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You Are Your Own Obstacle – Break Free. · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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Speaker 1: You see this guy here and staring back at you. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: that's your toughest the poets. Every time you get into
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Speaker 1: the room, that's where you're going against. I believe that
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Speaker 1: in the boxes, and I do believe that in a
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Speaker 1: life feature.
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Speaker 2: I have the correct line on resentment. He said, if
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Speaker 2: you think someone's ruined your life, you're right.
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Speaker 3: Issue.
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Speaker 4: People have this reoccurring nightmare that there's some thing, some force.
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Speaker 2: That's got a hold of them and it's holding them.
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Speaker 5: Down and they can't break for you, no matter what
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Speaker 5: they do, they can't break free.
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Speaker 2: From that force.
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Speaker 4: Well, I'm here to tell you that that thing in
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Speaker 4: your nightmare, that thing that's holding you back, that thing
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Speaker 4: that's dragging you down, that thing is you.
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Speaker 6: There's no hacks, bro, it's you against you, you against you.
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Speaker 6: And if you misunderstand that, you've a real If you
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Speaker 6: misunderstand saying right now today, the problem is you and
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Speaker 6: you don't.
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Speaker 2: Want to fix it.
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Speaker 5: If you don't change what you're doing and how you
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Speaker 5: do it, nothing else will change.
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Speaker 7: Here's how to get older without getting better. Keep relearning
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Speaker 7: the same lesson. If you keep making the same mistake
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Speaker 7: over and over, the mistake isn't the problem you want.
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Speaker 8: Do you actually want to do this or not? Because
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Speaker 8: if you actually want to do it, what's going.
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Speaker 9: To stop you?
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Speaker 3: Nothing?
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Speaker 8: And if you don't really want to do it, what's
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Speaker 8: going to stop you? Just about anything that comes up,
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Speaker 8: just about any obstacle that gets in your way, becomes
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Speaker 8: an excuse not proceeding down that path. Your excuse is
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Speaker 8: will destroy you and take everything that you ever wanted
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Speaker 8: from you. If you let them go, try and accomplish
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Speaker 8: something that's hard. You may win, you may lose, you
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Speaker 8: may succeed, you may fail.
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Speaker 3: I'll tell you what.
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Speaker 8: You'll be better, and you're gonna fail, and you're gonna fail,
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Speaker 8: and you're gonna fail and you're gonna fail, and then
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Speaker 8: you're gonna win.
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Speaker 10: They don't blame them.
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Speaker 2: But don't be mad. When you're laying there in your
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Speaker 2: bed and you're in the.
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Speaker 6: Hospital and you're seventy eighty nine years old, you're thinking, yeah,
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Speaker 6: I feel like I didn't do something because you did.
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Speaker 6: You didn't do it, You didn't do shit. You may
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Speaker 6: live a great life, man, but you're always gonn fut
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Speaker 6: empty inside.
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Speaker 11: Your biggest enemy is you. My whole book is about
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Speaker 11: you battling yourself. People don't understand that you against you.
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Speaker 11: The only person that gets in.
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Speaker 2: Your way is you. Nobody else as you.
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Speaker 12: You're the one that you have to really fight is
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Speaker 12: the what against yourself. You have to fight the what
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Speaker 12: against yourself. None there's not these to look in the
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Speaker 12: mirror and to change your own life. It's hot as hell.
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Speaker 12: You have to take responsibility, You have to learn new things.
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Speaker 12: You have to feel uncomfortable good because discomfort is how
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Speaker 12: we grow, That's how we become strong. If you run
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Speaker 12: away from discomfort and desistance your whole life, you will
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Speaker 12: always be weak.
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Speaker 3: Mother is you versus you?
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Speaker 2: And it makes me so mad.
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Speaker 6: Every day I walk this earth and I see average
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Speaker 6: all over the place, and they want to ask me,
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Speaker 6: how did you do it?
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Speaker 2: I can't tell you.
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Speaker 13: How could.
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Speaker 2: You're not gonna You're not gonna do it. You're not
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Speaker 2: goulda do it.
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Speaker 6: You just could you You're gonna continue to be down
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Speaker 6: because every day you wake up, like you said, it's like.
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Speaker 2: Get the coffee, make the make the pancakes, kiss the girl,
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Speaker 2: kiss the kids. You wake up right to work immediate.
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Speaker 2: Your mind is in action. No one wants to do that,
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Speaker 2: No one, They don't going on.
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Speaker 14: If you want to be successful, you have to change this.
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Speaker 9: This has to change.
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Speaker 14: What makes it hard is your lack of belief that
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Speaker 14: it can happen for you.
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Speaker 9: See what you gotta change though, If you keep.
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Speaker 14: Doing what you've been doing, you gonna keep getting what
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Speaker 14: you've been getting.
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Speaker 9: So if you're at a place.
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Speaker 3: In your life and.
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Speaker 14: You ain't happy with it, you have to change some things.
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Speaker 15: If you believe it, if you really believe that you
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Speaker 15: could be something, if you have that little voice in
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Speaker 15: your head saying, hey, you got talent, you could do this,
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Speaker 15: then follow that voice.
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Speaker 7: Imagine if you're in a movie, and imagine the movie
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Speaker 7: begins now and you're the hero of the movie.
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Speaker 3: What would that guy do?
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Speaker 2: What would that guy do? Right now? Because you are
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Speaker 2: you are able to get.
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Speaker 6: Up every morning, have no passion, no drive, no motivation, no.
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Speaker 16: Shape is still get up with that kind of fire.
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Speaker 16: You will be successful in life. I guarantee tell you that,
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Speaker 16: and that those of you in this room you are great.
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Speaker 3: You are a phenomenal and you're not walking in it
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Speaker 3: because you don't know who you are and what you want.
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Speaker 2: You are capable of doing anything. You are capable of
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Speaker 2: all of it.
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Speaker 6: You got to change the internal dialogue that person in
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Speaker 6: your head that's talking that to you, until you change
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Speaker 6: the internal dialogue in your head, until you callous over
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Speaker 6: the victim's mentality that the world is out to get
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Speaker 6: you because of you are the only you gotta change that.
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Speaker 17: Man.
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Speaker 6: Self disciplines everything. If you don't have it, I don't
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Speaker 6: look at you right now.
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Speaker 2: I know you're capable of more. It's not disciplined so
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Speaker 2: much for me. It's all on you. It's all on you.
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Speaker 2: The self part it was big. We need someone to
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Speaker 2: hold people accountable as shit.
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Speaker 17: Man.
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Speaker 6: We count on people too much to get us through it,
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Speaker 6: and we look to our right, to our left looking
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Speaker 6: for help. And if you can build that self, you
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Speaker 6: can build that total accountability in oneself. And it's not
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Speaker 6: about being selfish. I'm trying to create a better me.
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Speaker 6: So hopefully people who are hearing this are taking it
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Speaker 6: the right way. It can say I can run a mile,
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Speaker 6: anybody running two hundred and five or doing four.
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Speaker 2: Dog being to say aint about all that, it doesn't matter.
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Speaker 2: I want you to see how far you can go,
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Speaker 2: and that's all. It's about yourself.
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Speaker 18: Well, what you're willing to forego today's pleasure for tomorrow's advantage.
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Speaker 6: You were blessed with a strong mind, like talking about
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Speaker 6: it's blessed with a strong mind. That's something that you
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Speaker 6: have to develop. You developed that over years, decades of
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Speaker 6: suffering and going back into the suffering. Because human beings
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Speaker 6: need to hear this, Then you to stop hearing these
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Speaker 6: hacks on.
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Speaker 2: This and that. There's no hack, bro, there's no hack.
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Speaker 6: Yeah you made this and that and saunas and all
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Speaker 6: this that they yeah, it's great.
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Speaker 2: There is no fucking life hack to grow that thing.
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Speaker 2: And how do you grow it? Do it and do it,
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Speaker 2: and do it and do it. That's the hack. The
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Speaker 2: hack is gonna suck.
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Speaker 19: Everybody wants the view, but no one wants to climb.
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Speaker 13: I just beat me.
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Speaker 11: If I can keep beating myself, if I can keep
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Speaker 11: doing that, then that means that I'm in a battle
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Speaker 11: with the only person that I've only one of and
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Speaker 11: be and that's me. If I can continue to I'll
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Speaker 11: do me. From the day before that I'm ahead.
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Speaker 6: Is when I realized a human being, we have the
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Speaker 6: ability to go in such a space if you're willing
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Speaker 6: to suffer, and I mean suffer. Your brain and your body,
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Speaker 6: once connected together, can do anything. And this thirty miles
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Speaker 6: was the life changing moment I was out of it.
