which is why when my
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partner was like, do you think it'll be a problem if I go to
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Flagstaff for the weekend? I'm like no, I can guarantee you
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the kids probably won't even notice you're gone.
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Did they even notice that she was?
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Gone. Our daughter did.
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I don't think that the boys didn't.
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I don't think. I don't.
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I don't. Oh, they're boys.
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And they probably were like. The middle one never notices
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anything anyway, so like well. Then you would think it was out
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of pattern if they did. Right.
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Monday and Tuesday were relaxing luckily the daycare was open for
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the kids yesterday for veteran's day.
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Veteran's Day for me yesterday was especially coming from a
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military family is usually kind of like I would text my mom and
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be like thank you for your service and not that I am not
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thankful for people service. It's this year.
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It just seems kind of like the current climate with the
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government shutdown and everything just feels very.
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Yeah, no, I get it. Because of good old dump truck,
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good old dump. Truck I I do not come from like
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a a real military family. One uncle was career military
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for a while. He's very right wing, very
24:51
conservative. You know, he's he's that guy.
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My other uncle was drafted to Vietnam.
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My dad never served and my aunt never served.
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But the one uncle that was drafted, like served a few years
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and then that was it, you know, So it's like I have a cousin
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that went into the Army for a little bit, but that that's
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really about it. Nobody else, really.
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Did the term and then said the fuck out.
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My mom was actually the one that talked me out of going into the
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military. Little known fact I was
25:29
thinking. About that.
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So, fun fact, so was I. For a hot minute I even took the
25:38
asvabs. I did.
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I passed and my mom was like, Oh, yeah, no, yes.
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And this is how mothers say things or parents say things
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without you noticing that they're saying it.
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She goes, I don't think that you would be good.
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And what she was really saying, and she would let her tell me is
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that no, it was a little this and.
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Right. I was gonna make it.
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And she was probably right, because.
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I can't, I can't see you in the military.
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Go get a manicure. And then you'd be like like, it
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would just not be it. Would you break a nail and it
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would just be bad? And people yelling at me.
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You'd be like, I'm sorry, What? You want me to do what?
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OK, look, I need you to lower your voice.
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No, I don't know who the hell you think you're talking to, but
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no. I was totally.
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I'm sorry, you said what? Now we're cleaning toilets?
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No, no, no, no, no, no. Plus, I joke all the time that I
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was raised by the two of them and I was basically raised in
26:48
the military, 'cause said yeah, right, Right.
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With that being said, reality setting up, is it this one?
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I'm just. All right.
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So I'm going to kind of do the tip that I was going to do last
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week before I changed my mind on everything.
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It was good stuff. What happened?
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The government. So tonight I'm gonna talk about
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reality TV and relationships. I promise there is a method to
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this madness. So can watching reality TV like,
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and not just any reality TV, but things like 90 Day Fiance, Mered
27:49
at First Sight, things like that.
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Can they? Be not so much so I mean, can
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they be beneficial to a relationship?
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Now, my, my partner and I always kind of say yes, we kind of
28:05
jokingly credit reality romances for like the success of our own
28:08
relationship, but it's kind of actually partially true.
28:12
And let me, let me let me explain this.
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Let me let me give folks like a kind of Cliff's Notes version of
28:20
our relationship because if you let her tell it, it will just go
28:23
on and on and on. And then it turns into this.
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I, I can do it much quicker. So we met in 2020.
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Our first date was March 13th, Friday the 13th and then
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everything shut down less than a week later.
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So sorry about that. That was.
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Probably. Congratulations, you shut down
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the whole country. Yep, we dated virtually and like
28:45
distanced for like 6 months. So we had like virtual trash TV
28:49
Mondays where we watched reality TV like with the Hulu.
28:53
Remember when Hulu and Netflix did like the the Cher thing,
28:56
whatever the fuck it was called? So we did that and kind of we
29:00
would sort of see each other over my, my patio balcony
29:05
because it was on the street I was at a my, it's the first
29:08
level first floor condo and my balcony was literally on the
29:11
street. So like we would like make
29:13
things and literally exchange things like over the balcony,
29:16
but like be 6 feet apart. We did that for like 6 months.
29:19
We started hanging out in person in September of 2020 and then my
29:25
condo decided to flood in November.
29:27
So we ended up staying with her for like a month.
29:29
We bought our house March 2021 and then we got married March of
29:32
this year. So that's our relationship in a
29:34
nutshell. So in a U-Haul.
29:39
So while we were watching things like Married at First Sight, we
29:45
were able to talk about the stuff that was going on, the red
29:49
flags, communication styles, hard boundaries, etcetera.
29:53
We were able to set a foundation like expectations, etcetera
29:59
before we actually started hanging out in person.
30:02
And I think it actually made the transition from virtual slash
30:07
distance dating to in person much easier.
30:11
Obviously things are different now, no one really dates
30:16
virtually or whatever anymore, but.
30:18
Some people do. Some people do, but I still
30:22
think that there is some value to watching shows like that
30:26
together. And I think it's even rubbing
30:29
off on our daughter. So OK, So what happened was so
30:35
here's here's an example. We watched the latest season of
30:39
Love Island which Oh my God, never the fuck again.
30:43
Why? Oh, I think I tried to watch
30:46
this one. So bad the only reason we
30:49
started watching it was because our daughter kept talking about
30:51
it. So we're like, OK, let's.
30:52
Try to relate to the to. Right, I'm like you're welcome.
30:57
First of all, the amount of just toxicity in general is fucking
31:01
awful. I'm pretty sure they go out of
31:02
their way to find the most vapid, shallow people on the
31:05
planet for that show. So just not the best example,
31:09
but you made it. Past the intros.
31:12
Oh my God, we watched the whole fucking.
31:16
Thing if you have not watched Love Island, let me spoil the
31:20
whole thing for you. So they have the weirdest, like
31:26
I feel like they're like talent scouted people that you if they
31:30
didn't open their mouth, they would be wonderful models.
31:32
But they open their mouth and they say weirdest things and
31:37
you're like, no. And you think that it can't get
31:41
worse. They really can get.
