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Ep 68. When the Universe Tests You: Why Near-Misses Mean You’re Close · The Manifestation Station

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You're listening to the Manifestation Station podcast.
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I'm your host Holly Edwards and together we can help create your magic.
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Hello you gorgeous manifestors and welcome to another episode of The Manifestation Station.
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I'm your host Holly Edwards. Thank you for joining me on this gorgeous, gorgeous weekend.
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I hope you're all feeling absolutely fabulous and ready to feel energized and
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alive and I'm going to give you, I think,
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a really valuable snippet of
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manifestation information today that might
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just blow your mind actually that is
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fair I think it might blow your mind now this is something I
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hear all of the time
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so do you ever feel when you say I'm gonna
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start this with a question okay do you
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ever feel like the universe is
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testing you because what happens a
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lot and I get it a lot it's a big manifestation thing that happens where you
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feel like you're you know doing your manifesting work and you're being positive
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and you're you've been really clear about what you want and you suddenly feel
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like it started to happen.
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So maybe like a job opportunity is kind of dangled in front of you or maybe
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there's a person that you're interested in like relationship wise and you're
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chatting and you've been dating and you think this is finally it,
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maybe this is it and then all of a sudden it
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comes crashing down and as quick as the opportunity arises
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it's like suddenly disappears and you
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sort of end up feeling really lost and
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a bit abandoned and actually sometimes sometimes
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you feel a little bit angry with the universe and you kind
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of I actually sometimes when I used to get this I
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used to think why are you testing me like
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what what was the point in that what was
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the point in that thing almost coming within
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my grasp and then it just dropping and disappearing like what
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was the point in that and you can end up
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feeling quite angry about it and I
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want you to know this is the best bit I've
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jumped ahead here but I'm just getting excited for you I want you to know if
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you feel like you're being tested then you are on the cusp of manifesting something
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amazing this is proof this is evidence if you are receiving these tests and
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you can't quite understand.
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Why it's happened why it's disappeared trust me you are on the edge of something
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absolutely amazing so let's get into it a little bit more I'm happy you're here
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I feel like if you've clicked on this episode today this is not random.
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Absolutely no coincidences you've been
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feeling something maybe a bit
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confused a bit frustrated even maybe
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you might have come out with something like why does this
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keep happening to me why me and today that's the feeling that we are talking
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about because I want to talk about that moment where it looks like everything
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is going wrong but it's actually the moment it's about to go right but sometimes
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we can't see that and that is what I am here to tell you today.
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We're talking about the test, the universe testing you, not the kind of test
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that's meant to break you.
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The universe is on your side.
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This isn't about testing you or breaking you, it's about showing you,
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it's kind of preparing you for what's actually coming.
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So we're going to get straight into it. You've been manifesting
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something and doing all of that hard work that we were speaking about
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your mindset your energy your morning routine
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your habits maybe your vision have you done a vision board so you've kind of
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been showing up differently you're feeling really good and you've been thinking
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that you're on the right path and then suddenly something happens that knocks
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you back so like I said maybe you've got a job offer.
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Oh, that job that you really wanted and you get so, so close and then it suddenly falls through.
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Or that person that you're dating or chatting to, you're excited about and then
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they pull away. Why do they do that?
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It's like they lure you in and you go, oh my God, this is amazing and this is
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the relationship and then suddenly they ghost you or they change their mind or they disappear.
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Or maybe an opportunity literally lands in your lap and then it just disappears quickly.
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So like I said you're left feeling like
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sorry like what was that
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like why show me that just take it
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away why would you do that and this
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is what I said that sometimes you have this thing with the universe where you
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have this little battle and you think you know
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I have actually you know even though
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I am a manifesting coach I have at times
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when I've had these things I've kind of gone yeah thanks a
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lot thanks a lot universe but that was before
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I realized this test and that
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the test is actually preparing you and it's
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it's there are lessons learned in these tests where you will then become the
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person the person who has evolved to welcome those manifestations in so this
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is where it feels a bit personal if you feel like you've been teased a little
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bit like you've been shown a version of your life and then it's been snatched away,
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you may be going, see,
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doesn't work for me, doesn't work for me.
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And that's what we need to change today.
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There's a shift that I need you to hear today.
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That is the sign that it is working.
