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Season 2 - Episode 169 - Lessons from dad · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Ooh, so it's Father's Day. Happy Father's day and today, in
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  honor of my dad, I want to share something about him about
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  lessons, that he taught me because I think that my greatest
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  teacher was my dad. He was by far my best friend.
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  He was by far someone that I will miss for absolute ever, in
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  the sense of having him physically, even though I know
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  he is always with me. I just, you know, I would love
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  to Of coffee with him again because that was our thing to
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  go, and go to Dunkin Donuts and have coffee in any event.
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  Today, we are talking about some of the lessons that he brought
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  to the table for me. And one of them is always
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  expecting more from yourself. Now that may seem like a very
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  harsh reality to deal with his when you have to expect more
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  from yourself all the time and you're exhausted and you don't
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  want to do it and you just want to give up and we've all been
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  there. However, I think the best part
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  of the lesson that he provided me with was, it's okay to feel
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  that way. It's just not, okay, to act that
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  way and give up. And I used to say to him all the
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  time, you know, I don't understand, it's good enough, I
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  can remember being a teenager and actually using the words
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  good enough and he's like, you know, you really have to decide
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  what you want people to think of you.
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  And you have to really decide if good enough is okay, for you.
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  Good enough is okay for you great.
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  It's just not good. Enough is not okay for me and I
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  can distinctly remember pushing back against that like I just
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  want to get through this. I even went to him at one point
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  in time I'm not a math person. Went to him during algebra class
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  and I said to him, I absolutely hate this class so much I can't
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  even tell you. And it was like, I think
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  probably week two of the class when I was complaining about
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  About it and he said to me, well, you have to get through it
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  to graduate. Correct.
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  Yes. Okay, well then what how do you
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  want to do it? Do you want to just get through
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  it or do you want to give it the best shot you've got?
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  And I was like I just want to get through it and he's like,
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  you know, I think in this case I can hear what you're saying and
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  fine do it that way, but just know for the rest of your life,
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  you're going to know, you didn't put the best effort in And that
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  haunted me because all I did was want to just get through it.
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  Like that was the big thing just get through it just get through
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  it, just get through it. But then he's like you're going
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  to know for the rest of your life that you didn't give it
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  your best shot. And ah, gosh, that just stuck
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  with me. And while I did go in and give
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  it my best shot because I was pissed that he said that to me
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  and I was pissed that I had to try to figure out how to get
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  around the fact that it was so So hard for me because
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  conceptually it was just not something.
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  I had been used to. The other part was, my teacher
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  was like, very rough around the edges and we're going back, many
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  years, not when teachers took the time, there was no videos to
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  go and watch and you had to learn everything through books,
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  and it was tough at that point in time, to be able to do
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  something like that. And I think now, I watch when my
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  son does, this kind of stuff and I go Holy cow.
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  What conditions have changed? I wonder what difference that
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  would have made, but it doesn't matter.
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  I'm not Monday morning quarterbacking it.
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  I, I'm using this as an example for you guys right now.
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  No, I went and I gave it. My quote unquote best shot at
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  the time, but even now as an adult, I can go back to that
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  situation and think about it and say really, was it only my best
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  shot that that was the best, or was I still holding back.
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  And if I'm telling the truth, With the reality was I was still
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  holding back because I just wanted to get through it.
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  So the lesson in all of this today is you have to really
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  decide for yourself. Am I doing it at a thousand
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  percent of what I could am? I going that extra bit?
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  Am I doing those little extra things?
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  My taking it on, in the level that I know is going to do
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  something for me. Or am I just in a place where I
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  am, you know, Skirting skating by just doing the minimums that
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  I need to do in order to make things kind of stick.
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  And then I'm okay because I'm in life when you when you approach
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  it and you do it that way and you just give it the minimums
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  and you just push just over the line.
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  You may have gotten to the end result, but you are the only one
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  that knows. You didn't pour into it and you
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  didn't get the result at the highest level you could and then
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  you have to live with that. So this is why when you take
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  something like this information and you start to say, okay, am I
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  really doing it the way? I could be doing it.
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  Am I pushing myself to that point?
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  And I think that question always makes me know in the back of my
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  head. Yep, I actually am doing it.
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  So when I say, you know, I'm a bit extreme with my plants, I'm
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  a bit extreme with my garden. I'm a bit extreme with my
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  chickens or anything else. Any other projects that I have
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  going? Yeah.
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  There's a reason for it because I know No, I know in my heart of
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  hearts when I pour in at that thousand percent level,
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  Something Different always happens.
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  So, I hope you have a fun Father's Day, whatever you're
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  doing. If it's relevant to you, I hope
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  you have a blessed week and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.