31:42
Worse. And they're just as bad, if not
31:46
worse. And they say things that make
31:48
you go, oh. It so we, we, we were watching
31:53
this so that we could relate to the child, right?
31:55
Because, you know, parenting. But according to social media
32:01
and from what we were hearing from because I I didn't follow
32:04
it on social media, I'm not going into it that deep, but
32:08
according to social media and our daughter, everyone was all
32:11
about this one chick, Hooda. Oh God.
32:15
Everyone was hashtag Team Hooda. Well, our daughter was like, Oh
32:21
my God, no, this woman is abusive and toxic and awful.
32:27
Why are people like her? Like, why do people like her?
32:31
And so we had to kind of break it down for her.
32:34
We're like, OK, so the reason? Oh, you're gonna do a Hooda
32:39
breakdown? I'm not, we're not going into
32:42
detail, but. OK.
32:44
The reason that people liked her was because they could see
32:50
themselves in her without saying it.
32:54
They're saying that they would totally behave the same way.
32:57
If your favorite person on a show is that toxic and that
33:02
verbally and emotionally abusive, maybe a good time to
33:06
really look at why they're your favorite.
33:10
And people were like, people we know were like, Oh my God, we're
33:13
totally team Hooda. And I'm like, are you serious
33:17
right now? Because that tells me that you
33:20
find nothing wrong with what she did.
33:22
And it's not even about like the entertainment value at that
33:24
point. Like it was awful.
33:28
Some of the things that she was doing, some of the things that
33:29
she was saying, I was like, if my partner said and did those
33:33
things to me, you're out immediately.
33:35
You're gone. Not a fucking chance in hell.
33:37
Even our daughter was like, oh God, no.
33:39
If someone said that to me, we'd be done so.
33:43
To put it in context, so this God, dare I say, woman, she says
33:51
things that I don't think she would get away with on a
33:57
day-to-day basis, but maybe she does.
33:59
I don't know. I think she does.
34:02
I think people excuse it or something.
34:04
I don't. Really, if I saw her in real
34:08
life and she opened that mouth and it talked to me like that.
34:16
No, ma'am, sorry. There, there, there things that
34:22
she did, things that she said were things that people should
34:24
never get away with in a relationship.
34:26
And like the fact that we were, you know, our daughter even saw
34:30
this and was like, what the hell, like.
34:33
But does she recognize that if that starts to happen in a
34:37
relationship that she's in, that she needs to quickly exit state
34:42
right? Yes.
34:44
Now, right now my partner and I are watching the current season
34:49
of Married at First Sight, which is streaming on Peacock and it's
34:54
actually a little bit interesting.
34:56
Now, first of all, the, the success rate for Married at
35:03
first Sight is, I think something like 4% or something
35:08
like it's awful. The experts are terrible at
35:11
their jobs. They really are.
35:11
They're awful. So the fact they keep calling
35:13
the experts, I'm like, stop calling them experts.
35:16
They're they're, they never call people out.
35:19
They're never around when they're supposed to be like
35:21
it's. What are the experts?
35:22
Are they just celebrities? That So you have Pastor Cal, who
35:25
is a relation. He's a pastor and a relationship
35:27
expert. You have Doctor Pepper who is
35:29
like a she's like a something, I don't remember what her degree
35:34
is in. I don't know.
35:35
And then you have Oh fuck, what is her name?
35:39
She's relatively new. She's only been around the last
35:42
couple seasons, but she's the only one that is like that kind
35:47
of does her job. Everybody else is like I, I, I'm
35:50
watching and I'm like, why aren't you jumping in now?
35:53
Why aren't you calling them out for this shit?
35:56
Why aren't you coaching them? And like that's it's fucking
36:00
awful. But anyway, so what's different
36:04
about this season is that there are actually two older couples.
36:07
Both of them are in their 50s and 60s.
36:11
They've been married before. They've had children before.
36:14
Like they're in fact one of them.
36:15
Her daughter is one of the other couples, right?
36:20
So she got married at first sight.
36:21
Her daughter also got married at first sight on the same season.
36:25
So that's been interesting, but it's been interesting watching
36:30
the the way that the the older couples work through this and
36:37
watching the way that they communicate is, is so different
36:41
than the younger couples. They're usually yes.
36:45
I mean, they still, there's one woman that God forbid her
36:49
husband try to relate to anything that she's saying
36:52
because then it then it's, well, I'm trying to talk to you and
36:54
you just made it all about you. Well, no, he didn't.
36:56
He just said something that could relate to what you were
37:01
saying. He wasn't making it about him.
37:03
He wasn't trying to, you know, bog out the conversation about
37:09
you, right? It was like, I don't remember
37:13
what the last conversation she said.
37:16
She said something about the way things were like in her
37:19
childhood or whatever. And he's like, oh, well, am I?
37:20
We didn't, We didn't have that or whatever it was.
37:23
And she was just like, I'm like, OK, lady, whatever.
37:27
But in general, in general, the older couples tend to handle
37:34
conflict and things very differently.
37:36
They're much calmer and they're much more willing to talk things
37:42
out and to compromise. So this, this one, this one
37:46
couple with a woman that that like she, she said something and
37:52
he got agitated about it. Like he was not happy.
37:56
Like the way that she kind of came off.
37:58
He was just like, so he actually, they were driving and
38:00
he actually pulled over and into a parking lot and she's like,
38:05
are you OK? And he's like, I need a minute.
38:10
And right. He's like, I need a minute
38:13
because you know, I, I don't understand why there is this
38:17
constant like I, I feel like I'm, I'm attacked and I don't
38:21
know what I keep saying or doing that's wrong, blah, blah, blah.
38:24
And, you know, so they have these, these conversations and
38:26
they, you know, they, they, they talk things out and they're much
38:30
more rational and the lines I think aren't as hard, which you
38:35
would almost think would be the opposite, right?
38:38
Since they're, they're older, they've done this.
38:40
You would think that no, I'm, this is the way I am and I'm not
38:43
going to change. And La La, la, la.
38:45
But it's actually more the younger couples that have that
38:48
sort of mentality, like there's they have more deal Breakers
38:52
that really shouldn't be deal Breakers.
