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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just -How can I use my winter strengths during summer chaos? 6.11.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  You explained yesterday check on your close the door.
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  You explained yesterday the overall theme of a person
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  developing and there's really only one track tractor
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  developing and that's two personal character work even to
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  reach the highest heights of Kuru Shah of Ruha Kodesh of the
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  Kowach to perform Tajata Mateen literally even that only comes
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  to personal development that sits no other way.
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  The attar kore Naeem yadati. Now he tells he tells us, my
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  dear reader, yadati, I know that chequemoni teda Ashe kalita Ashe
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  kaliti Pacific ET coho quechas dute.
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  I realized I did not finish all the guidelines of growth.
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  Well, Marty coma Sheshon Marbenyanze and I haven't said
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  everything there is to say on this topic.
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  Quien la Davarzov, there literally is no end.
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  Van laid born in Taklit and to an understander, to a person
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  who's thinking the contemplation, there is no end,
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  no finale. As I say about a Marathi
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  ksatmiko prache bertera berta. I have said only part of some of
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  the details of the list that we started with in the beginning of
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  the book. The Breita are written by a
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  Seren rally to be my husband. Your ear as to how a person can
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  grow to great heights. My entire book was based on a
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  list and a ladder of steps to greatness.
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  Oh mashiacho Liotta, all that I've given you is only the
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  beginning. Vireshit and the start.
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  Lahi vahiyun binyani mahem to expand the analyzation on these
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  topics of growth. Kevin Shenigla, Darcano Venevtak
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  or Khan Lane Eno la leche bam Pederak Mishor because which
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  would serve as a starting point and the beginning to broaden the
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  in depth study of these matters to say in English, not now.
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  In that way you can do more and more based in the review of
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  past. In other words, which he's
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  telling you, he's telling you all that I've told you so far is
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  only the beginning. You know, as I say, you're only
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  getting started. You're only getting started and
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  all I gave you were the blueprints, the guidelines, the
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  stages of greatness. That's all I've done, which
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  really means, which really means every single person as I play
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  out this way, every single person in their own life should
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  follow these steps to greenness. No question, no matter who you
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  are, follow these steps, but realize that all that you were
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  given was just steps and you need to take it your own way.
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  Which means if you learn about awareness, you learn about
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  humility, you learn about dedication, you learnt about
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  being a Hassid and mitzvot, you learnt about different character
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  elements that He gave you. Recognize that for you all there
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  are are the starting points that you in your own life with your
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  own mindset, your own upbringing, your own background,
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  you need to take all of that and use it your way and your version
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  of development. Your Messiah Sharim and my
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  Messiah Sharim are supposed to be different.
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  Your pathway to greatness and my path to greatness.
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  Yes, they're built on the same blueprint, but they are expected
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  to be different because all that you were given was just a
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  starting point and now you take a Joe away.
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  What do you use? You use your background, you use
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  your understanding, you use your upbringing, you use your life,
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  you use your perspective, and you build on that and you take
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  this blueprint and you take it toward your path.
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  Literally, a rabbi and a Lehman have two different versions of
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  all this. One person 11 business.
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  Another person in a different business has a different version
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  as to what it means to be a person who's dedicated one kind
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  of marriage to another kind of marriage, one kind of parenting,
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  another kind of parenting, one level of wealth to another level
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  of wealth, one community, more person, part of this community,
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  part of a different community. It all develops itself in its
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  same light and in fact, in your own life itself.
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  Kill out parts of your life where your Messiah Shah name is
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  1 and your other Messiah shame is another play it out plainly.
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  You have the the winter miss slide shining and the summer
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  miss slide shining. They're different things.
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  And that means that during the winter we have certain
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  challenges. During the summer we have other
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  challenges and they are literally totally opposite and
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  different. If you say in the summer, if you
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  get together with a lot of family and you get together with
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  that structure and you have the classic social settings at the
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  summer bring, if you have that, it's a whole different book of
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  challenge. And the winter version is
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  because the winter one, yes, you get together with a family, but
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  it's a little bit more open shop.
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  And yes, you're around people, but it's not as much talk and
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  it's not as much hype and there's not as much action and
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  all that. So your focus has to be on the
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  natural personal development, whatever Messiah Sham gave you.
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  Now in the summertime, you need to take that and apply it to the
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  chaos and the craziness and the talk and the hype, hype, hype
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  that we have and all of that. And you need to figure out a
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  way. Let's take for example class
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  example topic of humility, right?
