Latest / Chatting with The Experts with Paula Okonneh / How to Leave a Legacy as a Leader
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- 0:00Welcome to another episode of Chatting with Experts where I, Paula Okonneh
- 0:04speak with fabulous women from Africa, from the Caribbean, and in the diaspora.
- 0:11These women share my mission, which is to educate, empower,
- 0:14and encourage women globally.
- 0:16And they are, that's the, my interviewees are professionals
- 0:23and or successful entrepreneurs.
- 0:26The topic today is Thriving at the Top, and in this episode we are gonna explore
- 0:33how women can shift from representation to influence while embracing practices
- 0:40that sustain purpose, presence, and long-term impact at the top.
- 0:47My guest who's gonna be joining me in a few minutes is a seasoned business
- 0:52and HR executive with over two decades of experience across global
- 0:58corporations and high growth startups.
- 1:02She has held senior leadership roles at world class organizations, including
- 1:09Johnson and Johnson, GE and Bank of America, and currently she serves as
- 1:17the Vice President of Human Resources... With that I want to welcome Maureen
- 1:24Aryee to Chatting with the Experts.
- 1:27Hello, Maureen.
- 1:28Hello, Paula.
- 1:31I hope I got your name right, Aryee?
- 1:33You did, you did.
- 1:34You absolutely did.
- 1:35Thank you for having me.
- 1:37Absolutely.
- 1:39Thank you for saying yes.
- 1:40I don't take it for granted when anybody comes onto the show because
- 1:46they're sharing my mission, which is, as I said earlier on, to educate,
- 1:50encourage, and empower women globally.
- 1:55So I gave just a snippet of your very impressive bio.
- 2:00Let's expand on it because I know, of course.
- 2:03Mm-hmm.
- 2:03You've had a remarkably diverse career, and so tell us a little bit about how
- 2:09you walked through this journey and what really guided you to do this.
- 2:14Absolutely.
- 2:15Absolutely.
- 2:16You know, my career has been intentionally non-linear.
- 2:20I began my career in the space of IT right out of undergrad and
- 2:26joined GE as you mentioned earlier.
- 2:29After a few years there, I decided to explore some other paths and
- 2:33got into financial services, and eventually decided to launch my own
- 2:37business in the real estate industry.
- 2:39And so I did that for several years, but really felt like I still wasn't quite
- 2:45there in terms of my purpose, in terms of what I wanted to dedicate myself to.
- 2:49And so I returned to school and pursued an MBA and out of that MBA
- 2:54got recruited by Johnson & Johnson and ended up spending 10 years with
- 2:58them and it was a great opportunity to really launch into the field of HR
- 3:04and really grow my experience in that field and launch myself, quite honestly
- 3:11into a number of senior leadership and global roles with that company.
- 3:17And after 10 years with them, I decided to do yet another pivot and take those
- 3:21experiences into the biotech startup world, where I am now and this was
- 3:27really a decision I made to have my imprint on an organization that is
- 3:33being built from the ground up to be able to really shape culture, build
- 3:38leaders, and influence what that looks like at the start of an organization.
- 3:44And so that is how I've dedicated the last several years of my career.
- 3:50And, there's been some really unique lessons I would say that I've learned,
- 3:54, pivoting throughout these companies and growing into various roles.
- 3:58And, one thing, if I can share is, you know, I've come to realize that
- 4:03it's not really just about talent.
- 4:04Talent is key.
- 4:05Talent is what gets your foot in the door.
- 4:08, but there is quite a bit of capacity that's required to navigate the turbulent
- 4:14seasons that organizations go through.
- 4:17There's stamina that's required to really influence at senior leadership roles.
- 4:23And then there's also purpose.
- 4:24There's a real place for knowing your purpose and having that guide to the
- 4:28decisions that you make into various roles and into various chapters of life.
- 4:33And so that I would say it's a very high level overview of the journey that
- 4:38I've been on that brings me here today.
- 4:42Wow.
- 4:43Say I'm speechless because I'm so impressed.
- 4:46You know?
- 4:46And but something that jumped out at me was purpose, because you mentioned that
- 4:52after you undergraduate, you actually had opened a business for some time
- 4:58and then you felt this is not quite it.