38:55
There's there's one couple who is actually the, the daughter of
39:00
the other woman and her, her husband really likes doing
39:07
things like Burning Man. He's an introvert, you know,
39:11
and, but he really kind of found his space at some of these
39:16
festivals and he loves doing it. And it's only once or twice a
39:19
year. Yeah, and those festivals are
39:24
based off of individuality and. Right.
39:27
You know, it's where he's he, he says it's the one place he
39:29
really feels comfortable and he really feels like himself.
39:32
And you know, he gets to be around other like minded people.
39:34
And his wife is like, EW, no, I don't want to go camping, I
39:42
don't want to do festivals, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
39:44
And they, and this is where like the experts are, are.
39:50
The experts, the ones that put them together.
39:53
Yes, they're the ones that match them.
39:56
So they're like sitting there and they're talking to the
39:59
experts and this is like a, this is a, a, a point of contention
40:02
for them. And what's dumb is like she's.
40:08
Not willing to go. She doesn't want to go to the
40:10
festival. She doesn't want to do the.
40:11
Festival, at least I. Don't want to do this at all.
40:13
Nope, doesn't want to do it at all.
40:16
And but The thing is, is that they asked her, you know, how
40:21
would you feel if he went and did Burning Man by himself?
40:25
She would feel left out. I don't know how I feel about
40:29
that. So why?
40:33
And that's that's one of those things where it's like, OK, so
40:36
are you not OK with your partner having likes or activities that
40:41
can be done without you? Because that's a problem.
40:46
Like you don't have to do everything.
40:48
You don't have to like all of the same things.
40:51
You know, why can't you compromise and be like, all
40:53
right, well, if you know, if there are three festivals a year
40:56
that you like to go to, I will maybe go with you to one of
40:59
them, you know what I mean? Like you don't have to, you
41:06
know, or. I don't.
41:08
We do not have the same interests.
41:10
Right. You know, so it's like.
41:12
Very interesting. You don't have to like
41:15
everything that your partner likes.
41:16
You don't have to do everything with your partner.
41:19
But it's like, all right, well, this may not be your thing, but
41:24
it is my thing. And, and maybe once in a while
41:27
you can do this thing with me. Or if you really like, if you
41:30
100% don't want to do it with me, then just let me go and do
41:33
it. And if you are so insecure that
41:37
you are not OK with your partner going to do something, then
41:40
that's a problem with you. Like going to like, like if I
41:45
were to gonna go like if I were gonna go to like AIDF or
41:48
something, I thought chances are I would probably go by myself
41:52
because my partner can't always get the time off right.
41:56
So, and every time I've gone, I have gone by myself.
41:59
That's. For that one year.
42:04
For with AIDF. Yeah, I went.
42:08
No no, I meant without my partner.
42:10
Oh, and you? Didn't go with me.
42:14
You weren't driving. With me, yeah, I didn't travel
42:17
with you. I find it very interesting
42:19
because I feel like I was that insecure like 20 something to 30
42:26
something. And then like as soon as I like
42:29
approached like 3540, I kind of was like, why do I care so much?
42:36
Right. And that's it's, it was like a,
42:40
of course I'm going to therapy. So then it was like a question I
42:43
was like asking my therapist, like, why do I fucking care so
42:46
much? Like, what is my deal?
42:49
Like? And so it was more of like
42:54
looking inside and saying like, look, what are we doing if?
42:59
And it that's and that's, and that's kind of why, like
43:03
watching some of these shows with your partner can kind of
43:07
give you an opportunity to talk about things that you might not
43:12
necessarily talk about until idiot comes up or you know what
43:15
I mean? Like it may be like, oh.
43:18
I don't really like the way that they handle that, but when it
43:21
comes up, then if you're in the moment.
43:24
Right then it can get too much, you know, so it's like watching
43:29
some of these shows with some of the conflicts that come up or
43:31
some of the like communication issues that come up or whatever.
43:34
It's it's easier in that sense to go, Oh, I, I, I didn't like
43:40
that at all. Like is, you know, if I said
43:43
that, how would you feel? You know what I mean?
43:45
And that that kind of gives that door a chance to open and to
43:50
actually have a conversation. Red flags.
43:54
Right. And like the, the, there were,
43:57
and that's what we did, you know, during the pandemic,
43:59
'cause we watched these things and something would happen and
44:02
we'd be like, no, that, that would be an immediate hard stop
44:06
for me. Like that.
44:07
You know, there were people that were like, I don't want you
44:10
doing this hobby or I don't want you doing that hobby.
44:12
And I'm like, look, if anybody tried to tell me that I don't
44:15
like you doing drag, I, I'd be done.
44:18
I've been there, done that. And that is a hard limit for me.
44:21
Never again will I be with anybody that will try to dictate
44:24
where and when and with whom I am performing.
44:29
You know, 'cause I've, that's happened before.
44:30
I've had partners that have tried to do that shit and I'm
44:34
never doing that again. If I decide not to perform, it's
44:38
because I decide not to perform. If I decide to retire from
44:40
performing, it's because I have decided to retire from
44:43
performing and not because somebody else told me I should
44:47
retire. You know what I mean?
44:48
So. Heard very loudly.
44:52
So, you know, don't don't discount watching trashy TV with
44:56
things like that, that specifically that genre with
44:59
your partner 'cause it can actually be beneficial.
45:02
It can give you the opportunity to talk about things that may
45:07
not come up otherwise until you know.
45:11
I feel like I have watched 90 Day Fiance and I feel like I
45:15
learned a lot about people. That's that's one of our big
45:20
ones. I first of all, I have question.
45:24
I have I. People.
45:27
People are the fact that nobody bothers to Google like customs
45:33
and things like that. Like they and, and, and always
45:36
seems to happen when people get involved with someone whose
45:38
family is Muslim, They, they get involved with someone who is
45:42
Muslim and then they act surprised when their family is
45:45
like, no, you need to be more modest.
45:46
No, you need to act this way. No, the man is the head of the
45:49
house and you're going to do what the hell I told you.
45:50
And it's like, that's what it is.