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  Humility requires, it requires certain understanding of life
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  and certain realization that I do not want to be in the
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  limelight and I don't want to be a big deal and I'm OK, I'm OK
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  being low key. You can go a whole winter and be
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  somewhat low key. Come to the summertime for
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  certain people and it's loud and it's height.
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  That's a big deal. Now your job to be humble, it's
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  a whole different thing, right? Take the example of getting
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  along. Shalom right?
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  So during the whole winter time, you know you have a system in
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  place that allows you to be Michelle Long comes the
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  summertime. Certain things go on certain
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  things don't go on, whatever it may be.
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  And because it does certain social gatherings Shalom and
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  more of a challenge. Take the example of raising
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  children during the winter time. You have this school that does
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  have the job for you and the summertime you might have camp,
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  but they don't give you they give you structure, but they
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  don't address this and our raising children, especially
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  with all the influences of the song brings on the may overall
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  pull of hey, they do that. Why can't we do that at overall
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  talk, which is one of the hardest things to deal with as a
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  parent, right? I think personally, me
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  personally, it becomes high in in the summertime, which is they
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  do it. How can we can't do it?
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  They're going here, how can we go here?
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  And all those different things. Much more on your face and you
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  have to be much more of an independent parent.
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  These are just examples. I'm sure every person's got
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  their own examples. And it could be in certain areas
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  the winter is worse in the summer.
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  I'm not one to overall say and say, you know, Torah is worse in
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  the summer than it is in the winter.
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  Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. I don't know anymore.
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  Used to be. Today it might be even stronger.
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  You may have to reset. You know, you have to settle
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  yourself. But Tarah could be very strong
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  in your new setting. That's fine.
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  But the point is, is that you miss Shirley Sharin, which means
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  your pathway of growth is completely different based on
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  each individual and based on each individual's new setting.
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  And when you come to a new setting in life, you need to
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  realize and be aware. And when life throws you new,
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  new scenarios, you have to be ready for it.
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  And you have to come up when that means how to handle it.
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  And don't just say to yourself, I'm good.
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  I've been good. I had a good year, I developed
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  well, so I'll be fine in my new setting.
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  No, you won't. That's part of God's plan.
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  His plan is it's to throw a curveball.
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  The curveball means just when things are getting good, I'm
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  going to break it up. Now I'm going to ask you, how do
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  you handle this? And if you can handle that
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  another notch under your belt. All right, I'll give you an
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  example that we were talking about last night about a shot
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  class because we're trying to write what we're talking about
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  and asking is how do you expect, How can you explain these?
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  Mary Ghalim were defined as great people originally spies.
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  They were considered unashamed great people.
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  How can you explain them, you know, having a lack of faith or
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  how do you define the challenge with the spy, the spy hood?
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  How do you explain it? It's so off doesn't fit with
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  their position just a few minutes ago, days ago.
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  And the overall theme we had was developed was, is that they
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  might have been great and there might have been believers even
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  in their current setting, which means while in the deserts with
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  the clouds and with them on, they can see that as the hand of
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  Hashem. But they couldn't imagine based
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  on certain mindsets, whatever it may be, they couldn't imagine
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  and in a new setting and a new land, what you're reliant on
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  agriculture and you rely on regular means of wealth and all
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  of that. Maybe they couldn't imagine how
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  Hashem's delivery would exist there, or maybe there's an
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  element of enemies over there. Whatever it may be, there are
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  more now, might have been as strong as possible, but that's
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  for now, not for then. And the job of a Jew is to be
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  able to adapt quickly and to be able to say I'm doing well here,
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  let me apply it there. I have faith here, let me apply
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  it there. I'm growing here, let me apply
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  it over there. And that's the overall job of
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  each and every one of us has to be in the back of our mind at
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  all times. I'm strong in this position.
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  How will I be in the new position?
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  And if I do not have a good ability to travel, then I'm in
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  trouble, right? So.
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  So basically, the spies were prepared.
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  The war people, M&R and just you.
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  Know didn't travel well, you know, they're saying by the
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  sports team they grade at home a bad away and you can't
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  understand how it's possible, but they they, they, they, they
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  don't travel well. The weather means because they
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  stay up late at night when they travel, or I mean because they
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  need the they need the cheers, they can handle the booze, you
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  name it. Whatever the issue is the
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  greater home and bared away. The spies were greater at home
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  and they were bared away. That's what it was basically
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  they had a degree. In other words, the degree of
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  faith was limited. Well, so you.
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  Said last night the. Admiral, that was also a big
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  part of it, which was the alternative motive was
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  unbelievable. The Zara rights that is.
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  They were nervous they're going to lose their jobs once we move
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  into the land 'cause they were spies on desert.
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  Maybe once we settled, they were they were in the same of tribes
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  while they're in the desert. Maybe once we settle, there's
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  going to be a reset and they're going to choose new.
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  Spots they've written their name like.
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  Their SO. Their name is who they were.
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  It's not really like. OK.
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  Their name could have been a positive too.
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  At the time their position, their name reflected negative.
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  You're right, David, but the name could have been a positive
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  as well, how they held on. But the overall theme is an
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  arrangement to that point that you just mentioned, which is
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  they had a skin in the game because they were nervous about
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  losing the job. We said last night that too is a
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  lack of faith because you believe in Hashem, even if you
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  might lose your job, you might get a better job, right?
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  So the overall theme was that faith didn't travel well because
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  it was a weak faith. It was a weaker faith.
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  And we're telling you just for today's lesson, you should have
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  the only slash Shaheen. I knew you slash Shaheen.
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  Your stages of growth should adopt well, which means you
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  should tell yourself all the time, I'm great here, how am I
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  there? I'm doing well here.
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  What will it be over there? You have to ask yourself this
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  question after you reach a certain notch.
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  Now you have to expect a little bit of a curveball because
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  that's how life works, right? It's not like if I'm developing,
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  I'm developing, I'm developing, so I'm set.
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  You're ready and prepared and prone to a curveball.
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  Are you ready for that curveball is the question and the curable
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  Might be the summertime schedule change and might be the
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  summertime Shalom change. Might be the summertime
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  influence change. It might be the summertime talk
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  and hype change. You name where your summertime
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  Achilles. Everyone has got their own
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  Achilles heel in the summer, right?
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  Some people it's the commute. Some people it's the lack of
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  shoe. Some people it's like we said,
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  lack of school. The the Shalom challenges that
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  come up. You name the challenge and not
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  everyone has the same. And by the way, it's
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  interesting. You go to one person and you
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  name them what you believe is a summer challenge.
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  And they happen to not have that issue because they don't have 30
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  people in the house or they don't have kids in school camp
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  got a little or they don't care what people have to say so they
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  don't fall into the hype. So they have no idea what you're
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  talking about when it comes to the summer challenge because
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  they don't realize that one. But the other guy, if you ask
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  him what is the issue with the summer time with all your rabbi,
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  the commute, The first guy doesn't have that rule because
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  he works in deal and the other guy was a rabbi.
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  It's the influence. Everyone talks and everyone's,
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  everyone's making like they have so much money and not everyone
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  has that money and so difficult. Fine, Another person says,
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  Rabbi, I have to deal with all these brother in laws in the
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  house. It's a lot how to handle it.
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  My wife and the sister-in-law is all this too much?
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  That's theirs. Everyone's got their own
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  Achilles heel. But the point is there's
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  definitely something, it's definitely a change and your job
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  is to adapt well, to deal with it, to figure out, be ready.
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  And the fact you got strong, you're settled, you're stable,
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  and that's literally when the punch comes.
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  That's when the change comes and that's when your job is to be
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  able to ride the wave and take it to a whole new level.
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  The summer can be a drop off, it can be a low state airplane
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  mode, or it can be riding the wave to greater greatness.
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  This all depends on how you adapt to it and how you play out
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  to it. And that's what he's telling you
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  over here. Every person was giving a
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  mislead shanim and every person needs to know that I have my own
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  Messiah Shanim and I'm going to take them my own way and none of
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  ours. The end of our lives, days,
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  years, whatever you may be, none of our lives, they can look
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  exactly the same people. We all learned the same book and
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  we all grew true, but we all have different backgrounds.
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  We all have different situations.
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  And because that our developments will be different
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  and that's perfectly fine. That's beautiful.
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  In fact, that's why I shown once.
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  That's why I shown expense expects every person to develop
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  their own way. And you have to be able to adapt
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  well to your situation. And you can't say I was good
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  here. Now I'm facing this.
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  I have no plan. Take your strengths from what
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  you have so far and utilize them toward the next step.
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  And you'll build and build and build so long as you realize
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  your job is to adapt to each and every situation.
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  Up with this. Is that this?