- 5:00I'm not quite fulfilling my purpose.
- 5:02And that's why you went back to do your MBA and ultimately
- 5:06ended up at GE for 10, GE, right.
- 5:10J and J. J and J.
- 5:11J and j for 10 years.
- 5:14So that purpose comes with a lot of responsibility and a lot of
- 5:18emotions and you know, especially when it comes to leadership.
- 5:24And , when we talked some time ago, you had talked about emotional capacity.
- 5:28Mm-hmm.
- 5:29And how that is helpful for enabling leaders to stay at the top.
- 5:36That's right.
- 5:36Can you elaborate on that?
- 5:38Because especially as I know you've had experience with startups
- 5:41and startups and leadership.
- 5:43Mm-hmm.
- 5:44Well, they go hand in hand, but you really need to have that leadership anchored.
- 5:48So can you talk a bit about that?
- 5:50That's right.
- 5:50Absolutely.
- 5:51Absolutely.
- 5:52Yeah.
- 5:52Emotional capacity I've found, has become one of my favorite topics because
- 5:57I encounter it on an, on a daily basis where it exists, where it does not exist.
- 6:05And you know, maybe I should define it for you.
- 6:08It's really the ability to stay grounded and clear and effective under pressure.
- 6:15It's that internal strength that really guides your judgment.
- 6:20But it's also that internal strength that enables you to show up
- 6:24present and calm in your presence.
- 6:27And it's really what enables a leader to be relentless, , in the face of
- 6:34intensity when the stakes are high.
- 6:37I find that emotional capacity is what makes a huge difference between
- 6:42leaders that can mobilize teams and organizations behind them after a
- 6:48specific direction or course because of the presence that they carry themselves.
- 6:53So that, you know, it's a long definition, but I think you get the essence of it.
- 6:59I talk about it a lot because I've come to discover that organizations, again,
- 7:05go through lots of turbulent seasons.
- 7:08An example that I love to give that most individuals that have worked in
- 7:11the corporate environment have faced before is that of reorganizations.
- 7:16A lot of organizations go through reorgs, restructures, transformations, what
- 7:20have you, and in those moments there's usually quite a bit of anxiety all around.
- 7:27Employees, excuse me, may face anxiety around, will I have a job, do I have
- 7:32a future with this organization?
- 7:34Leaders are concerned about morale, they're concerned about productivity.
- 7:39Even high performing employees are concerned around whether they've got
- 7:43a future with the organization or not.
- 7:45And so all around there tends to be high intensity.
- 7:49But in my years of experience, what I've come to realize is
- 7:54that as a leader, my emotional stability is what the organization
- 7:59is, what my team feeds off of.
- 8:02And the clarity of mind and presence I have is just as important as the
- 8:07decisions I make in those moments because leaders set the emotional
- 8:13temperature of an organization.
- 8:16And those that have built the muscle of exercising and demonstrated strong
- 8:22emotional capacity, again, are able to stabilize organizations in chaotic
- 8:28seasons and are able to move them towards fulfilling a specific direction.
- 8:33And so I think, it's one of those that.
- 8:35No matter which part of the organization, you look in terms of leadership
- 8:39levels, you tend to see gaps.
- 8:41Even very senior leaders that are, you know, so to speak, at the top of
- 8:46their game, you oftentimes see gaps.
- 8:48And the ability to close that gap really determines high
- 8:52effective a leader can be.
- 8:55Thanks for explaining that.
- 8:58But then where does emotional intelligence that we hear so much
- 9:01about these days, where does that come into play with emotional capacity?
- 9:06Is it like a subset?
- 9:08Because you talked about reorganization and we are living
- 9:12in a time of reorganization.
- 9:14We are hearing it.
- 9:15We are feeling it.
- 9:16Some of us have been impacted directly with it.
- 9:19That's right.
- 9:21Yeah, no, that's a great question.
- 9:23And the two are interrelated, although in my mind I look at emotional intelligence
- 9:29speaking more to your ability to read a room, your ability to know when to pivot.
- 9:36Your ability to know how to manage relationships.
- 9:39Mm-hmm.
- 9:40How to respond in certain circumstances, and some of them does.