45:52
That's the culture. And then they're like, Oh my
45:55
God, I can't believe this. It's like, did you do you know
45:57
nothing? Well, they This is why you need
46:01
nothing. About any of this?
46:03
This is why you keep watching, because of the ignorance.
46:07
Right. I mean, some people it's it's
46:10
it's kind of it's gotten a little bit better with 90 Day
46:12
Fiance. Some people actually learn the
46:13
language, which is surprising. I'm like, Oh my God, look at you
46:16
actually learning the fucking language.
46:18
Like but yeah, 90 Day Fiance is is.
46:23
But I would, if you wanna like do like a crash course with your
46:28
partner that is like intense, like you want to take the
46:33
one-on-one course, watch some of that.
46:38
And then you go, OK, I didn't like this, this, this and this.
46:45
And see how that gets you into a conversation because life, I'm
46:53
telling you. But I'm sure if somebody
46:58
recorded some of the conversations that are had and
47:02
some people's houses, we would not be surprised.
47:06
That's a whole another conversation, the whole glass
47:09
houses thing, 'cause. Oh, I see it.
47:13
We'll talk about it. Let's talk about things that are
47:18
happening. Now I'm gonna start light and
47:37
then go ahead, 'cause I know you read it.
47:43
And then you was like, why aren't we getting right to it?
47:47
I'm working. We're gonna work to it.
47:48
We're gonna, we're gonna. We're gonna build it.
47:50
We're gonna build up to it. Please.
47:55
So with current events, I love seasonal foods.
48:01
Here we go. With everything going on, I
48:04
didn't want you to miss this. McDonald's announced that again,
48:08
the Mcrib has made its seasonal reappearance on its menu.
48:13
Some are excited about it. It's not even rib.
48:15
Go ahead. I have makeup.
48:18
It's not even a rib. You're right, I don't feel
48:23
anyway about it, but it makes me wonder what are some of the
48:27
seasonal favorites that other people might have?
48:30
Like you guys know that of course I love pumpkin spice
48:35
everything. So this is my season, this is my
48:39
thing. And then I also like Cranberry
48:46
Sprite which only comes this time of year and then disappears
48:50
like after the first of the year.
48:54
I This is seasonal stuff for me. I.
48:57
Don't have like favorites I at all.
49:04
I'm trying to think, I guess as far like, I don't know, seasonal
49:07
favorites as far as far as food goes, all the food right around
49:12
this time of year gets very white, so.
49:22
Where I am from, no, it doesn't. Where I am now, it is.
49:29
Got that. We'll, we'll talk about it in
49:34
The Patriot. Get this.
49:39
Speaking of truthful things, Donald Trump's did you know
49:43
Donald Trump had a a social network?
49:46
Oh yeah. This before Donald Trump's Truth
49:49
Social has its own AI generated bot to compete with likes of
49:56
like Grok, which is on Twitter or X whatever you want to call
49:59
it, and ChatGPT. But the program has one faulty
50:04
flaw. Yep, it actually tells the truth
50:08
about the president's policies. Uh huh.
50:12
So yeah. So does grok though too.
50:15
If you ask grok like things, it will it.
50:17
Will it will tell you all the time and then it says grok has
50:22
fact checked this or I don't have to say Fact Check anymore.
50:25
It says something like. The consensus is that this is
50:29
not true. And I'm like, oh, I that
50:33
presidential tweet. Though that's that's the only
50:36
time when like AI is acceptable, when it backfires on the morons
50:41
and it's like, oh, no, no, no, no, no, we're gonna no, that is
50:48
the only time that AI is acceptable, y'all.
50:50
When it is fact checking the people that actually tried to
50:53
like program it and get it to work against them.
50:55
No, when it's like, I know you're full of shit.
50:58
That is the only time AI is acceptable.
51:01
And I invite you to Google what I just told you and look at the
51:10
screenshots that I'm not signing up for the The Truth Social
51:14
Network. But if you like Google, there's
51:19
a lot of people that are screenshotting and like sharing.
51:23
So yes, have fun. Cause dump truck said something
51:28
and then it goes Nope. Reading the news over the past
51:35
couple days has been tough to keep up with.
51:40
Everything has changed very rapidly.
51:42
Even last night I was up. Probably when you were waking up
51:45
I was going to bed. A lot has happened.
51:51
We changed our mind and then this, that and the other
51:53
happened. Let me know if something needs
51:57
to be updated because a lot happened today.
52:02
There's I can't, I, I can't. It was literally hour by hour.
52:05
Things were changing. So I'm like.
52:08
Your girl got voted in or sworn in?
52:12
Finally. Jesus fuck, only took seven
52:15
weeks. 7 fucking weeks. Four months, it's fine.
52:22
It's fine. Now she's signed what we needed
52:25
her to sign and things. Yeah, what else?
52:29
So the government's been shut down.
52:31
Here are some setbacks that also played into my weekend.
52:38
veteran's day felt less because I found out also that in most
52:46
cases military personnel had been paid by reconfiguration of
52:51
funds and somewhere in there. So they got paid on October
52:56
15th, they got paid on October 30th, but if the shutdown
53:02
continued, they wouldn't get paid in a couple days.
53:09
So I'm interested to see do we, are we still shut down 'cause?
53:15
I officially, I don't know, I, I haven't seen anything about the
53:18
government actually reopening. I just know that a handful of of
53:24
Democrats decided to jump ship and side with the Republicans on
53:31
whatever the fuck it was they're trying to pass.
53:34
I am happy to say that none of the Arizona Democrats decided to
53:38
do that right. At my thing.
53:40
But as far as like the government officially reopening,
53:44
I, I don't know. Honestly, I, I don't, I I don't,
53:48
I have no idea. So if it continues, military
53:54
personnel will not get paid. Well, they'll get back pay once
53:59
the government reopens and does all the things, but they will
54:02
not get paid. Some military personnel were
54:06
reporting that even when they were paid in October that they
54:10
were underpaid during that pay period because that it's almost
54:14
like they're stretching the funds.
54:16
There were, there were some reports that I was reading, but
54:19
I couldn't find it consistent basis on that.
