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How To Expand Your Energetic Capacity To Hold More Abundance · Feminine Fire with Bec Cuzzillo

• 0:48
  Hi, hi, hi.
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  Today we are talking all about how to expand your energetic capacity to hold more.
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  Now, I got the idea to do this episode a couple of weeks ago when I went looking for something on this very topic myself, because this is something that I am actively working on right now.
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  I am actively working on expanding my capacity to hold more, to hold more abundance, to hold more money, more clients, more in my life and in my business.
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  And when I went searching for an episode on this topic, I couldn't find a lot.
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  So I thought, "If I can't find what I'm looking for, then it's up to me to create it." So I wanted to share this episode today from that perspective, and also from the perspective of someone who is currently doing this work right now.
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  I am in the middle of it.
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  I am in the trenches with you, so to speak Now, a little bit of context.
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  I am a mum of three.
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  I have a one-year-old at home with me full time.
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  I've got two older boys who are seven and four.
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  I'm running a business, a business that I am actively scaling and growing right now.
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  I am actively working towards doubling my revenue this year, and I'm doing all of that while being a present mum and not really being willing to sacrifice that time with my kids so I've got a balance to find here.
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  I also wanna be a good partner to my husband.
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  I wanna look after myself.
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  I wanna have somewhat of a social life and not burn myself out in the process.
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  So I'm holding a lot, and during my last launch, I had this realization that I was feeling very stretched.
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  I was feeling very much at capacity, which has a lot to do with my season of life right now, and also a lot of those things which are quite temporary.
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  But when you're actively trying to call in more abundance, actively trying to make more sales, actively trying to call in more clients, which is what you're doing during a launch, but you also feel like you have no more space in your day, you have no more space in your life or in your business because you are literally at energetic capacity, it makes it very hard to manifest what you wanna manifest.
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  And what's so interesting about this is that I have been teaching manifestation for going on 10 years in different ways, and even though I teach this stuff, even though I know this stuff, you can still find yourself in a situation where you're not necessarily always practicing what you preach, or you realize that there's another layer to it.
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  I was doing a lot of the strategic practical things I needed to do to have a successful launch, but I wasn't necessarily doing the energetic piece as much as I needed to be, particularly in this season where I do have a lot going on.
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  And I truly believe that it is your energy that ultimately sells your offer, so it's no surprise that while I did make some sales during this last launch, I didn't hit my launch goals.
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  I was far from hitting my launch goals, actually, and one of the main reasons I believe why is this energetic piece that I wanna talk to you about today.
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  So here's what we're gonna do.
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  First, I wanna talk about what I mean when I say your energetic capacity and how it then impacts your ability to manifest and hold more abundance, and then I'm gonna share what I'm actively doing right now to expand my own energetic capacity.
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  So if you are wanting to do the same, then you're gonna have some tangible things that you can walk away from this episode with today and actually start this process yourself.
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  So let's get into it.
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  What is your energetic capacity?
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  When I talk about your energetic capacity, I'm talking about your body, your nervous system, and also to an extent your mind, because the mind-body connection is very real.
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  So I'm talking about that threshold you have to hold everything that is going on in your life at any one time.
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  That includes the emotions you're holding, the physical things you're doing in your day, what you're thinking about, how many things are on your to-do list, your mental load, and then how much energy you have to give to those things, and how much energy is left over at the end of the day.
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  And your energetic capacity isn't capped or finite or static.
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  It is something that expands, it contracts, it shifts, and it might look different on different days.
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  And because it is something that isn't capped or finite or static, it means that you can consciously expand your capacity to hold more.
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  When I think about my energetic capacity before I had kids, it was very different to what it is now.
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  Each time I've had a baby, and I've got three of them, my capacity has expanded.
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  I've had to hold more.
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  I'm not just holding myself and my business and my relationships, but I now have the responsibility of raising children, looking after them, holding their energy as well.
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  And even though I know this intellectually, I do still find it absolutely wild how you are able to expand your capacity when it is required of you.
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  When it's required of you, you do it.
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  You rise to that challenge.
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  And it's not just with having kids.
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  Things that you didn't think you had capacity for once are now likely your new normal.
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  It is possible to expand your capacity, and if you look back at your capacity one year ago, two years ago, five years ago, 10 years ago, it's likely very different.
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  You likely have a different capacity to hold more now in your life than you once did.
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  So if your capacity can expand through circumstance and necessity, it can also expand through your intention.
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  You have the ability to actively expand your energetic capacity, and that is what we are talking about today Now, your energetic capacity also impacts your ability to manifest, because you can only manifest what you are able to hold in your energetic field.
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  Or maybe you might manifest something, but you don't hold onto it.
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  We see this all the time with people who win the lottery, for example.
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  It is well documented that lottery winners will often spend all of the money that they've won and be in the very same position they were when they started just a few years later.