- 9:44Some of those are also at play when it comes to emotional capacity.
- 9:50But emotional capacity, really, if you think about a tank being full, there
- 9:56are certain things that contribute to one's emotional tank being full.
- 10:02And, , for one individual, when that emotional tank is full,
- 10:06it spills over for another.
- 10:08When that emotional tank is full, there's the ability to
- 10:11keep it from spilling over.
- 10:13If I can use that analogy.
- 10:15And so the intense pressures of a moment can either bring out strength, bring
- 10:23out clarity, bring out good judgment, bring out good direction in a leader.
- 10:29Or it can break an individual down.
- 10:32It's really how you respond is the difference between the emotional
- 10:35intelligence and the emotional capacity?
- 10:38One, an individual that does not have emotional capacity tends to break down.
- 10:42You hear a lot about burnout.
- 10:44Yes, burnout can be contributed based off of, you know, workload
- 10:49and lifestyles, et cetera.
- 10:51But I also believe that emotional capacity enables individuals.
- 10:57To manage certain pressures so that there is less burnout.
- 11:01I often see emotional capacity playing out when individuals are having to respond
- 11:07to situations where the stakes are really high and are falling under the pressure.
- 11:13And so hopefully that, that kind of helps.
- 11:15But the two I would say are not the same, but definitely
- 11:18do overlap in certain areas.
- 11:22I see that.
- 11:23I understand that now.
- 11:27Because we're talking about leaders and organizations and emotional capacity, then
- 11:34being able to either, and I'm looking at my notes, break under pressure or be able
- 11:40to, you know, keep things under the wrap.
- 11:43That's right.
- 11:43For leaders that have worked really hard to get to the top
- 11:47mm-hmm.
- 11:48And they get there and it seems like they're no longer successful,
- 11:56how would you handle that?
- 11:57What makes the difference?
- 11:58Because there's some people who are continuously finding... there's no
- 12:03ceiling for them in other words.
- 12:04They climb and then they see something and they keep climbing.
- 12:06And then there are others who've always had like a goal and they get there.
- 12:11And then there's like the burnout comes there because like, there's nothing else.
- 12:16That's right.
- 12:17That's right.
- 12:17That's right.
- 12:18Yeah.
- 12:19You know, in my role as an HR leader, we are often placing specific
- 12:25individuals that have had a history of success, of accomplishments.
- 12:31We're placing those individuals in critical roles because of their past
- 12:36accomplishments with the expectation that they will deliver similarly
- 12:41in, in these critical roles.
- 12:43And I've found that sometimes they do, sometimes they don't.
- 12:47And one of the reasons is exactly what you just mentioned, is when we are seeking to
- 12:54achieve a certain level of success and a certain height, there is a specific drive.
- 13:01There is the hunger.
- 13:04There is the ambition.
- 13:08Unfortunately though, when some individuals reach that height,
- 13:12that hunger is no longer as, as intense as it used to be.
- 13:16That drive is no longer as intense as it used to be.
- 13:19There's this sense of "I have attained", right?
- 13:22Mm-hmm.
- 13:22And unfortunately, when those individuals with that mindset tend to stop growing,
- 13:28the key and the difference that you're pointing out between those that
- 13:31continue to identify new opportunities and continue to innovate and grow
- 13:36and move from one opportunity to the other, is that they're seeking for it.
- 13:41There's still a desire.
- 13:42They are individuals that are lifelong learners that want to continue to evolve
- 13:48themselves as individuals to grow, to learn, to influence, to make impact,
- 13:54versus those that rest on their laurels , and you know, really believe that
- 14:00their experiences speak for themselves.
- 14:02Those experiences may open certain doors, but again, to continue to make long
- 14:07lasting impact and to continue to have a reputation of being successful leader,
- 14:15that drive needs to continue to be there.
- 14:17And the intentionality behind growing oneself needs to be there.
- 14:23I often compare the leadership journey to mountain climbing, right?
- 14:28I'm sure you've heard that before.
- 14:31It's initially you are building muscle.
- 14:36You are on difficult terrain.
- 14:39You are learning discipline.
- 14:42You are demonstrating capacity, demonstrating ability.
