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#631 I'll Do Better Tomorrow · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the
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Speaker 1: time poor parent who just wants answers. Now.
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Speaker 2: I made all the kids line up, and if they
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Speaker 2: could throw the tennis ball into the tiny bucket, they
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Speaker 2: got the biggest treat we had.
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Speaker 3: We're a scrooge. If they didn't get it in, you
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Speaker 3: didn't even let them take a little lily.
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Speaker 2: But I gave them like five chances. If some of
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Speaker 2: these kids they just couldn't throw it in.
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Speaker 1: And now here's the stars of our show, my mom
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Speaker 1: and dad.
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Speaker 2: Okay, missus, Happy Families take six for our old do
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Speaker 2: better tomorrow podcasts. Don't be like that number six. You've
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Speaker 2: still got Okay, I've just got to put it out there.
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Speaker 2: You see him a bit cranky today, but agitated, not
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Speaker 2: at your best. I'm just saying, I feel like.
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Speaker 3: I'm sitting in a sauna. You won't let me have
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Speaker 3: the fan on because it comes through the yes yes,
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Speaker 3: And I'm just struggling a lot.
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Speaker 2: People don't want to listen to a podcast that sounds
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Speaker 2: like while we're trying to talk to them. Doesn't work
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Speaker 2: like that. Welcome to the Happy Family's podcast with the
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Speaker 2: Cranky Missus. Happy Families today not.
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Speaker 3: Really cranky exaggerating.
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Speaker 2: Well, it's just smiling now. The Friday edition of our
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Speaker 2: Happy Families podcast is always I'll do better Tomorrow. The
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Speaker 2: idea is that we recognize that no matter how much
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Speaker 2: we try to get our parenting right, we never will
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Speaker 2: and there are all kinds of things that we need
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Speaker 2: to talk about practice do better tomorrow, hence the title
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Speaker 2: I'll do better Tomorrow, Kylie. Today my conversation is all
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Speaker 2: about Halloween because Monday was was enormous at our house
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Speaker 2: and I have to talk about it because I think
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Speaker 2: that I absolutely nailed it. What about you? What's your
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Speaker 2: older better Tomorrow going to be about?
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Speaker 3: Well, hopefully by the time you finished your story, I'll
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Speaker 3: have one to share to you.
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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, so let's talk Monday. We have been
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Speaker 2: warned when we bought the house that we now live
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Speaker 2: in that this street is one of the busiest streets
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Speaker 2: in our suburb for Halloween. And we were also warned
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Speaker 2: that the people who used to live in this house
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Speaker 2: had the ultimate Halloween party and the place just get packed,
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Speaker 2: like big time packed. So how many pieces of confectionery
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Speaker 2: do you reckon you had ready to hand out to people?
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Speaker 2: One per child.
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Speaker 3: I brought over twelve hundred so much so you know,
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Speaker 3: a little popping candy and yeah like that. But it
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Speaker 3: was all individually wrapped obviously.
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Speaker 2: You need, yeah, so that we could hand it out
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Speaker 2: to people. Right. So I think that I did the
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Speaker 2: best Halloween ever. What I decided was what you decided.
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Speaker 3: You left me. Let's paint the picture, because this was
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Speaker 3: our very first Halloween. We've never done.
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Speaker 2: Hellow making me look really bad. I had an emergency. Okay,
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Speaker 2: so let's go back. If you're going to we have
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Speaker 2: to do this properly. So last week I have a
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Speaker 2: really expensive road bike, right Like, I love to ride
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Speaker 2: my bicycle, and last week I had it on the
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Speaker 2: car I had on the roof racks.
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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay. If you're going to tell the story,
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Speaker 3: then you have to go all the way back to
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Speaker 3: the very beginning when you brought said bike, yes, with
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Speaker 3: your roof racks, and you sat me down and gave
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Speaker 3: me an entire conversation about if I ever was to
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Speaker 3: drive your car with your bike on the route that
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Speaker 3: I was never allowed to drive underneath a undercover car park.
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Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes, thank you, thank you so much. And
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Speaker 2: also because I've had bike insurance for I don't know
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Speaker 2: how long, like years, seven years, for all of my
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Speaker 2: nice bicycles, and I've never used it. I decided to
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Speaker 2: cancel my insurance when I bought the best bike that
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Speaker 2: I've ever had. And last week, while I was driving
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Speaker 2: in a hurry to do something, I completely forgot that
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Speaker 2: the bike was on the roof and I drove it
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Speaker 2: into an undercover car park and the bike. You're laughing
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Speaker 2: when I say this is not funny. This was heartbreaking.
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Speaker 2: This crushed me the bike.
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Speaker 3: I know, I know it was heartbreaking for you, but
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Speaker 3: I can't tell you how relieved I was when you
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Speaker 3: told me that you had done it, because I don't
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Speaker 3: think our marriage would have survived if it had been me.
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Speaker 2: Oh, don't say that, No, that's not true.
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Speaker 3: Well, I would definitely never have lived that one down.
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Speaker 2: I would have hugged you. I promise you I would
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Speaker 2: have huged you, and I would have said you feel
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Speaker 2: worse about this than me if it had been you,
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Speaker 2: I guarantee I would have said that. Anyway, so I've
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Speaker 2: driven into an uncovered car park with my I'm not
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Speaker 2: even going to tell you how expensive this bike is
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Speaker 2: but it is it's more expensive than some small cars.
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Speaker 2: Like this is an expensive bike I've saved up for
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Speaker 2: years and years and years to buy. It's literally one
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Speaker 2: of the best bicycles on the market. For those of
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Speaker 2: you who are cyclists. I'm going to brag for a second.
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Speaker 2: It's what's called a Pinarello Dogma F twelve, Like this
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Speaker 2: bike is, this is the pinnacle of bicycles. And I've
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Speaker 2: driven it into the cover car park and not only
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Speaker 2: did I damage the bike, but but I hit the
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Speaker 2: undercover car parks cement roof at such velocity that the
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Speaker 2: bike and the roof racks were ripped from the roof
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Speaker 2: of the car. And when I finally stopped the car
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Speaker 2: and turned around, the bike was still attached to the
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Speaker 2: roof racks on the concrete beside the car. The car
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Speaker 2: has been down. I like, we're up for a huge
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Speaker 2: amount of money in insurance costs because the car has
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Speaker 2: been really badly hurt because roofracks are not supposed to
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Speaker 2: be ripped off a car by a bicycle hitting a
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Speaker 2: concrete undercover car park. So anyway, I've had a very
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Speaker 2: very very bad week. That was last week, and I
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Speaker 2: pretty much cried for three days. I can't believe you're
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Speaker 2: laughing at me. But on Monday, Halloween, I finally went
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Speaker 2: and spoke to the insurers. Not insured by hospital, not
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Speaker 2: insured for the bike, but I got the car looked
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Speaker 2: at by the insurers and so we got that booked
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Speaker 2: in and then I called the bike hospital. There's a
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Speaker 2: place in Brisbane that repairs carbon bicycles, and we had
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Speaker 2: to pull the entire bike apart. But I had to.
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Speaker 2: I had to actually get in the car and drive
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Speaker 2: all the way down to Brisbane and go through this
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Speaker 2: long process with them where we're trying to work out
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Speaker 2: how badly damaged the bike is. Is it written off?
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Speaker 2: If I lost all of it, can we salvage it.
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Speaker 2: We had to go through that entire process, and while
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Speaker 2: I was there, I said, well, if we're going to
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Speaker 2: do all of this, we might as well repaint it
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Speaker 2: so it feels like it's a brand new bike when
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Speaker 2: I get it back, it's salvagible. So I decided to
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Speaker 2: spend some more money there, which I might not be
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Speaker 2: doing now that we've had this interest rate hike again.
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Speaker 2: But the whole point of this story is that you're
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Speaker 2: saying that I left you behind, but I didn't. I
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Speaker 2: was dealing with an emergency and I had to Well.
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Speaker 3: My emergency was the fact that there has been so
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Speaker 3: much pressure around this Halloween because Emily had gone to
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Speaker 3: play with some of the neighbors on Sunday and she
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Speaker 3: came home in an absolute flap because we had not
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Speaker 3: decorated that's right, and she was like, we have to
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Speaker 3: do it now. We're not going to have enough time
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Speaker 3: if we don't do it now. I said, I could
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Speaker 3: be okay. She's like, oh, you don't understand. Everybody doesn't.
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Speaker 3: And our house is the best house.
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Speaker 2: The whole neighborhood knows that our house is the Halloween
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Speaker 2: house in the Halloween Street in the Halloween suburbs.
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Speaker 3: So you disappeared.
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Speaker 2: I kind of did, But I was doing important things.
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Speaker 2: It's not like I was being negligent and abrogating my
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Speaker 2: responsibility as a as a husband and father. I was
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Speaker 2: looking after my bike, your bike. Oh, honeybun, don'teel like that,
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Speaker 2: while I and you did an amazing job the front
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Speaker 2: of the house, an amazing.
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Speaker 3: Job so that everybody knew that they could come to
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Speaker 3: our house.
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Speaker 2: Okay, So fast forward. It's the afternoon I walk in
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Speaker 2: the door. You say, oh, I've got to now vacate
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Speaker 2: the house. You're going to look after the screaming hordes,
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Speaker 2: the masses as they come through the gate asking for lollies.
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Speaker 3: Where was I going?
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Speaker 2: You were going to take one of our children to
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Speaker 2: an activity, pick her up from school, take her to
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Speaker 2: one of her after school activities, thank you, and like
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Speaker 2: a planned extracurricular activity. So I'm stuck in the driveway
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Speaker 2: and I thought to myself, I love the community aspect
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Speaker 2: of Halloween. I love the people are out and about
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Speaker 2: with their kids and their families. In fact, I've got
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Speaker 2: to just address something before I say what we did.
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Speaker 2: A lot of people say, oh, we don't look this
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Speaker 2: because what the child safety issues. So there's an amazing
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Speaker 2: podcast out there called Cautionary Tales with Tim Harford, and
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Speaker 2: he shares this incredible episode just before Halloween talking about
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Speaker 2: how there is literally not a single documented case of
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Speaker 2: any kind of foul play occurring to any children on
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Speaker 2: Halloween ever, apart from a couple of people giving kids laxatives.
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Speaker 2: That's but they got charged, They got in trouble from
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Speaker 2: the police, caused some reputational damage, and there was one
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Speaker 2: tragic story of a father who did badly by his family,
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Speaker 2: and it's a devastating, devastating story. But other than that,
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Speaker 2: this idea that our kids are at risk because they're
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Speaker 2: out and about on Halloween. He shows that statistically, they're
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Speaker 2: more likely to get hit by a car while they're
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Speaker 2: crossing the street on Halloween asking for lollies from someone
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Speaker 2: than they are experiencing any kind of foul play from anyone.
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Speaker 2: I mean, it's just it's a safe, wonderful community minded
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Speaker 2: everyone out and about having a great time kind of event.
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Speaker 2: So just had to put that out there. So I'm
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Speaker 2: in the front yard. People have to come through our
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Speaker 2: spooky gate that you've put together, and I'm thinking, I
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Speaker 2: don't want to have this transactional kid shows up. Can
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Speaker 2: I have some lollies? I stick some lollies in their
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Speaker 2: bucket and they walk away. I'm thinking that's lame. We
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Speaker 2: can do better than that. And you bought more than
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Speaker 2: twelve hundred individual pieces of candy, so I figured we
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Speaker 2: can have some fun with this. So I grabbed three buckets,
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Speaker 2: a really little one, a medium sized one, and a
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Speaker 2: really big one, and I drew a line on the
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Speaker 2: driveway with the chalk, and I got a whole bunch
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Speaker 2: of tennis balls, and I made all the kids line up,
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Speaker 2: and if they could throw the tennis ball into the
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Speaker 2: tiny bucket, they got the biggest treat we had. If
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Speaker 2: they could throw it into the medium sized bucket, they
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Speaker 2: got the medium treats that we had. And if they
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Speaker 2: could throw it into the big bucket, then they got
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Speaker 2: the littlest treats because the big bucket's the easiest one.
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Speaker 2: And then I just made them line up and I
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Speaker 2: gave them three shots, and if they couldn't get it in,
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Speaker 2: I said, oh sorry, you don't get a treat. It's
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Speaker 2: a trick. See you later. But the thing is, we
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Speaker 2: had without a word of a lie, I reckon. We
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Speaker 2: had five, six, maybe seven hundred kids come through our
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Speaker 2: front gate with their parents. Like our house was insane.
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Speaker 2: It was berserk. And I've got all these kids throwing
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Speaker 2: tennis balls. Tennis balls are going everywhere. We're just having
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Speaker 2: giving away lollies. I'm sending kids out because they couldn't
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Speaker 2: get them in. I'm bringing the top lease in.
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Speaker 3: We're screwge. You wouldn't they if they didn't get it in.
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Speaker 3: You didn't even let them take a little lolly.
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Speaker 2: But I gave them like five chances. I mean, if
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Speaker 2: some of these kids they just couldn't throw it in.
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Speaker 2: But there were toddlers, We brought them nice in clothes.
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Speaker 2: There was a little girl who came through in a wheelchair.
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Speaker 2: We gave her the opportunity to do it in a
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Speaker 2: way that she was going to succeed. I even tapped
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Speaker 2: the ball in for a bunch of kids. I was
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Speaker 2: trying really hard to give these lollies away. I didn't
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Speaker 2: want to keep it all. But I think we nailed it.
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Speaker 2: Like the kids got to a point where I was
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Speaker 2: so exhausted because for two and a half hours I
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Speaker 2: just chased balls and yelled said come on, you can
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Speaker 2: do it, and kind of giving these instructions. And after
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Speaker 2: about two and a half hours, I was like, I'm
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Speaker 2: so done, guys. We're just going to give you the lollies.
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Speaker 2: You don't have to throw the ball anymore. And the
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Speaker 2: kids are like, no, no, no, we've been lining up so
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Speaker 2: we can throw the ball. Like they literally wanted to
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Speaker 2: throw a tennis ball into a bucket to get a lollie.
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Speaker 2: They loved the challenge of having to do that rather
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Speaker 2: than the alternative. The other big story that came from
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Speaker 2: it was I don't know if I did this right
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Speaker 2: or not, but there were a couple of teenagers that
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Speaker 2: got in the front of the line at one point,
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Speaker 2: and a teenage girl I reck and she was fourteen
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Speaker 2: or fifteen. She missed threw out an F bomb, like
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Speaker 2: just bang, and I was like, did she actually say
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Speaker 2: what I think she said? And I let it go
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Speaker 2: because it was so short and so sharp and so
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Speaker 2: there was so much noise. I was not sure if
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Speaker 2: that's what she'd actually done. She had her second shot,
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Speaker 2: and this time she did it again. I just looked
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Speaker 2: at her and said, you can leave, no Wally's for you,
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Speaker 2: And she looked at me and didn't even argue. She
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Speaker 2: just walked out. She was like, yep, sorry, and she
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Speaker 2: knew that she'd overstep. Like there's kids, there's families everywhere,
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Speaker 2: and there's this kid doing that. So that was my
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Speaker 2: I'll do better tomorrow. Next year, we're going to have
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Speaker 2: an even better competition and even better challenge skill test
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Speaker 2: for kids. But that's what we're doing it out place
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Speaker 2: so that they can earn their sugar, they can earn
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Speaker 2: their treats, I think I absolutely nailed it, and that's
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Speaker 2: my my brilliant parenting moment. I let the kids wander
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Speaker 2: the streets without my supervision. Well, I gave a whole
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Speaker 2: lot of other like six hundred other kids lollies. What
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Speaker 2: do you think about that? Missus Wilson, and I even
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Speaker 2: made it back from Brisbane and the bike shop in
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Speaker 2: time to do it all.
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Speaker 3: You're amazing.
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Speaker 2: I do what I can. I do it again. I
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Speaker 2: wish I was amazing when I was driving with my
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Speaker 2: bike on my roof. Then I wouldn't have had to
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Speaker 2: have gone down to Brisbane in the first place. Any feedback,
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Speaker 2: are you're happy with the way that Halloween went?
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Speaker 3: Because there had been such a massive talk up about Halloween,
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Speaker 3: I was really nervous about how it would all happen
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Speaker 3: because people that the neighbors had literally said, you won't
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Speaker 3: have time to open and close the front door, like
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Speaker 3: there are just so many kids coming through, And so
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Speaker 3: I was trying to work out how we were going
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Speaker 3: to make this work. And I really loved the idea
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Speaker 3: of doing an activity just just.
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Speaker 2: To clarify in that you won't have time to open
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Speaker 2: and close the front door. There'll be so many kids
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Speaker 2: coming to this house. At one point, I reckon there
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Speaker 2: was probably fifty kids in line to throw the ball.
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Speaker 2: I mean it was relentless for two and a half,
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Speaker 2: nearly three hours.
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Speaker 3: At multiple times we had that around about that many people.
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Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes, several ebbs and.
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Speaker 3: Flows, but I was just I was blown away.
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Speaker 2: I don't think there was any ever less than ten.
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Speaker 2: Once it started. It was just on. I mean it
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Speaker 2: was it was relentless. I feel like I'm still recovering.
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Speaker 3: So I just I wanted to do something really really
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Speaker 3: low key, just so we could kind of get a
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Speaker 3: feel for it this year. But next year, I think
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Speaker 3: that what would be good is if we actually had
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Speaker 3: a few different stations so the kids weren't all waiting
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Speaker 3: for one station.
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Speaker 2: Oh well, we'll get the kids involved. We'll get our
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Speaker 2: kids involved in running those stations.
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Speaker 3: Because time and time again, the parents were like, this
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Speaker 3: is great and what I loved at one parent actually.
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Speaker 2: It was so basic though, it really was. It really was.
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Speaker 3: I was a little bit embarrassed about how basic it was.
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Speaker 3: But one parent actually said to me, she said, this
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Speaker 3: is really good idea. This kind of slows everything down
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Speaker 3: and you don't go through so many lollies, And that
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Speaker 3: wasn't our intention at all, giving away lollies. It wasn't
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Speaker 3: our intention. But slowing things down was one hundred percent
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Speaker 3: our attention. Like you said, we didn't want to do
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Speaker 3: this transactional thing. We're in this new neighborhood. We want
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Speaker 3: to meet people, we want to actually add to the
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Speaker 3: you know, the community, and it was just it was
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Speaker 3: it was just such a wonderful community vibe. And that's
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Speaker 3: what I'm loving the most about what we're striving to
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Speaker 3: achieve here.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, great stuff. You were a little bit cranky
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Speaker 2: at me for letting kids leave without winning a treat,
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Speaker 2: Yeah I was, Yeah, I wasn't. I still think like,
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Speaker 2: you've got to demonstrate your skill and if you can't
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Speaker 2: get it, we'll give you more chances and they could
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Speaker 2: go to go back to the back of the line.
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Speaker 3: For me, I'd be the person standing at the front
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Speaker 3: of the line, and no matter how many chances you
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Speaker 3: gave me, the pressure is on and whenever I feel pressure,
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Speaker 3: I just will never get there. So I was that kid,
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Speaker 3: and I just it's because it's not a prize, right,
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Speaker 3: And so for me, it was all about just everybody
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Speaker 3: having a good time, and I would have preferred that
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Speaker 3: everybody walked well.
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Speaker 2: I did see you sneaking some treats to people who
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Speaker 2: I kicked out without without actually passing the skill tos.
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Speaker 2: I did see you flicking a few treats that in
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Speaker 2: that way. Maybe Yeah, all right, Hey, we've talked a
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Speaker 2: long time about Halloween. We've got about a minute and
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Speaker 2: a half left till the end of the podcast. What's
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Speaker 2: your d do better tomorrow?
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Speaker 3: Look, I, in all honesty, I've just been a little
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Speaker 3: bit out of sorts all week, and especially around bedtime
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Speaker 3: the kids. I can feel it as the end of the.
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Speaker 2: Year, end of the school years only a few weeks away.
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Speaker 3: Everybody's starting to feel a bit raddy, struggling to get
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Speaker 3: out of bed in the.
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Speaker 2: Morning, suns up later in the evening, suns up earlier
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Speaker 2: in the morning, and.
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Speaker 3: So everything is just starting to feel sluggish. And at nighttime,
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Speaker 3: the kids are going to bed later and later and later,
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Speaker 3: And this week in particular, I've just felt a little
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Speaker 3: bit frustrated because my time with you was so limited,
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Speaker 3: and at night, especially our eight year old, is the
15:30
Speaker 3: bedtimes just creeping up and getting later and later and later,
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Speaker 3: and As a result, by the time you and I
15:37
Speaker 3: finally get to go to bed, I'm so exhausted. I
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Speaker 3: just want to close my eyes. There's no pillow talk,
15:42
Speaker 3: there's no time to actually be together and connect. And
15:46
Speaker 3: as I reflected on all of the frustration and angst
15:50
Speaker 3: that I have been feeling, and the fact that bedtime
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Speaker 3: has been getting more and more frustrating, I realized again
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Speaker 3: for the umpteenth time that while ever I have my
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Speaker 3: own agenda, when it comes to bedtime, it just pushes
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Speaker 3: everything out. It's almost like the kids can read your mind.
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Speaker 3: They know that you've got something else you want to
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Speaker 3: be doing, and they just push it every time. And
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Speaker 3: when I can just let go of that and actually go,
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Speaker 3: you know what, I'm just happy to lay here with you,
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Speaker 3: even if it takes ten minutes, things go so much smoother.
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Speaker 3: But I had to I had to get through a
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Speaker 3: really crappy week to remind myself.
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Speaker 2: I've noticed how good you've been at night in terms
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Speaker 2: of being relaxed and just walking the kids through it
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Speaker 2: bit by bit, just shepherding them as they do it
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Speaker 2: at their own pace. A quick shout out as well
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Speaker 2: to everyone at Pembroke and Adelaide where I spoke last night,
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Speaker 2: and also the Clare Valley Children's Center. I got to
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Speaker 2: hang out with them on Wednesday night. So you've done
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Speaker 2: it a little bit on your own this week as well.
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Speaker 2: It's been a kind of a tough week for you
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Speaker 2: from that perspective. The last thing that I want to
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Speaker 2: mention is November twenty eight, We've got a webinar coming
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Speaker 2: up that I think you'll love. If you are a
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Speaker 2: Happy Family's member, it's included in your membership. If you
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Speaker 2: are not a Happy Families member, I really think this
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Speaker 2: is going to be one that you will absolutely want
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Speaker 2: to get a hold of. It's called No Damage Discipline,
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Speaker 2: No Damaged Discipline. This is a webinar that's coming off
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Speaker 2: the back of the conversations that I've been having recently
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Speaker 2: about smacking on a current affair and time out and
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Speaker 2: a whole lot of other challenges that parents are having
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Speaker 2: with discipline. Everyone keeps on saying, you keep on saying
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Speaker 2: that we have to be more gentle with our kids.
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Speaker 2: We're not supposed to hit them or forcibly isolate them,
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Speaker 2: But what are we supposed to do instead? This is
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Speaker 2: the response No Damage Discipline it's a webinar on November
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Speaker 2: twenty eight. You can get all the details at the
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Speaker 2: doctor Justin Coulson's Happy Family's Facebook page. Really hope you
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Speaker 2: enjoyed our conversation today and that it's inspired you to,
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Speaker 2: I don't know, have a better Halloween next year, or
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Speaker 2: instead just just be more present for the kids and
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Speaker 2: slow things down and get that gentle shepherding happening through
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Speaker 2: the evenings of the mornings to make things happen. Only
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Speaker 2: about what five weeks to go until Christmas holidays and
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Speaker 2: we can all take a big breather. The Happy Families
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Speaker 2: podcast is produced by Justin Roland from Bridge Media. Craig
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Speaker 2: Bruce is our executive producer and if you'd like more
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Speaker 2: November twenty eight. Please visit us at doctor Justin Colson's
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