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Episode 1 - Perceptions: You think you know us · Keeping it Real with Erin and Terry

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  Welcome to Keeping It Real with Erin and Terry.
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  Sponsored by Imperfection by Erin.
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  And produced by Magic Door Studio.
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  So people think they know us? Yeah, they have a preconceived
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  idea of who we are. Yes, that is very, very obvious
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  yet. What we're about, yeah, but we
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  are here to let you in to. Set the record straight, ah.
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  To set the record straight, yeah.
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  Do we have a record? We do.
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  Now we're making. Keeping it real with Erin and
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  Terry. Yes, we're going to set the
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  record for most views. So what is this episode about?
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  What do people think they know about?
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  Us. It's like kind of, I suppose,
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  like people's perceptions of us are what they think of us.
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  Also, can I just say if you see two sofas on the next episode,
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  that means that we're not friends anymore because this is
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  probably going to bring up a lot of issues.
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  But it's quite a big sofa. Hmm.
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  And there's also two microphones.
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  I I feel like I'm protected by this metal apparatus here.
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  Well, I mean, I think a preconceived idea that people
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  have about you is that you're real laid back.
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  I can be. Lie, the biggest lie ever and
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  people think I'm hard work and you're laid back and it's
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  completely the opposite. I would say I have my own
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  flavour of hard work going on. Spicy.
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  Spicy and juicy. Extra.
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  Spicy. Come here.
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  Of course I'm hard work. You're married to me.
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  Sometimes I question that. Why is she divorced me 4 times a
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  week? I asked for a divorce 4.
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  Times you. You literally say it.
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  I'm over you. That's it.
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  Do you not think people though that follow us on social media,
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  like actually follow us and get to know us, see that our lives
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  aren't perfect? I I would think so, yeah.
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  But I think just people that choose to not see that, so they
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  could just basically kind of throw the elf grenade in the
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  room and run. Yeah, I guess the forced few
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  years maybe of being on social media, especially like when we
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  talked about our son. If you don't follow us, I'm Erin
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  McGregor Cavani. This is my husband.
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  Terry Cavani. Terry Cavani and we have two
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  children. We have an adult daughter who's
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  26. This year, 26.
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  This year, yeah, we have now, yeah.
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  We have a 10 year old son with profile.
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  He's not ten yet. He will be.
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  He will be 10. He's 10 Soon.
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  You can't keep doing that on the podcast, by the way, cutting in
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  on me, since that will be a problem.
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  You're gonna wait your turn and you might be waiting a few
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  seasons for your turn. Go ahead.
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  OK, so are near. Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold
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  on, hold on my my. Cut this.
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  What hold on My, my, my, my thing is.
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  Yes, dear. Remember Victor man, not Victor
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  Madrew keeping up appearances. Yes, dear.
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  Before we started the podcast, he said, what, we go too far?
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  I said, I'm going to give you the death stare.
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  OK, so this is the death stare. You know, when you look at your
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  partner, you're out and you're like, shut up.
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  That's. Like 7 times a day with you.
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  Well, you're clear. I need to open my death stare
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  then anyway. Bring it back to the children.
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  OK, we have a 10 year old nearly sorry guys, in July he will be
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  10, nearly 10 year old son with profound autism.
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  And I suppose one of the preconceived ideas was, was that
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  we wouldn't have any issues. So when I spoke about our issues
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  and the the hardship that came were Harry's issues, people just
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  thought that we wouldn't have that, that we had all this money
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  which which we don't they was no some bank account that we don't
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  know about, but. And if you do, by the way, tell
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  us please, we'd like to access it.
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  Thank you very much. And that doesn't discredit how
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  kind you know, our family, my family, have been to me.
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  Can I, can I just say one thing as well on that right?
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  No matter what how much money you do or you don't have in
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  relation to a child, whether of having a disability severe or
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  not, money will never fix heartbreak.
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  Oh my God. That is the bottom line here.
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  And that's what that's what we basically are saying.
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  We don't have loads of money either.
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  Like, don't get me wrong, we're not, you know, on the floor, but
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  like, it's not like people think, I think.
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  It's well, I love the fact that like people like, oh, what would
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  you know? Oh, what would you know?
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  And I'm like, oh, well, I'm standing here both to my
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  Ballini's on Instagram to hashtag Aaron 20 for a discount
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  code. You think that's for the crack
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  or like my husband has gone all weekend gigging.
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  Yeah, for fun. Should we don't?
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  We don't have weekends really. Yeah, and that's another like, I
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  suppose, preconceived idea. Everyone thinks we have nannies.
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  We don't have nannies, by the way, and we do have.
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  We have nannies, but like, we don't have in that yet.
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  Like grandmothers. Your your, Yeah, Grandmothers,
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  yeah. Yeah, we do have a cleaner
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  though and I would actually give up my Zara Halls or my Pennies
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  Halls or my once every few years Chanel handbags to Keeper.
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  Once every two years. I would When was the last time I
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  got? Something really.
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  Nice. And they're always gifts, by the
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  way, I never get to buy myself things like that.
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  I. Can tell you I don't get
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  involved in that kind. Of stuff I think you should buy
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  me a pod gift, not the way people have a.
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  Pod gift? What you mean?
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  Yeah. Because people get push presents
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  when they push their babies out. So I should have a pod present
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  what you buy me? Oh, a pod for this?