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I promise you this, that is a sign that it is working. If you are being tested,
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if you've had the rug pulled under you and you feel like it's disappeared,
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trust me, hear what I'm saying now, this is a sign that your manifestation is working.
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So why does this happen? Because what's actually happening in these moments
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is that you are being asked a very simple question.
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Are you ready to be the version of you who already has this,
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this manifestation that you're trying to attract in?
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Not just are you the person that wants it, not just the person that visualizes
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it, but are you the actually the version of you who has this,
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who can hold it? Because there is a difference, I promise you.
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And I think that this is where manifestation can kind of get a little bit misunderstood.
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People think it is just about thinking positively and waking waiting rather
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not waking we're not waking for anything are we,
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When something comes in and then it leaves, that is not punishment.
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And you have to get out of that mindset of feeling poor you or that victim status.
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Are you feeling like you've been punished?
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And it's okay if you have felt that because it can be really hard to deal with.
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It can feel like you've been built up and then you've been knocked down.
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It is not rejection. I promise you this. Now, I have someone really, really close to me.
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Now, I'm not going to tell you who it is because if they're listening,
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I don't want them to be embarrassed.
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But there is a person really, really close to me who would love to meet their
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soulmate and they haven't had much luck with dating.
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And this episode today could not speak more about them and the way that they are.
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And this isn't to criticize. This isn't to judge. I just want to see if you identify with it.
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So what happens is that she'll quite often, she'll go through runs of going, no, that's it.
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I'm not dating anymore. I can't do this. It doesn't work. There's no one out there for me.
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Then once that calms down, she tries again. She'll go online dating.
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She'll maybe reach out to people.
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And then someone will come along that excites her.
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Maybe she'll have a few phone calls. Maybe she'll even have a date.
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And she goes, oh, my God, it was brilliant. And they liked me and it was like
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this and we had a connection and blah, blah, blah, blah. And then they just disappear.
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Maybe they ghost her or they suddenly become a bit flaky.
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And instead of just kind of moving on and going, OK, what we're recognizing
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today, and I know it's not easy to do, but I am going to give you the tools for this.
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But rather than saying, OK, this means I'm on the cusp of something and there's
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a lesson learned in here.
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Rather than that, what she does is she comes crashing down with the fallout.
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Like, no, that's it. And the words that she says all the time is she goes, I don't get it.
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It's like I've had a carrot dangled in front of me going, here you go.
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Here's someone that might actually be interested.
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And she says and then it's taken away and it makes it 10 times harder because
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she's like I'd actually rather just be single and not meet anyone and not have
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these interactions where I get my hopes up and she says I feel like I get my
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hopes up and then they're knocked down,
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They're knocked away, they knock me down, and they're swept off,
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and then I'm left absolutely crushed, crashing down, and feeling the lowest of the low.
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Now, I'm sure we can identify that in so many ways, but it's also so frustrating
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because it's a constant pattern, and these patterns often repeat themselves.
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And I want you to know that when these tests come in, it's not punishment,
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it's not rejection, it's not the universe playing games with your emotions.
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It's exposure it's showing you where you
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still doubt yourself where you're still
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willing to just settle where you're still
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panicking and where you still don't fully believe
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it's yours now I often relate this back to
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people who entertain their exes
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when they get in touch and go hey what you doing and
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they know their ex is no good for them they know that what
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they offer them isn't great and that's not what they want in a
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relationship but they'll still entertain them go well
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do you know what I'll just carry on seeing them for
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a bit because I'm a bit lonely and then when the right person comes along
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that's almost like that test where you know
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you're on the cusp of something you're on the cusp of perhaps meeting
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your soulmate and universe is just checking just checking
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if you're still doubting yourself just checking to
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see if your worth has grown or if you're still willing to
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accept what's not good enough for you so instead
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of thinking this opportunity is being
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taken away from me the real question actually
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is what is this showing me about who
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I still am and who I need to become
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let's make this really real because I know this is where it hits and you may
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be thinking yeah actually I do have circumstances where I feel like this has
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happened to me so perhaps let's think about maybe you apply for a job so you
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apply for a new job and you think it's perfect.
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Absolutely perfect for me you can already picture your
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life in it you get through to the final stage you
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start imagining yourself in this new job
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and how the you know maybe maybe the pay
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is better maybe the conditions are better you picture
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your life in it you get to the final stage
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you're excited you're imagining your first day
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what you're going to wear your routine how you're
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going to commute there and then all of a sudden you get
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a rejection email I'm really sorry you didn't get the
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job and your first thought is I've done
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all of this work on myself and
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yet nothing what was the point what was the point in that why do I now feel
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like I've been built up and then smashed down what if the test isn't the job
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what if the test is do you now believe there are better opportunities is coming?
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Or do you spiral like the person that I told you about in my life?
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Do you spiral into thinking, well, that's it, that's gone, that was my only
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chance, forget it, I'm going to become miserable and I'm going to be,
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you know, fall into victim mode and I'm going to be bitter.
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The version of you who already has the gene job does not believe there's only
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one opportunity. Now, remember one of my favorite sayings, it's this or something better.
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You have to dust yourself off. I know it can sound hard and I hope I'm not coming
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across too harsh by going, don't be a victim, don't be miserable.
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Yes, of course, you're going to feel disappointed.
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But do you spiral and let that be your narrative for the rest of your life?
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Or do you brush yourself off and say something better?
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This isn't the only opportunity for me. Now, I often talk about a client of
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mine, one of my very first clients a couple of years ago, and she was trying
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to manifest her dream home.
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And she found her dream home and she put an offer in and it was accepted.
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And she was like, this is amazing. There's no other home.
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And by the way, there's a lot more into this is that she was trying to find a dream home.
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Then she found it and then other people wanted it. And she was working at work.
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She was like, this is the only house. This is the only house. It's the best house.
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It's got the best garden. There will never be anything else like it.
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She put the offer in. It got accepted. She was like, yay. Anyway.
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The offer was pulled and the actual, the owners, they took the house off the market.
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She came crashing down my client. She was like, that's it.
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This is ridiculous. You know, I've gone all of this way. That's the dream home and that's it.
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Anyway, we carried on working together and trying to unravel how she felt about
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it and building up her mindset of it's this or something better.
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And she was struggling to see that. but
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six weeks later a new house
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came on the market I have to say it was
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a bigger house it was a better house with a
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better garden she couldn't believe it but it
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was out of her price range so she was like see this is what I
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mean it was never anyway for whatever reason the owners
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had to make a really quick sale and they slashed
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the price on the house now all of
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a sudden she swooped in she put
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an offer in and she had moved within 12 weeks now
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what she laughs about now and this is why I like to use this example she was
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saying at the time when she lost that first house she thought that was it she
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would never find a better house than that she felt it was unfair she couldn't
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understand why she'd done all of this hard work and this manifesting and then it
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just been taken away from her but actually in reality there was a better opportunity
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waiting for her and she had to hang on to that hope and that belief it was that or something better.
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So let's look at like a relationship example. Maybe like you meet someone,
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it feels natural, it feels exciting, it feels buzzing.
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They show you interest, they text you, they call you.
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Maybe you start to think, finally, I've done it.
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And then all of a sudden they pull away. They get flaky, they disappear.
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They become inconsistent, they ghost you.
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And it stings like hell, doesn't it?
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It properly stings, I've been there before. and again
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your brain goes why does this always happen
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to me just like my person I was telling you about why does
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this always happen to me but your test here
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is are you going to chase
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them are you going to overthink do you
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shrink yourself to keep them I've
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got hiccups excuse me do you shrink yourself to
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keep them this is what happens a lot is that we suddenly
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start to change ourselves because we think oh I
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have to entice them because you fall in love with the
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possibility and the hope and
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the potential of this person but actually you don't need
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to shrink yourself what is the test here maybe you
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say no the version of me who is
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deeply loved does not need to convince someone else
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to stay and that is the attitude you go
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with yes you're allowed to feel disappointed I really
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don't want you to think this is toxic positivity and
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that you have to just go la la la that's okay I feel
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fine you can feel disappointed but then you say I'm
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not convincing anyone else to stay
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and that is your shift that is the shift that is going to change your life that
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is the shift that is going to change your manifesting game and the same if you
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have like an opportunity you maybe want you to think about times where you feel
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like you've had this moment.