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Speaker 2: I wasn't the worst pain in my entire life. I
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Speaker 2: was to me on the brink of death. That was
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Speaker 2: so driven.
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Speaker 6: And I'm not gonna say motivated, because motivation's crap. Motivation
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Speaker 6: comes and goes. When you're driven, whatever's in front of you.
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Speaker 17: Will get destroyed.
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Speaker 3: You lost that fight right for all the wrong reasons.
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Speaker 2: You lost your.
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Speaker 3: Inch, all right. I know your manager dying had.
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Speaker 2: Your messed up, But the truth is you didn't come
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Speaker 2: read now when we fought, you had that eye of
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Speaker 2: the tiger and the itch.
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Speaker 3: And now you've got to get it back. And the
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Speaker 3: way to get it back is to go back to
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Speaker 3: the beginning.
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Speaker 10: You know what I mean?
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Speaker 17: Maybe we could win it back to getting I am
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Speaker 17: the tiger. Why you have to come here? I have
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Speaker 17: the plan get it back there.
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Speaker 2: Here's the big challenge of life.
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Speaker 20: You can have more than you've got because you can
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Speaker 20: become more than you are.
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Speaker 2: That's the challenge.
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Speaker 21: And of course, the other side of the coin reads.
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Speaker 20: Unless you change how you are, you'll always have what
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Speaker 20: you got.
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Speaker 2: Set a time to try and try and not that time.
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Speaker 2: Set a time to go sleep, go sit, sime time.
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Speaker 2: Don't don't tell us every you need to do something
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Speaker 2: like that. Don't.
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Speaker 17: That's what I was talking about. What I read I said,
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Speaker 17: I said, I knew in.
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Speaker 2: My head I was saying, get up at this time.
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Speaker 22: I didn't get up at that time. Train at this time.
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Speaker 22: I didn't train at the time. Don't eat this I
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Speaker 22: had that. Don't drink die, I drink it. And these
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Speaker 22: all just infiltrate my mental strength. Just little coming to
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Speaker 22: the feet, anxiety, little feet. Instead it wins and it
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Speaker 22: just culminates into art and I just don't want to
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Speaker 22: be here. So I'm just feeling in the shout like
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Speaker 22: I've never fad shot up the floor.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't care how good you are in anything.
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Speaker 23: You don't have a discipline, you ain't nobody right, nothing
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Speaker 23: of discipline because you give up the slightest struggle without discipline.
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Speaker 23: Discipline is doing what you hate to do, but doing
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Speaker 23: it like you love it. And that's what you have
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Speaker 23: to do to be the best.
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Speaker 14: Everything you're going through is preparing you while you're in
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Speaker 14: the process, because the process is necessary. You may not
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Speaker 14: see it now, But when get you on the other
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Speaker 14: side of it, you gonna see exactly why it went
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Speaker 14: that way and you gonna be okay with it. But
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Speaker 14: quit tripping during the process.
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Speaker 24: That's the problem with some of you. You always want
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Speaker 24: to blame other people. You always want to you want
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Speaker 24: to hold other people to the fire. But you're not
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Speaker 24: holding yourself to the fire. You just said you're giving
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Speaker 24: fifty percent. You owe you an explanation. You need to
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Speaker 24: look at yourself in the mirror and say, why are
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Speaker 24: you only giving fifty percent? What's wrong with you? You
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Speaker 24: need to put yourself on punishment. No more, No, we
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Speaker 24: work it out now. No, no more alcohol, not right now.
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Speaker 24: Not no, I can't handle it right now. You don't
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Speaker 24: need to tell you that you owe you something. You
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Speaker 24: walk out of this room, you owe yourself. I didn't
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Speaker 24: get here making excuses. So what my father was in
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Speaker 24: my life. The truth of the matter is he ain't
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Speaker 24: never coming in my life. So what I'm gonna wait
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Speaker 24: for the rest of my life for my man to come.
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Speaker 17: He ain't coming.
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Speaker 25: Because you gotta just stay locked in and stay focused.
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Speaker 25: And as long as you know it's true, you know
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Speaker 25: what I mean? People are always gonna say something, always
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Speaker 25: they gonna try to have some type of narrative or whatnot.
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Speaker 25: But as long as you know what's real, I think
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Speaker 25: that's what can help you keep your sanity.
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Speaker 26: Being on your death bed and standing around your bed
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Speaker 26: the ghost of the dreams, the ideas, the abilities, the
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Speaker 26: talents given to you by life, and you, for whatever reason,
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Speaker 26: you never forsued those dreams, You never acted on those ideas,
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Speaker 26: you never use those gifts.
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Speaker 13: And there they are, standing around your bed and looking
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Speaker 13: at you, saying, we came to you and only you
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Speaker 13: could have given us life, and now we must die
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Speaker 13: with you forever. And the question is, if you died today,
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Speaker 13: what dreams, what ideas, what leadership, what books, what gifts?
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Speaker 17: Will die with you?
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Speaker 27: What if you live your whole life only to discover
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Speaker 27: it was wrong, to reach the point of death, only
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Speaker 27: to realize that you've never lived, only to realize.
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Speaker 26: That you've never spaked the surface of your potential?
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Speaker 6: How bad do you want this? Most people don't want
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Speaker 6: it that badly.
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Speaker 2: Which why they always asked a question, man, how did
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Speaker 2: you get to where you are?
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Speaker 17: You know how to do it, You know exactly.
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Speaker 2: How to be You or how to be me.
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Speaker 6: You don't want to do it, so I can't make
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Speaker 6: you do it in order do I have the time
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Speaker 6: or energy to force you into that place that I
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Speaker 6: know you have to be to do it. There's no
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Speaker 6: luck in this game, and it may be a little
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Speaker 6: bit of luck, but the luck happens after you must
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Speaker 6: draft and you put yourself in that lucky situation, luck
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Speaker 6: doesn't happen. You put yourself in that situation where luck
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Speaker 6: might happen.
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Speaker 7: And this is my favorite rule from James Clear, which
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Speaker 7: is a hobbit missed ones is a mistake. A habbit
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Speaker 7: missed twice is the start of a new habit. Never
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Speaker 7: missed two days.
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Speaker 17: In a row.
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Speaker 6: You have no found how great you really are because
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Speaker 6: you are using such minimal, minimal of what you have
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Speaker 6: on what it really takes to extract greatness from nothing.
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Speaker 19: For so many years I wanted to be balanced, but
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Speaker 19: then I was like, well, nothing great was ever achieved
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Speaker 19: by people who tried to be great at all.
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Speaker 2: Things Just get started, Just get started.
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Speaker 5: The longest time in the world is the hesitation between
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Speaker 5: thought and action.
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Speaker 2: It can actually be forever.
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Speaker 5: You can hesitate for one second to get started on something,
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Speaker 5: a workout, a project, a task, something that you know
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Speaker 5: you should do.
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Speaker 2: You can hesitate for one second.
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Speaker 28: That one second of hesitation, all of a sudden, it
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Speaker 28: turns into five seconds, and then ten seconds, and then
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Speaker 28: ten minutes, and then just like that, you drifted into
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Speaker 28: the eternity zone. One second became an eternity because something
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Speaker 28: that was going to happen is now never going to happen. Ever,
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Speaker 28: why is that because you're hesitated. So don't take that chance. Instead,
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Speaker 28: take action. A body in motion tends to stay in motion.
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Speaker 28: A body at rest tends to stay at rest. You've
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Speaker 28: had enough, damn rest, Go take action.
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Speaker 24: I need you to confront you. I need you to
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Speaker 24: confront you, because you don't want to holding you up.
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Speaker 24: I need you to confront you. I need you to
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Speaker 24: look in the mirror and tell you are not gonna
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Speaker 24: do me like this no more. You're not gonna continue
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Speaker 24: to sabotage me. You're not You're not gonna keep procrastinating.
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Speaker 24: I need you. You're not gonna keep thinking like that.
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Speaker 24: I need listen to me. This is the one thing
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Speaker 24: I get so frustrated with humans. I get upset with
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Speaker 24: humans when you go out to eat them and bring
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Speaker 24: your food out the way you want your food out,
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Speaker 24: and you are so upset and you let them have it,
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Speaker 24: but then you disappoint you and you don't let you
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Speaker 24: have it.
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Speaker 3: You'll give you a pass. You'll give you a pass.
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Speaker 24: You are not where you're supposed to be financially, and
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Speaker 24: you give yourself a pass.
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Speaker 3: You better than that. You know you should be further alive,
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Speaker 3: but you keep letting you flat. It's time you punish you.
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Speaker 7: The biggest risk to your future isn't your competition. It's
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Speaker 7: the distractions you insist on keeping in your life rather
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Speaker 7: than doing the things you know you should be doing.