- 14:48You're on that first, what I would call that first stage of that leadership rise.
- 14:53But then you get to that second stage and sort of you reach in that summit as a...
- 14:58Right.
- 14:58As a mountain climber may and, but if you think about it, when you reach
- 15:03that summit, that air is often thinner.
- 15:07Yeah.
- 15:07You know,
- 15:07I love it.
- 15:09The environment is very different, right?
- 15:13Any slight misstep could be dangerous.
- 15:17The implications are bigger.
- 15:19It's the same with leadership.
- 15:21The exposure is greater as you've reached a certain height and the turbulence
- 15:28can be felt because as the saying goes, the buck stops with you as the leader.
- 15:34And what you do there really determines the implications to a
- 15:39larger group of individuals through an organization or to a team.
- 15:43And so it's really important for an individual to really master
- 15:48not just climbing and ascending.
- 15:51But sustaining that success once you do get there, and some of the key things are
- 15:57exactly what we've spoken about, which is the emotion building that emotional
- 16:01capacity, but also sustaining that drive and caring about the outcomes.
- 16:06When you're concerned about the outcomes that you want to deliver,
- 16:10you will be concerned about building whatever capacity is required to
- 16:15be able to deliver those results.
- 16:22Yes.
- 16:23You really did a good job of summarizing that, but at the same time, making it
- 16:28so crystal clear because especially as we talk, in 2025, I mean, we are
- 16:34hearing so much about, we can call it reorganization of organizations.
- 16:41. Another way is, you know, what's it called trimming organizations down to size.
- 16:48Mm-hmm.
- 16:48Reengineering.
- 16:50Reengineering.
- 16:51That's another one.
- 16:52Yes.
- 16:54But there's an underlying thing that everybody's, it's
- 16:57like the elephant in the room.
- 16:59It's like, will AI?
- 17:01Is AI?
- 17:02Or will AI...
- 17:04Mm-hmm.
- 17:04Be responsible for all of these decisions being made?
- 17:09And how can we adapt to this new technology that's
- 17:14here and is here to stay?
- 17:16Mm-hmm.
- 17:16You know, while still keeping up morale and letting people know
- 17:20that they are still important.
- 17:23That's right.
- 17:24That's right.
- 17:25Yeah.
- 17:25I love that you go there because, you know, it's directly connected to the
- 17:30point I raised earlier around will you keep evolving yourself as a leader?
- 17:35Will you keep learning and growing?
- 17:37And one of those areas is in the space of technology.
- 17:40It can be in the space of, you know, your emotional strength, but also in
- 17:44very tangible ways such as in the area of technology and now in, in the era of AI.
- 17:51You know, we as leaders talk about it all the time in terms of how do we leverage
- 17:58AI, how do we not get left behind?
- 18:01How do we ensure that it is a part and parcel of how we
- 18:07operate on an everyday basis.
- 18:09And so for me and my team, for example, you know, we have done analysis of all
- 18:15the different areas in which AI can improve our productivity, can improve our
- 18:20efficiency, can improve the work we do.
- 18:23Thankfully it is applicable in every sphere, in every function, in every,
- 18:28, role that an individual can be in.
- 18:31I do think that the key though is to really identify how each
- 18:36individual can actually upskill themselves in the space of AI.
- 18:42And so if you're in HR, as I am in, well, what does that mean for the future of HR?
- 18:46What does that mean for the future of HR?
- 18:49And, in addition to efficiencies and in addition to productivity, there's
- 18:55also the space of ethical use of AI.
- 19:00You brought it up in relation to decision making.
- 19:02I lead an HR team and you know, when it comes to talent acquisition, for
- 19:06example, we see a lot of technology emerging that is related to the
- 19:11selection and assessment of talent.
- 19:13But it is one of those errors where decision making cannot be left solely
- 19:17to technology, where it is absolutely critical that, you know, human
- 19:24intervention, human interpretation, human involvement is involved to
- 19:29understand and to ensure that the right decisions are being made.
- 19:34Because quite honestly, humans build the algorithms and the prompts
- 19:39behind AI and other technology.
- 19:43Therefore, biases can still be built in.
