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We Sent Our Kids to the Wrong School?! · It's Mom O'Clock

• 0:01
  Speaker A: Hello.
• 0:02
  Speaker B: You guys, stop. Is it mom o' clock yet? I'm going crazy.
• 0:08
  Speaker A: Heck yeah, it's Mama Clock somewhere. Welcome back to Mama Clock. We apologize in advance if we seem a little down because. Show them the tissue box.
• 0:25
  Speaker B: I got tissues. I have to check in on all the moms out there. I don't care if you're a stay at home mom, working mom, single mom, married mom, dad out there. Going back to school is hard.
• 0:38
  Speaker A: You're gonna cry already.
• 0:39
  Speaker B: I mean, I might.
• 0:40
  Speaker A: So we are basing this episode on first day of school for the both of us. The aftermath of all the moms out there. Because not only do you go through it, but like, it's everybody's first day of school. Everybody's kids, everybody's moms. It's not about us.
• 0:57
  Speaker B: And we're just people too.
• 0:59
  Speaker A: We're just human beings.
• 1:00
  Speaker B: And I feel like as a mom, we can all relate. Like, so hard of a mom heart. Like, no matter what, no matter what type of mom you are, if you're a type B mom, type A mom, nervous mom, not nervous mom, cool, calm, collected mom. Like, you still have the mom heart and you still care for your kid more than anything in this world.
• 1:19
  Speaker A: I never have my phone on loud. My kid's in school now my phone's on loud. What the hell was that message?
• 1:23
  Speaker B: We have our phones on standby.
• 1:26
  Speaker A: No, literally, because I'm that nervous. But seriously, we're doing a back to school, first day of school episode. So join us, cry with us, laugh with us, leave and never come back with us. So let's get into it because it's going to be a roller coaster of an episode.
• 1:43
  Speaker B: Okay.
• 1:44
  Speaker A: So want to start off with what stories?
• 1:47
  Speaker B: I don't even know where to begin. So our first days of school with our babies.
• 1:52
  Speaker A: So it was yesterday. So we both had our first days of school for our kids. Two for her, one for me on Tuesday.
• 1:59
  Speaker B: Same school. They go to the same school.
• 2:00
  Speaker A: They go to the same school. Different classes.
• 2:02
  Speaker B: Different classes, same school. So we. But we were the moms together at drop off, which is if you can just latch on to one mom friend, it makes it easier.
• 2:10
  Speaker A: You need one.
• 2:10
  Speaker B: But I also need you at pickup.
• 2:12
  Speaker A: I know.
• 2:13
  Speaker B: Pickup is way worse.
• 2:13
  Speaker A: We need to.
• 2:14
  Speaker B: We'll get into it.
• 2:15
  Speaker A: Yeah, we'll get into it. So. So let's just start with, like, the night before.
• 2:20
  Speaker B: My night before was like, my kids were so excited. Like, everyone was excited, ready to go.
• 2:24
  Speaker A: I could have no clue what was going on.
• 2:26
  Speaker B: I didn't do anything. Crazy. I didn't do balloons or anything. They just had their signs ready.
• 2:32
  Speaker A: They had readers. Ice cream.
• 2:33
  Speaker B: Oh, yeah, we do. I started a tradition. Ice cream before, like, get excited for the first day. And the. That was it. And my house was like, ready to go. I made them get to bed early. We were 8:30 bedtime. No iPads. Everyone listened. And that's the new rule going forward. I'm sticking to it.
• 2:54
  Speaker A: I love that.
• 2:55
  Speaker B: And I'm gonna be a strict mom.
• 2:56
  Speaker A: Call me in like, two months.
• 2:58
  Speaker B: Day two.
• 2:59
  Speaker A: Let me know what happens. Okay. So your household was like, cool, calm and collective. You guys were eating ice cream.
• 3:04
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 3:05
  Speaker A: I love that.
• 3:06
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 3:06
  Speaker A: So my kid had no idea he was going to school, Right. I had an idea he was going to school.
• 3:11
  Speaker B: You did?
• 3:12
  Speaker A: So I decorated my house for the first day of school. Balloon. Like, what do I do? Just let it ring?
• 3:20
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 3:22
  Speaker A: Balloons, string decoration, banner breakfast, like, made for the morning. His backpack and his lunchbox and all the things were laid out for him. He only noticed the balloons, by the way. Night before was such an emotional roller coaster for me. If you follow me on TikTok, you would have seen it. I didn't plan to cry on video. I just physically couldn't stand in front of the camera without tears rolling down my face. And it just kept rolling like.
• 3:54
  Speaker B: It's so funny because I was. I was so cool.