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  Yeah, 100%. They already have it.
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  Right under the Commons girls what should I get Chanel Bottega
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  Gucci penis dune. This is not the worry of.
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  This is not the look of worry, by the way.
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  It should be. Relax with you.
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  OK, let we're getting off course, which we're going to do
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  all the time. Tell me something else that
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  people had a preconceived idea of who we are.
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  Well, I'll tell you what it is, right?
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  Someone said to me, right? And, and I know this person a
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  long time. No, I don't know them well,
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  right? And obviously they don't know me
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  well because if they, they wouldn't have said this to me
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  otherwise, right? But you would know this person
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  as well. Anyway, we were talking one day,
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  we met by chance and we got talking blah blah blah, and he
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  just kind of turned around to me and he goes, sure.
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  You live in the dream, Terry, aren't you?
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  What dream? And I'm like the house hours.
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  The dream I never even sleep mate said my son has us about I
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  was at the morning and like I said, it's like a disco on my
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  got 4:00 AM. This is back when we when he
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  when he was having trouble sleeping and all that kind of
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  stuff, which is kind of pretty regular, right.
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  I said live in the dream is like I live in the dream.
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  But you know, why do you think that?
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  You know what I mean? Yeah, it's mad.
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  And I suppose for everybody, I think money, money struggled are
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  one of the hardest things ever, right?
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  Like, it's so hard. Like you get so stressed out
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  over it. Everybody does.
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  But I think people look at people with money and go, what
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  would you know? And maybe that's just because
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  when you don't have money, you think the grass is greener.
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  Kind of like when you're in like a shitty relationship and you're
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  thinking, oh, I look at them and they have a great relationship
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  where he's back. Sometimes the grass just isn't.
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  Really in this, in this day and age now, especially with the age
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  we're in, people spend more time looking at other people's lives
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  than they do their own and walking away on their own lives.
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  It's something that, yeah, I, I think every single person on the
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  planet now has to check themselves on.
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  And if you don't, you should. So I think that was one of the
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  big things about me being on my social media while you like,
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  come on to my Instagram or TikTok or Terry's and you'll see
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  me whip me hair all over the place, one eyelash on me, house
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  coat on because I'll cry, I'll be crazy.
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  We'll have our little arguments, we'll have banter with each
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  other. But that's the reality.
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  Because I would spend most of my life thinking I'm failing at
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  life or looking at other people and their highlights and their
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  snippets and thinking, shit, I haven't got my life together.
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  And I don't want anyone ever to come on my page and feel like
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  that. But I think that's where you see
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  you're on it a lot more than me. And I know we're not failing at
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  life. We're doing the best we can with
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  what we have do. You think that's because I'm a
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  perfectionist though? I think you have pressure on
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  yourself all the time. Yeah, you want, you want to
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  succeed as well. Like who doesn't the right.
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  But the pressure you put on yourself, I don't know.
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  It must be a length thing or something like that, you know
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  what I mean? I guess as well maybe they worry
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  in what people's heart me that would have been heightened them
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  when all eyes are on you and you do not have the same grace as
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  somebody else, maybe not in. The.
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  Spotlight per SE. I don't feel like I'm in the
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  spotlight, but yes, I know that loads of people are watching me,
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  but people will say, well, then don't go on like so obviously
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  last year I was like, right. I think I'm just, well, I didn't
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  think I was going to give up, but there was a lot of people
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  thinking that I should give up, including family and friends
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  telling me, you know, come off social media, don't do it
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  anymore. And I was like, I'm 10 years
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  nearly doing this. What am I supposed to?
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  Do, but it's not in you without to do that because you'd
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  actually kill yourself more of you if you did.
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  You'd give yourself more of a hard time than to actually
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  endure the storm if you want the culture.
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  And I don't think people realize how difficult it is to actually
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  do content. And I know that sounds like oh.
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  Well, I'll tell you this now, obviously I do now because I've
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  started to do a little bit bits and pieces on TikTok, right?
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  Terry's TikTok shop for anyone watching.
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  You get about a cent to think people think you make loads of
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  money on tik. T.O.K, but you know yourself,
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  it's it's just something that. Oh no, it's brilliant.
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  It's, it's an interesting thing and it's, it's quite
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  interesting. I, I find it quite interesting.
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  But the point I'm making is not to go off on a tangent again.
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  All you know the exact I'm like like every 5 minutes I'm asking
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  you what about this is what about this?
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  What about this? And you're looking at me going
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  as much to go told you it's pressure.
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  It is. It's a lot.
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  Oh. And it's non-stop.
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  Yeah, I don't understand half of yeah what creators do, but I'll
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  tell you, I respect it. Oh, it's it's.
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  Because I'm trying to do it myself now and it's like, well,
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  give me a microphone and a guitar any day, Liz.
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  And especially someone like me, like I had to teach myself all
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  that how to edit, how to take pictures, how to come up with ID
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  content ideas. And it is non-stop.
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  And then you're constantly judged, you're constantly looked
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  at, you're constantly pulled apart and people say it's me,
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  how do you do it? And I'm like I.
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  But you know, it's funny for us. We're in the same boat in that
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  way, right? Because me going out singing at
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  night time as well, right? By the way, if I was a
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  millionaire, I would not be out singing till one or two in the
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  morning for right now. Well, I might be, but not to the
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  extent I deal of like German, Yeah or eh.
