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Is Gen Z Being Dramatic Or Do Things ACTUALLY Suck Right Now? · The imuRgency Room

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  Why does it feel like you can't go anywhere online without the
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  vibes being actually terrible? Like it seems like it doesn't
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  matter what platform we were on, whether you're looking for it or
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  not, actually both on and offline, that it feels like
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  we're being inundated with just the most negative, most
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  dramatized, click baity and mean spirited content discourse.
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  People, headlines, information, whatever, what have you that
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  just keep bringing the vibes lower and lower.
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  Well, I hate to say it since you clicked on this video, you got
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  caught and let's talk about it. Why does everything seem so
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  negative right now? Hey, guys, what's up?
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  Some urgency walk. Welcome back to my channel.
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  And today it's time to talk about why everything seems so
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  negative in doom and gloom and that you got to watch over your
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  back for monitoring spirits. A loss of rights.
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  Who's going to be the boys? Pop store propaganda.
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  Oh my God, is upcoming rapper actually a mean girl?
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  A rigmarole that's going to be thrown at you at a moment's
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  notice. Well, yes, my friends, this
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  could have something to do with the way that our country has
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  been descending into the cesspool of what it is and the
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  general state of the world that has been and will continue to be
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  covered. But more specifically, today
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  we're going to talk about when it comes to the rise in
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  negativity, both on and offline is going to have more to do with
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  the concept of negativity itself and the overall concept of how
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  negativity has hijacked all of our minds to actually make us
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  want it and crave it and ignore everything but that.
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  This is a conversation that I feel like a lot of us have been
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  thinking about, especially over the past couple of months.
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  And I know a lot of you have been having in my comments
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  section about my recent videos because I have been guilty of
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  covering things that have not been the lightest and brightest
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  or most life filling. And I think that it's sound the
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  dissect why that is why things do feel so bleak.
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  Something bleak is the word, but just generally some negative,
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  sensational and almost dumorous in a sense.
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  So in this video, we're going to get to the bottom of this and
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  take it beyond simply just like the Internet stuff, getting into
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  things like negativity bias, dissecting the cultural turn on
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  positivity and getting real about the fact that like we say
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  that we want to see more positive and light things in our
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  media and in our lives. But in collective action, that's
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  not necessarily seem to be the case.
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  We're also going to get into things like negativity and care
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  fatigue, as well as a trend that we've been seeing both on and
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  offline of meanness becoming more so normalize and niceness
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  kind of going out of style. Talking about things like
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  nonchalance and some high profile mean girl situations
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  that have sparked public conversation recently with
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  things like the Dochi Michela incident.
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  We have a lot to get into. So sit back, grab a snack, or if
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  you're already eating a meal right now, because let's be
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  real, commentary and video essays are best served with a
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  little snack, a little bite, a little meal.
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  So dig in, I dare you. But also, if you're new here,
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  hi, I'm roomy, nice to meet you. If you like content like this,
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  And if you're already subscribed, shout out to you.
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  You can leave a like on this video because that helps out a
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  ton with YouTube algorithm. You can follow me on my socials
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  at emergency on Tiktok, Instagram and Twitter because
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  I've been posting all the time on there.
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  But let's get into talking about negativity bias.
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  So it's no secret that news headlines, crazy Tiktok intros,
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  and clearly YouTube titles and thumbnails tend to skew a little
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  more sensational, a little bit more dramatic, negative
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  sometimes, dumerist often times. And by and large, that does seem
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  to work. Like I said it earlier in this
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  video, you chose to watch this one because you were emotionally
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  pulled one way or another by the title and thumbnail.
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  Not to clock you, but it's true. But what is it about these
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  negative leaning news headlines and thumbnails that makes them
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  so much more clickable? Why do our little brains inch
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  closer and closer towards Dumerism?
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  Wow. Lucky for you, it's been studied
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  before and it has something to do with a little thing called
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  negativity bias. Now you may be asking yourself
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  Rumi, what do you mean I have a negativity bias that sounds like
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  AK pop thing. And to that I say, well, not
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  quite. Negativity bias is our
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  propensity as humans to focus more so on the negative than the
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  positive. Not only that, we as humans also
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  tend to feel the negative events more so than the positive ones.