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  They might have manifested that money into their life, but energetically, they weren't necessarily ready to hold that money.
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  This is how your energetic capacity impacts your ability to manifest.
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  And it's also about how much energetic space you have right now.
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  To use another non-business related example, if you are someone who is single, and for example, you're wanting to manifest a partner, but right now you have a full calendar, a full bedroom full of stuff, a wardrobe with no space, your bed is pushed up against the wall, and there's only one bedside table because it is just you right now, you don't need, technically, a second bedside table yet, you are not physically and energetically creating space for that person in your life.
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  So in this instance, what I would recommend is moving the bed away from the wall, getting a second bedside table, creating some space in your closet, creating some space in your calendar, creating some space in your actual life for that person you are wanting to call in.
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  Now, that's a very physical, tangible example, but the energetic side of things is the same, but more internal.
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  If you are wanting to manifest more abundance into your life and you currently have no energetic space for it, if you are at capacity, if you are feeling stretched, if you couldn't possibly hold any more right now, then it is going to be very, very hard to manifest more.
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  And that's where I was during my last launch.
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  That's where I've been.
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  So the first step is the awareness that that is the case, and then the second step is what does it actually look like to expand actively your energetic capacity?
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  So that's what I want to share with you now.
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  The first thing that is always worth doing, first and foremost before anything else, is a bit of an audit.
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  An audit of everything that is currently taking your energy, so all of your energetic outputs, and also everything that is coming in as an energetic input.
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  We know that when you look after yourself, when you're eating well, when you're moving your body, when you are nourishing yourself in the ways you need to, you are in a much better place to hold what you need to hold.
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  Your capacity is different when you're looking after yourself.
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  So it's not just about looking at what is draining your energy out there and how you might maybe reorganize things to support yourself better, but also what you are doing to actively input good energy into your body.
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  Something I did recently was take my first solo night away since Ruben was born, and for me, especially after the launch that I had and where I was energetically, it was exactly what I needed.
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  It was a real energetic reset that my body so, so needed, my mind so needed, and I came away from that weekend just feeling so much more rejuvenated.
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  Now, of course, that's not always possible, but it is an example of something that I did to actively input good energy.
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  So what is it that you are doing to support yourself and to support your energetic capacity in that way?
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  We also then wanna look at the inputs that are draining our energy, and I think one of the biggest problems is that we are chronically overstimulated as a society.
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  The amount of information that is going into our brains in one single day is insane.
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  Our brains were not designed for this level, this volume of input and stimulation.
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  And the messaging we're seeing, the state of the world right now, it all contributes enormously to this drain on our energy.
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  And it's not about being ignorant or unaware of what's going on, but it is about being intentional about the content that we are engaging in and the amount of input that we are taking in each day.
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  Something I've already done a lot of work on this year is my relationship with my phone, and I have talked about this a few times on the podcast already.
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  But bricking my phone overnight between the hours of 10:00 PM and 8:00 AM, meaning that during those hours I have no access to social media or email or any work apps, it has been totally game-changing for me and my energy.
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  And if you have any questions about that, if you wanna know what it's been like bricking my phone, if you don't know what a brick is and you wanna chat about this option for you, then jump into my DMs and let me know.
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  You can find me at Bec_Cuzzillo on Instagram.
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  I'm more than happy to have that conversation with you.
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  But I know that there's more that I can do in this space as well.
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  I know that I have taken that step and it's been really positive, but I do still spend a lot of time on my phone, on social media, on email, and yes, it's for work, but it's also just a habit.
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  These apps have been designed to suck us in and get us stuck there.
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  So I'm really looking at what the next level of that looks like for me The point being, as someone who is wanting to manifest and call things into your life and your business, you wanna make sure the energetic input that you're taking in, the people that you're connecting with, the content that you're consuming, is expanding you rather than contracting you.
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  And there is a lot of messaging, a lot of information out there that can be quite contracting at the moment.
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  So it's about being mindful of how you're engaging with that information and what you're actually allowing in to your energetic field.
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  So auditing where your energy is going and how that may or may not be serving you, and then what energy is coming in and how that may or may not be serving you, and then making some changes from there.
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  That's the first thing you wanna be doing, knowing where your energy is going, what's sustaining it, and what's draining it, and then addressing those things first and foremost.
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  Then we can get to the fun part.
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  How do we actually expand our energetic capacity?
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  And look, I think there are a lot of ways to do this.
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  There's nuance here.
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  There's personal preference.
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  There are going to be practices that you feel intuitively drawn to, and I really encourage you to trust those inner nudges around what those practices are for you.
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  For me, in the past, I've really loved hypnotherapy for this work.
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  I have found hypnosis really expansive for my mindset and my thinking and helping me to rewire my beliefs and my thoughts.