• 3:56
  Speaker A: You were the opposite. And I'm gonna explain how I know that you were the opposite because of how I saw you the next day so hysterically crying. Like one of those cries where it doesn't stop and it gets worse the more you talk, you know? So that was me. My husband was cracking up. He thought it was the funniest thing and I couldn't stop. And I was just feeling all the feels. And it's weird. It's like, it's not just about sending him and he's not going to be with me all day. Like, that's like the bottom of my list.
• 4:22
  Speaker B: Right?
• 4:23
  Speaker A: It's the mom guilt. It's. Am I making the right decision? Is it. Is he gonna be somewhere he doesn't wanna be? Is something gonna happen to him while he's at school?
• 4:32
  Speaker B: And it's not being there.
• 4:34
  Speaker A: It's not being there. Right. I'm a phone call away now, rather than being the primary caregiver. And the last thing on my list is, like, him, I know he's gonna be fine. He's ready for school or I wouldn't have sent him. But it's like, oh, it's guilt, it's feeling bad. It's like, does he want to be there? It's the morning routine. He's been with me since he's been born. I've been a stay at home mom. So I just couldn't control. And even the next morning I woke up also hysterically crying. Like seven o' clock in the morning, tears rolling down my face. And not that I didn't expect it, but my, my. One of my best friends reminded me that I. In a previous video of mine, when we toured the school, I was like, I'm probably not even gonna cry when he goes to school. Like, not because I want him to go, but because he's so ready. I'm so excited. And I thought that's how I was gonna be. No tears.
• 5:19
  Speaker B: I feel like you never really know how you're gonna feel until you're actually in it.
• 5:22
  Speaker A: I'm gonna be crying for till the end of the school year. So let's fast forward. So total opposites, right? We show up to the mountain. You have to remember we're showing up the first day together. So not only we're together, our husbands are together, all of our kids are together.
• 5:36
  Speaker B: It's the cutest thing.
• 5:37
  Speaker A: But it's the first day of school, so hundreds of kids are there with their parents, screaming, crying, rolling on the floor. I tried to pull it together. I don't know about you driving to school. Cause I didn't want him to see me crying because then he.
• 5:51
  Speaker B: We were singing, we were dancing, we
• 5:52
  Speaker A: were having the best time.
• 5:53
  Speaker B: Yes.
• 5:54
  Speaker A: So should I go into my first day of school and then you can. I'll give you my perspective and my perspective of you. And then you give me your perspective, your perspective of me. So show up to school and hundreds of kids. He doesn't really know what's going on. He knows school, he knows teacher, he knows all the things, but he doesn't know. He's like physically going and staying there all day, right? So we get there and it's mayhem. Like hundreds of kids and moms screaming, crying.
• 6:18
  Speaker B: And once one kid is crying, it's like, oh my God, almost like, should
• 6:21
  Speaker A: I be screaming, crying? So we're walking up together. So cute. My husband's with us. We're holding our lunchbox, our water bottle. Yippee yippee ki yay. And we see our cousins. We're so excited. Teacher opens the door. Teacher's there. Hi, how are you? I'm so excited. I bend down, ready to give him a kiss goodbye. I hear these Kids rolling on the ground, screaming, crying. Not their fall as they should be, but. But now my son sees that, he starts nervously saying, mom, are you staying? Daddy, are you staying? Nervously. He's not crying. He's just nervous, which I think is worse.
• 6:52
  Speaker B: Worse.
• 6:52
  Speaker A: Like, I didn't know 2 year olds could be nervous. And I'm like, no, Mom. Now they say to drop the kid and go, yes. Which is the hardest thing in the world to do. And they also say not to linger. We'll get there. So now I'm frantic. I don't know if I'm giving him the proper goodbye. I don't know if I'm saying the right things. I just give him a kiss. I say, mommy's not saying. Daddy's not saying, love you. Bowling his eyes out. Teacher picks him up. He's like, I see him in the window like that. I'm like, oh, my God, this is it. He's. He doesn't want to be here. I have to call the teacher and I have to take him home.
• 7:23
  Speaker B: So my heart.
• 7:24
  Speaker A: Then I see this little one, like, you know that. Let me just show you. You know that move like. Like people do when it's like. Like, that was you.
• 7:37
  Speaker B: I'm like, I wasn't this.
• 7:40
  Speaker A: I expected you to be on the floor crying your eyes out. Her son's like this in the window.
• 7:46
  Speaker B: I know Rocco surprised me, but it goes to show that you just never know. You never know. And. And how your kid is. Is really more like how you're gonna feel. Because I would have been. If Rocco was hysterical, you would have had to peel me off the floor. I probably wouldn't have left the parking lot.
• 8:02
  Speaker A: You, like, did this once. You were like. I think you walked away.
• 8:05
  Speaker B: Yeah, I.
• 8:05
  Speaker A: He was waving at the window.