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  The point I'm making is umm. Sorry, I'm jumping in now.
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  Tell people how. Tell people how me and people
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  are. Not this one.
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  I've got this one I'm getting on to.
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  So I'm out singing. It didn't.
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  This is why I'm relating to what you're saying.
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  And I'm out singing and people will like they might recognize
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  who I am giving a dirty look, get up and walk out of the pool,
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  all right. Might they might even just get
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  up and walk to another part of the pool or something like that,
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  right. And.
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  Maybe they just don't like you're singing.
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  You're an amazing. Man, by the way, that could be
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  the case as well, because I'm not, I'm not, I'm a, I'm an
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  acquired taste, I'm sure, do you know what I mean?
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  But umm, a lot of the time as well, you can kind of see it
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  like, so that's kind of character building in itself
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  because no matter what, you have to stay there.
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  Oh yeah, we're entertained. You can't just go try your toys
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  out of that's it. They didn't like me.
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  I'm out here. Do you know what I mean?
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  Do you know, some people genuinely don't give a shit
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  about that? Like some influencers not
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  really. Like they don't give an absolute
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  like they just own it and they're like, I'm amazing where
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  I'm definitely way. More.
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  Yeah, but you see, that's a thing.
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  That's a thing that these these eh people learn in their
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  childhood. I believe it's ingrained in them
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  from from like this height. No, I mean we're.
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  Only learning. That's why you're a bit of a man
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  child sometimes. Do do do.
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  I'm giving you the deaths there now.
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  Right. What would our preconceived
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  ideas have been? Who actually are we?
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  How will we describe ourselves? Normal.
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  OK, not. Normal.
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  What is normal? That not normal.
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  Remember, I said. That to darling a little bit I I
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  would say we're kind of like feisty with big hearts.
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  You're feisty. Give it over, you're feisty.
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  Sometimes I have to like rain you in a little bit rain.
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  Me in what a tune. That's your tune of the week,
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  isn't it? That's great.
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  Go on. We were on.
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  Our way, we were on our way today and we were like trying to
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  be in good humor and dance and everything to get us, you know,
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  not nerve wracking because this is nerve wracking.
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  So we basically, I've heard for so long, anyone who follows us,
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  we've just talked about the little downsides and the
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  negativity. But we get so many people coming
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  up to us thanking us for talking about our experience with
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  autism, showing the world how difficult it is and bringing
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  awareness and just basically having the crack online.
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  So we get so much support, way more support than any
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  negativity. Am I right?
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  Oh yeah. And we've been told let's do a
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  podcast. Is it be gas on the podcast?
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  But we are a little bit nervous sitting here, like I have a bit
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  of a pain in me stomach. Oh no, I'm, I'm, I'm alright.
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  I'm OK. I'm like.
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  I think you're sounder when you're not on.
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  On, eh? Under pressure me.
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  Yeah, let loose a bit. Maybe I should like tease you.
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  Go ahead. OK, so a preconceived idea is
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  tiny Terry. Yet again, the deaths there.
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  This thing was there online they called Tiny.
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  Cherry Oh yeah, You know what one person said?
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  Actually, I was, I think I said something about I was, I was
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  having a bad day that day and someone said something about you
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  or us. And I was like, I'll go around
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  to that gaffe and all, you know, whatever.
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  I'll be not gonna dare that, right?
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  I'll. I'll be knocking on that.
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  All right. Next volume.
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  I don't really comment now. Even I found this funny, right?
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  Yeah, right. Tiny Terry wouldn't even be able
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  to reach up to the doorbell. And then.
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  Nice one, mate. Yeah.
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  Debbie Fred. Debbie Fred was like Aaron.
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  We think that was one of his exes and she's gone mad that
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  he's with someone else. She's I said.
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  I don't. Think.
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  I don't think that's the. Case I don't think they were
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  talking about his area I. Don't have any exes.
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  They were top. That was the death stare.
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  Andy Axes. But anyway, carry on what you
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  were. Saying Terry twitches in the eye
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  when I start. Asking a question.
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  That's that's me. That's me, eh?
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  Me bag under me like do. You want to talk about exes?
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  No. Are you sure?
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  Carry on and talk about Terry. 'S like eh and only our exes to
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  take it back and I want to take it off my hands.
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  Well, I'm actually here to put it out on our podcast if Terry
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  gets smart with me. Is there any guys out there who
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  would like to take me as their wife?
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  Let us know in the comments. We're not really jealous, are
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  we? No, I don't think.
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  I don't think we could be in the way like what we're doing like
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  you were. Really nervous though for a long
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  time you'd be like I now I don't like anyone.
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  I think you must have had some trauma.
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  But I'm still I'm still kind of like see if we got like, say if
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  we go anywhere, I'll still make sure that everything is cool.
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  And I'd be keeping like front, not keeping an eye on you that
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  nobody is making moves life difficult or whether it be in a
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  good way or a bad way. Remember I'm.
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  Not going to take shit off anyone here go.
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  On CC, put them in that place. Don't start, my fellow.
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  Yeah. Let's not tell you something.
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  Yeah? Mike Tyson was smaller than me
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  and he punched the head off everyone.
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  Yeah. I know Mike Tyson.
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  Yeah, I bet. And I don't really know how
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  much. You don't know.
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  Just dropping a few names. Yeah, no, but seriously.
