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Season 3 - Episode 323 - The week of gratitude… Others · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the Chicken coop.
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  Welcome back to day three of the Week of Gratitude.
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  So we are talking about other people today and how to be
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  grateful for other people. And it's interesting coming up
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  to Thanksgiving for those who are going to celebrate or not
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  celebrate. We specifically, we could use a
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  little bit of this for when we're around people that maybe
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  we're not necessarily grateful for, but we're spending time
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  with them anyway. How can we put ourselves in a
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  state of gratitude for those people?
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  And how do we, you know, what if it's not just about that?
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  What if it's about just finding gratitude and other people in
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  general? Now, it's easy when you have
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  someone that you really want to be grateful for.
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  Like I often think back to my childhood and how grateful I was
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  for my father. Most of the time I was highly
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  grateful for my father, but there were times when he was
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  really strict and I was not grateful for that in the moment.
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  Now as an adult woman, looking back, I can say, wow, I was
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  really grateful. I didn't realize the jeopardy I
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  was putting myself in. I didn't realize how stupid I
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  was being all of those things. So I could say, yes, looking
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  back, I can find the gratitude all these years later, just like
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  we talked about yesterday. Sometimes it takes years to see
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  that. But you know, when you just
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  think back about the person in general, yes, I had the majority
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  of the time I had massive gratitude for my dad and my
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  mother as well. Even though it was a very
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  different kind of experience with my mother than my father, I
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  can say yes, you know, if it wasn't for her anxiety, I would
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  have never dealt with my anxiety the way I did and I wouldn't be
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  here teaching you this. So I can close that loop, bring
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  it back around and feel good about it.
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  Now, if we stop and we think about, OK, that's reframing it
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  and I love being able to do that.
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  But what if there's somebody that's coming up in in the
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  holiday and you know you're going to see them and you're
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  totally not grateful for them and you're just going there
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  because you have to and you know you're going to have to deal
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  with it. Well, the thing that you have to
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  do in that moment is typically say, OK, well, who's putting
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  this Thanksgiving on? Are there other people that are
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  going to be there that I can focus my gratitude on?
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  Can I focus? And I'm not talking about
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  looking for random other things. I'm saying right now we're
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  talking about being grateful for other people and really digging
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  in and looking at what are the characteristics of those other
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  people that I can be grateful for.
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  And sometimes doing the digging is so powerful.
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  And right now, the way our world is wired, it's very different
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  than it has been over the last 100 years.
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  And there's lots of conversation that makes that make people very
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  uncomfortable, especially older people, because they're not as
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  fluid in things as younger people, whether it's technology
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  or beliefs or any of it. And those conversations can
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  cause us to be very irritated with people.
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  And I'm saying, even if you're irritated with someone, you can
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  sit and pause and say there's got to be one thing about this
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  person that I can be grateful for.
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  And right down to what I used to say about my Aunt Helen all the
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  time, you know what I'm grateful for the fact that I know I
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  didn't want to be like that. So in in her attitude, I knew
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  what I didn't want to be. And that's the part that I was
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  able to walk away with. Now, is it specific in the sense
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  that she had? Yeah.
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  I mean, it's not like, oh, I'm looking at it and saying, oh,
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  because she was so generous and da, da, da, I I am grateful for
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  that. No, I'm saying I watched her
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  attitude over the years and I'm grateful that it's I learned
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  that is not what I wanted for myself.
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  And that was a huge, massive gift to me.
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  Now I will say getting into the dynamics of being with a group
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  of people at the holidays is very difficult for some of us,
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  myself included. Being with a large group of
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  people, having to manage timing, food, appetizers, everybody in,
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  out, it's a lot and it puts a massive amount of stress on all
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  of us. So prepare yourself for that.
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  Make sure you're doing things like staying hydrated.
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  Make sure you put yourself in the right frame of mind so that
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  when you go into being with others, you're in the best
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  physical shape that you can be in and the best mental shape.
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  So that morning, who's ever going to be there on your
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  Thanksgiving? Or again, you can extrapolate
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  this to any other day that you want.
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  I'm just using Thanksgiving Day as ahead of time, a way for us
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  to talk about it in gratitude. Make a list of all the people
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  and then start writing down those things that you could be
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  grateful for. For those people.
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  It starts off right at the beginning of the day and then
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  you're going to have that nice little list ready for when you
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  actually do see them. You can refer back to it even if
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  you have to take a picture of it with your iPhone, call it up in
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  photos and say, oh, that's right.
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  I was grateful for that. For Aunt Sally, like, oh, she
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  likes to voice her opinion. So when she voices her opinion
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  about something that you don't might maybe like, you can go
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  back and say, no, wait, I was grateful for that.
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  So hopefully this is helpful and I will see you guys tomorrow.
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  Have a blessed day, everybody. Bye.