• 8:06
  Speaker B: I'm like, he was like. He was so cute at the window. And Joe, and my oldest was like, blowing him kisses through the glass door. And I was like, joey, come on. He's gonna cry. He's gonna cry. Like, I wanted to just, like, go, because I knew it was, like, too good to be true.
• 8:19
  Speaker A: Too good to be true. So we had the opposite experience. You're like, in your glory, not because you're leaving your kid, but he. Because you had a good.
• 8:26
  Speaker B: He had a good first day experience.
• 8:28
  Speaker A: You felt good about it.
• 8:29
  Speaker B: And Vienna was when skipping off into the sunset, skipping with her backpack in her headband, she's so ready and cute.
• 8:34
  Speaker A: So now I'm at my car.
• 8:36
  Speaker B: But then. And then that makes me feel bad because I. I feel you are me. I am you. Like, I know you know. Oh my God.
• 8:42
  Speaker A: But it was funny to see.
• 8:44
  Speaker B: Wait, so I just have to say. So she walked with her husband back to her car. And I'm with my husband. She's skipping with my other son, holding hand, skipping. And I'm like, okay, I'm like, joe, let's go find Auntie Dahmen. I'm like, I have the camera. I have the camera because I wanted to see how she was. And I. It was almost like I felt too bad to record.
• 9:03
  Speaker A: You know when you call your friend on FaceTime, you're like joking around, right?
• 9:06
  Speaker B: And then they're like, yeah. And they're like hysterically crying. You're like, okay, I can't joke anymore. So I like, had the camera and I was like, oh, shit, I'm gonna like this.
• 9:14
  Speaker A: I'm bowling. Hyperventilating. Michael's like hugging me. Emily's hugging me, her husband's hugging me. Everyone's in a group hug of me. Cuz it's like my first day of school.
• 9:21
  Speaker B: Meanwhile, everyone else is gone, gone, gone.
• 9:24
  Speaker A: No one's in the parking lot but us.
• 9:26
  Speaker B: They said, just stay here.
• 9:27
  Speaker A: They had one rule. Don't linger.
• 9:29
  Speaker B: Don't linger.
• 9:29
  Speaker A: We lingered.
• 9:30
  Speaker B: We lingered. It was like that sign at 711 where it's like, no loitering. We were loitered 100%.
• 9:36
  Speaker A: So I was like, not okay. And then I went to go get ear. My ear pierced. I went to.
• 9:42
  Speaker B: How are your ears?
• 9:43
  Speaker A: Good.
• 9:43
  Speaker B: We went to the mall. We got piercings, tattoos, and I had
• 9:47
  Speaker A: to, I had no other choice but to do that.
• 9:49
  Speaker B: It was fun.
• 9:49
  Speaker A: It was fun. So we did that. She kept going.
• 9:52
  Speaker B: I feel numb. I need to feel something.
• 9:53
  Speaker A: I need to feel something. So we did that. And then I had to pick him up at 1. And he was the happiest little boy. He's like, I have it on video. He's like, mom. And he comes running.
• 10:03
  Speaker B: That's my mom.
• 10:04
  Speaker A: Yeah, I'll throw up. But I was in shambles all day.
• 10:08
  Speaker B: It's like.
• 10:09
  Speaker A: And then the thought of having to do that again, right? And I'll talk about that. Which was today.
• 10:13
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 10:14
  Speaker A: But I'm laughing because yesterday, your first day of school, you were like, hair in a messy bun, not dressed different, socks on, like a mess. And then today you're like, makeup on, beautiful hair. And I'm like, are you trying to impress the first grade moms?
• 10:32
  Speaker B: So yesterday. So yesterday was my young, my babies at preschool. Today was my first grader at a New school in the public school system. My husband.
• 10:44
  Speaker A: You showed up and showed out.
• 10:45
  Speaker B: My husband kept saying, he's with the gen pop now.
• 10:49
  Speaker A: What does that mean?
• 10:50
  Speaker B: I don't know. I go, stop saying gen pop.
• 10:52
  Speaker A: Oh, it's gen pop. Is that like Gen Z?
• 10:54
  Speaker B: Like, general population. Like, not at a private school.
• 10:58
  Speaker A: Not the gen pop. But.
• 10:59
  Speaker B: So what got me today and why I am so emotional?
• 11:01
  Speaker A: Hysterical, Hysterical. Never seen her worse.
• 11:04
  Speaker B: It's like my little Covid baby. Like, it was just. He was born six years ago, like, and now he's going into first grade and I have to just send him out into the world.
• 11:14
  Speaker A: No, you don't. You have to bring him home. So now she's hysterically crying and I'm already emotional wrecked because this is my second day dropping him off. And he was worse because he knows where he's going. But now seeing you just flip flop, I'm like, you favor your firstborn.
• 11:31
  Speaker B: No, no, it was just. And it wasn't even that he was like, scared or nervous.
• 11:35
  Speaker A: That's me.
