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339. How to reset and become driven when all you want to do is ROT in bed · Do You F*cking Mind?

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Speaker 1: Hello, my beautiful beans, and welcome to the podcast episode
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Speaker 1: of Today. So this is actually a really exciting episode
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Speaker 1: for me because I'm actually recording it from Paris. I
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Speaker 1: am in Paris. You guys know that Paris is like
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Speaker 1: my soul city. I don't even know how to explain it,
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Speaker 1: but it's like a part of me. Look, I don't know,
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Speaker 1: It's like a part of me exists in Paris, and
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Speaker 1: every time I leave Paris, a part of me stays here,
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Speaker 1: not in a sad way, in like a really beautiful way.
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Speaker 1: And every time I come back, it's like I am
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Speaker 1: reunited with that part of me. I just don't know
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Speaker 1: how to put it. And if you guys have followed
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Speaker 1: my journey for a while, you know that Paris is
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Speaker 1: kind of where I like ran off to in the
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Speaker 1: depths of my despair back in twenty sixteen, which is
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Speaker 1: eight years ago now, and since then, I've returned to,
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Speaker 1: like I think this is my fifth time coming back,
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Speaker 1: and just every time it's just so nice to make
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Speaker 1: that connection again and practice my French and really immerse
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Speaker 1: myself in the culture. I just absolutely love it. I've
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Speaker 1: got friends here, I've just it's been in credible, and
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Speaker 1: I've rented this really beautiful apartment in the fourth and
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Speaker 1: the first week that I was here, I was with
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Speaker 1: my parents. Well, actually I went to London first for
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Speaker 1: like five days with my cousin Joselle, her wife, my auntie, uncle,
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Speaker 1: my parents, and then after that came to Paris with
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Speaker 1: my parents, and then after a week they went off
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Speaker 1: and ventured through Spain and I've stayed here for like
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Speaker 1: the next two weeks. So I've literally been spending three
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Speaker 1: weeks in Paris and it is, I can tell you,
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Speaker 1: so fucking good for my soul. Now. I don't know
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Speaker 1: if anyone else has had this experience with any cities,
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Speaker 1: but I feel like, and I'd love for you guys
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Speaker 1: to write into me or DM me or whatever and
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Speaker 1: just let me know if you've got a city that's
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Speaker 1: the same for you. But it's kind of like, you
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Speaker 1: know when you visit a city and you're like, look,
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Speaker 1: I don't even know if past lives are a thing,
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Speaker 1: but I'm like, I feel like I lived here in
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Speaker 1: another life. It's that kind of connection that I have
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Speaker 1: to the city. So it's really really special. I could
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Speaker 1: go on about this for a whole hour but that
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Speaker 1: would be the most fucking boring thing for everyone else
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Speaker 1: but me, so I shan't. But a little life update,
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Speaker 1: just a quick one before we get into the actual
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Speaker 1: episode of today, is that on so on Thursday. It
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Speaker 1: just a few days ago, I had a Paris Bean meetup.
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Speaker 1: I cannot explain to you how fucking great it was.
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Speaker 1: I just put it on my stories because I actually
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Speaker 1: bumped into a Bean on my first day in Paris.
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Speaker 1: It was like the stars aligned. We bumped into each
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Speaker 1: other when I was like put all my shit down
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Speaker 1: and I went for a walk with my parents like
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Speaker 1: an hour after we arrived, and I bumped into this
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Speaker 1: beautiful girl, Juliette. She's actually studying here in Paris, and
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Speaker 1: we had this great interaction. And then I had all
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Speaker 1: these other people damning me, being like, hey, you're going
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Speaker 1: to do a meet up in Paris, Like what are
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Speaker 1: you going to do? So I thought, honestly, if there's
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Speaker 1: any city I'm going to do it in, and it
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Speaker 1: has to be Paris, and I just put it out there.
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Speaker 1: I said, let's go to this cute bar that's along
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Speaker 1: the river and just have a drink. They were like,
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Speaker 1: I think in total, like thirteen people that came in
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Speaker 1: was so fucking cool. There were like a bunch of
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Speaker 1: Parisians who listened to the podcast. There were people from Ireland,
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Speaker 1: the US, Australia, New Zealand. It was honestly very fucking special.
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Speaker 1: And we were there for hours and then we went
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Speaker 1: and got pizza and we were there. This was like
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Speaker 1: an eight hour fucking thing. We just went on and
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Speaker 1: on and on and on. It was very very very
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Speaker 1: cool and I really valued just hearing everyone's stories. We
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Speaker 1: when around the circle and we asked like, how did
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Speaker 1: you discover the podcast, and like what led you to
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Speaker 1: discover the podcast? And hearing everyone's stories and their own
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Speaker 1: like journey was really special and important to me. So
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Speaker 1: thank you to everyone who took the time to come
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Speaker 1: and meet me and say hello. I really enjoyed meeting
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Speaker 1: you guys as well. Anyway, let's get into the topic
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Speaker 1: of today's podcast. Well, I have a brain fact and
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Speaker 1: then I've got the podcast topic. But the podcast topic,
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Speaker 1: as the fucking title suggests, is that it is about
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Speaker 1: how to reset and film motivated when all you want
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Speaker 1: to do is rot, And by rot, I mean will
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Speaker 1: you eat the just lying in bed for hours on
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Speaker 1: your phone or just lying on the couch for hours,
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Speaker 1: and there's little to no motivation to do anything. And
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Speaker 1: it's not like you're labeling it as depression or a
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Speaker 1: depressive mood, but it's this really flat feeling. There's like
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Speaker 1: no major drive to do anything unless you really have to,
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Speaker 1: Like you are going to go up and go to work,
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Speaker 1: and you are going to go out for that dinner.
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Speaker 1: But in general, you're like, how do I just snap
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Speaker 1: out of this thing where all I'm doing is just
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Speaker 1: like bedrot as people are calling it. So we're going
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Speaker 1: to talk about that. I'm going to talk about why
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Speaker 1: it happens in the first place. I'm going to talk
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Speaker 1: about ways that you can approach it in a holistic way,
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Speaker 1: so physically, from a psychological perspective, from an emotional perspective,
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Speaker 1: how you can turn it around, and you can turn
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Speaker 1: it around in a relatively short period of time. But
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Speaker 1: in order to do that, you need to understand why
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Speaker 1: this is happening in the first place, and why you
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Speaker 1: are likely exacerbating the problem. And you're caught in this
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Speaker 1: catch twenty two in like a vicious cycle that's really
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Speaker 1: hard to snap out of without first understanding why it's
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Speaker 1: going on. So if you listen to this episode, you're
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Speaker 1: gonna have a much better understanding. You're going to feel
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Speaker 1: so much more empowered to do something about it, and
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Speaker 1: within a matter of days you will be snapped out
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Speaker 1: of it feeling so much better. Okay, so that's my
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Speaker 1: promise to you. Let's get into the brain factor of today.