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  And if that doesn't sound good enough to you, according to very
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  well minded, the negativity bias is our tendency to not only
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  register negative stimuli more readily, but to dwell on those
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  events. Also known as positive negative
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  asymmetry. This negativity bias means that
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  we feel this thing of a rebuke more powerfully than we do the
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  joy of praise. It's like essentially when you
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  give a presentation at school or something and you have like 20
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  people tell you that you did a great job, but like maybe one
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  person was like, oh, you kind of flopped.
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  You're going to think about that one person saying you flopped
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  more so than the 20 people saying that you did an amazing
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  job. Because we tend to select and
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  hyper focus on negativity. The effect causes us to remember
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  traumatic events better than positive ones, recall insults
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  better than praise, make our decisions based more on negative
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  information than positive data, and to learn more from negative
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  experiences than positive positive ones.
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  Again, it's why we harp more on negative feedback than positive
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  feedback. Then, from an evolutionary
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  standpoint, this makes sense. Our brains are initially
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  hardwired to keep us safe and alive.
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  Clock how we did not say happy. Evolutionarily, it was important
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  for our brains to detect threats, to detect danger when
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  being attacked by large predators in the wild by
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  remembering that danger so that we don't make the same mistake
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  or accidentally cozy up too closely to a snake or a fire or
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  whatever was going on back then. But unfortunately, shadow
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  evolution nowadays our bodies can't necessarily which the
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  difference between maybe of air attack and perhaps like a mean
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  comment you might get on one of your Tik Toks.
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  There was actually a study done back in 2013 that specifically
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  took a look at infants to see if they engage with all social
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  information equally or not. Interestingly, not surprisingly,
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  what they found was that infants attended more to negative
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  information, potentially confirming that this mindset has
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  an evolutionary purpose. At least not enough talk about
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  babies. Now it's look at a study that
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  specifically talks about news headlines and seeing how
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  negativity bias works in our digital age of online news.
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  Now journalists have intuitively known for a while that
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  negativity does sell with a common phrase in journalism
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  being if it bleeds, it bleeds, which is a lot.
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  And unfortunately this is being backed up by some actual
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  research. In a study done by Nature
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  Behavior Human and using a publicly available data set from
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  Upworthy, the researchers were able to deduce that headlines
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  and more negative terminology got more clicks in the positive
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  ones using real world clicks and examples.
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  And while that's more academic, you also have these social media
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  viral gurus saying all the time that content that makes if you
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  feel something more powerful, whether that be positive or
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  negative, is more likely to go viral.
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  And that virality is shaped by our emotions.
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  And while you can't get this effect by swinging either
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  positive or negative with the current news cycle that we're
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  living in, in this seemingly never ending stream of
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  unprecedented events in times that that negative is a lot
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  easier to make content out of. And a quote from the study,
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  content that evokes high arousal, positive awe or
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  negative anger or anxiety emotions is more a viral content
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  that evokes low arousal or deactivating emotions like
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  sadness is less viral. So now we know why rage baiting
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  works, unfortunately. And on the topic of rage
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  baiting, you're actually more likely to share content that
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  makes you upset. Like think about all the
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  accounts on Twitter that post rage baity clips or clips that
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  piss them off or that be political, stay in culture or
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  like those weird videos where it like ends in an unsatisfying way
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  where it was just like so close from ending satisfyingly.
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  Yeah, those, the ones that really piss you off, you're more
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  likely to share those. And those are more likely to go
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  viral for sure. We see that all the time on
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  social media and it's really sad because all the news and
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  headlines that have been going on right now are really made to
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  get reactions out of you. They're truly made to be
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  polarizing and oftentimes very biased.
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  Getting more into the negativity, selling of it all.
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  Like I could speak personally even for my videos like it's
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  night and day performance wise when it comes to tiling and
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  thumbnailing my videos. Like not to break the 4th wall,
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  but the ones that are more dramatic, more negative, and
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  more emotionally gripping do perform a lot better than the
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  ones that are more lukewarm or like 1 to 1 realistic
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  representations of what's going on despite the information the
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  video being the same. I'm sure all the creators
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  watching this know this, but like as a watcher, creators
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  actually have the option to like test thumbnails against each
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  other. It's like why you see Youtubers
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  switch up the thumbnails so much because YouTube actually has a
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  feature. You can upload three different
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  thumbnails to the test and see which one most people really
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  click on. And oftentimes for me, I will
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  have like 3 different ones having varying levels of drama,
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  negativity, or positivity. And you know what, Time and time
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  again, the one that performs the best is the one that is more so
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  negative or more so sensational. And when it comes to things like
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  negativity, it truly isn't anyone's fault.