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Speaker 7: But aren't people delay doing things they don't like for
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Speaker 7: longer than it takes to do them.
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Speaker 18: Find something difficult to do.
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Speaker 3: You need that.
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Speaker 18: You're not built for comfort or pleasure, Like if that
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Speaker 18: comes along good. You know, if you have a day
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Speaker 18: where you're comfortable and there's some things around you that
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Speaker 18: give pleasure, have some sense and enjoy it. But don't
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Speaker 18: be thinking that's what your life is aimed at. That's contemptible.
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Speaker 29: It's almost like you have to have the ability to
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Speaker 29: go to the deep end, no matter whether or not
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Speaker 29: you'll ever go there, And some people are like, well,
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Speaker 29: I'm never going to go to the deep end, but
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Speaker 29: you should be able to.
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Speaker 3: You know, so often.
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Speaker 30: The best way to contend with problems, with issues with adversity.
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Speaker 2: Is action, is by taking action.
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Speaker 5: The more you sit and the more you wait, and
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Speaker 5: the more time you spend with that adversity with the
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Speaker 5: upper hand inside your head, the worse it's.
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Speaker 3: Going to get.
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Speaker 7: Self love is holding yourself to a highest stundd than
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Speaker 7: anyone else does.
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Speaker 19: I think it's believing in the eighty five year old
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Speaker 19: version of you who's exactly who you want to be,
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Speaker 19: and then ruthlessly looking at the discrepancy between the pittance
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Speaker 19: of a human that you are now compared to that
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Speaker 19: man or that woman, and then step by step breaking
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Speaker 19: down the many differences and starting on the first one
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Speaker 19: and pulling the thread.
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Speaker 31: What's important to you and what's important to you for
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Speaker 31: whatever reason, you know, I felt like I didn't feel
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Speaker 31: good about myself, if I wasn't doing everything I could
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Speaker 31: to be the best version of myself, if I felt
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Speaker 31: like I left anything on the table, it would need
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Speaker 31: a way at me. I wouldn't be able to look
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Speaker 31: myself in the mirror. And so the reason why I
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Speaker 31: can retire now and be completely comfortable about it because
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Speaker 31: I know that I've done everything I could to be
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Speaker 31: the best basketball player I could be. And so that's
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Speaker 31: where it comes from for me. You can't leave any.
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Speaker 32: Stone on turn.
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Speaker 17: Of course.
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Speaker 2: You don't feel like doing it. Of course you don't.
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Speaker 2: It's hard.
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Speaker 5: Whatever it is, could be a workout, could be a run, could.
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Speaker 2: Be starting on a project.
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Speaker 30: Whatever it is, you don't feel like doing it, and
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Speaker 30: you rationalize and you justify, and you make excuses like.
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Speaker 6: A high priced defense trying to win the case for weakness.
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Speaker 2: To go and do what you're supposed to do. Just
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Speaker 2: don't listen.
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Speaker 13: In your head.
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Speaker 2: Instead, just go get to work.
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Speaker 6: So if you wake up in the morning and you
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Speaker 6: don't want to do something, you don't care enough about yourself.
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Speaker 6: And that's what you need to really research, is, man,
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Speaker 6: why am I not doing this for myself? Because that
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Speaker 6: is the number one purpose in life is to better oneself.
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Speaker 2: Our minds are morphing from minute to minute if we
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Speaker 2: let them.
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Speaker 5: If you are not paying attention, if you are on
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Speaker 5: cruise control, then your mind is not under your own control.
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Speaker 5: We can't be in cruise control. You can't let your
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Speaker 5: mind be in cruise control. You have to be of
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Speaker 5: what you're thinking. You have to be cognizant.
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Speaker 28: You have to be aware of how you are being influenced.
20:11
Speaker 2: How bad do you want it.
20:13
Speaker 33: There's two options.
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Speaker 30: To continue forward, push no more, and if you do
20:19
Speaker 30: that dream is given birth and forever you live in
20:23
Speaker 30: the reality of it.
20:25
Speaker 2: If you stop quit throwing it down. I promise you
20:29
Speaker 2: there's no distance you can travel far enough find that
20:32
Speaker 2: dream again, for it.
20:34
Speaker 34: Is dead, and it's dead, it's replaced by regret.
20:39
Speaker 2: You've got to take ownership of what's going on in
20:41
Speaker 2: your life.
20:41
Speaker 5: When you're not where you want to be and you
20:44
Speaker 5: say it's because the boss doesn't like your it's because
20:46
Speaker 5: the girl treated you this way, or the guy did this,
20:49
Speaker 5: and like all those things.
20:50
Speaker 2: You got to take ownership of.
20:51
Speaker 5: Yeah, and if you're blaming all these other external things,
20:56
Speaker 5: you're not going to make any changes, and that's going
20:58
Speaker 5: to be a problem.
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Speaker 6: It showed me even more of what we have as
21:03
Speaker 6: humans if we're willing to go there, if we're willing
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Speaker 6: to push that extra step. And like I said, you
21:09
Speaker 6: know I always tell people I'll be but man, how
21:11
Speaker 6: do you do what you do At the end of
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Speaker 6: the day. I asked myself one question, can I take
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Speaker 6: one more step? And usually the answer is yes. So
21:21
Speaker 6: if you can answer that question and not take another step.
21:25
Speaker 2: That is real failure. That is real quitting.
21:28
Speaker 10: Tough to you, the balls in your court, No more
21:31
Speaker 10: fecking around. You want your life to be better. I
21:33
Speaker 10: can't help you if they can't help you. Your road
21:35
Speaker 10: and can't help you already, can't help you. God can
21:38
Speaker 10: help you. Only you could help you. Grab your fucking balls,
21:42
Speaker 10: get a book and write down what the you're gonna do?
21:45
Speaker 10: This shit and this is it. You're not gonna have
21:47
Speaker 10: these problems to drugs, the cigarettes, a dumb bit. It
21:51
Speaker 10: all starts today, right, No more excuses. That's the this
21:56
Speaker 10: is the year of the soldier. It's twenty fifteen, going
22:00
Speaker 10: in like the marine. If you understand me, we're getting
22:03
Speaker 10: back what belongs to us and that's it. No more around.
22:06
Speaker 33: Don't let life stop you from living life. All that
22:15
Speaker 33: you feel, all that you're carrying, all that you've seen,
22:18
Speaker 33: all that you've heard, all that you've been exposed to,
22:20
Speaker 33: all of those experiences, they are all very very real.
22:26
Speaker 33: You may not be telling people about them, but you're
22:28
Speaker 33: thinking about them, you're carrying it, you're processing.
22:32
Speaker 34: You're triggered by it. It's all still there. But do
22:37
Speaker 34: yourself a favor and make the decision that you're not
22:43
Speaker 34: gonna let life stop you living life. And don't worry
22:48
Speaker 34: about how fast your homegirl got over him or he
22:52
Speaker 34: got over her and moved on.
22:55
Speaker 17: You run your race and you'll feel much better about
23:00
Speaker 17: it in the end.
23:02
Speaker 34: Don't tear nobody down because they want to be celibate
23:05
Speaker 34: for two years and you may have been single for
23:08
Speaker 34: two weeks and you out fucking party.
23:10
Speaker 17: Don't judge nobody on either side. Everybody has their process
23:16
Speaker 17: and I'm in the middle of.
23:17
Speaker 7: My Successful people see opportunity in every failure. Normal people
23:21
Speaker 7: see failure in every opportunity both the right.
23:24
Speaker 2: Only one gets rich.
23:26
Speaker 35: A lot of people want to be successful, but they
23:28
Speaker 35: want to go to the club on Thursday, on Friday,
23:31
Speaker 35: on Saturday, on Sunday, and then on Monday.
23:35
Speaker 2: They're getting outperformed by.
23:36
Speaker 6: Everybody in the comfie and they're wondering, why don't I
23:38
Speaker 6: get the raise and the promotion?
23:40
Speaker 2: Shut your up, that's up.
23:41
Speaker 3: That's why man get to work.
23:43
Speaker 2: You know, and that's something that I don't.
23:44
Speaker 35: I don't give about the social media, about even hanging out.
23:48
Speaker 36: Man, if it's not productive to what I'm doing, I'd
23:50
Speaker 36: rather just get some rest time and go to sleep.
23:52
Speaker 2: Then go to a bar and have a beer with somebody.
23:54
Speaker 37: You think you're the only man on this planet, they're saying,
24:00
Speaker 37: and I'm going through depression.
24:01
Speaker 3: Well, welcome to the world, Welcome to.
24:03
Speaker 37: The rest of us. You think I don't go through depression.
24:06
Speaker 37: Sometimes you think I don't get sad. Sometimes you think
24:09
Speaker 37: I don't just feel war out and burnt, plumb down
24:12
Speaker 37: to the bottom of my soul.
24:14
Speaker 2: We all do, We all do.
24:20
Speaker 21: Life is not easy.
24:21
Speaker 9: It is not.
24:22
Speaker 38: Don't try to make it that way. Life's not fair.
24:25
Speaker 38: It never was, it is and now and it won't
24:26
Speaker 38: ever be. Do not fall into the trap, the entitlement trap,
24:31
Speaker 38: a feeling like you're a victim.
24:33
Speaker 3: You are not.
24:34
Speaker 38: Get over it, Get on And yes, most things are
24:37
Speaker 38: more rewarding when you break a sweat to get.
24:40
Speaker 39: Them, which like when Kobe said, I was chasing perfection
24:45
Speaker 39: and excellence even though I knew I will probably never
24:48
Speaker 39: catch it. But just the fact that I was willing
24:50
Speaker 39: to chase it, I would defeat most of my opponents
24:52
Speaker 39: because most of my opponents would never chase something that
24:55
Speaker 39: didn't have any guarantees attached to.
24:57
Speaker 11: You are your own competition that there is nobody that
25:02
Speaker 11: can judge your actions but you. If I'm putting like
25:06
Speaker 11: you said, if I'm putting one hundred percent into my life,
25:10
Speaker 11: I'm going to put one hundred percent into my play
25:12
Speaker 11: when it's time for me to play right here, one
25:15
Speaker 11: hundred and ten percent into me and my family.
25:20
Speaker 2: I don't care what it is that we do.
25:21
Speaker 11: I'm going to give it one hundred percent when it's
25:24
Speaker 11: time to enjoy ourselves on whatever level we want to do.
25:28
Speaker 2: That's that's my decisions.
25:29
Speaker 6: Your life was basically the perfect the perfect grounds for
25:34
Speaker 6: training for where you need to go in your life.
25:36
Speaker 6: All the beatings, all the all the bullying, all the
25:39
Speaker 6: you know you going through learning disabilities, all the struggles.
25:43
Speaker 2: It was the absolute perfect training ground for you to
25:45
Speaker 2: go to where you need to go.
25:46
Speaker 6: And that's how I started looking at my life versus
25:49
Speaker 6: whate was me poopy pants kicking rock down the street mentality,
25:52
Speaker 6: It was no, God just hooked you right the fuck up.
25:56
Speaker 6: He hooked you right up, man, with the perfect place.
25:58
Speaker 6: You were training for the first eighteen nineteen twenties. You
26:01
Speaker 6: were training for this stuff. Man, you have the advantage
26:04
Speaker 6: of everybody.
26:04
Speaker 2: Else versus my god, they're so above me.
26:08
Speaker 6: They came from a great family.
26:11
Speaker 2: Mom and dad loved them.
26:12
Speaker 6: They didn't have a learned they started, They struggled. No, man,
26:15
Speaker 6: your struggle is what made you who you are now.
26:19
Speaker 19: Whatever that thing is that you actually enjoyed doing where
26:21
Speaker 19: you lose track of time when you're in it, even
26:23
Speaker 19: if it's challenging, but usually it is challenging, right, Like
26:26
Speaker 19: it's not easy because then it's boring, right, Which is
26:28
Speaker 19: also why the uncertainty thing is so key, right to
26:30
Speaker 19: not knowing if it's going to if it's gonna work
26:32
Speaker 19: or not. Is that the people who are quote addicted
26:35
Speaker 19: to work make it easy to be addicted to work
26:37
Speaker 19: because they.
26:39
Speaker 2: Do things worth doing.
26:41
Speaker 19: And I think a lot of it is coming down
26:42
Speaker 19: to making sure that you take the few precious seconds
26:45
Speaker 19: that we have to do the few things that are
26:48
Speaker 19: worth doing.
26:48
Speaker 40: For the rest of your life, the one companion that's
26:51
Speaker 40: always going to be with.
26:52
Speaker 10: You is yourself.
26:55
Speaker 40: And I think the first thing you have to do
26:57
Speaker 40: I think the first thing we have to do is
27:00
Speaker 40: we have to get ourselves to the point where we
27:04
Speaker 40: don't necessarily need a companion.
27:08
Speaker 41: The same is with us, but you'll be the human mind.
27:11
Speaker 41: The human mind can only really grow through resistance. You
27:15
Speaker 41: can only strengthen your character, become a really strong person
27:19
Speaker 41: inside if you have resistance. If you fail, if you
27:23
Speaker 41: get up again, and if you work hard, and if
27:26
Speaker 41: you work your eyes and if you struggle, the more
27:28
Speaker 41: you struggle, the further you're gonna go.
27:31
Speaker 2: Whatever journey.
27:32
Speaker 3: You're wrong.
27:33
Speaker 42: You can't be envious of somebody else. You can't look
27:35
Speaker 42: over in their yard and go why and I rocking
27:37
Speaker 42: like that person.
27:38
Speaker 17: It's not your time.
27:39
Speaker 3: You just keep doing what you doing and it is
27:41
Speaker 3: no bad in your life.
27:43
Speaker 2: It's all good.
27:44
Speaker 42: Don't try the thirst to be nobody else. Just don't
27:47
Speaker 42: question when something bad happens to you're going to make
27:49
Speaker 42: you stronger. And lastly, you know, just be grateful for
27:54
Speaker 42: who you are on this journey. Don't try to be
27:55
Speaker 42: anybody except you.
27:56
Speaker 41: I'm allowayans anyone that tries to baby themselves and trying
28:01
Speaker 41: to protect themselves.
28:02
Speaker 12: Oh, I don't want to feel bad or I don't
28:04
Speaker 12: really want to go through any to this.
28:06
Speaker 3: Come for that it's over. You're never gonna get there.
28:09
Speaker 24: Oh, you accountable, and don't let you off the hook.
28:13
Speaker 3: You know you better than that. You know you used
28:16
Speaker 3: to be further alike, but you keep letting you flies right.
28:20
Speaker 3: So I'm not telling you how to punish yourself, you
28:22
Speaker 3: know I mean that writing down. First, I need you
28:24
Speaker 3: to hold you accountable from now on.
28:27
Speaker 24: You're not gonna hold any other human more accountable than
28:30
Speaker 24: you hold yourself.
28:31
Speaker 2: What I've learned is to always keep going.
28:35
Speaker 31: Always I've come to find out is that you know,
28:38
Speaker 31: no matter what happens, the storm eventually ends.
28:41
Speaker 2: And when the storm does, and you.
28:42
Speaker 17: Want to make sure that you're ready.
28:44
Speaker 31: And so I've really learned to put one foot in
28:46
Speaker 31: front of the other, good batter indifferent is eventually that
28:49
Speaker 31: storm passes.
28:51
Speaker 18: You can have what you want in five years, but
28:55
Speaker 18: there's two conditions.
28:57
Speaker 2: You have to know what it is and you have
28:59
Speaker 2: to aim.
29:01
Speaker 18: Figure out what you want, write it down, figure out
29:03
Speaker 18: what you could do to start moving towards that. Okay,
29:06
Speaker 18: do that with your family relationships, do that with your friendships,
29:11
Speaker 18: do that with your career, do that with your education,
29:14
Speaker 18: think about your misuse of alcohol and drugs and other
29:17
Speaker 18: things that might drag you down if you want to drink.
29:20
Speaker 3: It's like, okay, what do you mean by that?
29:21
Speaker 2: Exactly? How often?
29:23
Speaker 18: How much is too much? How are you going to
29:24
Speaker 18: constrain that? And why develop a vision? And you have
29:27
Speaker 18: to do that in dialogue with yourself.
29:29
Speaker 41: Right.
29:29
Speaker 18: It's like if I could have what I wanted, what
29:33
Speaker 18: would satisfy me?
29:34
Speaker 9: And you might think, well, I could never get that,
29:36
Speaker 9: and I could.
29:36
Speaker 18: Say, well, maybe not. But I'll tell you one thing, man,
29:39
Speaker 18: you can move towards it. And I know that everyone
29:43
Speaker 18: who knows the underlying neuroscience knows this. Almost all the
29:47
Speaker 18: pleasure is in the moving toward. But if you set
29:51
Speaker 18: up a goal that you think is, you know, just
29:54
Speaker 18: on the edge of conceivability, then every time you move
29:58
Speaker 18: even a tiny bit towards that, you're going to think,
30:00
Speaker 18: good work, man, good work. You get a little kicked
30:02
Speaker 18: from that, you get a little stronger from that.