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Speaker 1: So the brain factor of today is all about smell
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Speaker 1: and why your sense of smell is the strongest sense
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Speaker 1: for triggering a memory. Okay, so I think we can
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Speaker 1: all relate to this. Where you've smelt something that's brought
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Speaker 1: you back to either a childhood memory, or you've walked
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Speaker 1: past someone on the street and you've smelt a cologne
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Speaker 1: that you forgot existed, but it reminds you of a
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Speaker 1: person that maybe you worked with, or someone that you
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Speaker 1: shagged or dated. These really really strong, accurate emotions that
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Speaker 1: get brought up because of smell and why that is
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Speaker 1: the case and why it is so stronger than your
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Speaker 1: other senses for triggering a memory. Okay. Now, the reason
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Speaker 1: that I decided to do this brain factor is because
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Speaker 1: on my first day in Paris, I was with my
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Speaker 1: parents and we're walking through Paris, and there's on the
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Speaker 1: streets there's these big kind of grates that you walk over,
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Speaker 1: and I think this is not just in Paris. I
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Speaker 1: think they have this in New York as well, anywhere
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Speaker 1: any city that has a metro system an underground system
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Speaker 1: of sorts, so London as well. But we're walking over
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Speaker 1: this grate and it's like a vent for the metro system.
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Speaker 1: So this smell comes up from the Metro and it's
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Speaker 1: a very like I don't know, it's a mix between
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Speaker 1: like oil and metal, and I don't know. It's like
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Speaker 1: a very particular smell. It's not an unpleasant smell. It's
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Speaker 1: just a particular metro smell. And it's different in London,
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Speaker 1: it's different in New York. It's specific to the Metro.
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Speaker 1: And I smelt it and I was about to say,
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Speaker 1: oh wow, I haven't smelt this in ages, and it's
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Speaker 1: brought me back to the first time I was in Paris.
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Speaker 1: And my dad says straight away, he goes, wow, isn't
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Speaker 1: smell incredible. I haven't been to Paris in probably forty years,
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Speaker 1: and it's brought me back to the first time I
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Speaker 1: was here forty years ago, and I was like Yeah,
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Speaker 1: that's really incredible. How smell can trigger such an intense
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Speaker 1: memory from decades ago when you would have even forgotten
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Speaker 1: that that smell existed. So there has been so many
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Speaker 1: studies around this and why that is the case. An
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Speaker 1: Olfactory cues are more effective at triggering emotional memories versus
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Speaker 1: visual cues such as looking at a photo or any
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Speaker 1: other image, and even older adults. Studies that have been
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Speaker 1: done on older adults can remember older memories with smells
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Speaker 1: versus words or images. So if you can get them
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Speaker 1: to smell something, whether it's like a recipe of something
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Speaker 1: or a cologne ascent, it will actually bring them back
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Speaker 1: to an older memory than what a photo can provoke. Okay,
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Speaker 1: And the reason for this has to do with locations
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Speaker 1: of circuits and of particular brain a particular centers within
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Speaker 1: the brain. Older linked memories use different pathways within the
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Speaker 1: brain and different areas within the brain and your other
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Speaker 1: senses and memories linked to your other senses. Okay. So
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Speaker 1: the area of the brain that processes emotion is very
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Speaker 1: closely linked to the part of the brain that processes
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Speaker 1: odor or smells or ol faction however you want to
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Speaker 1: call it. And this is the amygdala, which is your
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Speaker 1: emotional processing center, that's your fear, that's all kinds of emotions,
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Speaker 1: and the Hippo campus and these areas are within the
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Speaker 1: temporal lobes, okay, which is in the middle lower part
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Speaker 1: of your brain. Now, the Hippo campus is also involved
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Speaker 1: in something called associative learning, which is learning that happens
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Speaker 1: when two separate events are connected. So for example, the
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Speaker 1: memory of a smell of something and a person, so
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Speaker 1: cologne and the person, or the memory of the smell
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Speaker 1: of a pastry and the person who used to cook it,
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Speaker 1: like your mum who used to cook something when you're
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Speaker 1: a child. So it has this association thing, and that
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Speaker 1: that's what's going on in the Hippo campus, among many
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Speaker 1: other things, okay. And the amygdala and the Hippo campus
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Speaker 1: are neighbors, so it's very easy to have a lot
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Speaker 1: of connectivity between this kind of associative memory and highly
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Speaker 1: emotional memories as well. So already you've got that going on,
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Speaker 1: and that's really close together. But why is smell more
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Speaker 1: linked here versus other centers? So smell enters the brain
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Speaker 1: obviously through the nose, and then it passes through to
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Speaker 1: something called the old factory bulb, and then information from
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Speaker 1: that old factory bulb is sent to the amygdala and
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Speaker 1: the hippo campus. And if you look at like an
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Speaker 1: image of a brain or a drawing of a brain,
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Speaker 1: you'll see that that old factory bulb sits very very
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Speaker 1: very close to the amygdala and the hippocampus and those
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Speaker 1: temporal lobes in like the lower middle part of the brain.
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Speaker 1: It is the only sense of the five senses that
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Speaker 1: gets processed in this location. So when you look at
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Speaker 1: this location at this location, you see that those three
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Speaker 1: regions are very close together. So because of its location
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Speaker 1: and area of processing, we know that's smell has the
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Speaker 1: strongest trigger of emotion and off memory. Okay, So it
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Speaker 1: all has to do with where the circuits are, the
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Speaker 1: location of these processing centers. Okay. Now, older linked memories
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Speaker 1: are also more positive than those memories brought on by
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Speaker 1: other senses, so they have a higher chance of altering
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Speaker 1: and improving your mood. So if you can find a
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Speaker 1: scent that actually makes you think of something positive, that trigger,
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Speaker 1: because it's so close to your emotional processing centers within
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Speaker 1: the brain, is actually gonna elicit a much better feeling
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Speaker 1: response than if you look at a photo of a
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Speaker 1: happy memory. A photo will still make you feel good
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Speaker 1: if it reminds you of a happy memory, but it's
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Speaker 1: not as strong as a response as if you were
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Speaker 1: to smell something that then brings on that memory and
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Speaker 1: brings on those emotions. So I think it's really important
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Speaker 1: to start looking at how you can include you know,
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Speaker 1: this sensory experience within your own home, Like, are there
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Speaker 1: sense that make you feel really good? Are there things
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Speaker 1: that you can cook that make you feel really at
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Speaker 1: home or really you know, safe or you know, warm inside.