54:23
Somebody made a donation of 130 million and I wanted to know
54:28
like, what's that all about? I want to know first.
54:33
OK, so. Like has somebody have that
54:36
money but don't have the money to like, pay for people to eat?
54:40
Right. Well, and then there's there's
54:42
the fact that that like the the courts have told Trump that he
54:47
has, he can't not let people get their SNAP benefits, right.
54:52
And Trump was like, well, fuck you, you know, but we're all
54:57
paying taxes still. Those taxes are what goes into
55:01
these government funded programs, right?
55:04
So if you're not doing what you're supposed to be doing with
55:07
these government funded programs or paying these civil servants
55:13
with the money that I'm giving you, why the fuck am I still
55:17
paying taxes? Like, if you want to privatize
55:21
that shit, then fucking privatize that shit.
55:24
But I shouldn't have to keep paying taxes if my tax dollars
55:27
aren't going to what they're supposed to be going to.
55:30
Right, right. I'm already pretty much a second
55:34
class citizen at this rate, so why?
55:37
Why am I still paying taxes? Yeah.
55:41
You're and you know, the government has shut down, You're
55:44
not using the funds for what they're supposed to be using
55:47
for. But it's still coming out of my
55:48
top of paycheck. This year.
55:50
Right, it's still coming out of my fucking paycheck.
55:53
Oh, Speaking of tax breaks, how about that $2000 check that
55:55
everybody's supposed to be getting?
55:57
Oh, I saw a very good tweet that said don't give me $2000, give
56:03
me a new president, right? And.
56:07
You're gonna give everybody $2000, but you can't give people
56:10
their their benefits so they can feed their kids.
56:13
Right. Cool.
56:15
Got it. It makes sense.
56:16
Got it. Along with this shutdown, the
56:21
FAA is dealing with a staff shortage.
56:24
You're not allowed to call. You're not allowed to call out.
56:29
You're allowed to call sick. So a lot of people have been
56:32
doing that in the military. I don't think you're allowed to
56:36
call. That's a little closer in
56:40
proximity. So if you're calling out sick,
56:42
you better be. You you can having dated
56:48
military folks like you are, you are able to call out, but it's a
56:53
it's a doesn't look good and it's a little tricky.
56:58
Yeah. So over the weekend and into
57:04
this week, we've experienced a big wave of flight
57:08
cancellations. Even though it says that it's 6%
57:11
of flights were cancelled, that's kind of a big chunk.
57:14
Of that's still a lot if you think about it like 6% is like
57:18
that. Especially if you paid for your
57:20
trip or you were planning on going somewhere and that's
57:23
disrupted over the weekend, airports were reported to be
57:27
closed, but not in the way that I freaked out about because I
57:32
was like, what the fuck? We're going to close the whole
57:34
airport. Meaning airports had to scale
57:37
back operations. They were keeping a few
57:40
commercial flights going, but cancelling private, medical and
57:43
even emergency flights. The shortage has really
57:47
disrupted air travel and created delays all across the system.
57:52
And so even somebody explained this to me.
57:58
So the FAA wasn't getting wasn't included in the conversations
58:03
about the shutdown. So they were saying like, how
58:06
can we get to the people so the people can get to the senators,
58:10
right? And so they said, well, we're
58:13
going to cut back flights. You know what, also we're going
58:16
to cut back on the essentials that you may need to get.
58:19
I said if a fire breaks out, who's can you release a plane?
58:28
The answer is technically no, right?
58:32
So then I think people are waking up.
58:38
But. So this whole, this is not the
58:42
first time that there's been issues with the FAA with this
58:44
fucking president around. And that's kind of we've, we've
58:50
talked about our honeymoon last week and even though it's in
58:55
March, which is still a few months away, like I don't trust
58:58
this government. And it's like, what if we plan
59:01
something where we have to fly somewhere and then shit happens
59:06
again or things cut back? I'm like, so we, we were been
59:09
back and forth about do we go somewhere that we need to fly to
59:12
whatever. And we're like, I think we're
59:13
still sticking with like California because we can drive
59:16
and it's a safe bet because I don't, I don't, I don't trust
59:21
the fucking government. I don't not to fuck everything
59:24
up again. And is it the secretary or
59:28
whatever he is of transportation said buckle up.
59:33
Basically, I don't know if you're going to see your
59:35
families for Thanksgiving. Right, right.
59:39
So plan accordingly. I know that this is one of those
59:44
things like you hope that the. I trust nothing at this point, I
59:50
trust nothing. But we can see that the dump
59:54
truck presidency doesn't care. So SNAP benefits, SNAP benefits
1:00:00
are still in limbo. There's a lot of back and forth,
1:00:04
all depending on signatures of folks today.
1:00:10
I didn't update this yet. Arizona Arizona's own Ruben
1:00:17
Gallegos and Mark Kelly did not sign off on the budget.
1:00:23
I feel like there's some people still trying to fight for us,
1:00:26
which is still good. I hope they hold on to those
1:00:30
reins and keep them. Arizona Governor Katie Hobbs is
1:00:35
working really hard to get SNAP and if it's restored, which I
1:00:38
think have gone into full play for nearly, I believe so 800,000
1:00:46
residents. She has been leaning on the
1:00:48
Arizona Department of Economic Security, or DES, to ensure
1:00:54
everyone gets their benefits in full.
1:00:57
But in the same breath, I read something that a judge ordered
1:01:03
not to take SNAP benefits or payments into your own hands.
1:01:07
Like telling the states don't do this and they can be penalized
1:01:15
for it if they take it into their own hands.
1:01:18
So, so just to think, think about that, you, the government
1:01:22
is telling you that you cannot feed your constituents.
1:01:26
Your government is telling you you are not allowed to make sure
1:01:30
that your constituents can eat. Just let that sit there for a
1:01:41
second, because that's bullshit. Yeah, the dump truck has warned
1:01:48
that states could face. I think last time I read it was
1:01:54
like large fines for so you're going to take money, more money
1:01:59
away from us, that's fine. And threatening to cancel future
1:02:06
funds and be held financially responsible for all unauthorized
1:02:12
payments. So.