30:04
Speaker 43: The minute that you understand that you can poke life
30:07
Speaker 43: and actually something will. You know, if you push in,
30:09
Speaker 43: something will pop out the other side. You can you
30:12
Speaker 43: can change it, you can mold it. That's maybe the
30:16
Speaker 43: most important thing is to shake off this uh, this
30:21
Speaker 43: uh erroneous notion that life is is there and you're
30:26
Speaker 43: just gonna live in it, versus embrace it, change it,
30:30
Speaker 43: improve it, make your mark upon it.
30:33
Speaker 2: You can't sit back and.
30:34
Speaker 6: Say I'll start in half an hour.
30:39
Speaker 2: I can't do that.
30:41
Speaker 6: I gotta start now, and after I get back from starting,
30:43
Speaker 6: I gotta start again, and I get done with that
30:46
Speaker 6: run or that study session.
30:48
Speaker 2: If it won't good in it, I gotta go back again.
30:50
Speaker 6: Because what repetition is with is with taught me everything
30:55
Speaker 6: so you can honestly outwork anything.
30:58
Speaker 2: Is what is the pain you're prepared to swallow the most?
31:01
Speaker 7: Nothing worth Wiley's going to come without discomfany.
31:04
Speaker 44: So you got to realize that it's up to you
31:06
Speaker 44: to decide what it is you truly want, and it's
31:09
Speaker 44: up to you to accept what pain you are willing
31:14
Speaker 44: to accept. Because if you struggle and you flounder, and
31:18
Speaker 44: you refuse to take responsibility for yourself and become that
31:22
Speaker 44: version that you know you're supposed to become, you will
31:26
Speaker 44: be miserable one hundred percent. You will have every single
31:30
Speaker 44: regret a human being could ever fing have in their
31:34
Speaker 44: entire lives. And the flip side is this, you could
31:38
Speaker 44: put in the work, you could put in the time.
31:41
Speaker 44: You could say, I am not going to settle. I
31:44
Speaker 44: am going to become exactly who I'm meant to become because.
31:48
Speaker 9: I know that it's not just going to serve me.
31:52
Speaker 44: It's going to serve my family, it's going to serve
31:55
Speaker 44: my community, it's going to serve my city, my state,
31:59
Speaker 44: and my country. And it's going to create an immeasurable
32:03
Speaker 44: ripple effect of people who know that they can do
32:07
Speaker 44: it too.
32:07
Speaker 9: And guess what, that's going to be hard.
32:09
Speaker 44: But at the end of the day, even if you
32:12
Speaker 44: come up short, even if you don't become exactly what
32:16
Speaker 44: it is you want to become, you will have created
32:19
Speaker 44: so much good in this world that you will not
32:22
Speaker 44: have regrets when you die.
32:25
Speaker 9: So the choice is yours. The choice is stay.
32:28
Speaker 44: How you are, keep pointing the finger, keep blaming everybody,
32:33
Speaker 44: and will continue to be this shitty version of society
32:37
Speaker 44: that doesn't take responsibility for anything and defers responsibility to
32:42
Speaker 44: all these people that want to sick and fat and
32:44
Speaker 44: lazy and depending on them. Or you could say I
32:48
Speaker 44: am done with this. Today is the day. Today is
32:52
Speaker 44: the day that I will look back ten years from
32:56
Speaker 44: now and say that was the day that everything changed.
33:01
Speaker 30: And I said it the other day. And you have
33:03
Speaker 30: to realize, you have to know, you have to accept.
33:08
Speaker 2: That all your.
33:09
Speaker 30: Excuses are lies.
33:13
Speaker 17: They are lies of.
33:17
Speaker 30: Think about the things that you tell yourself, the lies
33:21
Speaker 30: you use to rationalize taking the easy road, taking the
33:26
Speaker 30: easy road, and leaving discipline behind.
33:30
Speaker 45: Think about them those times when you get them early
33:36
Speaker 45: and you work hard, those times when you stay ob
33:38
Speaker 45: late and you work hard, those.
33:40
Speaker 46: Times when you don't feel like working, you're too tired,
33:42
Speaker 46: you don't want to push yourself, but you do it anyway.
33:45
Speaker 46: That is actually the dream. That's the dream. It's not
33:49
Speaker 46: the destination. It's the journey. And if you guys, if
33:55
Speaker 46: you guys can understand that, then what you'll see happen
33:58
Speaker 46: is that you want how much your dreams, your dreams
34:01
Speaker 46: won't come true, something greater will.
34:05
Speaker 47: You have to work every single day. I think that's
34:07
Speaker 47: where your confidence comes from, because when nobody's looking, that's
34:13
Speaker 47: the time that really counts. That's the time that really matters.
34:17
Speaker 47: But the finished product is the easy part. It's like
34:20
Speaker 47: the working out at five six am and all the
34:24
Speaker 47: practices and all the extra conditioning, like that's the hard part.
34:27
Speaker 47: But when push comes to shove, when I'm in the
34:29
Speaker 47: fourth quarter and it's two minutes left to go, I
34:32
Speaker 47: know how much I train, I know how tired I've
34:34
Speaker 47: already made my body. This is nothing, and so I
34:37
Speaker 47: can get through it. That work that you do every
34:39
Speaker 47: single day is key because that's what you're gonna be
34:42
Speaker 47: able to fall back on, and that's what you're gonna
34:44
Speaker 47: be able to rely on when push comes to shove.
34:47
Speaker 2: So every single day, like I said, I love it.
34:49
Speaker 47: I love to work, wake up and train early, eat right,
34:54
Speaker 47: break my body down, and then rest and build it
34:56
Speaker 47: back up and do the same thing over again.
34:59
Speaker 30: You don't have time, that's a lie. You don't have support,
35:08
Speaker 30: that's a lie. You don't you don't know the best way.
35:13
Speaker 30: Who cares? That's a lie. Or you're too old or
35:18
Speaker 30: you're too young. Of course you're too old or too
35:21
Speaker 30: young lie.
35:25
Speaker 2: And there's you're too busy. Sure you are. That's a
35:32
Speaker 2: lie until you say, yeah, I'm gonna you know what,
35:35
Speaker 2: I'm gonna take action.
35:36
Speaker 48: Nothing changes If nothing changes, man, And I'm not preaching
35:40
Speaker 48: at you, I'm just uh I just want to remind you,
35:44
Speaker 48: because you know, I've spent a lot of time in
35:45
Speaker 48: my life sitting around wanting things.
35:47
Speaker 17: To change.
35:52
Speaker 48: And not being able to make them change, and not
35:54
Speaker 48: thinking I could. And I wish somebody had told me
36:02
Speaker 48: that earlier. Sometimes that in order for something to change,
36:07
Speaker 48: there needs to be change.
36:09
Speaker 36: Most people will not understand your obsession, your drive, and
36:13
Speaker 36: your determination.
36:15
Speaker 2: Success is a lonely journey.
36:16
Speaker 3: That's just a reality.
36:17
Speaker 36: And most people are not going to understand why you're
36:20
Speaker 36: so driven while you're so obsessed, And if you try
36:23
Speaker 36: and make them understand, you're going to end up frustrated.
36:27
Speaker 36: The best advice I can tell you is go on
36:30
Speaker 36: the journey by yourself.
36:32
Speaker 3: It is the best journey man.
36:34
Speaker 36: Leveling up, making more money, losing weight, getting fit, becoming
36:38
Speaker 36: the best version of yourself is the most awesomest journey
36:42
Speaker 36: you will ever go on. But it is a journey
36:44
Speaker 36: that you will probably go on by yourself. Most people
36:46
Speaker 36: will not understand the level of obsession required. They will
36:50
Speaker 36: not understand the level of drive and determination that it
36:53
Speaker 36: takes for you to become that person. And when you
36:58
Speaker 36: try and help them understand, and you'll find yourself frustrated.
37:02
Speaker 49: And I remember when I first started comedy, my dream
37:06
Speaker 49: was to one day headline mass and square garden.
37:10
Speaker 2: And I would tell.
37:10
Speaker 49: People that and they would all usually roll their eyes
37:14
Speaker 49: or they would like that kind of laugh at the
37:17
Speaker 49: notion of it. I told you that that was my dream.
37:20
Speaker 49: I said, one day I want a headline, mask and
37:22
Speaker 49: square garden. And I remember you saw what you were
37:24
Speaker 49: doing and you looked me in the eyes and he said,
37:26
Speaker 49: I'll see you there.
37:28
Speaker 17: And it was like really important to me because.
37:32
Speaker 49: I felt like I wasn't the only person I believed
37:34
Speaker 49: that could happen.