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Speaker 1: There's certain things that you can do to actually help
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Speaker 1: boost your mood through the use of memories, emotions, and
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Speaker 1: odors or smells. They call it odoor sounds like a
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Speaker 1: bad thing. I'm calling it odor, But in every study
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Speaker 1: they refer to smell's sense as odor. But I think
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Speaker 1: in mainstream we look at odor as being a bad thing,
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Speaker 1: but I'm not referring to it as a bad thing.
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Speaker 1: And interestingly, you can also use smell to your advantage
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Speaker 1: to help you remember things and to retain information if
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Speaker 1: you're studying. So there's a bunch of studies that show
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Speaker 1: that people who will smell something, and ideally it's something
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Speaker 1: that's intentional, so not like a smell that you're exposed
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Speaker 1: to all the time with a million other things, but
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Speaker 1: a particular sense when you're learning something, if you then
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Speaker 1: smell that thing when you're trying to retrieve that thing,
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Speaker 1: you are more likely to recall more things when you
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Speaker 1: were learning it. And these studies have been done on
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Speaker 1: like remembering a whole list of words, for example. So
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Speaker 1: what you want to do is you want to pick
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Speaker 1: a cent that you are exposed to during the encoding
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Speaker 1: of the memory, and coding is the learning. It's when
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Speaker 1: it's going into the brain for the first time, and
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Speaker 1: then again during the retrieval, so that's when you're at
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Speaker 1: the exam, or that's when you're studying something for the
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Speaker 1: second time or whatever. And it's been shown that if
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Speaker 1: you have a specific scent that's very different to the environment,
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Speaker 1: not something that you're smelling all the time, it may
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Speaker 1: help in your ability to retrieve something because of that
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Speaker 1: link with scent and memory and retrieval and emotion. So
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Speaker 1: fucking very interesting. And recently I was actually gifted a
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Speaker 1: hand cream that smelt like rose and marshmallows, specifically. Okay,
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Speaker 1: it's a very specific scent, and I hadn't smelt this
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Speaker 1: scent for fucking ever. And this hand cream, actually it
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Speaker 1: took me back to my seventeenth birthday. I was having
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Speaker 1: a house party for my seventeenth birthday back in nurs
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Speaker 1: good times, and a friend of mine gifted me this
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Speaker 1: body mist with the exact same scent. It's probably the
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Speaker 1: same brand, and I dowsed myself in that body mist
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Speaker 1: that night. Fucking you know how much we used to
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Speaker 1: love our body mysths when we were in high school,
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Speaker 1: And smelling this hand cream brought me right back to
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Speaker 1: that night of my seventeenth birthday party, and memories that
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Speaker 1: I hadn't remembered or even thought about for years came up.
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Speaker 1: Like I could remember where people were making out in
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Speaker 1: different locations of the backyard. I can remember people from
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Speaker 1: my grade that I hadn't thought about in years that
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Speaker 1: were at the party, that I could remember what certain
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Speaker 1: people were wearing, like it was such a clear, clear memory,
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Speaker 1: it was unbelievable. So definitely try and use sense to
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Speaker 1: your advantage to lift your mood, to help with your memory,
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Speaker 1: to trigger positive memories as well. And yeah, now you
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Speaker 1: have a really good understanding as to why it is
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Speaker 1: that they that that happens, and then fun facts very
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Speaker 1: quickly before we move on to the topic of today's episode.
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Speaker 1: Is that the idea of smell in your dreams because
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Speaker 1: dreams rarely involve smell, So for people that are born
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Speaker 1: with sight, dreams are mainly visual. People that are born
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Speaker 1: blind are actually more likely to report other senses within
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Speaker 1: their dreams, like taste, touch, and smell. But for the
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Speaker 1: population of people that are born with sight, the reported
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Speaker 1: smell that like, the levels of reported sense of smell
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Speaker 1: within the dreams are around one percent or less than
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Speaker 1: one percent, Okay, so it's very, very very low, a
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Speaker 1: lot less than you know. Obviously, visual is the highest,
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Speaker 1: touch and movement and sound is a lot lower than
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Speaker 1: visual and smell. It's rarely the case. Now, why is
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Speaker 1: that it is believed that the reason for that is
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Speaker 1: because smell circuits are very ancient compared to the other
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Speaker 1: circuits within the brain. And you can also look at
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Speaker 1: just looking at the anatomy of it, because if you
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Speaker 1: look at where smell is processed and located, it's in
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Speaker 1: the middle part of the brain, which is the most
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Speaker 1: prim if part of the brain. The more exterior you
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Speaker 1: go in the brain, the more higher functioning, the more
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Speaker 1: kind of modern, if you want to call it, like
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Speaker 1: the newer the neocortex is the newer part of the brain.
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Speaker 1: So smell circuits are pretty ancient and dreams are believed
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Speaker 1: to be more modern in the scheme of the brain's
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Speaker 1: development through history. And there's not much overlap with smell
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Speaker 1: and vision and auditory networks either. And if you look
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Speaker 1: at vision, vision is a much more advanced circuit within
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Speaker 1: the brain when you look at how the brain has developed,
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Speaker 1: and the visual cortex, which is a huge part of
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Speaker 1: the brain, the back of your head, a huge chunk
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Speaker 1: of the back of your brain, which obviously takes care
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Speaker 1: of all kinds of visual processing. That visual cortex area
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Speaker 1: takes up nearly fifty percent of the cortex and the brain,
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Speaker 1: So all of this is for processing visual information. It's
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Speaker 1: very advanced, it's very modern, and this is one of
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Speaker 1: the theories as to why dreams do not have smelled
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Speaker 1: different circuits versus new et cetera, et cetera. And also
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Speaker 1: for people that are born blind, this is an interesting
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Speaker 1: random fact. The brain areas that normally would be dedicated
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Speaker 1: to vision often get re kind of redirected to take
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Speaker 1: care of other senses. That's why visually impaired people normally
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Speaker 1: have heightened senses in other areas, Like their touch is
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Speaker 1: very good. It's a lot more advanced than someone who
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Speaker 1: has their vision because that energy and all those resources
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Speaker 1: are used in other areas of the brain. So there's
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Speaker 1: neuroplasticity for you. Anyway, let's get straight into the topic
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Speaker 1: of two Days episode. Okay, so today we're talking about
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Speaker 1: how to reset and feel motivated when all you want
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Speaker 1: to do is rot so, rotting, rotting on the couch, bed, rotting.