• 11:35
  Speaker B: Or anything. I mean, he was nervous, but he was fine going. But it was just getting him ready. He hopped out of bed. He was so excited. He had his outfit picked out. He showered by himself this morning. And he put on his little socks. And he was like, mommy, do you think these socks are too high?
• 11:50
  Speaker A: No.
• 11:51
  Speaker B: And I was like, oh, my God,
• 11:53
  Speaker A: did you answer him?
• 11:54
  Speaker B: I go, okay, maybe they're too high.
• 11:56
  Speaker A: I don't know. Because he wants to be.
• 11:58
  Speaker B: He wants to be cool. And I was like, I don't know. Let's go, Auntie Tough. No.
• 12:01
  Speaker A: Literally no. That would send me to.
• 12:04
  Speaker B: So like, like, so he wants to, like, fit in. He has his. His JanSport backpack. Like, not no characters. Like, he has Nike backpack. Like, I mean, Nike lunchbox. Like, he just wants to be like, the cool. Like a cool kid. And I'm like, it's just like, what if he's sitting alone at lunch right now?
• 12:20
  Speaker A: No, he would never be sitting alone. He would be never sitting alone.
• 12:24
  Speaker B: I can't handle that. And I can't handle mean kids.
• 12:27
  Speaker A: Can't handle that. That's what I feel like I would be most nervous about. First grade is like, the mean kids wait.
• 12:32
  Speaker B: So then meanwhile. So it's usually kiss and drop for first graders. Like, you just like, you left car. Yeah. Like, you roll up to drop off, you kiss them and they hop out of the car. But today was the first day. So we pulled and we parked and all the moms did it all and the dads and they walked them up to the front. So Joe and I park the car, we get Joey out. We're walking up to, like, the big elementary school. Like, it's a giant school for him. Like, he's never been to public school.
• 13:00
  Speaker A: He's never been in a building.
• 13:01
  Speaker B: Never been in a building. He's never walked.
• 13:03
  Speaker A: He's never walked before.
• 13:04
  Speaker B: We were walking up this. Swear to God, this is straight out of a movie. Walking by, walking down the path. Is this the story? Yeah. Walking on the path. And I just see this kid just, like, projectile puking in the bushes. And his mom rubbing his back, saying, it's okay, honey. It's okay.
• 13:19
  Speaker A: He was not so nervous. He was puking.
• 13:21
  Speaker B: He was so nervous. He was puking in the bushes. It was so sad. And, like, I just. If that was my kid, I don't know what I would do. I think I would just run. It was so sad. And he was, like, really puking. And she was like, it's okay, honey. It's okay. And I was like, oh, my God.
• 13:36
  Speaker A: Oh, my God. He can't send him to school.
• 13:38
  Speaker B: No, he needs to go.
• 13:40
  Speaker A: He was that nervous.
• 13:41
  Speaker B: Well, I don't know if he was sick or nervous, but all I know is I walked by a kid puking and it was sad. And I tried to, like, make Joey not see. Cause I didn't want him to get nervous.
• 13:51
  Speaker A: Did he see it?
• 13:52
  Speaker B: He didn't really see it. He was too busy, like, not wanting to hold my hand and run up. But so.
• 13:58
  Speaker A: Oh, my God. Wait.
• 13:59
  Speaker B: I know.
• 13:59
  Speaker A: First of all, I feel so bad for that mom.
• 14:02
  Speaker B: I felt so bad for that mom.
• 14:04
  Speaker A: This poor kid.
• 14:05
  Speaker B: I know.
• 14:06
  Speaker A: Do you think he was in first grade or like.
• 14:09
  Speaker B: No, he looked. No, he was probably in first grade because he didn't look older. He looked like Joey's age. Yeah.
• 14:14
  Speaker A: He could not have been that nervous. I'll die. So it's like a thing. Kids are nervous at that age.
• 14:18
  Speaker B: Yeah. I remember getting, like, the butterflies. But, like, the nervous butterflies. And I even had that as a mom, like, today. Oh, I have it right now. I woke up, like, feeling like that, like. Like sense of. Like, you don't know what to expect. So you're just like, a little. Yeah, you're on edge.
• 14:35
  Speaker A: That's me. Every single day of my life. The first day or not.
• 14:37
  Speaker B: Yeah. I don't feel like that always, but I do. I did feel like that this week. And.
• 14:41
  Speaker A: Wait, that makes me, like, want to die for that Mom. I need to check it. Check.
• 14:44
  Speaker B: I know. I Need to find her.
• 14:46
  Speaker A: She wasn't with the dad or nothing. I wasn't there. No single mom maybe?
• 14:50
  Speaker B: No. I don't know. And it's also funny. So these moms and dads are dropping their kids off, right? And people who have, who work normal hours, right. Usually work nine to five. Right. So how are you picking your kid up at 3:00'? Clock? And I got an email from Joey's school saying that there's a wait list for before and aftercare because that's how many kids have to do before and aftercare because how are you picking up your kids?