1:02:15
Which if that if, if that does try to happen, I feel like he's
1:02:18
gonna get slapped with lawsuit after lawsuit after lawsuit and
1:02:21
there's gonna be no defense for. It there are already states
1:02:24
suing him so that's fine right and here we are the moment we've
1:02:32
all been waiting for for years now years.
1:02:37
Epstein was put in jail 2018 and.
1:02:43
Something like that. Years and it really took off
1:02:52
after the victims kind of spoke out on Capitol Hill.
1:02:57
I watched it like 3 interviews, this told told my employer.
1:03:04
I was listening to podcast, but I I was listening to some of the
1:03:14
victims speaking, especially the ones that went up on Capitol
1:03:17
Hill. And their big ask is they want
1:03:22
the files released to hold people accountable.
1:03:26
But they would like for many of us to stop making the focus
1:03:32
Donald Trump because he was not the only one and many.
1:03:43
It sounds like many of the people that we know in everyday
1:03:47
life, big millionaires and billionaires are on this list.
1:03:54
Some of the. I don't give a fuck who's on the
1:03:56
list. I don't care if they're a
1:03:57
Democrat. I don't care if they're
1:03:58
Republicans. I don't give a fuck.
1:04:01
Call them all out. All of.
1:04:02
Them call them out but also find ways to support the victims that
1:04:09
have gone through this and tear that bag open.
1:04:15
The Epstein. They got the signatures y'all.
1:04:21
And after they managed to get Gallego in there, like thank God
1:04:24
like. Yeah, and then the oversight
1:04:28
committee, I love yoga Oversight committee.
1:04:34
Those are the nosey ass people. Just want you to know that The
1:04:38
nosey ass people, they released 20,000 pages, I'm not joking,
1:04:48
20,000 pages of the Epstein files including some emails that
1:04:54
I saw. Not that I'm surprised.
1:05:01
Not surprised, not surprised. But in some of these messages
1:05:05
obtained by Congress, Epstein wrote that dump truck spent
1:05:09
hours at his house with alleged victims.
1:05:15
Now, he wasn't just sitting there and right, right, folding
1:05:21
napkins or something. So do tell us more.
1:05:27
I'm listening. I can't wait.
1:05:29
And that's one of those things that like hour by hour, like
1:05:31
there was more shit that was coming out.
1:05:33
So. And yeah.
1:05:34
So before we got on, I was just kind of doing this and I don't
1:05:39
usually have the notifications on for the news networks on my
1:05:42
phone, but I've been like just. So stay tuned for more because
1:05:57
that's what it felt like. It felt like, yeah, you know,
1:06:01
like when something scandalous comes out about somebody who did
1:06:04
something at a pageant and then you go, oh, bitch or.
1:06:10
There's, there's, there's going to be so much that ends up
1:06:14
coming out. I, it's, it's going to be very
1:06:16
overwhelming, I think because there's just, it's going to be
1:06:19
basically info dump as more and more information comes out,
1:06:22
there's going to be more and more information that just gets
1:06:23
thrown out there and I so it's going to start getting
1:06:26
interested I. Didn't know that some of the
1:06:28
victims have written books. Oh yeah.
1:06:31
So my little audio book Go Go Go is about to be on the roll,
1:06:40
especially if it's at the library.
1:06:45
Reading is fundamental, so I can't wait to share more and I
1:06:51
hope that the victims get justice.
1:06:54
This is a big step in the right direction for them, for all of
1:06:59
us. Question I had was because of
1:07:03
the stuff that's in here, including an e-mail where
1:07:09
somebody's talking about the dump truck is gross or lower
1:07:14
than gross or something, whatever is that means for
1:07:24
impeachment? If, if enough shit comes out, I
1:07:30
think it not only impeachment, but depending on who all is in
1:07:33
there, it could really ruffle a lot of things.
1:07:36
And if if it turns out that he's like, there's certifiable proof
1:07:41
that Trump was doing all of these things, there could be
1:07:45
some interesting shake UPS, I think in the government because
1:07:47
I mean, yeah. And it's it'll be interesting to
1:07:53
see what shit ends up rolling downhill 'cause.
1:07:58
I'm very interested to know I might be watching this.
1:08:02
Y'all, I was the Googling machine today 'cause once I
1:08:08
heard somebody's name, I was like, who's that?
1:08:12
Yeah, don't know. Some of the people that have
1:08:14
been named by victims. You can Google that or even ask
1:08:17
ChatGPT and it'll tell you full OK.
1:08:21
ChatGPT is not always accurate. Sometimes.
1:08:23
It doesn't want to like, make mistakes we talked about.
1:08:28
A fact do not ask ChatGPT and then take whatever it says as
1:08:31
gospel. No, but.
1:08:33
Fact Check shit. Yes, but into a lighter note.
1:08:39
I'm gonna go back and forth into things this past weekend.
1:08:44
I love this meal. President Barack Obama visited a
1:08:51
plane full of veterans. It sounds very awkward, but it
1:08:55
looked very awkward. Mouths dropped and eyes got big
1:09:01
as Barack Obama boarded the plane.
1:09:03
Or like stepped on the tarmac or did whatever.
1:09:08
He was in the plane. He was in the plane and
1:09:12
addressed the veterans over the intercom and then shook their
1:09:15
hands as each veteran. Oh, I copied and pasted that
1:09:20
part. I don't need that part.
1:09:23
But some of them were wearing red hats and I had to like zoom
1:09:27
in on the photo to make sure those red hats weren't what I
1:09:30
thought they were. And they weren't, for the most
1:09:34
part. Not that I looked at all of
1:09:36
them, but I was thinking to myself, wouldn't that just be
1:09:42
the nail in the coffin? You're a Trump supporter, and
1:09:46
then Barack Obama is on your plane.
1:09:50
Right. It was oh, I have another
1:09:55
fantastic moment that happened. Many across the land celebrated.
1:10:00
Go fuck yourself Kim Davis Day. Have you heard of this?
1:10:05
Yes. Heard of this?
1:10:06
Yeah, as the Supreme Court ruled that they weren't going to
1:10:11
repeal the landmark case that legalized same sex marriage.