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Speaker 1: You guys know how it feels like, well maybe not everyone,
16:56
Speaker 1: but a lot of you guys know how it feels like.
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Speaker 1: And it's this feeling that it's really hard to snap
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Speaker 1: if you've got little to no desire to do things,
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Speaker 1: even exciting things. And you'll find that once you do
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Speaker 1: that exciting thing. Let's say it's get off the couch
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Speaker 1: to go to dinner with your friends, you'll be stuck
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Speaker 1: on the couch being like, I don't want to go,
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Speaker 1: I don't want to go. I don't want to go.
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Speaker 1: But once you're there, it's fine. You're like, oh, I'm
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Speaker 1: enjoying myself. It's fine, Like I actually can have fun,
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Speaker 1: but it's you feel like you're burnt out. Your senses
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Speaker 1: are a little bit muted. It's just this low vibe feeling.
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Speaker 1: And then when you are on your bed or on
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Speaker 1: the couch, it's really hard to peel yourself up off
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Speaker 1: it unless it's getting crazy late and you need to
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Speaker 1: go to sleep, or you have to go to work,
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Speaker 1: or you have some commitment that you've got to do. Okay,
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Speaker 1: so it actually ends up being quite exhausting, and you
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Speaker 1: do get stuck in this cycle, and I'm going to
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Speaker 1: explain why that is. I also don't want you guys
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Speaker 1: rotting away like that fucking perpetual head of lettuce that
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Speaker 1: you shove at the back of your fridge and the
17:53
Speaker 1: intention is always to do something with it, but then
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Speaker 1: it gets neglected until it rots, and then you throw
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Speaker 1: it in the bin, and then you buy another head
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Speaker 1: of lettus and then the whole fucking cycle starts again.
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Speaker 1: So we're kind of doing that to ourselves, really, and
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Speaker 1: I don't want that to be the case. Okay, we
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Speaker 1: are not here for that, not fucking today, So let's
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Speaker 1: talk about this. Why are you finding yourself in this position,
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Speaker 1: in this ditch. You are currently experiencing emotional exhaustion, and
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Speaker 1: emotional exhaustion is due to chemicals within the brain that
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Speaker 1: you are not allowing to reset or rest properly when
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Speaker 1: you are in this rotting phase and this. But when
18:31
Speaker 1: I say rotting phase, I'm often referring to you scrolling
18:35
Speaker 1: on your phone indefinitely. That's what a lot of people
18:37
Speaker 1: do across multiple generations as well. This used to be
18:40
Speaker 1: very much like oh, millennial gen Z thing, but older
18:43
Speaker 1: people doing it too. Everyone's doing it. We're all like
18:45
Speaker 1: stuck on our devices scrolling, scrolling, scrolling, scrolling, or stuck
18:49
Speaker 1: on TV switching channel, switching channels, or on YouTube. It's
18:52
Speaker 1: this constant like I'm just fixated on my devices in general. Okay,
18:57
Speaker 1: so what's happening here is that you are actually exhausting
19:01
Speaker 1: and depleting your emotions, your neurochemicals. This has all got
19:06
Speaker 1: to do with the mind. Okay. But then what happens
19:09
Speaker 1: is that you then feel exhausted. You have depleted yourself
19:13
Speaker 1: with your energy stores, so then you're exhausted. You sleep
19:18
Speaker 1: thinking that you've had a good sleep, but you very
19:21
Speaker 1: likely have not had a good sleep for many reasons,
19:23
Speaker 1: including what you were doing in the lead up to
19:25
Speaker 1: falling asleep, which most people. If you're watching TV on
19:28
Speaker 1: your devices, you know, like draining your dopamine, doing all
19:32
Speaker 1: that shit, then you're likely having a shit sleep. You
19:35
Speaker 1: drag yourself to work the next day, you feel even
19:36
Speaker 1: more tired. You get home, you've got limited energy stores,
19:40
Speaker 1: and what you say to yourself is I'm burnt out.
19:44
Speaker 1: I need to rest, which is true, but you're confused
19:48
Speaker 1: as to what kind of rest you need. So you're like,
19:50
Speaker 1: I'm burnt out, I need to rest my sleep. Shit,
19:53
Speaker 1: I just can't wait to get home and collapse on
19:56
Speaker 1: the couch. I've had a big day. I feel like
19:58
Speaker 1: I just cannot restore my energy. So then you get
20:01
Speaker 1: home and you repeat the cycle. You're rotting on the couch,
20:03
Speaker 1: you're in bed again, you're scrolling, scrolling, scrolling, you feel
20:05
Speaker 1: like shit, you feel really tired. It happens again and
20:08
Speaker 1: again and again. So you are actually emotionally exhausted. You're
20:11
Speaker 1: not physically exhausted. For the most part. Some people might
20:14
Speaker 1: have a combination of both. For the most part, it's
20:16
Speaker 1: not physical exhaustion, but you feel burnt out, so you
20:21
Speaker 1: think I'm burnt out. I need to rest, and your
20:26
Speaker 1: version of rest is rotting, lying down, scrolling. But what
20:31
Speaker 1: you don't realize is that lying down and scrolling is
20:34
Speaker 1: contributing to further exhaustion. Okay, that is the main main problem.
20:41
Speaker 1: You feel tired, you feel that you're burnt out. You
20:44
Speaker 1: try and remedy that issue by contributing to more of
20:46
Speaker 1: the same, and there is your cycle. It goes round
20:48
Speaker 1: to round around because you are not physically exhausted. You
20:51
Speaker 1: don't need to be lying on a couch. You are
20:53
Speaker 1: mentally drained, You are emotionally exhausted, and neurochemicals are out
20:56
Speaker 1: of whack because of slipping into these addictive patterns is
21:00
Speaker 1: behavioral patterns, because if your poor sleep, there you go.