37:35
Speaker 6: Well, I never forget one time I was running by
37:40
Speaker 6: a graveyard and I was just trying to become I
37:43
Speaker 6: was fat, and I ran by a graveyard and I
37:46
Speaker 6: looked out there, and I have all these epiphanies, man,
37:50
Speaker 6: I have all these moments of like it's crazy, man,
37:53
Speaker 6: of just thought.
37:54
Speaker 2: I always by myself, I'm always deep and thought about
37:57
Speaker 2: how to be better. And I looked out there.
37:59
Speaker 6: I'm like, man, I wonder how many of you mother
38:01
Speaker 6: was in there and just are so upset with how
38:05
Speaker 6: you lived your life and fucking just regret how you
38:09
Speaker 6: lived it. And I'm running at three hundred pound man thinking, Man,
38:13
Speaker 6: don't fucking die like this.
38:15
Speaker 32: Bro.
38:16
Speaker 2: It's not your daddy, it's not your boyfriend, it's not
38:21
Speaker 2: your boss.
38:24
Speaker 17: You are the solution to your future.
38:26
Speaker 2: We all like to take this four lane highway.
38:29
Speaker 6: The easy Highways has fucking signs, it has restaurants.
38:33
Speaker 2: We all love that four lane highway. We always step
38:36
Speaker 2: over the shovel.
38:37
Speaker 6: And all I did was I picked up that shovel,
38:40
Speaker 6: and that shovel I made my own path.
38:42
Speaker 2: And you may have.
38:43
Speaker 6: Big boulders and they may be getting towards the miles
38:46
Speaker 6: of the road faster than you. But going through this
38:48
Speaker 6: path of life, this journey over here that you make yourself,
38:51
Speaker 6: that's incredibly difficult. But it comes out to the other
38:55
Speaker 6: end of that mother some glorious shit that you can't
38:58
Speaker 6: even explain to people.
39:00
Speaker 2: And we're fright.
39:01
Speaker 6: Bottom line is most of us, even if people who
39:03
Speaker 6: have all these theories and shit, it's easier to accept
39:06
Speaker 6: the fact that I'm just not good enough. I wasn't
39:10
Speaker 6: made to do that. And yeah, some of us can't
39:13
Speaker 6: be Lebron James. But I'll tell you right now, man,
39:16
Speaker 6: we can do a lot of shit when it comes
39:18
Speaker 6: to this pure arm, guts and will power and getting through.
39:21
Speaker 2: We have a lot more with a lot more, you know,
39:23
Speaker 2: we think we have.
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Speaker 24: A real man in the dark when nobody's watching, he
39:28
Speaker 24: putting me in work, a real man when coaching to
39:32
Speaker 24: watch it, he's studying.
39:33
Speaker 2: A film on his own because he lost the process.
39:38
Speaker 50: You have to visit that place, because if that place
39:40
Speaker 50: comes visits you, it will never leave. If you go
39:44
Speaker 50: visit the darkness that you've been running from, you'll have
39:50
Speaker 50: the opportunity to leave a better person. You'll have a
39:55
Speaker 50: better understanding of yourself, you have a better understanding of
39:58
Speaker 50: your purpose. But if you don't take that trip and
40:04
Speaker 50: the darkness comes visits you, it's a guest that will
40:07
Speaker 50: never leave.
40:08
Speaker 51: Are you in a place where you are ready to
40:12
Speaker 51: actually shift and do and execute on why you're here?
40:20
Speaker 2: All of that is foundationally on.
40:23
Speaker 51: Your own self awareness of who you are, being okay
40:29
Speaker 51: that you suck at most things, being accountable, and most importantly,
40:36
Speaker 51: finally cutting out the cancer of insecurity out of your
40:41
Speaker 51: body on the things that have always been there by
40:46
Speaker 51: shedding light.
40:47
Speaker 24: Don't be upset by the results you didn't get from the.
40:52
Speaker 3: Work you did not do. Don't be upset. Don't be
40:56
Speaker 3: upset you didn't do it.
40:57
Speaker 24: Don't be upset you didn't get the results because you
40:59
Speaker 24: didn't do the work.
41:00
Speaker 3: To be upset. I don't want you to be upset.
41:02
Speaker 3: I want you to be angry.
41:03
Speaker 24: I want you to be like eg, I didn't get
41:05
Speaker 24: the result because I didn't do the work.
41:08
Speaker 3: Blah blah blah.
41:08
Speaker 24: I didn't I didn't show up on time, I didn't
41:11
Speaker 24: do what I said I.
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Speaker 3: Was gonna do.
41:13
Speaker 9: I hit this news, but I made an excuse.
41:15
Speaker 3: I didn't make adjustments, right, I need you to understand.
41:18
Speaker 24: Look, Look, don't be upset with the results you didn't
41:21
Speaker 24: get because of the work you didn't do.
41:24
Speaker 2: And how do you deal with regret?
41:26
Speaker 52: I mean, ultimately you learn from those so like no,
41:29
Speaker 52: because like even the regrets, the bad things are the
41:32
Speaker 52: stupid things, you learn not to do bad things or
41:35
Speaker 52: stupid things. You know, those all those things are beneficial
41:38
Speaker 52: in some way.
41:39
Speaker 2: If you can get through them.
41:41
Speaker 52: You know, you know, if you like the dumb shit
41:45
Speaker 52: that I've done or the bad mistakes that I've made,
41:47
Speaker 52: they've taught me, you know, you learn. Like That's why
41:50
Speaker 52: failure is so important, Like failing and looking up and
41:54
Speaker 52: making mistakes.
41:55
Speaker 21: It's very important.
41:56
Speaker 52: That's how you learn. Let's see the bad feeling that
41:59
Speaker 52: you get from something that you shouldn't have done, or
42:02
Speaker 52: wish you didn't do, or wish you did better, Like
42:05
Speaker 52: especially failing in something where you half asked it and
42:07
Speaker 52: you just feel like colorful loser. Like that just teaches you,
42:12
Speaker 52: teaches you to get your together.
42:14
Speaker 35: I was like, Yo, if I set my goals high,
42:16
Speaker 35: I'm gonna hit something. I literally say that, if I
42:19
Speaker 35: go aim for the moon, I'm at least hit the
42:21
Speaker 35: mother stars.
42:22
Speaker 3: You'll only go as far as you dream.
42:24
Speaker 49: I tell that the comics all the time, that I
42:26
Speaker 49: just want to make a living on it.
42:27
Speaker 3: And I'm like, that's all you'll do.
42:29
Speaker 2: You gotta dream big.
42:31
Speaker 3: Yeah, but universe doesn't reward humility.
42:33
Speaker 6: Man.
42:34
Speaker 35: You might can be humble with everybody else, but you
42:35
Speaker 35: gotta tell the universe hey.
42:37
Speaker 52: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
42:38
Speaker 3: I want to be bigger than life.
42:40
Speaker 32: Yup.
42:40
Speaker 24: Yeah.
42:40
Speaker 21: But you don't understand my life, David, Yeah.
42:42
Speaker 2: I do.
42:44
Speaker 6: That's the thing about it. A lot of folks don't
42:46
Speaker 6: under I get that mentality. I once had that mentality
42:49
Speaker 6: that no one understands what I'm going through and If
42:52
Speaker 6: you keep that mentality, you're gonna stay in the same
42:55
Speaker 6: exact spot that you're in that no one understands me.
42:58
Speaker 2: There's a whole there's millions of people.
43:01
Speaker 6: Why do you think a book that I self published,
43:04
Speaker 6: you know, is doing so well? With this story that's
43:07
Speaker 6: so far, people are like, I never forget about I
43:09
Speaker 6: went to a publishing house, Like, who's going to resonate
43:11
Speaker 6: with this story?
43:12
Speaker 53: No one's going to buy this book. I'm like, are
43:16
Speaker 53: you not in the world, are you not in society?
43:19
Speaker 53: You're never alone. Everybody's going through shit.
43:23
Speaker 6: So when people get this mentality, like you understand me,
43:27
Speaker 6: you can throw a lock to someone that can understands you.
43:30
Speaker 44: One of my favorite quotes of all time is from Seneca,
43:36
Speaker 44: all right, and it says, I judge you unfortunate because
43:40
Speaker 44: you have never lived through misfortune, and I want you
43:44
Speaker 44: to really think about what that means.
43:46
Speaker 17: All Right.
43:47
Speaker 44: We live in a time, in an era, in an
43:50
Speaker 44: age where everybody is complaining NonStop about how hard they
43:57
Speaker 44: have it, and when they look at someone who built something,
44:00
Speaker 44: who's become something, who's created something, they automatically think that
44:06
Speaker 44: this person had an easy path. But I can tell
44:09
Speaker 44: you from my experience that that is not true. Okay,
44:15
Speaker 44: how can someone become something, how can they create something?