1:10:17
So that means they're done attacking the LGBTQ plus
1:10:22
community, right? No.
1:10:24
No, of course not. Oh.
1:10:26
So I have thoughts on this. I think that it had nothing to
1:10:32
do with the fact that it was, you know, it's fucking
1:10:35
unconstitutional and taking away people's rights and whatever.
1:10:39
I think that the reason they were like, no, we're not, we're
1:10:41
not even going to look at this was because the amount of
1:10:43
headache that it was going to 'cause if they repealed it,
1:10:47
because then they would have left it up to the states, right?
1:10:51
So which they say, you know, won't affect anybody that is
1:10:56
currently legally married, But but then you have like, you
1:11:02
know, you, you, you have someone that is married in California,
1:11:06
then say they traveled to Florida where Florida's like,
1:11:08
no, fuck you. And but technically it shouldn't
1:11:12
affect the fact that you're already married.
1:11:14
But they're all you know, So paperwork, lawsuits, all of this
1:11:17
shit. And I think the court was like,
1:11:20
no, too much, too much, too much headache, too much shit.
1:11:23
So imagine all the gay couples that would just be suing.
1:11:27
Oh, that's what I'm saying. They don't.
1:11:28
They don't want to have to deal with the paperwork.
1:11:30
Has nothing to do with it being the right fucking thing.
1:11:32
It has to do with the fact that they don't want to deal with the
1:11:35
paperwork. That I had to go through so much
1:11:37
hoop jumping just to be married. I would be so mad.
1:11:44
Yeah, I would be mad. Yeah.
1:11:46
The only reason they're they're not looking at it, the only
1:11:48
reason they decided not to repeal it is because of the
1:11:51
amount of paperwork and the amount of headache that doing
1:11:55
that would cause for them. They don't want to deal with it.
1:11:59
So it's it had nothing to nothing to do with we're going
1:12:02
to be good people and not take away people's rights.
1:12:04
It had to do with we really don't want to have to deal with
1:12:07
the headache. Because the facts scared the
1:12:10
hell out of the people. Yeah, wonderful.
1:12:13
Now how do we get them to get away from the trans people we've
1:12:17
got? How do we scare them out of
1:12:19
that? That, that, that, that Well,
1:12:22
until, you know, Bubba starts dressing up as a woman to go
1:12:25
into the women's restrooms like. I hate that that's the stupid,
1:12:32
terrible, so terrible, and this also comes from like the
1:12:37
falsehood of that people have a been affected by it.
1:12:43
I feel like there's some kind of the same reason that grinder
1:12:47
goes down when there's a Republican convention.
1:12:49
It's. A coincidence, I'm sure.
1:12:55
Sure. Mm hmm.
1:13:00
But Speaking of being on the next of.
1:13:04
So I quickly forwarded this to you because I was like no, no,
1:13:08
no, no, no. But I have more details than
1:13:12
what I put on here. A policy that requires passports
1:13:18
to display a person sex assigned at birth will come into play
1:13:22
during renewals and first time applications.
1:13:27
The Supreme Court on Thursday allowed the dump truck to stop
1:13:33
issuing passports that reflect the gender identity of
1:13:36
transgender, non binary and intersex Americans.
1:13:41
So didn't you just renew yours? No, I never got around to it.
1:13:47
No, God damn it, that's so crazy.
1:13:57
That's OK I I have no problem when I come to to renewing it if
1:14:01
they try to send it back with the wrong gender marker on there
1:14:04
I have no problem jumping on I I know enough people that are
1:14:09
lawyers that I can I will happily bring a lawsuit.
1:14:13
Be like my birth certificate, my ID, my everything has male as my
1:14:17
gender. What makes you think that this
1:14:19
needs a safe e-mail? Why are they so concerned about
1:14:23
what's in our pants? Because that's conservative.
1:14:27
The, the fucking conservatives are obsessed with people's
1:14:30
genitals. Obsessed with people's genitals.
1:14:32
They think we're the fucking perverts.
1:14:34
I don't ask anybody what's in their pants.
1:14:35
I don't give a fuck what's in your pants unless I'm in your
1:14:37
pants with them. Like I unless I am also in your
1:14:41
pants. I do not care what you have in
1:14:43
your pants. Fucking Republicans, though,
1:14:47
they're not in anybody's pants. Trust me, they are not in
1:14:50
anybody's pants. But they are so concerned about
1:14:52
what is in everybody's pants. I think they are in people's
1:14:58
pants and just like the people that are like gay, but then they
1:15:06
give that like homophobic behavior.
1:15:10
Right, No fats, no femmes. They just want, you know, mask
1:15:12
for mask because and I wanted to make sure that you kind of look
1:15:15
like me so that you know. Or somebody gave a great example
1:15:20
of maybe they fell in love with a trans person and got their
1:15:23
heart broken. And then they said well fuck it,
1:15:27
I'm like, well you create a whole fucking policy to destroy
1:15:31
the whole population. OK well damn, so there's that
1:15:38
and we're not alone and this whole fuck up kind of thing.
1:15:45
Apple had to remove 2 gay dating apps, one named Blued and one
1:15:51
named Finca. I look them up, they're like
1:15:54
Chinese gay dating apps from China's App Store following an
1:15:59
order by Chinese authorities. That's not surprising.
1:16:03
The move continues to show that we're doing this everywhere and
1:16:08
that gay people are destroying the world.
1:16:12
Absolutely gay app at a time. Absolutely that's.
1:16:18
Us. That is my that is my gay
1:16:20
agenda. We're walking around and I don't
1:16:27
if if we're destroying things, doesn't that mean I should be
1:16:30
busier 'cause I should be out? I know I feel like I don't do I?
1:16:35
Do I need more hobbies? Like what do I?
1:16:37
What is? Like what is this agenda I need
1:16:39
to like download it 'cause I haven't fully like.
1:16:42
Do I need to add it to my Google Calendar?
1:16:44
I feel like I need to add it to my.
1:16:45
And I really need to understand why I'm destroying marriages
1:16:48
when heterosexual couples are the ones that are getting
1:16:52
divorced. I know their their divorce rate
1:16:55
is now like what 65% or something right now like.