21:03
Speaker 1: There's your fucking cycle. That's what you've caused yourself. That's
21:06
Speaker 1: what we've all caused ourselves. We've all done it. I've
21:08
Speaker 1: been there. I still find myself in that situation at times,
21:10
Speaker 1: and at least I can identify it quickly. But it's
21:13
Speaker 1: not like no one ever doesn't. But the key is
21:16
Speaker 1: how do I identify it as quickly as possible, so
21:18
Speaker 1: I can do something about it. Okay, So you've got
21:22
Speaker 1: a depletion of your emotional stores, you've got to skew
21:25
Speaker 1: in neurotransmitter release, and so you don't feel good. And
21:29
Speaker 1: as we know, neurochemicals are responsible for so many things,
21:34
Speaker 1: and most importantly, they're responsible for your emotions. They're responsible
21:37
Speaker 1: for your willingness to do things, for your motivation, for
21:39
Speaker 1: your drive, for how you experience events, for how you
21:43
Speaker 1: perceive the world. But what's happening here is you don't
21:48
Speaker 1: feel good, and then on top of not feeling good,
21:50
Speaker 1: you then become irritable, You become more emotional, you are
21:54
Speaker 1: less excited for things, and then because of that, you
21:58
Speaker 1: then do more of the same. Was tempting as that
22:00
Speaker 1: sounds to keep going, I'm actually going to give you
22:03
Speaker 1: a solution so you can stop doing that and actually
22:06
Speaker 1: turn your life around in a very very very short
22:08
Speaker 1: amount of time. Because the main thing is what happens
22:13
Speaker 1: when when this happens? So you do this bed for
22:15
Speaker 1: days and days and days in a row, and then
22:16
Speaker 1: what happens You're doing nothing with your day and what
22:19
Speaker 1: do you feel? Guilty? You feel guilty as fuck. And
22:22
Speaker 1: if you're gonna feel guilty, Make it for something exciting,
22:24
Speaker 1: not for lying in bed all day and watching time
22:27
Speaker 1: pass you by. Okay, we're gonna reserve guilt for more
22:31
Speaker 1: fucking interesting shit, more scandalous shit in our life, not
22:35
Speaker 1: this shit. Okay, I don't want you feeling guilty for
22:37
Speaker 1: literally allowing time to pass you by. If you're gonna rest,
22:41
Speaker 1: rest with zest, rest properly, but bed rotting, that's a
22:45
Speaker 1: waste of your time. It is a waste off your time.
22:47
Speaker 1: I am the biggest advocate for real rest, for real recovery,
22:52
Speaker 1: for real downtime. This is not it. So this is
22:55
Speaker 1: not something that could And this is the other problem.
22:57
Speaker 1: A lot of people will do it and say to
22:59
Speaker 1: make them feel better, well, I deserve it. I deserve No,
23:01
Speaker 1: you don't. You don't fucking deserve it. You deserve better
23:04
Speaker 1: than that. Shit. What you're doing to yourself is detrimental.
23:07
Speaker 1: I hate it when people do something that's not good
23:11
Speaker 1: for them and then feel bad about it and excuse
23:14
Speaker 1: themselves by saying, oh, well I deserve it, do you
23:17
Speaker 1: or do you deserve a lot better than that? Because
23:19
Speaker 1: if you want to treat yourself and whatever, and you
23:22
Speaker 1: know that's fine. You don't have to justify it. It's
23:24
Speaker 1: okay to eat that thing that you want to eat,
23:26
Speaker 1: it's okay to be on social media every so often,
23:28
Speaker 1: but to try and say to yourself what I'm doing
23:31
Speaker 1: is the right thing for me and for my mental health,
23:33
Speaker 1: it's not okay. Everything in moderation. You can have your
23:36
Speaker 1: social media in moderation. You can have that amazing burger
23:40
Speaker 1: in moderation. When you have things in moderation, you never
23:44
Speaker 1: have to excuse yourself ever for the things that you
23:46
Speaker 1: are doing, because you have balance and you feel good
23:48
Speaker 1: about everything that you do. The only time you ever
23:51
Speaker 1: feel like you've got to make these excuses is because
23:52
Speaker 1: you know it's not in moderation and you know that
23:55
Speaker 1: you can do better for yourself. So that's what we're
23:59
Speaker 1: talking about here. And guilt is a great indicator if
24:04
Speaker 1: you are doing something that's not in moderation. It is
24:07
Speaker 1: your body giving you a warning sign saying, hey, the
24:10
Speaker 1: reason I feel bad about this is because I know
24:12
Speaker 1: it's not good for me. I know that I should
24:14
Speaker 1: be doing something different. I know, like I'm trying. It's
24:16
Speaker 1: your body screaming up being like, ah, do something else.
24:19
Speaker 1: Do something else because I feel bad because it doesn't
24:21
Speaker 1: sit right with me. Your body it's like that fucking book.
24:24
Speaker 1: Your body keeps the score or whatever. Your body knows, okay,
24:27
Speaker 1: and it's just telling you I need I need to
24:29
Speaker 1: not do this, Okay, So listen to your body. So
24:33
Speaker 1: what are we talking about here. We're talking about how
24:36
Speaker 1: you can actually reset it. But number one, I want
24:39
Speaker 1: you to change how you look at rest because this
24:43
Speaker 1: is the big trick that we are all falling for.
24:46
Speaker 1: When we collapse on the couch after a big day
24:49
Speaker 1: of work, and then it makes us feel shitter, and
24:51
Speaker 1: then we go to bed and can't sleep because we've
24:53
Speaker 1: been scrolling on our phones. I've been watching TV for
24:56
Speaker 1: hours on end or YouTube for hours on end. We
24:58
Speaker 1: cannot sleep, and then we're tired. But then we're like,
25:01
Speaker 1: well I'm tired, but I'm not sleepy, so I'm gonna
25:04
Speaker 1: grab my phone and do the whole thing. So then
25:06
Speaker 1: we're telling ourselves we need rest. You do need rest,
25:10
Speaker 1: but let's change how you look at rest. Rest comes
25:13
Speaker 1: in many forms. Okay, it comes in quality sleep. It
25:17
Speaker 1: of course comes in physical rest and physical rest, which
25:20
Speaker 1: is like allowing your body downtime after straining your body.
25:25
Speaker 1: So that comes from obviously exercise, moving your body all
25:29
Speaker 1: day long, needing your muscles to rest and recover. But
25:32
Speaker 1: then we need rest from stress, rest from emotional strain.