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  Our brains have been hardwired like this for centuries to keep
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  us alive, and every single human is wired like this.
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  It's natural. Like negativity bias has its
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  purpose. And should these companies and
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  algorithms have been allowed to really profit off of that for
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  the sake of engagement? No, But we're here.
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  And I think where we should go next from this is trying to
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  figure out whether there are ways to reframe or if we are
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  just doomed and to repeat this cycle of negativity, which is
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  not the case. It's not easy, but there are
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  ways to retrain your brain to reframe your thinking.
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  Your brain's a muscle. After all, you just got to work
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  at it. And there are tons of great
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  resources online where you can learn to do that.
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  That's not the sake of this video per SE, but if you're
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  ready for that journey, it's there.
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  Now let's talk about the truth. No one cares about positivity.
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  And this has been a thing that has been the case for a while.
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  But I think more recently there has been this wide scale turn on
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  positivity that I do think is really interesting.
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  Like, do you personally remember when the culture turned on
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  positivity? And like all the time, it was
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  like low key kind of necessary to an extent, like a true key
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  player in the conversation around.
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  Like the downfall of positivity, I guess was the rise in the use
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  of the term toxic positivity. And this isn't to say they're
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  one in the same. Toxic positivity and regular
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  positivity are completely different things and very
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  important to distinguish. But like most terms on the
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  Internet, the terms began to get very generalized and eventually
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  lost their meaning. And it's very possible that both
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  that and how increasingly mainstream it was just to be
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  like outwardly negative really. We did shift the culture in that
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  way. And for those that weren't there
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  for toxic positivity or like toxic positivity is like a new
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  term. Toxic positivity is the belief
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  that people should maintain a positive mindset no matter how
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  dire or difficult the situation is.
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  While there are benefits to being optimistic and engaging in
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  positive thinking, toxic positivity rejects all difficult
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  emotions in favor of a cheerful and often falsely positive
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  facade. Toxic positivity was big pre
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  pandemic when it came to things like mental health.
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  With a lot of campaigns, you're okaying the depression away like
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  big general sweeping things of like make sure to smile today or
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  like ignoring the very real negative emotions that come with
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  living sometimes and just one for one replacing them for
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  positive ones, which just isn't the way to go.
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  And because of that, the term toxic positivity really began
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  gaining traction in 2020 during the pandemic.
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  People were done pretending to be positive, like there was not
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  be positive about, let's be real.
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  And that was OK. There was a big general
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  awakening happening. We cannot toxic positivity our
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  way out of a pandemic and doing that was just revealing and
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  amplifying all of the cracks that we had going on in our
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  society at the time. But during that time, there were
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  also many instances where people would dogpile or hate post for
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  seemingly like no good reason. It's like if you remember that
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  era, there were just so many non issue issues, so many non
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  controversy controversies that just popped up during the time
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  where people were just ready to jump for nothing.
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  Like we went from a really toxic positive society to a hyper
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  negative call out culture, being quick to call something
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  problematic or insensitive when in reality a lot of the things
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  were not as bad and did come across as a little chronically
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  online in a derogatory way. And when I say that, I don't
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  mean to say that in like a grifty kind of way.
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  Like, oh, we couldn't say anything back then.
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  Like no, that's not the vibe. A lot of things did happen in
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  2020 that rightfully deserved the call outs and the
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  cancellations of it all. I'm talking more so about the
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  frivolous controversies where we look back and like, oh, that was
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  kind of unserious. But to be real, in the real
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  world, things are really negative, whether that be
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  culturally, socially or politically.
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  Things are hard, things are bad, and it's hard to see what there
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  is to be positive about oftentimes.
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  And I think that that is a very large contributor to the rise of
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  negativity that we're just seeing both on and offline.
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  And unfortunately, us being inundated with so much
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  negativity, so much doom and gloom to an overwhelming extent
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  can oftentimes lead us to a pseudo state of paralysis.