1:16:59
But just wondering, just wondering, just wanted to make
1:17:04
sure that I got it right. Let's send on a good note.
1:17:08
I haven't gone outside to see it for myself, but I have seen
1:17:12
pictures of those that are in our area that have gone to I
1:17:18
guess dark places. Yeah, you have to get away from
1:17:21
the light pollution. Yeah, the Northern Lights could
1:17:25
be seen last night and can be seen tonight.
1:17:30
They're thinking maybe tomorrow, but I think, I think, I forget
1:17:36
how it's explained, but you won't be able to see it as
1:17:40
clearly tomorrow. But let's end on that.
1:17:45
I felt like that was very heavy news was very.
1:17:49
All right, what gigs do we have coming up?
1:17:52
So this Friday we've got drag Bingo and cats at Phoenix Cat
1:17:57
Cafe. Go and to PHX, CATCAF e.org to
1:18:03
go get your tickets. They will sell out.
1:18:06
They always fucking sell out. They will sell out.
1:18:08
I will, last time I checked they were getting kind of close.
1:18:12
I know the event is, it's BYOB, there's the cafe, so you can get
1:18:16
like coffee drinks and stuff, but you can bring, you can bring
1:18:19
wine, you can bring drinks, you can bring snacks.
1:18:22
Obviously you can't. Try with the cast, but let me
1:18:24
just put that out there. You can bring all the things,
1:18:27
it's a good time, so get your spot while you still can.
1:18:32
And then on the 20th I have Drag bingo at Drake Me Tea Room and
1:18:41
this is not. I redid the flyer 'cause that's
1:18:48
something I would never do. Anyway, you can see the the new
1:18:54
flyer on my Facebook 'cause this is not pulling up very quickly.
1:18:59
Oh, there it goes. There we go.
1:19:04
She looks so much better there. She is scary.
1:19:11
Merry Christmas. Wear ugly sweaters.
1:19:13
You can. Last year we had somebody
1:19:17
dressed as Jack Skeleton. Skellington.
1:19:21
Skellington, sorry, and it was pretty interesting.
1:19:26
So join us, join us, join us. So you have two chances to go to
1:19:31
drag bingo for real like what are you even doing?
1:19:37
I don't have a flyer for the next drag bingo on the 4th, but
1:19:42
stay tuned. And then you have.
1:19:47
On the 7th, if you are a Baker, if you know a Baker, come out
1:19:53
and compete in the Sugar Plum Showdown.
1:19:56
It is a fundraiser for Drag Story Hour Arizona put on by
1:20:00
yours truly Ben and Ben Havoc from the Imperial Court.
1:20:05
It's going to be a good time. It's 18 plus.
1:20:08
It's there's going to be all the the baked goods.
1:20:11
If you enter you can or if you don't want to enter, you can pay
1:20:14
5 bucks and taste things. Vote for your favorite.
1:20:17
You're going to have guest judges.
1:20:20
There's going to be mocktails available.
1:20:22
It's gonna be fun, just super chill, like come mingle, be
1:20:26
festive, 18 and over. So it'll be, it'll be a good
1:20:32
time, it'll be a good time. So come do that.
1:20:37
And then on the 11th, we have sex trivia at Gracie's Tax Bar.
1:20:43
That is always a good time. And it's 8:00 PM.
1:20:46
Oh my bad. It's fine if you get there at
1:20:50
7:00, that's better because then you'll be able to sign up early.
1:20:53
But it starts at 8:00 PM and we usually do 2 rounds and it's fun
1:20:59
and exciting and good times and we always have think.
1:21:02
That you're a sexpert? Show up.
1:21:05
And we always have a local LGBTQ plus organization that gets a
1:21:10
dollar from every sex on the beach that gets sold.
1:21:12
So make sure you come and check that out.
1:21:17
Voila, book us. This is what I want to say.
1:21:22
I want to say book us for holiday gatherings, office
1:21:26
parties and more if your husband is getting out of jail.
1:21:32
Circumcisions. Bar Mitzvahs.
1:21:39
We're both ordained so. We can do all the things.
1:21:45
We have not officiated a wedding together.
1:21:48
We have not. We could.
1:21:50
Technically, yes, we could. So that's a thing.
1:21:54
That's a thing. I'm just putting it out there.
1:21:56
I don't, I don't know if you'll take a step on it, but they say
1:22:01
if you don't ask, you don't, you don't give, right?
1:22:04
So here I am, my closing thoughts.
1:22:14
I had a nice reality TV one last week, but then I was like, I'm
1:22:18
sorry, not nothing. With.
1:22:21
Sorry, my bad. Times are rough right now and
1:22:26
the road ahead isn't going to be easy, but the one thing that
1:22:30
still connects us is our ability to come together as a community.
1:22:34
And I mean your version of it. I don't mean the big one where
1:22:41
we really don't really get along.
1:22:43
I mean your chosen family, your friends, and your neighbors.
1:22:48
From crowded airports to figuring out how to feed each
1:22:51
other, to the ongoing challenges against our human rights, just
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trying to live authentically feels like a constant fight.
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It's like we're all sitting here waiting for the next swing, the
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next blow. And honestly, we're experiencing
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what we're experiencing is exhausting and at times abusive.
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Can we agree on that? But that's exactly why we have
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to stick together. We need to keep showing up for
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one another with love, compassion and support.
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And remember, you don't have to do everything.
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Don't stretch yourself too thin. It's OK to say no.
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It is OK to say no. In fact, sometimes it's better
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to say no. Do what you can, even if it's
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just calling a friend to check in because what's happening out
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there is meant to wear us down mentally.
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But we've been through struggle before and we will rise again
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with or without their help. Stay strong out there, but I'm
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not here to sell. I'm not a Hallmark card.
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I'm not here to sell you some. Stay positive, everything's
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fine. We don't do toxic positivity
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here. I just want you to know that we
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feel the weight, the cost, the pressure, just like you do.
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But you're not alone. You're right here fighting.
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We're right here fighting alongside you.
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Thank you for joining us, and we'll see you next week for your
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Wednesday night conversation. Good night, Good night.