• 15:14
  Speaker A: We can't afford this life and everyone has to work hard like a dog.
• 15:17
  Speaker B: I mean it's insane. It's insane.
• 15:18
  Speaker A: That makes me sick. And listen, you have to do what you have to do. But I could never do any. No, but I was just talking to one of my other best friends and her daughter since the day she was born. Cause she's a teacher and she had
• 15:31
  Speaker B: to go to school.
• 15:32
  Speaker A: She was dropped off at 7am I
• 15:34
  Speaker B: was just talking about that.
• 15:35
  Speaker A: She had to be at School at 7:45. I know that is harder than even before and aftercare. That is devastating. It's hard.
• 15:42
  Speaker B: I was talking to Amrita and she was saying when she used to work into the, in the city, she was two hours away. She had to drop them off at 7am, go to the city and then God forbid something happened. She hasn't, she doesn't have a car. She could just hop in. You have to take a train, plane, automobile to get back, to get back to the school. Like I could not handle that pressure.
• 16:01
  Speaker A: I'm 40 minutes away from my school and I'm calling 911 as we're sitting here, I'm like, I'm ready to come home.
• 16:08
  Speaker B: You're two minutes from your school.
• 16:09
  Speaker A: I'm saying right now.
• 16:10
  Speaker B: Oh, right now.
• 16:10
  Speaker A: Yeah. I'm also. I'm two minutes from my school. Yeah.
• 16:13
  Speaker B: Oh my God.
• 16:14
  Speaker A: I just, I have no emotion left. Like after I dropped him off again, I called my mom again, crying. And she was like, she's like consoling me. She's like, it's fine, it's okay. And let me just tell you my story today. So you just told me this poor kid was so nervous when he dropped off Joey. It's downpouring. My kid has short sleeve and shorts on. No rain jacket.
• 16:32
  Speaker B: Right. Why would he, why would he? Didn't even think about that.
• 16:36
  Speaker A: Didn't even think. My mom's like, didn't you see the rain this morning I was like, yes. But I didn't even think of a rain jacket. So now I'm mortified. I have no umbrella, no rain jacket. We're standing in the rain. We're standing in the rain because I forgot his lunch.
• 16:46
  Speaker B: You forgot his lunch? The whole lunch?
• 16:48
  Speaker A: Whole lunch in the fridge. Because I put it in the fridge. Just while I was, like, getting him ready.
• 16:52
  Speaker B: You know what? That's. That's tricky.
• 16:54
  Speaker A: Never put it in the fridge because you forget it.
• 16:55
  Speaker B: Say it louder for the people.
• 16:57
  Speaker A: Never put it in the fridge. So now I'm emotional because he has no jacket and everyone else does and he has no lunchbox. So now I'm the worst mom on planet Earth. And I called my husband. Thank God he was in Metuchen and coming anyway. Cole, I'm frantic. Can you stop home and grab the lunchbox? Now it's 9:01. Now I'm late. Standing in the room with my kid. Everyone's looking at me now. He's getting more nervous. He's saying, mommy, are you gonna stay with me? And Michael shows up. My poor husband has no pictures with my son for the first or second day of school.
• 17:25
  Speaker B: Oh, please. It is so hard.
• 17:27
  Speaker A: No, I didn't take one photo today. And I forgot his lunch and no jacket. And now he was screaming, crying. And now I'm the worst mom, and I. I have to quit.
• 17:34
  Speaker B: But guess what? You put them in the right school.
• 17:36
  Speaker A: I put him in the right school. We have to talk about that. One of Emily's best friends. Can we tell the story?
• 17:44
  Speaker B: Yeah, tell the story.
• 17:45
  Speaker A: It's. No, I'm a. I'm a saint sent from heaven.
• 17:50
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 17:50
  Speaker A: Based on this story. And it's not her fault. No, but this is just a story. And based on this story, I'm a saint.
• 17:56
  Speaker B: This is. I mean, I'm sure there are so many, like, first day of mom fail stories, but my best friend, this is
• 18:01
  Speaker A: like a selling point.
• 18:02
  Speaker B: She was sending her kindergartner first day of kindergarten.
• 18:06
  Speaker A: So it's bigger. Kindergarten or first? Well, they're equally as big.
• 18:10
  Speaker B: I mean, if it's a new school, the kindergarten at a new school. Joey. That would have been Joey, but he went to private school, so. Right. But I feel like kindergarten is scary because you're actually going into an elementary school.
• 18:22
  Speaker A: You're still so little.
• 18:23
  Speaker B: Yeah. And you're so little. But anyway, so she's sending her kid for the first time on the bus.
• 18:30
  Speaker A: Loser.