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  Right now, hold on, my mind was wandering.
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  There, sorry, never judge a book by its cover.
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  Never judge a book by its. Cover.
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  Yeah, exactly. The whole tiny The whole theme
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  of this particular episode is appearances can be deceiving.
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  Yeah, I thought you were sound when I met you.
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  And really, I thought. You were sound as well.
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  I am sound. Since when?
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  Since forever. Since we started this podcast.
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  And I'm real funny. Everyone thinks I'm funny.
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  Absolutely you're you're an acquired humor.
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  You don't think I'm funny? No, I do sometimes.
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  Everyone thinks you're funny and I don't think you're funny.
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  That's because they like my mom. So money.
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  I love mom. I I love listen to tell you.
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  Oh, you have it. Oh, you have a group, A WhatsApp
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  group called the rant rooms. Yeah, and only select few of my
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  friends in it. Yeah, and he.
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  Has four friends he has. Four.
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  That's all I need. They're in the group.
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  Thank you. Let us know what's in your your
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  group. Actually 3 friends.
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  Three friends, including you. Yes, for I'm the Force.
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  So hold on, what's your what's the rant?
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  It's called the Rant Rooms, ladies and gentlemen.
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  OK, and what was the best message that was put in
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  recently? You don't have to say he's.
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  I was going to say you don't have to say who's in the group.
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  But now we're going to know who's in the group because you
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  only have 3 friends. I put in.
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  I put in. Umm, oh, what did I put in?
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  Oh yeah, I put in the thing about the menopausal wife.
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  Yeah, but that's we already. Know that that's what I put in
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  yet. No, we haven't really put out
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  now seeing we're all busy man, like you know.
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  So is no one reply back to your menopausal.
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  Yeah, just with a laughing face and that kind of thing, you
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  know? That's it, Yeah.
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  Any nude women coming into the. Group No.
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  No. Are you sure?
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  I swear on the Bible, on Harry's life.
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  So it's just laughing faces. Yeah, that is so boring.
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  Do you want to know what my group is?
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  Yeah, go ahead to Chippendales. Now.
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  You've only got to say this to piss me out.
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  Like try piss me off now. Savage bitches.
• 18:47
  I want these call men. Yeah, actually, no, it doesn't
• 18:49
  matter. No, I'm not going to say that,
• 18:51
  but I swear to God, use our rack.
• 18:53
  That's like, honestly, Terry. Yeah, and use our walk in the
• 18:56
  park. We actually are.
• 18:57
  Indeed. I don't think you.
• 18:59
  Could a different park? No see.
• 19:02
  I'll walk in this park, you walk in that.
• 19:03
  Park OK, so I'm going to tell people what you really do,
• 19:06
  right? Right.
• 19:07
  So when Terry's doing something for you or he's doing a job, he
• 19:13
  lets you know step by step. Where do you think I get?
• 19:16
  Where do you think I get that from?
• 19:18
  No, that's your storytelling. We're actually talking about
• 19:20
  what you're doing. So it was always like I made a
• 19:23
  cup of tea and I walked over and I put the the tap on and then I
• 19:27
  lifted the catalip and then I opened the press and I took the
• 19:30
  cup out and then I went to the other press and I got the tea
• 19:32
  bags and then I opened the fridge and the milk was in the
• 19:35
  fridge and then I took close the.
• 19:36
  Fridge the way my. Yeah, made a cup of tea, Hon.
• 19:38
  Yeah, made a cup of tea. Stop making a song.
• 19:40
  And I. Can't even remember the last
• 19:41
  time I seen you making a cup of tea.
• 19:43
  I don't drink tea. I don't drink coffee and sodas.
• 19:45
  My husband, but that's what I mean.
• 19:47
  You make a fucking mountain over Mohill when you do out and in
• 19:50
  the house. But.
• 19:51
  That's just the way my mind works.
• 19:53
  No, you just want to sound like you're doing everything and
• 19:56
  tomorrow, actually, I don't actually care about preconceived
• 20:00
  ideas from other people. I care about actually my
• 20:03
  preconceived idea is, is when you say I'll do something
• 20:05
  tomorrow. Yeah, I thought that means
• 20:08
  tomorrow, but I didn't know that tomorrow in man's land, I'm.
• 20:12
  A busy man. Is like a politician.
• 20:16
  I'll do it tomorrow, put it on the list.
• 20:18
  We'll do it tomorrow, put it on the list.
• 20:19
  And then you, you dance around it, you shake your heads yes,
• 20:23
  talk about everything else except the thing, and hope we
• 20:26
  forget. OK, so you want to talk about
• 20:29
  you having to have 10 things going on at once and then you
• 20:34
  get totally and utterly disconnected from it all and
• 20:38
  walk off and I've to sort out to 10 things you want to get into
• 20:41
  that you? Know that's called Terry living
• 20:43
  life on the edge. You should try sometimes.
• 20:45
  No, I'm living life in the the chaos.
• 20:48
  Yeah, but you're pulling me back from the edge.
• 20:51
  Thanks for that. Living on the edge.
• 20:53
  Speaking of living on the edge, Terry is going to read out some
• 20:57
  of our mean hidden meaniness and TikTok meanness.
• 21:03
  Well, allow me to grab my meanie phone, OK?
• 21:08
  Alright, hi. This is a live reaction, by the
• 21:11
  way. Yeah.
