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Season 2 - Episode 345 - A new way to perceive pain · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So I want to share with you
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  something that I read which I think is really interesting.
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  Change is never painful. Only the resistance is painful.
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  Quite a concept, right, Because it's not the change, actual
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  change that's the problem because it's always going to
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  take place. It's inevitable.
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  We can't avoid change. We've talked about this a
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  million times in our lives that, you know, change is inevitable.
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  You can't, you can't get past it.
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  And often you'll hear people say, well, it's it.
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  It's pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.
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  And that's a big part of this concept.
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  It's not the change that's painful, it's the resistance to
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  it that's so painful and the resistance to having such a a,
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  you know a thing about it, like, you know, just anything that you
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  come up with, it's like it doesn't matter what the subject
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  is around it. It's like if you resist things,
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  they become painful. And I think that's a really
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  important concept to dig into as to why do we resist.
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  What is the reason that we resist things so much that we
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  because we're we're, we know it's going to happen.
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  We're told over and over it's going to happen.
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  We witness over and over that it happens, yet what do we do?
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  The same thing we always do. We put out this this feeling of
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  being completely and totally angry about the fact or sad
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  about the fact, whatever it might be, that it's taking
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  place. So we have to recognize that we
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  are creating our own problems. And it is 1000% true that that
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  is what happens. I mean, if we didn't care, let's
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  just go right down to the bottom line.
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  If you don't care, then it doesn't matter.
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  And my husband will often say, you know, people will say
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  somebody doesn't care and he's like, well, it might be, but
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  they also, you know, they might not know.
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  So it's either they don't know or they don't care, but either
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  one of those things puts out this feeling of pain for us.
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  But it's partly because we sit there and we dwell in this
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  resistance. We dwell in it and we keep
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  ruminating on it and we keep going back and forth and back
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  and forth and back and forth. And in the process of us just
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  going back and forth so many times, we create our pain.
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  It keeps looping in our head. We just spend so much time
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  looping that it gives us more and more and more and more pain.
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  So if we could stop, if we could pause, if we could just get
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  ourselves to the point where we recognized I'm looping and this
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  is not fun. This is not.
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  Even if it's if you don't want to look at it as it's fun, this
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  is not resourceful. That's probably the best word
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  for you to go to, is it's not resourceful.
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  It's not helping. And when we're not helping
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  ourselves by doing that, we recognize we are generating the
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  resistance to the change. And of all the things that we
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  could do for ourselves, of all the things that we could end up
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  doing, It's the understanding that the resistance to the pain
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  is so big that that's what's giving us this, this turmoil
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  inside of us. It's what's giving us all of
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  this gut wrenching, heart wrenching feeling.
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  And if we just would let go of it, we could move on.
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  Now the question is how do we let go of something like this?
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  How do we let go of it? Well, first of all, we come back
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  to the same simple principle of choosing the direction of what
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  you're focusing on. Choosing the direction of what
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  you're focusing on is always the key.
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  When you can absolutely control the direction of your focus, you
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  are in a much better position. So when you start controlling
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  how you think and what you think about, you are in command, and
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  the way you do that is by course correcting minuscule little
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  amounts over and over and over. Keep changing that bus driver,
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  Keep pulling yourself back. But recognizing the root cause
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  of the problem in this is also very valuable to you when you
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  recognize that it's the resistance that we're putting
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  on. If I wasn't resisting this, if I
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  was just taking it in for what it was worth, then I would be
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  able to ask myself, what can I learn from this?
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  What can I do to shape shift this?
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  What can I do to feel better about this?
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  You can start asking yourself much more resourceful questions
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  and not have such a deep, deep pain about something because
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  recognize the pain is coming from the resistance.
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  And if you keep reminding yourself that what am I
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  resisting? Am I?
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  What am I afraid of? It's a great question to ask
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  what do I think is going to happen?
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  Because sometimes those are. Those threats are so perceived
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  that we don't recognize they're not real.
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  They're just not real. Are they possibilities?
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  Sure, but they're very low down on that possibility list.
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  So do yourself a favor. Recognize it's the resistance,
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  and ask yourself the questions, and you'll be able to make a
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  shift. All right, my friends.
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  I will see you tomorrow. Have a blessed day.
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  Bye.