• 18:31
  Speaker B: So. So her husband stays home too. She's just like us. Like Excited for the first day, nervous. Sends her kid, walks him to the bus stop.
• 18:39
  Speaker A: I can't even listen to this again.
• 18:41
  Speaker B: And says to the bus driver, you're going to so and so. And says the kid's name. And the bus driver looks at his clipboard, says, yep. Gets on the bus. Okay. Two and a half hours later, she's
• 18:52
  Speaker A: like, at Costco, right?
• 18:53
  Speaker B: She's at Costco living her bus.
• 18:55
  Speaker A: Skipping.
• 18:56
  Speaker B: Skipping through Costco aisle. She gets a call from the school saying, hi, hi, Mrs. Whatever your name is. I just. I'm sure somebody already called you. Nobody called her, but we just want to let you know that your son is back at our school. She goes, what?
• 19:11
  Speaker A: Oh, so that was the first phone call.
• 19:12
  Speaker B: She got the first phone call.
• 19:13
  Speaker A: And she was like, back at.
• 19:14
  Speaker B: Back at. She sent her kid on the wrong bus to the wrong school in her town. In her town. So.
• 19:22
  Speaker A: So did that school call her? Thought that school called her, too.
• 19:24
  Speaker B: No, no one else called her.
• 19:26
  Speaker A: I need to know the in between when he got to that school and he gets off the bus walking around.
• 19:32
  Speaker B: So I know now the teachers are
• 19:33
  Speaker A: probably like, he's not on my list. He's not on my list.
• 19:35
  Speaker B: No, but. But picture the first day like, it is mayhem. So it's like teachers are struggling. You get one, a straggler that's not
• 19:41
  Speaker A: even at the school, and he was on the bus with no one he knew.
• 19:46
  Speaker B: So fucking funny. Because it would happen to her. And I'm trying. I. I want.
• 19:50
  Speaker A: I need to be there for her, not laugh.
• 19:51
  Speaker B: Yeah. No, but. Yeah. My mom, she called me in shambles. She was like, can you imagine what was he going through? He was already nervous. He was at a school. It wasn't even his school. Everybody's around him. I could just picture flashing kids running. But what happened actually was a little better because when he was on the wrong bus, already moving, a kid who recognized him was like, dude, you're not supposed to be on this bus. You're not supposed to be on my little brother's bus. Oh, wow, that was cool that he said that. The older brother stayed with him because he got on the second bus. So the little kid was supposed to go on the first bus.
• 20:29
  Speaker A: That dumb bus driver, he should be fired, right? He said, yes.
• 20:33
  Speaker B: I mean, she should be, but. So everything was okay. He was okay. The nice older brother stayed with him until they figured out what school he's supposed to go to. So thank God for that older brother. My.
• 20:46
  Speaker A: So the elder brother told the bus.
• 20:48
  Speaker B: No, the elder brother Went up to the bus driver right away and was like, this guy's not supposed to go to the school or on this bus. So right away they figured it out and they got him to the right school. So thank you to the friend. I mean the older brother.
• 21:02
  Speaker A: Wait, that is like incredible that he did that.
• 21:05
  Speaker B: And. But the funniest part of the whole story is that he comes home from school and it's so hard to not say names. And she doesn't even give a shit. But so my friend was like asking like what happened? Like, because she wanted to hear it from.
• 21:21
  Speaker A: She didn't do nothing.
• 21:22
  Speaker B: She didn't know she did. Not one thing. Because she didn't want him to be trauma. She wanted him to get back on the bus to come home because she didn't want to ruin the whole bus experience for him, never getting on a bus ever again. And so he came back and he was like, mom, the craziest thing happened. I got on the wrong bus and I went to the wrong school. And it was so funny.
• 21:37
  Speaker A: Wait, that's the best case scenario.
• 21:38
  Speaker B: Best case scenario ever. So she was like, no way. So it was just like a funny story. Haha, laugh it off. And he went right back on the bus today.
• 21:46
  Speaker A: I don't know why that makes me so emotional. Yeah, like kids are just so.
• 21:49
  Speaker B: Kids are resilient.
• 21:50
  Speaker A: Meanwhile parents are screaming. Yeah, I would have called 911 on each school.
• 21:54
  Speaker B: Oh, I know. I mean, same. And she's very way more relaxed than me.
• 21:59
  Speaker A: But I would have been like, hey, 91 1, go arrest everybody who exists at that school.
• 22:04
  Speaker B: Wait, actually. So that story happened. I'm at pickup for Rocco and are
• 22:10
  Speaker A: you gonna tell me about how that was?
• 22:11
  Speaker B: I know I didn't tell you or I wanted to. Save it. So I'm at pickup and I'm sitting in my car. So for pick out you have to get out of your car and go into the school to pick up the kid. But I got there obviously at like.