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  So if you know that there is a mindset piece for you here, and there are some limiting beliefs that you know you need to shift, then I'd really encourage you to explore something like hypnotherapy or any other kind of mindset-related practices that can support you to start shifting those beliefs and start rewiring your thoughts to be more supportive.
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  And this is something that I am doing right now.
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  I have recordings from past sessions with my hypnotherapist that were recorded specifically for me based on conversations that we had at the time when I was feeling really stuck in my life and my business, and they really opened me up to more expanded possibilities and helped me move through a lot of that stuckness at the time.
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  So as a first step, I'm revisiting those hypnosis tracks now during this next season of expansion, and then I'm looking at what other support might be helpful for me here too At the same time, I'm also leaning into what this looks like somatically, so in my body, energetically.
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  This is something that I was reminded of in a guest session that we had inside the Mistress Mind last month.
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  I organized for the wonderful Em Roberts, who is a somatic practitioner.
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  She came in and did a somatic session for us on visibility and being more visible in your business.
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  I'll make sure I tag Em in the show notes because she is just fabulous at what she does.
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  But it really reminded me of how we can play with and feel into the expansion of our energetic field through somatic practices.
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  And this is something that I learned when I trained as a Reiki healer, to tap into your own energetic field and use that energetic field in your healing practice.
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  You can, of course, do this for yourself, too.
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  So if you close your eyes and you visualize your energetic field, if you visualize your energetic body, which usually sits just outside your physical body.
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  And obviously only do this if you're safe to do this.
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  If you're driving a car or if you're moving around, please don't close your eyes.
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  But if you are able to, do this with me now.
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  I want you to close your eyes and feel your energetic body.
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  And within that energetic field, I want you to notice what your current capacity feels like.
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  What does it look like?
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  For me, it comes through more as a feeling than a visual, but trust whatever comes up for you.
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  Just go with it.
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  And then with your intention, begin to expand that energetic field out.
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  Imagine it growing bigger.
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  Now, as someone trained in this space as a Reiki healer, this practice feels quite natural to me.
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  But if it doesn't feel natural to you right now or if you can't feel it as much as you would want to, that's okay.
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  It does get easier with practice.
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  But the idea here is that as you expand that energetic field, you are expanding your capacity to hold more.
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  How big can you go with it?
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  Play with that energy.
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  Realize that you are the one who is in control of that.
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  You are the one who holds the power And there's also a safety piece here because it's about feeling safe to hold more.
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  What does it feel like in your body to hold more than you currently are?
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  What does it feel like in your body to expand that energetic capacity?
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  Sit with that too.
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  See what comes up for you.
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  This is something that I am actively practicing right now, and even just the awareness that you can expand your energetic field, that you have the ability to do that, that can start to shift things for you.
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  You realize it is something within your control, within your power.
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  That's what I wanna leave you with today.
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  I have been in business for 10 years.
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  I have been a Reiki master for longer than that.
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  I have been doing this energetic and manifestation work for a really long time, and I still have to actively work on this.
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  I still have moments where I realize that I've let this fall off, and I need to get back to it, or that there's this next layer to this work for me.
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  It's not a one-and-done thing.
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  You don't have to have it all figured out.
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  I'm sharing this right now while I'm in the middle of doing it myself.
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  I'm not perfect.
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  I'm still learning.
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  I'm still discovering things.
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  It is a continual process, and these are practices that you can lean back into, things that you can come back to when you need them.
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  Once you have the awareness of where you might be contracted or where you might be at capacity right now, or where you're not as expanded as you would like to be, you have the ability to do something about it.
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  You can do that physically by rearranging things in your calendar and getting in more support and doing what you need to do in the tangible, physical sense, and you can do that on an energetic level, too.
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  Ideally, you wanna be doing both.
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  So my hope with this episode today is that it's given you some awareness around what that might look like for you specifically right now, where you might be contracted right now, where you might be at capacity, and what it could look like for you to create more energetic space, to expand your energetic capacity to hold more abundance And it's never too late, it's never a waste.
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  Doing this work can only lead to more positive outcomes.
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  Actively expanding your energetic capacity leads to good things, and I'm always putting it out there to the universe that it is this or something better.
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  Right now, I know that I am where I need to be.
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  I have had the experience of being at capacity, I've had the awareness, I've recognised those blind spots, and I'm now doing something about it.
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  You've got the power to do that too.
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  So I hope that this episode resonated with you today.
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  Please come and let me know.
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  I would love to hear your thoughts, your takeaways, what you are doing right now to expand your energetic capacity.
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  I would absolutely love to hear that and have that conversation with you.
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  You can send me a DM at Bec_Cuzzillo on Instagram.
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  And if you loved this episode, share it on your stories, tag me, send it to a friend.
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  Make sure you follow and subscribe, and leave me a five star review.
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  It helps more than you know it does.
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  Okay.
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  That is it from me today.
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  I love you, I appreciate you, and I will see you next time on the Feminine Fire podcast.