44:20
Speaker 44: How can they build anything if they never learn any skills?
44:24
Speaker 9: And how do we learn skills? We learn skills by
44:27
Speaker 9: going through the hard times.
44:29
Speaker 44: We learn skills by going through the times that test us,
44:34
Speaker 44: the times that make us want to quit, the times
44:37
Speaker 44: where we lose. Everybody thinks the success is all about winning.
44:43
Speaker 44: But the truth of the matter is, guys, is that
44:46
Speaker 44: the majority of the ultra successful people on this planet
44:51
Speaker 44: have a very very very difficult and hard backstory.
44:56
Speaker 2: The reason that.
44:57
Speaker 44: That is is because that's how they develop the things
45:01
Speaker 44: that they need to be successful.
45:04
Speaker 6: You know, if you're on social media running your mouth
45:06
Speaker 6: and shit, you're just a pitch. Correct you're honestly, that's
45:10
Speaker 6: not me trying to be some after school special.
45:13
Speaker 2: You really are beat real man, ain't doing it real.
45:16
Speaker 2: Many don't care about that gossip. He bullshit.
45:19
Speaker 3: Get to work, man.
45:20
Speaker 24: I got little kids who don't believe that they can
45:22
Speaker 24: do it. When they saw me, they thought, now they
45:24
Speaker 24: can do it. So I get up every morning at
45:26
Speaker 24: two thirty three o'clock. Why because greatness is a.
45:28
Speaker 26: Part of me.
45:29
Speaker 24: Doctor Kingting is dead, Malcolm X is dead. I'm that
45:31
Speaker 24: new guy. I'm that new inspiration. I'm the guy you
45:35
Speaker 24: look at when your daddy and in your life when your.
45:37
Speaker 3: Daddy in prison.
45:38
Speaker 24: I'm that guy that comes to your high school and
45:40
Speaker 24: tell you you can make it happen. Greatness is upon you.
45:42
Speaker 24: You better act like it.
45:45
Speaker 21: What do you think people get wrong about reinvention?
45:51
Speaker 50: Like?
45:51
Speaker 7: What is it that the people who fail to turn
45:55
Speaker 7: their life around do?
46:01
Speaker 21: I think people think it's a magic trick.
46:03
Speaker 54: They snap their fingers, they make a decision, and their
46:05
Speaker 54: life is different overnight.
46:08
Speaker 21: I think there's a lack of appreciation of.
46:10
Speaker 54: Everything that goes into the moment where you change your
46:13
Speaker 54: mind and you do something different, and then all of
46:16
Speaker 54: the work that goes in to that rebuilding phase and
46:19
Speaker 54: the aftermath of making that decision that ultimately creates the
46:24
Speaker 54: new life.
46:24
Speaker 21: I think people are impatient. They want results too quickly.
46:28
Speaker 54: They don't appreciate the amount of hard work that goes
46:33
Speaker 54: into actually crafting the life of your desires. And I
46:38
Speaker 54: think as a result of that, when they don't see
46:40
Speaker 54: results immediately, they burn out and retreat to what's safe
46:45
Speaker 54: and what they know, versus welcoming failure, welcoming uncertainty, getting
46:51
Speaker 54: comfortable with risk, and remaining persistent in their vision to
46:57
Speaker 54: create something more in alignment with the authentic self.
47:02
Speaker 3: Entreat every day as game day.
47:04
Speaker 50: You never be ready for game day when the most
47:07
Speaker 50: intentional individuals.
47:11
Speaker 3: Every practice.
47:12
Speaker 2: Michael always that I practiced so hard that games are easy.
47:17
Speaker 17: Sell me, y'all don't want it. That's why you ain't
47:19
Speaker 17: got it.
47:23
Speaker 34: Excuses sound best to the person that's making them up.
47:29
Speaker 34: There's pretty much nothing that you could say that you've
47:33
Speaker 34: went through that I haven't went through and I'm still here.
47:38
Speaker 17: Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
47:40
Speaker 34: Get off the pity potty, wake yours up, Awaken the
47:45
Speaker 34: beast inside, get in.
47:48
Speaker 17: Shape, get off the pity potty.
47:51
Speaker 34: Stop stop looking for the new pity committees running around
47:57
Speaker 34: telling everybody your sad and sob stories to get people
48:01
Speaker 34: to show up to your pity party parties and your
48:04
Speaker 34: pity parades.
48:05
Speaker 17: It's time to take you to another level.
48:08
Speaker 34: You got a problem with your life, you got a
48:11
Speaker 34: problem with your environment. Do something about it. If you
48:15
Speaker 34: ever see me in a Rose Royce, a private plane,
48:20
Speaker 34: a six or seven star hotel, living my life to
48:23
Speaker 34: the fullest, don't hate on me. Don't get jealous of me,
48:29
Speaker 34: because I work my ass off to get it.
48:31
Speaker 17: Everything about my life and career I've earned it.
48:33
Speaker 34: Ain't nobody gave me shit, Nobody handed me nothing.
48:38
Speaker 17: If you want it, go get it.
48:40
Speaker 54: We're in a culture that is driving everybody towards this
48:45
Speaker 54: idea that happiness is purchased through luxury, comfort and ease.
48:50
Speaker 54: Truth could not be more different from that reality that
48:55
Speaker 54: if you want to find peace with yourself, self understanding,
48:58
Speaker 54: self knowledge, self esteem, all of these things are going
49:03
Speaker 54: to be found only through sacuating what your normal is
49:06
Speaker 54: and putting yourself in situations that you don't want to do.
49:10
Speaker 19: There's a stimulus and there's a response. What happens in
49:13
Speaker 19: the box and side of your head does not matter.
49:15
Speaker 19: If you respond a certain way, you have learned. And
49:19
Speaker 19: if you continue to see the same stimulus and you
49:21
Speaker 19: don't respond the way you want to, you have not learned.
49:24
Speaker 3: So you need to learn.
49:26
Speaker 17: Don't waste your time.
49:27
Speaker 15: Do you know that everybody alive gets exactly the same
49:30
Speaker 15: amount of time?
49:30
Speaker 2: We get all there is, it's what we do with
49:32
Speaker 2: it that makes a difference.
49:35
Speaker 31: Don't waste your life.
49:36
Speaker 55: Send your goals high, Quit thinking about what's wrong, start
49:40
Speaker 55: thinking what's right.
49:41
Speaker 2: Flood a little more, I hate a little less. You
49:44
Speaker 2: have no idea what you're capable of doing. Make up
49:46
Speaker 2: your mind today, you're going to figure it out.
49:48
Speaker 6: There was no passion, no driving, no nothing, but I
49:51
Speaker 6: had this fire that I'm going to be somebody.
49:56
Speaker 2: It has to be there because on all those bad
49:58
Speaker 2: days and all those days you don't want to do,
50:01
Speaker 2: you have to be.
50:01
Speaker 6: Your own motivator, your own coach, your own trainer, your
50:05
Speaker 6: own everything. And what that means is you may have
50:09
Speaker 6: failed miserably yesterday, but you come to work like, man,
50:13
Speaker 6: you just lost everything.
50:15
Speaker 2: How the hell are you just fucking damn motivated? Because
50:18
Speaker 2: this is what it takes.
50:20
Speaker 3: It's not about to choose.
50:23
Speaker 32: It's about knowing where you're going, not forgetting where you started.
50:30
Speaker 32: It's about having a courage to fail, not breaking when
50:35
Speaker 32: you are broken.
50:37
Speaker 56: Ladysiness is something that has to do with you. You're not
50:40
Speaker 56: connected to something deep enough. You don't feel the necessity,
50:44
Speaker 56: you don't feel the devil at your heels. You don't
50:47
Speaker 56: feel the fact that you could very well die tomorrow
50:50
Speaker 56: that will impel you to get something done. There's no
50:53
Speaker 56: necessity behind it and the human animal. The way we
50:56
Speaker 56: were created is when we feel pressure, we feel the
51:00
Speaker 56: necessity to get things done.
51:02
Speaker 2: We can move mountains.
51:03
Speaker 56: But when that pressure, like almost like a barometric pressure,
51:07
Speaker 56: releases and we don't feel the need to get something done,
51:11
Speaker 56: we could become incredibly lazy because there's no necessity. So
51:16
Speaker 56: you have to create necessity in your life. You have
51:19
Speaker 56: to create the need to get things done.
51:21
Speaker 20: Why do that much? Why go that far? Why try
51:24
Speaker 20: to become everything? That's a good question why, And you're
51:30
Speaker 20: the only one personally that can answer that question for yourself.