• 22:21
  Speaker A: Do you have to go in the same entrance for both of your kids?
• 22:24
  Speaker B: No. So listen, so two. So I'm in the parking lot at like 2:40, just like waiting for the bell to go off at 3 o'.
• 22:31
  Speaker A: Clock. I can't.
• 22:32
  Speaker B: And I'm just waiting and I'm like looking around and I'm trying to like see if other moms, like no one was even in the parking lot yet. Like people came straight at three. Like obviously people have lives and they
• 22:41
  Speaker A: don't open the doors till three on the day.
• 22:42
  Speaker B: Right. But So I was like, I'm gonna do something different this year. Like, I want to be. I want to make a friend. Like, I want. I want to be approachable. And I'm gonna go out and stand, and if I see a cool mom that looks like she would want to talk to me, I'm gonna talk to her. So I did just that. I got out, and this mom that I recognized that her son was in Rocco's class. I went up to her, and she was a newborn, and I was. And I went up to her. I was like, how do you think the first day went? And how was it having just your baby home? Like, wasn't that so nice to have a couple hours to yourself? And she was like, oh, my God. I was like, what? She was like, I fucked up. She was like, so it was Tuesday. She was like, I didn't even sign him up for school today. He wasn't. He was only going Monday, Wednesday, Friday. So the school called her and was like, your son's not supposed to be here today. You have to come get him. So she sent him the wrong day of this. Of the first day of school, because
• 23:37
  Speaker A: they let him stay all day.
• 23:38
  Speaker B: Well, they let him stay because they didn't reach max capacity. And, like, she was like, okay, thank God. Because he already, like, imagine getting them in and then taking him back. She was like, that would be the worst case. So they let him stay. But she was like, I felt like the worst parent ever. And then. So when she was telling the story, she was, like, laughing, but, like, also upset about it. I was like, you did good. My kid. My best friend just sent her kid on the wrong school to the wrong wait.
• 24:01
  Speaker A: I love how real she was.
• 24:02
  Speaker B: Yeah, she was so real. I love her. I'll show you her Instagram. You're gonna want to be friends with her, too.
• 24:06
  Speaker A: Okay, cool.
• 24:07
  Speaker B: I mean, I'm not friends with her, but I want to be.
• 24:09
  Speaker A: You want to be. That was so good. They did that. I'm so proud of you. So I was one person.
• 24:12
  Speaker B: No, I was proud of my.
• 24:13
  Speaker A: People were talking. I was like, this. Yeah.
• 24:16
  Speaker B: So that.
• 24:16
  Speaker A: And why was I doing that?
• 24:17
  Speaker B: That's the other thing. Like, parents are on their phones, and we as a society are our. Our phone is our comfort.
• 24:24
  Speaker A: Like, I wasn't even nervous. I just was, like, answering. Ryan.
• 24:28
  Speaker B: Yeah. And. Yeah, like, people. And people are working. People should do. People are answering emails. But, like, if you could just, like, step back for that 10 minutes where you're picking up your kid and, like, say, hi, to meet someone. Call the mom next door. Like, the nervous. Yeah. Like, I think that everyone should challenge themselves to do that because I know I'm challenging myself too. And I did do it for the first day, and I want to keep doing it and for pickup, like, at the big school that my kid is at. Like, these are the kids that my kids are going to be in school for life. So I need to make that relationship with these parents. So I'm trying really hard.
• 25:00
  Speaker A: That was good that you did that. Do you know her first name?
• 25:02
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 25:03
  Speaker A: Very good.
• 25:04
  Speaker B: But I do. I. And I. And. And if you could just, like, really think about it, like, everybody's a little nervous too. And everybody.
• 25:11
  Speaker A: You could tell. Yeah, but it's nerve wracking when people know each other.
• 25:14
  Speaker B: It's like, yeah, well, no, it's. It's intimidating. And I was thinking that even for us, like, me and you were joking and laughing on, like, I would be intimidated if I saw two, like, nice, normal moms, like, joking and laughing. Like, I want to be in that group.
• 25:26
  Speaker A: But, like, also, I would ask someone to come. I gotta be like, yeah.
• 25:28
  Speaker B: Like. And obviously it was our first day, first weeks, like, we will reach out. Like, we want.
• 25:33
  Speaker A: You see familiar faces. You get to see them, you know, every week. So it gets.
• 25:36
  Speaker B: But it is hard. And I. I just have to say, like, we. We really are humans, too. And, like, we feel. And we feel for our kids, and we feel we're just like. I don't know, like, I. I felt like a kid myself. Like, being nervous.
• 25:50
  Speaker A: Yeah. Like, I feel like. Not that I didn't expect. I mean, again, you have three. So you've been through this, like, time and time again. This is like my first rodeo. So I just feel like, am I supposed to be feeling this way? And then once you get past that, it's like, okay, now I'm feeling this way. Why am I feeling this way? Did I make the wrong decision? Is he gonna be like this till the end of the school year? Does it get better? You know, the guilt. It's like, how do you get past? But anyone says it does get better.