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Almost opportunity that is the worst feeling
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when something comes in fast like you don't even
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have time to doubt it it just lands
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and you think this is it this is
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my moment and then it disappears what is
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that it disappears and you feel silly for getting
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excited you feel silly for trusting
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the universe and that feeling of oh I
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wish I never even got my hopes up it's almost like
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you're annoyed at yourself you get annoyed it's
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oh why did I get excited about it
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why did I allow myself to dream such stupid things
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but actually that moment
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was showing you what's available that
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is your test it's a little teaser trailer little teaser
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trailer of what's to come so if you find yourself
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in this position where you feel like something has come into your life which
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you feel is exciting an opportunity a job a person an
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event an opportunity and you
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feel like it's taken away turn that round and
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think ah this is showing me
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what's available how exciting this is
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the kind of thing that may come to me this is the kind of opportunity that's
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going to arrive in my life so the test is do you now believe that kind of thing
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can happen again or do you decide to decide to shut yourself off and to protect your feelings.
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Which one are you going to go with? Because I know which one I want to go with.
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I want to believe that that can happen again.
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And let me tell you this, if it has happened once, it can happen again.
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If it's happened once, it can happen even better again.
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It's this or something better.
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Now, what's amazing about if you're
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being tested by the universe is that this
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is where most people give up like my friend that I was telling you about this
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is where most people give up and go right that's it I'm calling it a day it
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doesn't work whereas actually you are on the cusp of something amazing so don't
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be that person that quits at this point because.
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What happens is people take this test and they take it as evidence that it's
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not working instead of seeing it as evidence that it's actually getting closer.
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You are actually getting closer to your manifestation.
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It's easier, isn't it, to go, see, it wouldn't happen for me.
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You throw the towel in, that's it, you walk away.
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It feels easier to say that rather than to say, okay, I feel disappointed.
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But this is part of the process I'm
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going to keep going I am deciding to
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keep going and one feels protective
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and the other feels vulnerable but the truth
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is every single thing that you want
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it requires you to become someone who
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can hold it without fear without desperation
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without running without doubt running
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the show and these moments they build
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that version of you it's like a resilience but
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this resilience is like you stepping into your future self shoot you get through
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this test and you go I'm carrying on I'm pushing through because I know my manifestation
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is coming I've had a little peek about into what could be and I know that there
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is more of that to come how exciting,
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you step into that new version of you,
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you evolve by making that choice instead of saying, see, it doesn't happen to me.
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So how to move through the test? Like, what do you actually do when you're in it?
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Because when you're in that weird in-between where you feel like something almost
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happened and now it feels a bit lost, you know, how to handle it?
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Firstly, don't make it mean something negative about you.
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This is no reflection of you. It's not something you've done or haven't done.
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This, it's not everything that doesn't work out.
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It's not everything that doesn't work out that is a reflection of you.
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And your worth and that's what I want you
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to remember you didn't lose it it wasn't taken from
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you it wasn't snatched from you you are
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simply being redirected it
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is that simple and I actually think of this as like you go you're going further
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ahead in the game in the game of life and actually I've just thought just suddenly
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thought of this time when um I work in film and tv so if you don't know this
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about me as well as being a manifestation coach I also designed the makeup for
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the makeup and hair for film and TV.
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So I'm self-employed and a lot of my contracts come through word of mouth and
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I remember getting this really, really great job with ITV.
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I'd read the script, I'd interviewed, I'd got the job, I'd met the cast,
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I'd started prepping the job.
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Now we're a couple of weeks in and the job fell through and I felt really for a moment hard done by.
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I thought what was the point in that all of
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the work I'd done on the script and the interviews and
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I felt like it was the perfect kind of job on my vision board
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and it aligned and I felt really really gutted so it suddenly came to an end
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so it felt like it was there and it was taken away from me now I kid you not
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on the very very same day a producer that I'd worked with a year ago he called me He said, hi, Holly,
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I don't suppose you're free at the moment. And I was like.
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Actually funny enough I am
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and he said I have got this great opportunity with
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Disney we've left it really last minute to hire
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a hair and makeup designer would you be
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interested it starts in a few weeks time here's the
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package now when I tell you on my
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vision board was to design something for Disney the
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package was amazing the location we
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were shooting was out of this world and the
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job was fantastic now had
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I been with the ITV job I wouldn't have
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been able to kind of even entertain that
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phone call with Disney because I'd already accepted this job I
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would have been busy and I wouldn't have been able to do it now if I'd have
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gone right that's it it's all over this doesn't happen to me then I could have
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lost out on this big opportunity with Disney so you have to remember I really
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like that example because it is this or something better.
