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Kids Honest With You · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Your mama's do
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  Speaker 1: you get your feeling shirt when your kids are honest
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  Speaker 1: with you? Well, let's ask American mama's.
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  Speaker 2: Alma mama enjoining us Now, our American mama is Terry
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  Speaker 2: Neediville and Kimberly Burlison.
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  Speaker 1: You know, the one thing that you could do in
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  Speaker 1: our household that would really, really really get you in
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  Speaker 1: trouble is to not be honest, to tell a lie,
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  Speaker 1: to say something that's not true, that you know is
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  Speaker 1: not true. That's going to get you in more trouble
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  Speaker 1: than even if you did. You know, if you did
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  Speaker 1: something else wrong, covering up what you did wrong was
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  Speaker 1: going to get you in more trouble. So in our household,
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  Speaker 1: honesty is the best policy. How about y'all, Well, let
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  Speaker 1: me tell you a little story.
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  Speaker 3: Let me tell your little story. So after Thanksgiving, with
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  Speaker 3: this wonderful Thanksgiving on Thursday, we go back to my
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  Speaker 3: house and I'm with my kids. We're all standing in
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  Speaker 3: the kitchen, and somehow, some way it turned into the
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  Speaker 3: post Thanksgiving mom roast, and I learned that I was
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  Speaker 3: a helicopter mom from my children. Okay, they went off
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  Speaker 3: on me. I had no idea you think that you
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  Speaker 3: were or did you think you know? I was like,
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  Speaker 3: I was not a helicopter mom, and they were like,
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  Speaker 3: any rebellion that took place with us is a result
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  Speaker 3: of your parenting, is what was shared?
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  Speaker 4: Okay?
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  Speaker 3: And I was like, well, and I said, absolutely not.
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  Speaker 3: I was just aware I had life three sixty. I
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  Speaker 3: knew where you were going, I knew who you were
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  Speaker 3: hanging out with. And they're going, uh huh. And so
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  Speaker 3: I pull it up. I do a Google search and
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  Speaker 3: it described me to a t.
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  Speaker 4: Helicopter.
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  Speaker 3: I said, the beauty is I did I could. I
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  Speaker 3: could start to feel myself just a little, you know,
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  Speaker 3: like and then I said, the beauty of life is
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  Speaker 3: that you can take the good stuff that I've done,
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  Speaker 3: take the bad stuff, change it up, and you can
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  Speaker 3: be the parent that you choose to be when you
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  Speaker 3: have your own children.
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  Speaker 4: Guess what, when they grow up, they're going to be
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  Speaker 4: saying the same day, thanks to y'all, because we are
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  Speaker 4: doing the best that we can with what we have.
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  Speaker 1: That's really interesting because I remember, well, first of all,
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  Speaker 1: my kids have been quote unquote honest with me, and
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  Speaker 1: they they insist I have undiagnosed eighty HD. Really yeah,
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  Speaker 1: they're just I'm like, no, I don't. They're like, yes,
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  Speaker 1: you do, I believe them. I'm like, no, I can.
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  Speaker 1: I can concentrate on stuff for a long time. They're like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that's called hyper focus.
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  Speaker 3: That's a problem.
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  Speaker 4: You gave birth of brilliant baby.
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  Speaker 1: Your online psychology degree is not going to work here
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  Speaker 1: to them. Okay. But the other the other part was
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  Speaker 1: you talk about, you know, we did the best we
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  Speaker 1: did we could. I know I'm gonna scar my kids
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  Speaker 1: one way or another. It's just what parents do. We
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  Speaker 1: don't intend to and I've told my kids whatever I've
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  Speaker 1: done to scar you, I apologize in advance. And as
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  Speaker 1: you guys get older, there's gonna be stuff I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: do that's going to annoy you even more. I apologize
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  Speaker 1: in advance. I'm not trying to annoy you. It's just
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  Speaker 1: kind of what happens. But as we left the hospital
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  Speaker 1: with my son when when he was born, we're walking
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  Speaker 1: out and I've got him in the carrier and we're
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  Speaker 1: gonna put him in the car and I thought the
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  Speaker 1: carrier came with instructions. The baby does not. And as
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  Speaker 1: long as we had the carrier. They were gonna let
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  Speaker 1: us drive off with this. I'm like, you guys don't
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  Speaker 1: know what we're gonna do to the kid.
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  Speaker 3: You have no idea.
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  Speaker 1: How could you There's been no training. Yes, there was
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  Speaker 1: a birthing class. There wasn't a what do you do
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  Speaker 1: after the birthing class?
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  Speaker 3: Exactly?
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  Speaker 1: You don't have instructions.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah we did. We're not a blueprint. I mean, you
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  Speaker 4: know that's what mom was said to us. We just
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  Speaker 4: take what you can that's good, use it on your kids.
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  Speaker 3: And you know, do you remember when our parents we
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  Speaker 3: said this, They were so hard. They were like very
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  Speaker 3: I say, they were like very involved parents too, and
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  Speaker 3: they did not allow us to talk back to them.
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  Speaker 3: So if we did something wrong and they were we
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  Speaker 3: weren't allowed to tell them our version of events basically,
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  Speaker 3: so I swore and we did. We both were like,
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  Speaker 3: when we have kids, we are going to let our
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  Speaker 3: children feel like they have a voice and they can
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  Speaker 3: tell us with the big mistake, Yeah, big mistake.
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  Speaker 4: You know, there there is a lady you know that
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  Speaker 4: you can find these eighties kids, you know, they're now
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  Speaker 4: were in our fifties and we're online. And she said
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  Speaker 4: you know, she said, think about it. She said, we
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  Speaker 4: were the ones that if we hurt ourselves, brush it off.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 4: If you got offended, your problem, right, not theirs right.
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  Speaker 4: And so we made a deal. Okay, our kids are
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  Speaker 4: not going to be latch kids, latchkey kids. We're going
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  Speaker 4: to make sure that their voices are heard. We're going
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  Speaker 4: to listen. We're gonna really, you know, we're gonna do
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  Speaker 4: the soft no. And guess she said, guess what happened.
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  Speaker 4: This is out on us, y'all. She said, we've got
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  Speaker 4: a lot of brats who are acting like they're entitled
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  Speaker 4: to have everything, that they whatever they say, should have
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  Speaker 4: so much relevance that yours doesn't even matter. And but yeah,
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  Speaker 4: of course as parents, you get your feelings hurt when
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  Speaker 4: your kids say stuff. You know, it's so funny because
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  Speaker 4: I would be cheering it. I cheer for the kids,
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  Speaker 4: you know, all their entire lives at games. And one
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  Speaker 4: of my kids was like she turned around, and he
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  Speaker 4: was like, he's like, stop it, you're being too loud.
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  Speaker 4: I was like, you do you and I'll do me
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  Speaker 4: up here, you know. So I was like, I don't,
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  Speaker 4: I mean, this is who I am, so then mine
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  Speaker 4: will make fun of me that way. And then also
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  Speaker 4: they'll say, just recently, it's come to my attention that
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  Speaker 4: I am somebody who will send like little you know,
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  Speaker 4: I'll see a post about vaccines, you know, or whatever,
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  Speaker 4: and I'll send it to them. And so apparently behind
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  Speaker 4: my back they're laughing at me. Here she goes again,
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  Speaker 4: it's kind of like my grandmother Gracey would send me
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  Speaker 4: and landers strips about what to do for a good marriage,
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  Speaker 4: to be a good wife. Apparently I took that on
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  Speaker 4: and I can't.
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  Speaker 1: Edeville Kimbrier, the Brothers, and thank you so much.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks