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Decode Your Emotional Blueprint -- Judy Wilkins-Smith #5882 · Financial Survival Network

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  Do. You got to do some conscious searching more than anything else. You
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  know. You can look in your genealogy. You can see if there were
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  big events that did this. The book that you mentioned shows you very clearly
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  how to look at it in a move. But it's really about becoming involved
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  in your own money adventure, and it is an adventure. You're listening to
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  You are listening to watching the Financial Survival Network. I'm your host, Carrie
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  Letts. Well, Judy, Welcome. Smith is on with us again and
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  we're talking about money DNA, emotional DNA and her book is Decoding your Emotional
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  Blueprint, a powerful Guide to transformation through disentangling multigenerational patterns. That sounds pretty
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  daunting there, Judy, but just briefly tell us what it's about and how
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  do we do it. It's a big mouthful and it's really simple. So
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  what it is is you don't just inherit your physical DNA, You also inherit
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  your emotional DNA, and along with that, as a subset, you inherit
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  your financial money DNA. So your patterns of thoughts, feelings, actions in
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  and around money, or for that matter, or anything in your life.
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  But for today it's money. You inherit a whole bunch of that. And
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  the trick is it will often limit you. So you've got to be able
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  to identify it, and they decide what it is that you want to do.
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  So you're pretty unconsciously entangled with the patterns. We just show hard to
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  get out of those, all right, So how do you get out of
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  this? And how bet are these patterns? Really? Well, they pretty
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  much run the way that you act. So again, because we're talking about
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  money, they pretty much run the way that you will think, feel,
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  an act or our money. So if you heard your mother and father screaming
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  about money because there was never enough, that becomes your There's never enough,
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  there's never enough, There's never enough. But where did it come from?
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  Was it on one side or dad's side? Did mom have some but dad's
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  side didn't? And he heard it was never enough. It's never enough,
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  and it goes all the way back. So now it comes through to you,
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  and for you, it's like there's never enough, there's never enough.
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  You don't know when you lit get to enough, because you've just got that
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  one pattern cycling through. In fact, I have a billionaire person, a
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  billionaire client, and I said to him, so what are you going to
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  do with all of this wealth that you have? And he's his home,
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  I shouldn't What are you're going to spend it? On? Said no,
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  no, no, that's not the point. So I said to all what
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  was We had to be safe and secure? So I said are you safe
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  and secure? Well, I don't know, can you spend this all in
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  your lifetime? He said, well, yeah, if you're not careful.
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  I said, okay, are you careful? Yes? Well, then can
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  we look at that because safe and secure has been met? And he said,
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  well what don I do now? I said to them, how about
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  you and the next chapter? And oh, I didn't think of that.
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  So it's about you identifying, disentangling, and then going so what can I
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  do with this? All? Right? So how do you get rid of
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  these lingering things that are multigenerational that you don't even know you have. So
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  first of all, of course you've got to identify them. Secondly, you
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  don't want to get rid of them because they become a source of wisdom that
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  becomes the door you don't want to go back through. So you actually needed
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  there just to remind you not here. But they're so. One of the
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  things I tell people to do is sit down and write down all your thoughts
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  about money. I would see into them. Because your language in and of
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  itself is unique to you and your family system. You may say very odd
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  sounding things about money. It's telling you something. So write down your thoughts,
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  write down your feelings, write down your actions, and then have a
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  look at and go, oh, these don't feel good? That feels good?
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  What do I really want to do or have or be in terms of
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  finances? And then you write down those thoughts, feelings, actions, reactions.
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  Now you're sitting with two sets, the one that wants to stop and
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  the one that wants to start, and those two are always right next to
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  each other. So once you identify them in things like I'm so annoyed when
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  I've only got X amount in my bank account, or those rich people just
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  annoy me, you begin to see exactly what your financial or money DNA is,
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  then you can decide what you Here's the thing in systems, we know
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  that what you really do deeply want and desire is the system's way of pushing
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  you forward. And when I say a system, that's your family system.
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  So it's busy pushing you forward. It's also saying to stop the old pattern.
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  It doesn't work anymore. It's over. So one was once a solution
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  in one generation, it's no longer a solution. Very often in the next
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  generation. Your grandfather they have said, you know what, everything's collapsing,
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  Take your money out the bank, hide it under the mattress. Well,
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  these days, with decent earnings on your savings, that doesn't really work anymore.
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  So you've got to be able to language. Yeah, okay. So
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  you diagnose the situation and then you come to terms with it. You list
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  it, How does it work? How do you actually get over it?
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  Well, what you do then is you look at what it is you do
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  want, and you've then got to create a bigger want than the place that
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  you're at at the moment. So I'm always living paycheck to paycheck to paycheck,
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  I actually want financial freedom. I want to build a nest egg show.
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  If something happens, I'm not panicked. Okay, that next egg sounds
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  really really exciting. It sounds far more exciting than this living from paycheck to
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  paycheck. How do I make it happen. I'm gonna take just a little
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  bit each month and I'm going to start building that. Well, then it
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  becomes more and more intriguing because now this has got a stronger pull than the
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  old pull of it comes, it goes, or I've always only gotten up
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  from month to month. So you're building out a healthy pattern and that migrates
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  you've passed your limitations and into where you want to be, into a healthy
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  money DNA. All right, So all right, and then is it just
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  solved at that point or do you have to keep doing the work. That's
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  a great, great question if you've solved it. And I'll tell you why.
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  Because I had somebody who said to me, I want to do EX
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  and I said, to okay, good goal. So she gets to X,
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  she achieves it, and she says, well, now I'm in a
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  funk. So I said, all why she said, because now what I
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  said, No, it doesn't stop. You keep building and you keep building
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  and you keep expanding. The minute you stop, you're going to start reverting.
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  And then she said to me, well, that's hard work. And
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  if it's a hope, oh no, one said it was going to be
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  easy. But it's not just that. Is it really hard work or is
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  it going to be harder work when you're living from paycheck to paycheck, because
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  you can do either, and she would, oh no, I don't want
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  to do that anymore. So we're doing the work all the time, but
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  we're either going backwards or forwards. It's just a matter of what you pick.
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  So the choice is really up to you, then, isn't it.
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  It's very much about choice, and it's about making your choice strong enough to
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  make you so excited that there's no way you're going to go back to that
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  way because that just isn't cool anymore. Okay, So these beliefs, basically
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  you're dealing with false beliefs. To have that correct, you're dealing either with
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  false beliefs or outdated beliefs. Often it's outdated beliefs. An event happened,
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  an ancestor made a choice and said this is the way we handle money,
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  and it was good for then, but it's not good for now. It's
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  not. What you've got to do is go, okay, that was then,
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  this is now okay. So you really really got to do some soul
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  searching to the bottom of this, then, don't you. Absolutely you've got
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  to do some conscious searching more than anything else. You know, you can
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  look in your genealogy. You can see if there were big events that did
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  this. The book that you mentioned shows you very clearly how to look at
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  it and then moves. But it's it's really about becoming involved in your own
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  money adventure. And it is an adventure. Oh yes, it's an adventure.
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  I can speak from personal experience there, Judy. So how do you
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  get the book? How do we connect with you? Do you provide any
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  support in this arena? I do actually quite a lot. So you can
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  get the book all over the place, Amazon, Kindle, Audible, all
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  of the big ones, Bonds and Noble, any of those meditations are also
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  there if people are looking for those to help them. And then in November,
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  I'm teaching money DNA down at Disney World, and that is for people
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  to come in and we actually go through what is your money DNA? Where
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  did it come from how is it affecting you? What do we need to
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  do so that you could switch it up? And then you start walking towards
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  your new money adventure. So it's four days of really becoming immersedy in who
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  am I financially? And who do I want to be financially? And how
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  do we migrate from the one to the other. Okay, so there's a
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  website. How do we how do we connect with you Judy wi Kins hyphensmith
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  dot com. And you'll also see that my Bad live event in November is
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  listed there and it's filling so people who want to come and play, but
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  it's working hard during the day, playing hard during the night because we're on
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  site at Disney. But they're more than welcome. This is open to the
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  public. Oh excellent. Well, I love what you're doing. It sounds
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  like a real adventure. I think for many of you out there, past
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  is indeed prologue. But it's up to you to make the decision whether that
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  continues to rule your life or whether you actually do something about it. Hey,
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  if you got a question for Judy myself, shoot us an email k
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  l at krylots dot com. We'll get you an answer. Quickly. You'll
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  find a link to Judy's site in the show notes this interview on Financial Survival
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  Network dot com. And while you're there, please sign up for a free
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  newsletter. Judy, always a pleasure, Thanks so much for stopping by.
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  Period is always a pleasure to be with you. Let people go and grow
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  their lives remarkably because your money DNA will do it. Thanks for listening to
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  carry Lenz's Financial Survival Network, your solution to today's trying times. For the
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