51:34
Speaker 20: One of the big stress for success is to come
51:37
Speaker 20: up with a strong enough why. And if the why
51:41
Speaker 20: is powerful, the how is easy. If the vision isn't clear,
51:47
Speaker 20: the old profits said without a vision, we die without
51:50
Speaker 20: a vision, We perish without.
51:52
Speaker 2: A dream or nothing. Most people, the bottom eighty percent,
51:57
Speaker 2: are lazy.
51:58
Speaker 17: They're looking for an easy.
51:59
Speaker 55: Way, they're looking for a shortcut to be successful, and
52:03
Speaker 55: there are not There aren't any. But if you do
52:05
Speaker 55: something repeatedly over and over, and you develop a habit.
52:10
Speaker 55: So most people are in the habit of looking for
52:12
Speaker 55: easy ways to get the things they want.
52:14
Speaker 29: It's almost like you have to have the ability to
52:17
Speaker 29: go to the deep end, no matter whether or not
52:19
Speaker 29: you'll ever go there, right, Yes, And some people are like, well,
52:23
Speaker 29: I'm never going.
52:23
Speaker 17: To go to the deep end, but you should be
52:25
Speaker 17: able to.
52:26
Speaker 18: Yes.
52:27
Speaker 2: What do you want to give up? What do you
52:30
Speaker 2: want to sacrifice? What are you willing to forego?
52:35
Speaker 57: If you're struggling, if you're frustrated with yourself, if you're
52:38
Speaker 57: at that point where you're so sick of yourself and
52:44
Speaker 57: your excuses. I've been there, Steven's been there. This is
52:48
Speaker 57: a normal part of the human experience. And at some point,
52:53
Speaker 57: either the pain is going to get big enough, or
52:58
Speaker 57: you're going to bump into somebody story somewhere on this
53:01
Speaker 57: planet who has been in the position that you're in
53:04
Speaker 57: right now, facing the stuff that you're facing right now,
53:08
Speaker 57: and there is something about their story at this exact
53:11
Speaker 57: moment in time that will ignite something in you that
53:14
Speaker 57: is missing. And what is missing in you right now
53:17
Speaker 57: is hope.
53:18
Speaker 43: Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers,
53:26
Speaker 43: the round pegs and the square holes, the ones who
53:30
Speaker 43: see things differently. They're not fond of rules, and they
53:35
Speaker 43: have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them,
53:40
Speaker 43: disagree with them, glorify or vilify them about the only
53:45
Speaker 43: thing you can't do is ignore them, because they change things.
53:50
Speaker 43: They push the human race forward. While some may see
53:55
Speaker 43: them as the crazy ones, we see genius because the
54:02
Speaker 43: people who are crazy enough to think they can change
54:04
Speaker 43: the world.
54:06
Speaker 2: Are the ones who do. Playing out the fear Layless
54:14
Speaker 2: is this and I love it.
54:15
Speaker 19: But that fear is a mile wide and an inch deep,
54:18
Speaker 19: and so it looks like this ocean that you're going
54:20
Speaker 19: to step into and drown. But as soon as you
54:22
Speaker 19: step into it, you realize it was not that deep
54:25
Speaker 19: at all, and you can keep walking through it. And
54:28
Speaker 19: I just love that visual because a lot of times
54:29
Speaker 19: when it's like we have this anxiety run this big
54:31
Speaker 19: decision we have to make, if you actually take the
54:33
Speaker 19: step and realize that it's not death, you're not going
54:36
Speaker 19: to drown immediately. There's plenty of other steps you can
54:38
Speaker 19: take from there, even if you get a little wet.
54:40
Speaker 2: You have to be open minded to the possibilities that
54:42
Speaker 2: I can do this.
54:43
Speaker 6: Once you shut your mind down to the possibility that
54:45
Speaker 6: it could be a cheese is no way can happen?
54:47
Speaker 43: Is there advice you can give to young kids that
54:49
Speaker 43: are living through a situation of any sort a tough life.
54:54
Speaker 52: Try to find a thing that you really enjoy. Try
54:56
Speaker 52: to find a thing that you're passionate about. Everybody thinks
54:59
Speaker 52: they're a loser. A young person thinks their loser, at
55:01
Speaker 52: least a young person in the situation I was at, like,
55:04
Speaker 52: I didn't know I wasn't a loser until I started winning,
55:07
Speaker 52: until I started doing martial arts. Martial arts taught me that,
55:11
Speaker 52: like I could get better at stuff that it wasn't
55:14
Speaker 52: I wasn't really a loser.
55:16
Speaker 7: I want to maximize what I can. I want to
55:18
Speaker 7: be the best that I can be. I want to
55:20
Speaker 7: do things well and I don't want to leave stuff
55:23
Speaker 7: on the table. But I don't want to be chasing
55:25
Speaker 7: the end goal so much that I never actually enjoyed
55:27
Speaker 7: the process of getting that, because ultimately, that's really all
55:30
Speaker 7: the matter is. You're going to look back at any
55:32
Speaker 7: destination realize that it was ninety nine point nine percent journey.
55:35
Speaker 7: I only you know one day of celebrating achieving the thing.
55:38
Speaker 2: You're lazy.
55:40
Speaker 58: You know exactly what to do, exactly what to do,
55:43
Speaker 58: because even me in my state of I can't read
55:46
Speaker 58: or write. I knew exactly what to do, it just
55:51
Speaker 58: sucks doing it.
55:53
Speaker 21: Hey, THEO, this is great from Indiana.
55:55
Speaker 2: I actually just wanted to call and tell you.
55:57
Speaker 3: So.
55:57
Speaker 20: I was a word the other day and I just
55:59
Speaker 20: been kind of and this, like what at work?
56:01
Speaker 9: It's not a bad job, but I just.
56:03
Speaker 2: Really want to get out of it. I'll catch up
56:05
Speaker 2: on some of your podcasts.
56:06
Speaker 18: And he said something that resonated with me.
56:09
Speaker 2: You know, he said, nothing changes, and nothing changes.
56:12
Speaker 3: I thought about.
56:13
Speaker 2: It, and I went home and I applied for a job.
56:15
Speaker 21: I'm probably not qualified for, but.
56:17
Speaker 9: I was like, I'll take a shot.
56:19
Speaker 2: And the next day I get a call from him.
56:22
Speaker 21: I have the interview goes well, She said she gonna set
56:24
Speaker 21: me up with in person interview.
56:28
Speaker 3: Never even had a thing.
56:29
Speaker 21: Emailed me a few days later and I got the job.
56:32
Speaker 2: So now I'm gonna be doing a job.
56:34
Speaker 43: That I think I will appreciate more and enjoy more,
56:38
Speaker 43: and I'll be making double the money that I'm making now.
56:40
Speaker 48: Bro, that's awesome, man, that's really great. Congratulations for trying
56:44
Speaker 48: something new. Yeah, it's crazy to sometimes think like what
56:48
Speaker 48: can happen if we decide I'm going to see what
56:51
Speaker 48: happens when I decide that I am qualified, what happens
56:58
Speaker 48: when I decide for myself? Yet I'm going to do
57:01
Speaker 48: something different.
57:02
Speaker 7: I've made huge, huge, huge developments while I was staying
57:06
Speaker 7: up until four in the morning, five in the morning
57:09
Speaker 7: running a nightlife business. You can make huge developments in
57:14
Speaker 7: your personal growth journey while you're doing a nine to five.
57:18
Speaker 57: You have this moment where you go, what if what
57:22
Speaker 57: if this is the time sobriety sticks. What if I
57:27
Speaker 57: go to therapy and I actually do change the way
57:31
Speaker 57: that I think? What if I could get out of debt?
57:34
Speaker 57: If that person did, maybe I could do it. And
57:38
Speaker 57: without either hope or that kind of rock bottom moment,
57:45
Speaker 57: I don't think you're going to change it.
57:46
Speaker 6: We can stay here, get this shit kicked out of us,
57:50
Speaker 6: or we can fight our way back.
57:54
Speaker 3: Into the light.
57:56
Speaker 17: We can climb out of help at a time.
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Speaker 5: How many times do you have to hear if nothing changes,
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Speaker 5: nothing changes, right, and yet somehow we expect things to change.
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Speaker 53: You're always afraid to take the first step because all
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Speaker 53: you see is every negative thing ten miles down the road.
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Speaker 17: But you can do anything you want. You are bound
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Speaker 17: by nothing.
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Speaker 1: The time comes for you to be your own man
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Speaker 1: and take on the world that you did, but somewhere along.
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Speaker 17: The line you changed.
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Speaker 3: You stop being you.
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Speaker 1: You let people stick a finger in your face and
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Speaker 1: tell you you're no good, And when things got hard,
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Speaker 1: you started looking for something to blame, like a big shadow.