25:39
Speaker 1: Emotional strain is anything basically anything addictive. Any addictive behaviors
25:44
Speaker 1: fall under emotional strain because it alters your chemical release.
25:49
Speaker 1: Of course, rest from stress are things that are stressing
25:51
Speaker 1: you out, whether it be you know, work and you've
25:55
Speaker 1: got to switch off from your emails, you know, not
25:57
Speaker 1: having contact with that stressful stimulus for at least a
26:00
Speaker 1: period of time every day or every week. So there's
26:04
Speaker 1: many different kinds of rest that you need to be
26:07
Speaker 1: giving yourself. If you're only ever giving yourself physical rest,
26:10
Speaker 1: you are not well rested. Your muscles might be well rested,
26:15
Speaker 1: but even then it's not great because unfortunately, or maybe fortunately,
26:18
Speaker 1: however you want to look at it, stress is cumulative.
26:21
Speaker 1: Whether it's physical or whether it's emotional. Stress is stress,
26:25
Speaker 1: and it's going to impact you either way. If you
26:27
Speaker 1: are constantly under physical stress, it's going to impact your emotions.
26:30
Speaker 1: If you are constantly under emotional stress, it's going to
26:33
Speaker 1: impact you physically. And that manifests in weaknesses, it manifests
26:37
Speaker 1: in disease, and surprise, surprise, surprise, surprise. What I'm talking
26:42
Speaker 1: about in this episode is emotional strain. We need rest
26:46
Speaker 1: from emotional strain. I'm going to go so far as
26:48
Speaker 1: to say that you do not need to physically rest
26:50
Speaker 1: your body right now. If you are suffering from this
26:54
Speaker 1: bedrot thing that you're struggling to snap out of, you
26:57
Speaker 1: need emotional spite. Okay, so what this what does this
27:03
Speaker 1: look like? Obviously it is not being on devices or
27:07
Speaker 1: screens and all of that, but it's what are you
27:10
Speaker 1: doing to feed your happiness, to feed your soul. It
27:15
Speaker 1: is still doing something, but something that when you do it,
27:19
Speaker 1: it fills your cup up. It is fulfilling, It feels
27:22
Speaker 1: really good. It's where you are putting your emotional energy
27:25
Speaker 1: into something that's going to give back to you. That
27:30
Speaker 1: is how you recover this emotional debt, this neurochemical debt
27:38
Speaker 1: that you have. That's how you start to replenish that
27:41
Speaker 1: and start to feel really good again. And then what
27:44
Speaker 1: happens is that you feel really good, you have less
27:47
Speaker 1: inclination to go into this rotting phase where you spend
27:50
Speaker 1: hours on devices and on screens. So you're feeling really good,
27:53
Speaker 1: you're able to fatigue yourself properly in a natural way.
27:56
Speaker 1: You're able to fall asleep better, you wake up with
27:58
Speaker 1: more energy, and because you're in a better mood, you're
28:01
Speaker 1: more inclined to do more of these feel good behaviors.
28:03
Speaker 1: Then you work well, you get home, your motivation is higher,
28:07
Speaker 1: and the cycle starts to skew itself to benefit you,
28:12
Speaker 1: not to hinder you. Okay, so examples of this, there's
28:16
Speaker 1: a thousand examples of this. You can invite your friend over.
28:21
Speaker 1: You're going to cook some pasta together, play some cards.
28:24
Speaker 1: You're going to bake some cookies. You're going to sew something.
28:28
Speaker 1: You're going to go for a walk and have an
28:30
Speaker 1: ice cream on a week night, just for fun with
28:33
Speaker 1: your friend or alone. You're going to go to the
28:36
Speaker 1: park and take a fiction book that you can get
28:38
Speaker 1: lost in and just read for an hour and get
28:41
Speaker 1: carried away with no headphones. Hear the birds, hear people's
28:44
Speaker 1: conversations as they walk past. Just be outside. You're going
28:49
Speaker 1: to make something, make anything, draw paint, go to a
28:54
Speaker 1: fucking canvas and cork and canvas night. You're going to
28:58
Speaker 1: play with your dog, go rock climbing, to join a
29:00
Speaker 1: footsal team. There's so much shit that you can do.
29:03
Speaker 1: It is endless, and you can do it alone, you
29:06
Speaker 1: can do it with friends. I think for the purpose
29:10
Speaker 1: of this I would encourage you to do at least
29:14
Speaker 1: half of these things with other people. And the reason
29:16
Speaker 1: for that is when you are present with somebody else,
29:19
Speaker 1: it is one of the best ways to start recharging
29:22
Speaker 1: your emotions. You start feeling really good, you get that connection.
29:25
Speaker 1: Connection is one of the number one most important things
29:29
Speaker 1: for an elevated mood. So community connection, feeling like being
29:35
Speaker 1: around the people that you love, that is crucial for happiness.
29:39
Speaker 1: So that's why I recommend that you do it at
29:40
Speaker 1: least half of these things with somebody else that you
29:42
Speaker 1: actually enjoy the company, not with some fucking drop kick
29:45
Speaker 1: that makes you feel like shit every time you see them.
29:47
Speaker 1: So these are all ways that you can get around
29:52
Speaker 1: this rotting thing. And the best way to do it
29:55
Speaker 1: is if you have a traditional job where you work,
29:58
Speaker 1: where you finish work. You know, you work during the
30:00
Speaker 1: day and you finish in the afternoon. The best thing
30:02
Speaker 1: to do is to not sit down on the couch.
30:06
Speaker 1: That's what I have discovered for me. If I've had
30:08
Speaker 1: a long day, and I'm not talking about physically. If
30:10
Speaker 1: I've just had a long day at the office and
30:12
Speaker 1: I've been doing a lot and I've just not been
30:13
Speaker 1: home all day. If I come home and sit on
30:16
Speaker 1: the couch and just like relax and lie down, I
30:19
Speaker 1: am way more likely to cancel plans or to end
30:24
Speaker 1: up making myself a really average dinner instead of putting
30:28
Speaker 1: in the effort and cooking something nice because I'm like, oh,
30:30
Speaker 1: and I get too wound up in like scrolling or
30:33
Speaker 1: addictive behaviors. Okay, so instead what I do and you
30:36
Speaker 1: actually feel so much better for it. We trick ourselves
30:38
Speaker 1: into thinking I need a rest, I need to rest. Instead,
30:41
Speaker 1: what I do is I think, Okay, I'm gonna, you know,
30:44
Speaker 1: get changed or shower or whatever it is. I'm gonna
30:46
Speaker 1: have a glass of water, have a piece of fruit,
30:48
Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna go off and do that thing.