• 21:12
  Right, so this is one that I had it, eh?
• 21:15
  Tick tock up. Yeah, Tinky bats for the other
• 21:18
  side. Yeah, I'm sitting there with me,
• 21:19
  missus. You bat for the other side.
• 21:21
  You are the least bat for the other side person I know.
• 21:24
  Right, hold on here. Why?
• 21:26
  Hold on, hold on. Why are you bat for the other
• 21:28
  side? No.
• 21:29
  We've cleared it up. Terry Cafe does not bat for the
• 21:33
  other side. Thank you.
• 21:34
  Thank you. Actually, he doesn't bat for
• 21:36
  really any side because we're at that stage of our life.
• 21:39
  Yeah. OK.
• 21:39
  I mean, I'm menopausal and he's nearly 50, so batting for teams.
• 21:44
  Thanks. Thanks for letting everyone know
• 21:45
  that by the way. Once a month maybe?
• 21:48
  If I'm, if I'm lucky, right here, another one.
• 21:51
  Why are you wearing your sister's sunglasses?
• 21:54
  Sunglasses I. Wouldn't mind their beauty.
• 21:56
  A little beauty. Oh, they are abused now.
• 22:00
  Some of your sunglasses are very bad.
• 22:01
  Don't start you I'll. I'll accept them, I'll pick
• 22:04
  them. OK, who said that?
• 22:06
  I'm going to start them. Was it like user 7500?
• 22:09
  Another one. Yeah, probably there are.
• 22:11
  They're always users. Yeah, right.
• 22:13
  Hello. Name user 25. 75 Yeah, I don't
• 22:16
  want to pay. Hang on a SEC.
• 22:17
  Oh, here's one. Here's one.
• 22:18
  How long? This would be a good one.
• 22:20
  Get down and dirty. Here, we.
• 22:21
  This would be a good one. Is anyone?
• 22:30
  Oh, wait. Oh, yeah.
• 22:32
  Here. I got.
• 22:34
  I got tanned. Yeah.
• 22:36
  Why do you look so different? Because I got tanned, Yeah.
• 22:41
  Well, what else? Did you get Oh yeah.
• 22:44
  Get a real job, Get a real job, Terrance.
• 22:48
  That's probably the, that's probably the one I get most of
• 22:50
  all, yeah. Get a real.
• 22:52
  Job she doesn't work. Now sure.
• 22:55
  He's a real job. Yeah, get a real job Tense.
• 22:57
  What is a real? Job I I do say to people, well,
• 22:59
  do you know what? When you were sitting at home
• 23:01
  and yourself are late and I I'm out entertaining people.
• 23:04
  Yeah. That's that's what I say.
• 23:06
  OK, I do remember a mean one because I actually sent it into
• 23:09
  my group. Yeah of well, probably my four
• 23:12
  groups have a few different groups.
• 23:13
  Savage beaches. That's quite savage I'm.
• 23:16
  So if you end up in that group, I can imagine, yeah, you could
• 23:18
  be in trouble. And then my other friend.
• 23:21
  So the IT was a private message from one of my followers, a lady
• 23:26
  who said I'd been up all night with Harry.
• 23:29
  He hadn't slept. I hold cortisol in my face, and
• 23:35
  my face can swell out. Also, I'm in the menopause, so I
• 23:38
  can battle with my hormones. Don't yawn.
• 23:40
  I'm not. Yawning.
• 23:42
  You're lucky I didn't yawn. There exactly.
• 23:44
  OK. And she privately wrote to me
• 23:46
  saying, Oh my God, what have you done to your face with the
• 23:50
  filler? You've ruined it.
• 23:53
  Sometimes I think them comments are just for a reaction.
• 23:56
  Well, they do because I used to say I actually didn't like my
• 23:58
  face, but actually I do like it now because my aesthetic.
• 24:02
  Lady Diana. Hi, Diana, if you're listening.
• 24:04
  She made me love my cheeks because she's like Peep.
• 24:06
  She's foreign people. They pay me lots of money to to
• 24:09
  do that. You can do her accent bar.
• 24:11
  But I wrote, I wrote, I wrote back to her.
• 24:14
  I said I'm really upset. I've been up all night with
• 24:16
  Harry. I'm in the height of menopause
• 24:20
  and I don't get fucking filler on my cheeks.
• 24:23
  I got it in my lips but I don't get on my cheeks.
• 24:25
  You've loads of money, you don't suffer from menopause.
• 24:29
  You know what, Terry? Can you tell the menopause that?
• 24:32
  Do you know who I? Am I'd love to pay the menopause
• 24:34
  I have to go away, but it doesn't do.
• 24:36
  You know what I love about the menopause?
• 24:38
  There is zero folks given. And can I just tell you one
• 24:42
  thing? And that is something like fear.
• 24:45
  Well, this is what I'm going to share with you, right?
• 24:47
  And I. Probably, I know, probably not
• 24:49
  already. Go on.
• 24:50
  I probably. Sorry, hold on a second.
• 24:51
  I just want to put a bit more space between us.
• 24:53
  I shouldn't share this because there's this look that comes
• 24:58
  over your eyes. I know like she actually means
• 25:02
  business. And I feel so powerful because
• 25:04
  I'm like, I live. I will live and you're looking
• 25:08
  at me and you're like, she will fucking live and she's not
• 25:12
  coming back. Do you remember that movie like
• 25:14
  Shirley Valentine? Yeah, which goes off into Spain.