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  And this is the part of the video where we talk about care
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  fatigue. It's no secret that we're going
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  through some tough times, to put it lightly, whether that be evil
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  tech billionaires, late stage capitalism, the peeling back of
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  our human rights, the climate crisis of it all, everything
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  that just feels so much bigger than ourselves.
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  And I'm sure me just going down that list to give you a little
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  bit of anxiety and I'm sorry for that, but it's where we are.
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  And it's also almost as if that feeling of having things be
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  bigger than us is the whole point.
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  There is always something to care about.
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  Just when you think things couldn't get worse or more
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  horrid, they do day in and day out.
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  And this feeling of overwhelm, whether intentional or not, is
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  actually a tactic by the powers that be to overwhelm people to
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  not do anything. It's the whole thing of like, if
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  there's too many things to care about, it's easier to just do
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  nothing at all. And if everything is so bad and
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  scary and negative, then it feels too big to do anything
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  about it, which leads to a feeling of learned helplessness
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  and impotence. Like it really does feel easier
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  to just throw our hands up and say, hey, what's going to happen
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  is what's going to happen. I can't really do anything about
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  it. It's beyond me.
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  Rather than actually finding and acknowledging ways to change and
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  get involved to promote that change.
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  I think oftentimes when we think about changing the world, we
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  think really macro and forget. Oftentimes we can actually make
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  very tangible changes in a small or local way and stepping away
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  from the news of it all, we can also in this way of thinking to
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  the way that we consume content. One of the major things being
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  doom scrolling. Well, I feel like doom scrolling
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  now has sort of been Co opted to just mean like endlessly
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  scrolling online. It's official definition is
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  scrolling or searching through negative content that does not
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  make us feel very good. Again, not our fault there is a
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  plethora of negative content and again, sorry for being a part of
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  that and negative confirmation bias makes us search for it.
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  We feel bad about the state of the world and look up things to
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  confirm this, which leaves us constantly feeling anxious,
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  angry, or sad. According to an article from
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  Harvard Health, in the wake of the pandemic, doom scrolling's
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  mental health effects have been examined more extensively.
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  In April 2023, Research Review published in Applied Research
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  and Quality of Life analyzed 3 separate studies involving a
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  total of about 1200 adults, suggesting that doom scrolling
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  is linked to worst mental well-being and life
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  satisfaction. And in an August 2024 study of
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  about 800 adults suggests that doom scrolling evokes greater
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  levels of existential anxiety, which is a feeling of dread or
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  panic that arises when we confront the limitations of our
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  existence. And you may be saying, yeah, we
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  knew this doom scrolling is bad, but it's just nice to have like
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  some actual evidence to back it up.
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  And interestingly or scarily enough, the article also
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  mentions this thing called popcorn brain, which is
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  apparently when we spend too much time online.
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  And it's the real biological phenomenon that feeling your
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  brain is popping because you're over stimulated online, which
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  then makes it hard to engage with the real world, which moves
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  at a much slower pace. In my researcher added a little
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  note to this saying that like, she's felt this before.
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  And I've definitely felt it before too, like doom scrolling
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  for too long and then going back to the real world.
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  I'm like kind of stuck like I nothing feels right, nothing
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  feels real, like I feel really overstimulated and like coming
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  from scrolling into something super happy to super sad to
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  super triggering to just generally catastrophic.
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  And then going back to the real world where everything feels
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  normal is a mind. And it's crazy that that's an
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  actual biological effect. And all this negativity doesn't
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  even have to be about the state of the world.
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  Like you can look interpersonally with things like
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  our trend cycles leading negative.
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  You have things like can it be mean for a SEC?
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  Tik Toks negative leaning story times about things like cheating
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  or doing someone dirty, doing well, rage bait content and
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  those 500 part series that keep us locked in and engaged about
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  things that are usually pretty traumatizing or just generally
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  negative. Not saying that they shouldn't
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  keep making them because definitely locked in, definitely
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  sad and for sure scrolling through all petite, but again,
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  negative and we see this normalization of negativity
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  impact us on social media all the time.
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  One more so the care fatigue from the burnout of negativity
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  with things like the rise of nonchalance.
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  It's everyone's favorite buzzword that goes in and out of
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  style for for the quality they want or don't want in a partner.
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  A lot of people want the cool mysterious type.