30:50
Speaker 1: Maybe I'll go for a sauna, maybe I'll take the
30:52
Speaker 1: dog for a walk, or maybe i'll just cook a
30:54
Speaker 1: beautiful meal, you know, and then I really get amongst
30:57
Speaker 1: cooking a beautiful meal, I'll put a podcast on and
30:59
Speaker 1: then I've really enjoy myself and I feel way more rested.
31:04
Speaker 1: And when I say cook the meal, I'm not talking
31:06
Speaker 1: about people that have to come home and slave away
31:08
Speaker 1: at the kitchen when they're I'm talking about an activity
31:10
Speaker 1: that you enjoy. So if you fucking hate cooking, then
31:13
Speaker 1: that's not on the list. I'm not saying do something
31:15
Speaker 1: you fucking hate and pretend you like it. I'm saying
31:17
Speaker 1: something that's going to feel like it's nice for your soul. Okay,
31:21
Speaker 1: I'm just using cooking as an example because it's something
31:23
Speaker 1: that I've recently gotten into and I'm surprised at the
31:26
Speaker 1: fact that I'm enjoying it. But you go and do
31:29
Speaker 1: that thing before sitting on the couch. The beauty of
31:31
Speaker 1: that it's twofold. Number One, you're less likely to fall
31:34
Speaker 1: into that pattern. Number Two, when you get home, you're
31:37
Speaker 1: actually you know, you're tired in a good way. You
31:41
Speaker 1: know you've had your work, then you've had your pleasure,
31:43
Speaker 1: and now you're able to go to bed tired, and
31:48
Speaker 1: you're less likely to be on your phone for an
31:50
Speaker 1: unlimited amount of time, and you're more likely to fall
31:52
Speaker 1: asleep properly. Can you be on your phone during these times.
31:56
Speaker 1: Of course you can, but you want to do it
31:58
Speaker 1: in moderation, So you want to do Okay, I get home.
32:01
Speaker 1: While I'm standing up, I can go on my Instagram
32:05
Speaker 1: because the likelihood of me being on here for hours
32:07
Speaker 1: is a lot lower than if I'm lying on the couch. Okay,
32:11
Speaker 1: and I can look at the time and set a
32:13
Speaker 1: ten minute timer, or at least just glance and say
32:15
Speaker 1: no more than ten minutes on here, you know. So
32:17
Speaker 1: what I'm saying is like, still you can have it all,
32:20
Speaker 1: but just in moderation and in snippets. So one thing
32:25
Speaker 1: you can do, and this, this is three minutes, and
32:28
Speaker 1: it's going to change everything. If you're currently right now
32:31
Speaker 1: listening to this podcast while strolling on social media, while
32:34
Speaker 1: experiencing bed rot, this is what you're gonna do. Put
32:37
Speaker 1: your phone down, Leave your phone down where it is,
32:40
Speaker 1: Do not hold it in your hand. You're not attached
32:42
Speaker 1: to it. Stand up, leave the fucking phone, and walk
32:46
Speaker 1: around the house and put one thing away. If there's
32:49
Speaker 1: something to put away. Can you pick up a mug
32:51
Speaker 1: and put it in the kitchen sink or put it
32:52
Speaker 1: in the dishwasher. Can you grab that towel and hang
32:54
Speaker 1: it back up again. Just want one tiny, tiny thing.
32:57
Speaker 1: So it's a tiny achievement, but it's going to be
32:58
Speaker 1: very quick. I don't want you and buck can got
33:00
Speaker 1: a big task for the purpose of this exercise. Okay,
33:03
Speaker 1: if there's something to pick up, pick it up and
33:04
Speaker 1: put it away. That takes you roughly fifteen seconds. Now
33:07
Speaker 1: go and drink a glass of water, or have like
33:09
Speaker 1: a grape or a piece of fruit or whatever is
33:11
Speaker 1: in the fridge, but something that's light, fresh, not heavy,
33:16
Speaker 1: or just a glass of water. Now, stretch your body,
33:19
Speaker 1: rich your arms up over your head, stretch your body. Stretch,
33:21
Speaker 1: it's just a stretcher. Stretch, take some deep breaths, and
33:24
Speaker 1: then stand outside or at the very least, stick your
33:26
Speaker 1: head out the window. Get some light, and if there's
33:29
Speaker 1: no light, doesn't matter. Stick your head out the window
33:30
Speaker 1: and take a big, deep breath of fresh outdoor air.
33:34
Speaker 1: That has taken you three minutes maximum, and that already
33:39
Speaker 1: has started to alter how you are feeling. It's already
33:43
Speaker 1: starting to alter what's going on in the brain from
33:45
Speaker 1: a neurochemical level. Everything is starting to change. And that
33:49
Speaker 1: has taken you three minutes. And worst case scenario, if
33:52
Speaker 1: you're like no, but I still have to go back
33:54
Speaker 1: down and lie down and get off my phone. Firstly,
33:57
Speaker 1: there's a whole bunch of you that are not going
33:58
Speaker 1: to need to go back down and sit down and
34:00
Speaker 1: line your bed and get on your phone. You're gonna
34:02
Speaker 1: feel like, oh, fuck, well, let's do something with my time.
34:04
Speaker 1: And even if you do go back, this has at
34:06
Speaker 1: least helped you a tiny bit. So no matter where
34:09
Speaker 1: you are, no matter where you are, starting from those
34:12
Speaker 1: five things that I just told you to do, it
34:15
Speaker 1: takes you three minutes, and that is accessible to absolutely
34:18
Speaker 1: every single one of you right now that is experiencing
34:20
Speaker 1: that bed rot. It will instantly start to elevate your mood. Okay,
34:25
Speaker 1: and let's bring the brain fact into it. Like I
34:28
Speaker 1: mentioned earlier, bring some scent into it. Light your favorite candle.
34:32
Speaker 1: Don't wait for guests to come over, do it for yourself.
34:34
Speaker 1: Light your fucking favorite candle, or spray a scent in
34:37
Speaker 1: your home. Or if you're like me and you're slightly weird,
34:41
Speaker 1: open the fridge and take a big sniff of olives.