• 25:17
  I was way too young for that. But like, I feel like she, I
• 25:20
  actually think I should do that movie.
• 25:21
  Anyone casting that, I'll do that.
• 25:23
  I'll do that role no problem. Yeah, you'd be very good at it.
• 25:28
  But I kind of like that you go, Oh my God, she would really live
• 25:31
  do. You remember the one remember
• 25:32
  the one with the umm, sorry, we're going on to the main the
• 25:36
  main tweets. What you're what that girl said
• 25:38
  about your face. Oh, she apologized.
• 25:40
  She said. Wait, she said, it was her
• 25:42
  daughter who took her. Phone.
• 25:43
  Yeah, right, Replied to me please.
• 25:46
  I've had that a few times. I actually won this one time at
• 25:48
  Bang Camp. I called someone out to their
• 25:50
  face. I saw the mail in brain and I
• 25:53
  said oh, I. Remember that.
• 25:53
  Actually, I actually did. Remember that.
• 25:56
  And I called her out because. Actually, we met her twice.
• 26:00
  Yeah, she actually did apologize to me and she was in a bad place
• 26:03
  this time and I can accept that. But I think, what do you say to
• 26:06
  someone's face? Probably not.
• 26:09
  I keep a chef friends group, do I call?
• 26:11
  No, I tell you what I tell you what I know is sometimes right
• 26:15
  in relation and it it kind of offends me a bit, right?
• 26:18
  It does offend me, right? So, you know, like if you're.
• 26:21
  Charles. No, if you're out, if I'm out
• 26:23
  with the only gig or something like that, right and someone say
• 26:26
  recognize me from your team, right and like it was a girl and
• 26:31
  she's where I bloke or something like that.
• 26:33
  And like she's like, oh, that's blah blah blah, such as because
• 26:36
  they know you, don't they, they love you.
• 26:38
  I'm just happened to be in your video or something, right?
• 26:40
  But next. No, but listen, right.
• 26:42
  But next of all anyway, they're like, because me oh, such as
• 26:46
  which I this blah blah blah blah.
• 26:48
  And I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah. Then all of a sudden it's like
• 26:51
  the bloke gets this sudden grievance with me.
• 26:55
  Like you know what I mean? And it's like, I'm Public Enemy
• 26:58
  #1 and I'm like, on. Because they think.
• 27:00
  She's all good mate, you know what I mean?
• 27:02
  Relaxed like, you know? Has anyone?
• 27:05
  Started no, it's just you get that kind of cold shoulder still
• 27:08
  from the blazes. What's got he like, you know
• 27:11
  what I mean? That kind of shine, I'm going
• 27:13
  like, I'm not even doing it and like turning it like.
• 27:16
  Well, that's obviously men who are jealous and insecure.
• 27:18
  Probably, yeah, I don't know. But like that, if it offends me
• 27:22
  because I'm like, what am I dealing to offend you?
• 27:24
  I'm not doing anything. Yeah, we are married, so keep
• 27:28
  your ring higher next time we're talking to the.
• 27:30
  Believe or not, I play like this.
• 27:31
  Look. Someone asked him to get
• 27:35
  married. She was it. 2 weeks ago.
• 27:37
  I keep notes. 2 weeks ago. Yeah.
• 27:40
  What did she say? Will you marry me?
• 27:42
  Some bleeding kid was stupid. Did, did did did.
• 27:45
  She only said he actually dug the hole even more.
• 27:49
  First of all, my husband like Block likes blondes.
• 27:52
  OK, she. Wasn't blonde.
• 27:53
  So actually next time you and I'm actually going to dye my
• 27:55
  hair on purpose. That is a lie.
• 27:58
  I won't because I like being black.
• 27:59
  Exactly. But if you did, I think that
• 28:01
  would be the ultimate revenge, wouldn't it?
• 28:02
  What are you going to do now? My hair is.
• 28:05
  Well, in fairness, I I actually proposed to you when you had
• 28:08
  black hair. So now.
• 28:09
  Actually, I know we're running off on topic again, right?
• 28:12
  But can I just tell you is one thing about that Now let's go
• 28:15
  back, right? OK, so he dug the hole.
• 28:17
  He first of all said, Oh no, she had dark hair, OK.
• 28:21
  All right, she did have dark hair.
• 28:23
  I remember I'm a woman, I remember things.
• 28:25
  And then he said to me, oh, she was like way too young for me.
• 28:30
  Sorry, what? So she was young and she was
• 28:32
  dark hair, but if she was blonde and a bit more age appropriate.
• 28:36
  That is not the case. Well, that's kind of what you
• 28:38
  were saying. No, but it's not.
• 28:40
  And then you said she didn't have the if factor.
• 28:41
  I'm sorry. If you are the girl, imagine
• 28:43
  it's the girl that asked and she's like what you didn't?
• 28:46
  The if factor. That's what she said to me.
• 28:48
  But. Is.
• 28:49
  Now only we have an any if factor.
• 28:51
  The way it is with me is, yeah, I play the guitar with the ring,
• 28:55
  loud and proud. Yeah, not this ring.
• 28:58
  This ring. Terry loves.
• 28:59
  He pointed to his bum and came. I actually.
