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Season 4 - Episode 99 - Human being suck at taking ownership · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset, coach, creative strategist, and also happen to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. Human beings really, really suck
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  at taking ownership overall. In general, human beings are
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  always looking for reasons, and those reasons for whatever may
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  be going on in our world doesn't matter.
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  Politically, emotionally, close to you, personal, professional,
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  doesn't matter. We constantly look for reasons
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  why things the way they are are why things are happening the way
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  they're happening. And because of that, because we
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  are always seeking reasons very organically.
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  That's not something that we do, you know, we have it planned,
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  but it's just part of our hardwiring.
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  It is in our nature. It's in our very nature to stop
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  and say, well, it's because blank, blank, blank.
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  And there is some part of that that makes it so that we don't
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  take ownership of things and say, no, it's me.
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  It's because of me. And it it shows up in our
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  everyday lives constantly. And when you think about it,
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  when you stop and pause and you say, OK, how many times have I
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  heard other people do this? And it infuriates me.
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  I listen to what they say and I'm like, just take ownership
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  about it. Just you, you decide.
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  You know, somebody was recently talking about and I was not,
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  this was not someone I was with. I was listening to this
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  conversation. We were out to eat and I was
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  listening to a conversation at a table beside us because they
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  were very loud and talking about how the food choices in our area
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  are, you know, they're decadent. Some of them are like, you know,
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  it's itself. The food is really intense.
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  It's a sport here. Eating is a sport here and going
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  out is available everywhere. There are tons and tons and tons
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  of great restaurants. So this person was commenting
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  about how the food here makes you fat.
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  That's what her words were. The food makes you fat.
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  Like wherever you go, the food makes you fat.
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  And I was listening to this conversation in and just
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  enthralled in the fact that her entire conversation was
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  predicated on this belief that the food makes you fat.
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  No, it's not the food. The you don't.
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  You're eating the food. It's your the very act of you
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  taking that and putting it in your mouth is what's making you
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  fat. But she's not willing to take
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  that ownership. She's saying it's what they
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  serve her. And then you look down at her
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  plate and she's got a bunch of things that are fried, which we
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  all know fried food makes you fat.
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  I mean, it, it's just it's a thing.
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  And even though she's got vegetables on her plate, OK,
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  those vegetables have been deep fried.
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  And I'm not, you know, it was in an Asian restaurant and that's,
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  you know, tempura, that's a thing.
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  But it's not the food. It's the act of eating the food.
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  And we have to break down the process for ourselves,
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  recognizing how much we skirt the ownership based on the fact
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  that we want the reason. Now, I want to be the first one
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  to admit I love understanding the reasons, things happening.
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  What's the cause? Let's get to the root cause, but
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  fully aware that when that root cause is discovered, uncovered,
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  if you will, that you have to take ownership of it.
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  You have to take ownership of your participation.
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  And it comes back to that phrase that I love so much.
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  Participate in your own rescue. Stop looking for other people to
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  rescue you. So when you are experiencing
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  these overwhelming heavy emotions, is it the conditions
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  of the world? It's your observation of the
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  conditions of the world that are causing it and pulling you down.
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  So I can observe something but not be in it.
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  I can observe it, understand it, say what do I need to do to move
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  forward with it? It's a, it's a point of, of
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  attention that I can give to it, but I don't own it and I'm not,
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  let me be very clear when I talk about this, I'm not 100% on with
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  this all the time. I really subscribe to the, you
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  know, 80209010 rule where I can keep things out and I can just
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  keep going. So people will observe and
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  they'll say things to me like, oh, wow, you're, you seem so
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  strong. You can take on so much because
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  I'm not making all of the overwhelm mean something.
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  I'm not making it mean something.
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  I'm not turning it into toxicity because I don't want that in my
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  body and there's no point in it and it's not going to help me.
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  But when I choose the higher belief in it, like, OK, it's
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  been presented to me, I understand what has to be done.
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  And of course I can handle it because if it wasn't in my
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  world, you know, then I wouldn't need to handle it.
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  And if it's here, then I know I have help handling it.
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  That's it. That's the way I believe it.
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  I believe I'm constantly connected to source, whatever
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  you believe that is. And source always helps.
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  So I don't need to worry about that.
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  So just consider the the ownership fact and consider how
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  much you're taking ownership so that you can recognize how to
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  move through it with grace and some more ease.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.