34:44
Speaker 1: I do that all the time, and then I end
34:46
Speaker 1: up eating them. But I just love smelling olives. So
34:49
Speaker 1: that lifts my mood. Or pickled baby cucumbers, oh so
34:54
Speaker 1: fucking good. Or if I've got like food that I've
34:56
Speaker 1: got left over that I really like, I'm going to
34:58
Speaker 1: have it for dinner, I'll smell it, being like okay,
35:00
Speaker 1: maybe we'll have that in an hour. Like, just do
35:02
Speaker 1: something that's going to stimulate your senses. You've stretched, you've
35:05
Speaker 1: had water, you've smelt something that smells good, you've put
35:08
Speaker 1: your head outside and taken a big breath of air
35:10
Speaker 1: or ideally stepped outside, and you are more likely to
35:14
Speaker 1: be in a position where you're like, I'm actually gonna
35:17
Speaker 1: do something now with my time for the afternoon, instead
35:20
Speaker 1: of staying where you aren't doing this bedrock. Don't fool
35:23
Speaker 1: yourself into thinking that physical rest is what you need.
35:26
Speaker 1: If your body is actually physically tired, then do some
35:29
Speaker 1: proper rest and that's get proper sleep, read a book,
35:32
Speaker 1: don't be on your phone forever. That is never the
35:34
Speaker 1: answer to rest. I've used the excuse too, So this
35:38
Speaker 1: podcast is aimed at me as much as it is
35:42
Speaker 1: at you. This idea of like I'm just resting, I
35:45
Speaker 1: just need to rest, and using like I'm just gonna
35:46
Speaker 1: scroll indefinitely. That never makes you feel better never. We
35:50
Speaker 1: all know it. We all fucking know it. Okay, So
35:52
Speaker 1: if it's physical rest you need, fine, but rest properly
35:55
Speaker 1: for your body, Okay, actually get proper adequate sleep, stretch
35:59
Speaker 1: your body, do proper recovery. But more often than not,
36:03
Speaker 1: especially if you're experiencing this kind of rotting on your phone,
36:07
Speaker 1: what you're experiencing is emotional drain. Okay, you are drained.
36:13
Speaker 1: Your neurochemicals are out of whack because you are depleting yourself.
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Speaker 1: And I've said this a thousand times, but I am
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Speaker 1: going to remind you again. When you are engaging in
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Speaker 1: addictive behaviors, you are depleting your dopamine. Dopamine is your
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Speaker 1: willingness to do something. When you deplete the chemical that
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Speaker 1: is responsible for you to make you willing to do something,
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Speaker 1: What do you think is going to happen when you
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Speaker 1: put that phone down? You're not gonna fucking have the
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Speaker 1: willingness to do anything. It is literally the substance that
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Speaker 1: provides that for you, and you're you're depleting it. No
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Speaker 1: wonder you feel like shit, No wonder you feel like
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Speaker 1: you need to stay where where you are and keep
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Speaker 1: quote unquote rotting in bed. Okay, it is so important,
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Speaker 1: it is so crucial that you give this a go,
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Speaker 1: do this three days in a row. And you are
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Speaker 1: telling you right now you went fucking know yourself. You
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Speaker 1: will not know yourself. Your sleep will be better, your
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Speaker 1: mood will be better, your energy will be better. And
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Speaker 1: think about it. What's the opposite feeling of bedrot What
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Speaker 1: is the complete opposite of that. It is excitement, it
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Speaker 1: is passion, it is purpose, It is having something that
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Speaker 1: you can't wait to get to. So for me, when
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Speaker 1: I was going through when I first moved to Sydney
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Speaker 1: and I was like in the depths of my depression
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Speaker 1: and despair, I got really into sewing and I loved
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Speaker 1: it and it was the one thing that would always
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Speaker 1: turn my mood around. And I used to get home
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Speaker 1: and just collapse on my bed and do that whole thing,
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Speaker 1: bearing my phone for hours or get on Netflix or whatever.
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Speaker 1: And then when I started sewing, instead of going home,
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Speaker 1: I'd be like, well, I've got some time. The fabric
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Speaker 1: store is still open, So I'd go to the fabric store.
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Speaker 1: I'd buy a piece of fabric, where I'd buy some
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Speaker 1: whatever something from there, and then I'd go home and
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Speaker 1: there'd be times where I wouldn't even look at my
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Speaker 1: phone for hours and out of all these mist calls
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Speaker 1: because I'd be sewing so and so and it felt
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Speaker 1: so good, and then by the time I'd want to
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Speaker 1: go to bed, I was genuinely sleepy. So that's what
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Speaker 1: I mean, like finding something that you enjoy doing that's
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Speaker 1: going to actually benefit your emotions, benefit your mood, make
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Speaker 1: you feel good, and then help you sleep better. Okay,
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Speaker 1: that is my fucking advice for you for the day,
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Speaker 1: for the week. And the reason I thought of this,
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Speaker 1: to be dead honest with you, is because I had
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Speaker 1: one of those days here in Paris and I'm like,
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Speaker 1: I'm in fuck em Paris, what am I doing? And
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Speaker 1: my excuse was, oh, I just needed a day to
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Speaker 1: do nothing because I've been like playing tour and being
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Speaker 1: a tourist is so fucking exhausting. It's exhausting you're doing
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Speaker 1: so much walking. I was doing twenty fucking thousand steps
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Speaker 1: a day and a spin class every day. But the
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Speaker 1: problem with doing that, I was then like even more
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Speaker 1: exhausted after doing that and then struggling to sleep. So
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Speaker 1: I thought this is. You know, I'm only experiencing this
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Speaker 1: for one day here, but this is something that so
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Speaker 1: many people have written into me and have experienced for
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Speaker 1: you know, days or weeks or months on end. So
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Speaker 1: I think it's maybe pretty pretty important topics to cover
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Speaker 1: for you guys. Guys, that is the episode of today.
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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for tuning in, Thank you so
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Speaker 1: much for listening. Guys, love you so much. As always, remember,
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Speaker 1: be kind to yourself, be kind to your brain, don't
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Speaker 1: take shit from anyone, and especially don't take shit from yourself.
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Speaker 1: Don't here from Paris, Mercy, Mercy, and shout out to
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Speaker 1: my Parisian beans obviously because we're in Paris, and my
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Speaker 1: London beans because I was in London and London's a
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Speaker 1: fucking vibe its of mood anyway, Dunker