• 29:01
  Really liked this ring on my finger here, yeah.
• 29:04
  It is a nice ring. It's.
• 29:05
  Beautiful ring. That means I owned you.
• 29:08
  I know no money must. Not want a refund?
• 29:12
  No refunds. Remember I said last week, go
• 29:14
  back to your mass because the smell of the dog.
• 29:17
  You always say that. Right now I was going to say
• 29:19
  something else. This what happens because of
• 29:20
  ADHD and I run off with myself. What was the other thing I was
• 29:24
  going to say? We were talking about the the
• 29:27
  main tweet, the person who apologized to you then.
• 29:31
  No, something else that I was going to get any of the lads
• 29:33
  remember now. See that's why I jumped.
• 29:39
  Taking the whole was something after that.
• 29:43
  The eight factor. No.
• 29:45
  So the IT was before the proposal.
• 29:47
  Oh. It was the proposal, the
• 29:49
  proposal, OK. So just want you to visualize
• 29:52
  this. OK.
• 29:52
  I'm with Terry, 10 years. Career.
• 29:54
  She didn't get down on one knee or anything like that.
• 29:56
  She's a woman. She shouldn't.
• 29:59
  If she did, I'd be like, yeah, definitely not marrying my
• 30:02
  husband if you're actually going to ask him to.
• 30:04
  No, no, no, I'm AI. I'm a woman's woman.
• 30:07
  And I think the man should court the woman.
• 30:10
  A. 100% how did I propose to you all?
• 30:12
  Right, so listen to this set the scene.
• 30:14
  We're together 10 years. There has been multiple
• 30:18
  suggestions, strong arm suggestions, strong arm.
• 30:22
  OK, we had Kourtney Kardashian mood board for Terry.
• 30:27
  Travis proposed to Kourtney armed on a beach with red roses
• 30:34
  and a violin player. Yeah.
• 30:36
  Yeah, on a private beach with all the candles out.
• 30:39
  Yeah. Real romantic.
• 30:41
  No one there because even though I'm a show woman, I don't really
• 30:44
  display intimacy in public. Right.
• 30:47
  So. Apart from a handhold.
• 30:49
  I showed Terry this. Isn't this gorgeous?
• 30:52
  This is really how I'd like to be proposed.
• 30:57
  How did you propose to me? So what I did was right.
• 31:00
  He's really fucking proud of this, by the way.
• 31:02
  Sorry ma'am, of your list and he's really proud of this.
• 31:04
  Sorry, ma'am. She hates when I course.
• 31:07
  Oh, and so anyway, so does my actually.
• 31:12
  But anyway, So what I did was I got in my head and it was
• 31:17
  happening because she gave me the ultimatum.
• 31:20
  If it's not done by the end of the year, it's finished.
• 31:22
  Did I Yes, we start me menopause that say.
• 31:25
  Yeah, God knows. God knows, right?
• 31:27
  It's been going on years. Did I?
• 31:28
  Say that I don't. Remember that you said it to me.
• 31:30
  It feels a good few times right. But I said, you know what?
• 31:33
  This is the year we're going into the the decade like this is
• 31:36
  like a right. And so I got me head down, got
• 31:41
  me head around, what I was going to do and everything else,
• 31:43
  right, Obviously got the ring together.
• 31:46
  He was saving for the ring guys. Yeah, he.
• 31:49
  Still paying off some of my. Ring and I'm I've I've very
• 31:53
  little left now, thank God, but anyway, getting back to the
• 31:56
  protein. So I I decided right, it was
• 31:58
  panto season. Now Terry, you decided to take
• 32:02
  none of my suggestions or my freaking mood bar that I.
• 32:06
  Gave it. I didn't want different.
• 32:08
  I literally showed you everyone. So you're actually telling me
• 32:11
  that you did not enjoy that night when I did that?
• 32:13
  No, I just feel I loved it, but I'm just like, how so?
• 32:16
  What are you talking about? Or so you're backing me into a
• 32:19
  corner. I really love my proposal, but
• 32:21
  what I'm. Trying to tell you see Travis
• 32:24
  Barker. Yeah, I thought that was a
• 32:25
  little bit. A little bit cringy.
• 32:29
  Tiny bit OK, I'm not Travis Barker, so in the in the
• 32:32
  mentality to eh sense, I mean right.
• 32:35
  So it was true romantic. I just thought this was more
• 32:38
  like I thought this was like romantic as well.
• 32:42
  My name was Tick in the pant. But I wasn't referring to you as
• 32:46
  tick. Everyone in the group was.
• 32:49
  I was dressed as Chick in a little outfit with a black wig.
• 32:54
  Right. So what happened was right at
• 32:56
  the end of the panto, I said it to to the organizer Stuart and I
• 33:01
  said, look, I really want to do this and this is the way I'd
• 33:05
  like to do it. At the end of one of the shells
• 33:08
  he goes, Jesus, that's a deadly idea.
• 33:10
  He says, right, So he's right behind.
• 33:12
  And I said, look, I just. Take it up.
• 33:13
  The problem I was just like it'll be in.
• 33:15
  Every newspaper I walk out. No, that's not what I was
• 33:18
  thinking about. No, it's George.
• 33:19
  Well, to promote or. For the what I was thinking was
• 33:21
  like the two over SAP performers.
• 33:23
  I'm a singer and that and you're you're a panto queen.
• 33:27
  We'll call you right. And I just thought to myself,
• 33:31
  this is something different and it's in front of like for
• 33:35
  everyone to see because you like that, right?
• 33:37
  You do like that. Again, right, I've just said I
• 33:40
  hate intimacy in front of. Everyone wasn't like that.
• 33:44
  Awesome to get married to someone in front of 3000 people.
• 33:47
  Well, like, OK, right it was, but I thought to myself, I got
• 33:50
  to push up past our limits, right?
• 33:51
  No, you didn't. You thought this is a great idea
• 33:53
  and I'm gone with it. I mean poor child was like, are
• 33:56
  you actually not going to like? Who's child?
• 33:59
  Taylor was like, are you actually, like, gonna bring her
• 34:02
  anywhere? Are you gonna, like, get her an
• 34:04
  outfit? And you're like, no.
• 34:07
  She has an outfit on her. She's like, you cannot leave me
• 34:10
  Ma in a black wig and a little outfit and like, that's the end.
• 34:14
  But that's why it's a team effort.
• 34:16
  I had like green eyeshadow or something on.
• 34:18
  Me right? So anyway, getting back to the
• 34:19
  to. The no, I loved it.
• 34:20
  By the way, this sounds negative Nancy, but I'm just saying told.
• 34:23
  The negative Nancy. How far apart of our ideas we
• 34:28
  can be I'd. Say there's lots of people
• 34:29
  feeling sorry for me right now. Well, a lot of people think you
• 34:33
  have a great life, so I'm I'm sitting with.
• 34:35
  Them anyway right so listen this what happened right so I got in
• 34:38
  and I had an idea in me had that I was just gonna walk out on
• 34:42
  stage now that in thinking about it now would have been stupid
• 34:46
  but Stewart had a brilliant idea.
• 34:49
  I think it was where where Ryan is I don't know who it was who
• 34:52
  had it. I think it was him and and
• 34:53
  someone at one one other person right.
• 34:56
  There was a box which was a prop on the stage yeah right.
• 35:00
  So it was like, you stand in the box like a magic trick, right?
• 35:04
  Kind of like the candles and the red roses and the violin players
• 35:08
  on the. Beat exactly right.
• 35:09
  My version. My version of it, yeah.
• 35:11
  And there so anyway, I basically he says to me now you get in the
• 35:16
  box. He says you listen to Ryan.
• 35:18
  Ryan is going to say 321 because he's going to be giving you a
• 35:22
  present, a presentation for your loyal, your commitment to the
• 35:26
  pant or whatever, right. And I and then I'll jump out
• 35:29
  right. So he goes to me.
• 35:30
  Now there's a latch inside the box, he says, and you have to
• 35:32
  try and get open, which you have to try and like get open.
• 35:36
  Listen to him because you can't hear that much in the box,
• 35:38
  right. I was like Grant, next of all I
• 35:41
  was like shit. There was too much roaring from
• 35:44
  the crowd. I couldn't hear Ryan.
• 35:46
  What? Next one I heard at the last
• 35:47
  minute, warm. I hadn't got the latch open,
• 35:50
  then it wouldn't open. So I just literally smashed the
• 35:52
  open right. Not smashed it, just gave it a
• 35:54
  good shove open right and hello. Hello.
• 35:59
  Hello, how are you right? Will you marry me?
• 36:03
  And I just said that's that's what I said.
• 36:05
  I just. Saw that I done something
• 36:07
  cringy, like, oh, will I do it? Oh, will I?
• 36:10
  I do it. Yeah.
• 36:10
  Like, because I didn't know what to say.
• 36:12
  Why have you still got your jacket on?
• 36:14
  This is kind of embarrassing. I'm should be crying like people
• 36:17
  on their proposals. If you are one of those people
• 36:19
  who cry like. But I thought, but I thought I
• 36:22
  was sorry. But you know what?
• 36:23
  I thought it was different. It was so different.
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  But you'll never see that done that often.
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  So that's as far as I'm concerned.
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  I made my mark hopefully in the proposal.
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  Department. You did, babe.
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  You did. I don't.
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  See it like you mean it, will you?
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  No, people really don't realize I'm actually shy to like, see
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  like that affection, like I love you so much.
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  Like even on our wedding day, Terry was like, don't start.
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  You'll never, you'll never get that from me.
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  I love you so much and I'm not like that.
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  I would. Just because when I was like
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  looking at you on stage, you were getting really annoyed with
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  me. You were like, you were getting
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  really annoyed with me. On stage.
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  Will you answer? No, no, he said it as I was
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  like, just look, I was doing it as a kind of joke.
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  I was on my knee, gone. Please say yes just for the
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  crowd even. And I said yes.
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  So comment if your partner thought they were listening to
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  something you've asked for and done the complete opposite, let
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  us know which she. Totally loved by the way.
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  Let us know your proposal stories, good or bad.
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  Oh, we want to hear them all. We want to hear as many as
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  possible and as wacky as possible.
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  Also, have you learned something about us on this episode that
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  you didn't think you knew about us?
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  Good. That's very good.
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  Terry's 5 foot 9. I'm five.
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  No, I'm going to be honest now. I'm going to own this one.
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  I'm 5/8 and 1/2. I knew you were going to say
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  that. And he's not tiny.
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  And 1/2. He's not tiny, Terry.
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  Give it all over. With that.