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  And while there has been a changing in sentiment around
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  nonchalance with a lot of people saying like, no, I actually
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  don't want a nonchalant man or woman.
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  I actually want some chalance. I want some emotion.
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  I want some passion. Are you ready for that?
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  Because having chalance means you have to be unafraid to go
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  forward and show that of yourself.
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  And as the person receiving the chalance, you have to be ready
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  to receive all that and not deem it doing too much sassy or being
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  down bad. And the chalance of it all has
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  really been seen as something that is not necessarily cool.
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  It's been seen as kind of cringe in the the online dating world,
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  which makes you really wonder like why?
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  Why does it seem so cool to like not care to be aloof and to be
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  nonchalant? A lot of dating content on
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  TikTok revolves around this art of detachment and not being
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  super attached or really showing your hand or being super
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  emotionally invested in a person, which I think is
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  definitely more of an avoidant way to go about finding love.
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  And I think a lot of that is why it's so hard to date or like get
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  to know someone earnestly. See my Gen.
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  Z dating video that I've posted in the past.
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  But it's cool to not care, to not be super connected, to be A
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  and to be kind of mean. There's like the Super cool
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  persona that a lot of people put on online or the content that
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  they make kind of makes you feel like people are making plans in
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  front of you, but like aren't going to invite you to the
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  plans. That content verticals that are
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  not just negative, but are just straight up mean.
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  And people in droves eat it up as being like iconic or like a
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  Serb or people that are seeing it as mean just don't get the
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  joke or can't take a joke. And to that I say that's a case
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  by case basis. But I think it is important to
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  understand and be careful about what we normalize.
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  There's no secret people love to hate on the Internet.
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  It's been there since the internet's inception.
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  We've talked about this a couple times on this channel.
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  But one thing that's interesting that connects this love to hate
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  on the Internet with is how we use that to then go on and react
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  to things that are controversial online.
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  And more so how quick we are to judge, dogpile and turn on
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  people based on different sets of information.
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  Really getting into why do opinions on the Internet just
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  seems so severe and outlandish. It really does all connect to
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  the negativity stuff. Like one major example of all
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  this were like the Tiktok Twitter online part of opinion
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  dears severely negative and almost punitive had to do with
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  the recent clip of Dochi at the Met Gala yelling at her staff.
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  And like how from that 52nd clip people had think pieces about
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  how Dochi is this mean girl, she's rude, hard to work with,
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  terrible to her people, creates A hostile work environment.
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  Whatever would have you allegations people have from
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  this lady from a 52nd clip. Which for one, I think is wild
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  because prior to Dochi has been having an incredible year and
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  long deserve come up after winning Grammys, making
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  appearances on stages, popping up for different shows, walking
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  different fashion shows, the Met Gala and the like.
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  Like really just being that girl.
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  And all the while showing that she really cares about her fans,
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  cares about people around her. And it's just a positive light
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  spirit having the track record of having a good character prior
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  to and through her skyrocket to stardom.
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  And prior to May 5th, most people were on the Dochi train.
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  She has incredible talent. She's super personal in her
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  interviews and is really positive and kind in all of her
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  fan interactions. Which is why it was so wild to
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  see the stark contrast and immediate flip on Dochi after
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  that clip where it's it's clear that she's in a very high stress
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  environment for the first time and the girl is stressed out and
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  asking for some umbrellas. Like it's clear that she would
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  freak out. And I think a lot of times,
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  especially in this situation, we want to talk about harping on
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  negativity and having an exponential reaction to
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  something. For one, people were painting
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  out that video like she personally cursed out every
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  single member of her staff and said the most vile and
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  despicable things. But if you watch the video is
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  not that bad. And two, we want to talk about
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  giving people the benefit of the doubt and not being super
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  punitive and like seeing how we would react in these situations.
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  You can't say that you haven't been in the situation where
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  you've been stressed, stressed out and you lash out.
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  Like just because in her moment of being stressed and lashing
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  out, she had every camera in the world and her on her doesn't
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  make it super different from when you're overstimulated or
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  stressed and lash out at a friend, mom, Co worker,
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  whatever. Was it the kindness way for her
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  to come across? No, but it wasn't a career.