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So also find the lesson, but don't force it.
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So not everything has to be a big, deep, dramatic breakdown,
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but sometimes there will be a lesson in it.
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And it may be simple, like I deserve better than that.
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I need to trust myself more or I don't need to rush into things.
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Take what feels true for you and just leave the rest behind and then walk away.
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Carry on walking into your future.
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Decide who you're going to be anyway. And this is where the actual power is.
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So you go, okay, you know what?
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Regardless of what has happened, who am I choosing to be now?
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Because your identity doesn't come from what worked out.
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It comes from what you decide to do next.
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That's really the crutch of it, isn't it?
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Keep your standards and don't lower them. So after a test, what can happen is
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that people tend to settle.
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It's almost like you get a bit shaken when you go, oh, I've got my hopes up there.
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So do you know what? I'm just going to settle for that guy. I'm going to settle
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for my ex. I'm going to settle for that job that doesn't excite me.
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So instead of just settling, you know, because you may go, oh,
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maybe I was asking too much.
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That's what you need to shift from. Instead, just think you are actually just getting closer.
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So we're not going to go back and shrink ourselves and settle.
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Just think, ah, we're getting closer. And expect it to work our energy.
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Anyway, so instead of going, that didn't work, just go, do you know what? That wasn't it.
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When one door closes, another, no. When one door closes, no.
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When a window closes, a door opens. When a door closes, a window opens.
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Whichever way you want to look at it, what I want you to know is that that wasn't it.
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It's okay. There's something else coming. It's this or something better.
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And I want you to start seeing these moments differently. So instead of saying,
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why is this happening to me?
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Try turning that around and say, what is this preparing me for?
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Because the version of you who already has everything you want has been through moments like this.
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You didn't get there without doubt, without disappointment, without things not working out.
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You know what? You didn't stop there. You carried on, you persisted and you
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kept walking into your future in your future self's shoes.
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So if you're in a moment right now where
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something maybe almost happened or
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it didn't work out or it left you feeling a bit like well
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what was the point in that I need you to
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hear this you are not being messed around
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you are simply being moved forward so
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stay with it stay open stay in
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that energy of it's still happening for me because I
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promise you it is remember my words
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today you are not being tested it's not
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the universe isn't against you it is simply
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getting ready for that next opportunity the
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new version of you who is able to accept that
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new opportunity when it does all come together and it will you will look back
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on this moment and you will realize it wasn't rejection it was just preparing
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you for future you future opportunities future happiness future manifestation it is that simple guys.
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Well, I hope you have enjoyed this episode. If you have, please,
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please, please subscribe to the podcast.
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Now, I found out today, now I'm very excited. I have had 20.5 thousand downloads
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on the podcast. I am absolutely buzzing.
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And I was looking at the statistics today and
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they were saying that with the amount of downloads it really
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in theory puts me in the top 100 podcasts in
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the UK for self-development hello excuse me
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however when I was looking at the
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stats they actually said but but but
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but they don't rely on downloads what
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they actually rely on in terms of putting you like
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in you know I don't know top 100 or something
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like that it's actually on how many subscribers you
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have but so for example if you're listening to like
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Apple podcast or Spotify it's not
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just listening to the podcast or downloading it it's if
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you've subscribed to it so I feel a little bit cheated on that but listen
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that's fine guys it's all a learning process you know
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the manifestation station is still very new.
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In theory it's only like just over a year old so I'm learning
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this myself I'm learning it as I go along with
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you so I hope you're enjoying it so if
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you can do me a favor and subscribe and rate the
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podcast if you want to give it five stars wow thank you
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but just rate it it'll be really handy if you've enjoyed this
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episode and you feel like you've got someone who keeps saying oh why
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does it never happen for me then please send them
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this episode and spread the love and I
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just want you to remember that what's meant for you isn't missing you it's finding
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its way to you and that's it so please share this in fact please slide into
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my dms at the holly edwards on instagram or at the dot manifestation station i love seeing you,
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Make your manifestation dreams come true. I love you getting over your hurdles.
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It honestly makes my day.
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So thank you so much and I'll see you in the next one. Goodbye.