- 19:46And so that's where for us as leaders, it's critical that we are understanding
- 19:52where the effectiveness can be leveraged and where a line must be drawn so that
- 20:00other disadvantages are not inherently built into the process because certain
- 20:06decision making is left to a system or to algorithms or machines to make.
- 20:11And so there is absolutely, absolutely, , critical decision making points
- 20:16for leaders in, in every sphere.
- 20:19And, I would say really, you know, the onus is on us to not only learn the
- 20:24technology, but understand how to use it so that it produces the right impact
- 20:29that we desire versus negative impact.
- 20:33Absolutely.
- 20:35Yes.
- 20:36I agree with you on a hundred percent of that because probably about a year
- 20:39and a half I had a guest on who was talking about AI and her approach
- 20:46was ethical AI as she called it.
- 20:50And there's something you did say about, you know, , like in the case of you being
- 20:55an HR, that we do have to have human beings sitting on the table with the IT
- 21:02department or those who are in technology because these systems are indeed
- 21:08designed and a program by human beings.
- 21:12And so we need to ensure that whatever is going on, we call the
- 21:16behind the scenes is ethical and is not detrimental to the human race
- 21:23and to the organizations because organizations are made up of people.
- 21:27Absolutely.
- 21:29So I commend you on saying, you know, explaining that again,
- 21:34because the worry is there.
- 21:35I mean, most people are, or most people who are either in the employment sector
- 21:42or are looking to be employed by the younger generation people, students, they
- 21:47are a bit worried about these things.
- 21:49But as somebody said, you know, people were worried about the internet.
- 21:56Absolutely, absolutely no I think with every new technology, you know,
- 22:02I break it down into what can I learn about it, how do I learn to
- 22:07use it in a way that quite honestly accelerates my impact as a leader.
- 22:12Mm-hmm.
- 22:13And everyone really needs to ask themselves that question because I'm
- 22:17using AI every day in personal life, on the job, in so many different ways.
- 22:22And it has absolutely, absolutely, compounded my efficiency and
- 22:28speed in so many things I do.
- 22:30And so if you're not leveraging that, you will absolutely be outrun and out
- 22:36shone by individuals that are taking advantage of it to boost themselves.
- 22:41And then hand in hand with that, obviously, at a broader level in
- 22:46terms of how organizations and systems are being set up is the other
- 22:50point we spoke about in terms of the ethical usage and the governance.
- 22:54Ethical usage typically is going to require that there's also governance
- 22:58in place to ensure there are some checks and balances, but ultimately,
- 23:02I do believe it will be, , just like as you said, the use of the internet,
- 23:08you know, 20 or so years ago that was new and we had to get familiar with it.
- 23:12And now four year olds, six year olds, seven year olds know how to
- 23:18get online and leverage the internet.
- 23:20And so we've got to embrace it, I think is, , is the underlining theme.
- 23:25We have got to embrace it.
- 23:28Wow.
- 23:29So one last question before we round up here 'cause this is fascinating.
- 23:32I could talk with you forever.
- 23:33Absolutely.
- 23:34About this, but as someone who has built leaders, you've shaped cultures.
- 23:41You've led transformations, just as we are talking about, how 20 years ago or
- 23:4720, 25 years ago, the internet seemed like a threat and now 2-year-old, three
- 23:53year olds get on it in a nanosecond.
- 23:56Exactly, exactly.
- 23:59So, what legacy and what impact would you like to leave
- 24:03mm-hmm.
- 24:04With the leaders now that you are influencing or you are
- 24:10walking us alongside with?
- 24:13Yeah.
- 24:14You know, the topic of legacy is an important one I think that every
- 24:18leader should be concerned about.
- 24:21'cause really if you delve into , the definition of leadership.
- 24:26It includes not just leading in the literal sense, but it is
- 24:32how you're developing others.
- 24:34It is how you are enabling others to fulfill to maximize
- 24:40their potential, right?
- 24:42And so when I think about legacy, I think about it in the sense that
- 24:46it's the impact that my life can make as a result of my purpose on Earth.
- 24:54And I, as well as any other individual that's concerned about legacy, is
- 25:00only able to leave a legacy when they understand their purpose.
- 25:05And so legacy and purpose, in my mind go hand in hand.