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  That sentence like a lot of people are making it out to me
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  and it wasn't the rudest thing someone has said on a carpet on
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  camera by any means. Now you may be thinking, what
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  does this have to do with the video?
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  For one, I'm not calling Dochi a mean girl, but I just want us to
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  notice how it only took one moment for people to immediately
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  turn and unleash everything that they unleashed onto her.
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  We took a very human moment and took one instance of it to shape
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  our entire opinion around a person, despite the abundance of
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  evidence prior showing the positive.
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  You see the negativity bias right here?
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  You got what I'm trying to lay down.
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  The putative system of the court of TikTok time and time again
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  shows that we allow negative news, negative moments, negative
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  stimuli to inform and shift the entirety of our opinions in the
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  blink of an eye. And I think that that's
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  something we should definitely pay attention to and decide
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  whether or not we want to commit to that.
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  And of course, again, disclaimer, like when I say
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  this, I don't don't mean for things that are egregious and
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  our long lasting tells of hidden behavior.
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  I'm just talking about in examples where like someone will
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  do one thing bad out of a whole career being good and then all
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  of a sudden they are bad. And again, that never applies
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  to. But in all the other cases, I
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  think we should apply a little bit more nuance before we jump
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  and go gung ho swaying our opinion for how we feel about
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  people, whether that be a celebrity or not.
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  Now I want to wrap this video up by talking about something
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  positive, talking about the power of niceness.
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  And kindness and where we can go from here.
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  This isn't me telling you that you should let people walk over
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  you. You should not do that at all.
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  In fact, stand with an iron piss.
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  I was about to say iron lung. Not that iron fist will do, but
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  like have you ever noticed that Like the small interactions that
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  you have where you just lead with positivity, lead with
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  niceness. You usually end up either
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  sticking with you or improving your day.
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  Like if someone compliments your outfit, holds the door open for
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  you, or you just have a nice interaction with a stranger.
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  Like not saying that you should overextend yourself, bend over
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  backwards, do some crazy flips and tricks on a crazy style, but
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  if you have it in you and it feels genuine, been safe, why
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  not lead with little positivity? Why not be nice?
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  Why not extend that grace? Like it's not going to change
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  all the world's problems because you hold the door open for
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  someone. But like, let's be kind and
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  let's try to lead with a little bit more positivity.
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  My researcher added a little bit here where she says that she's
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  worked in a lot of customer service jobs in the past and
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  she's always more inclined to help out people that came in
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  with a good attitude and were more positive and nice rather
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  than someone that came in entitled or rude or whatever
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  would have you. Like, you're not going to get
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  help that way. And I think that that's a
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  metaphor for life. Lead with some positivity and
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  try and move in that way. Are things inherently more
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  negative right now? Well, yeah.
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  But also, it may just be that our brains are focusing more so
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  on the negative than the positive, specifically when it
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  comes to the things that are going on in the political,
• 21:23
  economic state of the world right now.
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  Despite all the negative headlines that get all the
• 21:26
  airtime, there are a lot of groups doing the work on the
• 21:30
  ground right now to combat all the negative things that we're
• 21:32
  seeing. There are a bunch of fights
• 21:33
  going on in the courts right now to try and protect people's
• 21:36
  civil liberties and human rights that aren't getting the airtime,
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  but doesn't mean that they're not happening.
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  There is a lot of good still happening.
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  There is a lot of positive still happening if you go and look for
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  it. So whether that be political,
• 21:46
  whether that be social or interpersonal, it's important
• 21:48
  that we're intentional about the energy that we are moving
• 21:50
  towards and emitting ourselves and changing those behaviors.
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  This is going to happen overnight.
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  It's incremental, but it's important to take those little
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  steps towards the change that you want to see and the content
• 21:59
  that you consume and in the world that we live in.
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  And in the meantime, let's just monitor the content that we do
• 22:04
  consume that is negative and the rates at which we're doing that
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  so we don't get popcorn brain or increase our anxiety levels to
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  more than they already are. But yeah, that's going to be the
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  video y'all. I know that kind of ended in a
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  very kumbaya maybe talks a positive way.
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  But now I want to turn the mic over to you and hear what you
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  think. Have you been feeling this rise
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  in negativity? And if so, what have you been
• 22:21
  doing to counteract that, if anything at all?
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  I'd love to hear your thoughts on the comments section below.
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