• 26:18
  Speaker B: I can't even say that it gets easier. I think it's just. You get more.
• 26:25
  Speaker A: I love when I'm gonna cry every time I drop off 100%.
• 26:28
  Speaker B: And I thought that I had this. Like, I thought dropping Joey off of first grade. I just did it with the babies. Like, I thought I was gonna be fine. But, like, there's just something about that first day. The soft thing sent me and there was a couple other things that now I can't remember, but, like, oh, so he. He wants to buy lunch. Okay. So. So they get, like, a lunch account. So we put $100 on the account.
• 26:53
  Speaker A: Lunch, like, makes me so emotional.
• 26:54
  Speaker B: Yeah. So. So he. He was like, I want to buy lunch. I'm like, okay, but, like, I'm gonna pack you lunch today just in case. Like, you don't know how to do it. Like, they're in a cafeteria. Like, what if he doesn't know how to do it? So, like, I packed his whole lunchbox. Like, he has his bent Benko box. Like, the whole thing. And I don't know. Like, I'll find out, but, like, I don't know if he's going to buy lunch or eat my lunch.
• 27:12
  Speaker A: How did he know who to sit with? Did he sit with her class?
• 27:15
  Speaker B: I don't even know. I hope so.
• 27:18
  Speaker A: Like, lunch.
• 27:19
  Speaker B: Lunch.
• 27:19
  Speaker A: When they sent. The teacher sent the picture of him eating his lunch.
• 27:22
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 27:22
  Speaker A: They grabbed their lunchbox one at a time, and they bring it into. And then him opening his lunchbox to sit and eat it.
• 27:27
  Speaker B: Did he eat lunch?
• 27:28
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 27:28
  Speaker B: My kids didn't fucking touch their lunchbox.
• 27:30
  Speaker A: Not touch.
• 27:31
  Speaker B: They. So I packed.
• 27:32
  Speaker A: Unless someone else ate it.
• 27:33
  Speaker B: I packed a thermos.
• 27:34
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 27:35
  Speaker B: I packed a million things. Cause I didn't know what they would do. I packed a million things, but I packed a thermos, both of them, of Mac and cheese. And then I packed, like, a bagel, like in the. In the bento box, and a million snacks. They didn't. I don't think they even opened the Mac and cheese thermos. They had, like, a bite of their grapes, a bite of like. Like they didn't eat.
• 27:54
  Speaker A: But I'm shocked. Geo did. I mean, Geo ate all his strawberries, all his grapes, his yogurt, took a bite out of the grilled cheese and then didn't eat his cheese stick. And didn't eat his fruit snacks till he got home. I don't know how are we gonna survive this?
• 28:08
  Speaker B: Also, I just have to say no.
• 28:10
  Speaker A: My worst nightmare.
• 28:12
  Speaker B: Not the school, not the school. Not the school, not the school. There's nothing worse than getting well.
• 28:16
  Speaker A: That's what.
• 28:17
  Speaker B: That's what Alicia said when she saw the school. Cause she was like, it's over. Like, no.
• 28:22
  Speaker A: Like, I don't know what I would do. I would just have to go like this.
• 28:25
  Speaker B: Just don't call me school.
• 28:26
  Speaker A: Just don't call dad. Call my husband.
• 28:27
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 28:28
  Speaker A: Anyway, first day of school is so hard on everybody involved. We hope you get through your first week. We are here for you. We have so many stories. So please catch up on this episode if you're struggling with your first day of school, because I'll be crying until February of 2027.
• 28:42
  Speaker B: And same. I. I have nothing else to say.
• 28:44
  Speaker A: I'm proud of us, though. Love you.
• 28:46
  Speaker B: Hold on. Don't.
• 28:48
  Speaker A: She hasn't got her nails done because it's the first day of school, so there's no beauty week.
• 28:52
  Speaker B: Wait, so, okay, so my nails are disgusting. I'm on the way to the first day of school. I'm. I literally haven't gotten wax. And my husband looks at me.
• 29:02
  Speaker A: No.
• 29:02
  Speaker B: He's like, you have. And I was like, what a mustache. She was like, yeah. I'm like, okay, great. Now I can't talk.
• 29:08
  Speaker A: Now I have a mustache on top of this. No, I can't. Like, not the time.
• 29:13
  Speaker B: Not the time.
• 29:14
  Speaker A: Like, whiskers sticking out.
• 29:15
  Speaker B: No. Then I'm so self conscious. That's why I didn't talk to anybody. Me too.
• 29:20
  Speaker A: All right, well, mama clocks out.
• 29:22
  Speaker B: Mama clocks out. Love you. Bye.