- 25:08It's recognizing that each one of us has a destiny, has a purpose, has a specific
- 25:15assignment, so to speak whether you wanna say here on earth, whether you wanna say
- 25:20in a specific role, in the city you're living in, your family, you can define
- 25:24it in so many different dimensions.
- 25:26But I am a firm believer that we do all have specific callings,
- 25:32so to speak, and assignments that we need to embrace and live into.
- 25:39And so when you think about that in the broader context of what legacy
- 25:42is, you know, for me, I've dedicated my career to building strong leaders.
- 25:48And, I am thrilled when I look back at individuals that perhaps I mentored,
- 25:56you know, early in their career that are now operating in their own right as
- 26:01strong leaders in the corporate space, or even individuals I met who were already
- 26:06leaders put into some of those critical positions, high impact roles I spoke
- 26:12about earlier, but are finding themselves challenged and stretched beyond what
- 26:16they've ever been before because perhaps it's the biggest role they've been in or
- 26:20the most critical that they've ever been in, and having the privilege of being
- 26:23able to coach as you know, as an HR leader, coach, and guide them in, here
- 26:30are your strengths, here are the gaps, and here's how you need , to fill those gaps.
- 26:35It brings me immense pleasure , and I'm absolutely fulfilled when I
- 26:38look back and see those individuals that embrace the challenge and
- 26:42were able to make that impact.
- 26:45You know, I think that every leader has to ask themselves
- 26:49three fundamental questions.
- 26:50Where am I going that will make my life matter?
- 26:54That's purpose.
- 26:57What am I doing now that will make my life matter?
- 27:00That's intentional action.
- 27:03And who am I developing that will make my life live on?
- 27:07That's legacy, you know, because we often think about legacy as something
- 27:12that's tangible, you know, especially when you think about in family estates
- 27:18and, you know, a legacy of something that is handed over from family to
- 27:23family, and those are typically tangible.
- 27:25And if it's tangible, it also means that it can be lost, right?
- 27:29But I think a legacy beyond that in the sense of what you leave within
- 27:34others, because that is intangible and that can be passed on from
- 27:41generation to generation, right?
- 27:43And so it's important to number one, understand that you have a purpose.
- 27:48Understand what that purpose is.
- 27:50Be intentional about living it.
- 27:53That's what enables one to leave a legacy.
- 27:59Oh boy, this is so good.
- 28:04I would love to continue this conversation with you.
- 28:06We probably have do that of course with the members of the audience.
- 28:11Yes, yes.
- 28:12But...
- 28:13absolutely.
- 28:13For those who are listening or viewing this online, how can they engage with you?
- 28:20Because this is such stimulating conversation.
- 28:22It needs to be continued.
- 28:24Absolutely.
- 28:24Absolutely.
- 28:25And I would love to engage with the audience.
- 28:27I can be found on LinkedIn using my name.
- 28:30I can be found on Instagram, social media.
- 28:33All of my social media handles use my full name and so easy to find me.
- 28:38And would absolutely look forward to engaging in this dialogue
- 28:42further with the audience.
- 28:43I find that I also have a lot to learn from these discussions.
- 28:48And it's amazing some of the things that come out of these conversations.
- 28:52Yes.
- 28:52You know, I have such a respect for people who have the growth mindset, because
- 28:58I say I learn something new every day.
- 29:02And when you learn something new, I mean, it's, sometimes it takes my
- 29:07breath away, but other times it's like, it's you know, like building blocks.
- 29:10You learn this yesterday and then next week you learn something
- 29:12else and you can connect them and say, wow, this is just so good.
- 29:17Absolutely.
- 29:19That's what I say about your conversation with me today.
- 29:23Thank you.
- 29:23Thank you.
- 29:24Absolutely.
- 29:26And for those of you who are listening to this or viewing it on YouTube or
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- 30:18amazing women who share my mission, just like Maureen, which is to educate,
- 30:26empower, and encourage women globally.
- 30:31So now we'll open up the floor to all those who joined us.
- 30:34And again, Maureen, thank you so much for this.
- 30:38Thank you, Paula.
- 30:39Thank you for the opportunity.
- 30:40I enjoyed our chat.